The Affair Recovery Room

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  Beyond Stay or Go: Who You Become after Betrayal 11.09.2026 30мин

  "Should I stay or should I go?" Psychotherapist Lauren LaRusso, author of Beyond Infidelity, suggests it may not be the first question to answer. From the moment an affair comes to light, she says, the original relationship is already gone—and so is who you thought you were inside it. Lauren's marriage ended after her husband's affair; mine ended after my own. From opposite sides of the same experience, we talk about letting go of control, rebuilding an identity shattered by betrayal, examining your role in the relationship (not the infidelity), and the inner work that's yours no matter how your relationship turns out.
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  Bonus: Beyond Infidelity 05.09.2026 6мин

  A review of the book, Beyond Betrayal, and excerpts from Tim Tedder's conversation with the author, Lauren LaRusso.
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  The Patterns We Learn: Attachment Styles, Infidelity, and the Road Back 27.08.2026 40мин

  Bev Mitelman of Securely Loved explains the four attachment styles and how they shape infidelity — for the one who cheated and the one who was betrayed. Tim shares his own story, and Bev names his pattern before he reveals his quiz results.
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  Bonus: Free “Good Sex” eBook 19.08.2026 15мин

  Presenting a free ebook based on our recent three-part sexuality series (on shame, pleasure, and rebuilding sexual intimacy after infidelity), plus a one-week conversation exercise for couples.
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  The Word After Sorry 14.08.2026 29мин

  You apologized. You meant it. It didn't land. Most apologies don't fail because the person didn't care — they fail because of the word that came after "sorry." Four words quietly cancel an apology: but, if, you, that. One word doesn't. Through dramatized conversations, we listen to all four fail, then hear the same moments again — changed by a single word. Plus what to do if you're the one who keeps receiving apologies that don't help.
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  Sexual Reconnection 05.08.2026 34мин

  After betrayal, the sexual relationship rarely picks up where it left off. Some couples experience a surprising surge of intensity. Others can't bear to be touched. Sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet joins Tim to talk about what reconnection actually requires, and why most couples start in the wrong place. They discuss hysterical bonding and what's driving it, why emotional affairs are often harder to recover from, and the deep wound of feeling compared or replaced. Xanet also brings her own story: twenty-six years in a sexless marriage, years of believing she was broken, and the work at fifty that changed her life and her career. The third and final episode in our series on sexuality.
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  Sexual Pleasure 29.07.2026 32мин

  Many people, especially those recovering from infidelity, carry enormous pressure into the bedroom: pressure to perform, to please, to prove. But intimacy coach Linda Landon says the path back to genuine sexual connection begins somewhere unexpected: with learning what brings you pleasure in your own body, before you ever reach for your partner. In this second episode of our series on sexuality, Linda shares her own story of living for decades with a block that kept full pleasure out of reach — and the journey, beginning at age 50, that changed everything. We talk about shame, performative sex, resistance as a doorway to growth, and why healing sexual connection after betrayal is about vulnerability and presence, not technique. Linda also guides listeners through a simple practice to begin.
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  Sexual Shame 22.07.2026 33мин

  Sexual shame teaches us that who we are is wrong, and that lesson can quietly set the stage for betrayal long before any line is crossed. Tim talks with therapist and intimacy coach Jocelyn Silva about growing up in worlds that made their sexuality something to hide (hers Catholic, his evangelical), and how they took opposite paths from the same root: never learning to be honest about their desires. It's a conversation about shame versus guilt, sex versus intimacy, and why authenticity and integrity—not secrecy—are the real foundation of connection. Neither excuses the affairs that followed, but both are honest about what made them possible. (Contains discussion of sexual addiction and suicidal ideation.)
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  When Betrayal Begins Before an Affair 09.07.2026 14мин

  Betrayal doesn't always start with an affair; sometimes it starts years earlier, in the slow erosion of connection. In this first PageTalk episode, Tim revisits his article "The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair" and talks with a client whose own experience complicates its take. It's an honest look at how both partners can contribute to disconnection long before infidelity enters the picture.
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  Unshakeable: Strong Lessons from Hard Experiences 02.07.2026 20мин

  Suzanne Leydecker's marriage ended the night her husband told her he was leaving for another woman. In this conversation, she shares how she rebuilt her life afterward, the patterns she had to unlearn, and her ongoing reflection on what she contributed to her marriage's breakdown. She and Tim have a candid, thoughtful disagreement about how much responsibility a betrayed partner should carry—a conversation worth sitting with rather than rushing to resolve.
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  Understanding EMDR: It’s Weird, but It Works 25.06.2026 22мин

  Betrayal trauma is real and for many people, traditional talk therapy only goes so far. In this episode, trauma therapist Laurel van der Toorn joins Tim to explain EMDR: what it is, why it works, and what you can expect from the process. Laurel breaks down the eight phases of this well-researched (and admittedly weird) modality, explains how betrayal trauma is targeted and processed, and offers practical guidance for finding a qualified therapist. If you've been wondering whether EMDR could help you, this conversation is a good place to start.
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  The Betrayer’s Pain 17.06.2026 34мин

  The pain of betrayal is visible. The pain of the betrayer rarely gets examined. In this episode, Tim sits down with psychotherapist Dr. Monique Thompson, who has worked with over a thousand couples navigating infidelity, to talk honestly about the inner wounds of the person who had the affair. This conversation isn't about excusing broken trust. It's about understanding what real change actually requires. Dr. Thompson explains why the involved partner experiences a genuine fracture of identity, how shame keeps people stuck and increases the risk of repeated harm, and why self-compassion isn't weakness; it's the starting point for authentic transformation.
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  Trust Yourself After Being Betrayed 09.06.2026 29мин

  Betrayal doesn't just wound a marriage—it can shatter a woman's sense of who she is. She questions her judgment, her instincts, her ability to trust anything, including herself. Life coach Zerina Dervini knows this territory well—from her own experience and from the women she works with every day. In this conversation with Tim Tedder, she shares her five-phase Self-Discovery Framework and talks honestly about the messy, nonlinear work of rebuilding self-trust after loss, disappointment, and betrayal. The path forward isn't a quick fix. It starts with one small shift: changing the question you're asking yourself.
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  Elisa, 6 Years Later: Life After He Left 03.06.2026 39мин

  Tim Tedder reconnects with Elisa six years after her husband left her for another woman. In this follow-up to the three-part "Elisa's Story" series, she shares what the years since have looked like—the healing, the hard moments, an unexpected encounter with the other woman, her sons' journeys, and her return to dating. It’s an honest look at long-term affair recovery.
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  The Broken Marriage, Her Exit Affair 27.05.2026 22мин

  Joni Woods spent fifteen years in a marriage marked by abuse and control—staying partly out of faith, partly out of pressure, and partly because she didn't yet have the language for what was happening to her. When her children became targets of her husband's behavior, she filed for divorce. And before it was finalized, she began an affair. Tim Tedder talks to Joni about what kept her in so long, what finally moved her to leave, and how she makes sense of the affair now.
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  Men’s Groups: Show Up. Be Real. 19.05.2026 28мин

  Men are often taught to be strong, self-reliant, and emotionally contained, and that same conditioning is frequently at the root of what goes wrong in their most intimate relationships. In this episode, Tim Tedder talks with men's embodiment coach and group facilitator Jason Lange about what men are typically missing when it comes to emotional awareness, communication, and connection, and how men's groups provide a powerful space for that to change.
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  A Conversation with My Ex: Relationships After Divorce 12.05.2026 19мин

  In this final episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim and Konnie talk about the decades since their divorce: the struggles, the cooperation, and the relationship they've quietly built for the sake of their children and grandchildren. Some of those children share their own perspective here, expressing gratitude that their parents' past doesn't arrive as unwanted drama at family gatherings, and that their own children are growing up as witnesses to what forgiveness actually looks like. A genuinely hopeful ending to an honest series.
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  The Children’s Experience of My Affair, Our Divorce 05.05.2026 20мин

  Before the final episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim steps back and lets someone else tell the story — two of his five children. In this bonus episode, one of his sons and his youngest daughter share their own experience of their parents' affair and divorce. Their perspectives are distinct, personal, and quietly powerful.
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  A Conversation with My Ex: D-day and the Aftermath 01.05.2026 25мин

  In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim and Konnie revisit the hardest stretch of their story: the disclosure of Tim's affair, the full confession that followed a week later, and the months they spent trying to hold their marriage together. What makes this conversation remarkable is not just what happened, but how they each experienced it differently—Konnie's raw grief, Tim's troubling emotional disconnection, and the misunderstanding that ultimately ended any chance of recovery. Painful and honest, this episode is also something unexpected: a conversation that still carries warmth between two people who lived through it together.
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  A Conversation with My Ex: Our Marriage, My Affair 28.04.2026 30мин

  An ex-husband and ex-wife sit down together to talk honestly about how they met, why their marriage struggled, and how an affair changed everything.