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  Rejection is not an invitation for you to work harder 20.07.2026 12мин

  Sometimes we fear rejection, that every time it presents itself we feel we need to over function to keep the person or an opportunity or a job that we end up losing ourselves. Sometimes rejection redirects us home to ourselves and sometimes it teaches us that we were always good enough without working harder. Love and light.
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  Accountability: The mirror we avoid 29.06.2026 14мин

  How often do we hold ourselves accountable? How often do we acknowledge our mistakes? How much of the things that we do have that have turned into a pattern?How often do we hold others accountable? Or have we learnt to make them so comfortable because we are scared of them rejecting us. How much of our own behaviours are we enabling and also that of others.This episode allows us to look at ourselves in the mirror and look at things that we need to be taking accountability on. And also look at things that we should be holding others accountable so they can be repair instead of enabling.
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  You cannot over-love someone into staying (Polygamist Netflix series reflections) 15.06.2026 9мин

  Based on the polygamist Netflix series . It reminds us that you cannot over-love someone into staying . Reevaluate how you have shown love , how you receive love and also how hard you have worked to earn love . Our patterns of life experiences also contribute to how we resonate with toxicity from people we choose to have relationships with , whether its family , friends , romantic partners . Through healing you start understanding that it’s okay for people not to choose , but choose you . Love and light 🤍
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  Not everything is spiritual ,check your nervous system 26.05.2026 12мин

  This episode explores African spirituality, particularly how we often view traumatic life experiences as spiritual lessons rather than mere events requiring healing.
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  Why do people/adults overshare ? 11.05.2026 13мин

  This episode speaks about adults that over shame. They have not learned thethe necessary boundaries to keep personal intimate information to themselves without asking for external validation. This is at times driven by anxiety to always fill in silent spaces. It is also driven by a desire to connect and be understood. Enjoy love and light
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  I have never been happy …. 27.04.2026 13мин

  Happiness is not a destination and we loose out on beautiful moments because we are waiting to reach a destination. At times our happiness cups don’t get full because we keep thinking achieving or moving from one thing to another will finally bring us joy . We spend years search for external happiness when we should be looking within and practically learning what makes us happy . Sad moments come but also happy moments . Enjoy Love and light .
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  What makes people in healthy relationships and marriages stay in them? 13.04.2026 15мин

  This episode is based on healthy relationships and marriages and why people stay in them. It also speaks to common values, principles, long-term goals, realising that your partner is evolving. Long-term marriages and relationships allows for your partner to be imperfect as long as they are not abusive. It is not your partner‘s full responsibility to make you happy. It’s also about consciously making a decision to stay and grow the relationship. It’s about healing your inner wounds so that’s your partner doesn’t have to be responsible for them. Love and lights.
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  Dealing with a toxic boss 30.03.2026 15мин

  This episode is about a toxic work environment. Dealing with a toxic boss , being micromanaged, constantly criticism, over worked beyond your job description and more . Coping skills in a toxic work environment, boundary setting and self care .
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  An emotionally disregulated adult with temper tantrums 16.03.2026 15мин

  This episode looks at an adult that did not learn how to regulate their emotions . Where did this all start? The importance of a primary caregiver that is emotionally regulated. How can an adult learn how to self regulate so they are not a reactive .
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  Navigating a new diagnosis 02.03.2026 11мин

  This. Episode speaks about discovery that you have a new diagnosis . Learning how to grief your old body without the diagnosis and acknowledging the existence of the new diagnosis and loving your body through it .
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  The survival mode of a people’s pleaser 16.02.2026 11мин

  This episode speaks about how people pleasers are on survival mode that them at times showing may be a means of not only control but also anxiety of being rejected or feeling guilty .
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  Understanding the season you are in and positioning yourself accordingly 02.02.2026 13мин

  This episode speaks about understanding the season you are in so you find the discipline to go through it . How your vision / action board should also align to the season you are in . Enjoy love 🤍 and light 🕯️
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  Ancestral calling and psychotherapy 14.04.2025 18мин

  Defining the ancestral calling , how it affects an individual’s mental health. How to deal with having a calling . The ego vs the self when gifted . Do traditional healers believe in God? Can you have a mental illness while gifted ? Taking a bit of a break from the podcast to recharge see you in a month or two . Love and light .see you soon
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  Black Tax and Depression 31.03.2025 16мин

  This episode is based on black tax and how it emotionally affects bread winner . Bread winner often feel they are showing up for everyone , helping family members live their lives while theirs is procrastinated . The struggle to set boundaries as they carry a lot of survival guilt . Most pattern breakers and bread winners may be parentified children.
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  Grief is an expression of love. 10.03.2025 14мин

  This episode speaks about grief and how the pain we feel keeps us connected to the people we have lost . It shows us that the reason we feel so much pain is because our love is as deep . The deeper the love , the greater the grief . It is okay to also grief people we ended up resenting it’s an expression of hope that was never fulfilled. It’s also okay to grieve something we initiated the ending of .
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  But you didn’t know better at that time … 24.02.2025 13мин

  Sometimes we are very hard on ourselves when we realise the things or experiences we have put our unhealed selves through . It is important to understand that you didn’t know better at that time . You survived with the information you have according to our environment and how you were raised. So once you realise that some of the things you put yourself through were self inflicted be kind and gentle because at that time you didn’t know better . The healing version of yourself is bringing new information and you are unlearning being on survival mode , hence you are able to pinpoint unhealthy patterns .
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  Behind the fragile walls of vulnerability is connection 10.02.2025 15мин

  Sometimes we want to connect but we have not learnt on how to be vulnerable with ourselves or others. We are scared that we are not worthy of deep connections and our authentic selves will be rejected by the world . We haven’t learnt to be comfortable with our own imperfections hence we don’t feel deserving of deep connections . Vulnerability comes with connecting with self before connecting with others . Accepting our whole selves first and then being selectively vulnerable in spaces that feel safe .
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  How realistic are our new year’s resolutions 27.01.2025 16мин

  Happy new year !!! What New Year’s resolutions have you set for yourself ? How realistic are they when it comes to your resources , finances and plans ? What didn’t you achieve that you want t carry over to 2025? Social media new year’s resolutions do they resonate with you ? . New year , new me ? Is it really new me ?or a flowing self into the new year while evolving . Consistency and discipline in achieving our goals and New Year’s resolutions.
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  Festive season depression 09.12.2024 18мин

  It’s the most wonderful time of the year (singing) …Wellnot for everyone . Some people it is a sad season of the year caused by grief , family dynamics , loneliness, financial pressure etc . We need to normalise that is it okay not to be okay during December time . It’s okay not to meet up to people expectations of wearing a mask and pretending to be happy when you are going through a lot . Self care tips are also included on the episode . Enjoy .
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  Emotional monitoring as a trauma response 25.11.2024 18мин

  Emotional monitoring is a state of hyper vigilance that someone would have as a way of protecting themselves from potential rejection . They would constantly ask if others are “okay “ if they are mad and then try to meet up to everyone’s needs . They do not get to know their authentic selves as they are too preoccupied with compulsive care taking of others . Enjoy …..