Adoption: The Long View Podcast

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• Season 5: Best Advice of Adoption Experts + BONUS Feature 06.12.2024 48мин

  It’s December of 2024, which means we're bringing you the 5th -- and last -- Best Of advice. The first part of this episode is our traditional season-closing digest of best advice from all Season 5 guests, and the last part is a special musical treat from...
• 510: Not All Parts Get Adopted - Supporting Adoptees with Wholeness and Integration 01.11.2024 43мин

  Have you ever noticed that -- much like Riley in Disney•Pixar's Inside Out series -- you have different parts? The Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework asserts that everybody consists of different parts. Our guest this month, Kathy Mackechney, LCSW, IFS...
• 509: Supporting Your Adoptee Through the Adoptee Consciousness Model 04.10.2024 1ч 5мин

  When our adoptees are young, we cannot anticipate how and when they will process their adoptedness someday as adults. Such processing may not even be on our radar. For adoptees, figuring out their identity with the added layer of adoption, requires extr...
• 508: How to Center the Adoptee as the Hero in Their Own Story 06.09.2024 56мин

  In a previous episode of Adoption: The Long View (ep505), an adoptee noted that her parents are the center of their adoption story just as she is the center of hers. It’s no big duh that the parents of an adoptee and the adoptee themself experience the s...
• 507: Robyn Gobbel on Dealing with Big Baffling Behaviors 02.08.2024 52мин

  One of the myths of adoption is the now debunked “blank slate” theory that if you get your baby early enough, they won’t have experienced any trauma. And therefore, you won’t be raising a child with a trauma history, and you won’t be dealing with big,...
• 506: More Facets of Adoption Math with Adoptee Torie DiMartile (Part 2) 05.07.2024 41мин

  In this much anticipated episode, we resume our conversation with adoptee and adoption educator Torie DiMartile on adoption math that adoptees have to deal with, the worlds they must precariously straddle throughout their lives, the opposing emotions the...
• 505: The Many Facets of Adoptee Math 07.06.2024 37мин

  We all know from 1st grade math that a half plus a half equals 1. But for adoptees, the math doesn’t always add up the way we think it will. At one time I thought that if I could just incorporate my children’s first families into ours, then Tessa and Re...
• 504: 22 Years of Lessons Learned from Two Moms in One Open Adoption 03.05.2024 48мин

  The moment you become a parent, time seems to stop and you can’t see beyond the sweet baby or toddler you have before you, looking up at you with those big eyes that say you are everything. Those days of full dependence on you feel like they may go on fore...
• 503: A Deeper Look into Adoption and the Bible 05.04.2024 43мин

  My new book Adoption Unfiltered, has three chapters in it devoted to religion and adoption, with my co-authors and I each researching and covering a chapter. Sara Easterly, an adoptee and a Christian, wrote about religion’s pain points for adoptees. Kelsey...
• 502: Exploring the Full Range of Adoptee Emotions 01.03.2024 37мин

  Early in my adoptive parenting days, when my kids were first becoming able to talk about their adoptedness and continuing through their adolescence, I was on alert for signs that adoption had hurt them. I’d been listening to adult adoptees and I knew that...
• 501: What We Get Wrong About Same-Race Adoption 02.02.2024 41мин

  Welcome to Season 5 of Adoption: The Long View! This month's guest is someone I made a bad first impression on (in my own head, anyway) because of an assumption I made about her that turned out to be wrong. Adoptee and content creator Jennifer Dyan Ghost...
• 410: Best Advice of Adoption Experts from Season 4 + Something EXTRA 01.12.2023 50мин

  It’s December of 2023, which means that my new book, Adoption Unfiltered, written with Sara Easterly, an adoptee, and Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, a birth parent, is finally available! The first part of this episode is our traditional season-closing digest...
• 409: Unfiltering Adoption: What's Been Filtered From Us Hurts Us 03.11.2023 42мин

  This is a really special episode for me because not only am I the host, as I always am, I am also a guest. I’m so excited to announce on Adoption: The Long View, that within a month, a book I, along with my two guests, have spent the last 3 years envisio...
• 408: The Dance of Adoptive Parenting: When to Lead & When to Follow 06.10.2023 41мин

  One of the distinctions we continually make here on Adoption: The Long View is the difference between "open adoption" and "openness in adoption." The former typically means having some sort of information about or contact with birth family, but the latte...
• 407: What My Adoptive Parents Did - and Didn't - Do Well 01.09.2023 54мин

  So many parents end up wishing they'd had a time machine to go back and know earlier what we didn’t know then about parenting, which is the whole premise of this podcast – to take the long view. With adoptive parenting, that wish can be even stronger, be...
• 406: Talking About Race with Adoptees 04.08.2023 41мин

  Parenting a child of a race different from yours adds a whole new element to adoptive parenting. While this episode does focus on raising an interracial adoptee (also called a transracial adoptee), becoming more comfortable with talking about race is a w...
• 405: How to Be a Therapeutic Adoptive Parent 02.06.2023 48мин

  If you’ve been listening here long, you know that to believe that adoptive parenting is no different from regular old parenting will likely end up with you feeling blindsided some day, without tools and without strategies. This is because all adoptions...
• 404: Guilt, Shame, and Boundaries in Adoption 05.05.2023 52мин

  One thing we know is that adoption comes out of a broken attachment, that the baby or child we parent has already lost something primal, that biological connection to the first mother, as well as the genetic connection to her and to the baby’s first fa...
• 403: Why an Adoptee's Truth Matters More than a Parent's Comfort 07.04.2023 53мин

  Why are truth and trust so important in adoptive families? In all families, really? Isn’t it OK sometimes to keep some things under wraps, for someone’s own good? There's a philosophical paradox called sorites based on the idea that no grain of sand i...
• 402: YES to Continuing Education for Adoptive Parenting & NO to Adoption Echo Chambers 03.03.2023 28мин

  Adoptive parenting has this in common with regular old parenting: just when you start to feel like you’ve mastered a stage, like babyhood, toddlerhood, tweenhood, or beyond, your child keeps growing and enters a new stage. And you’re back at square one...