Toni Told Me with Toni Tone

We NEED to talk about Aunties... 21.07.2026 44min

Toni's unpacking Auntie Culture this week. The backhanded compliments, the double standards and the self appointed board of directors who somehow have an opinion on everything you do. Plus, what happens when your mum starts planning your wedding before you've even picked a path for yourself...and is rushing into marriage really the answer she thinks it is?Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People pleasers NEVER win!!! 14.07.2026 50min

Toni's talking people pleasing this week and why it never actually pays off 😩 Plus Teatime with Toni is back with Producer Annisha for two juicy dilemmas: a listener who found something in her boyfriend's wallet that isn't hers, and another grieving her relationship with her mum after a new marriage changed everything. Then it's Sisterhood Spotlight, breaking down why people pleasing is costing you more than you think ☕️Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Conversion Therapy Made Me MORE Gay 07.07.2026 1h 13min

This week on Toni Told Me, Toni sits down with beauty content creator Damilola (@Dami.Adei) for an honest conversation about navigating the beauty industry as a Black gay man, from his coming out journey, to the moment conversion therapy backfired in the most unexpected way, to the double standards men still face in beauty spaces. Plus, it's Teatime with Toni first, where Toni and Producer Annisha tackle your dilemmas, from feeling unloved in a relationship that's stopped showing up for you, to protecting your relationship from family pressure to get engaged and settle down.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20K, 20 Lessons & A Birthday… We're Celebrating Everything 30.06.2026 51min

It's a triple celebration on this week's episode of Toni Told Me!!! We've hit 20K subscribers on YouTube, it's Toni's birthday AND she's sitting down to share 20 lessons she learned from her 20s. From the things she wishes she'd known sooner to the hard truths that shaped who she is today, Toni is getting reflective, real and a little bit vulnerable, and Annisha joins her for Teatime with Toni to solve your dilemmas. This one's for every girl navigating her 20s and wondering if she's doing it right. Spoiler: you are!!!!Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BTS of My New Book: 'Soft Life' 23.06.2026 39min

Are you ready for your weekly dose of Toni Told Me? This week Toni is sharing something very special with her listeners...it's her NEW BOOK 'Soft Life'. For those of you that watch the podcast on YouTube, you'll get an exclusive peek at the cover whilst Toni delves into how her latest book came about and some of the topics she touches on that she has never shared before. And in Teatime with Toni, both Toni and Producer Annisha help solve your dilemmas, from inconsistent men to expensive girls' trips!!Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is Pretty Privilege the One Bias Nobody's Cancelling? 16.06.2026 51min

Pretty privilege… it's still a thing, and will it ever not be? Toni gets into ALL of it this episode, from the halo effect, to that very attractive felon Jeremy Meeks, to Toni's own personal experiences with pretty privilege. In Teatime with Toni, one listener needs advice when the guy she's talking to isn't tall enough and the conversation isn't matching his height either... plus, what do you do when you find a girl's name in your partner's phone?Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Love Island UK vs. Representation 09.06.2026 54min

Love Island is only one week into its 13th season and already the same conversation has taken over social media. Once again, representation is at the forefront of everyone's minds, and Toni herself has thoughts. Black women on the show continue to face the same recurring challenges: being overlooked by the male contestants and consistently feeling like they're getting the short end of the stick. But is it time we start being strategic about this platform... And that's not all, Toni and Producer Annisha are back to solve your dilemmas in Tea Time With Toni. This week: do you choose the inconsistent man with the spark, or the safe man with stability? Plus, what do you do when you don't get a job you were more than qualified for?Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Is The Right Time To Walk Away? 02.06.2026 42min

Are you dealing with a cheater or just not feeling excited in your relationship anymore...then this episode is for you! This week Toni delves into a subject a lot of us may try very hard to avoid even though we know it's the right thing to do. When is the right time to walk away? It's a question deep down in our heart we know the answer to but it's just a bit too scary to face. Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Black women don’t want to be strong anymore!! 26.05.2026 37min

Strong. Resilient. Unbreakable. But at what cost? This week we're diving into Strong Black Woman Syndrome, what it is, why it's harmful, and why Black women are choosing to put the cape down. Plus, in Teatime with Toni one listener has fallen for someone great but can't stop questioning whether she's "enough", and another listener who's stuck in the middle of a friendship fallout that's tearing her whole group apart!Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment 19.05.2026 40min

This week Toni is joined by Producer Annisha for Teatime with Toni where they're solving your dilemmas! Then in the Sisterhood Spotlight, Toni is getting into the debate that never seems to end — bare minimum vs princess treatment  BUT we are de-bunking the phrase princess treatment, and coining it ‘going above and beyond’ instead. Because at what point did we start calling basic care and love a luxury? Toni is getting into it all. Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maneaters Always Win ft. Anxiously Alej 12.05.2026 1h 4min

This week Toni is joined by viral dating strategist Anxiously Alej, who turned her own heartbreak and betrayal into a platform empowering women to take their power back in love. But first, Teatime with Toni! One listener is stuck with a man who won't commit but refuses to let her go, and another is navigating the messy fallout of mutual betrayal in a long-distance relationship. Then Alej gets into the dating advice no one ever gave you, rebuilding after heartbreak, why maneaters always win, and the strategies that will change how you move in love for good.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

No, I'm Not Taking His Name 04.05.2026 53min

We've all been there: Having to push back on expectations foisted upon us by others. From partners expecting you to take their name, to parents expecting you to follow a certain path, and even just the wider societal expectation of meeting suppose life milestones by a certain age, in this episode, Toni and Producer Annisha explain how we actually find our own way and make sure we're making choices because we want to rather than because we're feeling the pressure from external sources.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Got Everything I Manifested And I Hate It! 28.04.2026 37min

We made the vision board. We wrote the list. We did the work. So why does getting everything we asked for feel so… complicated? This week we're unpacking the truth about manifesting, the part nobody talks about. Plus, Toni and Producer Annisha are in the inbox solving your dilemmas, including one that'll make you question everything you thought you knew about your dream person showing up.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My family keeps asking me for money?! 21.04.2026 48min

You can cut off a friend. You can leave a situationship. But family? That's a whole different conversation. This week Toni is getting into why setting boundaries with the people closest to us is the hardest thing to do, and why the guilt never seems to go away. Plus, two dilemmas that are giving family drama, financial pressure, and a mum who cannot keep a secret to save her life.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hyper-Independence: Empowerment or Trauma Response? 14.04.2026 36min

"I don't need anyone"...sounds empowering, right? But what happens when that mindset starts closing the door on real love and connection? This week Toni is unpacking hyper-independence in women: the difference between being self-sufficient and emotionally shutting the world out. In Teatime with Toni, two listeners share how their independence is costing them in love, one was told she felt more like an "accessory" than a partner, and another's boyfriend is hurt that she still won't let him show up for her. This one hits different. Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why Your Family Treats You Differently (Birth Order Explained) 07.04.2026 50min

Ever felt like the responsible one or the overlooked one? This episode dives into birth order, family dynamics, and how it affects you in adulthood. Plus, juicy listener dilemmas you don’t want to miss!!Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

He AVOIDS me...when I'm on my period?! 31.03.2026 52min

Toni’s back, and this week we’re talking about something everyone experiences but hardly anyone wants to discuss… periods. From mood swings to cycle tracking, nothing is off limits as Toni dives into the realities of life on your period. And in Teatime with Toni, things get juicy: what would you do if your man started avoiding you every month? Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From Gold Digger Accusations to Secret Wives 24.03.2026 45min

Toni and Producer Annisha are back with more real talk and even realer tea this week on Toni Told Me. From a workplace situationship that ended in gold digger accusations to a suspicious dating app match who may or may not have a whole wife at home, the dilemmas are messy! Plus, we’re switching the focus from red flags to the green ones we should actually be paying attention to. If you’ve ever questioned your standards or ignored your gut, this episode is for you.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Friendship Breakups: The Time My Friend Made a Shrine of Me 17.03.2026 51min

Friendship breakups can hurt just as much, if not more, than romantic ones. In this episode of Toni Told Me, Toni gets real about the grief of losing a friend and why sometimes the people who know us best can hurt us the most. Toni and Producer Annisha dive into tricky friendship dynamics, from workplace friendships that feel a little too controlling, to the childhood friend who kept crossing the line. And Toni shares one of the strangest friendship stories she’s ever experienced… including the moment she realised a former friend had literally made a shrine of her.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My Mum Is Back! Wedding Tea, In-Laws & My Big Move 10.03.2026 55min

Mother’s Day is around the corner here in the UK, so to celebrate Toni's mum is back on the podcast! They're talking all about the wedding, family dynamics, in-laws and how she really feels about me moving to Houston, plus what it’s like becoming a grandmother of two. Before that, in Teatime with Toni, they help listeners through some tough dilemmas, from navigating a parent who disapproves of dating outside your culture to struggling with an avoidant attachment style in relationships.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Emma Spring Bank Holiday Sale is live! Get up to 25% off plus extra 5% using the code TONITOLD at Emma Sleep. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.