Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

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  Ep 54 Codependency & Natural Consequences in Active Addiction 12.08.2026 28мин

  Listener Question Part 2:  "I find myself trying to control my husband's drinking and even some other things. We own a successful (for now) business and I manage it with him—but he is dropping the ball a lot. I don't know how to not fix his messes! I really cover for him a lot—maybe to save face myself a bit. Am I supposed to just let him tank everything? The business was his dream (NOT MINE), but this past year (the drinking has sky-rocketed) he has made mistakes and let things go that I don't see how to fix. Gosh I'm really struggling and so happy to have found you!" In this second part of our Listener Q&A, we continue answering this heartfelt question about navigating alcoholism, codependency, and running a business with an addicted spouse. When addiction begins affecting finances, work, and the future you've built together, where does support end and enabling begin? How do you protect your family without taking responsibility for someone else's addiction?  In this episode, we discuss: Why every situation is different—and why there isn't a one-size-fits-all answer The blurry line between supporting your spouse and slipping into codependency Why natural consequences are often necessary for addiction recovery—even when they're painful and EXTREMELY Unfair to spouses and kids 😔  How taking over responsibilities can unintentionally delay recovery How fear and shame can keep us covering for our spouse's mistakes If you've ever found yourself asking, "Am I helping... or am I enabling?" and struggled with how to even balance that in impossible situations this episode is for you my friend! Part 1 of this Question: https://wifeontherocks.podbean.com/e/ep-53-the-impact-of-addiction-on-business-and-income/?token=e048e9e60dac043ef5d5c50126d6098c  📩 Have a question for a future Listener Q&A episode?Email me at [email protected]. SEO Keywords: codependency, alcoholism recovery, addiction and business, natural consequences, enabling vs. helping, high-functioning alcoholism, alcoholic spouse, wife of an alcoholic, addiction recovery, Christian marriage, Christian wife, boundaries in addiction, alcohol addiction.
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  Ep 53 The Impact of Addiction on Business and Income 29.07.2026 24мин

  Wife on The Rocks Marriage and Business - Listener Question "I find myself trying to control my husbands drinking and even some other things. We own a successful (for now) business and I manage it with him- but he is dropping the ball a lot. I don't know how to not fix his messes! I really cover for him a lot- maybe to save face myself a bit. Am I supposed to just let him tank everything? The business was his dream (NOT MINE), but this past year (the drinking has sky-rocketed) he has made mistakes and let things go that I don't see how to fix. Gosh I'm really struggling and so happy to have found you!" Sending you some serious love,  Annonymous Listener Can a marriage — and a business — survive alcoholism? In this episode, I answer a listener whose family business is impacted as her husband's drinking progresses.  The blurry line between supporting your spouse and slipping into codependency Why "band-aid fixes" can't outrun the progressive disease of addiction How alcoholism impacts a family business and the difficult decisions that follow If you're a Christian wife navigating alcoholism, addiction, codependency, or the challenges of owning a business with an alcoholic spouse, this episode is for you.   Contact Me: [email protected] Send me your own question that I can answer on the Podcast!
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  Ep 53 Rehab for a YEAR? Alcoholism Treatment Options 15.07.2026 17мин

  In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we continue last week's listener question and dive deep into one of the hardest parts of the recovery journey — deciding what rehab actually looks like for your family. We unpack the differences between detox and rehab, what happens in those first critical days, and why alcohol withdrawal should never be handled alone. Then we get into the emotional weight of longer programs — six months, a year, sometimes more — and what it really costs a family when a husband, father, and provider steps away to get help. We cover: ● The difference between detox and rehab, and why that first step matters ● Weighing your husband leaving for months at a time ● The dream of family-inclusive recovery — and why it barely exists ● Navigating pastors and spiritual leaders who may not fully understand addiction ● The real cost of rehab, insurance, and workplace recovery policies ● Practical first steps: who to call, and what to do first when someone is ready for help. This episode is for every wife wondering if she's making the right call — and for anyone who's ever thought about escaping to the Swiss Alps just to get through the hard days. 
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  Ep 52 He's FINALLY Ready for Help: What I Wish I Knew BEFORE Rock Bottom 12.06.2026 21мин

  “My husband finally agreed to get help… What do we do now?” For years you may have prayed for your husband to recognize his alcoholism and addiction. But as wives when that moment finally comes, along with relief and hope, we feel overwhelmed with a whole new path of decisions to navigate. What rehab program does he need?What if he chooses the wrong one?Should it be a Christian recovery program?What if this is our only chance and we mess it up? In this Listener Q&A episode of Wife on the Rocks, we talk about what it was really like navigating detox, rehab, treatment decisions, and recovery as a family. We discuss: What I thought addiction treatment would look like vs. the reality• Why getting help quickly can matter when someone struggling with alcohol addiction is finally willing• The challenges of insurance, availability, and finding a rehab program• Why some faith-based programs may carry God’s name but not always reflect God’s heart• The struggle of accepting the recovery path your husband chooses — even if it’s different than what you imagined• Letting go of control and trusting God with the open doors If you are a Christian wife wondering how to help your alcoholic husband, questioning rehab options, battling codependency through all of this, or trying to trust God through addiction recovery, this conversation is for you! Lean in to hear our experience <3 And stay tuned — next week we’ll continue answering more listener questions about alcoholism, treatment, and recovery. 📩 Have a question for a future Listener Q&A episode?Email: [email protected]   Interested in Coaching or Programs available? Email [email protected] to be placed on the waiting list!
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  EP 51 Parenting With An Alcoholic: Emtional Outbursts & Protecting Kids 19.05.2026 28мин

  In this Listener Q&A episode of Wife on the Rocks, I answer a heartbreaking question many wives silently carry: 👉 “How do I parent and protect my children when my husband struggles with alcoholism and emotional outbursts?” If you are parenting with an alcoholic spouse, trying to balance being a wife while also protecting your children emotionally, this episode is for you. Let's talk honestly about:• Substance Abuse and emotional development / maturity• Research surrounding children raised in alcoholic homes and ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)• Why addiction and alcoholism affect a parent’s ability to emotionally regulate, connect, and disciple children well• Emotional outbursts from husband's battling addiction• The difficult tension Christian wives feel between loyalty to their marriage and protecting their children. This episode also explores the reality that many wives feel — even when their instincts are telling them their children need emotional safety, stability, and protection, your husband may be telling you something different with his outbursts and it can be SO confusing.  You are not alone. This conversation is compassionate, honest, and designed to help you better understand how addiction impacts families! 📩 Have a question for a future Listener Q&A episode?Email: [email protected] 💛 Interested in coaching or future resources?Email to join the waitlist and learn more.
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  Bonus Episode: BIG Announcement & Trusting God In Alcoholism AND Recovery 28.01.2026 12мин

  Wondering why there has been a pause in new episodes? Tune in to find out why!  God can do more than we ask or imagine and I will explain what that is looking like in my life right now ♥ Years ago in active addiction I didn't know if we would survive it! I didn't know if the drinking would ever stop or if the alcoholism would ever change to recovery for our family! I knew He COULD do it, but it was so hard to even see it on the bad days! Can you relate? There is ALWAYS HOPE!!
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  Ep 50 Ever Wonder Why He Drinks More at the Holidays? INTERVIEW: Recovering Alcoholic Explains His Addiction Experience of Christmas Past. 24.12.2025 21мин

  Why does drinking seem to escalate every holiday season — and why does it feel so lonely forthe wife watching it happen? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we sit down together for an honest conversation aboutwhy alcoholics often drink more at the holidays and what that increase actually looks likeinside a marriage. This interview explores:• Why the holidays give alcoholics “permission” to drink more• How alcohol is easier to hide this time of year• Why others don’t notice — but wives always do• The tunnel vision addiction creates, especially around drinking opportunities• How wives are focused on kids, meaning, and traditions while alcohol becomes the priority• Why alcoholics often encourage others to drink to deflect attention• What it feels like for a wife to watch this happen year after year We also share a personal Christmas story where drinking escalated, an attempt to stop wasmade, and how confusing and painful that experience was for both of us. It’s a raw look at howalcoholism, anxiety, and the pressure of the holidays collide, leaving wives feeling unseenand emotionally abandoned. If you’ve ever thought:• “Why does he drink so much more right now?”• “Why does no one else seem to notice?”• “Why am I the only one affected by this?” This episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface — and remind youthat your experience matters. 📩 Have questions or want to be added to the waitlist to work together?Email [email protected] 🎙️ Listener Q&A episodes coming soon — send your questions anytime.
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  Ep 49 Has He Stopped “Showing Up” for the Holidays? Guest Interview: Addiction, Alcoholism, Depression, and Anxiety Collide at Christmas 17.12.2025 15мин

  What happens to holidays as alcoholism progresses? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we share a deeply personal conversation about howalcohol addiction slowly changed our family’s holidays over the years — often in ways we didn’tfully understand at the time. This is a joint interview with my husband and me, reflecting honestly on:• What holidays looked like before addiction took over• How alcohol slowly pulled him away from family traditions• Why he began opting out, canceling plans, or avoiding holidays altogether• How anxiety and depression intensified as the disease progressed• The grief and confusion wives experience when their spouse emotionally disappears• Why missed holidays are often about addiction — not lack of love We talk openly about how alcoholism doesn’t just affect drinking — it affects motivation,connection, mental health, and the ability to show up for meaningful moments. As the diseaseprogressed, holidays became overwhelming instead of joyful, leading to isolation, withdrawal,and eventually absence. If you’ve ever wondered:• “Why doesn’t he want to do holidays anymore?”• “Why am I celebrating alone?”• “Is this depression, anxiety, or alcoholism?”• “Does he even care?” This episode will help you understand what may really be happening — and remind you thatyou’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. 📩 Have a question or want to share your story? Email [email protected] 📅 Book a 1:1 coaching session: Email to be added to the wait list for upcoming sessionopportunities!
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  Ep 48 Struggling to Manage Money In Addiction? Financial Impacts of Alcoholism 03.12.2025 22мин

  Do you dread the holidays because money feels out of control — and no matter how hard you plan, budget, or prepare, something always sabotages your efforts? When you're married to someone struggling with alcoholism, the financial stress of the holiday season hits different. You’re trying to manage Christmas gifts, family events, groceries, travel… all while navigating a spouse who is secretly spending, overspending, or using money to support an addiction. And because both of you aren’t on the same page, you feel like you're doing something wrong — like if you just budgeted better or tried harder, things would work. But here’s the truth: 👉 You cannot manage money effectively with someone who is also managing their addiction. 👉 You are not failing — alcoholism is destabilizing the home, not you. 👉 You have very little control over financial chaos caused by drinking. In this episode, we’ll talk about: • Why holiday money stress is so intense in homes affected by alcoholism • The emotional shame spiral wives fall into (“Why can’t I fix this?”) • Why budgeting with an addicted spouse rarely works — and why it’s NOT your fault • How to release the belief that you’re supposed to “hold it all together” • A simple truth to anchor in when the financial chaos feels overwhelming • How understanding lack of shared reality can lift a massive burden off your shoulders   If you’ve ever blamed yourself for financial stress caused by addiction, this episode will help you breathe again. 👉 Questions for the show? Email me at [email protected] Search: Financial Infidelity, Money Management, Dave Ramsey, Budgeting 
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  EP 47: Parenting Alone in an Alcoholic Marriage? Holiday Exhaustion…..You are NOT Alone! 26.11.2025 20мин

  Are you the only functioning parent in your home during the holidays? Do you carry the entire load—planning, preparing, protecting the kids, managing emotions—while your husband’s drinking increases and his presence decreases? This episode dives into the heartbreaking exhaustion Christian wives face when they are emotionally and practically parenting alone, even though their spouse still lives in the home. You’ll hear why the holidays intensify this burden, why you feel so drained, and why the invisible load you carry is real, valid, and seen by God.   If you’ve ever collapsed into bed thinking, “I can’t hold this together alone,” this episode will meet you right where you are. 📩 Questions: [email protected] 📅 Book a session: Email to be added to the waiting list.
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  Ep 46 Addiction: The Red Flags and How To Recognize it in a Marriage 19.11.2025 21мин

  Are you wondering if your husband’s drinking or behavior has crossed the line from “social” to something more serious? Maybe you’ve ignored the warning signs because you didn’t want to believe you were living with addiction. In this episode, we’re unpacking the red flags of addiction—what they look like in marriage, why we overlook them, and how codependency and love can cloud our judgment.    You’ll learn: ✅ My real definition of addiction—and why it’s not just about how much he drinks or uses. ✅ Why so many wives and partners miss or excuse red flags in early relationships. ✅ Early warning signs that often show up before the problem is fully visible: • Past attempts at sobriety or rehab stays • A history of addiction in the family or previous relationships • Alcohol or drugs present at nearly every social event • Heavier use than others around him (but hard to see if your circle normalizes drinking) • Encouraging you to drink or use more than you normally would  We’ll talk about how codependency can disguise itself as love or loyalty—keeping you stuck in denial while addiction quietly takes over your marriage. You’ll also gain biblical insight and emotional tools to start seeing the truth clearly, without shame or fear. When you understand the red flags of addiction, you can begin replacing confusion with clarity—and take your first step toward peace, wisdom, and recovery for your family.   --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect & Next Steps 👉 Have a question for a future episode? Email me at [email protected] 👉 Need personal coaching to spot addiction patterns and end codependent cycles? My 1:1 sessions are open with very limited availability. Feel free to email me if everything is booked and we can see what options we can come up with:)https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession  
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  Ep 45 Gaslighting Is the Fuel That Keeps You Stuck in an Endless Cycle of Addiction: The Secret to Breaking Free! 12.11.2025 17мин

  If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “How did I get back to this again?” — this episode is for you. That question means you’ve just gone through the cycle of gaslighting — and you may not even realize it. In this episode, we break down what gaslighting in an alcoholic marriage really looks like, why it’s so powerful, and how it keeps you trapped in a cycle of confusion, guilt, and self-doubt. You’ll learn how to recognize the cycle, accept what’s happening, and take your first steps toward breaking free through truth and faith. We’ll cover: ✅ What gaslighting is and how it works in addicted or alcoholic relationships ✅ Why gaslighting leaves you feeling crazy, confused, and stuck in repetitive arguments ✅ The spiritual, emotional, and psychological impact of gaslighting on Christian wives ✅ How to recognize when you’re back in the cycle ✅ The secret to freedom: awareness, acceptance, and faith-led action When you finally see the cycle for what it is, you can stop spinning in it. You can protect your peace, rebuild your confidence, and walk in the clarity that comes from God’s truth — not the lies of addiction.   Want to connect? Email me at [email protected]
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  EP 44 Why Addiction Is Always Dysfunctional: 5 Ways to See It Clearly (Even in High-Functioning Times) 05.11.2025 29мин

  When your husband is struggling with alcohol use, but life still looks mostly normal… it can be incredibly confusing.   He may be: Holding down a good job Active in church or community Present with the kids at times Charming and “fine” around family and friends   And when you express concern? He says you’re overreacting. Or that things aren’t that bad. Or he can stop anytime.   🎯 This is the world of high-functioning alcoholism — where dysfunction hides behind a polished exterior.   You begin to wonder: Is he really an alcoholic? Why does his drinking affect me so much? Am I the problem? Is this normal for a marriage? How do I know if his drinking has crossed a line?   In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ How alcohol reshapes your husband’s brain around compulsion and denial ✅ Why gaslighting and blame-shifting increase over time ✅ How family members slip into codependency and survival roles ✅ Why emotional safety declines even before a crisis hits ✅ Five clarity questions to help you see addiction for what it truly is   Even in seasons where he is “high functioning,” alcohol always creates: Spiritual disconnection Emotional unpredictability Increased anxiety for the whole family Loss of trust, safety, and intimacy Subtle — but escalating — abuse patterns   You do not need rock-bottom to validate your pain. If alcohol is affecting your peace, your marriage, or your children — it is already too much. Your intuition is a gift. You deserve to see the truth clearly.   💛 You Don’t Have to Walk Through This Alone If anything resonated, I’d love to support you. I welcome your questions, stories, and prayer requests. 📩 Email me: [email protected] 🗓️ Book a clarity coaching session: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession You are not imagining the dysfunction. You are not overreacting. You are not alone.    
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  EP 43 Detox & Rehab: How Long Should My Alcoholic Husband Stay? 29.10.2025 27мин

  If your husband is finally getting help for his addiction, you may be wondering: How long should he stay in treatment? 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? Longer? And what does detox have to do with rehab?   Today, we’re breaking down the difference between detox and rehab in a simple, helpful way — and we’ll talk about why staying longer can make a big difference in your husband’s ability to recover well.   Here’s what we cover in this episode: ✅ Detox vs. Rehab — why detox alone isn’t enough. ✅ What actually happens in rehab (it’s not just sitting in a room!). ✅ Why 30 days is often just the beginning of healing. ✅ The brain science behind why staying longer improves recovery outcomes. ✅ How treatment gives wives peace of mind and breathing room. ✅ The tension between missing him at home vs. wanting him to fully heal. ✅ Why this moment is a marathon — not a sprint.   I also share my own experience of what it felt like when my husband was finally in a safe place getting help — the relief, the emotional crash, the grief for my kids — and how I learned to stay focused on the long-term goal, not the quick fix.   Because while it is hard to solo parent and navigate the emotional rollercoaster of treatment… you have prayed for this moment. And now is not the time to rush the healing. Sobriety isn’t surface-level change. Recovery means going deep enough to face the root. And sometimes… that takes more time.   ✨ LAST CALL: Holiday Survival Course There are 3 live sessions still coming up, and you’ll receive instant access to the first two via recording — plus all the printable resources, homework, and support materials inside the private course hub. If you want practical support and spiritual strength throughout this holiday season, I’d love to help you stay grounded in God’s peace and protect what matters most. 👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course. 💌  Have a question for a future episode or want to share what God is doing in your life? Email me anytime at: [email protected] Need personal support? 1:1 coaching spots are open now — link in the show notes to schedule! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession You’re not alone in this, friend. There is hope — and healing — even here. Take a breath. Let’s walk this together. 💛  
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  Ep 42 Why Won't He STOP Drinking Alcohol? Doesn't He Love Us? The Truth About The Addicted Brain 22.10.2025 30мин

  Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?” You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this painful confusion—trying to love, pray, and reason their way through addiction, only to feel rejected, unloved and unseen. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we unpack the truth about the addicted brain and why love alone can’t undo addiction. You’ll hear: ✅ Why addiction hijacks the brain’s survival system—and why it’s not a matter of willpower or love.✅ How logic and heartfelt pleas fall short when the brain is controlled by substance dependence.✅ Why advice from people who don’t understand addiction often hurts more than it helps.✅ A personal story of the naive stage of early addiction and how we think we can snap them out of it, but realizing that his addiction is stronger than we think. ✅ What it means to pray for your husband’s eyes to be opened by God in His timing. Understanding this doesn’t make it easier—but it helped me stop taking the pain personally. There is always hope, because God is still working behind the scenes in ways you can’t see. IT IS NOT TOO LATE!Join the Holiday Survival Course, created for wives of alcoholics who want to identify the options you have in situations, set boundaries with grace, and focus on God’s presence in the midst of the chaos. Special Holiday Course, BUT the tools you learn are applied year-long! 👉 Click here to join the Holiday Survival Course: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course    📩 Have a question you’d like answered in a future episode? Want to share anything with me? Email [email protected].
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  Ep 41 Struggling To Communicate in an Alcoholic Marriage? ONE Boundary You Can Set Today 15.10.2025 37мин

  Have you ever found yourself drawn into a heated or emotional conversation with your husband after he’s been drinking—only to regret it the next day when he doesn’t remember, denies it happened, or twists your words? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk about why refusing to engage in conversation when alcohol is involved is not cold or controlling—it’s wise, protective, and biblical. Learn about the ONE boundary that I had to set in our home when addiction was taking over everything! Come along on this journey where co-dependency develops boundaries to deal with alcoholism in a way that can protect in the hard moments of gaslighting and conversations that spiral quickly! You’ll learn: Why alcohol changes how people hear and process words. The logic behind disengaging (you wouldn’t debate with someone who’s not in their right mind). Why engaging feels like betraying yourself—and how to stop. What to do instead of arguing or trying to reason. How faith and boundaries can coexist without shame or guilt. If you’ve ever felt stuck between silence and chaos, desiring to have a close relationship rooted in healthy communication, but instead wind up in an argument that goes nowhere, this episode will help you choose peace—and know that walking away doesn’t mean giving up. It is an essential boundary at times to protect your heart.   👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course to learn practical ways to navigate this season.  https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course  We are not helpless in this cycle, although it often feels that way, there are many things that we can be doing to walk in peace TODAY. Everything that I talk about on the Podcast and SO MUCH MORE!! The best part is that I am teaching LIVE for these 5 weeks and with interactive components, you can reach out for help and support as we go along! At the end of the 5 weeks you will have worked through the common traps this time of year and have built a plan specific for your family that you can rely on any day of the year! It is like having the podcast (and me) in your pocket. Encouragement for 5 weeks straight!! Wrapped in beautiful paper and tied with a bow. A GIFT for YOU this Christmas!!  1) Guarding your mind from Gaslighting and walking in Truth  2) Recognize unhealthy patterns and how to break them 3) Parenting Challenges, A Child’s Perspective, Traditions and Scheduling  4) Boundaries that WORK for YOUR family  5) Protecting your mind from the mental spiral on the hard days Don’t walk this path alone again! Find support, connection, and hope as we navigate the unpredicatability together, build a road map that works for your family, and have a plan designed especially for YOU in the moments that are too painful for words. Get your Hot Cocoa and snuggly blanket and let’s talk about how this year could look different! Course begins in ONE Week on October 21st. Click here for full details and to grab your seat!! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course   👉 Need personalized support? Book a 1:1 coaching session! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession  Send your questions to [email protected]. There are a few spots left before Thanksgiving!   
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  Ep 40 Feel Crazy? Gaslighting: The Basics and How To Spot It Amidst Addiction 08.10.2025 39мин

  Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband and thought, “Am I crazy?”You’re not. You may be experiencing gaslighting—one of the most confusing and painful behaviors that often shows up in alcoholic marriages. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re going back to the basics. You’ll learn what gaslighting really is, how it makes you doubt your memory and emotions, and why it leaves you feeling like you can’t trust yourself. We’ll talk about:✅ How alcohol and denial fuel gaslighting in relationships✅ Common gaslighting phrases and how they twist reality✅ Why the constant confusion is not your fault✅ How to start reclaiming your peace and confidence through truth and faith If you’ve ever questioned your own sanity because of the chaos around you, this episode will help you breathe again and find peace through God’s truth.   ✨ Ready to find peace through the holidays?Join my Holiday Survival Course, a 5-week experience BEGINNING OCTOBER 21 designed to help wives of alcoholics stay grounded, set boundaries with grace, and walk in peace this holiday season. You DO NOT have to walk through it this year alone!! I want to dive deeper with you and share with you what I have learned that has helped me to survive the most beautiful.......and sometimes the most painful part of the year for our family ♥  👉Click here to learn more and join the Holiday Survival Course: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course    📩 Have a question you’d like me to answer in a future episode? Email me at [email protected]  💬 My 1:1 coaching sessions are open with limited availability—Click here to schedule a one-on-one session or consider joinging the Holiday Survival Course linked above to meet with me ASAP inside the course! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession 
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  Ep 39 Quitting Alcohol But NOTHING Has Changed: Is My Alcoholic Husband Really Sober? 01.10.2025 29мин

  Has your husband quit drinking, but the chaos, anger, or dysfunction in your home hasn’t gone away? Many Christian wives find themselves asking: “If he’s not drinking, why doesn’t life feel better?” Sobriety and recovery are not the same thing, and understanding the difference can bring clarity, peace, and direction. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk about: Why simply stopping alcohol isn’t the same as living in recovery. Common patterns of “dry drunk” behavior and how they impact the family. What real transformation looks like beyond putting down the bottle. Encouragement from Scripture  If you’ve been questioning whether your husband’s sobriety is real—or wondering why things still feel broken—this episode will help you spot the difference and anchor your hope in the One who truly restores. 👉 Submit any questions to [email protected] 👉 Book a 1:1 coaching session https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession  👉Come Hang Out With Me For The Holiday Survival Course LIVE October 2025 https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course ✨ Dreaming of a picture-perfect holiday, only to feel the weight of alcohol seeping into the season instead? You’re not alone. That’s why I created the Holiday Survival Course — a 5-week live small group where we’ll work together on building a thoughtful plan to help you navigate the holidays with more stability, peace, and faith. I can’t promise everything will go smoothly — but I can give you tools to steady yourself in the unpredictability, protect your peace, and keep your heart anchored in Christ when things get hard. We’ll meet on Zoom Tuesdays, October 21 through November 18, wrapping up just before Thanksgiving. Space is limited. 👉 Reserve your seat here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course
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  Ep 38 My Alcoholic Husband Doesn't Want Me To Go To Alanon! What Are My Options? 24.09.2025 29мин

  Does your husband push back when you mention Al-Anon—or accuse it of being “husband bashing”? You’re not alone. Many Christian wives long for support but feel trapped when their spouse doesn’t approve. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk honestly about the struggle of wanting help with addiction and alcoholism while facing resistance at home. You’ll hear: Why secrecy feels like lying, but sometimes becomes survival when you need support. The truth about what Al-Anon really is (and isn’t). Online meeting options through the Al-Anon app and other accessible resources. Alternative programs and supports that can meet the same needs. How coaching or courses (like my upcoming fall program) can give you faith-based support without secrecy. You don’t have to choose between honoring your marriage and getting the help you need. The gaslighting of him saying that there isn't an issue in the first place and trying to make that make sense with what you are experiencing.......This conversation will help you sort through your options and move forward in wisdom and peace. 👉 Submit your questions for future episodes at [email protected]  👉 Want personalized support? Book a 1:1 coaching session right here https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession  Curious about the fall course I am opening - Holiday Survival Course- email me to check out details and get on the waiting list! [email protected] 
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  Ep 37 Codependency and Alcoholism: How To Spot Enabling Patterns That May Be Robbing You Of Peace 17.09.2025 29мин

  Are you ever unsure if your actions are helping your alcoholic husband—or actually enabling him? Many Christian wives fall into codependent patterns without realizing it, believing they are loving, protecting, or supporting their spouse. But what feels like care can quietly fuel addiction and rob you of peace. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll explore what codependency really is, how to recognize enabling behaviors, and compare the dictionary definition with my personal definition. Together, we’ll look at the common patterns wives fall into, why they don’t work, and what I am in charge of compared to what I am not.  You’ll hear: The difference between helping and enabling in addiction. Common enabling behaviors like monitoring, covering, or rescuing—and why they backfire. The emotional toll of codependency (guilt, exhaustion, dysfunction). How to grieve what you hoped for in marriage while feeling guilty for not continuing the cycle. Simple first steps to begin breaking free from enabling patterns. Ask yourself this question.  If you’ve ever thought, “Am I helping him or just making things worse?”, this episode will bring clarity and hope for your journey as a Christian wife walking through addiction. 👉 Submit your questions for a future episode at [email protected]. 👉 Want personalized support? My fall 1:1 coaching sessions are now open. Book directly here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession