Navigating Adult ADHD

Epizodes

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  #179 When you both have ADHD: RSD, love & unpaid bills 18.08.2026 37min

  When both partners have ADHD, relationships can be full of fun, spontaneity, creativity & a deep sense of “you just get me.” But two ADHD brains can also mean double the executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, RSD, impulsivity & forgotten life admin. In this episode, I’m exploring what happens when ADHD meets ADHD in a relationship & why having the same diagnosis doesn’t mean having the same brain. We’ll talk about: Why RSD + RSD can turn a conversation about dir...
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  #178: The Role of Oxytocin in ADHD: Why connection might matter more than we realise 11.08.2026 34min

  When we talk about ADHD, we spend a lot of time talking about dopamine... but what if we've been overlooking another brain chemical that could make a real difference? In this episode, we're exploring oxytocin. Often called the connection chemical or the love drug, oxytocin plays an important role in helping us feel safe & connected. It also works closely alongside dopamine, making it especially relevant for ADHD brains. We'll unpack what oxytocin is, why it matters & simple,...
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  #177 Calm in a crisis, Paralysed by a phone call - ADHD under pressure 04.08.2026 44min

  Why is it that we can be calm, focused & capable in a crisis, but feel completely paralysed by a simple phone call? In this episode, I share the story of breaking down alone on a pitch-black country road & how I handled it like a f*cking boss. In this episode, we cover: Why ADHD brains can work better in a crisisThe role of dopamine, norepinephrine & stimulationWhy clear, urgent problems can feel easier than vague everyday tasksHow relying on panic & last-minute pres...
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  #176 5 Things Doctors Still Get Wrong About Adult ADHD 28.07.2026 31min

  ADHD is often described as a problem with focus, organisation & hyperactivity, but that leaves out a huge part of the picture. In this episode, we are exploring five things doctors can still get wrong about adult ADHD, including: Why emotional dysregulation is a major part of ADHDWhy success does not rule out a diagnosisHow ADHD in women can hide behind anxiety, depression & competenceThe impact hormones can have on symptoms & medicationWhy ADHD is not an inability to pay attent...
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  #175 ADHD, Authenticity & Oversharing: Can you be yourself without sharing everything 21.07.2026 26min

  Where’s the line between being authentically yourself and oversharing because… Hi we have ADHD! In this episode, I’m unpacking why so many ADHDers share deeply, quickly & sometimes before we’ve checked whether we actually want to. We’ll explore: Why ADHD can make us crave fast connectionHow impulsivity, dysregulation, shame & masking can fuel oversharingThe difference between authenticity & urgencyWhy privacy & boundaries do not mean you’re being fake or inauthenticQ...
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  #174 ADHD in the Bedroom: Sex & Intimacy 14.07.2026 35min

  ADHD can show up in the bedroom in ways we don’t always talk about. For some ADHDers, it might look like a high sex drive, chasing novelty, impulsive decisions, risky behaviour, or seeking dopamine through sex and attention. For others, it might look like low libido, getting bored, feeling disconnected, sensory overwhelm, distraction, or struggling to stay present. In this episode, we’re unpacking: Hypersexuality and hyposexualityWhy novelty, dopamine and “the chase” can feel so powerfu...
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  #173 ADHD & Anxiety: The Relationship Nobody Explained 07.07.2026 37min

  Anxiety is incredibly common for adults with ADHD & in this episode we are unpacking the messy, layered relationship between ADHD & anxiety. We cover: Why ADHD can create the perfect conditions for anxiety to thriveHow ADHD symptoms & anxiety symptoms can look almost identicalWhy anxiety may be a coping mechanism your brain developed to keep you safeThe difference between ADHD-driven anxiety & a separate anxiety disorderWhy so many women are diagnosed with anxiety before ADH...
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  #172 ADHD & The Manual: The Invisible Expectations Destroying Your relationships 30.06.2026 37min

  Ever felt hurt because someone didn’t reply the “right” way, remember the thing, or show up how you hoped? In this episode, we’re talking about the manual - the invisible rule book we carry around for how other people should behave so we can feel loved, supported, or okay. We’ll explore: • What “the manual” is • Why ADHD brains can turn unmet expectations into rejection stories • The difference between making a request and trying to control someone • How to take back the...
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  #171 ADHD & Friendships: Why It’s So Hard & What Actually Helps 23.06.2026 46min

  In this episode, we’re unpacking why friendships can feel so hard for ADHDers, from forgetting to reply & losing track of time, to rejection sensitivity, masking, emotional dysregulation & the dreaded doom spiral. We’ll explore: • Why caring about someone & initiating contact are not the same skill • How ADHD can make small friendship wobbles feel like full-blown rejection • Why your brain might turn one painful moment into “they don’t care about me” • The role of RSD, emotional...
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  #170 Weird things I do that support my ADHD 16.06.2026 24min

  Today I’m sharing some of the “weird” things I do that actually support my ADHD brain. Because sometimes the things that look a little random from the outside are actually clever little accommodations in disguise. I’m talking about: Why I delay-send emails instead of trusting my brain has remembered everythingWearing activewear under my “real people clothes”Changing up my work environment for novelty, comfort & focusLetting myself task-switch without turning it into a moral failingDoi...
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  #169 9 ADHD-Friendly Travel Hacks to Make Your Next Trip Way Easier 09.06.2026 29min

  Travelling with ADHD is a whole experience. One minute your brain is screaming, “DOPAMINE! ADVENTURE! NEW SNACKS!” And the next minute you’re staring at your suitcase wondering if you need seven pairs of undies for a three-night trip. In this episode, I’m sharing 9 ADHD-friendly travel hacks to help make your next trip easier, calmer & far less chaotic. We’ll cover: why you need to check the rules around ADHD medication before you travelhow to reduce the pre-trip panic spiralthe...
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  #168 How ADHD Impacts Your Relationship with Food 02.06.2026 33min

  Do you forget to eat… until you’re suddenly hangry and shaky? Or eat past full & wonder “why did I do that?” If food feels chaotic, confusing, or all-or-nothing - you are not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking how ADHD impacts your relationship with food - from missed hunger cues and hyperfocus, to dopamine-seeking, emotional eating, & food noise. We cover: Why ADHDers forget to eat (and then it becomes urgent)The role of interoception, time blindness & medicationWhy overea...
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  #167 When Your Body Joins the Chaos - ADHD, Chronic Pain, Headaches & Fibromyalgia 26.05.2026 25min

  In this episode, we’re unpacking the very real (and often overlooked) connection between ADHD, your nervous system, and chronic pain - including why so many ADHDers feel things more intensely… In this episode, you’ll learn: Why ADHDers are more likely to experience chronic pain, headaches & fibromyalgiaWhat’s actually happening in your nervous system (and why it feels so intense)The link between ADHD, anxiety, depression & pain amplificationWhy headaches and migraines are so c...
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  #166 From Rock Bottom to a Neurodiversity Revolution with Freddie Bennett 19.05.2026 1h

  Freddie Bennett spent decades not knowing why his brain worked differently. Inattentive at school, masking his way through life, and by adulthood - stressed, depressed, and addicted. It wasn't laziness. It wasn't stupidity. It was undiagnosed ADHD. Getting that diagnosis in his mid-30s changed everything. But when his son then spent two years stuck on a public waitlist - Freddie decided enough was enough and Bay Paediatrics was built. Bay Paediatrics gives neurodiverse children and their ...
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  BONUS: My Story + something I want to share 15.05.2026 14min

  This is a little bonus episode… and a personal one. From losing my brother young, to being diagnosed at 36, to a moment at 28 that completely changed the direction of my life… this episode connects the dots of how I went from feeling lost, overwhelmed & “WTF is wrong with me?”… to building something I wish existed years ago. Because here’s the truth: Getting diagnosed with ADHD explains a lot… But it doesn’t teach you how to actually live with it. In this episode, I share: What my lif...
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  #165: What IS ADHD, really? (Let's go back to basics) 12.05.2026 37min

  ADHD isn't just distraction. It's not laziness. It's not "everyone feels like that sometimes." It's crying over a text message. Needing a nap after replying to three emails. Avoiding something for three weeks that takes seven minutes. In this episode, we go back to basics… What ADHD actually isHow it shows up in the brainExecutive function explained in a way that finally makes senseThe emotional side nobody talks about enough And why inconsistency isn't a character flaw You weren't ...
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  #164 ADHD & People Pleasing: Why It’s So Hard to Say No 05.05.2026 22min

  Are you a people-pleaser… or just terrified of letting people down? Hi! I’m Xena & I am a recovering people-pleaser. I cared so much about what other people thought of me & would prioritise the needs & desires of my friends, family or colleagues, above my own. And by doing this I was telling myself that my needs & what I wanted weren’t as important... Further adding to my insecurities & lack of self-worth. Overtime I became a chameleon - I didn’t know wh...
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  #163 ADHD & Decision Fatigue: Why Choosing Feels So Hard 28.04.2026 35min

  Do simple decisions leave you feeling weirdly exhausted? In this episode, I’m talking about ADHD & decision fatigue. From standing in the kitchen unable to decide what to eat, to freezing over work tasks, emails, housework, or social plans… decision-making can feel so much harder when you have ADHD. In this episode, you’ll learn: what decision fatigue actually iswhy ADHD can make decision-making more drainingwhat decision fatigue can look like in real lifehow shame, overwhelm & pe...
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  #162 How I Manage My Calendar As Someone With ADHD 21.04.2026 29min

  Managing time with ADHD can feel like trying to hold water in your hands. You care, you’re trying & yet somehow time still disappears, tasks take longer than expected & your calendar can start to feel like the enemy. In this episode, I’m sharing why managing time can be so tricky for ADHDers, what this looks like in real life & some of the things I personally do to manage my calendar. We cover: ADHD time blindness & why time can feel slipperyPlanning, prioritising & wo...
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  #161 Is It ADHD, Autism… or Both? Why so many late-diagnosed adults are asking this question 14.04.2026 32min

  Check out the ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool) If you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether your sensory overwhelm, social struggles, need for routine, or masking goes beyond ADHD, this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the overlap between ADHD and autism, some key differences, why so many adults miss it, and how to reflect on this question without spiralling. In this episode we explore: Why ADHD and autism can look so simi...