Making Polyamory Work

Mono-Poly Secret Sauce 28.04.2026 1ч 17мин

How do you make a mixed-orientation relationship work? There are SO many ways. In this episode, Libby talks with Fernanda of the Polycurious Podcast about how she does it with her partner, who is monogamous.You can find Fernanda’s work here: https://www.polycurious.com/https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast/https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcasthttps://www.tiktok.com/@polycuriousHere’s the interview I did with Fer a few months back: https://youtu.be/-PGn9T1PbO8?si=-kWJ1fiqJKIWpg0T(Oh and according to the ONE YouTube commenter I’m a “nightmare” so that’s my first hate comment! Achievement unlocked!)Link to get on my email list: https://www.libbysinback.com/emailWorkbook: https://www.libbysinback.com/workbook

How to Hold Space 14.04.2026 29мин

Learning to hold space for people you love is an essential relationship skill. In this episode, Libby breaks down what holding space is, why it's important, and how to practice it.Join my email list to learn about the new membership offering coming soon! https://www.libbysinback.com/emailWhat it Means to Hold Space for Someone by Heather Plett: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/11-things-that-will-help-you-hold-space-for-someone-052317511 Ways to Hold Space for Someone by Reaca Pearl: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/11-things-that-will-help-you-hold-space-for-someone-0523175Morgan Burch: https://www.instagram.com/goodmorgantherapy/

John and Jamie Shouldn't Open Their Marriage 31.03.2026 23мин

Meet John and Jamie, a made-up couple with a very real story. What do you think? Should they open their marriage?SHOW LINKSEmily Nagoski on Making Polyamory Work: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Maintenance-Sx-with-Emily-Nagoski-e2kpe5p/a-abbns15Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9780525541943All About Love by bell hooks: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9780060959470(I also recommend The Will to Change by the same author)--------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life.Go to ⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠ to get your copy.

Primal Panic 17.03.2026 33мин

Sometimes in polyamorous relationships, our attachment system gets activated, something Jessica Fern calls "primal panic" in her book Polysecure. In this episode, Libby discusses primal panic, what can trigger it, and some tools to navigate it. SHOW LINKS:Join Libby for an Open Community Call: https://go.libbysinback.com/community-callsPolysecure by Jessica Fern: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9781944934989Leaning In Episode: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Leaning-In-e3c7lgc/a-acbv8i2--------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life.Go to ⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠ to get your copy.

I'm Having Dating Success, but my Partner Isn't 03.03.2026 1ч 7мин

Libby is joined by Mel Cassidy, author of the new book, Radical Relating, A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy to answer a listener question: how do I handle things if I'm having dating success and my partner isn't? I'm having a joyful, expansive experience, and my partner is sitting on the bench feeling unwanted and envious? This experience is so common and Libby and Mel dive into some tools that can help including some somatic practices for both people. Mel Cassidy's website: https://radicalrelating.ca/ Mel's book: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9798889842453 Mel's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating/?LinksJoin an Open Community Callhttps://go.libbysinback.com/community-calls --------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life.Go to ⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠ to get your copy.

Incoming 17.02.2026 54мин

Most advice about polyamory focuses on established couples, often overlooking the unique challenges faced by "incoming partners" aka those entering a relationship with someone who already has a long-established relationship. In this episode, Libby offers support and advice for those incoming partners so that they can feel empowered in a situation that can feel really tricky to navigate.Episodes referenced in the episodeVeto Happens https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/When-is-it-Okay-to-Have-a-One-Pnis-Policy-e1ddpq3Is Hierarchy Bad? https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Is-Hierarchy-bad-e2hu61dA Rule is just a Bad Agreement https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/A-Rule-is-just-a-Bad-Agreement-e1alt5uOne P*nis Policy https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/When-is-it-Okay-to-Have-a-One-Pnis-Policy-e1ddpq3How to Date a Couple https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Dating-as-a-Couple-e2b7u8aThis May be a Bitter Pill https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/This-May-Be-a-Bitter-Pill-e1e1eoeCurrent offerings from LibbyJoin an Open Community Callhttps://go.libbysinback.com/community-callsWhat Actually Makes Polyamory Work - the Workshophttps://libbysinback.com/workshop

Polyamory and Cohabiting with Laura Boyle 03.02.2026 48мин

Libby invites Laura Boyle of Ready for Polyamory to join her on the show to talk about living together, chores, finances, coparenting, and more - all things having to do with cohabiting and polyamory. --------------Show Links: Laura's website: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/ Laura's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/readyforpolyamory/Monogamy? In this Economy? (The Book):https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9781805011187--------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life.Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy.

Good Grief 20.01.2026 26мин

Libby talks about feeling grief and letting it move through you rather than being in a state of constant fixing as a way of avoiding it. --------------My episode on holding space: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/no-advice-pleaseWhat it Means to Hold Space for Someone by Heather Plett11 Ways to Hold Space for Someone by Reaca Pearl-----------------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to ⁠⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠⁠ to get your copy.---------------Visit ⁠⁠https://makingpolyamorywork.com⁠⁠ to search back episodesLibby's coaching website: ⁠⁠https://libbysinback.com

Is this okay? 07.01.2026 1ч

Libby invites Mia Schacter of Consent Wizardry to join her to answer two listener questions. The first one asks, what if I don't feel intense NRE with a new partner? Does that mean something or is it okay? The second asks, Is it okay for me to not want my partner to date monogamous people or is that something I need to learn to be okay with?---------------------------Find Consent Wizardryon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/consent.wizardry/on Substack: https://consentwizardry.substack.com/on the web: https://consentwizardry.com/-----------------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to ⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠ to get your copy.---------------Visit ⁠https://makingpolyamorywork.com⁠ to search back episodesLibby's coaching website: ⁠https://libbysinback.com

Leaning In 23.12.2025 1ч 2мин

Libby invites her spouse, Drew to talk the established partner's side of the experience LIbby described in Gamechanger. -----------------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to ⁠https://libbysinback.com/workbook⁠ to get your copy.---------------Visit ⁠https://makingpolyamorywork.com⁠ to search back episodesLibby's coaching website: ⁠https://libbysinback.com

Gamechanger 09.12.2025 39мин

What happens when a new relationship completely upends everything you thought you knew about yourself? What if that person is a catalyst for more love, sexiness, and aliveness than you ever thought was possible? What does that mean for your existing relationship(s)? In this episode Libby shares her thoughts and a very personal part of her own journey.-----------------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life.Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy.---------------Visit https://makingpolyamorywork.com to search back episodesLibby's coaching website: https://libbysinback.com

Should You Start Out Open or Closed? 25.11.2025 21мин

Libby answers a common listener question: When starting a new relationship when you both know you want non-mongamy -- should you be open from the beginning, or should you be monogamous while you establish your partnership? Even if this isn't where you are right now in your polyamory journey, there's something for everyone here in Libby's thoughtful return to Making Polyamory Work.-----------------------Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy.---------------Visit https://makingpolyamorywork.com to search back episodesLibby's coaching website: https://libbysinback.com

Maintenance S*x with Emily Nagoski 02.07.2024 27мин

In Part 2 of Libby's conversation with Emily Nagoski, there's a deeper conversation about the concept of "maintenance s*x" and how you may be doing it to safe your relationship, but it may actually be destroying it. Emily Nagoski's website: https://www.emilynagoski.com/ Emily Nagoski on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/ Emily Nagoski's books (highly recommended!): https://bookshop.org/contributors/emily-nagoski-4318b5e2-0f22-4415-963b-ce5a1f467607

Forget the Spark with Emily Nagoski 25.06.2024 25мин

The amazing Emily Nagoski joins Libby on Making Polyamory Work to drop truth bomb after truth bomb about sex in long-term relationships. Emily Nagoski's website: https://www.emilynagoski.com/ Emily Nagoski on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/ Emily Nagoski's books (highly recommended!): https://bookshop.org/contributors/emily-nagoski-4318b5e2-0f22-4415-963b-ce5a1f467607

Why Aren't You Being Fair? 18.06.2024 1ч 3мин

The Multiamory crew takes over Making Polyamory Work to talk about aggressive fairness in polyamory, what it looks like, and how you can find equity in your relationships. Multiamory's website: https://www.multiamory.com/

My #1 Dating Tip 11.06.2024 17мин

Let's think about dating and rejection differently. Shine your light.

Relationship Diversity with Carrie Jeroslow 04.06.2024 57мин

What happens when your relationship (or your life) doesn't look the way you thought it would or were told it was supposed to look? Libby talks with Carrie Jeroslow about how having a relationship diversity mindset may help you make peace and even embrace with how your life and love actually work for YOU. Carrie's Website: https://www.carriejeroslow.com/

How to Get Help 28.05.2024 37мин

If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help. Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4 APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships

Nerding out on Compersion with Marie Thouin 21.05.2024 52мин

What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory. Marie's book! https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183939/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships Marie's Compersion Resources: https://www.whatiscompersion.com/ Marie's Coaching Website: https://www.loveinsight-dating.com/ Marie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/

Community Care with Genevieve of Chill Polyamory 14.05.2024 1ч 8мин

Libby is joined by Genevieve King of Chill Polyamory to discuss individualism, community care, and ways you can shift your mindset to ecological thinking within polyamorous (or not!) relationship structures. Genevieve's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/chillpolyamory Genevieve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PUizxdp_vj2A5fUdBgzgw Genevieve's website: https://www.chillpolyamory.com/