He Is Free: Practical Tools To Quit Porn For Good, Stop Watching Porn, Freedom From Porn

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  #168: Re-release: Stop Battling Porn Urges and Start Befriending Them (with Jenna Riemersma) 14.07.2026 42min

  What if battling porn urges is actually keeping you stuck?What if the urge isn't your enemy, but a part of you actually just trying to help?What if freedom isn't won through fighting, but through befriending?In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma, bestselling author, licensed therapist, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) expert. I was so excited to have Jenna on the podcast, as her work has had a huge impact on me and my life. Her book, Altogether You was life-changing for me, and we also discuss her new book, Move Toward, which takes revolutionary IFS principles and distills them into a simple, but radical 3-step tool anyone can use to completely change the way we approach our urges.What you'll learn:Why the parts inside you that drive porn use are actually good (even though the behavior isn't)The difference between being the "conductor" vs. letting parts "drive the bus"How to turn toward the urge with curiosity and compassion instead of battling and judgmentThe 3-step practice begin befriending your urges instead of battling themWhy the next time you feel the urge, you should hold it in your handIf you're tired of fighting and ready for a different approach, this episode is for you.⁠Order Jenna's new book, Move Toward⁠Jenna's website:⁠https://jennariemersma.com/⁠Jenna's free guided exercises⁠https://insighttimer.com/jennariemersma⁠Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠
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  #167: Quitting Porn Is Not a Battle (And Treating It Like One Is Keeping You Stuck) 07.07.2026 22min

  Have you ever noticed that the harder you fight a porn urge, the more intense it seems to get? Do you ever feel like you have been in a battle against porn for years and somehow keep losing ground?What if I told you that treating porn urges like a battle is actually one of the main reasons you are still stuck, and that the guys who get free are the ones who stop fighting altogether?In this episode you are going to discover why resisting and battling porn urges actually makes them stronger, and why everything you have been told about fighting harder and using more willpower is working against you.You are also going to hear one of the most helpful analogies for understanding how to handle urges effectively: the toddler tantrum. It will completely reframe how you think about the moment the urge hits.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a completely new way of thinking about porn urges and a clear, practical plan for what to do instead of fighting when the urge shows up.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  #166: Why Self-Compassion Is the Secret Ingredient to Quitting Porn (And How To Begin Adding It Today) 30.06.2026 22min

  Have you noticed that you tend to shame and beat yourself up about your porn habit? Do you feel showing yourself some compassion is light years away?What if I told you that shaming yourself is actually keeping you stuck, and stirring in some self-compassion is actually key to paving the way to lasting freedom?In this episode you are going to discover why self-compassion is one of the most overlooked and most powerful ingredients in the freedom journey, and how the level of compassion you show yourself is directly connected to how free you will become.You are also going to hear a simple three word phrase you can start using today to begin making the shift from shame to compassion, both when urges hit and after a slip.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away understanding exactly why shame keeps you stuck in the porn cycle and how to break it with a tool so simple you can use it in seconds. This one shift can change everything about how you pursue freedom.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  #165: The 3 Minute Daily Practice That Moves You Toward Freedom From Porn Every Single Day 23.06.2026 38min

  Have you ever felt like you can only make progress on your freedom journey when an urge actually shows up? Do you ever wonder if there is a way to move toward freedom on the quiet days, the days when you feel totally fine?In this episode you are going to discover a simple 3 minute daily practice made up of two tools: your Power Reasons and Mental Rehearsal. You'll learn exactly how to use them every single morning to fuel your freedom tank, sharpen your skills, and dramatically increase the chances you will actually use your plan when the urge hits.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a morning routine you can start tomorrow that takes less than 3 minutes, works on urge-free days just as powerfully as urge days, and builds the kind of man you actually want to become. Freedom is not just a response. It is a daily practice. And now you have one.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  #164: Do This Tonight If You Feel Tempted 16.06.2026 13min

  Have you ever felt a porn urge hit out of nowhere in the evening and had absolutely no idea what to do in that moment except white knuckle your way through it or give in? Have you ever wished someone would just walk you through exactly what to do step by step the next time temptation hits?In this episode you are going to get exactly that. A simple, practical, four step plan to implement the next time you feel tempted — whether that is tonight, tomorrow morning, or next week. You are going to hear exactly what to do in the first 10 seconds after the urge hits, what to do for the next 10 minutes, and the one final step that most guys skip but that makes all the difference in building real momentum toward lasting freedom.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a clear, actionable plan you can use with your very next urge. No willpower required. No complicated strategies. Just four simple steps that take seconds to start and build a skill that gets easier every single time you practice it.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  #163: The 5 Puzzle Pieces Every Guy Needs to Quit Porn for Good 09.06.2026 28min

  Have you been doing all the right things on your freedom journey and still finding yourself back in the same painful cycle? Have you ever wondered if there is a piece of the puzzle you are missing that nobody has told you about yet?In this episode you are going to discover the five essential pieces every guy needs to have in place if he wants long term freedom from porn. You are going to hear what each piece is, why leaving even one of them out is costing you the freedom you are after, and exactly what Dan did for each one on his own journey out of over 20 years of struggle.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away knowing exactly which of the five pieces you need to focus on right now. You will have a clear, practical next step for each one, and for the first time you will be able to see the full picture of what long term freedom actually requires. This is one of those episodes that makes everything click.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠
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  #162: How I Quit Porn After 20 Years: The Missing Piece Nobody Told Me About 02.06.2026 40min

  Have you been trying to quit porn for years, doing all the right things, and still finding yourself back in the same painful cycle? Have you ever wondered if there is one piece of the puzzle that nobody has told you about yet?In this episode you are going to hear a raw and honest conversation from an interview on the PSR Podcast with Jonathan Daugherty. You are going to hear the full story of a 20 year porn addiction, everything that was tried along the way, why most of it was helpful but still not enough, and the one practice that finally made lasting freedom possible. You are also going to discover the other essential tools that make freedom not just possible but sustainable, including mental rehearsal and having powerful reasons in place.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a clear understanding of what the missing piece most likely is for you too, and exactly what to do about it. If you have been stuck in the cycle for years and feel like you have tried everything, this conversation is going to give you a fresh perspective and a real path forward.Jonathan Daugherty's resources: Bebroken.orgTake the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠
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  #161: The 60 Second Test: Discover Your Biggest Roadblock to Quitting Porn 26.05.2026 15min

  Have you ever wondered why quitting porn feels so impossibly difficult even when you desperately want to stop? Have you ever asked yourself why you keep going back to the same painful cycle no matter how committed you are to being done with it once and for all?In this episode you are going to take a simple 60 second test that will show you exactly what is keeping you stuck. Not as a general concept but as a personal, lived experience that you will feel and understand in a completely new way. You are going to discover that the real difficulty in quitting porn is not stopping the behavior itself, but what to do with the feeling you're left with when you choose not view porn. And you are going to hear exactly what to do with that.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with one simple, powerful experiment to try with your very next urge that will reveal your personal roadblocks to freedom in 60 seconds. You're going to understand why the key to lasting freedom is not outside of you but inside, and you are going to have a clear, practical plan for what to do when you come face to face with what is actually keeping you stuck. And the great news is, it IS something you can face.Resources mentioned in this episode:Jenna Riemersma's new book Move TowardTake the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠
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  #160: How to Quit Porn and Gain Two Priceless Life Skills in the Process 19.05.2026 22min

  Have you ever considered that the way you pursue freedom from porn could actually be building some of the most valuable life skills you will ever develop? What if quitting porn was not just about getting free, but about becoming a fundamentally better, more emotionally healthy version of yourself in the process?In this episode you are going to discover what happens when you switch from the old way of pursuing freedom — fighting urges and drowning in shame — to a completely new and more effective approach. You are going to hear how making this one switch not only accelerates your freedom from porn, but automatically begins building two priceless life skills that will serve you in every relationship and every area of your life for the rest of your life.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away understanding exactly what those two skills are, why they are so valuable, and how simply implementing the PATH Plan in response to every urge begins installing them automatically. No extra work required!Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠
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  #159: 5 Tools That Help Men Quit Porn for Good (And Why Each One Is Non-Negotiable) 12.05.2026 31min

  Have you tried everything to quit porn — the filters, the accountability, the programs — and you're still not free? Have you ever wondered if there's something missing from your plan, some piece of the puzzle that nobody is talking about that would actually make the difference?In this episode we are diving into the five tools that make up the Frontline Toolkit — the complete system to help you prepare for and process every urge. You are going to hear exactly what each tool does, why each one is non-negotiable, and how they work together as a complete frontline strategy so that no matter what the urge looks like when it hits, you have a plan.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away knowing exactly what to do the next time an urge hits — and every time after that. No more white-knuckling it. No more starting over at zero. Just five practical tools that get you frontline ready, so that temptation is no longer the roadblock preventing lasting, exhilarating freedom.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - heisfree.me/toolkit🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - heisfree.me/plan📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - heisfree.me/guide
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  #158: Please Tell Me You're Using This Hack to Quit Porn (Most Guys Aren't) 05.05.2026 14min

  Have you ever noticed that the porn struggle feels like Groundhog Day? The same time of day, the same place, the same circumstances, playing out over and over again in an almost identical pattern every single time? What if instead of feeling defeated by that pattern, you could use it to your advantage?In this episode you are going to discover what might be the single best hack on the freedom journey, and it only takes 10 seconds every morning. You are going to hear exactly how to use the predictability of your porn struggle to get ahead of urges before they hit, and how adding just one more minute of mental rehearsal in the morning can dramatically increase your chances of success when temptation strikes later in the day.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with one simple, powerful daily practice you can start tomorrow morning. No complicated strategies, no willpower required. Just 10 seconds every morning that will change the way you respond to porn urges for good, and pave the way for exhilarating freedom.Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start your 10 second morning practice tomorrow.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠
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  #157: Stop Saying "No!" to Porn Urges, Say "Yes!" Instead 28.04.2026 10min

  Have you ever gritted your teeth and said no to a porn urge with everything you had, only to find the urge getting stronger and more intense the harder you pushed back? Have you ever wondered why fighting back against the urge seems to pour fuel on the fire instead of putting it out?In this episode you are going to discover why saying "No!" to porn urges is one of the most counterproductive things you can do on the freedom journey, and exactly what to say and do instead. You are going to hear a simple but powerful mindset shift that replaces the exhausting battle of resistance with a positive, effective plan of action that actually builds lasting freedom over time.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with one clear, practical response to use every single time an urge hits — one that stops you from pouring fuel on the fire and starts building the skill of lasting freedom instead. This is one of those simple shifts that changes everything.Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start saying yes to the plan today.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠
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  #156: The Motivation Problem: How To Solve It and Quit Porn For Good 21.04.2026 17min

  Have you ever felt a huge surge of motivation to quit porn for good, taken real action, built some momentum, and then a week or two later found yourself right back where you started? Have you ever wondered why that motivation never seems to last long enough to actually get you free?In this episode you are going to discover why motivation alone will never be enough to break the porn relapse cycle, and exactly what to do instead. You are going to hear a simple three step framework for turning occasional bursts of motivation into sustained daily fuel for your freedom journey. Using a powerful airplane analogy, you are going to walk away understanding why most guys are doing motivation completely wrong, and how to be part of the one percent who actually do it right.After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a clear, practical three step plan you can start today. No complicated strategies, no willpower required. Just three simple steps that take five to ten minutes once, and then one minute every single morning after that. This is the missing piece that keeps most guys stuck in the relapse cycle for years longer than they need to be.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠
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  #155: Re-Release - Struggling to Quit Porn? Try Self-Compassion (On the No More Desire Podcast with Jake Kastleman ) 14.04.2026 1godz 8min

  Have you been trying to quit porn for years, doing all the right things, and still can't figure out why it's not working? Have you ever wondered if there is a piece of the puzzle that nobody has told you about yet?In this episode, you're going to hear a conversation between two coaches and experts who have both lived this struggle personally and now help men find lasting freedom. You're going to hear the full story of how one 20 year porn addiction finally ended, what was tried along the way, why most of it wasn't enough, and what the actual missing piece turned out to be. You're also going to discover why self-compassion is one of the most overlooked and underestimated ingredients in the freedom journey, and why without it, even the best tools and strategies will fall short.After listening to this episode you're going to walk away with a fresh perspective on why you may still be stuck despite your best efforts, and a new understanding of what it actually takes to find lasting freedom from porn. This is a honest, shame free conversation between two guys who get it because they've lived it.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠
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  #154: What a Porn Free Day Actually Looks Like (A Practical Walkthrough) 07.04.2026 16min

  Have you ever made it through one good day only to feel completely unprepared and back to square one the next morning? Do you wish someone would just walk you through exactly what a successful day on the freedom journey actually looks like from start to finish?In this episode you are going to get a practical, step by step walkthrough of what an optimal day pursuing freedom from porn looks like. You will hear exactly what to do in the morning to fuel and prepare yourself before the urge even hits, what to do when the urge shows up during the day, and how to get your head on the pillow at night feeling genuinely proud of how you handled it. You will also get a specific tweak to make if your urges tend to hit first thing in the morning before you even get out of bed.After listening to this episode you will walk away with a clear, simple daily structure you can start using tomorrow morning. No more guessing, no more winging it, and no more feeling unprepared when the urge shows up. This is what it looks like to stop reacting to porn urges and start running a daily game plan instead.Take the next step:📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠💬 Join the free Community - ⁠⁠https://www.skool.com/new-paths-academy-9893/about?ref=c1e6013f42004be59ec0ec667d971457⁠⁠
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  #153: How To Handle Your Next Porn Urge (And Every Urge After That) 31.03.2026 14min

  Have you ever felt like you were doing everything right on the freedom journey — accountability, filters, community, counseling — but still felt powerless when the urge hit? Have you ever wondered if there is something missing, some piece of the puzzle that nobody has told you about yet?In this episode, Dan shares the personal turning point that changed everything for him after over 20 years of struggling with porn. He walks through exactly what was missing, what he discovered in the summer of 2020 that flipped the switch, and the single most important truth he learned through one specific, intense urge.After listening to this episode you will walk away with one powerful, life changing truth that will completely reframe the way you think about urges forever — and a clear, practical challenge to try with your very next urge. If you have ever believed that an urge was just too intense to handle, this episode is going to change that belief for good.Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at ⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠ and start practicing with your very next urge.
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  #152: Ever Talk To Your Urge? 3 Phrases To Use the Next Time You Feel Tempted 24.03.2026 25min

  Have you ever felt completely hijacked by a porn urge with no idea what to do in that moment except white knuckle your way through it or give in?What if there was a simple, research backed experiment you could try with your very next urge that takes just a few seconds?In this episode, you're going to walk away with a practical experiment you can begin using immediately — talking directly to your urge.It sounds unconventional, but it is backed by research and proven to reduce urge intensity, engage your thinking brain, decrease shame, and keep you in the driver's seat when temptation hits.You're going to get three specific, easy phrases to try with your next urge, plus a bonus hack that takes this approach even further.Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start practicing with your very next urge.
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  #151: Urge Surfing and Why You Don't Need More Willpower to Quit Porn (You Need This Instead) 19.03.2026 25min

  Do you feel like your biggest problem on the freedom journey is that you just don't have enough willpower or self control? Have you ever white knuckled your way through an urge, only to eventually give in anyway and wonder what is wrong with you?In this episode, we're flipping the script on one of the most common beliefs in the porn struggle — that freedom requires more willpower and self control. We're going to break down why fighting against an urge is like trying to push back against a powerful ocean wave. You're going to learn about concept of urge surfing, and most importantly, discover the one ingredient you actually need to handle urges effectively. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with being stronger or more disciplined.After listening to this episode, you'll walk away understanding why willpower has been working against you, and the clarity about what to begin doing instead. Freedom does not have to be a struggle!Ready to stop fighting and start surfing? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and begin practicing with your very next urge.
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  #150: Why Tracking Your Streaks Is Keeping You Stuck (And What To Track Instead) 10.03.2026 19min

  Do you measure your progress on the freedom journey by how many days you've gone without porn? Have you ever felt the crushing pressure of a long streak — terrified to lose it — only to slip, hit zero, and binge for days before starting over again?In this episode, we're diving into one of the most common and counterproductive things almost every guy does on the freedom journey — tracking his streak — and why it's actually making it harder to get free. You're going to hear 3 reasons why streak tracking is keeping you stuck, and most importantly, what to track instead that will actually move the needle toward lasting freedom.After listening to this episode, you'll never look at your streak the same way again. You'll walk away with a completely new way to measure your progress — one that removes the pressure, survives a slip without sending you back to zero, and builds real momentum over time. This is one of those mindset shifts that changes everything.Want to know EXACTLY what to do when the urge hits? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan — your clear, practical, go-to plan for every urge. Start accumulating wins and building exciting momentum!
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  #149: What To Pursue Instead of Porn (3 Positive Porn Replacements) 03.03.2026 21min

  Do you ever feel like the freedom journey is nothing more than white-knuckling your way through urges, saying no, and just trying not to look? Are you tired of freedom feeling like nothing more than abstaining from something — and longing for it to mean so much more than that?In this episode, we're diving into one of the most energizing and practical sides of the freedom journey — what you're pursuing freedom for. Dan breaks down three powerful categories of positive porn replacements: your relationships, your health and fitness, and your dreams. These aren't just nice ideas — they're what becomes possible when porn loses its grip on your time, your mental bandwidth, and your confidence.After listening to this episode, you'll walk away with a fresh sense of inspiration and a clear, practical direction for what to pursue as porn decreases in your life. Instead of just saying no to something harmful, you'll start saying yes to something life-giving — and that shift will fuel your freedom journey for the long haul.If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heisfree.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.