The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon

Epizodes

• How to Actually Build Self-Control (ELITE BALL KNOWLEDGE) 02.07.2026 39min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesA city without walls gets sacked. That's what your soul looks like without this one virtue, and most men have no idea they're living exactly like that.Self-possession sounds simple until you actually try to define it. Most guys think it just means white knuckling through temptation, gritting your teeth and surviving the day. But there's a massive difference between externally holding the line and actually being free on the inside, and that gap is where most men get stuck for years without realizing it.I break down Aristotle's distinction between continence and virtue, why fasting and cold showers only get you halfway there, and the exact daily practices that move you from fighting yourself every single day to actually winning the war internally.In this video I cover:-the Proverbs 25:28 analogy of a city without walls and what it means for your soul-the difference between external and internal temperance-why going to the gym six days a week doesn't make you disciplined-Aristotle's continent man versus the virtuous man-the four ways to build external self-possession-how prayer, confession, and accountability build internal self-possession-why white knuckling your way through Lent or a no fap streak isn't the same as being freeThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 What Is Self Possession0:24 Intellect Will And Senses3:29 Modern Men Possessed By Vice6:14 External Vs Internal Temperance9:22 Disciplined Body Disordered Life10:52 Continence Versus True Virtue13:12 Filling The Gap With God14:54 Internal Self Possession Defined16:32 Boethius And Losing Yourself18:43 How To Build The Virtue19:19 Fasting To Build Self Control21:05 Setting Firm Boundaries23:36 Structuring Your Environment26:42 Prayer Fills The Internal Gap29:09 Sitting In The Friction30:32 Examination Confession Accountability34:16 Full Commitment To Virtue38:20 Join The Legion Community39:43 Final Thoughts And Blessing
• The Secret Cause of the Masculinity Crisis 28.06.2026 16min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesThe hero is dead. That's the actual crisis behind every "lost" young man you know. We built a whole society on maximizing freedom and individual choice, and in doing it we ripped out the one thing that gave men direction. Not feminism. Not video games. Not porn. Those are symptoms. The real collapse is the loss of the standard.I dig into why the hero archetype, Batman, Aragorn, Luke Skywalker, Odysseus, isn't childish nostalgia but the actual mechanism your conscience uses to judge your own actions. An ideal works because it's a judge. When you don't have one, you don't just feel aimless, you lose the ability to measure yourself at all. This came out of a talk I gave to a group of boys aged 8 to 14, and it forced me to get specific about what the standard actually demands of a man. Strength. Wisdom. Temperance. What they're for, and why losing them is what's actually denuting an entire generation of men into paycheck-and-Netflix mode.Christ is the ultimate archetype. But you need closer reference points too, and I explain why.In this video I cover:-why the collapse of masculinity isn't really about feminism, porn, or video games-the hero as an embodied standard and why you need one to judge itself against-what strength, wisdom, and temperance actually look like lived out as a man-why losing geographical roots, career pathways, and stable communities accelerated this collapse-how to connect your specific life to a universal standard-where to actually start this week if you're convicted but lostThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Collapse Of Masculinity1:09 Loss Of The Standard3:03 Peterson On Identity4:08 Heroes Of Fiction Matter6:28 The Hero As Ideal8:11 Virtues Of True Manhood9:19 Temperance And Desire10:05 Standards For Career Finance12:13 Fall Of The Hero14:01 Recover The Hero15:55 Join The Legion
• Stop 'Negotiating' 26.06.2026 15min

  Virtue is hard enough on its own. Cold showers, prayer, training, diet, all of it comes with friction. But there's a second kind of friction nobody talks about. It's not physical. It's psychological. It's the look you get when you say no to the weekend drink. It's the "bro just take it easy" when you skip the slop and hit the gym instead.Most men don't fail because they lack conviction intellectually. They fail because the first bit of social pressure cracks them. One skipped workout becomes three. One missed prayer becomes a habit of missing. You start crying wolf to yourself, and eventually you stop believing your own promises.Aristotle said virtue requires habituation in a community that recognizes and rewards it. We are not living in that kind of society anymore. So the higher you climb, the more alone you'll feel doing it. That's not a reason to stop.In this video I cover:-the difference between physical friction and psychological friction-why the boy who cried wolf is the perfect analogy for broken discipline-Aristotle's view on virtue, habituation, and community-why weekends and modern rest culture are a societal baseline worth questioning-how to tell the difference between well-intentioned correction and noise-why fortitude is the virtue that gets you throughThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Personal Update and Injury Recovery1:02 Social Environment as Obstacle to Virtue2:30 Peer Pressure Cuts Your Intention4:33 Crying Wolf to Yourself5:35 Saying No to the Status Quo7:14 Friction Should Not Be Minimized8:08 Climbing Higher Increases Friction9:37 Discerning Valid Criticism12:18 Aristotle on Habituation13:42 Virtue of Fortitude
• Why God Will Judge You for Playing It Safe [Circles of Influence] 15.06.2026 18min

  MY RUMBLE CHANNEL: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesMY NEW INSTAGRAM (I was banned): https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones1/Most men spend their whole lives inside a single circle. They get themselves sorted, maybe build a decent life, keep a prayer routine, hold a job. And they think that's the finish line. It isn't. It's barely the starting point.This video is about the Circles of Influence theory, a framework my dad introduced me to that underpins almost everything I talk about on this channel. The idea is simple: your capacity to impact the world around you is a direct extension of your self-possession and virtue. You cannot give what you don't have. You cannot lead where you haven't been.I walk through what it actually looks like to move from self-mastery to family leadership to wider societal impact, and why most men never make it past the first ring. Not because they don't want to, but because they haven't built the bandwidth. They've stopped investing in themselves and convinced themselves it's enough.The parable of the talents is real. The servant who buried his was cast out. That's not a metaphor to take lightly.In this video I cover:-the Circles of Influence theory and what it means for masculine leadership-why self-possession is the baseline, not the goal-how bandwidth and capacity determine your sphere of impact-why jumping straight to the front line without the foundation causes the wheels to fall off-the moral imperative of expanding your circle and what happens to the world when men don'tThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Intro and Announcements0:54 The Two Circles Explained2:05 Inner Circle Self Possession3:27 Bandwidth and Capacity3:52 Expanding Your Circle of Influence5:58 Family as the First Circle6:27 Parable of the Talents7:44 Leading Your Family Requires Virtue10:17 Building the Kingdom Beyond Family11:54 Why Men Must Impact Society13:24 Saints Who Gave Everything14:19 Your Inaction Is a Sin of Omission15:36 Danger of Skipping Steps16:27 Start Building Your Foundation Now17:26 Outro and the Legion
• My Daily Prayer Routine (24 yr old Catholic father) 10.06.2026 11min

  MY RUMBLE CHANNEL: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesMY TELEGRAM: https://t.me/tomas_monesAll other socials: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesMost men treat prayer like a tool they pick up when things get hard. They want a routine, a formula, something that works. But a prayer life that actually forms you looks different from that. This video walks through what I personally do, why I do it, and what I think every man needs to understand before he builds anything else on top.The sacraments come first. Not as a religious formality, but because that is where grace actually flows. The Eucharist and Confession are not optional add-ons to a spiritual life. They are the structure everything else hangs on. If your prayer life is built around anything other than those two, it is going to keep falling short.From there, the daily practice. Silent prayer, scripture, spiritual reading, the Rosary. I break down what each of these looks like, why I do them in the order I do, and what I have found them to produce over time. The Rosary in particular gets its own treatment because it deserves it. There is nothing like it. Vocal, contemplative, structured, and devastating to sin.In this video I cover:-why the sacraments are the foundation of any real prayer life-what my morning prayer routine actually looks like-why scripture reading gets more fruitful the longer you stay in the faith-the Rosary as a school of virtue-what to do when prayer feels dry and you are just getting the reps inReading List: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1q-mjqFkXIWur1xUBB_6FCavcdSzOX18t2902JK9vxAY/edit?usp=sharingThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Instagram Ban and Rumble Backup1:38 Sacraments as Ordinary Means of Grace2:32 The Eucharist Source and Summit3:39 Why Confession Changes You4:22 Tomas's Personal Prayer Routine5:33 Scripture Reading Daily Practice6:37 Morning Prayer Stack Overview6:53 The Holy Rosary Best Prayer8:13 Rosary Weapon Against Temptation8:24 School of Virtue in the Mysteries9:26 Closing Thoughts on Daily Prayer
• The 3 Practices That Train Your Will to Choose God 05.06.2026 21min

  Most men are losing the interior battle before the day even begins. Not because they lack discipline. Not because they don't care. But because everything around them has been engineered to gratify the will, and they have never learned to mortify it.This video is about true denial of self. Not the surface-level version. The real thing. The kind Christ demands when he says take up your cross and follow me.The modern world has removed almost every form of natural friction from daily life. Hot showers on demand. Hyper-palatable food. Endless entertainment. Pornography. You only need to be struggling with one of these things for your interior gaze to be pulled away from God. Most men are dealing with several at once.There's a reason the religious life requires three vows. Chastity. Poverty. Obedience. Each one strips away a layer of attachment. Each one asks more of you than the last. A man can be living chastely, detached from material comfort, and still be constantly gratifying his will in the small things. The scrolling. The entertainment. The avoidance of prayer. That's where most men actually are, and they don't even know it.The hardest vow is obedience because it requires you to surrender the will itself. And that's the crux of the whole thing.If you're chasing holiness but still running from friction, this is the video you need to watch.In this video I cover:-why modern comfort is the primary obstacle to the spiritual life-the three vows and what they reveal about self-denial-why mortifying the will is the crux of true holiness-cold showers, the rosary, and fasting as tools for forming the will-how to consecrate everyday friction as an offering to ChristThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 True Denial of Self0:47 Self Denial Is Not Optional2:07 Modern Comfort Kills Spiritual Growth3:27 You Must Sit in the Friction5:15 Why You Struggle to Pray6:10 What We Learn from Religious Vows7:37 The Vow of Poverty Explained8:17 The Vow of Obedience9:57 Mortifying the Will in Modern Life11:00 Three Tools for Self Denial11:44 Cold Showers Train the Will14:04 The Rosary as Mortification16:42 Fasting as Extended Self Denial17:37 Consecrating Your Disciplines to Christ19:10 Examine Where You Flee the Friction19:35 Practical Challenge Cold Showers21:03 Legion and Coaching Offer
• Life Update: Baby and IG Ban 04.06.2026 4min

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• 3 Missions Every Baptized Man Was Given (Most Men Never Claim) 26.05.2026 33min

  Most men have no idea what happened to them at their baptism.They know they were cleansed from original sin. They might know they were welcomed into the Church. But they were never told the rest of it. They were never told they were commissioned.When you were anointed with chrism, the same oil used to consecrate kings, priests, and prophets in the Old Testament, you were given an identity, an authority, and a set of orders. Not a certificate. A mission. The Church has known this for two thousand years. Lumen Gentium lays it out in three articles. And almost no one is talking about it.This video breaks down the three-fold office of Christ, priest, prophet, and king, and what it means for the man who is not ordained, who works a job, raises a family, and is trying to figure out what he's actually here to do.In this video I cover:-what the anointing with chrism actually did to your soul-the theological meaning of being "incorporated" into Christ-the priestly office: why your suffering, work, and daily life are a real sacrifice-the prophetic office: why Christian men's silence is why evil runs the streets-the kingly office: why self-mastery comes before everything else-how to begin living this out practically starting todayThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 You Were Given a Mission at Baptism0:41 The Baptismal Commissioning Explained1:25 Chrism Oil and the Anointing at Baptism2:33 The Permanent Mark on the Soul3:37 Incorporated into Christ4:51 Lumen Gentium and the Baptismal Call5:35 Commissioning Authority Identity and Orders8:38 Your Daily Life Is Your Priestly Offering12:16 Suffering with Intention13:54 The Prophetic Office Explained15:08 Witnessing Truth in Daily Life17:39 Why Christian Men Failed Their Prophetic Duty19:26 The Kingly Office20:19 Dominion Begins Within21:56 Slaves to Passion vs Kings23:05 You Are Being Sent to the Front Lines24:15 Wrapping Up the Three Offices25:04 The Laity Were Never Taught Their Dignity27:15 Living the Offices From the Inside Out29:38 Your Vocation Shapes How You Live This30:21 Outro and the Legion Community
• How To Approach Girls (Why You Keep Getting Rejected) 22.05.2026 20min

  Most guys think approaching girls is a skill problem. It's not. The skill falls apart because what's underneath it is rotten. Before you ever open your mouth, there's a layer of work that has to be done. Get that wrong and everything else is just performance. She'll feel it. You'll feel it. And nothing will come of it.This video is about what actually has to be in place before any of this works.In this video I cover:-Why intention determines everything before the approach even happens-The three types of guys and where you actually fall-Where to find the kind of woman you're actually looking for-How physicality, composure, and dress change what you communicate without saying a word-The calibration problem that kills good guys in conversation-Why "what to say" is maybe 10% of thisThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 How to Approach Girls0:13 Intention Before Everything1:37 The Guy Must Lead With Clarity4:25 No Intention Leads to Disorder5:39 Living Intentionally Without Dating7:00 Ready to Find a Spouse8:33 Where to Actually Find Her10:46 Be Jacked Dress Well Speak Well13:42 Be Yourself and Stay Calibrated16:23 Practice the Art of Conversation18:15 Intention and Confidence Do the Work19:30 Legion Community and Outro
• Biblical Proof of Retardmaxxing 19.05.2026 12min

  Previous video introduction to retardmaxxing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVB_aIXMEgE&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=6&t=426sIf the last video landed for you, this one goes further.The world has a word for the man who fasts, prays, detaches from possessions, and orders his whole life toward God. That word is fool. St. Paul knew it. The saints knew it. And if you're serious about your faith, you're going to know it too. This is part two of the retardmaxxing series, and this time we're going into the scriptural foundations of the concept. It's not a modern internet phenomenon. It has deep roots in the tradition of the Church, and once you understand the theology behind it, the whole Christian life starts to make a different kind of sense.The world's wisdom and God's wisdom are not the same thing. What looks like weakness is often where the real power is. The incarnation itself is the clearest proof of that. This video gets into what St. Thomas Aquinas says true happiness actually is, why retardmaxxing is not anti-thought but anti-overthinking, and why Our Lady is the model of everything this concept is pointing at.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Holy Fool Scripture Foundations0:42 Fools for Christ in 1 Corinthians1:03 The Absurdity of the Incarnation2:07 Why Christian Life Looks Foolish3:14 The Happy Man the World Mocks3:56 God Makes Foolish the Wise4:26 Weakness of the Cross as Victory5:03 Becoming Like a Child5:34 Simplicity and United Desires6:29 True Happiness Defined by Aquinas7:37 Anti-Overthinking Not Anti-Thought8:47 Mary the Model of the Interior Life10:24 Living and Dying as a Holy Fool11:27 Disclaimer on Worldly Duties11:55 Faith Integrates Everything
• Plato's Solution to the Masculinity Crisis 15.05.2026 15min

  Plato split men into three classes. Bronze, silver, and gold. Most men are chasing silver. Strength, success, status. And there's nothing wrong with any of that. But if that's where it ends, you get tyrants, not kings.The philosopher king is the integration of all three. A man who has mastered the exterior but understands that mastery flows from the interior. A man who has seen the good and is fixed on it, which means the world stops having the kind of grip on him it has over everyone else. You can't bribe a man who doesn't want what you're offering.This video gets into why kingship alone produces disorder, why philosophy without strength produces basement dwellers, and why only the man who holds both has the capacity to actually lead. Plato gives us the framework. Aquinas develops it. And Christianity completes it through the baptismal commissioning of priest, prophet, and king. That's what every Christian man is called to. Most have never heard it framed that way.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 The Philosopher King1:04 Plato's Three Types of Men1:47 The Golden Class Sees the Good2:37 Leaders Must Be Like Doctors3:28 Why Kingship Alone Falls Short5:04 The Modern King Movement5:32 Marcus Aurelius and True Wisdom6:50 The Philosopher Without Physicality8:02 Low Testosterone and Moral Cowardice9:44 Cannot Be Bribed by Shadows10:06 Christ Perfects the Philosopher King10:39 Epictetus and the Interior Kingdom12:31 Priest Prophet King14:37 The Legion and Final Thoughts
• The 10 Years That Determine Everything (Most Men Waste Them) 12.05.2026 8min

  Most men are waiting for a clear calling before they start becoming who they need to be. They want the vocation, the mission, the direction, before they commit to the work. But that's not how it works. Capacity comes before calling. The man who waits to be ready will never be ready.This video is about what you're supposed to be doing right now, before the vocation, before the clarity, before you know what God is asking of you. There is a specific kind of work that belongs to the years in front of you, and most young men are throwing it away.The graveyard image in this video says it all. All throughout a good man's life are gravestones marking the noble deeds that went undone, not through bad intentions, but through lack of energy, lack of vigor, lack of capacity. That is the quiet tragedy of a generation of men who were never taught to build.In this video I cover:-The difference between having capacity and knowing what it's for-Why the years of your youth are the most important years of your formation-What building capacity actually looks like in prayer, body, skill, and career-The low-energy dad problem-Why you don't need a clear calling to start doing serious work todayThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mone0:00 Capacity Is Not Enough0:46 Why Young Men Need to Build Now1:26 Prayer Body and Skills2:24 Grind the Years Before Marriage3:43 Most Men Waste Their Days4:15 The Low Energy Dad Problem6:12 Gravestones of Undone Deeds7:04 Build for What God Will Ask7:53 Train Today Build Today
• Male Leadership (Will Save The World) 08.05.2026 17min

  Most men today chase strength, money, and status but still feel lost. They miss the actual core of masculinity, the non-negotiable call that biology, history, and Christ Himself make crystal clear.In this raw, no-fluff breakdown I lay out what real masculine virtue looks like, why it’s never in competition with femininity, and how the culture’s zero-sum lie has destroyed both. Men are wired for hardship and leadership. Higher cortisol tolerance, thumos that drives conquest and protection, a life that isn’t about self but sacrifice for wife, family, and society. Thi headship that creates safety, order, and room for women to actually flourish in their own vocation of love and nurture.And feminism doesn’t free women, it trades one form of slavery for another. When men step up and lead rightly, everything changes for the better. It’s a positive-sum game, not the war the world pretends it is. If you’re tired of weak, directionless masculinity and want the real standard, this one cuts straight through the noise.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Masculinity and Femininity0:44 Feminism Versus True Femininity1:10 Career Over Family Trap2:22 Two Sexes Biological Differences3:17 Thumos and Sacrifice4:29 Christ Models Masculinity5:02 Strength Serves Family6:37 Masculine Vocation Is Leadership7:01 Lead Yourself First8:09 Zero Sum Lie of Feminism9:25 Men Lead Women Flourish11:45 Complementary Positive Sum Game13:05 Embrace Leadership Vocation13:52 Society Lies to Women15:31 CTAs
• The Spiritual Warfare Rules Nobody Taught You (Saint Faustina's Diary) 05.05.2026 24min

  Christ appeared to St. Faustina and gave her 25 rules for the spiritual life. Most peopleapproach the interior life like a self-improvement project. They improvise, they follow what feels right, they piece together a spirituality built around their own instincts. That's not how the saints did it. Two thousand years of tradition have already done the heavy lifting. The problem is most men never find it, or they ignore it when they do.These rules cut through every excuse, every piece of modern spiritual softness, and every tendency we have to trust our own judgment over God's. If you're serious about the interior life, this is the framework.In this video I cover:-Why self-invention is one of the greatest threats to a man's spiritual life-The role of a confessor and spiritual director-Interior mortifications and why they're harder and more rewarding than physical ones-Emotional chastity and guarding your interior life-Why feelings are the enemy of merit and what to follow instead-How to respond to ingratitude, temptation, discouragement, and rebuke-What it means to fight with the conviction that God is with youThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Why These 25 Rules Matter1:17 Stop Inventing Yourself2:58 Never Trust Yourself Abandon to God4:05 In Desolation Go to Jesus4:46 Flee Temptation to the Sacred Heart5:44 Reveal Temptations to Your Confessor6:33 Put Self Love Last7:11 Bear With Yourself Patiently7:39 Practice Interior Mortifications9:41 Justify Your Superiors Opinions10:42 Shun Murmuring Like a Plague11:16 Act Only as God Wants You To12:00 Observe Your Rule of Life13:11 Do Good to Those Who Trouble You13:40 Guard Your Soul Don't Pour Out Feelings14:53 Be Silent When Rebuked15:27 Seek Only Your Confessors Opinion15:57 Don't Be Discouraged by Ingratitude16:22 Don't Be Curious About Your Road17:21 When Bored Hide in God's Heart17:57 Courage Itself Intimidates Temptation19:02 God Is With You Merit Lies in the Will20:02 Trust Tradition Over Your Own Judgment20:27 Prepare for Great Battles21:23 All Heaven and Earth Are Watching22:04 Everything You Do Matters22:49 Resources and Closing
• Is Your Phone Bringing You Closer to God? 04.05.2026 4min

  Your phone isn't neutral. Every hour you spend on it is either pulling you toward God or pushing you further away, and most men haven't been honest enough with themselves to figure out which one it's doing. The Epstein files. The Iran-Israel conflict. Fuel prices. Outrage cycles. None of it is yours to carry, but the algorithm feeds it to you anyway, and you let it. Then you wonder why you can't pray. Why you can't focus. Why you feel spiritually flat in a life that looks fine on paper.This isn't a discipline problem in isolation. It's a formation problem. The same brain you're training to seek a dopamine hit every ten seconds is the brain you're expecting to sustain an hour of prayer, deep work, or presence with your family. It doesn't work like that. In this video I cover what it actually costs you to stay plugged in, why turning off your phone doesn't instantly fix anything, and the one question that cuts through all of it.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones
• @GoldenVitalist on Physical Excellence, the Human Form, and Why Weakness Is a Spiritual Problem 02.05.2026 1h 13min

  Tomas sits down with Matt (Golden Age Vitalist) and Blake to cover the intersection of vitalism, classical philosophy, and Christian spirituality. They get into why the Greek concept of thumos, the spiritedness of a man, is literally expressed through physical training. Why beauty is a theological category, not just an aesthetic preference. Why a fat, low-energy Christian is quietly undermining his own belief. And why the looks maxing scene, for all its early promise, collapsed into pure vanity. This is about what it means to pursue the human form as a duty to God, and how the discipline required to get there forges the interior virtues that make a man actually capable of contributing something to the world.Matt's X: https://x.com/GoldenVitalistMatt's YT: @MattKukta Blake’s X: https://x.com/blakeburrisThe platform Blake is developing: https://zincmode.com/Tomas’ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones/Tomas’ X: https://x.com/tomas_monesFit for the Kingdom: http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/0:00 Opening and Guest Introductions4:50 Our Journeys Into Vitalism5:24 Matt's Story From Sports to Lifting7:24 Why Lifting Is Different From Sports11:00 Biohacking Nutrition and Optimization16:57 Discovering Ray Peat and Jonathan Bowen17:38 Aesthetics as a Path to the Divine19:39 Theosis and the Perfect Human Form22:18 Modern Architecture Crushes the Soul24:51 Worshipping God in Body Mind and Spirit29:17 What Looksmaxxing Gets Wrong33:48 Looksmaxxing Is Materialism Not Virtue36:19 Matt Inside the Looksmaxxing Scene38:38 Holistic Training and the Greek Thumos41:55 Training Forges Virtue and Character43:42 The Will to Change Yourself48:18 From Self Mastery to Community Impact49:14 Pay the Farmer Not the Doctor50:44 Was Jesus Shredded53:45 Gluttony Seed Oils and Bodily Control55:26 Looking Healthy vs Being Healthy57:38 PUFAs Seed Oils and Real Health1:00:50 Fat Priests and Christian Decline1:02:27 Trad Catholicism and Orthodoxy Rising1:04:19 Why the Latin Mass Converted Tomas1:05:16 Soy Christianity and Embodied Faith1:06:00 Beauty of Orthodox and TLM Liturgy1:07:02 Closing Faith Fitness and Fraternity1:08:08 Brotherhood and the Power of Mannerbund1:10:48 Final Plugs and Resources
• 3 Rules That Kill the Phone Addiction for Good 30.04.2026 16min

  Your phone is not a neutral tool. It's a trillion-dollar machine engineered to keep you hooked, and it runs on the same neurological mechanisms as drug addiction. The algorithms don't care about your prayer life, your focus, your family, or your formation. They care about one thing: keeping your eyes on the screen.Most men know this and still can't stop. That's not weakness. That's by design.In this video I give you three practical protocols for breaking that grip: physical boundaries that remove the option before the temptation hits, intentional friction that increases the space between boredom and the dopamine hit, and a single spiritual criterion that cuts through all the noise.The Odysseus and the sirens framework is the right one here. You don't beat this by trying harder. You beat it by tying yourself to the mast.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionFit for the Kingdom in person events (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/Explore working with me 1:1: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones#socialmedia #discipline #catholic #masculinity #phone0:00 Phone Addiction Is a Trillion Dollar Trap1:00 Why These Platforms Are Designed Against You2:24 Social Media Hooks the Same Brain as Drugs2:50 The Odysseus and the Sirens Lesson3:58 Tip 1 Physical Usage Protocols6:09 Tip 2 Intentional Friction and App Limits8:50 Tip 3 Does This Bring Me Closer to God10:35 How Doom Scrolling Rewires Your Brain12:33 Reclaiming Intention and a Life of Prayer13:43 Final Call To Actions
• The Neuroscience of Discipline (And Why Willpower Always Runs Out) 27.04.2026 25min

  Most men trying to build discipline are solving the wrong problem. They think the issue is motivation or consistency or not wanting it bad enough. But what's actually happening is neurological, and until you understand it, you're going to keep burning out at the same point in the cycle every time.This video is about what's going on inside your brain when you try to force yourself to do something hard. Dopamine isn't what you think it is. Willpower isn't infinite. And the difference between the continent man and the virtuous man isn't just philosophical. It maps directly onto what neuroscience now shows us about how the brain rewires itself over time.There's a reason some men eventually find it natural to do hard things, and others grind themselves into the ground trying. The biology explains it. And once you understand the mechanism, you'll know exactly what you're actually trying to do and how to get there.I also get into what this framework says about the martyrs, because no reward-based model of motivation can explain a man who gives up his life for a conviction. The answer to that question is where this whole thing ends up.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #dopamine #virtue #neuroscience #masculinity0:00 Why Discipline Is Hard to Explain1:38 How Motivation Actually Works2:26 Behavior No Reward Can Explain3:21 What Dopamine Really Does4:38 Pavlovs Dogs and Habit Formation6:08 How The Gym Becomes A Habit7:24 Dopamine Can't Tell Right or Wrong9:14 Where Willpower Comes In10:52 Why Willpower Always Runs Out13:33 How Dopamine Gets Reprogrammed15:53 Practical Steps to Rewire17:46 Remove the Old Pathway19:34 Continent vs Virtuous Man21:20 How the Martyrs Make Sense23:29 Summary and Final Challenge
• What Is Vitalism? Introduction to the Movement 24.04.2026 1h 26min

  Something is wrong with modern men and most of them can feel it without being able to name it. The fluorescent lighting, the processed food, the blue light, the endless scroll, the paycheck-to-mouth existence with no energy, no direction, and no real questions being asked. This is not just a lifestyle problem. It is a biological one, and it has a spiritual consequence.This roundtable is the introduction to a movement that is responding to all of it. Vitalism, at its root, is the recovery of what it has always meant to be human: energetic, embodied, connected to nature, capable of genuine agency. The Greeks understood this. Odysseus is not just a literary figure, he is a prototype. A man who is fit, tanned, full of life, full of virtue, and capable of putting ideals into action through his body.What this conversation actually gets into: the modern environment as a deliberate suppressor of male vitality, why the bug man is not a caricature but a biological reality, how sun, grounding, real food, and detachment from artificial inputs are not biohacks but a return to baseline humanity, why physical renewal is the necessary first step before the deeper questions of meaning, faith, and purpose can even be asked, and what bioenergetic theosis means for Christian men who want their vitalism to point somewhere beyond the aesthetic.The Bronze Age Pervert revival woke a lot of men up. But a Nietzschean dead end is still a dead end. This conversation takes the energy of that movement and grounds it in something with an eternal horizon.Guest Links:Blake’s X: https://x.com/blakeburrisJohnny’s X: https://x.com/MetabolicCowboyThe platform Blake and Johnny are developing: https://zincmode.com/Finlay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vitalethoz/Finlay’s X: https://x.com/vitalethozTerra Essentials: https://terraessentials.nz/Tomas’ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones/ Tomas’ X: https://x.com/tomas_monesFit for the Kingdom: http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/0:00 Going Live1:22 What Is Vitalism4:42 People Are Waking Up7:46 Body as Vessel for the Divine9:51 Bioenergetics and Divine Ascent14:37 Vitalism Goes Mainstream20:11 Finlays Journey to Naturalism22:03 Avoiding Health Neuroticism25:50 Diet Supplements and Bioenergetics32:55 Agency Free Will and the Bug Man36:50 Questioning the Medicalised World37:56 BAP and the Emasculation Agenda39:27 Sexual Energy and Direction43:23 Christians Trapped at Step One45:33 The Young Mans Slave Trap46:32 Airplane Mode and the Sunrise49:50 Sunrise and Circadian Rhythm51:42 Dont Start the Day on Your Phone52:57 Sexual Energy Transmutation55:02 Going Offline into Real Nature57:55 FFTK Brotherhood in Practice1:00:30 Intentional Brotherhood1:02:46 BJJ as Brotherhood Builder1:04:13 Why Are We Bodybuilding1:06:30 Youth Need Leaders to Follow1:08:15 Rebuilding Muscle to Inspire1:12:40 Leaders Model the Path1:15:44 Recruiting Men to the Movement1:18:51 Health Enables You to Lead1:20:27 Closing Thoughts1:23:08 Follow the Guys
• God blesses his most retarded soldiers 23.04.2026 9min

  Retardmaxxing might be the most theologically accurate description of how God expects you to live.There's a reason Christ said you have to become like a child to enter the kingdom of heaven. Not because thinking is bad, but because most of what we call discernment is actually just fear with a spiritual costume on. You already know what you need to do. You're just not doing it.This video makes the case that the overthinking, the optimizing, the endless reading without fruit, the "I'm still discerning my vocation" at 25 with no prayer life and no discipline, all of it is a trap. David didn't deliberate in front of Goliath. Paul didn't set up a five-year plan after Damascus. Peter stepped out of the boat.The Church has answers for every level of inquiry. But the baseline is simple: get baptized, receive the sacraments, say your prayers, go to Mass, and start doing the work. Everything else builds on that. And if your faith isn't producing fruit, virtue, charity, discipline, growth, it doesn't matter how many books you've read.Retardmaxxing is trust in divine providence, obedience to your spiritual father, and the humility to act on what you already know is true.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#retardmaxxing #catholic #christian #discipline #retard0:00 Retard Maxing Plus Christ0:48 The Business Case for Just Starting1:37 Childlike Faith and the Sacraments2:31 Faith Without Works Is Dead3:10 Biblical Heroes Who Just Acted3:55 We Already Know What We Need to Do4:24 Scrupulosity Obedience and Simple Prayer5:33 Stop Overthinking Your Vocation7:04 Trust in Divine Providence8:08 Start Retardmaxxing Today