The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

Episódios

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  133. You Were Never Meant to Earn Love by Overgiving | What Being Loved Well Really Means 16.07.2026 23min

  Many women have been taught that love is something they earn by giving more of themselves. In this episode, we’re unlearning that belief together.We’re talking about what it actually means to be loved well, why healthy love protects you from overextending yourself, and why someone who truly loves you pays attention to what your giving is costing you.Because the healthiest love you’ll ever experience won’t ask you to disappear—it will make more room for you to exist.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrFacebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfrTikTok: (50.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  132. You Can Leave Based On How He Makes You Feel—That’s ENOUGH 09.07.2026 40min

  If you’ve been going back and forth in your head trying to figure out if what you’re feeling is valid — this video is for you.You don’t need receipts. You don’t need a list of things he did wrong. You don’t need to be able to explain it to your friends or make it make sense to him. A feeling is data. And it is enough.In this video we’re talking about why so many women intellectualize their way through relationships that are hurting them — overanalyzing his behavior, researching his attachment style, giving grace where grace isn’t being earned — instead of simply honoring what their body and heart have been trying to say the whole time.You are allowed to leave because something feels off. You are allowed to leave because you don’t feel safe. You are allowed to leave because you feel small, or unseen, or like you’re slowly disappearing inside of this relationship.You don’t have to build a case. You don’t have to prove it. You just have to trust yourself.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrFacebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfrTikTok: (50.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  131. Decentering Men is What Gets You the Man 25.06.2026 32min

  If you want to stop chasing men and start attracting healthier love, this episode is for you.In today’s episode, we’re talking about why making men the center of your life often keeps you stuck in unhealthy dating patterns—and why the women who seem to attract healthy, committed relationships usually have one thing in common: their lives don’t revolve around being chosen.We’ll discuss why centering men makes you ignore red flags, overinvest too quickly, and lose yourself in the process. More importantly, you’ll learn how shifting your focus back to your own life, purpose, and peace naturally changes the way you date—and the kinds of men you attract.This isn’t about playing hard to get or pretending you don’t care. It’s about becoming a woman who chooses wisely instead of desperately hoping to be chosen.✨ If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share it with another woman who needs to hear this.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  130. Make Him Feel What It’s Like to Not Have You 18.06.2026 17min

  If you’ve been loving harder, explaining more, forgiving faster, and doing everything you can to keep the relationship together, this episode is for you.So many women believe the answer to feeling appreciated is giving more. But what if the very thing preventing someone from appreciating you is that they’ve never had to experience life without your constant presence?In this episode, we’re talking about why constantly rescuing the relationship can actually protect someone from the consequences of taking you for granted.This isn’t about playing games, ignoring texts, or trying to make someone jealous.It’s about understanding the difference between manipulation and boundaries.We’ll discuss:• Why people often don’t recognize what they have until they’re forced to experience its absence.• How anxious attachment can make you overfunction in relationships.• Why constantly fixing the relationship prevents you from seeing the truth.• The psychology behind why some people only realize your value after you’ve stepped away.• How to stop overextending yourself and start protecting your peace.Sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for yourself and for the relationship—is stop rescuing someone from the natural consequences of their choices.You deserve a relationship where your presence is appreciated, not simply expected.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  129. How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships (The Neuroscience Explanation of Why You Do This) 11.06.2026 17min

  In this episode, we’re exploring the neuroscience behind relationship anxiety, attachment wounds, and why so many women lose themselves around men they deeply care about.We’ll talk about:✨ Why your nervous system mistakes attachment for safety✨ The hidden fear underneath relationship anxiety✨ Why rejection feels so painful✨ How childhood and past relationships shape your attachment patterns✨ The neuroscience of self-abandonment✨ How to retrain your brain for healthy love✨ Why you’re not actually afraid of losing him—you’re afraid of losing what he representsIf you’ve ever felt obsessed, anxious, needy, or unlike yourself around someone you cared about, this conversation is for you.Healing isn’t learning how to make someone stay.It’s learning that your safety was never dependent on them in the first place.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  128. Why He Pulled Away When You Loved Him 21.05.2026 19min

  Trying to love an unhealed man can slowly make you question your worth, your emotions, and even the way you love. In this video, we’re talking about emotional unavailability, ego, intimacy, self-worth, and the hidden damage women experience when they pour love into men who have not healed emotionally.This conversation is not about blaming women for loving deeply — it’s about helping women understand that someone’s inability to receive healthy love is not proof that they are difficult to love.We’ll discuss:• Signs of an unhealed man• Why emotionally unavailable men struggle with intimacy• How loving the wrong person damages self-worth• Why women shrink themselves in unhealthy relationships• Ego vs emotional accountability• Why your love could not heal him• How to stop internalizing emotional neglectIf you’ve ever left a relationship feeling anxious, emotionally drained, insecure, or like you lost yourself trying to love someone, this video is for you.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  127. Make Him Come Correct—or Leave You Alone 14.05.2026 19min

  Your attachment made him feel more important than he actually was.In this video, we’re talking about anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable men, boundaries, fear of abandonment, and why healing sometimes means letting go of people who were never aligned with you to begin with.Make him come correct—or leave you alone.💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  126. Stop Being Afraid of Being “Mean” to Men (Especially for My Anxious Attachment Girlies) 07.05.2026 17min

  A lot of women are not afraid of being “mean” to men.They’re afraid of being abandoned, misunderstood, punished, or losing someone they’ve already become emotionally attached to.In this video, we’re talking about:* anxious attachment in dating* fear of running men off* why boundaries feel “mean”* attachment to emotionally unavailable men* people pleasing in relationships* fear of male retaliation/rejection* overexplaining yourself to men* why clarity scares you more than settlingBecause the truth is:You are not losing a good man by having standards.You’re exposing men who benefited from your lack of them.And anxious attachment can make you hold onto men who were never aligned with you to begin with.If this resonated with you, make sure to like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations around healing, self-worth, attachment, boundaries, and dating.
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  125. Men Like Klay Thompson Have a “Love Addiction” | Megan & Klay Breakup Talk 30.04.2026 25min

  ✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  124. Make Him Step Up Without Begging, Chasing, or Explaining 23.04.2026 26min

  If you’ve ever felt like you had to beg a man to show up, explain your needs over and over, or chase consistency… this is the truth most people won’t say out loud.Men don’t step up because of what you say.They step up because of what your presence requires.In this episode, we’re talking about why over-explaining, overgiving, and overextending actually keeps you stuck in the cycle of inconsistency—and what to do instead.This isn’t about playing games or manipulating him.It’s about shifting out of survival mode in love and into self-respect.You’ll learn: • Why begging for effort lowers your standard instead of raising it • The difference between potential and pattern (and why it matters) • How to stop overgiving access to someone who isn’t showing up • What actually makes a man step up (and why some never will) • How to let his behavior speak so you can see clearlyAt some point, it stops being about “how do I make him act right?”…and becomes “why am I staying where I’m not being met?”You don’t make the right man step up.You become someone who no longer entertains a man who won’t.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (155K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  123. You Don’t Want Love—You Want to Be Chosen 16.04.2026 17min

  You didn’t just want love…you wanted to be chosen.And without realizing it, that need can turn into something deeper—an identity.In this video, we’re talking about what happens when your sense of self becomes tied to who chooses you… and why rejection feels so personal, why you stay longer than you should, and why it’s so hard to let go—even when you know something isn’t right.Because this isn’t just about relationships.It’s about the meaning you’ve attached to being picked.At some point, you stop asking “Do I even want this?”and start asking “Why don’t they want me?”And that shift changes everything.This video will help you understand: • Why being chosen feels so important to you • How this pattern shows up in dating and relationships • Why you lose yourself trying to be chosen • And how to rebuild your identity without needing validation from someone elseIf you’ve ever felt like your worth increased when someone chose you… or decreased when they didn’t, this is for you.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  122. He’s Not Your Person, He’s a Pattern 02.04.2026 27min

  You keep telling yourself it’s love.That if you just give it more time, more patience, more understanding… it will finally feel the way it’s supposed to.But what if the reason you’re still there isn’t love?What if it’s familiarity?In this video, I’m breaking down the truth behind staying in relationships that drain you—and why it can feel so hard to leave even when you know something isn’t right. This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about understanding the patterns we learn, how they show up in our relationships, and how they keep us attached to people who aren’t able to meet us fully.You’re not confused.You’re used to it.And once you see it clearly, you’ll understand why choosing differently feels so uncomfortable—and why it’s necessary.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  121. This is How You Know He’s Not Playing About You | Men with Good Intentions Will Do These Things 12.03.2026 28min

  How do you know if a guy actually has good intentions — before you’re already attached? In this video, I’m breaking down 8 subtle but powerful signs that reveal a man’s true character early in dating. These aren’t the obvious things. These are the quiet, easy-to-miss behaviors that separate the men who are serious from the ones who are just skilled at seeming like it.If you’re tired of second-guessing and want to learn how to read what’s actually in front of you — this one’s for you.⬇️ Watch until the end — sign #5 is the one most women overlook.📌 Save this video to come back to when you need a reminder.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  120. You Say You Want an Emotionally Available Man… Do You Understand What You’re Asking For? 05.03.2026 32min

  Many women say they want an emotionally available man. But what happens when you finally meet one?In this video, I talk about something that doesn’t get discussed enough: how toxic or emotionally unavailable relationships can condition you to respond to healthy love in unhealthy ways.I share my personal experience of learning how to communicate, unlearn survival tactics, and grow inside a relationship with a genuinely good man. Because sometimes the hardest part of healthy love isn’t finding it — it’s learning how to receive it.In this video we talk about:• Why healthy men can feel unfamiliar after toxic relationships• The survival tactics women develop in emotionally unsafe relationships• Passive aggression, testing, and threatening to leave• How emotionally healthy men respond differently• What it looks like to heal inside a relationship• How to recognize when you’re growing instead of sabotagingYou don’t have to be fully healed to deserve healthy love.But you do have to be willing to grow once you’re in it.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  119. Make Him Realize He Fumbled You 19.02.2026 18min

  He knew your worth.He just didn’t think you’d leave.In this episode, we’re talking about why men take good women for granted — and what actually makes a man realize he fumbled you. Spoiler: it’s not begging, over-explaining, or proving your value.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)If you’ve ever felt like he didn’t see how good you were… this conversation is going to shift your perspective.We break down:• Why men recognize your value but still mishandle you• The connection between low self-worth and taking a woman for granted• How over-availability quietly removes urgency• Why speaking up and upholding boundaries changes everything• How to make him feel the loss without revenge or games• The power of having a life outside of him• Why access — not your worth — is the real issueThis isn’t about “making him act right.”It’s about not betraying yourself.It’s about understanding that sometimes the only way a man learns your value… is when he no longer has access to you.If you’re in the process of detaching, setting standards, or walking away from someone who underestimated you — this episode is for you.
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  118. He Wasn’t Special…He Was Just Fine (And He Wanted You) 12.02.2026 22min

  He wasn’t even that special… he was just fine. And he wanted you.In this video, we’re talking about why we fall for emotionally unavailable men, why love bombing works on self-aware women, and the truth about validation, attention, and our inner teen.Sometimes it’s not a soul tie.Sometimes it’s not destiny.Sometimes it’s just the first time a man we actually find attractive chooses us — and we build it into something it never was.We’re unpacking: • Love bombing and why it feels so intense • The difference between chemistry and validation • Why emotionally unavailable men feel exciting • The “inner teen” no one talks about • How to stop confusing being chosen with being valuedIf you’ve ever chased a man who was “fine” but inconsistent… this one is for you.You’re not crazy. You’re not weak.You just finally felt chosen.Healing Sundays ONLY on my YouTube channel can be found here:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwGugZ7M2WXmeERAHpePYJzNimNl_3ZLH&si=0D3RBNDvIyA1rBbs✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  117. Make Him Feel Stupid for Trying You (The Reverse Uno Method) 05.02.2026 18min

  You gotta make him feel stupid for trying you—and the way you do that isn’t revenge, yelling, or explaining. It’s walking away for good.In this video, we talk about why continuing to engage with a man who already showed you who he is only feeds his ego—and leaves you feeling drained, embarrassed, and stuck. If you’ve ever found yourself missing him, wanting to text him, or struggling not to fold even though you know it’s over, this conversation is for you.I break down: • Why men expect you to come back • How continuing to engage gives him power over you • The psychology behind silence and emotional discipline • Why walking away hurts his ego more than chasing ever will • How to stop reaching out, even when it hurts • What actually happens when you leave him alone and level upThis isn’t about playing games.It’s about self-respect.It’s about discipline over desire.And it’s about choosing yourself—even when it’s uncomfortable.If you’re ready to stop stroking his ego, stop betraying yourself, and finally move on with your life, this video will help you shift your mindset and take your power back.💬 Let me know in the comments—what was the hardest part about leaving him alone?💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  116. You’re Not Clingy (He Needs a Healthy Obsession With You or You Will Feel Clingy) 29.01.2026 18min

  If a man doesn’t have a healthy obsession with you, the relationship will slowly make you anxious, insecure, and self-doubting.Women are constantly told they’re “clingy,” “too emotional,” or “asking for too much”—when in reality, they’re responding to emotional inconsistency and lack of presence.In this video, I break down:• What “healthy obsession” actually means (and what it doesn’t)• Why women feel anxious in emotionally unavailable relationships• Why some men push back hard against emotional closeness• The difference between control and emotional investment• Why the right man makes you feel settled—not confusedThis isn’t about toxicity.It’s about emotional responsibility.If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink, stay quiet, or lower your expectations to keep a man—this conversation is for you.✨ Share this with a woman who’s been told she’s “too much.”✨ Subscribe for honest conversations about love, attachment, and emotional safety.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  115. Why Some Men Will Never Get Married—No Matter How Good The Woman Is 22.01.2026 25min

  Why do some men say they want marriage—but never seem able to sustain it?In this video, I talk about why liking your partner matters more than people admit, and why some men will never be marriage material—not because they don’t want love, but because they don’t truly appreciate women as people.Inspired by a conversation about long-term marriage, this discussion breaks down unrealistic expectations placed on women, the idea that a woman should “be his peace,” and why conflict, inconvenience, and tension are not signs of a failing relationship—but part of real intimacy.As a married woman, I share what I’ve learned about staying power, emotional maturity, and why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a marriage. If you’ve ever questioned why a man avoids commitment, resents boundaries, or shuts down when relationships require growth—this conversation is for you.This video is for women who want clarity, not confusion—and for anyone trying to understand what actually makes a relationship last.Read the thread:The thread:https://www.threads.com/@ivebeenthatgirltoo/post/DTv0dx7EcTL?xmt=AQF0dirXWeKzynFER01acwx_hmXcU1I5Yx9ZMuXJHktBt0oyJ2LZA7pO4mjqoVblsUuamBQ&slof=1✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)
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  114. A Man Treating You Right Should Be the Only Thing That Impresses You About Him 15.01.2026 30min

  There comes a point in a woman’s dating life where nothing about a man matters if he doesn’t treat her right.Not his looks.Not his money.Not his charm.Not his potential.In this episode, we talk about why so many women are conditioned to be impressed by the wrong things—and what shifts when you finally heal enough to make treatment the standard.This conversation is for women who are tired of confusing inconsistency with chemistry, intensity with intimacy, and attention with love. We break down how trauma and attachment shape attraction, why emotionally unavailable men stop feeling exciting, and how peace becomes the new flex.If you’ve ever wondered why you used to tolerate less—or why dating feels different now—you’re not alone. Healing doesn’t make you harder to impress. It makes you clearer.🎙 In this episode, we cover: • Why women are taught to be impressed by potential instead of behavior • How trauma rewires attraction and keeps women chasing unavailable men • What changes when self-worth becomes non-negotiable • Why some men feel threatened when you raise your standards • How to shift from chasing emotional highs to choosing emotional safety✨ When you get to the point where being treated right is the only thing that impresses you—you stop settling, explaining, and shrinking.If this resonates, like, subscribe, and share with a woman who’s outgrowing what no longer serves her.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)