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  #60 How Charlie's Learning Changed at Age 5 06.07.2026 16мин

  Charlie is growing up, and that means the way he learns is changing too.In this episode, we share an honest update on parenting a five-year-old, why his Scripture memorization looks different today, how his love for God's Word has matured, and why we've learned to adapt our parenting rather than force the same methods.Every child develops differently, and we're simply sharing what we're learning along the way.
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  #59 Our Baby Came Before the Midwives Arrived (Dad Delivered Her) 22.06.2026 14мин

  Our third baby, Maggie, arrived sooner than we expected… and before the midwives made it.In this episode, we share the short version of Maggie’s birth story, how labor unfolded unexpectedly, what it was like welcoming her at home, and why going through birth together deepened our marriage.This was our third home birth by God’s grace and one we’ll never forget.Tell us in the comments:What was the most unexpected part of your birth story?Subscribe for more conversations on marriage, family, faith, parenting, and life together.
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  #58 How Your Childhood Quietly Shapes Your Marriage 12.06.2026 18мин

  How much of who you are today was shaped by your childhood?In this episode of Called to Marriage, we sit down for a simple conversation over dessert and answer questions that led somewhere deeper than expected.We talk about:• What we loved most as children• How our childhood experiences shaped who we became• Growing up in different family environments• The influence of parents and siblings• Faith, church, and spiritual upbringing• Why understanding your spouse’s story builds intimacy00:48 Childhood Favorites Question01:19 His Answer Thinking Soccer02:46 Her Answer People Learning06:54 How Childhood Shaped You07:07 His Story Fatherless Upbringing10:35 Faith Formation and Church12:42 Her Shaping Faith and Family16:45 Wrap Up and ChallengeMarriage is not just about learning who your spouse is today. It is also about understanding where they came from, what formed them, what they longed for, and what they carry into the relationship.Sometimes the answers to present-day behaviors are hidden in old stories.Take these questions home. Ask your spouse and listen carefully.You may discover something beautiful.
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  #57 Why Siblings Are One of God’s Greatest Gifts 08.05.2026 42мин

  In a culture that increasingly fears family, we wanted to talk about something we believe is deeply valuable: sibling relationships.In this episode, we reflect on our own experiences growing up, the beauty of watching our children bond, and why we believe siblings can become one of life’s greatest support systems.Family is not perfect. But by the grace of God, sibling relationships can become a lifelong source of love, strength, accountability, and joy.00:49 Trust God With Family Size02:20 Our Sibling Backgrounds03:53 Thomas and Sister Bond06:10 Watching Our Kids Bond07:11 Siblings as Lifelong Support09:45 Parentification and Shared Care11:51 Adult Friendships vs Siblings16:22 Faith and Jesus Had Siblings17:59 Encouragement for Parents20:06 Security and Shared Burdens22:45 How We Foster Sibling Bonds23:11 Sharing Rooms Benefits24:04 Let Them Bond Alone24:23 Birth Order Dynamics26:29 Sibling Love Stories29:19 Kids Close in Age30:50 Build Common Ground35:15 Homeschool Togetherness37:31 Age Segregation Critique38:50 Shout Out Siblings39:50 Repair Sibling Bonds42:26 Closing
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  #56 Modeling Connection Calls: Deepening Intimacy Through Questions 09.02.2026 43мин

  Communication is essential in marriage, but knowing how to deepen it is where many couples struggle.One simple and powerful exercise we’ve used in our own marriage is asking each other intentional questions. Some are light and fun. Others invite us to reflect on our past, our experiences, and even the deeper questions of life. Each one opens the door to meaningful conversation and connection.Questions create space for honesty, laughter, vulnerability, and intimacy. Over time, they help strengthen the bond between spouses and draw hearts closer together.We’ve benefited immensely from this practice and have recommended it to many couples over the years.In this episode, we model what this exercise looks like in real time. It’s simple, fun, and easy to try in your own relationship.Try it with your spouse or partner (if you're in a relationship) and let us know how it goes. And if you already use questions to stay connected in your marriage, share in the comments how it’s impacted your relationship.00:00 Introduction to Call to Marriage00:04 The Connection Call Conversation02:03 Ground Rules for Deep Conversations02:35 Handling Sensitive Topics02:52 Family Interruptions and Realities03:12 Indirect Questions for Better Communication04:47 Starting the Q&A Session05:22 Reflecting on Our Relationship08:51 Strengthening Our Bond11:16 Feeling Loved and Appreciated16:20 Expectations in Marriage21:03 The Importance of Communication in Marriage22:26 Forgiveness and Managing Expectations26:00 Handling Conflicts with Transparency and Vulnerability29:57 Resilience and Levity in Conflict Resolution34:04 Receiving and Giving Constructive Feedback36:58 Maintaining Oneness in Marriage40:40 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement
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  #55 Reflecting on 7 Years of Marriage, Family Life, and God's Faithfulness 11.08.2025 1ч 5мин

  In this intimate episode, we celebrate our 7-year marriage anniversary. We reflect on our journey together, from moving from China to the States, raising two boys, and experiencing God's constant faithfulness. We also share insights on parenting, facing challenges, documenting memories, and ministry, all while balancing life and family. We candidly discuss the importance of faith, family unity, homeschooling, and managing finances, providing an honest glimpse into our life.00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast00:10 Reflecting on Seven Years of Marriage01:59 Faithfulness of God in Our Journey03:30 Parenting and Raising Children09:31 Discovering and Nurturing Passions15:51 Balancing Work and Family Life31:19 Challenges and Daily Life33:28 Managing Chaos and Gratitude34:22 Entrepreneurial Challenges and Conversations36:10 Navigating Transitions and Family Dynamics42:41 Homeschooling Thoughts and Strategies54:50 Health Challenges and Support59:59 Financial Reflections and Future Plans01:04:34 Final Thoughts and EncouragementFOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriageFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriageTikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriageCALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST:https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriageYou can listen on several different platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc.
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  #54 Building a Vision: Our Homeschooling Conference Experience 30.06.2025 52мин

  In this episode, we share insights from a Christian Homeschooling convention we attended recently. We discuss our plans for home education, the enriching experience of the convention, and provide a compact list of 10 lessons we learned from the convention. From fostering a vision for your family’s education to practical tips for engaging your child’s imagination and curiosity, this episode covers essential aspects of homeschooling from a Christian perspective. Learn about the importance of valuing both parents' contributions, the challenges and rewards of homeschooling, and the critical role of spiritual education. Whether you're new to homeschooling or a seasoned parent, this episode offers something for everyone.00:00 Introduction to the Episode00:21 Our Homeschooling Plans02:41 Overview of the Homeschool Convention03:11 Keynote Speakers and Sessions05:50 Family-Friendly Event Highlights06:40 Lessons Learned from the Convention07:12 Vision for Homeschooling12:21 Practical Tips for Homeschooling26:59 Encouraging Fathers to Get Involved in Education28:34 Balancing Household Responsibilities32:23 Validating Our Homeschooling Journey35:22 Challenges and Sacrifices in Homeschooling39:23 Exploring Homeschooling Resources40:28 The Importance of Socialization Across Ages47:43 Teaching Children to Know the Lord51:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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  #53 Fatherhood, and the need to lead, be present, and involved. 28.01.2025 43мин

  In this episode of 'Called to Marriage, we dive deep into the challenges and joys of the postpartum period, emphasizing the crucial role of paternity leave. We share personal experiences from our journey with our second child, contrasting it with our first, and highlight the transformative power of teamwork and spousal support. This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiring testimonies, making it a must-listen for mothers, fathers, and anyone involved in family life. 00:00 Introduction to Today's Episode 00:32 Postpartum Period and Paternity Leave 01:07 Experiences and Challenges with Newborns 02:17 Importance of Paternity Leave 03:42 Father's Role in Postpartum Support 04:35 Teamwork and Family Bonding 07:20 Rest and Prioritizing Family 16:09 Home Adjustments and Planning 22:23 Planning for Family Time 23:02 The Sacrifices of Paternity Leave 24:18 The Importance of Being Present 25:09 Supporting Your Spouse 28:55 The Benefits of Taking Time Off 30:48 Making Career Decisions During Leave 34:29 Cherishing Family Moments 36:35 Encouragement for Fathers 42:46 Concluding Thoughts and Future Topics
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  #52 The Birth Story of Baby Nti 21.01.2025 40мин

  In this episode, we share our personal experience of home birthing our second child, Nti. We recount the details from the early contractions to the challenges of labor, and the joyous moment of delivery. We discuss the spiritual significance of childbirth, the importance of trust in God, and the significance of supportive spouse roles. Marcia provides insights on labor pain, the concept of the mucus plug, and the physical demands of birth, while Thomas touches on the father's role and our collective experience as a family. This episode includes a mix of personal anecdotes, scriptural reflections, and practical advice on pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum recovery. 00:00 Introduction and Scripture Reflection 01:14 Early Labor Signs and Timeline Confusion 03:28 Errands and Increasing Discomfort 05:48 Active Labor and Midwife Support 10:58 The Birth and Immediate Aftermath 18:01 Unexpected Sensory Experience 19:06 Reflecting on Childbirth Experiences 19:57 Delivering the Placenta 22:07 The Mystery of Childbirth 26:34 Postpartum Journey and Breastfeeding 28:14 Father's Role and Paternity Leave 29:10 Healing and Reintegration 34:05 Final Thoughts and Advice for Husbands
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  #51 Choosing Names for Our Children 07.01.2025 49мин

  In this episode, we delve into the thought-provoking and personal journey of naming our sons. From discussing the significance of names to sharing family traditions and personal anecdotes, this episode provides a heartfelt look at how we navigated this important aspect of parenthood. Learn about the stories behind our choices, how we balanced tradition with personal preference, and the meaningful conversations that strengthened our bond. Whether you're expecting, already a parent, or just curious about the naming process, this episode offers valuable insights and a bit of fun. Don’t forget to share your own experiences in the comments! 00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic 01:09 Naming Our First Child: Charles 11:35 The Significance of Names 14:48 Cultural Perspectives on Naming 23:05 Introducing Our Second Child: Nt 25:27 The Significance of Names 26:58 Cultural and Personal Reflections on Names 30:16 The Importance of Names in History and Religion 34:02 The Process of Naming a Child 36:15 Concluding Thoughts on Naming 46:30 Final Reflections and Farewell FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage
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  #50 Breastfeeding in Modern Culture: A Vital Discussion 18.12.2024 1ч 17мин

  In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of breastfeeding. We discuss the challenges and rewards associated with breastfeeding, share personal experiences, and explore cultural perspectives. Marcia highlights the difficulties she faced while breastfeeding both of our children and emphasizes the invaluable benefits, including health and emotional bonding. We also touch on the important role of men in supporting breastfeeding mothers and the cultural shifts impacting breastfeeding practices. Tune in for a heartfelt and insightful conversation on nurturing the next generation! 00:00 Welcome Back to Call to Marriage 00:23 Diving into Breastfeeding 02:14 Challenges and Rewards of Breastfeeding 03:25 Learning Curve and Support 06:50 Health Benefits and Cultural Perspectives 14:20 Struggles and Solutions 21:34 Cultural Shifts and Formula Marketing 39:36 Understanding the Letdown Reflex 40:29 Cultural Perceptions of Breastfeeding and Formula 42:05 Personal Anecdotes on Food and Perceived Wealth 46:17 The Practical Benefits of Breastfeeding 53:10 The Role of Men in Breastfeeding Support 01:04:10 Societal and Policy Implications 01:14:48 Encouragement and Final Thoughts
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  #49 Navigating Wedding Culture with Intentionality and Faith 27.06.2024 1ч 5мин

  Marcia and Thomas challenge the conventional wedding and event culture, emphasizing a return to simplicity and biblical principles. They discuss the significant impact of societal norms on our celebrations and explore key themes such as financial stewardship, cultural traditions, and the true intent behind events. Through engaging conversation, they provide insights on navigating cultural pressures and highlight the importance of honoring God in every aspect of wedding and event planning. 00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic 01:33 Biblical Perspective on Weddings 02:19 Western Wedding Culture and Its Influence 04:27 Questioning Wedding Traditions 14:34 Financial Implications of Weddings 28:14 Cultural Expectations and Personal Values 34:09 Parental Influence and Setting Boundaries 45:27 Validating and Acknowledging Efforts 46:17 Setting Boundaries with Family 47:05 Intent Behind Events 52:20 The Value of Presence Over Gifts 58:45 Financial Wisdom in Celebrations 01:01:07 Challenging Cultural Norms 25:19 The Unnecessary Pressure of Big Weddings 26:30 The Temptation of Long Engagements 28:14 Questioning Cultural Norms 30:18 Redefining Cultural Expectations 33:11 Setting Boundaries with Parents 47:05 Intent Behind Celebrations 57:06 Living Within Your Means 01:03:43 Final Thoughts and Advice
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  #48 The Power of Contentment: Embracing Your Season 14.05.2024 17мин

  In this episode of 'Called to Marriage,' we delve into the significance of finding contentment and simplicity amidst the busyness of life. Beginning with a scripture from Ecclesiastes 4:6, we reflect on its meaning and relevance to our current season of life, which is characterized by living simply and making financial sacrifices. We share our personal experiences of choosing to live on one income, downsizing our home, and the challenges and joys that come with these decisions. We address the societal pressures that often lead to dissatisfaction and compare our journey to others, highlighting the importance of contentment and the dangers of succumbing to FOMO (fear of missing out). Furthermore, we discuss the importance of having a strong vision for the future to navigate life's challenges confidently and the role of sacrifice in achieving long-term goals. We emphasize that life is seasonal, and understanding this can help foster contentment and gratitude in every stage of life. Throughout the episode, we encourage our listeners to embrace their current season, find joy and contentment in the simple things, and remember that personal growth and character development are just as important as material success. We wrap up the episode by inviting our listeners to engage with us through comments and feedback, expressing our gratitude for their support and love. 00:00 Opening and Scripture Reflection 00:45 Embracing Simplicity and Contentment in Life 03:42 The Joy of Living Within Your Means 07:30 The Long Game: Sacrifice Today for Comfort Tomorrow 13:33 The Importance of Vision in Navigating Life's Seasons 17:19 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action
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  #47 Waiting on the Lord 16.02.2024 26мин

  What are you waiting on the Lord for? How are you waiting? What is your attitude and posture toward God in delay? Thomas and I answer these questions for ourselves on this episode. We are waiting, hoping, and praying for another baby. Feel free to agree with us in prayer 🙏🏾 😊 but we are genuinely grateful to and content with God and all He has given us. Be encouraged, and may God’s PERFECT will be accomplished in all of our lives. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage
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  #46 Finding the Right Partner: Christian Marriage Essentials 12.01.2024 46мин

  Key Qualities to Look for in a Christian Marriage Partner In this episode hosts Marcia and Thomas discuss essential qualities to look for in a potential Christian marriage partner. They emphasize that choosing a spouse aligned with Christian values and beliefs is crucial for a harmonious and fulfilling marriage. The episode outlines seven key qualities, including being a Christian with shared biblical values, adaptability, selflessness, faithfulness, a vision for the future (especially for men), and respect (particularly important for women to have towards men). Marcia and Thomas illustrate the importance of these qualities through practical examples and biblical references, stressing that these traits contribute to a strong, unified marriage that reflects Christ's relationship with the church. They encourage listeners to seek and develop these qualities within themselves and in their potential partners. 00:00 Welcome & Introduction: The Importance of Choosing the Right Partner 02:07 The Foundation of Faith in Marriage 12:11 Adapting and Compromising: Key Qualities for a Successful Marriage 18:55 The Impact of Adaptability on Family Dynamics 23:50 The Importance of Self-Sacrifice in Marriage 25:34 Embracing the Mind of Christ for a Stronger Union 25:39 The Significance of Being a Believer in Marriage 28:13 Demonstrating Selflessness: A Key to Marital Success 31:18 The Role of Commitment and Faithfulness in Marriage 36:30 Seeking a Partner with Vision: Guidance for Women 39:22 Respecting Your Partner: A Foundation for Marriage 45:51 Concluding Thoughts on Marriage and God's Glory Summary of qualities to look for in a potential spouse: 1. Equally yoked (not just a professing Christian, but shared/biblical values) 2. Flexible/Adaptable 3. Self-sacrificing 4. Committed/Faithful Bonuses: *A man with a strong vision or devotedly seeking *A woman who respects and admires you FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage
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  #45 Downsizing to Upgrade 22.12.2023 39мин

  After a few lovely years in our last apartment, we have decided to move! Some would consider it a downgrade, but we consider it a great move for us in this season! God has prospered us, and we are trusting Him in our new place and in this new season! We are just sharing some life updates for testimony and posterity sake. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: YouTube Instagram Facebook TikTok
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  #44 Marital and Pre-Marital Counseling 01.09.2023 42мин

  Counsel is important for life in general, and especially when making one the the most important decisions of life, which is who to marry. On this episode, we discuss the value of counseling at every stage of a relationship, whether simply interested in someone, actually seeing someone, about to get married, or married for several years. The Bible said that in the multitude of counselors there is safety, so we conclude that it is wise to get counsel from family, godly friends, seminars, workshops, books, and so forth as you navigate your romantic relationship life.
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  #43 Lessons we've learned from Charlie 18.08.2023 29мин

  Lessons we’ve learned from Charlie 1. The activity of the flesh causes visceral reactions in us. We should apply grace but also discipline! (00:43) 2. We are made to be moving constantly! (9:06) 3. From a young age, we have the capacity for extreme focus and diligence (17:10) 4. We are born with courage that we should work to protect. Fear hinders you. (Release your inhibitions!) (22:00) 5. *bonus* Eating habits are learned. (24:55)
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  #42 The Wisdom of the Ancestors 26.06.2023 52мин

  We’re talking about the wisdom of the ancestors! NO, we aren’t talking about soliciting the voice of your dead ancestor through seance or mediums. We are talking about walking in the GOOD ancient path referred to in Jeremiah 6:16. We are talking about not forgetting the old, good ways of the past that societies sometimes lose value for as they advance in technological conveniences and modernize in culture. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You can listen on several different platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc.
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  #41 How we add value to each other 11.06.2023 33мин

  It is good to make a frequent habit of appreciating your spouse. On this episode, we list the ways we help and add value to one another. Gratitude is good for the soul, and it helps your spouse feel joyful and fulfilled in their service to you. Try it! OUR WEBSITES: thomasandmarcia.com calledtomarriage.org FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtomarriage TikTok: tiktok.com/@calledtomarriage