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  297. The Confidence Lessons I Learned From 20 Years of Triathlon 06.08.2026 1u 37min

  Send us Fan Mail Twenty feet from the nearest buoy, chop so bad she couldn't see the kayak, panic creeping in fast. That's where Anna found herself mid-swim at a national championship race, the one time in her life she got genuinely scared out there. She got on her back, caught her breath, and kept going. It's not the kind of moment that shows up on a podium. Join Anna and Tim as they trace 20+ years of racing back to what it actually built in them: not medals, not finish times, but the abili...
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  296. What 30 Years as a Therapist and Coach Taught Me That No Influencer Can Teach You 30.07.2026 54min

  Send us Fan Mail It takes about fifteen seconds for a TikTok video to convince you that your mother is a narcissist, your ex is a borderline, or you finally have the ADHD diagnosis you always suspected. Join Anna and Tim as they break down what gets lost when a real clinical process gets compressed into a fifteen-second hook. Anna draws on thirty years as a therapist and a coach, including two client stories where a label someone brought in from the internet turned out to be nowhere close to ...
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  295. Why Everything Feels Like an Identity Now 23.07.2026 55min

  Send us Fan Mail It's gotten almost impossible to disagree with someone anymore without it turning into a referendum on who they are. Anna's been noticing it everywhere: in politics, in parenting, in that strange shift where a difference of opinion starts to feel like a personal attack. Somewhere along the way, people stopped just having opinions and started becoming their opinions. Now criticism doesn't register as information, it registers as danger. Join Anna and Tim as they break down why...
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  294. What Control Is Really Costing You 16.07.2026 1u 2min

  Send us Fan Mail For years, Anna thought her ability to control everything was a strength. Organized. Reliable. Prepared. Turns out it was anxiety, dressed up as competence, and it took a rug-pulling moment in her own life to show her the difference. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what control is actually costing you, your presence, your intimacy with the people you love, your creativity, your ability to bounce back when things don't go the way you planned. They talk about the difference ...
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  293. The Emotional Price of Always Holding It Together 09.07.2026 53min

  Send us Fan Mail You tell everyone you're fine before anyone even asks. You're the one who fixes things before anyone notices there's a problem, the one who never falls apart, the one everybody calls. And it's not because life is easier for you. It's because you never put any of it down. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what it actually costs to hold it together this well: the toll of expressive suppression, the moment competence starts running on empty, and why being the strong one so ofte...
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  292. When Your Life Looks Fine But Something Feels Off 02.07.2026 57min

  Send us Fan Mail You did everything right. Built the career, married the person, raised the kids, checked every box on the list you didn't even remember writing. So why does it still feel like something's missing? Join Anna and Tim as they dig into the quiet unease that shows up when life looks good on paper but feels flat underneath it. They talk about the blueprint most of us inherited, the one that promised happiness would show up once we hit the next milestone, and what happens when we hi...
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  291. I Did the Work, So Why Am I Struggling Again? 25.06.2026 51min

  Send us Fan Mail You think you've graduated. You did the therapy, you learned the skills, you got to a good place, and you stayed there for a while. Then one week knocks you flat, and you're spiraling again, and the first thing you think isn't "this is hard," it's "what is wrong with me that I'm back here?" Join Anna and Tim as they pull apart the fantasy of having arrived, the one where doing the work is supposed to mean you never struggle again. They get into the two clients who came back l...
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  290. You Have the Insight and Still Can't Change 18.06.2026 1u 8min

  Send us Fan Mail You can explain your patterns better than anyone. You know your attachment style, you know your triggers, you know where it all started, and why you keep picking the same kind of person. And then a week later, you're doing the exact same thing. Join Anna and Tim as they get into why insight feels like progress when it isn't. There's a real difference between understanding a pattern and actually interrupting one, and most of us get stuck living in the first part. We collect th...
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  289. When Self-Improvement Quietly Becomes Self-Rejection 11.06.2026 1u 29min

  Send us Fan Mail There is a version of self-improvement that stops being about growth and quietly turns into a way to never feel okay as you are. You track the sleep, you take the supplements, you do the work, and somewhere in there, it stops being "I want to get better" and becomes "I'm one habit away from finally being acceptable." That is the line Anna has been feeling lately, and she is done pretending she is above it. Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about where optimization culture ...
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  288. Why We Stay Too Long in Relationships That Drain Us 04.06.2026 1u 12min

  Send us Fan Mail It rarely looks like a blowup. It looks like lying awake at 2 am, replaying a conversation you can't let go of, or standing in the same kitchen as someone and barely talking to them. Emotional depletion is usually quiet. It builds slowly, what Anna calls death by a thousand cuts, until one day you realize you've lost the connection to your own self inside your own life. Join Anna and Tim as they sit in the gray area of relationships that drain us, the ones we don't just walk ...
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  287. What Emotional Avoidance Looks Like in Everyday Life 28.05.2026 1u 23min

  Send us Fan Mail Most people picture emotional avoidance as someone who shuts down, refuses to talk, or is clearly in denial. But after 30 years of working with clients, Anna knows that's not usually how it shows up. The people she sits across from are often smart, self-aware, and totally capable of talking about their lives. They can explain their patterns in detail. They just can't actually feel them. Join Anna and Tim as they get into what emotional avoidance really looks like in everyday ...
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  286. Why Smart People Still Self-Sabotage 21.05.2026 1u 6min

  Send us Fan Mail You've read the books. You know your patterns. You can probably explain exactly why you do the things you do. And yet here you are, still doing them. Join Anna and Tim as they get into what's actually happening when intelligent, capable people keep getting in their own way. Anna breaks down why being smart doesn't protect you from self-sabotage; it often makes it worse. Because the smarter you are, the better you are at building a case for staying exactly where you are. This ...
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  285. The Hidden Loneliness of Competent Adults 14.05.2026 1u 3min

  Send us Fan Mail You look like you have it together. You probably do have it together. And somehow, that's exactly the problem. Join Anna and Tim as they get into something Anna sees constantly in her sessions but rarely gets talked about out loud: the quiet, invisible loneliness that lives underneath high-functioning, capable people. The ones who are holding everything together at work and at home, who everyone leans on, and who nobody thinks to check in on. Because from the outside, they al...
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  284. The Slow Burn of Resentment and What's Really Driving It 07.05.2026 1u 24min

  Send us Fan Mail Resentment doesn't arrive all at once. It builds slowly, quietly, through a thousand small moments where you said yes when you meant no, where you kept going when you needed to stop, where you waited for someone to notice something you never actually said out loud. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into one of the most common and least talked about emotions in relationships, families, and workplaces. They get into where resentment really comes from, why high-functioning women are...
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  283. Breaking Patterns Feels Worse Before It Feels Better (Part II) 30.04.2026 51min

  Send us Fan Mail A lot of people expect change to feel empowering right away. It doesn't always. Sometimes it feels awkward, boring, exposing. Sometimes it feels like grief. And that part doesn't get talked about enough. Join Anna and Tim as they get into the real texture of what breaking a pattern actually requires. Not the inspiration, the resistance. The moment when the new thing feels unfamiliar and wrong, and the old thing is right there pulling at you. Anna gets honest about her own pat...
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  282. Why You Keep Repeating Patterns That Hurt You (Part I) 23.04.2026 1u 2min

  Send us Fan Mail You've been here before. Different person, different situation, different details, but the same feeling. That hollow recognition of, why am I here again? And what makes it worse is that you're not oblivious to it. You've journaled about it, talked about it in therapy, listened to the podcasts. You see the pattern. And you're still in it. Join Anna and Tim as they get into the real reasons why smart, self-aware people keep repeating the patterns that hurt them most. Not becaus...
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  281. The Real Cost of Avoidance and How to Finally Face It 16.04.2026 1u 11min

  Send us Fan Mail You already know what you're avoiding. You can feel it sitting there, waiting. And yet, staying busy, scrolling, overthinking, keeping the TV loud. It all works, at least for a little while. Join Anna and Tim as they pull back the curtain on one of the most underestimated forces in people's lives: avoidance. Not the obvious kind, but the sneaky kind that shows up as productivity, people-pleasing, staying "easygoing," and endless thinking that never quite leads to action. They...
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  280. Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong 09.04.2026 1u 34min

  Send us Fan Mail You sit down. Nothing is actually wrong. No emergency, no conflict, no fire to put out. And somehow your brain is already scanning, already running tomorrow's to-do list, already pulling you back into motion. It's not a character flaw. It's a pattern, and most high-functioning people are living inside it without realizing it. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into why so many capable, driven people can't power down, even when life is going well. Anna draws on 30 years of working ...
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  279. The Real Work of Building Emotional Intelligence 02.04.2026 1u 9min

  Send us Fan Mail Most of us are walking around operating on three channels: mad, fine, or tired. And if that's the vocabulary we're working with, we're going to keep spinning out in the same patterns, the same arguments, the same spiral of "no one ever chooses me" without ever actually getting underneath what's driving it. Join Anna and Tim as they get into the real, unglamorous work of building emotional intelligence in yourself. Not in a partner, not in your kids. In you. Anna breaks down t...
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  278. What Emotional Intelligence Actually Looks Like in a Partner 26.03.2026 1u 15min

  Send us Fan Mail Everyone's talking about attachment styles, love languages, chemistry. But there's one variable that actually determines whether love feels sustainable or completely exhausting, and most people aren't looking for it. Join Anna and Tim as they break down what emotional intelligence really is and, more importantly, what it isn't. Because knowing the therapy terms doesn't mean someone has the skills. Anna lays out the green flags, the observable behaviors that tell you whether t...