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  031: Your Best Sex Might Still Be Ahead of You: Pleasure, Aging & Human Design with Linda Landon 16.09.2026 55min

  What if your sexual prime isn't behind you, but still ahead of you?This week on SIP with Summers, I'm joined by life and intimacy coach Linda Landon, creator of the Ignite Method and author of Pleasure Past Fifty.Linda's own sexual awakening didn't happen in her 20s or 30s. It began in her 50s, after decades of shame, disconnection from her body, and believing she was "frigid." Through tantra, pleasure practices, Human Design, and learning how to truly receive, Linda discovered an entirely different relationship with her body and sexuality. We talk about why menopause doesn't mean the end of great sex, how our cultural ideas about arousal can get in the way of pleasure, and why women can experience incredible sexual awakenings later in life. We also explore responsive desire, whole-body pleasure, getting out of your head and back into your body, and why pleasure doesn't have to be centered around orgasm. Then we dive into Human Design and what it might reveal about the way you experience desire, sexual energy, emotions, communication, and relationships. Linda explains Generators, Projectors, open and defined energy centers, and how understanding your own design and your partner's can create more compassion for the ways you're different. And of course, Linda reads my Human Design chart during the episode. Apparently I'm a highly empathic Generator with Sacral Authority, a LOT of openness in my chart, and an energy that's here to wake people up. Honestly, a few things about my life suddenly made a whole lot more sense. 😂 One of the most important reminders from our conversation is that Human Design isn't a compatibility test. Your chart doesn't determine whether a relationship will succeed or fail. Instead, Linda sees it as a tool for understanding yourself, taking responsibility for your own needs, and better understanding how your partner moves through the world. And when it comes to aging? Linda's message is one I absolutely love: more years can mean more wisdom, more joy, more authenticity, more connection, and yes, more pleasure. Our biggest takeaway? Pleasure is your birthright. 💗🎁 Linda's Free GiftCurious about your own Human Design?Linda is offering SIP with Summers listeners a free chapter from Pleasure Past Fifty. Chapter 5 explores how understanding your Human Design can transform the way you understand yourself and your relationships.The chapter also includes a link where you can receive a free individualized Human Design Bodygraph.Get your free Human Design chapter + BodygraphYou can also learn more about Linda, her coaching, and Pleasure Past Fifty at Ignite Your Joy.If this episode made you rethink what's possible for your sex life as you age, send it to a friend who needs the reminder that the best might still be ahead. 🔥Follow SIP with Summers for more honest conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, menopause, relationships, and all the things we're usually told not to talk about.Connect with [email protected]
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  030: From Roommates to Lovers: Why Desire Disappears & How to Bring It Back with Xanet Pailet 26.08.2026 47min

  What happens when the person you love starts to feel more like a roommate than a lover?This week on SIP with Summers, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach, bestselling author, and founder of Passionate Intimacy Retreats Xanet Pailet for a candid conversation about why desire disappears in long-term relationships and, more importantly, what couples can actually do to bring it back.Xanet knows this subject personally. After spending 26 years in a sexless marriage, she left both her marriage and her career as a healthcare attorney at 50 and began a completely new chapter. Today, she helps couples rebuild the emotional, physical, and erotic connection that can quietly disappear after years together.We talk about why a lack of sex is often a symptom of something deeper, how unresolved resentment and emotional disconnection affect desire, and why your "low libido" may not be the whole story. We also get into responsive desire, the importance of nonsexual touch, why being wet doesn't necessarily mean you're ready for penetration, mismatched expectations around sex, and why scheduling intimacy might actually be sexier than you think.Xanet also shares why emotional safety is such an important foundation for great sex and how simple practices like eye gazing, intentional touch, and getting curious about your partner again can begin rebuilding connection.And because this is SIP with Summers, we also talk about clitorises, vibrators, menopause, bad sex, and why sometimes the fastest route back to desire is simply making sex something you actually want to have.In this episode, we talk about:Why couples can become great roommates but stop feeling like loversXanet's experience in a 26-year sexless marriageWhy desire often goes underground instead of simply disappearingEmotional safety and its connection to sexual desireHow unresolved conflict and resentment affect intimacyResponsive vs. spontaneous desireWhy nonsexual touch mattersHow to start talking about a disconnected sex lifeWhether scheduling sex actually worksSex and intimacy during perimenopause and menopauseEye gazing and other practices for rebuilding connectionHow to make intimacy intentional, playful, and pleasurable againNot sure what you actually need to feel connected?Take Xanet's free Intimacy Equation Quiz. It's a quick 3-minute quiz designed to help you identify your unique intimacy formula and give couples an easier way to start conversations that can otherwise feel pretty damn awkward.You'll receive your results immediately, plus a follow-up explaining how your intimacy type interacts with others and additional resources for creating deeper connection.Take the quiz:https://howtoimprovemylovellife.comXanet and I also put together the Passion & Play Kit, designed to help couples get out of routine and explore touch, sensation, anticipation, and play together.The kit includes a blindfold and feather tickler, aromatherapy massage oil, a sensory glove, and fur handcuffs. Consider it your permission slip to stop doing the same three things you've been doing for years. 😉Get the Passion & Play Kit:https://summersoflove.com/products/passion-and-play-kitUse code XANET for a special listener discount.Because desire isn't necessarily gone. Sometimes it just needs the right conditions, a little curiosity, and an invitation to come back. ❤️
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  029: Am I a Lesbian? Coming Out Later in Life, Desire & Starting Over After 40 19.08.2026 40min

  What happens when your desire starts telling you a completely different story than the life you've built?Sarah Rutledge Fischer came out as a lesbian at 44 after nearly 20 years in a straight-appearing marriage. But her realization didn't happen overnight. For years, Sarah had quietly questioned her sexuality, pushed those thoughts aside, and continued doing what so many women are taught to do: take care of everyone else, follow the expected path, and ignore what her own body was trying to tell her.In this episode of SIP with Summers, Sarah joins Jennifer to talk about coming out later in life, compulsory heterosexuality, divorce, sexual desire, body connection, and what happens when women finally give themselves permission to ask, What do I actually want?Sarah shares how isolation during the pandemic gave her enough quiet to begin noticing the difference between recognizing that a man was attractive and actually feeling attraction in her body. We talk about why so many women reach their 30s, 40s, and beyond before questioning their sexuality, and how being raised to be a "good girl," people-pleasing, religious conditioning, and compulsory heterosexuality can disconnect women from their own desires.And yes, we talk about sex.Sarah describes experiencing a "second adolescence" after coming out, discovering a completely different relationship with pleasure, and realizing that sex doesn't have to follow the heteronormative script of penetration → orgasm → done. We also get into her now-famous toe-curling moment when she discovered that butterflies, desire, and yes, literally curling your toes over someone you're attracted to are very real.We also tackle one of the hardest questions for women questioning their marriage:What if he's a good man... but this still isn't the life you want?Sarah shares why loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you're meant to remain married to them, how her own divorce led her to become a mediator and divorce coach, and why leaving a marriage doesn't automatically mean destroying a family.In this episode, we talk about:• Coming out as a lesbian later in life• Questioning your sexuality in your 30s, 40s, and beyond• "Am I a lesbian?" and why that question can feel so terrifying• Compulsory heterosexuality and the pressure women feel to be chosen by men• Learning to recognize desire in your body• People-pleasing and losing connection with your own wants• Leaving a marriage when your husband is a "good man"• Divorce, identity shifts, and starting over in midlife• Sarah's experience of a second adolescence after coming out• Lesbian sex and stepping outside traditional sexual scripts• Taking orgasm off the pedestal and focusing on pleasure• Why your best sex may still be ahead of you after 40Whether you're questioning your sexuality, questioning your marriage, rediscovering your body, or simply realizing that the life you've built doesn't completely fit anymore, this conversation is an invitation to get curious about the quiet voice inside you instead of immediately shutting it down.Because pleasure is information. Desire is information. And your body may be telling you something worth listening to.Connect with Sarah:Thresholds Mediation https://thresholdsmediation.com/listenersFind her on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @ThresholdsMediationSarah also has a special coaching offer for podcast listeners at thresholdsmediation.com/podcast.Want to explore your own relationship with pleasure, desire, intimacy, or sexuality in midlife?Jennifer Marie Summers is a Board-Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, and Menopause Health Coach helping women reconnect with their bodies, their pleasure, and themselves.Visit SummersofLove.com to learn more about coaching, events, products, and everything happening in the Summers of Love universe.And if this episode made you think of someone, send it to her.
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  028: The Sex Clock: How Keeping Score Is Killing Your Desire with Dr. Lori Davis 12.08.2026 49min

  What happens when one person wants sex more than the other?Mismatched desire is one of the most common struggles couples face, but the problem may not actually be how often you're having sex. It may be what happens when desire, rejection, pressure, fear, and keeping score start taking over the relationship.In this episode of SIP with Summers, Jennifer sits down with Dr. Lori Davis, a board-certified Family Nurse Practitioner and AASECT Certified Sex Counselor who specializes in mismatched desire and brings together the medical, somatic, and relational sides of sexual health.We talk about the “sex clock,” that invisible countdown that starts after you have sex: How long has it been? When are we doing it again? Is my partner going to initiate? Are we becoming a sexless couple?And once that clock starts ticking, both partners can feel it.Dr. Lori explains why the lower-desire partner can begin to experience sex as pressure or obligation, while the higher-desire partner may experience rejection, anxiety, urgency, or fear about what a lack of sex means for the relationship.We also get into:• Why mismatched desire is normal, and why it causes so much suffering for some couples• What people misunderstand about “high” and “low” desire• Why pressure usually creates the opposite of desire• How your nervous system can affect your ability to access pleasure• The difference between feeling safe and feeling regulated• Why your automatic “ugh, not tonight” response might be worth getting curious about• How to talk about sex without having the conversation in the bedroom• What happens when women are the higher-desire partner• Why there is no magic number for how often couples “should” have sex• Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the surprisingly powerful Three Minute Game• How asking “How would you like me to touch you right now?” can completely change the conversation• How couples can stop treating each other as the problem and start working together against the dynamicAnd yes, we also discuss why a really good back scratch might deserve to be considered practically orgasmic.If your sex life has started feeling like pressure, rejection, obligation, or another thing you need to manage, this conversation is an invitation to stop keeping score and start getting curious.Your desire isn't a performance review. Your partner isn't the enemy. And intimacy is about a whole lot more than how many times you've had sex this month.🎙️ Guest: Dr. Lori DavisBoard-Certified Family Nurse Practitioner + AASECT Certified Sex CounselorWebsite: https://dr-loridavis.com/coachingGo here to learn more about how to work with Dr. Lori around sex and intimacy, and book a free one on one consult.💋 Connect with Jennifer:SummersofLove.com@theselfmadedivaIf this episode made you think of your partner, send it to them. Sometimes sharing a podcast is a whole lot easier than starting with, “We need to talk about our sex life.”
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  027: How to Heal Emotional Wounds, Find Your Purpose & Build Healthier Relationships | Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner 05.08.2026 40min

  Have you ever looked around and thought, "My life looks successful... so why do I still feel disconnected?"In this episode of Sip with Summers, I'm joined by Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner, psychologist, researcher, and creator of Noble Energy Maps®, to explore why so many people feel stuck even when everything appears fine on the outside.We dive into the connection between emotional wounds, self-awareness, relationships, purpose, and the importance of listening to your inner voice instead of simply pushing through life.Whether you're navigating burnout, relationship struggles, or simply wondering if you're living in alignment with who you truly are, this conversation offers plenty of thought-provoking moments and practical takeaways.In this episode we discuss:Why traditional psychology may miss an important piece of personal growthThe connection between emotional wounds and relationship patternsWhy communication is essential for self-awarenessHow feeling "stuck" may actually be protecting you from changeBurnout, purpose, and recognizing when you're out of alignmentPractical ways to reconnect with yourself through mindfulness and daily reflectionThe difference between values and needs in relationshipsWhy slowing down may actually help you move forwardOne of my favorite takeaways: Sometimes what feels like being stuck isn't a lack of motivation. It's fear of becoming someone you've never been before.Connect with Dr. EleanorLearn more about Noble Energy Maps® and take the free Four Worlds Self-Assessment:https://noblesciences.com/four-worlds-self-assessment/Noble Energy Maps® help you better understand your multidimensional nature by combining psychology, neuroscience, spirituality, and energy science into a personalized roadmap for greater clarity, purpose, and authentic living. Connect with Jennifer❤️ Coaching, parties, podcast, and resources:https://www.summersoflove.comFollow Jennifer on social media: @theselfmadediva
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  026: I Had 3 Boyfriends at Once... But This Conversation Is About So Much More | with Cidney G. Green 22.07.2026 35min

  What if we've been asking the wrong questions about relationships?This week on SIP with Summers, I sit down with author, entrepreneur, and relationship disruptor Cidney G. Green for one of my favorite conversations yet.Yes, we talk about her experience having three boyfriends at the same time who all knew about each other. But this episode goes much deeper than polyamory.We explore emotional security, jealousy, authenticity, communication, and why so many of us follow relationship rules we've never stopped to question.Cidney also shares insights from years as a phone sex operator and coach, discusses the emotional needs hidden beneath fantasy, and explains why her Erotic Sleepovers focus just as much on healing and consent as they do sexuality.Whether you're monogamous, ethically non-monogamous, or simply curious, this conversation invites you to think differently about love, desire, and creating relationships that actually fit your values.In This Episode✨ What having three boyfriends actually looked like✨ Why emotional security comes from within✨ Jealousy, triggers, and what they can teach us✨ Why authentic communication is harder than most people realize✨ The emotional truth behind sexual fantasies✨ What happens at Cidney's Erotic Sleepovers✨ Body confidence, sexual healing, and creating shame-free spaces✨ Why it's okay to question the relationship rules you've always acceptedConnect with CidneyInstagram: @cidney_greenWebsite: all3ofme.comBook: All 3 In MeAll3InMe.com is the go-to hub for everything Cidney G. Green—where listeners can pre-order All 3 In Me, explore her world of real, unfiltered conversations about love and relationships, and stay connected through her content, media, and exclusive offerings. If something in this conversation resonates, this is where you go to dive deeper, stay connected, and experience more.Connect with Jennifer🌐 ⁠SummersofLove.com⁠📸 Instagram and TikTok: @TheSelfMadeDivaBook a complimentary consultation call with Jennifer HERE: ⁠Consultation Call
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  025: Why Your Attachment Style Follows You Into the Bedroom 15.07.2026 39min

  Ever wonder why some people crave closeness after sex while others seem ready to grab a cheeseburger and move on?The answer might have less to do with chemistry and more to do with attachment.In this episode of Sip with Summers, I'm joined by attachment trauma practitioner and menopause specialist Bev Mitelman M.A. to unpack how our childhood experiences quietly shape our relationships, communication, desire, and what happens between the sheets.We explore why emotional safety is one of the biggest predictors of satisfying intimacy, why anxious and avoidant partners often find each other, and how perimenopause can amplify patterns that have been hiding beneath the surface for years.Whether you're dating, married, navigating menopause, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this conversation will help you stop asking "What's wrong with me?" and start asking "What shaped me?"In this episode, we discuss:❤️ What attachment styles actually are (beyond social media buzzwords)❤️ The four attachment styles:SecureAnxiousAvoidantFearful Avoidant (Disorganized)❤️ How attachment styles show up during sex❤️ Why anxious partners often use intimacy for reassurance❤️ Why avoidant partners may separate emotional and physical intimacy❤️ The surprising truth about aftercare❤️ Why people pleasing often begins in childhood❤️ Emotional safety vs. chemistry❤️ How perimenopause and menopause can magnify relationship struggles❤️ Why honesty is the foundation of intimacy❤️ How to begin becoming more securely attachedConnect with Bev Mitelman M.A.🌐 SecurelyLoved.com📱 Instagram: @securely_loved🎥 YouTube: Securely Loved🎵 TikTok: @securelylovedConnect with Jennifer🌐 SummersofLove.com📸 Instagram and TikTok: @TheSelfMadeDivaBook a complimentary consultation call with Jennifer HERE: Consultation Call 🎙️ Subscribe to Sip with Summers for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, menopause, pleasure, confidence, and relationships.If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with someone who could use this conversation.#PodMatch
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  024: How to Talk About Sex, Intimacy & Desire in Relationships with Sex Therapist Keri Green 02.07.2026 53min

  Sex, intimacy, desire, communication... why are the most important relationship conversations often the hardest to have?In this episode of SIP with Summers, I sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist Keri Green to talk about what really happens behind closed doors when couples stop communicating about sex.With more than 20 years of experience helping individuals and couples navigate desire, intimacy, body confidence, sexual trauma, relationship challenges, and communication struggles, Keri shares both her professional expertise and her personal perspective as a single mom who has navigated dating in her 40s. We explore why intimacy is about so much more than sex, how desire changes throughout life, what happens when attraction fades in long-term relationships, and why avoiding difficult conversations often creates more distance than having them. In This Episode We Discuss:What intimacy actually means (and why it's not just sex)Why communication is the foundation of a healthy sex lifeHow to start difficult conversations about sex with your partnerWhat to do when desire or attraction changes in a relationshipDating in your 40s and talking about sex early onThe impact of body image and self-confidence on intimacyHow novelty can reignite connection in long-term relationshipsSexual timelines and understanding your sexual storyHealing shame and sexual traumaWhy mutual masturbation may be one of the most underrated turn-onsQuestions every couple should ask each other this weekMemorable Takeaways💋 "Don't miss an opportunity for connection."💋 "Silence doesn't protect relationships. It creates distance."💋 "Desire changes, and that's normal."💋 "Comfort first. Pleasure second."💋 "Intimacy is so much more than what happens in the bedroom."Whether you're single, dating, married, navigating midlife changes, rebuilding intimacy, or simply curious about your own sexual journey, this conversation offers practical tools and compassionate insights to help you create deeper connection with yourself and your partner. Want to learn more about sex therapy, relationship communication, intimacy, desire, body confidence, or healing from sexual shame and trauma?Connect with Keri: If today's conversation resonated with you and you're interested in working with a certified sex therapist, visit ⁠Keri Green, LMFT & Certified Sex Therapist⁠ to learn more about her telehealth services and resources for individuals and couples.Connect with Jennifer: Sex Coaching • Menopause Coaching • Couples CoachingSummers of LoveFollow Jennifer on social: @theselfmadedivasex therapist, intimacy in relationships, relationship communication, women's sexuality, sexual wellness, libido, desire, dating in your 40s, body confidence, sexual trauma, sex therapy, healthy relationships, couples communication, intimacy tips, long term relationships, menopause and desire, responsive desire, pleasure, sexual health, relationship advice
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  023: Your Body Knows What It Wants: Reconnecting with Desire, Pleasure & Intimacy with Dr. Laura Jurgens 25.06.2026 48min

  What if your libido isn't broken?In this powerful conversation, Jennifer sits down with desire gap specialist and somatic sex coach Dr. Laura Jurgens to explore why so many people feel disconnected from desire, pleasure, and intimacy, especially in midlife.Together, they unpack the difference between low libido and disconnection, why so many women have learned to live in their heads instead of their bodies, and how stress, burnout, people-pleasing, and cultural conditioning can impact our relationship with sex.Laura shares her expertise on responsive desire, mismatched libido, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and the concept of "disembodied consent" while offering practical ways to reconnect with your body's wisdom and reclaim authentic intimacy.If you've ever wondered whether your desire is gone forever, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or felt disconnected from your pleasure, this episode is for you. In This Episode We Discuss:Why low libido is often misunderstoodThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desireHow stress, burnout, and midlife changes affect intimacyWhy getting out of your head is essential for pleasureReconnecting with your body through somatic awarenessThe impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on desireWhy mismatched libido feels so personalThe biggest mistakes couples make when navigating desire differencesWhat "disembodied consent" means and why it mattersHow obligation sex damages intimacyPractical ways to rebuild connection and desireWhy long-term relationships don't have to kill passionHow honesty and embodiment can transform your sex lifeConnect with Dr. Laura Jurgens🌐 Website: Laura Jurgens Website🎙️ Podcast: Pleasure Uprising Podcast📝 Substack: Pleasure Uprising SubstackFree Resource for ListenersLaura created a free guide exclusively for listeners:Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around IntimacyInside you'll learn:Why overthinking during intimacy is a nervous system response, not a personal failureHow to release shame and "should" thinkingBody-based practices you can use immediatelyHow to better understand your own desire patternsDownload it here:👉 Get Out of Your Head Free GuideConnect with Jennifer Summers🌐 Summers of Love📱 Follow Jennifer on social: @theselfmadediva🎙️ Subscribe to SIP with Summers for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, relationships, menopause, pleasure, and living fully in midlife.Because pleasure is your birthright... and awkward is our love language. 💋
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  022: Pleasure Is Your Birthright: Reclaiming Desire, Safety & Feminine Power with Kayla Moore 18.06.2026 58min

  What if low desire isn't the problem?What if feeling disconnected from your body, your pleasure, and your sexuality is actually a response to years of conditioning, stress, overwhelm, and disconnection?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Feminine Liberation Coach and Priestess-in-Training Kayla Moore to explore the connection between pleasure, safety, desire, feminine power, and the patriarchal messages many women have internalized throughout their lives. Together, we unpack what it really means to reconnect with your body, reclaim your pleasure, and create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. We discuss:✨ Why pleasure is so much bigger than sex✨ The connection between safety and desire✨ How shame and body disconnection impact intimacy✨ The mental load women carry and how it affects pleasure✨ The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine explained in a practical way✨ Why so many women struggle to ask for what they want✨ The role of community in healing and empowerment✨ Simple ways to reconnect with your body starting today✨ Why joy, creativity, and pleasure belong in everyday lifeWhether you're navigating low desire, relationship challenges, midlife transitions, or simply looking to feel more connected to yourself, this conversation offers insight, compassion, and plenty of permission to take up space.Connect with Jennifer🌐 Website: www.summersoflove.com📱 Instagram, Facebook, Threads & more: @theselfmadedivaConnect with Kayla Moore🎙 Liberation Wisdom PodcastLiberation Wisdom Podcast💌 Join Kayla's NewsletterNewsletter Sign Up🔥 Holy Rage CircleHoly Rage Circle
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  021: Sex, Good Sex, and Sacred Sex: Why Your Best Intimacy May Still Be Ahead of You 04.06.2026 48min

  Is all sex created equal?In this thought-provoking conversation, Jennifer sits down with psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex, and why intimacy may be the missing ingredient many couples are searching for.Drawing from more than 30 years of experience working with couples, Dr. Chalmer explains why great sex isn't about performance, technique, or getting everything "right." Instead, it starts with presence, honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to tolerate a little discomfort.Together, Jennifer and Dr. Chalmer discuss how intimacy creates deeper connection, why communication is more than just learning the right words, and how couples can navigate desire differences with grace rather than resentment. They also explore the concept of sacred sex, those rare moments when sexual connection becomes something larger than ourselves and connects us to meaning, spirituality, and awe. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, navigating midlife changes, or simply curious about creating more connection in your intimate life, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what truly makes sex fulfilling.In This Episode:✨ The difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex✨ Why intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to tolerate anxiety✨ How couples unintentionally lose connection✨ The role communication plays in creating better sex✨ Responsive desire and why "not in the mood" doesn't always mean no✨ Why lubrication, toys, and sexual tools are nothing to be ashamed of✨ Common misunderstandings men and women have about sex✨ Why many people experience their best sex later in life✨ How maturity can lead to deeper intimacy and connection✨ The powerful relationship philosophy: "Be kind, don't panic, and have faith"About Dr. Bruce ChalmerDr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist who has spent more than three decades helping couples build stronger, more connected relationships. He is the author of several books, including Reigniting the Spark, It's Not About Communication!, The Passion Paradox, and Betrayal and Forgiveness. He is also co-host of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast with his wife, Judy Alexander.Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer🌐 Website: Bruce Chalmer Official Website🎙️ Podcast: Couples Therapy in Seven WordsConnect with Jennifer🌐 Summers of Love📱 Follow Jennifer for conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, menopause, and living fully in every stage of life.
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  020: How the “Good Girl” Archetype Is Secretly Killing Your Relationship 28.05.2026 46min

  What if the very behaviors that made you feel lovable are the same ones disconnecting you from intimacy, desire, and authentic connection?In this powerful episode of SIP with Summers, Jennifer sits down with relationship and feminine embodiment coach Bella Krutik to unpack how “good girl conditioning” quietly shapes women’s relationships, boundaries, sexuality, and sense of self.Bella shares her deeply personal story of reconciling with her ex-husband years after divorce, and how embodiment work, nervous system regulation, and radical self-awareness transformed not only her relationship… but her relationship with herself.Together, Jennifer and Bella explore:People pleasing and lack of boundariesWhy over-functioning kills attractionThe connection between authenticity and libidoNervous system regulation and intimacyEmotional safety vs. emotional avoidanceThe “roommate phase” in long-term relationshipsFeminine embodiment and reconnecting to your bodyHow “good girls” become emotionally unavailableWhy pleasure requires vulnerabilityPlus, Bella guides listeners through a beautiful grounding and presence exercise you can try yourself.This episode is for every woman who has ever felt disconnected, resentful, emotionally shut down, or stuck performing a version of herself that no longer fits.Connect with Bella:Instagram: @bellakcoachingHead to Bella's Instagram page and either book a discovery call or download her freebies (these include a Relationship Reconnection guide and Pleasure Playlist to help you move into pleasure before a date night).Connect with Jennifer: 🌐 Summers of Love🎙️ All of her social links and upcoming events
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  019: Pleasure at Every Size: Reclaiming Desire, Confidence, and Connection in the Body You Have Now 11.02.2026 33min

  Pleasure is not a reward. It is a right.⁠Book a session⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Ask me anything⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop enhancement products⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop TOYS! ⁠In this episode of SIP With Summers, we are talking about pleasure at every size and why your body, exactly as it is today, is already capable of deep, satisfying, toe-curling pleasure.If you have ever thought:• “I need to lose weight first.”• “My body gets in the way.”• “I should hide myself during sex.”• “Sex isn’t as good in a bigger body.”This episode is for you.We are dismantling shame, debunking myths, and replacing them with real tools, real education, and real permission to feel sexy, powerful, and desirable right now.• Why pleasure is not conditional on body size or appearance• How shame shuts down arousal and how to gently release it• Body neutrality and why you do not have to love your body to enjoy pleasure• Simple embodiment practices that reconnect you to sensation• Pleasure anatomy basics, including why the clitoris is way bigger than you were taught• How plus-size bodies are not a barrier to pleasure, they are a pathway• Lube, toys, props, and positioning that support comfort and access• The best positions and pleasure hacks for plus-size and midlife bodies• How to ask for comfort and support in bed without killing the vibe• Three things you can try tonight to increase pleasure immediatelyThis is a shame-free, judgment-free conversation designed to help you feel more at home in your body and more confident asking for what feels good.I work with women and couples through intimacy coaching, body confidence, low desire, perimenopause and menopause transitions, and communication around pleasure. Coaching is available virtually and in person.I also host Sex-Ed Meets Stand-Up toy parties that are educational, fun, spicy, and inclusive of every body.If this episode resonated, please subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it.Your body is not a problem to solve.Your body is a pleasure source waiting to be explored.
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  018: Ask the Sexologist: Painful Sex, Desire Mismatch, G-Spot Myths & More 29.01.2026 23min

  Real, anonymous questions about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and everything we were never properly taught.Book a session⁠ | ⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠ | ⁠Ask me anything⁠ | ⁠Shop enhancement products⁠ | ⁠Shop TOYS! From painful sex without lube to why the G-spot can feel elusive, this episode is packed with practical, sex-positive education you can actually use. No shame, no fluff, just honest answers and tools that help you feel more confident in your body and your relationships.In this episode, we cover:• Why sex can suddenly feel painful without lube, even if it never used to• How arousal, aging, and perimenopause affect natural lubrication• Why lubrication increases pleasure, comfort, and sexual health• Recommended books for healing intimacy and deepening desire• What the G-spot really is and why it can be hard to stimulate consistently• How breath, mindset, and warming up the body support stronger orgasms• Why rushing foreplay makes orgasms harder, not easier• How to get out of your head and back into your body during sex• What to do when partners have mismatched libidos• Why intimacy does not always have to mean penetration• How toys can support connection, not replace it• Best positions and pleasure tips when trying to conceive• Body confidence, lights-off sex, and easing sexual insecurity• Simple, approachable ways to initiate intimacy and try new thingsJennifer also shares practical tools like breathing techniques, foreplay timing ideas, pleasure-first mindset shifts, and ways couples can communicate more openly about their needs without pressure or guilt.If you have ever wondered “Is this normal?” this episode is for you.✨ Have a question you want answered on the show?Submit anonymously at www.selfmadediva.comIf you enjoyed this episode, leave a review, share it with a friend, or send it to that group chat that definitely needs it.Stay curious. Stay turned on. And as always, keep sipping. 🍷
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  017: Ask the Sexologist: Libido, Menopause, Orgasms, and Real Talk 14.01.2026 31min

  Low libido. Stress. Menopause questions. Orgasms that feel impossible. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.Book a session | Join The Self Love Club | Elevated lubricant for 40+ women | Vulva balm | Ask me anything | Best intimate shaving cream | The Herpes Plug | Shop enhancement products | Shop TOYS! In this solo Q&A episode of SIP With Summers, board-certified sexologist and menopause coach Jennifer Marie Summers answers your anonymous questions about desire, stress, orgasms, menopause, vaginal dryness, pain during sex, sleep issues, body hair, herpes disclosure, and so much more.We talk about why anxiety kills desire, why foreplay matters more than you were ever taught, what’s actually happening in your body during perimenopause, and why not orgasming from penetration is completely normal.You’ll learn:• How to get in the mood without pills or supplements• Why stress directly affects libido and arousal• What helps with vaginal dryness and painful sex during menopause• When fertility actually ends and what perimenopause really looks like• Why so many women struggle to orgasm and what actually helps• How to talk to partners about pleasure, STIs, and shame-free sexThis is sex education without judgment, medical shame, or whispering. You’re not broken. You might just need better information and support.💬 Have a question you’re afraid to ask out loud?Submit it anonymously at selfmadediva.com and it may be featured in a future episode.
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  016: You Are Not Broken: Midlife Orgasms, Desire, and Menopause Care with Dr. Christine Hart Kress 29.10.2025 1u

  Host: Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, menopause coach in trainingGuest: Dr. Christine Hart Cress, DNP, APRN, WHNP-BC, MSCP. CEO of a telemedicine practice for midlife and menopause care, Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, Air Force veteran, co-host of The Dusty Muffin.If your brain says “let’s get it on” but your body says “let me sleep,” this one’s for you. We talk responsive vs spontaneous desire, why faking orgasms backfires, how clitoral stimulation actually works, and what evidence-based options can help with arousal and orgasm in midlife. We dig into testosterone, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, lube and moisturizers, and the not-so-sexy basics that change everything like sleep and stress. The theme of the day is empowerment. You are not broken.What we coverWhy most medical training skipped sexual health and how that is changingThe full clitoral anatomy and why penetration alone rarely does itResponsive vs spontaneous desire and how to work with bothTools that can help: vibrators, clitoral stimulators, and why solo practice mattersHormone therapy myths vs facts, plus when to consider transdermal optionsTestosterone for women, timelines, common dosing formats, and realistic expectationsAddyi and Vyleesi basics, where they fit, and cost access tips discussed in the showVaginal estrogen and DHEA for comfort, arousal, and orgasm supportWhy sleep, mood, strength training, and protein quietly drive libidoThe mindset shift that unlocks desire in midlifeResources mentionedVibrators and clitoral stimulators for blood flow and arousalTestosterone gel or compounded cream under clinician guidanceAddyi and Vyleesi as options for certain womenVaginal estrogen and vaginal DHEA for GSM comfort and orgasm supportDaily vulvar moisturizers and quality lubricants for pain-free playTalk to a qualified clinician to determine what is right for you.Find Dr. Christine CressTelemedicine practice for midlife and menopause careCo-host of The Dusty Muffin podcastBoards: Bite Me Cancer Foundation, Empower Scholarship FundWebsite | Instagram | YouTubeWork with JenniferSex and intimacy coaching for women and couplesPerimenopause and menopause coaching in trainingParties, workshops, and my podcast SIP With SummersShop Intimacy Products | Connect on SocialsEnchanted Rose Vulva BalmLubricants for sex, pleasure, and comfortDisclaimerEducational content only. Not medical advice. Consult your own clinician.midlife libido, perimenopause sex, menopause desire, clitoral anatomy, orgasm difficulty, testosterone for women, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, vibrator benefits, responsive desire
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  015: The Big O Decoded: Pleasure, Energy, and Orgasm Confidence with Dr. Stacy Friedman 15.10.2025 40min

  Welcome to SIP with Summers, the show where we talk about sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Today I’m joined by clinical sexologist and intimacy coach Dr. Stacy Friedman, host of The Purple Passion Project. We get real about orgasms, sexual energy, and how to trade performance pressure for pleasure.In this episode you’ll learn:The differences between clitoral, vaginal, cervical, anal, and blended orgasmsWhy sex is a transfer of energy and how to set an intention before you touchHow to shift from performance to pleasure so anxiety drops, and desire risesPractical ways to stay in your body when your brain will not shut upGentle first steps when sex is painful and how to advocate for your careToys as teammates, masturbation as education, and orgasm confidence for lifeListener questions we answer:“Why does oral feel good but I cannot finish?”“Do different orgasms feel different and how do I know which one I had?”“I clamp down because the kids are home. How do I get a full release quietly?”Resources mentioned:Dr. Stacy’s free PDF: Confessions and Lessons of a Sex Expert at DrStacyFriedman.comPodcast: The Purple Passion Project Follow Dr. Stacy everywhere: @drstacyfriedmanConnect with Jennifer:Instagram and TikTok: @theselfmadedivaCoaching and intimacy products: SummersOfLove.comPodcast on YouTubePlease note: This show contains frank, sex-positive discussion for adults. If you are healing from sexual trauma, listen with care and take breaks as needed.If this episode helped you, send it to a friend, rate the show, and leave a review. Pleasure loves company.orgasm, clitoral orgasm, vaginal orgasm, blended orgasm, cervical orgasm, anal orgasm, sexual energy, intimacy coaching, painful sex, dyspareunia, libido, masturbation, sex toys, womanizer, satisfyer, pleasure focused sex, sex education, sexologist, Dr Stacy Friedman, Purple Passion Project, SIP with Summers, Jennifer Marie SummersMyths, nerve endings, clit vs vaginal vs blended O’s, toys, painful sex care, and how to get out of your head and into your body.
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  014: Unlocking Your Inner Drive: How Libido and Mindset Fuel Your Hustle 01.10.2025 21min

  Ever feel like your hustle is stuck in neutral, no matter how hard you push? In this episode of SIP with Summers, I’m pulling back the sheets (literally and figuratively) to show you how your libido, mindset, emotions, body, and energy all work together to fuel your success, in and out of the bedroom.I share my own journey from toxic “think the worst” conditioning to a total mindset breakthrough that changed both my business and my pleasure life. You’ll learn why a wobbly “inner table” can sabotage your goals, how emotions get trapped in your body, and why orgasms aren’t just fun... they’re good for your health and your hustle.We’ll cover:🧠 How mindset blocks and negative self-talk kill your drive (and what to do about it)💓 The surprising link between emotions, body image, and business success⚡ Why energy is contagious and how to raise your vibration to attract more of what you want🛁 Sensual self-care, morning rituals, and products that help you feel unstoppable🍑 Yes, even the power of orgasms for stress relief, confidence, and glowThis episode is your permission slip to prioritize yourself, reclaim your pleasure, and turn that energy into unstoppable hustle. Because when you’re turned on by life, everything else follows.👉 If you loved this episode, don’t forget to leave a review, share it with a friend, or tag me on Instagram @TheSelfMadeDiva. And if you’re ready to go deeper, check out my free resources, coaching offers, and favorite self-care products at SummersOfLove.com.
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  013: Sexy Travel & Naughty Getaways: Exploring Clubs, Dungeons, and Hedonism with Will 17.09.2025 32min

  ⁠Click here to connect with JenniferEver wondered what really happens behind the doors of sexy clubs, resorts, and dungeons? In this steamy episode of SIP With Summers, I’m joined by my favorite travel partner, my boyfriend Will, to spill the secrets of “sexy travel.”We dive into:The difference between sexy travel vs. sex tourism (and why it matters).Hedonism II in Jamaica: what makes it the “wildest place on earth” and why couples keep coming back.How to find safe, reputable sexy spaces closer to home... from clubs to dungeons.Misconceptions that first-timers often have (and what’s actually true).How to set boundaries, agreements, and safe words before you play.Tips to avoid faux pas in sexy spaces (because no one wants to be that person).What monogamous couples can get out of these experiences, even without swapping or playing.Our favorite sexy (and surprising!) travel moments together.Whether you’re curious about booking your first sexy getaway, looking for confidence to explore locally, or just want a peek into the world of Hedonism, this episode will give you insights, laughs, and maybe a little inspiration for your next adventure.🍷 Grab a glass of wine and sip along because this is one of our juiciest episodes yet.👉 If you loved this episode, share it with your partner and start your own “what if we did this?” conversation.⁠Click here to connect with Jennifer
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  012: Sex Coaching and Intimacy Growth with Amanda Vee 03.09.2025 39min

  Join Jennifer Marie Summers, Board-Certified Sexologist and host of SIP with Summers, for a candid conversation with Amanda Vee, Board Certified Sex Coach and Sexologist. From her career shift into sex coaching to her mission of helping people reignite their passion, Amanda shares powerful insights into intimacy, relationships, and the journey of self-discovery.In this episode, you’ll learn:What sex coaching really is and how it differs from therapySimple ways to revive desire and deepen intimacyHow to shift old narratives around sexuality and pleasureTools for building confidence and connection in the bedroomIf you’re ready to expand your understanding of sexual wellness, explore intimacy on a deeper level, and discover what’s possible when you embrace pleasure, this conversation is for you.Connect with Amanda Vee:Website - Use code “SIP” for 15% discountInstagramAmanda regularly holds free virtual workshops on various sexual topics. Get on her email list to find out about which ones are coming up! Her next one will be in mid-September. Click here to connect with Jennifer