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  Breaking Free from Being the "Nice Guy": Stop People Pleasing 15.09.2026 25мин

  People Pleasing: Why Is Saying No So Difficult for So Many Men? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the hidden cost of chronic people-pleasing and why it often goes unnoticed in men. What looks like being dependable, hardworking, loyal, or simply being a good guy may actually be a learned strategy for avoiding guilt, conflict, disappointment, or the fear of letting someone down. You'll discover six practical steps for recognizing the pattern, creating a pause before automatically agreeing, setting clearer boundaries, and tolerating the discomfort that can follow when you begin using the word no. Dr. John also responds to a listener named Chris, who worries that declining invitations from his friends could eventually cause him to lose his place in the group. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. In This Episode • Why every yes has a cost • How people-pleasing can show up differently in men • The connection between approval, identity, and automatic agreement • How early experiences can shape the need to keep others happy • Why cognitive rehearsal can make saying no easier • How to pause before committing to something • How to say no without overexplaining or apologizing • Why another person's disappointment does not automatically mean you did something wrong • How distress tolerance can help you maintain a healthy boundary • Why asking "What do I want?" can become an important ongoing practice Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. The Assertiveness Workbook by Randy J. Paterson, PhD Dr. John discusses cognitive rehearsal and the value of practicing assertive responses before you need them in real life. The Assertiveness Workbook offers practical exercises for developing clearer communication, setting boundaries, and becoming more comfortable with assertiveness. Amazon: https://amzn.to/4crv5aR When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith Dr. John recommends this classic assertiveness book while responding to listener Chris, who struggles with saying no without feeling guilty or worrying about disappointing others. When I Say No, I Feel Guilty offers practical strategies for communicating more assertively, setting limits, and handling the guilt or pressure that can come when you stop automatically saying yes. Amazon: https://amzn.to/4zou1OM Have a Question for a Future Listener Email? Do you have a question you would like Dr. John to consider for a future listener-email segment? Submit it through the contact form below. Dr. John reads every message that comes through, although not every question can be featured on the podcast. https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ Listener messages featured on the podcast are shared with permission. Names and identifying details may be changed to protect privacy, and messages may be edited for length and clarity. A synthesized voice may also be used when reading an email. Support the Show If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Disclaimer The Men's Self-Help Podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or professional mental health treatment. If you are struggling, please contact a qualified professional where you live. Follow on Social Media 👉 Facebook Guy Counseling 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling Free Thought Court Worksheet Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it's helpful. Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide Production Notes Produced by Dr. John Moore with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.
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  Dealing with Penis Size Anxiety: Confidence Beyond Size 08.09.2026 17мин

  What happens when someone you love says the one thing about your body you were already afraid might be true? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John is joined by Jack to talk about an email from a 23-year-old listener whose girlfriend told him during a heated moment that she had wanted to break up with him because his penis was too small. She had been drinking and later apologized, but the relationship ultimately ended. We're talking about penis size anxiety, worries about not being "big" enough.  The conversation opens into a much larger issue that many men quietly struggle with: penis-size anxiety and male body image. Dr. John and Jack talk about how a painful comment can attach itself to an existing insecurity, why body anxiety isn't just a women's issue, and how shame can eventually lead some men to avoid dating, sex, nudity, and intimacy altogether. Dr. John also shares the story of a former client whose anxiety about his penis became so powerful that he would apologize to partners before having sex. The episode explores an important question: How do you keep someone else's judgment about your body from becoming your own? In This Episode Penis-size anxiety and male body image What can happen when a partner targets an existing insecurity Why an apology doesn't necessarily make you forget what was said How negative self-talk can reinforce body shame The connection between shame, avoidance, and intimacy Why men may struggle silently with body-image concerns How one painful experience can begin affecting future relationships Recommended Reading Dr. John recommends the book: The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis--From Size to Function and Everything in Between. See Amazon. Mentioned in This Episode Dr. John and Jack also discuss a related Couples Counseling Chicago article about another man's experience after his girlfriend made a painful comment about his penis size during intimacy. My Girlfriend Said My Penis Is Too Small Man Moment Somebody else's words are not your inheritance. What they said in that moment — that's their lens, their history, their stuff. It doesn't get to live in your body rent-free. You get to decide what you carry forward and what you set back down. So set it down. Take that with you. Online Therapy + CBT Tools Looking for online therapy with practical tools you can use between sessions? Online-Therapy.com offers individual and couples therapy along with a structured CBT program, worksheets, unlimited messaging, a journal, an activity plan, and yoga and meditation videos. Save 20% on your first month: Visit Online-Therapy.com and use promo code THERAPY20. Affiliate disclosure: The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive a commission if you sign up through this link, at no additional cost to you.  Thought Court Worksheet - Free Listener Resource Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it's helpful. Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide Contact The Show If you would like to contact the show with a question or submit a listener email, you can visit the pod's website Guy Counseling. Use this link for the contact form. Keep in mind we get a lot of email and not all questions will be featured on the pod. When you write, please let us know if we have your permission to feature your question. Identifying information may be changed to protect privacy. Follow On Social Media 👉 Facebook Guy Counseling 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling Support the Show ☕ If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Disclaimer The Men's Self-Help Podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or professional mental health treatment. If you are struggling, please contact a qualified professional where you live. Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.
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  Building Confidence: 10 Habits of Men Who Have Their Shit Together 01.09.2026 23мин

  How Do You Actually Get Your Life Together as a Man? Build Confidence in Being a Wiser Man What does it really mean to have your life together? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores 10 habits of men who have their sh*t together and what getting your life together actually looks like in the real world. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience in men's work, Dr. John breaks down practical habits for men focused on self-improvement, personal growth, stronger relationships, better sleep, and creating a life that feels more grounded. This isn't the Instagram version of having your life together. It's about defining success on your own terms, keeping promises to yourself, protecting your sleep, maintaining friendships, taking responsibility for your choices, and knowing when to ask for help. Whether you're already practicing some of these habits or feel like you're starting from scratch, this episode offers a practical roadmap you can begin using this week. In This Episode What it really means to have your life together Why defining success on your own terms matters The importance of keeping promises to yourself Why protecting your sleep is part of getting your life together How grounded men build habits that hold up under pressure Why maintaining friendships and important relationships matters The role of personal responsibility in self-improvement Why asking for help can be a sign of strength How small, consistent choices can shape the direction of your life Practical ways to start getting your life together this week Sponsor The Men's Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month of therapy. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. Contact (1997) — Trailer Referenced in the discussion of Habit 2, keeping promises to yourself. Directed by Robert Zemeckis and starring Jodie Foster. Watch the trailer on YouTube The Insomnia Breakthrough by Katherine Coleman Recommended in the discussion of Habit 4, protecting your sleep. Dr. John has recommended this book to clients over the years with strong results. Find it on Amazon The Harvard Study of Adult Development Referenced in the discussion of Habit 7, maintaining relationships. This long-running study has followed participants across decades and has highlighted the importance of strong relationships for long-term health and well-being. Learn more about the Harvard Study of Adult Development Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you'd like Dr. John to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show If you're enjoying The Men's Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy Dr. John a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Follow on Social Media 👉 Facebook Guy Counseling 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling Free Thought Court Worksheet Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it's helpful. Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support. Production Notes Produced by Dr. John Moore with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.
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  What to Do When Your Sex Drive Doesn't Match Your Partner's 25.08.2026 11мин

  What happens when you want sex more often than your partner—or when your partner seems to want it more than you do? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John is joined by Guy Counseling contributing writer Jack for a candid conversation about mismatched sex drives in relationships. They explore why differences in sexual desire are so common and why they don't necessarily mean there's something wrong with your relationship. The conversation also gets into stress and libido, feeling rejected when your partner says no, and an important distinction that often gets overlooked: wanting sex and being comfortable initiating sex aren't necessarily the same thing. John and Jack also tackle a question plenty of couples probably wonder about but may not talk about openly: Can masturbation help when partners have different sex drives, and where does adult video fit into the picture? Other topics include scheduling intimacy, sexual "accelerators" and "brakes," nonsexual touch, emotional safety, and approaching sex as an invitation rather than a demand. 📚 Book Recommendation The Sex-Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis Dr. John recommends this book for its real-world look at couples struggling with significant differences in sexual desire and the ways those differences can affect intimacy and relationships. Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hEUzoL As an Amazon Associate, we may earn from qualifying purchases. 🔗 Resources & Further Reading How to Handle Mismatched Libidos in a Relationship — AskMen The article that helped spark today's conversation, exploring desire discrepancies and ways couples can navigate them. https://www.askmen.com/dating/relationship-advice/how-to-handle-mismatched-libidos-in-a-relationship.html How Stress Can Lead to Low Libido — Verywell Mind More about the relationship between chronic stress and reduced sexual desire. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-stress-can-lead-to-low-libido-3145029 Why Your Girlfriend Never Initiates Sex — Guy Counseling Dr. John explores why rarely initiating sex doesn't necessarily mean someone lacks sexual desire or attraction. My girlfriend never initiates sex Contact The Show If you would like to contact the show with a question or submit a listener email, you can visit the pod's website Guy Counseling. Use this link for the contact form.  Keep in mind we get a lot of email and not all questions will be featured on the pod. When you write, please let us know if we have your permission to feature your question. Identifying information may be changed to protect privacy.   Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode. Online Therapy + CBT Tools ☀️ Looking for online therapy with practical tools you can use between sessions? Online-Therapy.com offers individual and couples therapy along with a structured CBT program, worksheets, unlimited messaging, a journal, an activity plan, and yoga and meditation videos. Save 20% on your first month: Visit Online-Therapy.com and use promo code THERAPY20. Affiliate disclosure: The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive a commission if you sign up through this link, at no additional cost to you.  Follow On Social Media 👉 Facebook Guy Counseling 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling  Support the Show ☕ If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp What does it actually look like when a man has his life in order? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore draws on more than two decades of clinical experience in men's work to break down ten habits shared by men who are genuinely grounded — not the Instagram version, but the real thing. From defining success on your own terms to protecting your sleep, maintaining friendships, and knowing when to ask for help, these are the habits that hold up under pressure. Dr. John draws on his clinical experience as a licensed therapist in Chicago to bring each one to life with honesty, humor, and a few unexpected detours along the way. Whether you're already doing a few of these or starting from scratch, this episode offers a practical roadmap you can begin using this week. Sponsor The Men's Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month of therapy. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. Contact (1997) — Trailer Referenced in the discussion of Habit 2, keeping promises to yourself. Directed by Robert Zemeckis and starring Jodie Foster. Watch the trailer on YouTube The Insomnia Breakthrough by Katherine Coleman Recommended in the discussion of Habit 4, protecting your sleep. Dr. John has recommended this book to clients over the years with strong results. https://amzn.to/4fVTVC0 The Harvard Study of Adult Development Referenced in the discussion of Habit 7, maintaining relationships. This long-running study has followed participants across decades and has highlighted the importance of strong relationships for long-term health and well-being. Learn more about the Harvard Study of Adult Development Thought Court Worksheet Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it's helpful. 👉 https://guycounseling.com/thought-court-cbt-exercise/ Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you'd like me to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show — Buy Me a Coffee! If you're enjoying The Men's Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy me a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Follow on Social Media 👉 Facebook — Guy Counseling https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/ 👉 Instagram — Guy Counseling https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1 Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support.  Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.    
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  Stop Musterbating Everywhere! How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself 18.08.2026 22мин

  How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself Do you constantly tell yourself you should be doing better, that you must have everything figured out, or that life ought to be different? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the psychology of musterbation — the rigid musts, shoulds, and oughts that can put enormous pressure on us and make it harder to deal with everyday life. The concept comes from psychologist Albert Ellis and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). You'll discover how this kind of rigid self-talk can quietly fuel anxiety, guilt, anger, shame, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion. Dr. John walks through a practical three-step approach for challenging these destructive internal rules and replacing them with more flexible ways of thinking. You'll also hear from Matt, a listener who isn't sure he's ready to marry the woman he's been dating. Dr. John discusses the difference between outside pressure and genuine readiness, why unresolved conflict deserves attention, and how premarital counseling can help couples approach one of life's biggest decisions with greater clarity. Whether you're struggling with perfectionism, relationships, negative self-talk, or impossible expectations, this episode offers practical psychological tools you can begin using today. In This Episode What psychologist Albert Ellis meant by "musterbation" How musts, shoulds, and oughts can create unnecessary emotional pressure The basics of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) How rigid thinking can contribute to anxiety, guilt, anger, and shame Why perfectionism often involves unrealistic internal rules How to identify the musts and shoulds hiding in your self-talk A practical three-step approach for challenging rigid beliefs How to replace demands with more flexible thinking The difference between relationship pressure and genuine readiness for marriage How premarital counseling can help couples make more informed decisions Sponsor Today's episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month with our sponsor, BetterHelp. Therapy can be a meaningful space to reflect, grow, and create positive change in your life. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. ABC Model for REBT Worksheet — Therapist Aid Use this worksheet to explore the ABC model commonly associated with REBT and examine the connection between beliefs and emotional or behavioral consequences. ABC Model for REBT Worksheet Example Premarital Counseling Program Learn what couples typically discuss during a structured premarital counseling program, including communication, conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, family expectations, and future planning. Chicago Premarital Counseling Program Before You Say "I Do" by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts A resource for couples considering marriage and thinking through important questions before making a lifelong commitment. Find it on Amazon Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you'd like Dr. John to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show If you're enjoying The Men's Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy Dr. John a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.
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  How to Quiet Your Anxious Brain With Something in the Nothing 04.08.2026 14мин

  Have you ever finally gotten a chance to relax—only to discover that you can't handle the quiet? In Episode 47 of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores why stillness can feel strangely uncomfortable in a world filled with notifications, headlines, endless scrolling, and constant demands for our attention. Drawing from a personal experience in Puerto Rico, Dr. John explains how repeated stimulation can leave the nervous system stuck on alert. Even when nothing is wrong, the brain may interpret quiet as unfamiliar—and therefore suspicious. You'll learn why the amygdala acts like a smoke alarm that sometimes struggles to distinguish a real emergency from everyday "burnt toast." You'll also hear about the brain's default mode network and the important work that may occur when you stop actively doing and allow your mind to settle. The episode also explores what contemplative traditions have understood for centuries: stillness is not empty. It can create room for memories to organize, emotions to surface, ideas to connect, and clarity to emerge. Dr. John concludes with one simple challenge: place your phone in another room and spend five minutes sitting in the nothing. When the restlessness appears, don't treat it as failure. Treat it as the repetition that helps teach your nervous system that quiet can be safe. Today's sponsor This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. BetterHelp offers online access to licensed therapists with experience in areas such as anxiety, depression, relationships, career concerns, and other challenges. Learn more and get started at: https://www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling This is an affiliate link. The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation when listeners use it. Recommended book Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics by Dan Harris As an Amazon Associate, Guy Counseling may earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you. Related Reading When nothing clearly dangerous is happening, anxiety can still make uncertainty feel like a threat. Calm Anxiety explains why anxiety can make safe situations feel dangerous and how avoidance, reassurance-seeking, and threat prediction can reinforce that response. From Calm Anxiety Clinic.  Want to help support the show? Buy Me a coffee! https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Important disclaimer The Men's Self-Help Podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for psychotherapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Dr. John Moore is not acting as your personal therapist through this podcast. Please speak with a licensed healthcare professional if you are experiencing concerns about your mental or physical health. Production note: Audio production assistance provided by Joel Oliver. Episode artwork generated with Adobe Firefly. Transition sounds provided royalty-free by Pixabay. This episode blends live-recorded audio with Dr. John Moore's own authorized voice model.
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  How to Build a Morning Routine That Actually Works 21.07.2026 25мин

  Ever notice how some mornings seem to set the tone for your entire day? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores what makes a healthy morning routine actually work—and why you don't need an elaborate, social media-worthy ritual to start your day on the right foot. You'll learn why your morning routine should focus on four essential goals: waking up your body, settling your nervous system, activating your mind, and directing your attention. Along the way, John shares practical ideas you can begin using immediately, whether you have an hour, thirty minutes, or just fifteen. You'll also hear why perfection isn't the goal, how to create a routine you'll actually stick with, and what to do when life inevitably throws your schedule off track. If you've been looking for a simple, realistic approach to building better mornings, this episode offers practical strategies grounded in psychology—not hype. In this episode you'll learn: Why most morning routines fail The four jobs every healthy morning routine should accomplish How to calm your nervous system before the day begins The difference between productive habits and performative routines How to create a morning routine you can actually maintain If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who could use a better start to their day. Resources Mentioned Looking for a signature scent? Check out Dr. Moore's guide to Best Colognes for Men: 25 Popular Fragrances Worth Wearing. Looking for Mental Health Counseling? Check out Better Help Affiliate disclosure: The BetterHelp link above is an affiliate link. If you sign up through it, Guy Counseling may receive a commission at no additional cost to you. Production note: Audio production assistance provided by Joel Oliver. Episode artwork generated with Adobe Firefly. Transition sounds provided royalty-free by Pixabay. This episode blends live-recorded audio with Dr. John Moore's own voice model.
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  I'm Back: The Men's Self-Help Podcast Returns 16.07.2026 2мин

  After a long break, The Men's Self-Help Podcast is coming back. In this brief return message, Dr. John shares why he stepped away, why he decided to return, and what listeners can expect going forward. New episodes will focus on men's mental health, relationships, emotional wellness, and practical tools you can actually use. The first full episode returns next week with a conversation about what to do when you feel yourself spiraling.
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  Encore: Is It Time To Take a Break from Social Media? 02.02.2022 33мин

  This encore presentation explores the five signs you may need to take a break from social media.  Visit this link for show notes on the Guy Counseling blog.   
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  How to Stop Letting People Get Under Your Skin 12.01.2022 24мин

  Do you struggle with people getting under your skin? Are you easily triggered by certain comments or topics? Hoping to create positive change? In this episode sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores how to stop letting people get under your skin. You'll hear about the story of Austin, a young man who lost his temper on a train. Discover approaches to counseling including EMDR and Internal Family Systems (parts therapy) as part of healing past wounds. Do you have an internal protector, deep inside, trying to keep you from the source of your hurts? If trauma and pain are part of your past, you'll want to listen to this episode. Important Links Use this link to get a special offer for listeners of the podcast with Better Help. Visit Good Therapy to learn about EMDR Link to episode 38 on how Karma wants your dreams to come true. Learn about Internal Family Systems (parts therapy). Helpful articles from one of the best anxiety therapist websites. Follow Dr. John on Social Media Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook John's website and newsletter sign up
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  4 Keys To Changing Unhealthy Behaviors 29.12.2021 23мин

  Are you trying to change an unhealthy behavior? Do you drink too much, eat too much or smoke too much? Is there a part of you who has come to realize your relationship with gambling, porn or shopping is toxic? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores the process of change and how using the REST technique may be helpful. REST is the acronym for RELAX, EXAMINE, SET YOUR INTENTION, and TAKE ACTION and it comes from the world of DBT or Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn how using REST may offer a powerful brain hack by allowing you to ease into creating change in your brain's pleasure center. Important Links Better Help – Show Sponsor To learn about the special offer for listeners of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, use this link Learn about DBT and a technique to help control anger. Listen to episode 33 to learn more about DBT. Help Guide on Addiction: A Harvard Health Article with a discussion about the brain's pleasure center and information about the nucleus accumbens as mentioned in the podcast. Click here to read the article Learn about positive psychology and how it can be used as part of counseling and coaching to help a person create change. Visit the Positive Psychology podcast. DBT Skills Workbook This workbook was mentioned in the pod. Visiting this link will brink you to Amazon. If you buy this book with this link, the podcast receives an affiliate commission. Click to go to Amazon. Follow Us on Social Media Click here to follow on Facebook Click here to follow on Instagram Click here to follow on Twitter  
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  5 Strategies To Find Your Purpose In Life 15.12.2021 17мин

  Trying to discover your life purpose? Does it feel like your life lacks meaning? In this episode, Dr. John goes over five specific strategies to help you find yourself and your life purpose. Using a combination of story telling with insights from Carl Jung, you can find out new things about yourself and train your brain to stimulate your Reticular Activating System, the part of the brain that is concerned with awareness.  As part of the show, you'll also learn about a men's resource for generating inner-happiness and awareness around your purpose.  Finally, learn about the special guide Dr. John has put together as part of your self-care routine - for guys.   Important Links Click here for a special skin care guide for men, created by Dr. John Top 7 reasons men seek out therapy - Episode 37 Free personality assessment from 16 personalities. The Reticular Activating System from University of Minnesota The Daily Gratitude Journal for Men (Click here for Amazon) Other Links Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook Dr. John's website and newsletter sign up
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  How To Reprogram Your Anxious Mind 01.12.2021 26мин

  Do you feel your mind is wired for anxiety? Do you constantly worry about failing? Are you looking for concrete ways to create positive change? In this episode, Dr. John explores the relationship between your thoughts, your brain and anxiety. Discover why fight, flight or freeze can be so powerful. Learn several easy-to-use coping techniques for creating calm as part of reprograming your anxious mind. Resources Mentioned in Podcast Health Line Article on how some form of anxiety can be traced to a chemical imbalance.  Link To Episode 31: Comat Negative Self-Talk Link To Episode 35: How To Quickly Get Out of a Funk Link to Medical News Daily: Four Squared Breathing Book Suggestion Re-Wire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry. Visit Amazon Important Links: Panic Attack Treatment and Information from The Calm Anxiety CBT Therapy Clinic Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1
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  What Is Pronoia? Could Life Be Working in Your Favor? 17.11.2021 24мин

  What Is Pronoia? Could Life Be Working in Your Favor? What if instead of believing the world was working against you, you experimented with the possibility that things might actually be working in your favor? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores pronoia, a concept often described as the opposite of paranoia. With paranoia, we may interpret events as evidence that people or circumstances are working against us. Pronoia invites us to play with a radically different idea: What if the universe was conspiring to help you rather than hurt you? Originally titled Karma Wants to Make Your Dreams Come True, this episode isn't about pretending that bad things don't happen or that positive thinking magically changes reality. Instead, Dr. John asks you to experiment with a different way of looking at your experiences, opportunities, setbacks, and future. What might change if you became more open to the possibility that something good could be waiting around the corner? In This Episode What pronoia means Why pronoia is sometimes described as the opposite of paranoia How expectations can influence the way we interpret experiences What happens when you begin looking for possibilities instead of threats Why optimism doesn't require pretending everything is perfect How changing your perspective can change what you notice The difference between hopeful thinking and denying reality Why uncertainty doesn't always have to mean something bad is coming How to become more open to positive possibilities A simple thought experiment for looking at your life differently Anxiety Therapy in Chicago If anxiety, worry, or constantly expecting something to go wrong is making everyday life difficult, professional support may help. The Calm Anxiety Clinic offers Anxiety Therapy in Chicago using evidence-based approaches for anxiety and related concerns. Important Links Guy Counseling www.guycounseling.com BetterHelp www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow on Social Media 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling Disclaimer The Men's Self-Help Podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or professional mental health treatment. If you are struggling, please contact a qualified professional where you live.
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  7 Top Reasons Men Seek Out Therapy 03.11.2021 24мин

  Have you ever wondered why some men seek out therapy? Are you in counseling now and curious to know if other guys are struggling with the same issues? In this episode, Dr. John reveals the top 7 reasons men go into counseling. As part of the show, he also answers a listener email from a man who has become dependent on using alcohol to become socially lubricated before going out on a date. Resources for Men Seeking Therapy: Find a Therapist for Online Counseling: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Find a Therapist in Chicago: If you're in the Chicago area, 2nd Story Counseling offers experienced therapists who specialize in men's mental health issues LGBTQ+ Affirming Care: For those seeking inclusive therapy options, visit our LGBTQ+ therapist directory Men's Mental Health Info: National Resource Center for Men's Mental Health: www.menshealthnetwork.org Crisis Support: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 (call or text) Substance Use Support: SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357 Connect With Us: More Men's Mental Health Content: www.guycounseling.com Follow Guy Counseling on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1
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  7 Things Women Secretly Say About Men in Therapy 08.09.2021 23мин

  Do you ever wonder what women say about men in therapy? What are some of the common themes that come up when it comes to men? Can knowing about some of these topics help you in your relationships? In this episode, Dr. John walks you through seven common themes that women touch on about men in the counseling office. Some of these may seem like common sense. Others may cause you to pause and reflect. You can use these topics to better help you understand the women in your life. This week's listener email comes to us from a man who is struggling with dating app fatigue and is tired of being rejected whenever he puts himself out there. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Men's Skin Care Guide: Men's Skincare Guide Made Simple Best Smelling Colognes for Men Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1
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  How to QUICKLY Get Out of a Funk 25.08.2021 15мин

  At some point, all of us fall into a funk. In this episode, I'm going to give you 7 of my tips for pulling yourself out of a funk BEFORE it turns into a rut! Learn how to help boost your mood quickly and create positive change. Episode infused with some of the teaching of Dr. William Glasser, the Father of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory. Show Notes on the www.guycounseling.com blog.  William Glasser Choice Theory  https://wglasser.com/what-is-choice-theory/ Loving Kindness Meditation Study https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz7cpV7ERsM Information on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy All About CBT Therapy Follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/     
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  What If Positive Thinking Doesn't Work? 11.08.2021 21мин

  Everyone knows positive thinking can be helpful, but what happens when it doesn't work? Can you make yourself feel worse by forcing happy talk? In this episode, Dr. John explores the downside to positive thinking and how trying to deny your feelings can be harmful. Learn about an alternative called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Also, you'll hear from a listener who describes himself as overweight and can't experience intimacy unless he's wearing a shirt. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1   
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  Preventing Anger From Turning Into Rage With DBT 28.07.2021 26мин

  Do you suppress your anger? When you do express these feelings, do you blow up on people, like your partner, children, or coworkers? Looking for practical tools to create change? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore will teach you two POWERFUL tools from the world of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that can be used as coping strategies. Learn how to channel your anger into a discussion with the aim of getting your needs met. As part of the discussion, you'll also learn why anger is not a dirty word. This week's listener email comes from a man who is struggling with an inability to urinate in public places and isn't sure what to do. Learn about shy bladder syndrome, also referred to as paruresis. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1
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  What To Do When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex 14.07.2021 21мин

  Do you have a partner who never initiates sex? Has this dynamic caused frustration or confusion in your relationship? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, sponsored by BetterHelp, Dr. John explores the idea of "It's Always Been This Way" and how reframing the core question can create real change. You'll also hear from a listener who wants to know if it's OK to start dating someone he previously hooked up with on an app. If you're thinking about strengthening your relationship or building a healthier foundation, you might also find this resource helpful: Premarital Counseling in Chicago. Show notes are available on the Guy Counseling Blog. Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/ Follow on Twitter: https://twitter.com/guycounseling