Savage Lovecast

After Action Report #36 03.07.2026 17min

Did you know that they have bathhouses in Canada? They do!Meet Jay, married to his husband for 10 years, and ready for adventure.Even though he was nervous and his glasses kept fogging up, he persevered. Hear all about it. If you have a story to share, write to us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

Savage Love Episode 1025 30.06.2026 56min

A woman's hot boyfriend is being harassed by his upstairs neighbor who has come up with a novel way to summon him to his door. Our first guest is GI physician and friend of the show Dr. Carlton Thomas. He is on to answer a question about NEW DOUCHING TECHNOLOGY. On the Magnum, a newly single woman is howling at the moon with insatiably high libido. She's annoyed with apps and parties and wonders if she should just hire a sex worker already. Dan chatted with "Love Coach," podcast host and former sex worker Shaun Galanos about her options. Finally, a man has just had prostate surgery. His doctors tell him he must have no sexual contact while he recovers. Can his girlfriend suck his dick anyway? Here's how it works. You record your question. Then you send it to Q@Savage.Love Or! You call 206-302-2064. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of so many neologisms! Like GGG, monogamish, pegging, PUD, toly, Santorum- it goes on and on. Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity and we can dig it.

After Action Report #35 26.06.2026 22min

Meet Maxon. Ho hum. Just your typical non-binary, exhibitionist, pre-op sub who has worn a titanium cock-cage constantly for over 850 days. If this sounds rather dull to you, remember as Maxon says: "Everyone's chastity journey is different." BUT THAT ISN'T EVEN WHAT THIS AFTER ACTION REPORT IS ABOUT. Do you like to play bingo? Then think hard before you press play. Because with this episode in your head, the game will never be the same. Can you top this one? Yeah? Write about the shenanigans YOU got into and send it to Q@Savage.Love.

Savage Lovecast Episode 1024 23.06.2026 57min

A woman discovers her recently deceased father had a foot-tickling fetish and doesn't know how to process this new view of her dad. Speaking of kinks, a man with a diaper fetish is feeling resentful that his kink so severely limits his dating prospects. On the Magnum, Dan chats with hunky clinical psychologist Dr. Thomas Whitfield about dating closet cases, sex education, masc for masc and why the common use of therapy terms like "narcissist" and "avoidant" is so annoying. And, a man and his girlfriend need a comfortable but effective gag option. But you! You must not be quiet. Open your mouth and ask your question: Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at https://beduc.at/pd2626-savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

After Action Report #34 19.06.2026 13min

Becca just needed to relax. So she thought she’d be like the gays and try poppers. How did it go? Listen and then you’ll know. If you’ve recently tried a new product or ingested a substance to improve your sex life, we want to know about it. Write your story and send it to us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

Savage Lovecast Episode 1023 16.06.2026 51min

A woman who enjoys multiple orgasms doesn't understand why, physiologically, all woman can't come over and over and over. Like she can. A gay man wants a new word for the practice of rubbing dicks together, other than "frotting." On the Magnum, Dan interviews Tracy Clark-Flory whose memoir ⁠My Mother's Daughter ⁠, brought Dan to tears. It encompasses feminism, racism, parenting, adoption and so much more. They also take a call from a teacher who is grappling with teaching little kids about consent. And, a woman was horrified to hear about straight women groping men at gay bars, because they thought the guys there were fair use. A gay male friend countered that groping in gay bars was permissible because it's just their culture. Is it? Or is some consent required? Say what you need to say to us: Call 206-302-2064 Or Record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love Or, click HERE. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide, 25% off Luxe mattresses and 30% off Elite mattresses. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Answering relationship questions from everyone in the LGBTQIA rainbow (and even straight people,) along with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

After Action Report #33 12.06.2026 16min

Somewhere in Peru, 1,100 feet above the sea, a handsome masseuse in Peru offered our brave, queer woman weed, sensual massage and “yoni massage.” Seems sketchy, but he got lots of good reviews on Google. After this show comes out we expect an uptick of tourism to Peru… Have you thrown caution to the wind? Let us know all about it. Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

Savage Love Episode 1022 09.06.2026 49min

A trans woman's friend is married to a Russian-born MAGA creep-o. But, plot twist! The Trump/Putin-lover is transitioning! It's hard for the caller to gin up sympathy for someone who supports anti-gay/trans autocrats. How should she interact with these bizarre people? A gay man's new boyfriend wants to get dominated. But the caller has always been vanilla. Dan welcomes Master R, who specializes in shibari bondage to offer this newbie some tips. On the Magnum, Dan once asked if there were ANY poly-under-duress memoirs written by men. There is, and we got him! Adam Darrow, author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey into Non-Monogamy is on to talk about his initial reluctance in dating a woman with a various sexual appetite. He compares his experience to participating in extreme sports. Listen in. A woman is about to meet a new paramour, who will be visiting her for the first time. In their remote conversations, he has made it crystal clear that he enjoys jizzing all over his ladies. She hates the taste of come. It makes her wretch. How can they square their opposing desires? YOU KNOW YOU HAVE A QUESTION. Here's how to ask it. Record it and send it to Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 and leave us a message. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

After Action Report #32 05.06.2026 16min

Ho hum. Threeway, marathon fuck session with a woman at a punk rock party. Sounds boring, right? But wait for it- this 3-way has a surprise ending. Surprise us! Write about your naughty little experience, and send it to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

Savage Love Episode 1021 02.06.2026 52min

A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter. And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life? Record your question and send it here: Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to Quince.com/SAVAGE for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From throuples to tantric sex, orgies to orgasm control and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

After Action Report #31 29.05.2026 15min

A man who wanted to confirm his hetero-flexibility gives his first BJ. But did he pass the cocksucker test? Not everyone does. Hear all about it. Want to share your first time doing something? Write us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

Savage Love Episode 1020 26.05.2026 50min

This show is a roller coaster...of love. We start out with a heartbreaking question from a woman whose fiancé broke up with her after she had bought the dress and sent out the invites. Their lives and friends are intertwined. How can she bounce back from something like this? Then, a gay man has observed trans men at sex clubs getting it on with lots of guys. If they aren't on birth control, can they get pregnant? Is it polite to ask, and should cis men wear condoms in this situation? On the Magnum, strap in- it's Eric Andre! Dan and the master prankster answer a straight man's question about whether gathering with other men to masturbate together constitutes cheating. They also talk about some of the personal advice Dan gave Eric a little while ago. Want to get up close and personal with Eric Andre? Listen in... And, meet a rare woman who likes receiving dick pics. 6 months into their relationship, she started sending him nudes. When he asked if he should reciprocate, she expected some shirtless photos, and was surprised to see much, much more. She grew to really like it, but worries she's training him to send dick pics to other women after they break up. Should she explain to him that she's not like the other girls? Oh, I would NEVER! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Verse tops? Polyamory? Dick pics? Multiple orgasms? He covers it all, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since September 21, 1991.

After Action Report #30 25.05.2026 21min

What a feel-good story for the ages. Victor managed to amass three sexual "firsts" in one potent session with a transwoman domme:Experience subspace- check.Have sex with a transwoman- check.Dick in the butt? Check! This sizzling story also offers a study in sex worker professionalism. Listen in and feel the joy. Have you gone through some new interesting times? Tell us, tell us, tell us!Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

Savage Lovecast 1019 19.05.2026 46min

This just in! Man thinks he's special because he has a Madonna/whore complex! When a woman first started dating her boyfriend, he had a drinking problem, and made some bad moves. The caller told her friends and family about this. But now that he is better and truly working on himself, no one but the caller will forgive him. How can she convince them that he's a good guy? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYC-based comedian Jamie Wolf on why it's good for men to sleep with women who have a lot of experience, how to stick up for yourself when your roommates are loudly fucking, and how incels could get laid more if only they were nice people. Jamie Wolf rules! And, a gay man asks what is up with sloppy BJs. Why would anyone want to end up with a puddle of spit in your lap, this perplexed man wonders. What are you wondering about? Call us and ask. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From chatbots to incels, daddies to dommes and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

After Action Report #29 15.05.2026 15min

Anne thought that finding a professional to tie her up in exquisite Shibari bondage in her little, small town would be impossible. She was wrong! Hear all about her encounter in the rope top’s studio. Do you have something for us? Fork it over. Write to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

Savage Lovecast Episode 1018 12.05.2026 55min

When he was a young homo, he was expected to rim his tops. Kids today want the top to rim the bottom! What gives? A straight man and his girlfriend keep taking "breaks" from the relationship, at her behest. They always end up getting back together, but each time he thinks it's the end. Should he continue to tolerate this exhausting cycle? Our guest is the thoroughly delightful Midwestern comedian Jackie Kashian. She and Dan tackle a question from a man who wants to hit on a woman 30 years his junior at the Passover seder. They talk about age gap relationships in general, on sleeping with many people whilst blotto drunk, and they dish out some actionable advice on how to succeed as a stand-up comedian. A little is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a very female presenting non-binary person has the hots for gay bears. Are any of them bisexual enough to want to date this person? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From faking orgasms (which you mustn't do) to freysexuality, erectile dysfunction to ethical non-monogamy and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these dark times.

After Action Report #28 08.05.2026 12min

Ever wonder what it’s actually like to get a “happy ending” massage? Wonder no more. Just press play. Tell us a story: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

Savage Lovecast Episode 1017 05.05.2026 50min

A trans woman enjoys chastity play. But most cock cages use the testicles to keep the device in place. She had an orchiectomy for her gender affirming care, so what is she to do? A gay man has a pattern of losing attraction to the people he's seeing. The instant they break up he gets hot for them again. And now, it's happening with his husband. On the Magnum Dan chats with super bad-ass journalist, lawyer and author Jill Filipovic about the horrifying "Rape Academy" and how feminism is on the ropes right now. She is also our guest on Sex Politics this week. Join us for a deep dive into what women are up against. She and her husband went to an orgy with friends for her husband's birthday. But you know what nobody gave him? An orgasm. I mean, it's an ORGY and his BIRTHDAY. Put it together people! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cock cages, to closet cases, feminism to freysexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

After Action Report #27 01.05.2026 18min

Meet Spring and Nix or "Sprix" as they are called together. These foxy sex party veterans embarked on an adventure at a religious themed event that became a team sport. Somewhere in Mormon heaven, Joseph Smith and Brigham Young are high-fiving each other. If you would like to tell us about a high-five-worthy sexscapade, write it up, and send it in to Q@Savage.Love! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

Savage Lovecast Episode 1016 28.04.2026 55min

A gay man's female friend is planning her wedding. But the relationship is already a disaster, and the caller does NOT approve of this union. Should he still help her choose a wedding dress? A bi man got into a cat fight with a guy on one of the hook-up apps when he wasn't polite enough about ending a conversation. Is there a social contract on gay hook-up apps? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Jennie Young, author of Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter. Her feminist, pragmatic approach to dating for straight women is blunt and hilarious. She talks about her method for brutally winnowing down the list of men, how dating apps are addictive by design, and (counterintuitively,) why the man should plan the first date. Don't miss this one! And, a man asks for logistical advice on how to plan the abduction scene his wife desires. What could possibly go wrong? Maybe she'll call and tell us how it went! 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love And remember: Every sperm is sacred. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠ Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at ⁠https://beduc.at/pd2618-savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.