kwartlemoene

Epizodes

• S02E02 - KLANKGOLF - ABELINES SCHOEMAN 15.06.2026 25min

  Hoe bestuur jy die intense fisiese en emosionele druk van hoëvlak-atletiek sonder om jouself te verloor? In hierdie episode van Kwartlemoene gesels Milan en Gillie met die nasionale hekkiesatleet en mediese student, Abelines Schoeman. Abelines deel sy fassinerende reis en die realiteit van die opofferings wat jeugsport eis. Van die gevare van uitbranding tot die noodsaaklikheid van emosionele herlaai—hierdie gesprek bied onskatbare lesse vir ouers oor hoe om hul kinders te ondersteun om hul gesonde lewensbalans te behou.How do you manage the intense physical and emotional pressure of high-level athletics without losing yourself? In this episode of Kwartlemoene, Milan and Gillie chat with national hurdler and medical student, Abelines Schoeman. Abelines shares his fascinating journey and the reality of the sacrifices demanded by youth sports. From the dangers of burnout to the necessity of emotional recharging—this conversation offers invaluable lessons for parents on how to support their children in maintaining a healthy life balance.
• S02E02 - Atleet: Big Smiles... met Abelines Schoeman 15.06.2026 39min

  Hoe bestuur jy die intense fisiese en emosionele druk van hoëvlak-atletiek sonder om jouself te verloor? In hierdie episode van Kwartlemoene gesels Milan en Gillie met die nasionale hekkiesatleet en mediese student, Abelines Schoeman. Abelines deel sy fassinerende reis en die realiteit van die opofferings wat jeugsport eis. Van die gevare van uitbranding tot die noodsaaklikheid van emosionele herlaai—hierdie gesprek bied onskatbare lesse vir ouers oor hoe om hul kinders te ondersteun om hul gesonde lewensbalans te behou.How do you manage the intense physical and emotional pressure of high-level athletics without losing yourself? In this episode of Kwartlemoene, Milan and Gillie chat with national hurdler and medical student, Abelines Schoeman. Abelines shares his fascinating journey and the reality of the sacrifices demanded by youth sports. From the dangers of burnout to the necessity of emotional recharging—this conversation offers invaluable lessons for parents on how to support their children in maintaining a healthy life balance.Hoofstukke / Chapters:00:00 – Inleiding: Toewyding, opofferings en die impak van sport op 'n jong lewe.(Introduction: Dedication, sacrifices, and the impact of sport on a young life.)03:10 – Druk en Uitbranding: Hoe om te weet wanneer die lading te swaar raak.(Pressure and Burnout: How to know when the load becomes too heavy.)07:55 – Die Realiteit van "Die Kar-rit": Wat om te sê (en te vermy) op pad huis toe.(The Reality of "The Car Ride": What to say (and avoid) on the way home.)12:15 – Belansering van Skool en Sport: Die konstante soeke na ewewig.(Balancing School and Sport: The constant search for equilibrium.)16:50 – Die Krag van Selfspraak: Bou 'n gesonde innerlike dialoog.(The Power of Self-Talk: Building a healthy inner dialogue.)21:30 – Ma vs. Pa se Rol: Dinamika van ondersteuning in die gesin.(Mom vs. Dad's Role: Dynamics of support within the family.)27:10 – "Number 11 Foul Play!": Emosies, lesse geleer en ouer-gedrag.(Number 11 Foul Play!: Emotions, lessons learned, and parent behavior.)33:20 – Afrigter-Atleet Verhouding: Die invloed van 'n goeie mentor.(Coach-Athlete Relationship: The influence of a good mentor.)
• S02E01 - Dié Afrigter se Geheim... met Gerrie Visser. 08.06.2026 41min

  S02E01 - Afrigter: In Gesprek met Gerrie Visser | Coach: In Conversation with Gerrie VisserIn die eerste episode van Seisoen 2 verwelkom Milan en Gillie vir Gerrie Visser, een van die rugbyafrigters van Paarl Boys' High én UCT. Hulle gesels oor die intense realiteit van skolerugby, die verskil in afrigting tussen skool en universiteit, en die kardinale balans wat ouers moet handhaaf. Gerrie deel waardevolle lesse oor hoe afrigters duidelikheid bring in 'n chaotiese sportomgewing en hoe om te verseker dat die pret en ontwikkeling van die kind altyd eerste gestel word.In the first episode of Season 2, Milan and Gillie welcome Gerrie Visser, one of the rugby coaches of Paarl Boys' High and UCT. They dive into the intense reality of schoolboy rugby, the differences in coaching between school and university, and the critical balance parents need to maintain. Gerrie shares valuable insights on how coaches bring clarity to a chaotic sporting environment and how to ensure that the fun and development of the child always come first.Hoofstukke / Chapters:00:00 – Inleiding: Welkom Gerrie Visser en die wit kôl op die paviljoen. (Introduction: Welcoming Gerrie Visser and the white collar on the pavilion.)03:20 – Skool vs. Universiteit: Die verandering in die ouer se rol en dinamika. (School vs. University: The shift in the parent's role and dynamics.)06:45 – Die "Mind Game": Hoe om druk te hanteer en foute te bestuur. (The "Mind Game": How to handle pressure and manage mistakes.)10:15 – Time Management & Fokus: Rus is net so belangrik soos oefen. (Time Management & Focus: Rest is just as important as practice.)13:50 – Te Veel Toernooie?: Die gevaar van oorprestasie en uitbranding. (Too Many Tournaments?: The danger of over-performance and burnout.)17:30 – Die "X-Factor": Wat maak dat een speler dit maak en 'n ander nie? (The "X-Factor": What makes one player succeed while another doesn't?)21:05 – Dissipline en Ontwikkeling: Gerrie se finale goue reëls vir sportouers. (Discipline and Development: Gerrie's final golden rules for sports parents.)
• S02E01 - KLANKGOLF - GERRIE VISSER 08.06.2026 47min

  In hierdie volle onderhoud, gesels Milan en Gielie met afrigter Gerrie Visser oor oor die intense realiteit van skolerugby, die verskil in afrigting tussen skool en universiteit, en die kardinale balans wat ouers moet handhaaf. Gerrie deel waardevolle lesse oor hoe afrigters duidelikheid bring in 'n chaotiese sportomgewing en hoe om te verseker dat die pret en ontwikkeling van die kind altyd eerste gestel word.
• S01E10 - Realistiese Verwagtinge: Die Pad van ’n Tennis-ouer 16.05.2026 33min

  Hoe lyk die opofferings, die drome en die realiteit agter 'n jong sportster op internasionale vlak? In hierdie episode van Kwartlemoene gesels Milan en Gielie openhartig met die bekende sanger en liedjieskrywer, Jac de Priester. Hy deel sy unieke reis as pa van sy 16-jarige tennis-talent, Jamie Roux, wat tans in Barcelona oefen. Van die emosionele uitdagings van uitbranding tot die fyn balans tussen ondersteuning en druk - hierdie gesprek bied 'n diep kykie in wat dit werklik verg om 'n kampioen groot te maak.What do the sacrifices, dreams, and reality look like behind a young international sports star? In this episode of Kwartlemoene, Milan and Gili have a candid conversation with well-known singer-songwriter Jac de Priester. He shares his unique journey as the father of his 16-year-old tennis prodigy, Jamie Roux, who is currently training in Barcelona. From the emotional challenges of burnout to the fine balance between support and pressure - this conversation offers a deep look into what it truly takes to raise a champion.Hoofstukke / Chapters:00:00 – Inleiding: Welkom Jac de Priester en die skuif na Barcelona.(Introduction: Welcoming Jac de Priester and the move to Barcelona.)04:15 – Die Realiteit van "Grinding": Hoe Spaanse tennis verskil van Suid-Afrika.(The Reality of "Grinding": How Spanish tennis differs from South Africa.)08:30 – Uitbranding (Burnout): Jac se eie matriek-storie en die lesse vir sy kind.(Burnout: Jac's own matric story and the lessons for his child.)14:45 – Identiteit en die Gevaar van die "Rockstar"-behandeling in jeugsport.(Identity and the Danger of the "Rockstar" treatment in youth sports.)21:10 – "Number 11 Foul Play!": Emosies en ouer-dinamika langs die baan.(Number 11 Foul Play!: Emotions and parent dynamics beside the court.)27:35 – Die Kultuur van Kultuur: Die belangrikheid van rituele en die "Moedersdag"-oomblik.(The Culture of Culture: The importance of rituals and the "Mother's Day" moment.)33:50 – 5 Goue Reëls vir Sportouers: "Show up" en moenie op 'n slegte dag tougooi nie.(5 Golden Rules for Sports Parents: "Show up" and don't quit on a bad day.)
• S01E08 - Oor ouers en afrigters... met Jacques Rudolph 24.03.2026 37min

  In hierdie episode gesels gasheer Gielie Hoffmann met die voormalige Protea-krieketspeler Jacques Rudolph. Jacques deel sy unieke perspektief as oud-speler, afrigter en ouer oor die komplekse verhouding tussen ouers en afrigters in jeugsport. Hulle bespreek hoe om kinders se passie vir sport te kweek sonder onnodige druk, die belangrikheid van geduld in ontwikkeling, en hoe om terugslae te gebruik as lewenslesse.00:00 Inleiding: Welkom by Kwartlemoene01:15 Ontmoet Jacques Rudolph: Speler, Afrigter, Ouer02:30 Vroeë herinneringe aan krieket en pa se invloed04:15 Die gevaar van vroeë spesialisering in sport06:45 Jacques se Protea-debuut en die politiek van sport09:10 Die rol van mentors binne en buite die veld11:30 Spansport vs. Individuele ingesteldheid in krieket14:00 Hoe ouers moet reageer as kinders in die B-span speel17:15 Fouri de Preez: 'n Voorbeeld van harde werk en geduld19:40 Die dinamika tussen ouers en afrigters: Wenke vir kommunikasie23:00 Die belangrikheid daarvan om "liefde vir die spel" te behou25:45 Afsluiting en finale gedagtesIn this episode, host Gielie Hoffmann sits down with former Proteas cricketer Jacques Rudolph. Jacques shares his multifaceted perspective as a former professional athlete, coach, and parent on the delicate balance between parents and coaches in youth sport. They dive into fostering a child's love for the game, avoiding the trap of instant gratification, and teaching children how to navigate adversity through sports.00:00 Introduction: Welcome to Kwartlemoene01:15 Meeting Jacques Rudolph: Player, Coach, Parent02:30 Early cricket memories and his father's influence04:15 The dangers of early specialization in youth sports06:45 Jacques’ Proteas debut and the politics of selection09:10 The role of mentors on and off the field11:30 Team sport vs. individual mindset in cricket14:00 How parents should handle their child being in the "B-team"17:15 Fourie de Preez: A case study in hard work and patience19:40 Parent-Coach dynamics: Tips for healthy communication23:00 Keeping the "love for the game" alive25:45 Conclusion and final thoughts
• S01E07 - Teleurstellings... met Casper Oelofsen 17.03.2026 32min

  In hierdie episode gesels Milan Murray met sportkondisioneringsafrigter Casper Oelofsen oor die emosionele landskap van jeugsport. Hulle ondersoek hoe om kinders te ondersteun wanneer hulle nie die span maak nie, beserings opdoen, of nie aan verwagtinge voldoen nie. Casper deel praktiese raad oor "resilience," die belangrikheid daarvan om teleurstelling werklik te voel, en hoe ouers hul eie reaksies moet bestuur om hul kinders se karakter te bou.Hoofstukke:00:00 Inleiding: Welkom by Kwartlemoene01:32 Ontmoet Casper Oelofsen: Jou "Thinking Partner"02:51 Die CBT-Driehoek: Gedagtes, Aksies en Gevoelens04:05 Motivering en die "Groot Droom"07:01 Individuele vs. Spandoelwitte09:10 Waarom kinders vir hul ouers speel11:00 Hantering van "Nie die span maak nie"13:12 Die 10%-reël: Wat is werklik waar?15:58 Die "Gutter Boys": Sukses deur mislukking17:45 Hoe om veerkragtigheid (Resilience) te bou21:00 Wenke vir ouers op sosiale media23:15 Afsluiting: Koester jou kindIn this episode, Milan Murray sits down with sports conditioning coach Casper Oelofsen to discuss the emotional weight of youth sports. They dive into how parents can help their children navigate setbacks like not making a team, suffering injuries, or failing to meet performance goals. Casper provides insight into building resilience, the necessity of letting children truly feel disappointment, and how parental reactions shape a child's character.Chapter Markers:00:00 Introduction: Welcome to Kwartlemoene01:32 Meeting Casper Oelofsen: Your "Thinking Partner"02:51 The CBT Triangle: Thoughts, Actions, and Feelings04:05 Motivation and the "Big Dream"07:01 Individual vs. Team Goals09:10 Why children play for their parents11:00 Handling "Not making the team"13:12 The 10% Rule: What is actually true?15:58 The "Gutter Boys": Success through failure17:45 Building Resilience and Anti-fragility21:00 Social Media tips for sports parents23:15 Final thoughts: Cherish your child
• S01E06 - Ewewig: Sport is nie alles nie! 02.03.2026 40min

  Hoe help ons kinders om balans te vind in 'n wêreld wat konstante prestasie eis? In die seisoen-finaal van Kwartlemoene takel Milan en Gielie die gevare van "burnout" en die belangrikheid van rus. Hulle deel praktiese wenke oor hoe om 'n kind se identiteit wyer as net sport te bou, die waarde van 'n "stop-dag", en waarom pret die belangrikste bestanddeel vir volhoubare sukses is.How do we help children find balance in a world that demands constant performance? In the season finale of Kwartlemoene, Milan and Gielie tackle the dangers of burnout and the importance of rest. They share practical tips on how to build a child's identity beyond just sports, the value of a "stop day," and why fun is the most important ingredient for sustainable success.Hoofstukke / Chapters:00:00 – Inleiding: Die vinnige pas van moderne jeugsport. (Introduction: The fast pace of modern youth sports.)03:15 – Uitbranding (Burnout): Tekens dat die druk te veel word. (Burnout: Signs that the pressure is becoming too much.)07:40 – Die "Stop-dag" reël: Hoekom rus nie opsioneel is nie. (The "Stop Day" rule: Why rest isn't optional.)12:20 – Identiteit buite die veld: Jy is meer as jou telling. (Identity off the field: You are more than your score.)18:55 – Akademiese balans: Sport as deel van 'n groter prentjie. (Academic balance: Sport as part of a bigger picture.)24:30 – Die krag van Spel: Moenie die "pret" uit sport haal nie. (The power of Play: Don't take the "fun" out of sports.)29:10 – Seisoen-afsluiting: Finale gedagtes oor die seisoen 1 Kwartlemoene-reis. (Season Wrap-up: Final thoughts on the Season 1 Kwartlemoene journey.)
• S01E05 - Ouers: Wat is jou rol nou eintlik? 23.02.2026 44min

  Wat dink ouers as hulle langs die veld staan? Is jy "te veel" betrokke of juis "te min"? In hierdie episode van Kwartlemoene gesels Milan en Gielie openhartig oor die komplekse, emosionele en soms humoristiese reis van 'n sportouer. Van "Lagatha"-oomblikke in die kleedkamer tot die krag van stilbly in die motor op pad huis toe—hierdie gesprek is 'n móét vir elke ouer wat die fyn balans tussen ondersteuning en inmenging probeer vind.What do parents think when they stand on the sidelines? Are you "too much" involved or perhaps "too little"? In this episode of Kwartlemoene, Milan and Gielie talk candidly about the complex, emotional, and sometimes humorous journey of a sports parent. From "Lagatha" moments in the locker room to the power of staying quiet in the car on the way home—this conversation is a must for every parent trying to find the fine balance between support and interference.Hoofstukke / Chapters:00:00 – Inleiding: Die "handboek" vir sportouers bestaan nie. (Introduction: The sports parent "manual" doesn't exist.)04:55 – Te veel vs. Te min: Wanneer om in te tree en wanneer om terug te staan. (Too much vs. Too little: When to step in and when to step back.)08:50 – Die "Tribe" van ouers: Hoe kommunikasie en kultuur 'n span kan maak of breek. (The Parent "Tribe": How communication and culture can make or break a team.)18:40 – "Number 11 Foul Play!": Wanneer emosies langs die veld oorkook. (Number 11 Foul Play!: When sideline emotions boil over.)23:15 – Ma vs. Pa: Verskillende rolle en die dinamika van ondersteuning. (Mom vs. Dad: Different roles and the dynamics of support.)28:30 – Die Kleedkamer-ritueel: 'n Spesiale oomblik vir die ma's. (The Locker Room Ritual: A special moment for the moms.)34:50 – 5 Goue reëls vir sportouers: Van "moenie tou opgooi op 'n slegte dag nie" tot die krag van "show up". (5 Golden rules for sports parents: From "don't quit on a bad day" to the power of showing up.)
• S01E04 - Wen v. Ontwikkel 16.02.2026 46min

  In hierdie episode gesels Milan en Gielie oor die belangrikheid van emosionele ontwikkeling in sport, sowel as die rol van ouers en afrigters in die ontwikkeling van kinders. Die gesprek fokus op die balans tussen wen en ontwikkeling, die impak van verlies, en die noodsaaklikheid van 'n veilige omgewing vir kinders om te floreer. Dit sluit ook in hoe woorde en verwagtings die kinders se ervaring en ontwikkeling kan beïnvloed.00:00 Inleiding tot Sport en Emosionele Ontwikkeling03:11 Die Balans tussen Wen en Ontwikkeling05:54 Die Impak van Verlies op Kinders09:08 Die Rol van Ouers in Sport12:08 Die Belangrikheid van Emosionele Ondersteuning14:57 Die Kennis van 'n Sporster se Reis17:56 Die Rol van Woorde en Verwagtings in Sport21:05 Die Fisiese en Emosionele Aspek van Sport23:59 Die Uitdaging van Individuele Sport27:01 Die Waarde van 'n Veilige Omgewing30:09 Die Rol van 'n Afrigter in Ontwikkeling32:54 Die Belangrikheid van 'n Gesonde Omgewing35:53 Die Toekoms van Sport en Kinders se OntwikkelingIn this episode, Milan and Gielie talk about the importance of emotional development in sport, as well as the role of parents and coaches in the development of children. The conversation focuses on the balance between winning and development, the impact of losing, and the need for a safe environment for children to thrive. It also includes how words and expectations can influence children's experience and development.
• S01E03 - Teleurstelling: Wat doen ons nou? 09.02.2026 38min

  In hierdie gesprek word die uitdagings van teleurstelling in sport bespreek, met 'n fokus op hoe dit kinders en ouers beïnvloed. Die belangrikheid van kommunikasie, verhoudings en die hantering van teleurstelling word beklemtoon, sowel as die rol van ouers in die ontwikkeling van 'n kind se veerkragtigheid. Die gesprek sluit af met praktiese wenke oor hoe om teleurstelling te hanteer en die belangrikheid van 'n ondersteunende omgewing.00:00 Inleiding tot Teleurstelling in Sport02:52 Die Rol van Teleurstelling in Sport en Lewe06:02 Persoonlike Teleurstelling en Resilience08:47 Die Hanteer van Teleurstelling as 'n Ouers12:11 Die Belangrikheid van Verhoudings en Kommunikasie15:02 Die Impak van Teleurstelling op Kinders17:50 Die Proses van Herstel en Groei20:50 Die Rol van Ouers in 'n Kind se Sportloopbaan24:12 Die Toekoms van Sport en Teleurstelling27:00 Afsluiting en Laaste GedagtesKey Takeaways: 1. Failure is an opportunity for learning and growth in sports. 2. Parental influence is critical in shaping children's responses to setbacks. 3. Resilience is more about agility than toughness in today's sports environment. 4. Personal experiences with disappointment can lead to stronger determination and focus.
• S01E02 - Afrigters: Die Goed, die Sleg & die Lelik 01.02.2026 41min

  Coaches: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly.Introduction: Youth sports are much more than just games; they are arenas where relationships, emotions, and personal growth intertwine. In the latest episode of Kwartlemoene, the discussion delves into the intricate dynamics between coaches, parents, and young athletes, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs that define this experience.Main Content:Section 1: The Role of CoachesIn this episode, the speakers emphasise the pivotal role coaches play in youth sports. They highlight how a coach serves not only as a trainer but also as a mentor who can profoundly influence a young athlete's life. One speaker notes that social media often showcases only the glamorous side of sports, ignoring the hard work and dedication required behind the scenes. This reality check is essential for parents and kids alike, as it sets the stage for realistic expectations.Section 2: Parent-Coach RelationshipsA significant theme discussed is the often complex relationship between parents and coaches. The podcast illustrates that while parents want the best for their children, they sometimes struggle with how to engage without overstepping boundaries. One speaker shares their personal experience of balancing involvement while ensuring they don't hinder their child's growth. The emotional investment parents have can sometimes lead to a love-hate relationship with the coach, especially when tensions rise during competitive moments.Section 3: Navigating Emotions on the SidelinesThe podcast vividly captures the emotional rollercoaster that parents experience during games. With anecdotes from personal experiences, the speakers recount moments of intense frustration and concern, particularly when they witness a child being hurt on the field. One speaker describes a moment of losing control during a match when a foul occurred close to them, showcasing the natural instinct to protect their child. This highlights the need for parents to find a balance between support and restraint.Section 4: Positive Influences in CoachingDespite the challenges, the discussion also focuses on the positive impacts that good coaches can have. The speakers reflect on their own experiences with coaches who not only taught them skills but also instilled valuable life lessons. This aspect underscores the importance of finding coaches who prioritize the development of young athletes both on and off the field, fostering a supportive and encouraging environment.Conclusion: Key TakeawaysThe Kwartle Minen podcast episode offers valuable insights into the multifaceted world of youth sports. Key takeaways include the recognition of a coach's influential role, the complexities of parent-coach relationships, and the importance of emotional intelligence in navigating the sports environment. Ultimately, fostering a positive experience in youth sports requires collaboration between parents, coaches, and athletes, ensuring that the focus remains on growth and enjoyment.Tags: youth sports, coaching, parental involvement, sports psychology, athlete development, Kwartle Minen, sports relationships, emotional intelligence
• S01 E01 - Hoekom doen ons dié? 23.01.2026 33min

  In the first episode of this podcast series about parenthood and sport, Milan Murray and Gielie Hoffmann dive into the 'why' they created this series. Great personal stories and interesting approaches to parenting and sports will help parents, coaches, psychologists and anyone interested in school sports.In die eerste episode van hierdie potgooireeks oor ouerskap en sport, delf Milan Murray en Gielie Hoffmann in die "hoekom" agter die skepping van hierdie reeks. Boeiende persoonlike stories en interessante benaderings tot ouerskap en sport sal ouers, afrigters, sielkundiges en enigiemand met ’n belangstelling in skoolsport help.