Speaking With Confidence

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  The 5-Second Rule for Responding to Challenging Questions With Poise 20.08.2026 16min

  What if those five seconds of awkward silence after a tough question aren’t your enemy, but your superpower? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I’m diving straight into one of the most nerve-wracking moments in any presentation: the Q&A. We rehearse our slides, perfect our transitions, and smooth out our closing lines, but when the floor opens up for questions, everything can change in an instant especially when you feel you’ve lost control. I know that feeling all too well, both as a former college professor and now as a communication coach. As I guide you through, I’ll show you how these moments of silence, those pauses where your heart is pounding and your mind goes blank, can actually be your secret weapon rather than your biggest fear. In this solo episode, there’s no guest just me and decades of experience with Q&A sessions that taught me the hard way: confidence isn’t about never freezing or panicking, it’s about having a system you can rely on when the pressure hits. I share the “5-Second Rule” I discovered after years in the classroom, and I’ll show you why your audience sees these pauses as thoughtful, even when they feel endless to you. Today, I break down the three greatest anxiety spikes that sabotage Q&As losing control of the room, getting a curveball or even hostile question, and the nightmare of complete silence. I’ll walk you through handling tough questions you never prepared for, responding calmly when you’re challenged, and, most importantly, holding the silence confidently when nobody jumps in right away. We’ll go step-by-step through: The science behind why your heart spikes and your brain blanks during Q&A Why silence after a question is not a sign you’re failing The “5-Second Rule” and exactly how to use it feel your feet, exhale, and repeat the question How to handle curveball questions without rambling or bluffing What to do when you’re faced with a hostile challenge and how acknowledging, not attacking, is your best move The power of holding silence and letting your audience process, rather than rushing to fill the gap Why over-rehearsing answers can actually hurt you and how to draft a “response shape” instead A concrete prep move: spending just one hour drafting answers to the three questions that scare you most Simple ways to manage your energy so you’re ready for anything the Q&A throws at you Your challenge this week: write down the question that scares you most before your next presentation and draft the shape of your answer. Trust in the pause, and let your newfound confidence grow from the silence. Remember, progress always beats perfection, and your voice has the power to change the world. Let’s make your next Q&A your greatest strength! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Why Self-Leadership Matters More Than Communication Skills Alone 17.08.2026 1j 6min

  How do you actually lead yourself before you can lead others, and what does self-leadership have to do with confidence and authentic communication? In today’s episode, we’re digging deep into the idea that most of us don’t really have a communication problem — we have a self-leadership problem. You can’t speak with confidence if you don’t trust your own voice, and you’ll never lead a team until you can lead yourself. I’m Tim Newman, your host, and today I’m joined by the insightful Chip Scholz. Chip is a man of stories and craft, a long-time business and leadership coach, and the author of Every Dog Has Its Day. He’s a guy who has found lessons in everything from family conversations to unexpected detours, shaping pieces of maple in his woodshop, and recovering from major life challenges like a stroke. His reflections on craft and life show us how small, quiet moments can fundamentally change who we become and what we’re willing to let go of. In our conversation, Chip Scholz brings a wealth of experience, not only from decades of coaching top executives but also from a journey of personal transformation. We talk about the lessons he learned at the lathe, the dangers of “forcing the cut” both with wood and with people, and why being authentic is at the heart of real leadership. We go beyond the clichés why “being authentic” is so much more than a buzzword, and how most people actually get this concept wrong. Chip Scholz unpacks why most folks struggle to articulate what they truly want, and how getting honest feedback is a critical first step in transformation. We dig into some of the tough stuff like navigating 360 evaluations without spiraling into self-doubt, and recognizing the difference between companies that “weaponize” feedback versus those that use it for real growth. We walk through the kind of accountability that separates real leaders from those just going through the motions, and why actions always speak louder than words. We also hit on the transition from doing to being as you move into leadership roles, and the pitfalls of believing your own PR at the top. We also talk about the importance of reading and lifelong learning, why so many people stop reading books after college and what they’re missing by doing so. Chip Scholz shares his framework built around the 5 Cs: context, clarity, conditioning, choice, and character. We discuss generational differences, social skill development (or lack thereof), and how cycles in society shape our communication and sense of self. Not to mention, we tackle the link between self-awareness, emotional literacy, and communication confidence and why being able to name your emotions and own them is a foundational skill for any leader or speaker. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why trusting your own voice is step one to speaking and leading with confidence The power of craft: lessons from woodturning and how forcing things rarely works What “self-leadership” and “authenticity” really mean with concrete, actionable examples How to get honest about what you want (and why most people can’t) Feedback, 360 evaluations, and using criticism for growth instead of shame The accountability gap: keeping your word, taking ownership, and building trust Transitioning from “doing” to “being” in leadership roles The value of reading, writing, and being a lifelong learner for leaders and communicators Chip Scholz’s 5 Cs framework for effective self-leadership Generational dynamics, societal cycles, and how history repeats itself in new ways Vulnerability, emotional vocabulary, and why self-awareness (not just confidence) powers great communication When confidence and preparation go hand in hand  and how everyone feels nervous (even us!) Practical advice for improving your speaking game, from reps to feedback to avoiding “death by PowerPoint” How social media, ego, and chasing attention can derail self-leadership and meaningful communication If you’re ready to reframe the way you think about leadership, confidence, and the voice you bring to the world, this episode is for you. Let’s do the work together because your voice has the power to change not just your world, but the world around you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Transform Stress into Power: Public Speaking Lessons from Top Athletes 13.08.2026 18min

  What if the advice to "calm down" before a big presentation is actually making your nerves worse? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we challenge one of the most common myths about overcoming stage fright and explore why trying to force yourself into calm may be backfiring. As your host, Tim Newman—a recovering college professor turned communication coach—I’m here to help you master the art of showing up with confidence in every conversation that counts. Today, we’re zeroing in on nerves and adrenaline, and how the world’s top performers don’t eliminate these feelings—they learn to channel them. In this solo episode, I walk you through the surprising science behind nerves and performance, starting with the foundational Yerkes-Dodson curve from 1908, which shows that there’s a sweet spot between zero stress and too much stress; that middle ground is where you’re alert and loose, ready to perform at your best. I share why the standard advice to "relax" before a big moment doesn’t work and explain what elite athletes like Michael Phelps, Kobe Bryant, and Rafael Nadal do differently—their routines and mental strategies transform adrenaline from something to fight into something to fuel them. We’ll look at Harvard researcher Alison Wood Brooks’ study, which put the “calm down” approach head-to-head with a simple two-second reframe. You’ll learn why just saying “I am excited” out loud can shift your entire mindset and how pairing that phrase with your own personal pre-performance ritual can put you in the zone without fighting your biology. Throughout the episode, I discuss: The problem with trying to calm yourself before high-stakes moments 00:51 The science behind optimal performance and the role of the Yerkes-Dodson curve 01:18 Stories from elite athletes and their mental routines, including Michael Phelps’ visualization techniques and Kobe Bryant’s pregame rituals 04:06 The powerful impact of deliberate triggers and routines 05:20 Why your body interprets adrenaline based on the instructions you give it 06:12 Evidence from Alison Wood Brooks’ research on “I am excited” and public speaking performance 06:37 A step-by-step process to build your own routine and mindset shift 08:16 How to recognize your personal “sweet spot” for performance—not too much, not too little energy 10:02 Adapting techniques for introverts and extroverts 10:25 When to use these techniques (and when not to) 11:17 How to recover if you overshoot and get too nervous 11:52 Your weekly challenge to try the “I am excited” technique paired with your own trigger 12:52 Whether you’re gearing up for a board meeting, a big pitch, or simply want to own the next Zoom call, this episode will give you practical, science-backed tools to turn nerves into your competitive advantage. Because the goal isn’t less adrenaline—it's giving your body better instructions. Your voice has the power to change the world, and I’m excited to help you harness it. Timestamps: 00:00 Struggling with anxiety before meetings 04:10 Visualizing and rehearsing success 08:53 Handling pre-review nerves 11:05 Managing situational nerves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Finding Your Voice Before You Feel Ready: Lessons in Confidence and Self-Efficacy 10.08.2026 1j 15min

  Have you ever wondered whether “confidence” is really the key to becoming a great communicator or is something more important happening beneath the surface? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re challenging what it really means to find your voice, step up before you feel ready, and why confidence might not be the word we should be chasing after all. I’m Tim Newman, your host and recovering college professor turned communication coach. This week, I’m joined by Dr. Mickey Fitch Collins, leadership facilitator, speaker, and expert in helping organizations translate human skills like communication, empathy, and resilience into real-world impact. Mickey’s diverse background spans higher education, edtech, and corporate learning, and she brings both research and hands-on experience to the table. In this conversation, we dive deep into Mickey’s fascinating journey from being a teenage girl breaking into the male-dominated world of professional bass fishing (yes, you read that right!) to holding senior roles in academia and ultimately walking away at forty to rebuild her career from scratch. Along the way, Mickey discovered that public speaking isn’t just about commanding a stage, it's about storytelling, and storytelling is about relationships. We explore the formative power of speaking before you feel “ready,” how early public speaking experiences shaped Mickey’s life, and how standing out demographically meant she had to develop substance and real influence behind her voice. We unpack the vital distinction between confidence (what people see and measure externally) and self-efficacy (the inner belief in your ability to get things done) and why understanding this difference is a gamechanger. Mickey shares specific, research-backed building blocks for growing your own self-efficacy and how simple reflection and feedback can rapidly increase your poise and presence, whether you’re on stage or in the workplace. We discuss why confidence might get you in the room, but only competence and substance keep you there, and how storytelling and vulnerability open the door to authentic influence. You’ll also hear how she wrestled with the decision to leave a prestigious academic role and how to navigate major transitions in your own professional life. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Mickey’s unlikely entry into professional bass fishing as a 14-year-old girl in Chicago How fish stories shaped her love for public speaking and taught her to influence large (and skeptical!) audiences The hidden difference between confidence and self-efficacy and why you need both Building your skills: The four building blocks of self-efficacy and how you already use them (even if you don’t realize it) How competence and confidence fuel each other in a “dynamic duo” for both public speaking and career growth The transformative power of storytelling, including sharing vulnerable stories and the impact it has on relationship-building and influence Practical strategies for handling nerves, reframing fear, and using feedback to accelerate your own communication growth Why every role no matter your job description is a “sales” role rooted in authentic influence, not slick persuasion The stark differences Mickey saw between learning in higher ed and the workplace, and what it means for lifelong learning and adaptability Navigating transitions: leaving a high-profile academic post at midlife and finding new alignment with your values and purpose You’ll leave this episode with a new perspective on confidence, actionable steps to build your self-efficacy, and some unforgettable fish tales that prove everyone has stories worth sharing, especially you. Be sure to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to get your free ebook, “Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers,” and register for our Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Mickey: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mickeyfitchcollins/ Website: https://www.learnit.com/mickey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Unlocking the Four Communication Styles to Lead Any Team With Confidence 06.08.2026 14min

  Have you ever left a meeting feeling like half your team understood you perfectly, while the other half looked completely lost? Why does strong communication click with some people but fall flat with others even when you’re saying the same thing? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle exactly that question and share a crucial framework that has transformed my own communication style and helped hundreds of my coaching clients unlock breakthrough results at work. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach and today I’m revealing why the “one great style” approach to communication is outdated and what you should do instead. Drawing from Thomas Erikson’s “Surrounded by Idiots,” I introduce the four core color-coded communication styles Driver (red), Connector (yellow), Analyst (blue), and Stabilizer (green) and show how identifying and adapting to these preferences is the real secret to becoming a confident, effective communicator and leader. This episode is all about practical skills, not theory. I break down each communication style with real-life examples from my days in the classroom and share why misfires between styles cause friction and misunderstandings. I explain what drives each type, what frustrates them, how they perceive other styles, and the small but powerful adjustments you can make to connect more effectively with anyone in the room. Several points were raised, including: Why your instinct to blame others for communication breakdowns is usually off-base The significance of Erikson’s four-color communication model, and how to spot each style in action The biggest myths about strong communication and why flexibility not perfection is key Deep-dives into the motivations, pain points, and gifts of Drivers (reds), Connectors (yellows), Analysts (blues), and Stabilizers (greens) Everyday strategies for leading and collaborating with each style, from email tweaks to one-on-one conversations The hidden dangers when overlooked team members silently disagree and how to uncover real opinions before it’s too late A practical, one-person, one-message assignment to practice speaking a “second language” on your team this week The conversation focused on moving beyond self-awareness to skillful adaptation recognizing your own style is only the start. The real growth comes from shifting your communication to meet others where they are, while still remaining true to yourself. Tune in to learn why talking like you’re right but listening like you’re wrong can change not just your conversations, but your impact as a leader. I’ll walk you through actionable steps to use this framework immediately, no personality quizzes required. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free ebook and details about my Forming for Public Speaking course. Looking for progress, not perfection let’s get fluent in all four communication “languages” together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Unlocking Powerful Communication in the Age of Virtual Presentations 03.08.2026 1j 15min

  Have you ever wondered why so many virtual presentations feel flat or why “death by PowerPoint” is still so common, even with all the tools and technology we have? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig into what it really takes to connect with an audience, both in-person and online, and how you can turn your presentations from forgettable to impactful right from the very first minute. My guest for this episode is Rick Altman, a presentation industry veteran with over two decades of experience, host of the world-renowned Presentation Summit, and author of the new book "Crush Your Next Virtual Presentation." Rick Altman has worked with hundreds of companies, been heard by tens of thousands of professionals, and read by millions looking for better results with their presentations. His expertise spans message crafting, design, software technique, and live delivery. We kick things off by addressing a frustration many of us share: If your audience can read your slides without you, why are you even there? Rick Altman dives into why content-heavy slides rob presentations of real human connection, especially in the virtual world. We talk about how easy-to-use technology can lead to bad habits like putting everything on a slide, using distracting animations, or letting AI do the creative thinking for you. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why most presentations miss the mark and how to fix yours from minute one My journey from transparencies to podcasts, and Rick Altman’s background in publishing and presentations How advances in technology like PowerPoint and AI make bad presentations easier and how to resist the temptation Why slides should never serve as your handout and how to separate the two for real impact The value of simplicity in slides and notes less really is more How to practice and prepare so you stay present and connected, not glued to your script or slides The vital role of audio, camera connection, and grace in virtual presentations Tips for managing your attention and leveraging moderators or help during live web events Responsible and efficient uses of AI for research, handouts, and presentation prep Rick Altman’s behind-the-scenes look at the Presentation Summit, including its evolution, content, and how virtual events create new opportunities If you’re looking to up your game as a communicator whether on stage, in the boardroom, or over Zoom this episode will give you practical, battle-tested strategies to present with more confidence and real connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Talk Like You’re Right, Listen Like You’re Wrong: The Key to True Connection 30.07.2026 13min

  Have you ever walked out of a meeting or conversation certain you nailed your message only to discover later that almost no one actually understood or embraced what you said? In today’s episode, we’re exploring why being technically right or well-prepared isn’t always enough to truly connect, and unlocking the four-letter fix that can flip your communication from performance into genuine connection. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and on Speaking with Confidence I’m dedicated to helping you develop the real-world soft skills like storytelling, public speaking, and authentic conversation that turn opportunity into results. In this solo episode, I dig deep into one of the distinctions that changed my approach to teaching, coaching, and communicating: the difference between broadcasting and connecting. Drawing from my personal journey and experiences in academic and corporate settings, I introduce a key framework that’s transformed my conversations: understanding why our confident delivery can often lead to missed messages, misunderstood intentions, and polite agreement with zero real impact.  Today is all about sharing actionable insights drawn from countless coaching sessions, classroom stumbles, and the wisdom of leaders like John Maxwell. Here’s what we’ll cover in this episode: The pitfalls of “broadcasting” your message, and why head-nods don’t always equal understanding or agreement 00:09 The four connection failures that sabotage effective communication: assumption, arrogance, indifference, and control 02:31 How seemingly innocuous behaviors, like assuming you know what people want or racing to fill gaps in conversation, prevent real connection 03:18 A mindset shift talk like you’re correct, but listen like you’re wrong that creates true bridges between perspectives 05:14 The FORM framework (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Message): how it breaks through small talk and builds authentic relationships 05:55 Real-life examples of what it looks like to match your pace to someone else’s world, instead of demanding they enter yours 07:18 An assignment for you to practice in your very next conversation, so connection becomes a consistent part of your communication toolkit 07:59 By the end of this episode, you’ll have a concrete script and mindset shift to help you move from being someone the room politely tolerates to someone people actually want around. Progress, not perfection, is the goal and every conversation is your chance to practice. Thanks for tuning in, and remember your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Overcoming Cultural Barriers to Confident Communication 27.07.2026 1j

  Have you ever wondered what it really takes to reinvent yourself in a brand-new culture, and how that experience can transform your confidence and communication? This week on Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into this question with our incredible guest, Ana Denis, a public speaking and communication coach, TEDx organizer, and the brilliant author behind “Reinvento.” This episode is all about starting over, building your identity from the ground up, and the hidden challenges and surprising rewards of trying to fit in while staying authentically you. I had the privilege of speaking with Ana Denis, who shares her personal story of moving from Russia to the Netherlands, tackling cultural differences, and what it’s like learning to communicate sometimes literally in a whole new language and set of values. We dug into Ana Denis’s journey as both an entrepreneur and a newcomer, where she had to face the reality of feeling like a “professional idiot” (her words!), admitting you don’t know anything, and letting go of the ego to start learning from scratch. We talk about how language and cultural differences aren’t just logistical challenges they hit at the core of your sense of belonging and your identity. Ana Denis has been there, felt the friction between collectivist and individualist cultures, and had to let go of the comfort of the familiar to build a new home, both personally and professionally.  Some of what we cover in this episode: The shock of cultural differences even within Europe and how they challenge your worldview Why learning the local language goes far beyond practicality and is a gateway to true connection and trust Ana Denis’s personal journey of losing her safety net, building from scratch, and finding belonging in the expat community The role of asking questions, embracing not knowing, and letting go of ego when starting over Gendered societal messages and their impact on women’s confidence and willingness to speak up at work The danger of labels cultural, political, and personal and how they limit genuine human connection How to build real influence and trust, both as a speaker and as a newcomer in a different country The power of directness, consensus, and open dialogue in Dutch culture, and what we can learn from it The importance of active listening, curiosity, and putting relationships first regardless of status or background This conversation is packed with practical wisdom for anyone facing a big transition, working across cultures, or just wanting to show up with more clarity and confidence in their communication. If you’re ready to stop playing small, question the narratives you’ve been told, and actually reinvent how you show up, this episode is for you. We also talk about where you can find Ana Denis’s work, including her book “Reinvento” and the Reinvento Club for those ready to build communication skills or begin again in a new place. Tune in for heartfelt stories, actionable advice, and maybe a little push to take your own next bold step. Your voice matters and so does how you reinvent it. Connect with Ana: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-denis/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIAZJzumdHkVbD5913kBQDA Website: https://anadenis.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Three-Second Move That Boosts Confidence and Calms Any Conversation 23.07.2026 13min

  Have you ever wondered why absorbing other people’s emotions seems to drain your energy, and yet rarely solves the problem at hand? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the real reason “feeling their pain” might actually be holding you back, and I’m sharing a simple, tactical move that works better and keeps you in control. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Through years of working with clients, students, and teams, I used to believe that being a great communicator meant soaking up everyone else’s emotions. I’d match their energy, carry their stress, and walk away completely depleted and still facing the same challenges. Sound familiar? It took me a long time and guidance from negotiation expert Chris Voss to realize that this approach was not only exhausting, it was also ineffective. In this episode, we explore the difference between emotional empathy where you feel what others feel and get swept away by it and tactical empathy, which is all about understanding others’ emotions without losing yourself in them. You’ll hear how Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator, used tactical empathy to defuse high-stakes situations by naming the emotion in the room with precision, not by absorbing it. We’ll walk through real examples from my own teaching days and coaching work, breaking down how simply labeling someone’s fear or frustration can disarm tension and open up productive conversations. I also point out the crucial final step that most people miss embracing silence after you drop your “label,” instead of rushing to explain or defend yourself. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why emotional empathy depletes your energy but rarely solves the root problem The neuroscience behind why naming an emotion helps people and yourself think more clearly How tactical empathy is different, and why it puts you in control The exact three-second “labeling” move: “It seems like…”, “It sounds like…”, “It looks like…” A breakdown of what makes a label effective versus what falls flat How to handle uncomfortable silences and why they’re key to making this work A simple homework assignment to practice this life-changing skill in your next challenging conversation By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a powerful new approach for every situation where tension or defensiveness runs high without burning out in the process. Remember, progress, not perfection, is what moves us forward. Try out this tactical empathy tool this week and see how quickly your conversations shift. Your voice truly has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Building Bridges Across Generations: Leadership and Communication Skills for Lasting Impact 20.07.2026 56min

  How do we actually bridge the generational gap in communication and empower younger leaders to show up with confidence? That’s exactly what we’re tackling in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host and communication coach, and today we’re diving deep into what it means to lead, learn, and grow not just as professionals, but as people who want to make a positive impact on those around us. With Gen Z and millennials set to dominate the workforce by 2030, most leaders still haven’t cracked the code on how to connect with and motivate them. We’re going to change that. Joining me is Robin Lewis, host of the Big Life podcast, leadership coach, transformational speaker, and business strategist. Robin is all about helping purpose-driven business owners lead with clarity, build with focus, and create organizations that truly last. He brings not just expertise, but real stories and actionable frameworks from his own journey growing, stumbling, and ultimately becoming a leader who helps others do the same. In our conversation, Robin shares powerful analogies drawn from his life as a new grandparent, reminding us how we all start life eager to learn, unafraid to fall, and willing to try again. We explore how that spirit is too often lost as we grow and what it takes to reclaim it as leaders. Together, we break down reasons why young adults sometimes forget how to communicate honestly, how bottling up ideas becomes learned behavior, and what leaders can do to reverse that cycle by making people feel seen, heard, and valued. Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode: Why reclaiming a childlike hunger for learning and risk-taking matters in leadership The critical role of being seen, heard, and valued in communication, no matter your age How communication breakdowns aren’t always generational they’re often personality-based Robin’s “Lead to Last” framework and how he developed it after hitting a wall in his own business What separates leaders who say they have purpose from those who truly live it The importance of clarity of self, overcoming limiting beliefs, and defining your core values How to mentor the next generation to think introspectively and with intention Strategies for repairing and learning from failure as both leaders and parents The impact of collaborating instead of competing and finding commonality before difference Practical applications of DISC and other personality tools for team growth and better communication Whether you lead a business, a team, or your family, this episode is packed with hard-earned wisdom and actionable steps to help you (and those you serve) become more authentic, resilient, and confident communicators. Thanks for joining us let’s keep building the kind of leadership that truly lasts. Connect with Robin: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lewisrobin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Robinlewis411/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robinlewisteam Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Four Shifts Every New Manager Must Make to Succeed 16.07.2026 14min

  Ever found yourself promoted to a leadership position and suddenly realizing you have no idea how to build authority without losing the respect of your team? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle one of the most challenging transitions you can face at work: moving from peer to manager. I'm Tim Newmana recovering college professor turned communication coachand today we're diving into what really happens when you go from being "one of the team" to leading the team. There’s no guest joining me this week; it’s just you and me unpacking the real obstacles and actionable solutions for new leaders navigating this tricky shift. We all know that being promoted is exciting but it can also be disorienting. One day, you’re sharing complaints over drinks, the next, you’re the one in charge, trying not to repeat the mistakes of managers you once criticized. I break down the hard truth: many companies get management promotions wrong 82% of the time, leaving you with the title, a small raise, and very little guidance on how to actually manage people without damaging relationships. That tension between being accessible and asserting real authority gets new managers stuck in what I call the “access trap.” In this episode, I share the three pillars of real authority, clarity, consistency, and accountability and explain why they matter more than being liked. I walk through four transformative shifts every new manager must make: setting and respecting boundaries, giving honest and direct feedback, using confident language, and tackling conflict early. Each shift comes with clear examples and advice for how to break out of the habits that quietly erode your credibility and relationships. Here’s what you’ll learn: Why pretending nothing has changed after your promotion only creates confusion The data behind why promoting top performers doesn’t always make sense for leadership roles How to avoid the “access trap” and be more than just a buddy with a title The three foundational elements of real authority (and what it’s not) The four skill shifts every new manager must practice: boundaries, feedback, language, and conflict Practical steps for having honest conversations that set a new tone for your team Why consistency is more important than charisma for building trust How to start small choose one shift and put it into practice this week If you’ve just made the leap into management, or you want to support someone who has, I promise this episode will leave you with clear, actionable steps you can use immediately. Remember, your former peers don’t need a friend wearing a manager’s badge, they need a leader who sets the standard with courage and clarity. Listen in and take the first step toward building authority that truly holds. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Dressing Well Boosts Your Confidence and Leadership Perception 13.07.2026 1j 5min

  How much does the way you dress really impact your confidence and the way others see you? That’s the question we dive into in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. On today’s show, we’re tackling one of the most overlooked yet transformative aspects of communication: your appearance. We often talk about content, delivery, and presence when it comes to confident communication, but what about the impact of what we wear? Whether you’re stepping into a new job, leading a meeting, or just trying to level up your everyday look, your wardrobe can be a powerful ally in building your leadership perception and feeling your absolute best. Joining me for this conversation are Caden Broussard and Jinny Chen, co-founders of Cello, one of the largest styling companies serving professionals especially men during big life transitions. Their team of stylists partners with clients to help them dress with both confidence and executive presence, demystifying the connection between clothing, self-image, and professional results. We kicked things off by reflecting on a big realization: so many people struggle with style not because they lack fashion sense, but because it feels like a confidence problem. Caden Broussard shared how, despite working hard and achieving corporate success, feeling uncomfortable or inappropriately dressed could undermine their belief in themselves. Jinny Chen pointed out that most people reach for the same clothes because comfort breeds confidence, something confirmed by research, including fascinating studies on how what you wear can affect your performance and self-perception. Here’s what we covered in this conversation: Why style is really about confidence, not just fashion Instant first impressions, the “halo effect,” and scientific studies on performance and clothing Cultural challenges men face around asking for style advice Why transitions like promotions or new jobs often spark the need for a wardrobe rethink The three key elements anyone can adjust right now for a better perception How clothing fit impacts confidence more than you might think Why self-expression matters, and how to sneak it into a professional wardrobe The hidden challenges of dressing appropriately post-pandemic and in hybrid workplaces Psychological barriers to cleaning out your closet and why this step is crucial How Cello uses technology, including AI and professional stylists, for effortless, confidence-boosting style Tips for building outfits for every occasion, from formal to casual, and why “uniforms” can work both for and against you Whether you’re someone who’s always in a blue shirt (guilty as charged!), or you’re just looking for ways to feel more confident and make a positive impression, this episode will give you plenty to think about and some simple steps to act on right away. Connect with Caden & Jinny: Caden LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caden-broussard-90985a90/ Jinny LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jinnychen/ Website: https://cellocloset.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hellocellocloset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Why Difficulty Is the Filter, Not the Barrier 09.07.2026 14min

  Have you ever wondered why things never really seem to get easier, no matter how much you improve? Why does every step of progress seem to bring a new kind of challenge? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into the real role of difficulty in growth and communication and challenge the myth that hard things are just barriers standing in our way. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I want to let you in on a lesson that took me much longer to learn than I care to admit: hard isn’t the enemy. It isn’t something to run from or wait out. In fact, hard is the very thing that filters out the competition, exposes what we really know, and drives the lasting growth we all want. Today we’re pulling wisdom from thinkers like John Maxwell and even some military wisdom to unpack how our mindset about challenges determines whether we stall or move forward. I open up about my own history of waiting for the moment when things would stop being difficult and how everything changed when I realized that comfort doesn’t arrive on schedule, and that growth lives inside the struggle itself. In this episode, I cover: Why most people treat difficulty as a bad sign and the mindset shift to seeing it as a filter, not a barrier The military’s “embrace the suck” philosophy and why the difficulty never really ends (it just changes shape) John Maxwell’s ideas about evaluated experience and how simply enduring hard things isn’t enough you have to reflect The danger zone: what happens when difficulties pile up and why most people fall apart not because things get harder, but because their relationship to hard doesn’t change The real perspective shift: seeing difficulty as proof you’re in the arena, not as something that’s being done to you Why growth only happens in discomfort and how to train yourself to look for the lesson instead of resenting the pain Three practical ways to change your relationship with hard things right now, from reframing setbacks to learning how to welcome discomfort as a signal you’re on the right track If you’re tired of waiting for things to get easier or wondering if you’re doing something wrong just because you’re struggling, this episode is for you. Let’s shift your mindset, reframe your experience with difficulty, and get you confidently moving through the hard stuff, not around it. Remember: the people who win aren’t the ones who found a shortcut they’re the ones who got comfortable being uncomfortable. Progress, not perfection. Let’s get to work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Asking Questions Builds True Communication Confidence 06.07.2026 59min

  What if the secret to real confidence in communication isn’t about having all the right answers, but about asking better questions? Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. In this episode, we dig deep into the misconception that confidence means certainty and flip the script to show how the best communicators are defined not by what they know, but by how curious they are. Joining me today is Michael Ashford, a dynamic communication and leadership coach, longtime marketing executive, and two-time TEDx speaker. Michael Ashford is passionate about empowering people to communicate in ways that traditional education rarely touches, helping us inspire change, drive action, and resolve conflict more effectively in our lives. Together, we explore Michael Ashford’s journey from nearly failing out of college as an engineering major to finding his true path in journalism, a shift that taught him the importance of aligning passion, curiosity, and personal fulfillment. He shares how letting go of other people’s expectations and finding his own voice became foundational to his confidence and success. Here’s what we cover in this episode: The false belief that confidence requires always being right and what true confidence really looks like Michael Ashford's honest story of personal and academic failure, and how curiosity led him to a career aligned with his values The pivotal role of communication skills in every aspect of life and leadership Why the education system fails us by prioritizing certainty over curiosity and the ability to ask better questions How to break out of the sunk cost fallacy in careers, relationships, and heated debates The impact of information overload and social media on our ability to trust, listen, and connect The practical power of curiosity how asking more questions shifts conversations, builds trust, fosters empathy, and increases genuine confidence Tips for anyone wanting to be a better communicator today: ask more questions, get curious about your own motivations, and embrace the “power of the pause” before responding How true introspection and questioning our own beliefs lays the foundation for alignment, fulfillment, and lasting confidence This episode is packed with real talk, actionable strategies, and stories you can relate to whether you want to communicate better at work, defuse conflicts at home, or just find your own unique voice. Dive in, and discover how you can become the curious, confident communicator you’re meant to be. Connect with Michael: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaeldashford/      Website: https://michaelashford.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaeldashford   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@michaeldashford    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How to Become the Most Influential Person in Any Room in Just 13 Minutes 02.07.2026 16min

  Have you ever sat through a meeting and wondered why the loudest voice in the room seems to dominate yet rarely drives any real influence? In this episode of Speaking With Confidence, I’ll answer a question that impacts every professional gathering: If it’s not the loudest voice that wins the room, what actually does? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m pulling back the curtain on what really makes someone the most influential person in the room. Spoiler: It’s not volume, and it’s not vocabulary. After years in boardrooms, classrooms, and meetings of every kind, I’ve seen firsthand and struggled through myself the pitfalls of overcomplicating messages, hiding behind jargon, and talking just to fill the silence. The result? You risk becoming background noise, no matter how many slides or big words you pack in. Today’s episode is all about becoming the person who can say the one thing everyone is thinking but can’t quite put into words. I’ll walk you through research-backed truths on attention spans, the brutal math of memory retention, and the real cost of poor communication in the workplace. We’ll talk about why clarity is the most valuable currency you can bring to a group, and how being a clarifier trumps being the show-off or the non-stop talker every single time. I’m sharing the three habits that will make you the clarifier in any room, and you’ll walk away with tools you can use in your very next meeting. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why the loudest person is rarely the most influential and what actually creates influence The attention span cliff: what happens at minute 15 and why 18 minutes is a magic number The science of memory retention and why going long costs you credibility The “8th grade rule” for simplifying your message The staggering cost of poor communication in organizations Three habits to make you the architect of any conversation: the two second pause, the one sentence summary, and the clarifying question Practical examples and questions you can use to shift from noise-maker to problem-solver instantly If you’ve ever left a meeting frustrated because you didn’t feel heard or wondered why your great idea didn’t seem to stick, this episode is for you. Join me to learn how being a clarifier, not a commentator, will make you the most influential person in every room you enter. And remember: You don’t need a new personality, just a handful of simple tactical switches to start commanding attention and guiding conversations with confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Emotional Intelligence in Communication: Tools for Self-Awareness and Confident Speaking 29.06.2026 53min

  What’s really holding you back from being a confident, impactful communicator could it be less about your words and more about truly understanding yourself? Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode, we dig deep into the heart of communication not just the techniques and the tips, but the self-awareness that’s at the foundation of how you show up and connect with others. Today, I’m joined by Sandy Gerber, a powerhouse communication coach, emotional intelligence trainer, TEDx speaker, and the award-winning author of Emotional Magnetism. Sandy’s journey from outward business success to a reckoning with personal fulfillment will resonate with anyone who’s ever felt their “on paper” life didn’t match up with how things felt inside. We kicked things off by asking the big question: is it really your communication skills that need fixing, or could it be a lack of self-awareness that’s clouding your conversations with others? Sandy shares a pivotal moment in her life, when, despite all the trappings of success, she felt like a fraud because her personal relationships weren’t thriving. That realization kicked off a decade-long exploration into what makes relationships at home and at work genuinely successful. We talk about how so many of us are “winging it” when it comes to communication, borrowing strategies from family or the workplace without understanding our own internal dialogue. Sandy opens up about learning from her failures, seeking out wisdom from luminaries like John Maxwell and Wayne Dyer, and ultimately developing her framework of emotional magnetism, the idea that we’re each driven by core emotional needs that shape our decisions and interactions. Here’s what we covered: The difference between communication problems and self-awareness problems Sandy’s journey from outward success to confronting personal dissatisfaction Why “looking successful” isn’t the same as “feeling successful” The role of emotional magnetism in shaping our choices and relationships How to identify and honor your and others’ core emotional motivators The pitfalls of labeling others (and yourself) by behavior rather than by motivations Why authentic connection and empathy are built on understanding “why” Tools for regulating your emotions in high-stress moments (the EQ Switch) The neuroscience behind naming your emotions and calming your nervous system Recognizing and addressing emotional disengagement (“quiet cracking”) in the workplace The fundamental importance of intentional pausing and reflection as a communicator Actionable body language tips to look more confident and approachable (“the E trick”) The life-changing impact of choosing your first and last thoughts each day Why doing the work on yourself is non-negotiable for genuine leadership and influence This episode is all about moving from surface-level techniques to deep transformation so you can communicate, connect, and lead with real confidence. Connect with Sandy: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sgerber/     Website: https://sandygerber.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandy_gerber_official/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnectedConversationsSG    Magnetic Communication podcast: https://sandygerber.com/podcast/ Podcast Award Voting: https://www.womenpodcasters.com/magnetic-communication Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The 21-Day Challenge to Sound Confident and Articulate in Every Conversation 25.06.2026 17min

  Have you ever wondered how some people seem effortlessly articulate, making every word count, while others struggle to get their point across? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I break down exactly what it takes to become that person the one others listen to, respect, and remember by following a simple 21-day system. I'm Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I'm on a mission to help you discover the three foundational habits that can transform your speaking skills with no charisma required. Today, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step approach to building articulation as a skill, not a talent. Forget what you think you know about natural-born communicators. Together we’ll prove that anyone can learn to command a room and get results. We start by facing the real costs of poor communication, not just the $2 trillion it costs US businesses each year, but the quiet daily losses: fumbled meetings, muddled emails, and missed chances to show your worth. Then, I’ll guide you through each week of the system, designed so you can practice, record your progress, and see tangible clarity, confidence, and control develop day by day. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why articulation isn’t a talent, but a trainable, measurable skill if you use a structured approach The silent tax of poor communication in your professional life, and how it shows up in lost opportunities Week 1: Building clarity through “visual nouns” learning to paint pictures instead of offering empty abstractions Week 2: Leading with impact by putting your bottom line up front (BLUF), so your audience hears your message first, not buried in context Week 3: Commanding the room through staccato phrasing and confidence-boosting pauses, so you sound thoughtful, not rushed Practical, daily exercises for each habit, including rewriting emails, reframing project descriptions, and practicing presence in meetings Why recording yourself at the beginning and end of this journey is proof of progress, not perfection The ultimate takeaway: how to reach for concrete words, serve your conclusion before your context, and master the power of the pause Whether you want to stand out in meetings, make your emails count, or simply stop feeling like you’re speaking “in clouds,” this episode delivers the tools and the mindset you need to level up starting today. Don’t wait to feel ready. Press record, follow the system, and watch your communication transform in just 21 days. And remember: talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. For more resources, grab your free eBook “Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com and check out my Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice truly can change the world. Let's make sure it gets heard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Finding Your True Voice: The Power of Vocal Congruence and Self-Acceptance 22.06.2026 53min

  What if the way you sound matters just as much if not more than the words you say? We often believe that effective communication starts and ends with content, but in today’s episode, we dig beneath the surface: how can aligning your voice with your authentic self change the way you connect with others? I’m Tim Newman, and this week on Speaking with Confidence, I invited Wolfe Lanier to join me for a truly eye-opening conversation. Wolfe is a Somatic Voice practitioner and researcher, currently completing his MFA in Voice Studies at the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. His journey has taken him from the mountains of Appalachia, through New York’s corporate coaching world, into deep somatic practice all fueled by a central, fascinating question: why is there often a gap between who we are and how we come across? Wolfe shared his own story of performance anxiety, stage fright, and that all-too-relatable feeling of disconnect between inner worth and outward expression. We explored how self-talk, ego, and even physical tension in the body shape the sound of our voice and how often, what’s holding us back in communication is much deeper than we realize. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why your voice often reveals more than your words Wolfe’s personal journey from stage fright to vocal research The connection between self-talk, inner worth, and how you sound The science and experience of “vocal congruence” How culture, accent, and history influence voice and acceptance The role of somatic practice and releasing physical tension Why most people are their own worst critics and how to break the cycle The interplay between ego, perfectionism, and authentic communication Generational shifts in communication styles and expectations Step-by-step advice for building confidence and congruence in your voice If you’ve ever wished your voice could reflect your real confidence, or you’ve struggled to feel truly comfortable speaking up, this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical steps to start bridging the gap between who you are and how you come across. Connect with Wolfe: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wolfe-lanier-1186a61b/ Website: https://www.wolfelanier.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wolfe.lanier/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Speak Like a CEO: Simple, Concise, and Confident Communication That Gets Results 18.06.2026 16min

  Are you making your message clear or just making it longer? In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the most common myths in professional communication: that sounding like a CEO means drowning in buzzwords and complex sentences. In reality, the strongest leaders use a different formula: simplicity, conciseness, and real confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host for Speaking with Confidence. As a former college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how even the smartest folks can accidentally sound junior not because they lack expertise, but because we’re all trained to value complexity over clarity. In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact framework I use with executives who want to sound like leaders and get results. It’s just me, Tim Newman, sharing straight talk and some proven strategies you can start applying right now. We’ll look at why so many ambitious professionals default to overwrought, jargon-heavy language, and why that tendency actually undercuts your credibility in the boardroom. I’ll share stories from real pitch meetings, explain the “eighth grade rule” for clarity, and walk through practical techniques for making your message unmistakable. You’ll also hear why brevity is your best friend, how every extra sentence waters down your message, and how CEOs wield silence as a tool for authority. We’ll explore what true confidence sounds like (hint: it’s not loud or domineering), and I’ll walk you through the “certainty principle” talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. You’ll learn to spot and banish the hedges and caveats that sneak into everyday speech. I’ll wrap things up with actionable drills and real-world examples, including rewriting an email and running your own words through the simple, concise, and confident filter. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why most people accidentally sound junior at work and how to break the habit The three-part formula for executive presence: simple, concise, and confident The “eighth grade rule” for clarity and why it matters Practical exercises to strip jargon and complexity from your communication How brevity and silence signal credibility The difference between true confidence and performance How to replace hedges with certainty and why vulnerability is part of real confidence Tools you can start using tomorrow to make every word count If you’re ready to stop hiding behind big words and long explanations, and start being understood, this episode is your playbook. Remember, your voice has real power when you use it with intention. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Escaping Comfort: How Survival, Communication, and Leadership Shape Success with Said Eshaghi 15.06.2026 1j 23min

  What if the comfort you feel isn’t a sign you’re doing things right, but a warning that you’ve started losing ground? In this week’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig deep into the real meaning of comfort and the high cost it can carry through the extraordinary journey of my guest, Said Eshaghi. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a rut or held back by a life that feels “just comfortable enough,” this is an episode you can’t afford to miss. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach and today we’re exploring the powerful, and sometimes dangerous, role comfort can play in our personal growth and professional transformation. This isn’t just another episode about communication tactics. Today, we’re talking about the crucial things that happen before you ever open your mouth, moments that shape your confidence, your ability to adapt, and ultimately, your life’s direction. Said Eshaghi is the founder of Lead Beyond, a Maxwell Leadership certified team member, DISC consultant, and author of the new book Escape from Comfort. Said’s story begins in war-torn Iran, where, as a young teen, he and his brother faced a life-altering decision that would forever change the trajectory of their lives. From a perilous escape across dangerous borders to rebuilding his life in Sweden, rising to become a world-class biochemist, and eventually confronting the pitfalls of unchecked ambition, Said’s journey is a masterclass in resilience, adaptability, and the power of honest reflection. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The harrowing journey that took Said Eshaghi from his home in Iran, through Turkey, and finally to Sweden and how the decisions made during that trek shaped his perspective on trust and survival. Surviving trauma as a child, and why sometimes the things left unsaid are just as important to your survival as what you do say. How positive thinking and the pressure to excel even in subjects you hate can be both a survival mechanism and a potential weakness. The life-changing impact of a compassionate teacher, and how that experience informs the way Said Eshaghi now helps others struggling to express themselves. The challenges of finding your voice in a new country and language, including the role that trust plays in overcoming cultural and communication barriers. Lessons learned from the world of academia why top performers in STEM and high-pressure fields often fail to communicate outside their technical “bubble,” and the difference a great communicator can make. The concept of “mind laundering”: how seemingly harmless persuasion, mixed with personal agendas, can manipulate even the most well-intentioned people and how to recognize the signs before it’s too late. The dangers of unchecked ego and accidental growth, and how losing your sense of purpose can cause even the most successful individuals to go astray. Said Eshaghi’s proprietary FAR framework and how it helps people navigate transitions (and uncomfortable conversations) to move from survival to leadership and fulfillment. How to spot the one degree shift that can, over time, take you miles away from your intended path and what to do if you realize you’ve drifted. Why personal growth, reflection, and a purpose bigger than yourself are critical not just to your own development, but to your capacity to help others in a meaningful way. You’ll also hear us discuss Said Eshaghi’s new book, Escape from Comfort, and how honest reflection on life’s turning points is the key to escaping the “trap” of a comfortable but unfulfilling existence. If you’re in your 20s and feeling directionless, or maybe you’re older and questioning whether your comfort is holding you back, this episode will give you the perspective and practical steps you need to start uncomfortable but ultimately transformative conversations with yourself. Ready to move beyond comfort and toward the life (and impact) you were meant for? Dive into this conversation and let’s start navigating the transitions together. Connect with Said: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/said-eshaghi/ Website: https://saideshaghi.com     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/said.eshaghi.9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices