Heart Work After Betrayal | Infidelity, Marriage, Forgiveness, Loneliness, Trust

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  65 | Rebuilding Trust Begins With Rebuilding Your Identity in Community 18.09.2026 9min

  Do you feel like it's all on you, you are responsible for your healing and moving on after the betrayal in your marriage? Do you wonder whether loving him again automatically means reconciliation? Are you confused on what it actually looks like to respond from a place of feeling rooted and grounded in the love of Christ when all you know right now is pain after the betrayal? Do you wish for a community of others that simply understand because they have been or currently are where you are at?    YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... The full picture behind the crown series and that walking it out takes others to walk alongside you Clarity that loving your husband doesn't automatically mean reconciliation and why that mirrors how God loves too Why isolation is the most dangerous place to process betrayal, even though it feels the safest An invitation to keep doing this work in community, together, at a live workshop! PART 2: EPISODE HIGHLIGHTSThis is the finale of the five-week CROWN series. Today we wrap it all up: Our unshakable identity in Christ and true authority and choice that comes with it, and what walking it out really entails and most importantly how community is the thing that will really excel the healing journey around the picture that started it all: a woman wearing both a crown and an apron, from 1 Peter 5:5. Even though we learn to serve and lay down our lives for each other once we are established in our true identity in Christ, loving your husband doesn't automatically mean reconciliation. We get to follow the same pattern God shows in His own love: desiring reconciliation without demanding it or compromising His standards. ***JOIN THE HEART RESET WORKSHOP on October 6th at 5PM EST! *** New to the series? Start with Episode 56 for the full journey from the beginning. PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED📖 1 Peter 5:5  "clothe yourselves with humility" (the servant's apron picture in the Greek)📖 Romans 12:2 "be transformed by the renewing of your mind"🎙️ Episodes 56–64: the full CROWN series💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter , be the first to know when Heart Reset Workshop registration opens🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: ***JOIN THE HEART RESET WORKSHOP on October 6th at 5PM EST! *** Subscribe to the newsletter so you're the first to know when the Heart Reset Workshop registration opens!! Name one person or space you'll bring this ongoing work to, instead of carrying it alone Catch up on Episode 56 if you're new to the series This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.      
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  64 | Why Isolation After Betrayal Feels Safe But Isn't: The One Practice That Finally Broke Mine 14.09.2026 8min

  Have you been telling yourself that healing alone is safer, easier, and more controlled only to end up stuck in the same loop? Do you feel like no one can really understand what you're going through, so why even try to explain it? Do you keep the hardest parts of your healing entirely in your own head, journaling in private but never saying it out loud to another person? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... Why isolation quietly works against every practice this series has built so far A real story of what changed the moment healing stopped happening in private One simple practice: saying one thing out loud to a real person instead of carrying it alone A heads-up about something new coming this Thursday This is the final letter of the CROWN series: N, Never Do It Alone. The core idea: every practice from this series: Catching a thought, Reviewing it, Owning your response, Walking it out, all of it, gets stronger in community but quietly erodes in isolation, because a false thought left unchallenged in your own head just keeps running on repeat. New here? This episode caps a five-week series. Start with Episode 56 if you want the full journey from the beginning. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter❓ Submit a listener question   CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Pick one thought or struggle you've been carrying privately this week Share it with one safe person or even better, share with our private FB Community - the Heart Work Healing Circle, no advice needed, just say it Mark your calendar for Tuesday, October 6th for a new live training coming - more details to come in the next episode!!! Catch up on Episode 56 if you're new to the series This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  63 | The Secret for Healing After Betrayal Lies in This One Heart Shift 11.09.2026 26min

    Have you been given contradicting advice that seemed all across the board about how to respond to your husband's betrayal or unfaithfulness?  Do you find yourself doing all the "right" things, forgiving, serving, loving but you still end up resentful and exhausted? Have you ever wondered if peace is even possible while you're still deciding whether to stay or go? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... The difference between a heart that's trying to do love and do the right thing and a heart that can freely love A way to check your own motivation before an act of service, so you're not building resentment without realizing it Permission to pursue this kind of "freely loving" whether or not you ever decide to reconcil This is Week 4 of the CROWN series, a deep dive into our identity (Episode 57), authority (Episode 59), choice (Episode 61) as we wrestle through what this all means for us after betrayal in our. marriage. This week, I make the four points on why the crown has to come first, why it isn't the whole picture on its own, what it looks like to wear both day to day, and how to ask the same honest question in your own life. New here? Start with Episode 57 to start at the beginning of the series PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED📖 1 Peter 5:5 "clothe yourselves with humility" (the servant's-apron picture in the Greek)🎙️ Episode 57: "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch"🎙️ Episode 59: "Dreaming of a Mind That Isn't Hijacked by Triggers? 4 Truths to Rediscover the Authority That's Always Been Yours"🎙️ Episode 61: "Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet — And What to Do About It Anyway"🎙️ Episode 62: "Walk It Out: The Neuroscience-Backed Practice That Makes Peace Your Default"💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Before your next act of love toward him, pause and check your heart. Bring what you're wrestling to the Healing Circle, you don't have to sort this out alone Catch up on Episode 57 if you're new to the crown This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  62 | Walk It Out: The Neuroscience-Backed Practice That Makes Peace Your Default 08.09.2026 13min

  Have you ever felt your heart start racing before you even finished the thought that set it off and it felt like your body reacted before you even had a chance to choose? Have you ever felt like a prisoner to triggers, panic, or a spiral you couldn't out-argue no matter how hard you tried? Do you assume a spiraling thought will take just as long to undo as it took to go down the spiral in the first place?  YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... A real, brain-scanned example of how fast your body reacts to a thought, both for better or worse The difference between the "switch" (instant) and the "path" (built through repetition) and why confusing the two is what makes people quit too soon A concrete weekly practice: pause, notice your body's response, write it down, and let that memory become your fuel for choosing the better path next time This is Week 4 of the CROWN series, landing on W - Walk It Out: when PTSD, triggers, and panic attacks that feel like they run the show the shift that can happen when you take charge of your thoughts instead of letting any thought have free rein a real case study from neurosurgeon Dr. Lee Warren shows how fast a thought changes your physical state the trail-through-the-woods picture for why the path still takes repetition even though the switch itself is instant  a journal practice that turns your own felt experience into the thing that makes the next right choice easier PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED📖 Colossians 3:15  "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts"📚 Dr. Lee Warren, neurosurgeon, the fMRI case study on the brain's instant response to a thought🎙️ Episode 60: "Anyway: The One-Word Practice That Stops the Spiral"🎙️ Episode 61: "Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet — And What to Do About It Anyway"💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle❓ Submit a listener question PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Catch one thought this week, negative or true, and pause to notice how your body responds Write it down: what the thought was, and what happened in your body Bring what you're noticing to the Healing Circle, you don't have to track this alone Revisit your notes before the same spiraling thought shows up again This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  61 | Why the Truth Doesn't Feel Better Yet And What to Do About It Anyway 04.09.2026 23min

  Have you ever caught a lie, examined it, knew it wasn't true and picked it back up anyway, because the truth just didn't feel as good yet? Do you assume something's wrong with you when change feels harder than it "should," instead of expecting it to feel that way? Are you stuck trying to just stop thinking the old thought, with nothing ready to actually replace it? YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH... A clear picture of the one idea that has to be in place before any thought can actually change Permission to expect resistance without mistaking it for failure A concrete way to decide in advance what truth will replace an old thought The full catch → examine → own process walked through in one real example A way to keep going when change feels slow, without turning it into more self-effort This episode walks through five aspects of owning your response, built around a picture of choosing healthy food over junk food 1) believing that God is good before anything else can change 2) expecting resistance without mistaking it for failure 3) deciding in advance what truth will replace the old thought 4) walking the full Catch/Review/Own process in a real example 5) trusting grace to do the sustaining work instead of white-knuckling through it This is the third week in our C.R.O.W.N series - start with Episode 57 if you want to start at the beginning! PART 3: RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED📖 2 Corinthians 10:5 📖 Romans 12:2 💌 Subscribe to the Heart Work Love Letter🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle❓ Submit a listener question  CONNECT WITH JULIA 📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Pick one recurring thought this week and walk it through catch, examine, own Join the Heart Work Healing Circle for support along the way Subscribe to the newsletter so you don't miss a Monday or Thursday Submit your own question, it might shape a future episode This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  60 | Anyway: The One-Word Practice That Stops the Spiral 31.08.2026 7min

  Have you ever felt a single thought hijack your whole afternoon before you even realized what happened?Do you ever agree with a fearful thought out of habit, without ever stopping to ask if you actually wanted to?What if the way out of a spiral wasn't a longer fight, but one simple word? This is Week 3 of the CROWN series. If you haven't listened to Heart Checks 56 and 58 yet, start there first, this week builds directly on both. C - Catch the Thought: how to stop the thought spiral and practice to trace what thought led to another R - Review and Examine the Thought: how three questions can put any thought on trial. This week, we land on O - Own Your Response. Once you've caught a thought and examined it, you still get to decide what to do with it: agree with it, or don't. Today I'm giving you one simple word how to “address” that thought, and then turn to Jesus and agree with Him instead.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 56 | Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infiidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over - start here with the first Heart Check C.R.O.W.N series  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle: a private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps:Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love LetterStep 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a questionStep 3: Tired of trying to heal alone? HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPENA private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  59 | Dreaming of a Mind That Isn't Hijacked by Triggers? 4 Truths to Rediscover the Authority That's Always Been Yours 27.08.2026 24min

  Have you ever felt like a triggered thought didn't just visit, it moved in and tried to take over the whole house?Do you ever white-knuckle your way through an anxious thought because it doesn't feel like you have any real say over it?What if the thought that's been ruling you this week was never actually in charge to begin with? Last week we started the identity teaching in the CROWN series, based on 2 Cor 10, and we are slowly making our way through what it really means to take every thought captive. This episode answers the question underneath that whole practice: where do you get the right to arrest and put a thought on trial in the first place? I'm walking you through the authority you carry as a daughter of the King, the real, positional authority over your own mind, which is what gives Monday's trial its legal standing. This is Week 2 of the CROWN series,  If you haven't listened to last week’s episodes, start there! RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Ephesians 2:6  You are seated with Christ in heavenly places, the seat of your authority 📚 Dr. Lee Warren, The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery 🎙️ Episode 56 Monday Heart Check: “Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over" 🎙️ Episode 57 Thursday Deep Dive: "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch And How to Finally Start LIving From Them” 🎙️ Episode 58 Monday Heart Check: "3 Questions to Ask Every Fearful Thought Before It Can Spiral And How the Answers Will Bring You Peace" 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle: a private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here PART 4: CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps:Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love LetterStep 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a questionStep 3: Tired of trying to heal alone? HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN***A private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle on Facebook DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  58 | 3 Questions to Ask Every Fearful Thought Before It Can Spiral And How the Answers Will Bring You Peace 25.08.2026 15min

  Do your thoughts after betrayal feel so real and so certain that you automatically believe them even when something inside you suspects they might not be telling you the whole truth? Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between a thought that is actually true and one that only feels true because the pain attached to it is so intense? Have you been catching yourself in the thought spiral this week noticing the chain and wondering what to do with what you found? Last week we started the CROWN series: five Monday Heart Check practices that together spell C-R-O-W-N and build on each other week by week. Last week was C - Catch the Thought. This week is R - Review and Examine the Thought. In this episode I am introducing the second step in taking every thought captive: putting the thought on trial. I am walking you through three simple questions to ask every fearful thought after betrayal so you can begin separating what is actually true from what only feels true. A thought is not automatically true just because it feels true. We are wearing the crown, our true identity in Christ, which is the evidence you bring into the courtroom when the thought stands up and makes its case. This is Week 2 of the CROWN series. If you have not yet listened to Episodes 56 and 57 go back and start there first. Everything we are building this week depends on that foundation. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 2 Corinthians 10:5 (The Message version): "fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ" 🎙️ 56 | Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infiidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over (Week 1 of the CROWN series, listen to this first) 🎙️ Episode 57 "5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch And How to Finally Start Living From Them” (Introducing the crown we are all wearing, listen to this first) 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle : A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN!!!A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle on Facebook DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  57 | 5 Truths About Who You Are That Betrayal and Infidelity Cannot Touch And How to Finally Start Living From Them 20.08.2026 18min

  Have you looked at yourself since the betrayal and barely recognized who you are anymore? Does it feel like the person you used to be has gotten lost somewhere in the pain and confusion and survival mode? Do you find yourself interpreting your husband cheating on you as evidence about who you are as if his choices somehow say something true about whether you are enough, whether you are lovable, whether you are worth choosing? So much of what feels unbearable after betrayal and infidelity trauma, the anxiety, the obsessive thoughts, the hopelessness, the inability to move forward, is connected to one thing.  I am introducing the image that is going to carry us through this entire series: the crown, a biblical and spiritual reality about who you actually are as a daughter of the King. Drawing on Romans 8:16-17 and Ephesians 1 you will learn five truths about your identity that betrayal and infidelity cannot touch: You are chosen, adopted, redeemed, forgiven, and sealed.  This is Week 1 of our identity series. Everything starts here with remembering what you are actually wearing. Your true identity that never got lost.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Romans 8:16-17 "The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children. Now if we are children then we are heirs, heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ." 📖 Ephesians 1 " chosen, adopted, redeemed, forgiven, sealed" 🎙️ Episode 56 Monday Heart Check: "Catch the Thought Before It Carries You Away After Betrayal" 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle  DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  56 | Spiraling Thoughts After Betrayal or Infiidelity? One Simple Practice to Catch Them Before They Take Over 18.08.2026 13min

  Does one frightening thought quickly turn into ten and leave you imagining the worst-case scenario? Do spiraling thoughts after betrayal or infidelity make it difficult to sleep, eat, breathe deeply, or stay present? Do you know you need to “take your thoughts captive,” but struggle to recognize the thought that started the spiral? In this Monday Heart Check, I’m sharing one simple practice to help you begin noticing your spiraling thoughts before they take over your body and imagination. Building on my conversation with my brother in Episode 55, we’ll practice getting out of the hamster wheel by learning to catch, trace, and notice your thoughts. You’ll learn how to: Catch the first thought that started the spiral Trace the thoughts that followed it Notice what happened in your body as response to your thoughts You cannot take a thought captive if you have never noticed it. This gentle practice will help you begin creating awareness, without judging yourself, forcing the thought away, or trying to solve everything at once. This Week’s Heart Work When you notice yourself spiraling, write down these four sentences: The first thought I noticed was… The next thought was… In my body, I noticed… In my imagination, I went to… Resources and Links Mentioned 📖 Scripture: 2 Corinthians 10:5 🎙️ Episode 55: Listen to my conversation with my brother about rebuilding trust and getting out of your head when healing feels overwhelming. 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ***NOW OPEN***: A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here Connect with Julia and Take Your Next Step Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***NOW OPEN***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  55 | Feeling Triggered or Hopeless After Betrayal? Here’s What to Do | Q&A With A Therapist, Part 2 13.08.2026 25min

  Are you finding yourself feeling stuck trying to rebuild trust with your spouse and wondering why nothing seems to produce the lasting change you are longing for? Do you find yourself so triggered in certain moments that you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and then feeling ashamed or guilty why you cannot hold it together or why you are not further along? Are you stuck in your head, thoughts going around and around like a hamster wheel, putting in what feels like so much effort but not getting anywhere and longing for someone to tell you there is actually a way out of this? This is Part 2 of a practical and very encouraging conversation with my brother, a licensed marriage and family therapist. During it, I ask him three more questions most women have who are recovering from broken trust. Today you will learn about: mistakes women make when trying to rebuild trust after betrayal: over emphasizing feelings or cutting them off entirely, blaming yourself or your husband because blame feels justified, and focusing on what you do not want instead of what you actually do. asking different questions, for example: Instead of “Does he deserve my trust?” ask, “What do I want the outcome to be and what can I do to get closer to that?" how betrayal affects the nervous system and what that means practically for the trust rebuilding process. approaching yourself with empathy by wondering what you are actually capable of in a highly triggered moment instead of expecting more of yourself than you have available right now. leaning into curiosity instead of interrogation. turning toward the person inside you by asking questions like where am I at? What do I need? What will actually work for me right now? how to hold on to hope when you feel like rebuilding trust is completely out of reach. There is always a way out.  This is Part 2 of a two part conversation. If you have not yet listened to Episode 53, Part 1, go back and start there first. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🎙️ Episode 53 "Can You Ever Trust Again After Betrayal or Infidelity? Where Rebuilding Trust Really Begins | Q&A With a Therapist Part 1” , listen to this first 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist: A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***ALMOST OPEN*** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get on the waitlist now  to → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  54 | Ready to Feel Safe Again After Betrayal? How Listening to Your Body Can Finally Help You Rebuild Trust 10.08.2026 14min

  Have you ever walked into a room with your husband and felt your whole body tighten, even before anything was said, even before anything happened? Have you wondered why you cannot just decide to relax and trust? Do you find yourself lying awake at night with your heart racing even when nothing has happened and maybe even feeling guilty about it like you are being unfair or not trusting God enough? Have you tried to decide in your mind to trust again and found that your body simply has not gotten the memo, that no matter how much you know theologically your body still responds to him like a threat? In this Monday Heart Check I am giving you a simple practice called "The Body Check",  so you can begin to notice what safety actually feels like in your body, what threat feels like, and how to invite God's peace into the places where fear has taken up residence. Drawing on Colossians 3:15, "let the peace of God rule”, this practice brings that invitation out of the theological and into the physical. Where healing actually has to happen. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Colossians 3:15: "Let the peace of God rule in your hearts"  🎙️ Episode 49 "The Way Out of the Emotional Rollercoaster After Infidelity or Betrayal And Why It Is Not Another Strategy" introduced the Colossians 3:15 umpire concept 🎙️ Episode 53 "Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal | An Honest Conversation With a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Part 1" 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist: A private healing community for women doing this hard holy work together ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE *** OPENING UP THIS WEEK***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Get on the waitlist now → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.  
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  53 | Can You Ever Trust Again After Betrayal or Infidelity? Where Rebuilding Trust Really Begins | Q&A With A Therapist, Part 1 06.08.2026 33min

  Have you been asking yourself whether you will ever be able to trust your husband again after the betrayal and wondering where you even begin to answer that question? Have you been watching his every move, waiting for him to prove himself, tracking whether he follows through and secretly wondering why that approach is not bringing you the peace or the clarity you were hoping for? Do you find yourself unsure whether rebuilding trust even starts with him  or whether there is something that has to happen inside you first before any of that is possible? Can you ever trust again after betrayal or infidelity? It is one of the most asked and most feared questions in the entire healing journey after betrayal. And today I am sitting down with someone whose answer is going to reframe the whole conversation. In this episode I am joined by my brother, a licensed marriage and family therapist and someone who has walked alongside me personally through some of the hardest seasons of my own healing journey. Together we are having an honest and practical conversation about where rebuilding trust actually has to begin. And it might not be where you expect. We cover what rebuilding trust actually means and what most women get wrong about it from the very start. We talk about the strong connection between trusting God trusting yourself and trusting others and why you cannot fully separate them. And we begin to explore what rebuilding trust actually looks like in the day to day reality of a marriage touched by betrayal. This is Part 1 of a two part conversation. Part 2 drops next Thursday.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED   💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist: A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***: A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get on the waitlist now: → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  52 | Ready to Trust Yourself Again After Betrayal? How Saying Yes to What You Actually Want Starts Rebuilding Everything 03.08.2026 12min

  Have you been so focused on watching what your husband does, whether he follows through, whether he is telling the truth, whether he is proving himself, that you have completely lost touch with what you actually want? Have you become so organized around avoiding pain and protecting yourself from what might hurt you again that you have also stopped moving toward what is good and life-giving? Do you find it hard to answer the simple question "what do I actually want?”  - what you are genuinely experiencing, desiring and needing as a whole person before God? In this Monday Heart Check I am giving you the other side of the self trust practice because rebuilding self trust after betrayal is not only about saying no to what feels wrong. It is also about learning to recognize and say yes to what is good wise and life-giving. In this episode I am sharing a simple three step practice called "The Yes” - so you can begin noticing the small moments this week when you sense a genuine desire or preference and learning to bring it honestly before God and choose wisely without fear, guilt or dismissing yourself. Every small God-anchored yes you make becomes a deposit into rebuilding that trust, one honest step at a time. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🎙️ listen first to Episode 46 "Sick of Second Guessing Yourself After Betrayal? Try This One Simple Practice to Start Rebuilding Self Trust This Week”  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist: A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle     DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  51 | Why Your Real Healing After Betrayal Won't Begin Until You Hit This One Turning Point 30.07.2026 15min

  Have you been doing everything right, maybe you are praying, trying, working on the marriage, but you still feel stuck in a way you cannot fully explain? Do you find yourself waiting for your husband to finally change, finally apologize the right way, or finally understand before you feel like you can begin to be okay? Have you ever had a moment where what came out of you in the middle of the pain shocked you? Maybe where your reactions did not look anything like the person you want to be and you wondered what was wrong with you? This is our closing episode of July, a month of Sabbath, celebration, and reflection. And I wanted to end it with the most important turning point in my entire healing journey after betrayal. In this episode I am sharing the moment that changed everything: when I realized I was powerless over my own reactions and responses, when I stopped asking God to take away my pain and started asking Him to transform my heart, and when I finally understood what it meant to get off the throne and let God be God. This is the most personal episode I have ever recorded. And I think it might be exactly what you need to hear today, especially if you are wondering why nothing seems to be moving no matter how hard you try. If you have struggled to make sense of the pain and you are even loosing hope - today’s message will give you the hope that sometimes in the midst of the greatest pain and suffering it is the very place where God begins His deepest work. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Psalm 23 "The Lord is my shepherd"  📖 “The Lord's Prayer” Matthew 6:9-13  📖 2 Corinthians 12:10 "When I am weak then I am strong"  🎙️ Episode 43: "25 Years of Marriage - Celebrating What God Changed"  the four shifts that happened in my heart  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist — A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist       DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  50 | Why Reading Your Bible After Betrayal in Your Marriage Can Feel Empty And How This One Ancient Practice Changes Everything 27.07.2026 13min

  Have you opened your Bible after a hard day after the betrayal in your marriage and read the words on the page and couldn’t even really comprehend them?  Do you feel guilty that Scripture does not seem to be landing the way it used to or you even wonder if something is spiritually wrong with you because you cannot seem to receive comfort from the words you know are true? Are you longing for a way to come to God in His word that goes deeper than just reading because you feel desperate for Him to speak to you in your pain? In this Monday Heart Check I am encouraging you to try an ancient practice that has been used by followers of Jesus for over fifteen hundred years and that completely changed the way I came to Scripture in the hardest season of my healing journey. "Lectio Divina” or sacred reading is simply coming to Scripture to encounter God. To listen. To receive. To be transformed by what He wants to say to you personally in this moment. We will read Lamentations 3:22-23 written by Jeremiah in the middle of complete devastation and yet full of some of the most hope-filled words in all of Scripture. As we are reading I will introduce you to the four movements of Lectio Divina: Read - lectio Reflect - meditatio Respond - oratio and Rest - contemplatio. This practice takes a few minutes and I believe it is going to open something in you that is going to prepare your heart for God to speak to you directly and exactly where you are at today.  Great is His Faithfulness!   RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Lamentations 3:22-23 "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness." 📖 Lectio Divina: an ancient Christian practice of sacred reading dating back to the early church fathers 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  49 | The Way Out of the Emotional Rollercoaster After Infidelity or Betrayal in Your Marriage And Why It Is Not Another Strategy 23.07.2026 15min

  Do you find yourself replaying conversations with your husband trying to figure out what you could have said differently to finally get the response your heart was longing for? Does his bad day become your bad day, his silence your panic, his healing your project and no matter how hard you try to stop this pattern it just keeps showing up? Have you tried every strategy and every technique to get back to peace after a hard moment and found that nothing seems to produce the lasting transformation you are actually longing for? This episode is for the woman who is exhausted from the emotional roller coaster and ready for something more than just another strategy to manage it. In this episode I am naming a very human and very predictable pattern that shows up in every marriage touched by betrayal. When your sense of okayness becomes dependent on another person's choices, behavior, healing, or response, your inner world feels out of control and you find yourself scrambling to gain back control.  The good news is there is a way out. The answer is not to try harder or apply better strategies. The greatest trap in the healing journey is trying to fix yourself or your spouse leaning on self help instead of asking for God's grace to be activated in you. Drawing on Colossians 3:15 "the peace of God as the umpire of your inner world”, this episode offers one simple question followed by a prayer that is the real and lasting way out of this pattern. This episode is practical encouragement to stop seeking more information but instead find true transformation which starts in your own heart first.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Colossians 3:15 "Let the peace of God rule in your hearts" 🎙️ Episode 48 Monday Heart Check 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly Heart Work Love Letter from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist — A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical tools straight to your inbox → Subscribe to my weekly Heart Work Love Letter Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? → HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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  48 | Disappointed by Your Husband's Response? Here's What to Do Next as You Navigate Betrayal 20.07.2026 10min

  Are you replaying conversations with your husband, wondering what you should have said differently? Do you feel disappointed when his response leaves you feeling unseen, unheard, or misunderstood? Are you exhausted from trying to find the "right" words, hoping they'll finally change his response? After betrayal, one of the hardest moments isn't always the conversation itself but it mostly is what happens afterward when your husband's response isn't what you hoped for. In this Monday Heart Check, we will practice how to help you stop replaying the conversation release the urge to control someone else's response bring your attention back to the one heart God has entrusted it to your care If you've been carrying disappointment, longing to be understood, or feeling stuck in the cycle of striving, this short episode will help you pause, reconnect with God, and begin guarding your heart with wisdom and peace. Connect with Julia Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here  
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  47 | 5 Practical Ways to Rebuild Trust After Marriage Betrayal and Infidelity Without Letting Fear Hold You Back 16.07.2026 29min

  Are you struggling with rebuilding trust after betrayal in your marriage? Do you wish you felt confident again in your own voice? Do you wonder how to reconnect with others again even if you feel like retreating or isolating because of the pain? In this episode I am building on last Thursday's story of the four false beliefs and turning it toward you. Because the renewal of the mind is not the destination. It is the beginning. And what grows from a renewed mind is what I call Leading from the Heart. I am sharing what Leading from the Heart actually is: a heart anchored in God, honest with itself, and clear about its values and needs and five practical everyday ways to begin building it after betrayal: - getting curious instead of judgmental with yourself - saying no to small things - tuning into your body - bringing it all to God - letting yourself be known by safe people This is Part 2 of our rebuilding trust series and it connects directly to Episode 45. If you have not listened to that one yet go back and start there first. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Romans 12:2 "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind" the foundation of Leading from the Heart 📖 Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard  📖 Marshall Rosenberg Basic List of Feelings and Needs 🎙️ Episode 44 Monday Heart Check  🎙️ Episode 45 Ready to FInallly Stop Feeling Stuck in Healing From Marriage Betrayal?   -listen to this first! 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia her   CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? →  HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Come find us → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle  
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  46 | Sick of Second Guessing Yourself After Betrayal? Try This One Simple Practice to Start Rebuilding Trust This Week 13.07.2026 11min

  Have you been second guessing yourself constantly after the betrayal doubting what you feel, doubting what you sense, wondering whether your perception of reality can even be trusted anymore? Do you find yourself dismissing your own instincts telling yourself you are being paranoid or oversensitive or dramatic even when something deep inside you knows what it knows? Have you been waiting for one big dramatic moment of clarity that tells you it is okay to trust yourself again and wondering why it has not come? In this Monday Heart Check we are continuing our July series on rebuilding trust and today I want to give you the most important truth about self trust that I wish someone had told me sooner. It does not come back all at once. It comes back in small moments. One small honest step at a time. In this episode I am sharing a simple three step practice called One Small Act of Self Trust so you can begin making deposits into your own self trust account this week. Because rebuilding trust in yourself after betrayal is really just the accumulation of evidence that your heart can be trusted. And you start building that evidence one small moment at a time. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🎙️ Episode 45 | Ready to Finally Stop Feeling Stuck in Healing From Marriage Betrayal? 4 Shifts I Made That Can Get You There 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here : CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question or topic idea? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***Join the Waitlist for our private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal.  → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle