The Ecology of Intimacy podcast: Sex, Love, Intimacy & Relationship Coaching for Women and Mothers.

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• The Great Theft: How Patriarchy Stole Women's Aliveness (And How We Find Our Way Back) 25.06.2026 48min

  In this episode I talk about what I call: "The Great Theft" which is the systematic disconnection of women from their bodies, their pleasure, their sensuality, and their innate aliveness. Drawing on the work of Dr Helen O'Connell, Tricia Hersey, Adrienne Maree Brown, trauma research, somatic healing, Tantra, and nervous system science, I begin examining how patriarchal systems, productivity culture, and generational conditioning have shaped our relationship to rest, sexuality, pleasure, and self-worth. This episode is an invitation to stop asking, "What's wrong with me?" and begin asking a different question: "What have I had to disconnect from in order to survive?"   So if you've ever felt exhausted, numb, disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you've somehow lost yourself beneath the weight of modern life, this conversation is for you.   Some of the key topics covered are: feminine embodiment, female sexuality, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, burnout recovery, intimacy, Tantra, women's wellness, trauma healing, pleasure, self-trust, embodiment, erotic aliveness, patriarchy, relationships, emotional wellbeing.       === VILATES•Website: https://www.vilates.com/    •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980         ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.  
• Why You Keep Attracting the Same Relationship Patterns: Childhood Trauma, Attachment Styles & Conscious Love with Riana Milne 18.06.2026 56min

  Why do we keep attracting the same relationship patterns, even when we desperately want something different? Today I'm joined by internationally renowned Trauma Recovery expert, bestselling author, and licensed Mental Health Counsellor Riana Milne to explore how childhood trauma shapes our adult relationships, attachment styles, self-worth, communication patterns, and capacity for love. Drawing on more than 26 years of clinical experience, Riana shares her Top 10 Childhood Traumas framework and explains how experiences such as emotional neglect, abandonment, bullying, addiction in the family, criticism, and unstable caregiving continue to influence our lives long into adulthood. If you've ever wondered why the same struggles keep showing up in your relationships, or why love sometimes feels harder than it should, this conversation offers profound insight, practical tools, and a hopeful path forward. Because healing your past may be one of the most powerful ways to transform your future.     === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://rianamilne.com/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachRianaMilne  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RianaMilne/videos  Podcast: Lessons in Life and Love === VILATES•Website: https://www.vilates.com/     •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB    •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980    === . ...Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Healing After a Toxic Relationship: Intimacy, Self-Love & Finding Yourself Again with Heather Melville 11.06.2026 49min

  What if the reason you stay in a relationship that hurts you has nothing to do with love and everything to do with self-worth? In this deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by relationship coach Heather Melville to explore the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, emotional abuse, self-esteem, body image, intimacy, and healing. Drawing from her own journey of leaving a long-term toxic relationship and rebuilding her life from the ground up, Heather shares the turning points that helped her reconnect with herself, reclaim her confidence, and discover what healthy love actually feels like. Together, we explore why so many women struggle to trust their needs, how criticism erodes self-worth, the connection between intimacy and emotional safety, and why healing isn't about becoming perfect, it's about learning to come home to yourself. We also dive into self-pleasure as self-care, body acceptance, boundaries, solo travel, and the courage it takes to choose a different future. If you've ever questioned your worth, felt trapped in a relationship that no longer serves you, or wondered whether healthier love is possible, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is possible, and that you deserve more than just survival.     === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.healthyrelationships.info/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthyrelationships.coach/  ===   VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980  ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.  
• The Truth About Desire in Long-Term Relationships: Sex, Intimacy & The Sure Thing with Elana Auerbach 04.06.2026 58min

  What happens when the spark fades in a long-term relationship? In this deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark, to explore why desire often changes over time, why intimacy doesn’t sustain itself without intention, and how pleasure can become a powerful practice for creating deeper connection. Together we discuss the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, the hidden resentment that can build around sex in long-term relationships, and why taking responsibility for your own pleasure can completely transform the dynamic between partners. We also explore pleasure as a form of personal liberation, nervous system regulation, and even social change.   So whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner, navigating a season of low desire, or simply longing for more aliveness in your relationship, this conversation offers a practical and deeply hopeful roadmap back to connection.   Resources Mentioned:The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark by Elana Auerbach   ===GUEST LINKS: FREE GIFT: A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire! https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/  FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach  ===   VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• The Body Remembers: Depression, Burnout, Feminine Energy & Somatic Healing with Alisha Kapani 28.05.2026 56min

  What if your depression, burnout, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm wasn’t your body betraying you… but your body communicating with you? In this episode, I’m joined by former Chemical Engineer turned Mind-Body Mentor Alisha Kapani to explore the profound connection between emotional suppression, nervous system healing, feminine energy, embodiment, chronic illness, self-worth, and the power of receiving. After experiencing severe depression for five years, Alisha shares how her healing journey completely transformed the way she understood emotions, sensitivity, feminine energy, abundance, and the body’s innate wisdom. Together, we unpack why so many women live disconnected from their bodies, trapped in hyper-independence, survival mode, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and chronic stress, and how healing begins when we soften enough to actually feel. This episode explores: why emotional suppression creates illness the difference between “wallowing” and welcoming emotions why women struggle to receive support the hidden cost of hyper-independence healing shame and worthiness wounds feminine embodiment rituals for everyday life and how reconnecting to your body can radically transform your life. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, emotionally numb, disconnected from yourself, trapped in survival mode, or longing to feel more alive, sensual, safe, and deeply nourished within your own body, this conversation is for you. This episode is an invitation to slow down, soften, and remember that healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about learning how to finally listen to the wisdom already living inside you.       ===GUEST LINKS:Website: https://www.alishakapani.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/alishakapani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisha_kapani/ === VILATES•Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• The Erotic as a Spiritual Path: Tantra, Deep Bliss, & Liberated Sensuality with Luna Agneya 21.05.2026 56min

  What if your sexuality was a pathway into deeper aliveness, intimacy, healing, and liberation? In this rich and expansive episode, I’m joined by Tantra educator, Sensualist, and Author Luna Agneya to explore the profound teachings within her book The Liberated Sensualist: The Modern Tantrika’s Guide to Embodied Awakening. Together, we dive into the deeper philosophy of Tantra beyond the clichés and unpack what it truly means to live as an embodied, erotically alive human being in the modern world. This conversation explores liberated sensuality, nervous system healing, and the transformative power of the erotic as a spiritual path. We discuss: Nondual Tantra and embodied awakening The difference between performative sexuality and authentic erotic embodiment Somatic healing and trauma-informed intimacy Female pleasure, arousal, and liberated sexuality Nervous system safety and emotional intimacy Why desire fades in long-term relationships Deep bliss, sensual liberation, and erotic aliveness beyond the bedroom This conversation is an invitation to move beyond shame, performance, and disconnection and into a more liberated, embodied, emotionally honest relationship with yourself, your body, your pleasure, and your capacity for intimacy. If you’ve been longing for a deeper conversation around Tantra, embodiment, sexuality, healing, and the erotic, then this episode is for you.   === GUEST LINKS: Book: https://www.lovethatliberates.com/liberated-sensualist-bookCourse: https://www.sensualarts.school/ For Leaders/Facilitators: https://www.evolvingeros.com/ Substack: https://lovethatliberates.substack.com/    === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980  ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• The Erotic as Liberation: Audre Lorde, Patriarchy, Pleasure & The Erotic as a Pathway to Power 14.05.2026 44min

  In this deeply personal and politically charged solo episode, I explore the systematic deconstruction of women’s sexuality, sensuality, and erotic power through the lens of feminism, nervous system science, somatic embodiment, and Audre Lorde’s groundbreaking essay Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power. Join me as I unpack the difference between objectification and true erotic embodiment, the long history of patriarchal control over women’s bodies, the medicalisation and pathologising of female sexuality, and why so many women feel disconnected from pleasure, desire, and aliveness. I also explore the wisdom of pre-patriarchal goddess cultures, sacred sexuality traditions, and the profound healing available through trauma-informed somatic work. This episode is an invitation to remember that your body is deeply intelligent. And reclaiming your pleasure, your voice, and your erotic sovereignty may be one of the most radical acts of healing available to us. Topics include: Audre Lorde and the erotic as power Patriarchy and women’s sexuality Nervous system safety and embodiment Sexual shame and objectification Tantra, Taoism, and female pleasure Erotic sovereignty and reclaiming desire Female sexuality beyond performance If this conversation moves something in you, please leave a review and share the episode with someone who may need it too 🩶     === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === ....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Beyond Orgasm: Rewriting the Story of Female Sexuality with Jane Garnett 07.05.2026 49min

  Join me in this deeply expansive episode as I sit down with Therapist, Psychedelic Integration Guide, Filmmaker, and host of the Sex, Psychics & Psychedelics podcast, Jane Garnett, for a conversation that completely reframes sexuality, intimacy, pleasure, and feminine aliveness. Together, we explore the hidden stories women carry about sex, desire, performance, orgasm, relationships, and what it really means to feel alive in your body. This episode is an invitation to unlearn the scripts of patriarchal conditioning, perfectionism, and performative sexuality and return to what feels true. Jane shares powerful reflections on: Why sexuality is not something you “achieve” but something you listen to The pressure many women feel to be endlessly orgasmic, available, and sexually “successful” How intimacy deepens when we release expectations and surrender to sensation Why midlife often becomes a portal into sexual reinvention and truth The importance of permission, rest, softness, and slowing down This conversation is soulful, provocative, liberating, and deeply human. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, confused by your changing sexuality, or exhausted by the pressure to “get it right,” this episode will feel like a long exhale. Because maybe your sexuality was never meant to fit inside a script. Maybe it was always meant to evolve.   If this episode resonates, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs these conversations too.     === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.bananajane.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebananajane  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thebananajane Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/sex-psychics-psychedelics/id1564572945  === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• When Trauma Becomes Identity; Reclaiming Your Body, Your Pleasure, and Your Sense of Self with Ashley Miley 30.04.2026 53min

  In this deeply intimate conversation, I’m joined by Sacred Intimacy Coach and Ordained Priestess Ashley Miley to explore what it actually means to come home to your body after trauma, disconnection, and years of learned self-abandonment. We speak about the kind of healing that goes beyond understanding and into embodiment. The kind that asks you to feel what you have spent years avoiding. The kind that invites you back into your own nervous system, your own pleasure, and your own truth. Ashley shares her personal journey through sexual trauma, emotional disconnection, and the long, often solitary process of rebuilding a relationship with her body. Together, we explore the difference between talking about healing and actually living it through sensation, breath, and presence. This episode gently unpacks: • Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough for deep sexual and relational healing• How trauma lives in the body and why embodiment is the pathway forward • The role of the nervous system in creating safety for intimacy and pleasure• How we unknowingly build identities around trauma, and how to soften those identities• The truth about “coming home to yourself” and why it changes everything• What it means to move from seeking love externally to cultivating inner sacred union• How pleasure becomes a reclamation of power, not performance This is a conversation for the woman who has done the work, read the books, tried to understand herself, and yet still feels a quiet distance from her body, her desire, or her sense of aliveness. You're not broken. There is nothing missing. There is simply a deeper layer of you waiting to be felt.     === GUEST LINKS === •Website: thesacredintimacytemple.com •Join Email List Here: https://thesacredintimacytemple.com/email-list             LINKS ===   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  •Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 . . . .   Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• There’s Always More: Expanding Pleasure Across a Lifetime, Why Sexuality Doesn’t Decline, It Evolves with Susan Bratton 01.04.2026 1godz 1min

  There comes a point, often in midlife, where something begins to shift. You might notice it in your body first.A subtle disconnection. Or a sense that intimacy has become something you think about, rather than something you feel inside yourself. And for many women, the question that follows is so deeply personal it’s rarely spoken out loud. “Is something wrong with me?” In this conversation, I’m joined by the Incredible Intimacy expert Susan Bratton, and together we explore what sits underneath that question with honesty, nuance, and care. We talk about the difference between libido, desire, and arousal, not as clinical concepts, but as lived experiences inside the female body. We explore how many women have been shaped by conditioning that prioritised performance over sensation, and how that disconnect can quietly follow us into midlife. This episode opens a different perspective. One where your body is not failing, but responding intelligently. Where desire is not something you’ve lost, but something that you may never have fully met yet. We explore: • Why low libido is often a misunderstanding, not a deficiency• How female arousal actually unfolds in the body• The impact of cultural conditioning on pleasure and intimacy• Why pleasure can deepen and expand over time• How communication becomes a bridge back to intimacy.   Susan reminds us that this chapter of life is not about going backwards, it’s about meeting yourself in a new way, with more awareness, more honesty, and more permission than you’ve ever had before. So much so, that now, in her sixties, she's having the best sex of her life.  So if you’ve felt disconnected, unsure, or even curious about what’s still possible for you in midlife and beyond, then this conversation will light a fire in your belly and let you know, that when it comes to sex and pleasure, there's always more! === GUEST LINKS: Susan Bratton: Website: https://betterlover.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• The Burnout Cure We Were Never Taught; How the Intersection of Art & Neuroscience Can Heal Our Nervous Systems with Lexi Reid. 12.03.2026 53min

  In today's conversation I speak with Lexi Reed, a Creative Wellness Coach whose work sits at the intersection of neuroscience, creativity, and nervous system regulation.  After years working in a highly successful STEM career, navigating high-pressure scientific environments and experiencing profound burnout during the pandemic, Lexi discovered something unexpectedly powerful and it changed everything for her.  What began as a small act of creativity opened a doorway into something much deeper. A deep shift in the nervous system from fight or flight into rest and repair. A reconnection with sensation, creativity, and the parts of the brain that modern life so often neglects. A realignment with what felt true and had meaning.  In this episode we explore how art, play, and sensory creativity can become a pathway back from burnout, particularly for high-achieving women who have spent years living primarily in their minds. Together we explore: • Why creative expression regulates the nervous system in ways thinking cannot• How sensory practices move us from rumination back into embodiment• The hidden emotional labour many women carry in professional environments• Why burnout often arrives quietly and accumulates over time• How creativity unlocks insight, problem-solving, and emotional clarity Lexi shares beautiful visual exercises she uses with clients, including practices that help women map their energy, recognise what drains them, and reconnect with what genuinely nourishes them. What emerges through our conversation is something both ancient and deeply needed in modern life. Creativity is not frivolous.It is not indulgent. It is one of the ways human beings regulate, process emotion, and return to themselves. For women who have spent years performing competence while quietly depleting their own reserves, this conversation is for you.    ===GUEST LINKS:   FREE OFFER: Free 5-Day Creative Reset Challenge: https://subscribepage.io/UbjddV  Website: https://mindartwellness.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-j-reid/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexireidstudio/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindArtWellness  === VILATES   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Why Most Women Have Never Experienced Real Intimacy; Dévashi Shakti on Patriarchal Sex, Somatics & Reclaiming Female Power 05.03.2026 56min

  Today I'm exploring one of the most invisible yet influential forces shaping modern relationships and sexuality: patriarchal conditioning around sex and intimacy. I’m joined by Devashi Shakti, the Founder of Tigress Yoga and a trail blazing, pioneer of female embodiment, somatic healing, and sensual sovereignty. Together we unpack the cultural paradigm that has taught women to disconnect from their instincts, override their sensations, and orient intimacy and pleasure around the male experience. This conversation opens a profound inquiry into what becomes possible when women begin to reclaim their nervous system sovereignty, sensual intelligence, and embodied authority. We explore: Why most women have never experienced the full potential of intimacy The impact of patriarchy on women’s nervous systems and sexuality The orgasm gap and the deeper cultural roots behind it How women reclaim sensual vitality, instinct, and personal authority What intimacy could look like beyond patriarchal conditioning Devashi also shares the origin story behind Tigress Yoga, a groundbreaking embodiment practice devoted to restoring women’s instinctual power, sensual vitality, and emotional autonomy. For decades, her work has guided women back into direct relationship with the wisdom of their bodies, long before somatic healing and nervous system regulation became mainstream conversations. This episode is an invitation to question what we’ve inherited about sexuality, and to imagine a new paradigm of intimacy rooted in mutual thriving, flourishing, and pleasure... beyond the patriarchy.    ===GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.thetigresspath.com/  Podcast: Beyond Patriarchal Sex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetigresspath/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devashi.tigress/  === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.  
• From Overwhelm to Embodied Power in Motherhood; Reparenting Your Inner Child, Reclaiming Your Energy & Regulating Your Nervous System with Rubina Chadha 26.02.2026 59min

  Motherhood cracks us open. It slows us down. It strips us bare. And confronts us with parts of ourselves we didn’t even know were still running the show. In this deeply nourishing conversation, I sit down with internationally recognised mindfulness educator, trauma-informed coach and the founder of Inner Design™, Rubina Chadha, to explore what it really means to come home to yourself, through motherhood, through intimacy, and through the breath. We talk about sleep deprivation and nervous system overwhelm. About over-giving, depletion, and losing yourself in the relentless pace of modern life. About how our children mirror our unhealed parts and how parenting can become one of the most profound spiritual initiations we will ever walk through. Rubina shares powerful, practical tools for emotional regulation and embodied presence, including micro-mindfulness practices you can use in the middle of a chaotic day. We explore how breath-work can regulate your emotions in real time, how intimacy begins within your own body, and why true connection requires presence, not performance. We explore: How motherhood becomes a gateway to reparenting your inner child The nervous system science behind breath and emotional regulation Why intimacy is an internal experience first, not something someone else gives you How unresolved stress quietly limits your life force and creativity And simple grounding practices to return you to yourself in minutes This is a conversation about clearing the debris of old conditioning. About reclaiming intimacy, not just in partnership, but with your own breath, your own truth, and your own energy. Because when you learn to be deeply present with yourself, everything changes. And that is where real intimacy begins.       ===   GUEST LINKS:   Website: http://theinnerdesign.com   Website: https://www.womeninpowertv.com/rubina-chadha63221754    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theofficialrubina    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rubina-c   . === VILATES   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/   •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Red Flags, Self-Abandonment & Sacred Grieving: How to Reclaim Self-Trust After Separation, Trauma & High-Conflict Relationships with Chavisa Horemans. 19.02.2026 49min

  There’s a moment, sometimes quiet, sometimes seismic, when you realise you’ve been overriding yourself for years. You said yes when your body whispered no.You dismissed the niggling feeling.You explained away the red flags.You told yourself it wasn’t “that bad.” And now you’re exhausted. In this deeply powerful conversation, I sit down with Chavisa Horemans, a Trauma-Informed  Divorce, Co-parenting, and Chronic health coach for women going through major life transitions, and we talk about what happens when women finally come home to themselves, after abuse, after coercion, and after years of self-abandonment. We explore: The subtle red flags most women are conditioned to ignore Why having sex when you’re “not in the mood” can be a warning sign Post-separation abuse and hidden power dynamics The difference between transforming trauma and transmitting it Sacred grieving as a path to radical self-trust How patriarchy disconnects women from their intuition And what it really means to rebuild your relationship with yourself after everything falls apart This episode is for you if you've ever felt like something isn’t right but haven't been able to find the words to articulate it. Or if you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, high-conflict relationships, or a season of high complexity. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I trust this feeling?”This conversation is your answer. You can. And you must. Let this conversation be the beginning of your return.     ===   GUEST LINKS:   Website: https://www.themothercorp.com/    Red Flag Workshop: https://www.themothercorp.com/learn-red-flags    Secure end-to-end encrypted Email:  themothercorp@proton.me   . ===   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/   •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Midlife Sexuality, Perimenopause, & Reclaiming Pleasure After 40: Finding the Fire You Never Had with Dr Kelly Barron 11.02.2026 58min

  What if midlife isn't the crisis society tells us; but rather the beginning of finding your fire? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Kelly Barron, founder of Tempesta and the Dr. KellFire show.  She's a Chiropractor, Licensed Acupuncturist, Certified Menopause Specialist, Sexual Health Alliance Coaching Candidate, and fierce advocate for women reclaiming their sexuality in midlife. Together, we explore what happens when women stop trying to “get back” to who they were in their twenties… and instead discover a fire they may never have known. Kelly shares her extraordinary journey, from surviving a violent assault to becoming a champion powerlifter, MMA fighter, and leader in menopause and sexual health. Her story is one of resilience, reinvention, and radical self-ownership. But what moves me most in our conversation is her unwavering devotion to helping women understand this truth: Midlife is not the end. It is your peak. We speak honestly about: The medical gaslighting so many women experience in perimenopause and menopause Pelvic health, libido changes, GSM, and why “use it or lose it” matters The performative sexuality many of us were conditioned into, and how to unlearn it Why communication (with yourself and your partner) is everything The evolutionary power of menopause Reclaiming pleasure as a portal back to your feminine energy Falling in love with yourself as your first love relationship. We also dive into ritual, nervous system regulation, sisterhood, and why gathering together in community is medicine. If you’ve ever felt flat, lost, invisible, or disconnected from your body, If you’ve wondered where your libido went, or even if you ever truly claimed it, This episode is for you. Because the truth is: your sexuality is not something you outgrow. It is something you grow into. And midlife might just be the most exquisite chapter yet.   ===GUEST LINKS=== Website: https://drkellfires.com/  Website: https://mytempesta.com/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-kellfire-show/id1755062663   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkellfire/  ===LINKS=== Website: https://www.vilates.com/  Free Resource: Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.  
• The Erotic Nervous System:
How Safety, Sensation, and Pleasure Rewire the Body with Megan Millington 03.02.2026 1godz 6min

  Welcome to Season Two of The Ecology of Intimacy. We’re kicking off 2026, the Chinese Year of the Fire Horse, with an invitation into movement, change, courage, and aliveness. Intimacy, like life itself, is always changing. Our bodies, desires, relationships, nervous systems, and erotic lives are constantly evolving, and this conversation is about learning how to ride those waves rather than resist them. I’m joined by Trauma-informed, Sexuality Coach Megan Millington, whose work in erotic re-patterning is helping women and men reclaim pleasure, safety, and deep intimacy from the inside out. Together, we explore why so many women experience low libido, numbness, disconnection, or shame and what lies underneath those layers. We talk about how early experiences, trauma, stress, motherhood, religious conditioning, medicalised sexuality, and cultural myths all shape our understanding of desire. And Megan shares her own journey from believing she was broken, even asexual, to discovering that her body was simply protecting itself. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful truth: desire returns when safety is restored. We explore: Why low libido is often a nervous system response, not a diagnosis How emotional, somatic, spiritual, and energetic safety impact arousal and orgasm The myth of performative, intercourse-based sex and the orgasm gap Why pleasure is not frivolous but a powerful technology for healing and regulation How intimacy can be woven into everyday life, even during exhaustion, parenting, grief, or change Why you're not broken and how your body is deeply intelligent This episode invites you to question the sexual narratives you’ve inherited, and begin rebuilding intimacy in a way that honours your body’s timing, wisdom, and truth. 
• You’re Not Broken: Why Low Libido is a Lie and How Learning the Deep Intelligence of Womens Sexuality and Desire System is the Key. 19.12.2025 42min

  As we come to the close of Season One of The Ecology of Intimacy podcast, I wanted to pause, reflect, and say a heartfelt thank you for being a part of this journey with me. This episode is both a love letter and a deep exhale. It’s a celebration of the conversations we’ve shared about sexuality, intimacy, pleasure, women’s bodies, relationships, and what it truly means to feel alive in ourselves and to give ourselves permission for pleasure. To close out 2025, I’m sharing highlights from two of our most-loved, most-downloaded conversations. First, Somatic Sex Expert Susan Morgan Taylor unravels the deeply ingrained myth of “low libido” in women. We explore why so many women are mislabeled, misunderstood, and pathologised, and how education, embodiment, and somatic sexuality can radically transform desire, orgasm, and connection. Then, the Incredible Intimacy Expert Lauren Elise Rogers brings us into a tender, revolutionary conversation about body criticism, self-permission, and pleasure. We explore how the way we speak to ourselves, especially about our bodies, directly impacts our ability to feel desire, intimacy, and orgasmic aliveness. Her message is clear and deeply reassuring: you are not broken, the sexual scripts are. This episode is an invitation to soften, to unlearn, to remember, and to step into a more pleasure-filled, deeply embodied relationship with yourself and with your life. As we prepare for Season Two in early 2026, my hope is that these reflections nourish you, inspire you, and remind you why your intimacy matters. Thank you for walking this path with me. I’m so grateful you’re here. Season 2 begins January 2026         ===LINKS=== •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• Why You're Fighting Over Costco Receipts (And What It Really Means): Healing Relational Patterns with Monica Tanner. 10.12.2025 48min

  Wow, this conversation completely shifted how I think about marriage and relationships. You know how we're always told that marriage is all about compromise? Well, what if I told you that's actually terrible advice and it's been keeping you stuck? Today I'm speaking with Monica Tanner, an incredible  Relational Life Therapy trained Relationship Coach who literally wrote the book on Bad Marriage Advice (and yes, that's the actual title!), and she absolutely blew my mind. We dove deep into why so much of the traditional wisdom we've been taught about relationships is actually sabotaging our happiness. And what hit me hardest: was how we've been sold the idea that marriage or any successful long term relationship is all about compromise, but that compromise actually makes us start to silently keep score of who gave up what. So Monica introduces this beautiful concept of collaboration instead of compromise. It's about getting what she calls compassionately curious about what matters to you AND what matters to your partner, and WHY, and then using that to create something even better together. We also talked about how we can approach extended family dynamics as the holidays approach, you know that feeling of dread mixed with excitement? That pull back into old family dynamics and the stress so many of us feel at a time of year that's meant to be joyful? Monica helped me understand why that happens and, more importantly, how to navigate it without losing yourself or your relationship in the process. But what's really stayed with me was this idea that our inner children are often running the show in our relationships. All those adaptations and coping mechanisms we created as kids to survive? They're still playing out in our relationships as adults, our communication patterns, our fights over things like Costco receipts (yes, we went there!). But the beautiful part is that once we understand this, we can start to heal and make different choices and begin to shift the patterns that have kept us stuck. This conversation reminded me that nothing has gone wrong when relationships feels hard, it's just that it's time to grow. So if you've been feeling stuck, or like you’re more roommates than lovers, if you're navigating those tricky family dynamics or just wondering how to communicate without everything turning into a battle, this episode is for you. My intention for this episode is that is supports you to navigate the coming holidays and festive season with less stress, and relational triggers, and with more ease and grace. Enjoy.  ===GUEST LINKS:OFFER: https://badmarriageadvice.com Website: https://monicatanner.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage.=== •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.
• When "How Can I Help?" Makes You Want to Scream: Let's Talk Emotional Labor, ADHD, and the Fair Play Solution with Dr Regina Lark. 02.12.2025 44min

  Join me in this powerful conversation with Dr. Regina Lark about the invisible work that keeps all our homes and lives running, but that ultimately leaves us completely exhausted. In this episode, we dive deep into emotional labor, and the mental load, and why as women, we're constantly doing the behind-the-scenes work that no one sees or values. Dr Regina has a PhD in women's history and runs a professional organizing and move management company, and she brings a refreshing perspective on the work of household management, decluttering, and the cognitive skills required to keep everything together and running smoothly. We talk about the reality of being the "default parent," the one who's always doing the mental math (like figuring out if we need to to feed the kids by 5:30pm so we can get to the sitter by 6pm so we can make it to that 7pm concert). Sound familiar? Yeah, me too! Regina explains how the work we do at home requires the exact same executive function skills that professionals use in the workplace and that business leaders require to succeed, skills like; planning, processing, sequencing, time management. Yet somehow when we're doing it at home, it's dismissed as "just women's work" or a "labor of love" instead of being recognized as the actual labor and never-ending workload that it is. We also get into ADHD in women, chronic disorganization, and why so many of us are just now discovering we've been struggling with executive function challenges our whole lives. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by clutter, asked permission to throw something away, or wondered why your partner doesn't just see what needs to be done, then this conversation is for you. Regina introduces the concept of radical delegation and shares the game-changing Fair Play method (with actual playing cards!) that helps couples divide household responsibilities equitably. And makes the invisible work we all do, so much more visible. We talk about weaponized incompetence, the dreaded "how can I help?" question, and practical ways to create a household where everyone actually wants to live. This isn't just about organizing your home, it's about re-organizing your life, setting boundaries, asking for help, and recognizing that you deserve support with the enormous amount of work required to keep a house running, the very work that holds the entire fabric of our society together! So whether you're a working mom, managing a household solo, or trying to balance career and family, this conversation will make you feel seen and give you tools to create real change. Join me for this honest, compassionate discussion about women's work, gender equity, household equity, and what it really takes to lighten the load we've been carrying for far too long.   ===   GUEST LINKS: Website: https://aclearpath.net/ Website: https://www.reginalark.com/ Book: https://www.reginalark.com/emotional-labor/   https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Labor-Womans-Never-About/dp/B09HG6C5GF/ref=sr_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=regina+lark&qid=1633128045&s=books&sr=1-12   RESOURCES: The Fair Play Policy Institute: https://www.fairplaylife.com/ Fair Play Cards: https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards Institute for Challenging Disorganisation: https://www.challengingdisorganization.org/   . === •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the
• The Hidden Map to Female Power: Thresholds, Portals, and the Four Female Life Cycles 11.11.2025 42min

  This episode is a fiery, truth-telling conversation on the four true phases of a woman’s life: Child/Maiden, Mother/Creatrix, Maga/Healer, and Wise Woman/Crone. And how patriarchal culture’s obsession with youth keeps women disconnected from their real power. We unpack how to reclaim every stage of your life as sacred, to honour your desires as your soul’s GPS, and step fully into your creative, erotic, and spiritual potency at any age. Leaving behind what no longer serves you, and claiming the power that's always been yours.  It’s raw, real, and a radical reclamation of womanhood beyond the patriarchy’s script. So often we’re told there are only two stages in a woman’s life; young and old. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Each stage of our life cycle carries its own gifts, power, and sacred purpose. From the innocence and exploration of the Maiden years, to the creative fire and mastery of Motherhood and Creatrix, through the potent healing and truth-telling of the Midlife Maga and Healer, and into the deep wisdom and spiritual power of the Wise Woman and Crone; each phase is a portal into greater wholeness. Each cycle carries the stories of our ancestors and the lineage of women's wisdom that we feel in our bones, that we all know in our quieter moments.  This is a tender, fierce, and deeply affirming episode. It's my love letter to every woman who’s ever felt unseen, stuck, or disconnected from her changing body and evolving self. My hope is that you walk away remembering just how extraordinary, powerful, and necessary you are: in every season of your life!       === LINKS: === •Website: vilates.com •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.