The Feminist Bar Podcast 🍸

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  Hunger Is Political : Aid, Debt, and the Architecture of Food Dependency 20.09.2026 58min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Zoe Samudzi to talk about food as a political weapon, in Gaza and in Zimbabwe alike. Gaza's perennial crop areas have been destroyed at devastating scale, its agricultural wells razed, its livestock sector collapsed. African countries spend billions each year importing food they were once capable of growing. Zoe and Tinatswe trace the mechanisms behind both, structural adjustment, export agriculture mandates, bombed farmland, blockades, and land dispossession that never fully got undone after independence. Different tools, same question, who controls whether people eat and why. This conversation looks at how that dependency gets built in the first place, and what dismantling it would actually require. Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast                
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  What the Body Holds: Generational Trauma, Lineage, and Healing Outside the Western Frame 10.09.2026 48min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with an anonymous guest to talk about how trauma actually moves through family lines, what the science of epigenetics can support and where it gets overclaimed, and how colonial violence and land dispossession still show up in nervous systems generations later. They spend time on where Western therapy falls short for Black and African women specifically, built on the assumption that healing is individual and language is the primary tool. The conversation opens into questions of identity and where you locate yourself in the world once you understand what you inherited without choosing it. Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast
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  A Boomer, Millennial, and Gen Z Feminist on Intergenerational Tensions and Movement Building 30.08.2026 1godz 1min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Rumbidzai Musonza and Sarudzayi Njerere to talk about the tension running through African feminist movements between generations. They get into who holds institutional memory, who controls funding and resources, and how that shapes the relationship between older and younger organisers. The conversation covers the line between mentorship and gatekeeping, what digital organising has changed and what it hasn't, and what succession actually looks like when one generation hands the work to the next. They also make space for what intergenerational love actually offers the movement, real mentorship, and the co-creation possible when generations choose to build alongside each other instead of around each other. Find a platform to listen here : linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast          
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  Dating for Love, Dating for Money: The Assimilation of Transactional Logic 20.08.2026 1godz 12min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with an anonymous guest to talk about the blurred line between romantic relationships and transactional arrangements. They ask what conditions push access to resources to the centre of intimacy, and what it means that the logic of sex work has moved into mainstream dating without any of the rights, clarity, or protection that would come with actually naming it that. The conversation holds that many women have no real economic alternative, and that the arrangement itself still deserves structural critique. It also asks what people say they want from relationships versus what they actually chase, and where that gap comes from. Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast Follow the podcast on social media:  x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast
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  a healer and a feminist on the role of spirituality in liberation movements 10.08.2026 48min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with healer, medium, and artist Thandiwe Gula Ndebele to talk about African spiritual traditions and their contested, generative place inside feminist movement building today. They start with the historical record, the mediums and spiritual leaders who held explicit roles in anti-colonial resistance and the gendered way colonialism went after those traditions specifically. From there they get into the tension inside African feminist spaces now, where feminists across faiths and practices all organise together, and who gets to lead reclamation when it happens and who gets left out of it. Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast Socials:  x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast
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  An Evening With a Queer Couple: Marriage , Love, and Getting On With It 31.07.2026 58min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with a queer couple to talk about building a marriage in a criminalised context. They get into coming into their own identities, transitioning within the relationship, and what it takes to hold each other through that kind of change. The highs, the lows, the fights, the lessons. This is what a real queer life together looks like, told by two people living it. Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast x.com/thefeministbarinstagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast
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  what about the boys? an educator & a feminist on schools, sons & girls education 20.07.2026 1godz 13min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Tapiwa Chikungwa, an educator with experience navigating schooling systems across several continents, to talk about what African formal education was built to produce and who it was never built for. They trace the gap between getting girls into classrooms and actually educating them once inside, what happens to girls who clear the access barrier and walk into schools that remain hostile to them, and who benefits from keeping girls undereducated without ever saying so directly. That same system is failing boys differently, leaving many of them pulled toward red pill content and increasingly resistant to female authority, while parents remain largely absent from the fight and teachers burn out inside a structure that was never built to sustain them either. Listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast Follow the podcast on social media:  x.com/thefeministbar instagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast
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  sex under patriarchy: obligations, norms & intimacy starvation 10.07.2026 1godz 6min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with two guests speaking anonymously to talk about sex as duty. Marriage teaches women that their bodies are owed to someone else on schedule, and this episode goes after what that actually does to a person over years. The guests name intimacy starvation directly: the exhaustion of being sexually active and still hungry for something real, because what’s on offer is obligation dressed up as intimacy. They pull apart the religious scripts, the legal architecture of marriage, and the tired myth that women simply want less sex, all of which work together to keep women performing desire they don’t feel and calling it normal.  Find a platform to listen here: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast   Follow the podcast on social media:instagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast  
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  The Polygamist: Sue Nyathi on Polygamy, Power and Patriarchy 01.07.2026 44min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Zimbabwean author Sue Nyathi, born and raised in Bulawayo and now based in Johannesburg. Sue is the author of The Polygamist, The Gold Diggers, A Family Affair, and An Angel's Demise. Her debut novel The Polygamist is currently one of the most watched shows on Netflix globally, reaching the top of the non-English chart across South Africa, Nigeria, France, Belgium and Jamaica within its first week of release. This conversation unpacks polygamy, power and patriarchy through a feminist lens. They get into what modern polygamy actually is and who it serves, educated women and the arrangements they accept, transactional relationships, the good father/bad husband split, and what women are left holding when patriarchal structures collapse. Find The Feminist Bar everywhere: Podbean: thefeministbar.podbean.comPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbarpodcastLinktree: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcastX: x.com/thefeministbarInstagram: instagram.com/thefeministbarpodcas  
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  money, men & the price of overcompensating: a girls night in chat 10.04.2026 47min

  Host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down to talk about money, women, and the cost of proving yourself in a world built to make you feel like you have something to prove. They get into the ways women overcompensate financially inside relationships, what it looks like to be extorted or swindled by someone who clocked your need to be seen as enough, and why patriarchy is the thing underneath all of it.Listen: thefeministbar.podbean.com Support: patreon.com/thefeministbarpodcast Everything else: linktr.ee/thefeministbarpodcast​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
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  Married. Christian. Mother. Then I came out as a Lesbian. 08.01.2026 50min

  In this episode of the Gay and African at Home series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with , a queer mother who came out later in life and somehow managed to raise a brilliant human while figuring herself out along the way.This conversation is full of laughter, tenderness, and honesty. reflects on motherhood as a site of curiosity, missteps, joy, and deep love. She shares how coming out reshaped her understanding of family, how parenting pushed her to be braver than fear ever allowed, and how humour, softness, and truth have become tools for survival.Together, Tinatswe and talk about building home as a living, breathing thing. A place where questions are welcome, where queerness is not whispered, and where motherhood does not require perfection. This episode reminds us that queer parenting is not just about protection, it is also about play, imagination, and choosing joy again and again.Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  Gay and African at Home Ep2: Making Home Safe for my Sister 15.12.2025 1godz 2min

  Gay and African at Home is a tender and necessary series that brings queer Africans and their families into intimate conversation. Through gentle storytelling and honest reflection, the series reveals how queerness, language, belonging, and family love unfold inside African homes.   In this episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Dorothy and her younger sister for a warm and layered conversation about identity, faith, and the quiet work of making home a safe place to return to. Dorothy reflects on growing up creative, writing lesbian erotica in her teenage years, and now DJing gospel music while holding the complexity and humour of that journey. She and her sister revisit their childhood, the unspoken expectations around sexuality, and the moment queerness entered their conversations in real and transformative ways.   Together, they explore what it means to love someone through uncertainty, how faith communities shaped their earliest understandings of desire, and how sisters learn to listen to each other with softness. This is a story about coming out, yes, but also about growing together. It is about the small, brave gestures that turn family into refuge, and the choices that turn a house into home for a queer person.   Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast: Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcast https://www.instagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast   Twitter/X: @thefeministbar https://twitter.com/thefeministbar   Patreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar https://www.patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  Gay and African at Home Ep1 : Church, Grief, Sexuality and Belonging 08.12.2025 55min

  Gay and African at Home is a tender and necessary series that brings queer Africans and their families into intimate conversation. In this opening episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with two sisters whose relationship has been shaped by shared faith, loss, and the unfolding of queer identity. They revisit the church pews of their childhood, the rituals that shaped their sense of belonging, and the grief that rearranged their lives in ways they did not expect.   Together, they talk about how sexuality first entered the conversation between them, the fears that surfaced, and the unexpected tenderness that followed. They reflect on how church teachings shaped their earliest ideas about love and selfhood, and how those ideas shifted as one sister came into her queerness.   This episode is a gentle holding of complexity. It explores the role of family in unlearning homophobia, the quiet ways siblings become allies, and the healing that happens when two people choose honesty over silence. It is a story about finding belonging again, not through institutions, but through each other. Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcast https://www.instagram.com/thefeministbarpodcast   Twitter/X: @thefeministbar https://twitter.com/thefeministbar   Patreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar https://www.patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  Understanding Abortion Access, Aftercare, and Legal Rights in Zimbabwe 23.10.2025 36min

  In this episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Edinah Masiyiwa, Executive Director of the Women’s Action Group, to unpack what safe abortion really means in Zimbabwe. Together, they explore the difference between safe and unsafe methods, what to do when complications arise, and how to seek post-abortion care safely and with dignity. Edinah also shares insights on navigating the law, protecting privacy, and understanding one’s rights when interacting with health workers or the police. A gentle yet urgent conversation reminding us that abortion is part of many women’s lives, and that care—not criminalization—saves lives. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  A on Motherhood : Childfree and thriving 15.10.2025 31min

  In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Amari, who is joyfully child-free by choice and thriving. Amari’s story is a simple yet powerful reminder of the many ways women can exist and imagine their lives. She reflects on how she has never struggled with the decision not to have children, nor with pressure from family, and how that freedom has allowed her to create a life full of meaning, ease, and joy. This is a conversation about choosing differently without apology, about the beauty of living outside of expectation, and about embracing the full spectrum of womanhood, motherhood, and everything beyond. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  T on Motherhood : Queer Mom Reflections 08.10.2025 33min

  In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Theo, a Zambian queer, masc-presenting mother, as she reflects on the layered journey of becoming a parent while navigating her queerness. Theo opens up about her own childhood and the cultural expectations that shaped her early ideas of family, children, and marriage. She speaks candidly about the realities of queer motherhood in Africa, from the contradictions and silences she has had to live through, to the moments of tenderness and love that anchor her relationship with her children. Now, looking back, Theo shares why she advocates for women to remain child-free if they can, speaking from a place of both regret and resilience. This is a conversation about love and responsibility, about questioning inherited scripts, and about the courage it takes to reimagine motherhood on one’s own terms. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  N on Motherhood : Tying my tubes at 27 01.10.2025 53min

  In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Naisula, a Kenyan woman who made the decision to tie her tubes at 27. Naisula shares what it was like to make such a permanent choice at a young age, reflecting on the questions she held, the clarity she felt, and the weight of stepping outside of deeply ingrained cultural expectations of marriage and motherhood. She speaks about her relationship to motherhood, how she came to embrace a child-free life, and the ways this choice continues to shape her sense of self and possibility. Her story opens up a tender conversation about joy, freedom, and imagination: the small pleasures of living life on her own terms, the expansive futures she dreams into being, and the courage it takes to define womanhood beyond motherhood. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  A on Motherhood : Going no contact with my mom 24.09.2025 50min

  In this episode of Conversations on Motherhood, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Ayanda, host of Actually Let’s Talk About It, as she opens up about the complexities of her relationship with her mother and the decision to go no-contact. Ayanda’s story is tender and layered, reminding us how deeply childhood experiences shape our sense of self, our desires, and our choices. She reflects on mother wounds and the unspoken weight they carry, the longing for connection, and the courage it takes to choose distance in order to heal. Together, we explore what it means to reimagine care when love and pain coexist, and how healing can unfold in many different ways — sometimes in closeness, and sometimes in letting go. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  T on Motherhood : Feminist raising a feminist 17.09.2025 38min

  In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Tendayi, a mother of a 9-year-old, to reflect on what it means to be a feminist raising a feminist. From going viral for taking her daughter to women’s marches to the quiet daily lessons of care, Tendayi shares the joys and uncertainties of preparing a child for a world that does not always reflect her values. She speaks about the influence of her own mother wounds, the weight of expectation, and the ongoing negotiation of what it means to “get it right.” This is a conversation about reimagining motherhood, about raising children with consciousness and courage, and about the vulnerability of wondering whether love and politics are enough to prepare them for the future. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar
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  Dean's Love Story : Self Discovery Gone Wrong 03.09.2025 42min

  In this episode of the Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Dean to hear their story of love and self-discovery. Dean opens up about navigating identity while in a relationship, from uncovering their gender identity to grappling with self-worth, and how these shifts ultimately led them to pull away. This is a tender, honest conversation about the ways we change, how relationships sometimes stretch or break under that change, and the lifelong work of coming into yourself. It’s a story about growth, endings, and the courage to choose authenticity over comfort. –––Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbar