Decoding Attachment Styles

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  Why Your Partner Can't Be the Adult You Need 12.08.2026 45min

  We spend a lot of time asking why our partners behave the way they do. But how often do we ask ourselves what our own childhood taught us about being an adult? In this episode, we explore how the lessons we learned growing up shape our relationships today - from anxious and avoidant patterns to what secure attachment actually looks like in everyday life. We'll talk about responsibility, boundaries, compassion, and why understanding someone's past doesn't mean you have to build your future aro...
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  What To Do When Partner Can't Give You What You Need 03.08.2026 20min

  It is frustrating when a partner can't give you what you need especially after they promised or implied they could. We try to change them - or their mind. We hope they can change and become the person we thought they were when we first met. We struggle with the fear of the relationship ending, lashing out with hurtful words, doing things that causes more damage - and then regretting them all when we are calm. This episodes walks you through what you can do before the d...
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  Why Avoidants Tell You What You Want to Hear 28.07.2026 16min

  Are the manipulating you by telling you what you want to hear? It's a lot deeper than this and this episode breaks it down. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
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  How to tell the Difference Between Anxiety and Anxious Attachment 29.06.2026 30min

  Today I'm answering three questions I get asked constantly. And I picked these three on purpose, because they build on each other. The first one is the controversial one: can a fearful-avoidant actually have a successful relationship WITHOUT going to therapy? People want me to say no. I'm not going to say no. But I'm also not going to give you the comfortable answer. The second question is one almost everyone struggles with: how do I know if what I'm feeling is anxiety, or if it's a real need...
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  What to Expect When Anxious and Fearful Avoidant Start to Heal 25.06.2026 1u 15min

  If you ever thought healing your attachment was impossible - here are two other people who were able to do it. Today I did something I never did before - I had a discussion with who I have witnessed working on healing their attachment styles. This episode gives you three certified coaches walking you through what healing looks like, our experiences in our past and current relationships, how attachment styles shows up and how we all react differently to triggers from a secure space...
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  What to Do When Avoidant Pull Away 04.06.2026 29min

  It’s crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do. On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation. We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us. This podcast is meant to ...
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  What To Look For When Dating An Anxious Attached 12.05.2026 31min

  You may have been dating and anxious attached and they seem put together. They are not the needy and clingy ones you heard about. They don't remind you of your ex who was needy and clingy. You might even think you're being tricked. Are they manipulating you? Chances are you have bummed into a not so rare gem. There are emotionally mature anxious attached gems that can behave in very secure ways and that is healthy for a long- term relationship. However, you don't want to sabotage these ...
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  What To Do When Male Partner Has Many Female Followers 06.05.2026 1u 4min

  This is an episode recorded for my instagram Wednesday live. These are the questions I answered for my followers there👇👇👇 My avoidant treats me like he’s a bf even we are not longer together for months. We have been on and off but he always treats me like his bf when we are together Does avoidant experiences physical symptoms when their relationships feel too much?What do you think of the opinion that avoidants generally cheat (emotional/phyical/leave doors open, etc)Why do DA cheat?Ho...
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  Client Shares Healing His Anxious Attachment 27.04.2026 1u 1min

  Healing an anxious attachment isn't easy but it is possible. My client agreed to sit down and share his journey - what he went through as an anxious attached person, what he has learned and how he continues to grow and feel empowered in his relationships. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
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  What It's Like to be A Fearful Avoidant 30.03.2026 1u 18min

  My client decided to share what it's like for her to be a fearful avoidant attached person. We often think that only men are avoidant attached but what happens when it's a woman. Client S shares how she thinks and feels when she gets overwhelmed and what it looks like to heal. She talks about what she is going through as she manages her emotions during a breakup and what she would do differently if/when she gets back with her partner. Join us for this one plus hour chat . I ...
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  How Secure Attached Breakup with Avoidant 15.03.2026 26min

  Secure attached people don't beg or chase when an avoidant wants to breakup. They also know when to call it quits...and in this episode - that is what we are discussing. We will discuss... - a secure attached timeline to a deciding a breakup, - how they communicate breaking up - what they heal during breakup - how they respond when avoidant circles back 🚶🏻‍♂️‍➡️Follow me on instagram for more insights into attachment styles. 🔁 Share with someone who needs to hear this....
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  What Avoidant Do During And After Breakups 18.02.2026 31min

  They act like they are over you the moment you breakup and that is crushing. But is that what they really feel? There are lot of "experts" on what avoidant attached person feel during breakups. I have on average 70 avoidant attached people on speed dial and I am sharing what they all say they go through during breakups. It's astounding how they all have the same breakup story. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts on this podcast. Much love, Annalisa I would ...
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  What to Look For In The First 90 Days Of Dating 02.02.2026 1u 20min

  I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating. I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with. I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you. This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work. I ...
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  Long Distance Romance With Avoidant Attached 29.01.2026 57min

  What happens when you've been in a long distance romance with an avoidant attached person and it feels intense even if you've just met a handful of times? You want answers... What is happening here? Can this be anything more? Why do they ghost me and return? As Sarah shares her stories, we try to find her answers that would soothe her troubles heart. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
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  How To Move On After Being Blindsided - Pre-recorded Session 22.01.2026 1u 4min

  What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away??? Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing. This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and th...
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  Breaking the Protest-Withdrawal Cycle Between Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic 19.01.2026 51min

  Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck. In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've lea...
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  What To Do When A Partner Breaks-Up With You 16.01.2026 20min

  Annalisa answers followers questions. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
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  Why Boundaries Work For Short Periods With Avoidants And How To Sustain them. Pre-recorded Session 15.01.2026 1u 2min

  What happens when someone who is working on their attachment style meets with an avoidant attached style person who may not be working on their healing - they set boundaries. How does that work out? Listen to this podcast as Sarah explains the hot and too heavy too soon dynamics of her relationship, setting boundaries and what happened next. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
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  "My Ex Moved On Like I Never Existed." Let's talk about it... 05.01.2026 29min

  You probably went through a breakup and was left wondering how your ex could appear like you never existed. This episode helps you to appreciate and understand what might be going on in the mind of your avoidant attached ex just after breakup - in case you're wondering - how can they move on as quickly, how can the stay away from texting you, how can they date so soon... And please don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It sure helps this episode get to others who need it.&...
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  Avoidants Discard People When They Get Too Close 29.12.2025 18min

  Let's unpack one of social media's most pervasive attachment theory takes: the idea that avoidants coldly "discard" people the moment intimacy develops. But what if this narrative is not only oversimplified - it's actively harmful? In this episode, we explore how reducing complex human behavior to viral soundbites can pathologize normal relationship struggles, create self-fulfilling prophecies, and prevent the very understanding that leads to secure relationships. Whether you iden...