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  SPFPP 409: What We Don't Metabolize Will Metastasize 13.07.2026 47min

  If you don't metabolize your trauma, it will metastasize into your life. This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame returns for a deeply personal, unapologetic solo episode. Reflecting on his own year-and-a-half journey of suppressed grief following the end of a relationship, Courtney explains how the emotions we refuse to process—whether it's heartbreak or the trauma of an STI diagnosis—operate just like a cancer, spreading into our confidence, our communication, and our identity.In this episode, Courtney explores the "suicide of self-identification" that happens when we let stigma invalidate who we are. Using powerful analogies—from somatic release in deep tissue massages to the conversation of Brazilian Zouk dancing—Courtney breaks down why pure, unfiltered authenticity is the ultimate "chemo" for internalized stigma. Tune in to learn why your environment dictates your healing, why it's time to stop dimming your light, and how to consciously channel your energy to attract the connections you actually deserve.Links & Resources Mentioned:Take the Herpes Stigma Survey: spfpp.org/herpes-surveyGet Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expoLearn more about "Letting Go" of Herpes Stigma: spfpp.org/yoga
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  SPFPP 408: Safe Sex is Communicative Sex - with Tamar Weir 10.06.2026 50min

  SPFPP 408: Safe Sex is Communicative Sex - with Tamar WeirWhat happens when you find out you've been exposed to an STI you've never even heard of? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame sits down with Tamar Weir (founder of Pomegranate Pleasure) to unpack a real-life scenario: Tamar's recent Ureaplasma diagnosis and how she communicated the exposure to Courtney.Courtney and Tamar explore the nuances of Ureaplasma as a commensal bacteria, the intense frustration of navigating confusing and unhelpful medical providers, and how the stigma surrounding "cleanliness" makes these infections harder to talk about. Tamar also shares her tips for building your own personalized sexual health "script," while Courtney breaks down why it's time to shift from a high-pressure "confession" to a co-created "discussion." Tune in to learn why having conversations about sexual health doesn't have to ruin the mood—it can actually make intimacy sexier.Links & Resources Mentioned:Follow Tamar Weir on Instagram: @pomegranatepleasureRead Tamar's Blog: Everything Juicy (Link via IG)Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletterGet Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo
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  SPFPP 407: Presence Over Performance 01.06.2026 1godz 1min

  I had a support call go sideways and was hung up on for the first time since I started doing this work in 2017 supporting people living with herpes. I had to learn for myself real quick that my authenticity is more important than anybody else's discomfort. I can't coddle folks into healing.
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  SPFPP 406: Right Use of Energy - Brahmacharya in Action 01.05.2026 1godz 38min

  Are you bleeding energy into things that don't serve your highest self? This week, Courtney is back with a massive life update and a profound shift in the podcast's direction. Transitioning to a once-a-month format, Courtney dives deep into the yogic principle of Brahmacharya—the right use of energy.Listen in as I share how removing social media distractions and enforcing strict personal boundaries led to necessary changes. From transmuting unspent sexual energy into writing the first draft of the SPFPP book, to transforming my physical health through Ayurveda, to processing relationship trauma on the Zouk dance floor, this episode is about vertical growth over horizontal distraction. I also also break down the main differences between the men's and women's support groups, share my upcoming travel itinerary, and explains why true authenticity is the ultimate friction-remover.Links & Resources Mentioned:Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletterRead the SPFPP Blog: spfpp.org/herpes-blogRequest a Donation-Based Support Call: spfpp.org/herpes-support-call
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  SPFPP 405: You're Entitled to Compensation 06.04.2026 57min

  A herpes diagnosis can make you feel taken from, or like God took away your ability to have sex. What exactly was taken from you? Reality is that you are still capable of sex, and nothing was 'taken' necessarily except for the identification we had with ourselves leading up to the diagnosis. If in fact God did take away your ability to have sex, then by God's Law of compensation, you're entitled to something of equal or greater value in return. I speak about the laws of Thermodynamics to hopefully give an idea of the energetics/physics of what to do with a herpes diagnosis.
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  SPFPP 404: How to Communicate an STI Exposure 02.04.2026 32min

  There's a statement phrase that goes, "Can't do, teach" and I don't know the punctuation exactly, but it means those who don't have the bravery to have the experience become people who just teach because they can't do the thing they teach. Here, you'll hear me share my own personal experience which highlights the importance of why those who do NEED to teach. This is why teaching from experience is necessary.
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  SPFPP 403: Courtney's 13 Year Herpes Anniversary 23.03.2026 17min

  It was March 23, 2013 I woke up and had my first herpes outbreak. It was a whole 13 years now of living with herpes. The past 9 years of running SPFPP and the podcast, I have hidden behind the experiences of my guests, and now I'm very challenged with what it looks like to maintain this consistency of sharing experiences of people living with herpes and it's become much harder to find guests. I now have accepted that I gotta quit being a lil' baby about not sharing my own lived experiences with herpes. I've been afraid of criticism, the fact that things change over time, the fact that it's the internet and anything I say can be brought up and used against me somehow. Wild to say, but I'm working through that barrier and hopefully that transparency brings in more guests as well. But here's a recap of how I celebrated my 13 year herpes anniversary with the community!
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  SPFPP 402: Herpes is the End of the World 11.03.2026 37min

  A few times this past week, people on support calls have shared that when they talked to their therapist, a friend, or even the suicide lifeline, that they were met with, "It's not the end of the world". The reality is, it is. And telling someone whose whole world as they know it is being torn apart is invalidating to their experience. We've been learning since 2017 that the consistent reason for suicidality after a herpes diagnosis is an invalidation of identity. A person's beliefs are not to be invalidated, but interrogated with curiosity. I probably shouldn't say that in writing, because there's a fine line between curiosity and being nosey, and not everyone can navigate that with someone seeking support. My intention this episode is to share and validate that yes, herpes is the end of the world, as is that first heart break, first job loss, first encounter with losing a loved one, only for us to take the remnants of the ending and incorporate it into our identity. To nurture our nature is to integrate the essence of our previously ended worlds to come to create a new one for ourselves from it.
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  SPFPP 401: What Herpes Taught Me About Authenticity - Part 2 21.02.2026 1godz 10min

  What if a herpes diagnosis didn't take away your freedom, but actually freed you from an energetic cage you didn't know you were in? In Part 2 of "What Herpes Taught Me About Authenticity," Courtney Brame drops the standard narrative of "good vs. bad" and dives deep into the quantum physics and spiritual mechanics of an STI diagnosis.We explore how living unconsciously chasing validation, ignoring the gentle whispers of the nervous system, and bleeding energy into casual encounters can leave us fragmented. Through the lens of his own 13-year journey, he explains how a herpes diagnosis acts as a "Heavenly Restriction" (Jujutsu Kaisen Reference) a permanent, physical boundary that chokes off the leakage of unconscious energy, forcing a return to radical authenticity and intentional connection.If you are exhausted by trauma-dumping, people-pleasing, or feeling stuck in the identity of your diagnosis, this episode provides a new atomic blueprint for achieving maximum evolution with minimum waste.Episode Timestamps:[00:00:00] Intro: The danger of the "Good vs. Bad" polarity.[00:05:58] The Leasing Office Analogy: Why we miss the early warning signals of our nervous system.[00:12:45] The Identity Collapse: How a diagnosis "screenshots" us into a stuck identity.[00:28:08] What is True Authenticity? (Hint: It’s not just "being yourself.")[00:40:07] The Luffy Rule: Why I stopped being an "emotional boyfriend" and trauma-dumping sponge.[00:47:12] The Heavenly Pact: How a herpes diagnosis acts as the ultimate energetic bouncer for intimacy.[00:56:46] The New SPFPP Boundaries: 30-minute caps, the end of weekend calls, and zero-waste operations.[01:04:37] March 21st NYC Event Details & The future of the SPFPP Podcast.
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  SPFPP 400: What Herpes Taught Me About Authenticity - Part 1 17.02.2026 1godz 4min

  Finally! We celebrated me closing out the 400th podcast episode it took me damn near 3 months to record, only for me to realize I’m not closing it out after all. My options for getting these resources out there are limited given social media has not been kind to anything I have to talk about, however, the website has been booming given the care and attention I’ve given to it. Last month we had almost 80 scheduled support calls, this month halfway through February, we’re at 40, so I’m busy, but I think instead of replacing the podcast with the support groups, it’s time I give much less energy to social media instead. The podcast has served several major purposes including remaining connected to the community by bringing people in to share their experiences, letting people hear from others, and I think most of all, it’s been another outlet of expression as an extension of me. Last year things were chaotic for the first half of the year. I’d say I got some solid footing in August/September 2025 and now I have a firm rhythm of running SPFPP, working part time, wrapping up Yoga Therapy Training, and my romantic life. This is part 1 of what herpes taught me about authenticity, where I just share about some changes that happened in a way that hopefully makes sense to ya’ll listening. Apologies in advance for the audio. My mic was never plugged in and when I noticed it, I lost track of my point so I ended the episode shortly after haha. Anyways, welcome back!
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  SPFPP 399: What Herpes Taught Me About God 08.12.2025 1godz 26min

  I had every intention of making my last podcast episode being on this topic but I was called to take a different route based on the direction this episode went. I interviewed a member of the Women's Support support group as well as a Yoga Therapy client at the time of this recording. Herpes and Spirituality is one of the main searches that drive people to SPFPP, and many of the people I talk to have a background of Christianity, growing up Catholic, and our conversations generally head in the direction of speaking to their relationship to God. With all this free time I'll have from no longer running the podcast, I'll be able to read the Bible myself and be able to have more fitting conversations with people coming from that purity culture upbringing. I enjoyed getting to bounce some reflections off someone in this conversation rather than doing it alone and rambling too much, so I'm grateful to Lia for letting me talk her ear off and tie her experiences together with this conversation topic that has become so meaningful to so many people.
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  SPFPP 398: Practicing Perfection 06.12.2025 46min

  I interview _Laurentellsstories (Instagram page) who reached out to me yesterday. She and I recorded today and spoke about what inspired her to tell her story about dating with herpes. She's been a beast in the dating world, so hearing from her would be inspiring to someone looking to get to the other side of their diagnosis and start dating again. She shares a little about not telling people about her herpes status in the past and we talk through the mindset of that space. A rejection in 2021 sent her down the path of finding passion in storytelling and she decided to be open about her status the literal day of this podcast recording and upload. Be sure to be on the lookout for her One Woman Show in Chicago and perhaps the world depending on the year you listen to this.
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  SPFPP 397: What Herpes Taught Me About Addiction 03.12.2025 56min

  I interviewed a man named John who speaks with me about his experience in recovery for sex addiction. We open with me challenging him on how he introduced himself only for him to kick it back to me, which I love! My guy is going to be a public speaker one day and I commend him often throughout the episode for his willingness to share such vulnerable insights as someone who is in recovery. While herpes was what brought us together, that by far is not all there is to his story. He speaks about sharing his status with his parents, spending addiction, what it can be like to date someone who is in recovery, as well as his own challenges in his healing process. Stay tuned for this podcast episode where we get to hear from a man with herpes beyond just his diagnosis as we round out our final few episodes leading to the big 400th episode celebration in Brooklyn.We also need more people to take our survey!This podcast episode on Love Addiction is a good description of that.
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  SPFPP 396: What Herpes Taught Me About Sex 26.11.2025 52min

  Herpes has taught me more about sex than any of my sex education teachers, girlfriends, educators, have. And honestly I can't even say it's sex I've learned, it's intimacy. With four more episodes til retirement of SPFPP's podcast, it felt aligned to talk to ya'll. It's been an interesting day home. I had some aspects of my inner most being reflected back to me and in genuine Courtney fashion, I interrogated it with curiosity. My relationship to sex and the partners I've given the title of girlfriend are interconnected as they've shaped my earliest ideas not just of sex, but also intimacy. Having herpes changed how I do sex, and in interrogating that, I inherently developed a new idea of what intimacy is. We're on the countdown to episode 400 and celebrating in NYC!
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  SPFPP 395: Southern Charm 21.11.2025 43min

  Hailing all the way from Alabama, well, actually Florida, but Alabaman roots, our guest this week. Jade is the founder of Essentially Prepped, integrating essential oils and lifestyle coaching. For those looking for another option for herpes support, listen to this episode and see if she's someone who resonates with you. We talk about stigma in the south and some of how Jade's dating experiences have gone. We speak about the fluidity of sexuality as it relates in the south along with being publicly visible as people living with herpes and the pros and cons of this. You can connect with Jade on Instagram @essentiallyprepped and check out her stie here.
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  SPFPP 394: Preaching What I Practice 16.11.2025 23min

  "I really didn't realize how ashamed I was about how happy I am". In this episode I reflect on just how much I've pushed down my happiness both publicly and even privately just to keep other people comfortable especially in a time where there's not much visibility of joy and happiness. Releasing my resistances to joy, happiness, pleasure, and receiving brought up many emotions, including the last of my rejections for applying for grants! I speak about growth, rejection, the nervous system, and how herpes helps with identifying the need to manage stress.
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  SPFPP 393: Herpes Support Groups 08.11.2025 46min

  In this episode, I talk through what SPFPP support groups are, how they started, and what people can expect when they join. I share how these spaces are less about advice and more about being seen, and why presence matters more than performance. Whether you're new to herpes or just looking for community, this episode breaks down how the groups work and why they matter. Learn more about the herpes support group for men and women.
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  Spfpp 392: Navigating Rejection With Herpes - Attach And Release 31.10.2025 1godz 14min

  Jealousy, rejection, and other perceived negatives are broken down not as bad things, but as infinite potential. Take something that makes you jealous for instance, you can either be inspired by it to be better, or you can want to corrupt it and make it worse. The intensity of emotion that comes with the label of jealousy is what it is, but we assign a narrative to the label which can create an identity behind it. There's a practice of attaching and releasing that's the natural flow of rhythm that all beings adhere to, and the same way it applies to jealousy, it applies to fear, and applies to rejection. This'll make all the sense if you can make it through my rambling and sharing of personal experiences of jealousy and how I apply its lessons to self-rejection which is the only rejection that truly exists for us on this episode of Something Positive for Positive People.
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  SPFPP 391: Who Helps the Helper? 24.10.2025 50min

  Our guest is a therapist specializing in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), but when she was diagnosed with HSV-2, she found herself in unfamiliar territory, navigating a rare neurological complication, medical dismissal, and the emotional weight of a life-altering diagnosis. In this episode, she and I discuss what it means to be the helper who needs help. We unpack Ellsberg Syndrome, and how the medical field did NOT exercise trauma-informed communication, and the power of integrity, validation, and DBT as an option for people with herpes in their healing. This episode is a great example of how herpes stigma intersects with the mental health field, and why remembering who you are validates your identity and jump starts the healing process.
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  SPFPP 390: Herpes Changed Me 19.10.2025 58min

  After a herpes diagnosis, dating can feel daunting, but community can change everything. In this episode, I sit down with Rachel to expand on her experience navigating self-stigma, dating, and disclosure after contracting genital HSV-1. We discuss how therapy, community, and self-reflection helped Rachel reconnect to her voice, reclaim her confidence, and find grounding after emotional turbulence. If you’ve ever felt like your diagnosis defined you or held you back from dating, this episode offers comfort for wherever you may be in your own diagnosis.