Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

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  Facing Your Fears: 3 Lessons That Will Transform Your Life 21.07.2026 10min

  As a clinical psychologist, I've spent decades exploring the landscape of fear, not just professionally, but personally. In this video, I'm sharing the three pivotal lessons that you can learn when you face your fears. Join me as I recount personal anecdotes, like the rule that helped me write my book despite overwhelming anxiety, and give client examples that you can apply to your own life. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Stop Overthinking Social Situations: The Mindset Shift That Freed Me 05.07.2026 10min

  Do you ever find yourself frozen in social situations, haunted by what others might think of you? In this podcast, I reveal the insights that triggered a mindset shift and helped free me from the shackles of social anxiety. This is a reading from my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter:  https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email  
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  The Science of Playing Hard To Get 27.06.2026 14min

  This episode is about the psychology of playing hard to get, revealing indicators, how it works, and whether it's a good dating strategy, along with the downsides of using it.  To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  The Shift That Makes You Instantly More Magnetic 20.06.2026 14min

  This episode explores one reason we get overlooked, and what to do about it. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  You're Probably Better At First Dates Than You Realize 12.06.2026 16min

  In this episode, I look at a dataset of 880 Guardian Blind Dates to explore what really happens when two strangers sit down for a first date. Rory Flint’s Blind Dates dataset: https://blinddates.rory.codes/ The Guardian Blind Date series: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/blind-date To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  Why You Can't Stop Overthinking (When You Like Someone) 05.06.2026 15min

  In this episode, I explain what triggers overthinking when you like someone, what your mind is trying to do, and why it gets stuck — along with a better way to approach it.   Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  Why Jumping Ahead Is Holding You Back In Life 27.05.2026 8min

  Do you spend a lot of time thinking about possible issues in the future? I've seen this cause a lot of problems for people lately. This video game analogy seems to help. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Day I Overcame Social Anxiety 20.05.2026 6min

  I share my journey overcoming social anxiety, which led me to write my book. Through personal stories and strategies backed by clinical experience, I explore how to move from fear and avoidance into what I call the "Warm Social World," where meaningful connections feel natural. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Real Secret to Self-Confidence (You’ve Been Doing It Wrong) 12.05.2026 20min

  Becoming self-confident is easier than it seems (if you understand it). In this episode, I discuss the insight that changed everything for me. Backed by psychological research and personal insights, I reveal the real meaning of self-confidence and how it can transform your life. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  How to Master Small Talk (Even If You Hate It) 28.04.2026 16min

  Ever been in a conversation and had NO idea what to say next? This episode will help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Psychologist On Feeling Down: What I Do and What I Never Do 21.04.2026 8min

  I woke up feeling down, and decided to record a podcast (that day) describing what I did in response. I thought this could be helpful since I’m a psychologist and you can see how I used to deal with it, and how I’ve learned to respond differently now. And by the way, I stuck to this system and my mood returned to baseline within a couple of days.  Remember, it’s okay to have down days. What’s important is how we respond to them.  For more on working with all the shame or low moods associated with social anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Become Better Looking Through Psychology 13.04.2026 14min

  Can your personality actually make you more physically attractive? I explore how certain traits can change how others see your looks, backed by surprising psychology and neuroscience findings. What key characteristics shift these perceptions, and why? Listen to learn how your interactions and behavior could enhance your attractiveness, without changing your appearance. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter:  https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Simple Technique To Control Your Anxiety 03.04.2026 10min

  Download my "Worry Time Pocket Guide" here:  https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com/worry-time-pocket-guide For more on psychology and anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  How Your Phone Is Ruining Your Social Life (And How to Fix It) 27.03.2026 14min

  Our phones are quietly undermining our social lives by pulling attention away from real human connection. In this episode, I explain the psychology behind how phones reduce happiness, weaken relationships, and block connection—and the small, practical changes that can help you level up. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  
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  What To Do When Life Gets Hard 20.03.2026 14min

  Discover the evidence-based methods to staying positive even when your circumstances are difficult. I share my own story of how and why I had to learn all about this. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.
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  How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others 11.03.2026 14min

  There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.
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  How To Stop Wasting Time On Dating Apps 02.03.2026 20min

  As a clinical psychologist who met my wife on a dating app, I’ll share strategies to stop endless swiping and texting, and start making real connections. I want to help you actually meet someone without falling into the common traps most people face. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.
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  7 Things I Quit For More Self-Confidence 22.02.2026 19min

  Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: http://bit.ly/4nbjDUA To improve your social confidence, you can get my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA
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  4 Steps to Stop Overthinking Social Interactions 15.02.2026 10min

  After years of working on overthinking--called "post-event rumination" to us psychologists--I've come up with a 4 step process that has been pretty successful for me. I lay that out for you in this episode. You can get more info on all these idea in my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.
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  The Science of a Happy Relationship (5 Questions To Ask) 04.02.2026 25min

  For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.