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  What It Takes to Win an Avoidant Man's Heart | Brandon & Dana Wade 24.07.2026 57min

  He built one of the most controversial dating sites in the world. He told every woman upfront on day one that he did not believe in marriage. And then he met Dana. And everything changed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Brandon Wade, founder of Seeking.com, and his partner Dana to break down what it actually takes to win an avoidant man's heart. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why Brandon spent years believing love was a concept invented by poor people and what changed his mind 2- Why radical honesty on a dating profile attracted the right person faster than anything else 3- Why dating apps give you quantity but why quality requires something completely different 4- Why 65 percent of couples once met through family and friend networks and what the collapse of that has done to modern relationships 5- What women are actually looking for underneath the surface and why financial safety is not gold digging 6- Why men who pursue skill mastery and competence are automatically more attractive and how Brandon proved it 7- Why avoidant men build layers of ego and what the one thing is that finally brings those walls down 8- What secure attachment actually looks like inside a real relationship between two people who almost never found each other If you have ever wondered whether an avoidant man can actually change, this conversation is your answer. 👉 Join my Free Attachment Community - The Secure Circle. You get exclusive lives, videos, access to my team, and more! http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-secure-circle  👉 Ready for more? Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus for the complete attachment program, including courses, live masterclasses, coach-led practicums, workshops, Q&As, a private community, and session archive. Join today: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/plus-secure-circle  💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23
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  13 Habits That Build Emotional Resilience | Amy Morin and Adam Lane Smith 24.07.2026 1h 4min

  She lost her mother to a brain aneurysm. Then three years to the day, her 26 year old husband died of a heart attack. She was a therapist who had studied grief and still felt completely unprepared for what it actually felt like.  Adam Lane Smith sits down with Amy Morin, therapist and bestselling author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do”, to break down what mental strength actually is, why resilience is not the same as just bouncing back, and what people with anxious attachment specifically need to hear about building the capacity to survive hard seasons without losing themselves. What you will learn in this video:1- Why resilience is not about bouncing back and what mental strength actually looks like from the inside 2- Why stopping certain behaviors is often easier and more powerful than starting new ones 3- What learned helplessness is and why understanding it changed everything about how Amy works with people 4- Why anxiously attached people are uniquely vulnerable to the 13 thinking traps that drain mental strength 5- Where the line is between helping someone grow stronger and accidentally making them helpless 6- Why chasing someone who disrespects you costs you more than the relationship ever gave you 7- What to do when you are at the bottom and even the thought of doing 13 things sounds like too much 8- How to teach your children emotional regulation without hiding your hard moments from them If you have ever sat on the worst day of your life and wondered how you are going to get through it, this is the conversation you need to hear. 👉 Join the next masterclass in the FREE Secure Circle community and learn how to build secure relationships. https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/masterclass-signup?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16 👉  Surviving your worst days takes more than pushing through. Real strength grows from secure attachment. Start building secure attachment in the FREE Secure Circle. Get access to the community, foundational resources, support from others on the same journey, and weekly insights. Join today:  Join today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16 👉 Strength is not a feeling, it is a skill you practice. Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus for weekly masterclasses, skill demonstrations, and guided exercises that move you from learning into doing, plus my best courses, coach Q&As, and a private community. Join Secure Circle Plus today:  Join Secure Circle Plus today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16 💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/16
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  What Divorce Does to a Man’s Psychology | Adam Lane Smith & Ralph Brewer 09.07.2026 1h 6min

  He did everything right. Stayed loyal. Showed up for his family. And one day in Florida he found out his wife had been having an affair. That was the moment everything he thought he knew about himself collapsed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Ralph Brewer, author of The Dead Bedroom Fix and founder of Dad Starting Over, to break down what actually happens to a man after infidelity and divorce, why so many men get stuck trying to recover alone, and what the woman who loves a divorced man needs to understand about the fear he is still carrying. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why discovering infidelity destroys a man's existential safety at the deepest level 2- Why so many men attach themselves to the wrong woman and ignore red flags for years without knowing why 3- Why a man who hates his wife still tries to pursue her and what he is actually looking for 4- Why the divorced man is hesitant to commit again and what his hesitation is really about 5- What the woman dating a divorced man needs to know about the wounds he is still carrying 6- Why men try to recover alone and why that almost always makes things worse 7- What the single most important thing is a man in a dark place after divorce can do right now 8- Why the lone wolf mentality is one of the most dangerous lies men tell themselves If you love a man who has been through divorce and cannot figure out why he keeps holding back, this conversation will show you exactly what he is carrying and what he actually needs from you. Connect with me on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith 👉 A divorced man's guardedness is rarely about you. Understand attachment, access foundational resources, and join a supportive community in the FREE Secure Circle. Join today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/9 👉 Understanding his past is the start. Loving him well through it takes skills you can practice. Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus for weekly masterclasses, skill demonstrations, and guided exercises that move you from learning into doing, plus my best courses, coach Q&As, and a private community. Join Secure Circle Plus today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/8 💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/8 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/8 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/8 Ralph Brewer is the author of REBUILD, The Dead Bedroom Fix, and other bestselling books for men. After rebuilding his own life following divorce, he now helps hundreds of thousands of men through his books, podcast, and the Help For Men community. My most popular book: deadbedroomfix.comThe Brotherhood: helpformen.com/join
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  Why 83% of Relationship Money Fights Are About Attachment | Rachel Cruze and Adam Lane Smith 03.07.2026 52min

  Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video:1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound 2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals 3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team 4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today 5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise 6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one 7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class 8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other 9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did. 👉 Avoidant people hoard money. Anxious people overspend. Both patterns come from the same wound, and neither one gets fixed by a budget. To learn more about your attachment style and how it affects how you handle money, join the free Secure Circle to get access to weekly deep-dive videos, monthly masterclasses, and monthly Q&As. Start here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-secure-circle  👉 Earning more but still feeling empty? Hiding money from someone you love? That’s not a finance issue. That’s attachment. Secure Circle Plus helps you change the pattern for good with courses, live sessions, and direct Q&A with Adam’s team. Upgrade here: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/plus-secure-circle  💬  Work with Adam Lane Smith and his Certified Attachment Coaches to repair your attachment style and build healthier, lasting relationships http://links.adamlanesmith.com/priv-coaching    📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-quiz  📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup   Connect with me on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith Rachel Cruze:- Two-time #1 national bestselling author and financial expert.- Host of The Rachel Cruze Show and co-host of Smart Money Happy Hour.- Has served at Ramsey Solutions since 2010, teaching budgeting, debt-free living, and personal finance.- Public speaker since age 15, speaking to audiences of up to 10,000 alongside her father, Dave Ramsey.- Featured on major media outlets including Good Morning America, Today, CNN, Fox & Friends, and Live with Kelly and Ryan.- Believes anyone can take control of their finances, avoid debt, and build a life they love.- Follow Rachel on:YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheRachelCruzeShow Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelcruze TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelcruzeFacebook https://www.facebook.com/rachelramseycruze 
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  Why Gen Z Women Are Lonelier Than Ever (& How To Fix It) | Freya India 26.06.2026 1h 13min

  👉 Feeling disconnected, anxious, or overwhelmed by modern dating and social media? Start building secure attachment for FREE. Get access to a supportive community, foundational attachment resources, weekly insights, and practical tools to build healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self. Join FREE today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 👉 Ready to break free from the patterns modern culture has taught you? Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus to build secure attachment, form healthier relationships, and create genuine connection. Get access to Adam's complete courses, live masterclasses, coach-led practicums, workshops, Q&As, and private community. Join today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 Women today are not being liberated. They are being turned into commodities. Their insecurities are being weaponized, their dopamine systems are being hijacked, and the loudest voices telling them this is freedom are the ones profiting from their destruction. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Freya India, author of Girls and one of the most important young voices writing about what is actually happening to women today, to break down exactly how modern culture is pulling women apart from themselves, from men, and from the possibility of real connection. This is not a culture war video. It is an attachment science and cultural psychology breakdown of why young women have never felt more anxious, more alone, or more convinced the problem is them. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why young women are not lonelier than ever but have so many simulations of connection they never get lonely enough to do something about it2- Why social media did not create new insecurities in girls but amplified the existing ones at a scale no previous generation ever faced3- Why one piece of pornography produces 21 times the dopamine of a real sexual experience and what that is doing to men and to the women who love them4- Why most men have not had a hug since the age of ten and what that loneliness is producing in their relationships5- Why avoidant attachment in women is rising and why it is almost always a defense mechanism not a personality6- Why young women are having sex on the first date because they believe if they do not someone else will7- Why women's moral instincts are being reframed as insecurity and what they lose when they stop trusting them8- Why the therapy content telling women to have no emotions is describing the opposite of secure attachment9- What it actually looks like to step off social media and see clearly for the first time10- Why young women are not the problem and what actually is If you have a daughter, a niece, a sister, or a young woman in your life who has convinced herself the problem is her, this conversation will give you language for what you have both been watching happen. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 Work with me: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 If you enjoyed this video and want more content like this, do me a favor: be sure to hit that like button, leave a comment, and don't forget to subscribe to the channel! Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbroX: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmithFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/   Freya India is a contributing writer at The Free Press. Sh
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  Why Women Fear Men and How To Fix It | January Donovan and Adam Lane Smith 19.06.2026 1h 9min

  👉 Join Secure Circle PLUS: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 Women have been given two options. Be silent and submissive or be independent and need nothing. Neither one produces a loving, safe, intimate family. Neither one is what most women actually want. And most women have never been shown a third way. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with January Donovan, founder of The Feminine Revival and one of the most important voices on authentic femininity today, to break down why women have lost the skills of womanhood, where that loss actually came from, and what reclaiming genuine feminine strength looks like without submission and without the boss babe mask. This is not a culture war video. It is an honest conversation about what women actually want, why five generations of trauma have made it almost impossible to trust men enough to get it, and what changes when women finally stop performing and start building something real. 👉 Ready to repair your relationships and build secure attachment? Get Secure Circle Plus and access live weekly masterclasses, coach-led workshops, skill demonstrations, a complete course library, and a private community, all in one place at your own pace https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 What you will learn in this video: 1- Why fragile femininity and vicious feminism are both producing the same result and why neither is what women actually want2- Why women today do not know how to be women and why that is not their fault3- The generational wound that has been passed from great grandmother to grandmother to mother and how it is still running women's relationships today4- Why the metric women are being measured by was built for men and what that has cost women at the deepest level5- What feminine genius actually is and why the culture stripped it out of women without most of them noticing6- Why spiritual motherhood is not about having biological children and who it is actually for7- Why women fear wanting a man and what it actually takes to rewire that fear at the neurological level8- Why men are not the ones who need to lead the cultural revival and what women have to do first9- What it looks like when a woman steps fully into her feminine strength without losing herself If you have felt torn between independence and connection, between strength and softness, this conversation will show you that the two were never meant to be at war. 📚 WORK WITH ME  👉 Join Secure Circle PLUS: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 👉 Join the Secure Circle: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18 If you enjoyed this video and want more content like this, do me a favor: be sure to hit that like button, leave a comment, and don't forget to subscribe to the channel! Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbroX: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmithFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  
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  The Resentment Epidemic Your Wife Will Never Tell You About | Dr. Morgan Cutlip and Adam Lane Smith 12.06.2026 1h 12min

  She is exhausted, overwhelmed, and carrying a running list in her head that never stops. And he has no idea it exists. Not because he does not care. Because nobody ever showed him what it actually is or what it is costing her. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, the world's leading expert on the mental load, to break down exactly what the mental load is, why most men completely miss it, and what it actually takes to fix it without destroying the marriage in the process. This is not a lecture about fairness. It is an attachment science and relationship psychology breakdown of why the invisible labor of home and family life is quietly building resentment in millions of marriages and what both partners can do about it right now. What you will learn in this video: 1- What the mental load actually is and why most men only see one third of what their wife is actually carrying2- The triple threat of physical mental and emotional labor and why one item on a to do list unpacks into something enormous3- Why the mental load crowds out the mental real estate required for desire and what that means for your sex life4- Why men change for pain and consequences not for love and what that means for this conversation5- Why resentment builds silently for years before it explodes as divorce6- The exact words a man can say to a wife who has felt dismissed for years that will not blow the whole thing up7- Why the weekly check-in changes everything and what it actually looks like in practice8- What women need to get clear on before they can ever communicate what they need9- Why running your marriage like a business and treating your wife like talent you cannot afford to lose changes the dynamic overnight If she is carrying everything and he does not know where to start, this conversation will show both of you exactly what to do next. 📚 WORK WITH ME 👉 Join Secure Circle PLUS:  https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-community?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social Join the Secure Circle: FREE Community: https://circle.adamlanesmith.com/free-sign-up?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=newsletter If you enjoyed this video and want more content like this, do me a favor: be sure to hit that like button, leave a comment, and don't forget to subscribe to the channel! Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbroX: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmithFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ Better Share app, get started for free  with the Care Load Assessment. Make the invisible visible in 5 minutes. https://quiz.bettershareapp.com/?utm_source=morganInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlipWebsite: www.drmorgancutlip.com http://www.drmorgancutlip.combook: https://amzn.to/4dkxUu4   
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  Why Men Stop Trying to Make You Happy | Alison Armstrong & Adam Lane Smith 05.06.2026 1h 10min

  Most women have been trying to understand men the same way they understand other women. And it has never worked. Not because men are broken, but because nobody ever showed her how they actually work. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alison Armstrong, one of the world's leading experts on understanding men and the author of The Queen's Code, for a conversation years in the making. Together they break down why men and women keep missing each other, what women get catastrophically wrong about men, and what changes everything when a woman finally learns to see a man for what he actually is. Join the Secure Circle: FREE Community: https://circle.adamlanesmith.com/free-sign-up?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 What you will learn in this video: 1- Why men are actually more naturally committal than women and what is getting in the way of that commitment2- Why the testosterone soaked brain is built for focus and why interrupting that focus is not just annoying but genuinely disruptive to his peace3- Why a man working 16 hour days and giving everything he has can still hear that he is not enough4- Why men concealing things from their partners is not dishonesty and what it actually is5- Why respect matters more to most men than love and why women resist saying it even when they feel it6- Why a man cannot commit to something he believes he cannot win at and what that means for marriage7- Why 95 percent of a woman's happiness depends on herself and not on him and why that is actually good news8- Why men scan for complementary strengths in a partner and why women compete instead of complement If you have ever felt misunderstood by the man in your life, or if you are a woman who cannot figure out why nothing you try is working, this conversation will show you exactly what has been missing. 📚 WORK WITH ME Secure Circle: FREE Community: https://circle.adamlanesmith.com/free-sign-up?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 If you enjoyed this video and want more content like this, do me a favor: be sure to hit that like button, leave a comment, and don't forget to subscribe to the channel! Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbroX: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmithFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/
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  How to Win at Marriage (The Way You Win at Work) | Patrick Lencioni 22.05.2026 1h 12min

  Your marriage is a team. Most people are running it like a dysfunctional one and have no idea why nothing is working. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Patrick Lencioni, author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and one of the world's leading experts on organizational health, to break down what makes teams fall apart, why the same dysfunctions destroying companies are destroying marriages, and what it actually takes to build real trust, real loyalty, and a relationship that functions like a winning team. This is not a business conversation. It is an attachment science and leadership psychology breakdown of why the skills that build great organizations are the exact same ones that build great families. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why trust is the single greatest competitive advantage in business and in marriage and why most people never build it2- Why vulnerability is not weakness and what it actually unlocks biochemically in the people around you3- Why the five dysfunctions of a team show up identically in marriage and what to do about each one4- What Working Genius is and why understanding yours and your partner's changes everything overnight5- Why your partner may have been loving you in the way God made them and you completely missed it6- Why couples date nights make disconnected marriages worse not better and what to fix first7- Why the most bitterly resentful couples usually want the exact same thing and just never knew it8- How to run a marriage like a business in a way that creates more joy not less9- Why unhealed wounds always find their way back into the marriage no matter how hard you try to keep them out10- What secure attachment and organizational health have in common and why both require the same foundation If your marriage feels like a dysfunctional team, this conversation will show you exactly why and what to build instead. An exclusive discount on Working Genius Assessments. Use code IWISHYOUKNEW for 20% off all WG Licenses and Assessments. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/21 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/21 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/21 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Patrick Lencioni:-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-lencioni-orghealth/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6uqwkNOGb7Qf-uTeEC8K_w-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patricklencioniofficial/-X: https://x.com/patricklencioni?lang=en
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  What Nobody Teaches You About Making Friends as an Adult | Jordan Harbinger & Adam Lane Smith 15.05.2026 59min

  Two thirds of millennials are experiencing depression symptoms from loneliness. Everyone is walking around wishing someone would talk to them. And nobody is starting. Not because they do not want connection. Because they are terrified of looking like they only want something. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Jordan Harbinger, one of the world's leading experts on human connection and authentic relationship building, to break down exactly why people stay isolated, what the difference is between networking and genuine bonding, and how to start building real human relationships even if you have no one right now. This is not a social skills video. It is an attachment science and behavioral psychology breakdown of why the loneliest people are often the kindest ones, and what they have been getting wrong without knowing it. What you will learn in this video:1- Why the nicest people in the room are the ones staying silent and how that is making the loneliness epidemic worse2- The number one mistake people make when trying to build relationships and why it poisons everything before it starts3- Why covert contracts are quietly destroying friendships you thought were solid4- The difference between ABC always be closing and ABG always be generous and why one builds real loyalty and the other destroys it5- Why 65 percent of adult Americans are running a feelings and services mentality without knowing it6- How secure attachment and Jordan's abundance networking model are describing the exact same thing from two different fields7- Why keeping score in relationships is a losing battle even when you think you are being fair8- How to be interesting if you do not think you are and what the most genuinely magnetic people do instead9- What to actually do if you are new to a city, isolated, and have no idea where to begin10- Why the only currency that survives everything is real human relationships and how to start building them today If you have been waiting for someone else to reach out first, this conversation is for you. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/14 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/14 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/14 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Jordan Harbinger: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/jordanharbingerYouTube: jordanharbinger.com/youtubeInstagram: instagram.com/jordanharbinger
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  The Real Reason Men Are Terrified of Fatherhood | Devin Schadt and Adam Lane Smith 09.05.2026 1h 16min

  Why would a man embrace marriage and fatherhood in 2026? Most men are not asking that question with curiosity. They are asking it with exhaustion. They have heard a thousand reasons why marriage is a trap, why fatherhood is a burden, and why the risk is not worth the reward. And almost nobody is giving them a reason to say yes. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Devin Schadt, Executive Director of Fathers of Saint Joseph, for a conversation about what fatherhood actually is, why men are starving for it without knowing it, and why the crisis at the center of every social, financial, and cultural problem in America traces back to one thing: the absence of fathers. What you will learn in this conversation:1- Why masculinity finds its fulfillment in spiritual fatherhood and what that means for men who have never heard it framed that way2- What the statistics on fatherless homes actually show and why every major social crisis connects back to this one root3- Why men are wired for mission and what happens to a man's nervous system when that mission is denied or never given to him4- Why living in relationship is the hardest and most necessary thing a man can do and why his instinct to solve and complete works against him5- Why trust in God the Father is the foundation of becoming a father worth trusting and what that looks like in daily life6- How a man leads his wife in a way that she follows eagerly and why most men have never been shown what that actually looks like7- Why loneliness precedes depression in men and what the research says about isolation versus solitude8- The five practical steps for building real brotherhood with other men and why most men's groups fail before they start9- Why the mission of fatherhood is the one thing that can unite men across every political, cultural, and ideological divide If you are a man wondering whether marriage and fatherhood are worth it, or a father who is already in it and not sure he is doing it right, this conversation is going to give you something the culture has stopped offering: a reason to say yes. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Devin Schadt:Link: www.fathersofstjoseph.orghttps://www.instagram.com/fathersofstjoseph/https://www.facebook.com/fathersofstjosephNew book: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/?srsltid=AfmBOop4QoDaN1IppaIPsTNLWy2PqJ9gaTU00QcJrEFGynRdUgZtSbS1
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  Why Nice Guys Finish Last | Marni Kinrys and Adam Lane Smith 01.05.2026 1h 5min

  Most men today are doing everything they have been told to do to attract a woman. They are being kind, accommodating, agreeable, and endlessly pleasing. And it is working against them every single time. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Marni Kinrys, dating coach and wing girl to men for over 22 years, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about what women actually feel on a date, why nice guys keep finishing last, and what the science says about why the very thing men think is working is exactly what is destroying their chances. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why a woman's attraction can completely reverse within minutes of a first impression and what actually changes it2- The four S's that create attraction in women and why most men are accidentally hitting zero of them3- Why a nervous man does not just fail to attract a woman but actively makes her feel unsafe and what her nervous system does as a result4- Why a woman who soothes a nervous man on a first date has already decided she will never sleep with him5- Why nice guys are training women to see them as employees instead of leaders and what that costs them in every relationship6- Why avoidant men are not just born that way and how anxious men are actually creating avoidant women without knowing it7- What vasopressin bonding is why men can only get it from other men and what happens when they never do8- Why the CEO and COO model of marriage is the only dynamic that actually makes both people happy9- What Marni's husband finally understood after she sent him ten Instagram posts that changed everything between them If you are a man who has been working hard to make women happy and wondering why it never seems to work, or a woman who wants to finally understand why the men she loves keep getting it wrong, this conversation will give you both the answer and the path forward. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  Why Christian Men Are So Anxious In Dating | Franco Fernandez & Adam Lane Smith 24.04.2026 1h 45min

  Most young men today have never had a real conversation about relationships with another man who actually knows what he is talking about. This episode is that conversation. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Franco Fernandez, a 24 year old Catholic content creator with a large social media following, for one of the most raw and honest coaching sessions the show has ever done. Franco came in thinking he was just anxiously attached. What came out was something much more layered, much more human, and much more relatable than either of them expected. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why young men today are trying to reverse engineer something they were never shown from the inside and why that is not their fault2- How anxious and avoidant tendencies pull in opposite directions at the same time and what that looks like in real dating situationsWhy performing to make someone like you is the exact thing that prevents real connection from ever forming4- Why chasing the hardest to get woman is not always confidence and what it might actually be rooted in5- The difference between a feelings based relationship and a real one and why feelings alone will always leave you in the airport alone6- Why asking questions with context is the single most powerful tool for building intimacy and how most men never learn to do it7- What it actually looks like to stop performing and start being a human being with another human being8- Why the men and women who want the same things keep completely missing each other and what is actually in the way9- What it means to need proof that people can love you when you are not performing and why almost every young person needs that proof right now If you are a young man trying to figure out how relationships actually work without anyone to show you, this conversation will give you more clarity than years of trying to figure it out alone. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  Inside the Mind of an Avoidant Woman: Dating, Motherhood and Business 17.04.2026 1h 25min

  Most people ask if avoidant women even exist. They do. And this conversation is one of the most honest and revealing looks at what avoidant attachment actually looks like from the inside of a woman who lives it every day. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Carly Randall, a self-identified avoidant woman and strategic business partner, for a live coaching session that covers everything from two avoidant partners trying to make a relationship work, to avoidant mothering, to why asking if you would still love me if I was a bug is actually one of the healthiest things an avoidant woman has ever said. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- What avoidant attachment actually looks like in a woman and why men so often mistake it for selfishness2- Why avoidant women lose respect for anxious partners and what that tells you about what they actually need3- What happens when two avoidant people get together and why it can actually work with the right systems in place4- Why the black and white switch of I am all in or I am completely done is one of the most dangerous patterns for avoidant women and what to do about it5- The difference between taking space to regulate and taking space to dodge and how to tell which one you are doing6- How avoidant mothering shows up in real life and what the biggest risks are for the children of avoidant parents7- Why telling your kids mommy needs a break without giving them context is one of the most damaging things you can accidentally do8- Why an avoidant woman suddenly asking for reassurance is not a sign she is becoming anxious but a sign she is finally becoming secure9- Why the feeling that you do not want to be a burden is actually rooted in adoption and early abandonment and what it is really asking for If you have ever wondered whether avoidant women are real, what they feel, how they parent, and whether they can actually build a deep loving relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  Why You Attract the Wrong Men | Celebrity Matchmaker Alessandra Conti and Adam Lane Smith 12.04.2026 1h 16min

  Are you tired of going on endless first dates that go nowhere? Sick of swiping through apps that seem to get more exhausting and less satisfying every year? You are not alone, and this conversation is going to change the way you think about finding a partner entirely. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alessandra Conti, celebrity matchmaker and founder of Matchmakers in the City, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about modern dating you will find anywhere. With nearly 14 years of experience working with celebrities, royals, and high profile clients, Alessandra has seen every pattern, every mistake, and every thing that actually works when it comes to finding the right person. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why dating apps are not the problem but the way almost everyone uses them is2- What matchmaking actually is and why guided courtship has worked for all of human history while modern dating has been failing for 100 years3- Why building female community before dating men is one of the most important things a single woman can do and why so many women resist it4- Why no sex until monogamy is not just a values decision but a strategic one that protects your heart, your judgment, and your future5- How good men actually respond when a woman holds her boundaries and what it tells you immediately about whether he is worth your time6- The most destructive thing women think they are looking for in a man and what they actually need instead7- Why men with a plan are the most attractive men in any room and what that means in practice8- What women should never do on a first date if they actually like the man and the surprising thing they should do if they do not9- Why both men and women are walking around wanting the same thing and completely failing to find each other and what to do about it If you have ever felt like the modern dating world was designed to keep you single, this conversation will show you exactly why that feeling is right and what the alternative actually looks like. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  Gabby Reece ALMOST Got a Divorce at 30... Then Did THIS | Attachment Psychology Explained 03.04.2026 1h 1min

  Most people online will tell you that being feminine means being weak, giving something up, or falling into the background. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Gabby Reece, professional volleyball legend, model, author, and host of The Gabby Show, for one of the most grounded and honest conversations about what it actually means to be a feminine woman in the modern world. No performance. No agenda. Just a woman who has spent decades figuring out who she is and is willing to show you exactly what that looks like from the inside. What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why femininity looks different for every woman and why trying to copy someone else's version is the wrong starting point2- How Gabby straddled the worlds of elite sports and modeling at 18 and what that taught her about owning both sides of herself3- Why the word submissive has been misunderstood and what it actually means when you choose it from a place of strength5- How Gabby almost divorced Laird Hamilton at 30, what she did instead, and the 25 years of relationship that followed6- What shiny eyes are and why this one simple habit has kept their relationship alive and exciting for over 30 years7- Why women are afraid to ask themselves what they actually want and what gets lost when they stop asking8- How to have hard conversations with a strong man without it turning into a battle9- Why self care is not selfish and how reframing it changes everything for mothers and partners10- What strong women should actually be looking for in a man and why values matter far more than status or money If you have ever wondered whether you can be strong, capable, and fully feminine all at the same time, this conversation will show you that not only is it possible, it is the whole point. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  The CEO and COO Model | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu and Adam Lane Smith 27.03.2026 1h 27min

  Most couples you see online are either performing for the camera or fighting for the clicks. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu, co-founders of Quest Nutrition and hosts of Impact Theory and Women of Impact, for one of the most honest conversations about marriage you'll find anywhere on the internet. No highlight reel. No performance. Just two people who have been building a life together for 25 years, and are willing to show you exactly what that has looked like, the hard parts included. What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why happy couples are invisible online and what that's doing to everyone's idea of what love is supposed to look like2- How Tom and Lisa met, why they both assumed it wouldn't last, and the moment that changed everything3- Why Lisa stayed silent for eight years and the one sentence she finally said that pivoted their entire lives4- The CEO and COO model of marriage and why treating your relationship like a business might actually save it5- What happened when Lisa became the boss of 40 ex-convicts and accidentally brought that energy home to her husband6- What Tom actually needed after working 120-hour weeks that Lisa didn't know how to give him and how they figured it out7- The post-it note system they built so Tom always knows what Lisa needs when she comes to him with a problem8- Why the most dangerous moment in a marriage is when one partner starts outgrowing the dynamic and what to do before it breaks you9- What legacy actually means when you strip away the ego and why Tom thinks most people are quietly fooling themselves about being remembered If you've ever wondered what it looks like when two people genuinely love each other, fight for each other, and keep choosing each other through the hard stuff, this is that conversation. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1
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  Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith 20.03.2026 1h 17min

  Most people online will tell you your partner is a narcissist because he didn't text back fast enough. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Leslie Dobson, forensic psychologist and court-appointed expert who has spent her career inside prisons, jails, and psych hospitals assessing the most dangerous individuals in the system, to give you a reality-based answer to the question so many people are afraid to ask: am I actually in danger? What you'll learn in this conversation:1- Why true narcissistic personality disorder is rare and why misusing the term puts people at real risk2- What coercive control actually is, and why a federal judge needed to hear that it's more dangerous than physical violence3- How to tell the difference between an avoidant partner and an actual predator4- What narcissists are scanning for in a potential target and why certain attachment wounds make you more visible to them5- Why the 10% good moments in a toxic relationship are not evidence that things can change6- How isolation works, why it happens so gradually, and what it takes to reconnect with the people who knew you before7- What forensic journaling looks like and why it might be the most important thing you do if you're not sure yet8- Why building community is the only real protection against narcissistic predators and the science behind why9- If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for. If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for. 📚 WORK WITH ME 👉 FREE 90-minute Masterclass - Save your spot https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/masterclass-signup?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg/join
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  The Science Behind Why Your Nervous System Is Destroying Your Kids (Without Knowing It) 18.03.2026 1h 17min

  Most parents aren't struggling because they don't care enough. They're struggling because they care too much and their nervous system is running on empty. In this episode, Adam sits down with Hunter Clark-Fields, mindful parenting expert and host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, to talk about what "good enough" parenting actually looks like and why perfection would be the worst thing for your kids. ➡️ Why mom guilt is a sign of love and how it quietly damages your kids➡️ What attachment research actually says about "good enough" (hint: it's shockingly low)➡️ How your nervous system sets the temperature for the whole house➡️ The real difference between teenage rebellion and healthy differentiation➡️ Why "do as I say, not as I do" is a relationship-ender with your teenager➡️ The 3-part communication tool from Plum Village that opens even the hardest conversations➡️ Why self-care isn't selfish it's literally child care➡️ How to ask your co-parent for help when no one taught you how 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=newsletter Find Hunter:Mindful Mama Podcast: mindfulmamacoach.comBook: Raising Good Humans
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  The Forgotten Attachment Psychology of Biblical Marriage | Jonathan Pageau & Adam Lane Smith 06.03.2026 46min

  Most people have been sold a version of marriage that's either a power grab or a slow sacrifice into nothing. This conversation dismantles both. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Jonathan Pageau, symbolic artist, Orthodox Christian thinker, and author, to go deep on what Biblical marriage actually asks of a man, what it gives a woman, and why the model most people are running has nothing to do with Christianity. What you'll learn in this conversation: → Why hierarchy in a Christian marriage looks nothing like the Roman model most people are reacting against→ What it actually means for a husband to "die to self" and why it's not what you think→ The covenant framework God uses with Israel and what it reveals about secure attachment in marriage→ How oxytocin, the nervous system, and masculine sacrifice are biologically connected→ Why women become contemptuous of men who collapse into the home and what a wife actually needs→ The undervalued power of the feminine private sphere and why dismissing it is destroying families→ What repair looks like inside a covenant and why so many Christians don't believe it's available to them→ How the seasons of a woman's life create a different kind of contribution than a man's and why that's worth honoring If you've been told that submission means suffering, or that self-sacrifice means disappearing, this conversation will give you a language for something you've felt but couldn't name. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/ 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/ --- Jonathan Pageau's website: thesymbolicworld.comJonathan's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/jonathanpageau Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro   X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith   Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1