Speaking With Confidence

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• How to Become the Most Influential Person in Any Room in Just 13 Minutes 02.07.2026 13min

  Have you ever sat through a meeting and wondered why the loudest voice in the room seems to dominate yet rarely drives any real influence? In this episode of Speaking With Confidence, I’ll answer a question that impacts every professional gathering: If it’s not the loudest voice that wins the room, what actually does? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m pulling back the curtain on what really makes someone the most influential person in the room. Spoiler: It’s not volume, and it’s not vocabulary. After years in boardrooms, classrooms, and meetings of every kind, I’ve seen firsthand and struggled through myself the pitfalls of overcomplicating messages, hiding behind jargon, and talking just to fill the silence. The result? You risk becoming background noise, no matter how many slides or big words you pack in. Today’s episode is all about becoming the person who can say the one thing everyone is thinking but can’t quite put into words. I’ll walk you through research-backed truths on attention spans, the brutal math of memory retention, and the real cost of poor communication in the workplace. We’ll talk about why clarity is the most valuable currency you can bring to a group, and how being a clarifier trumps being the show-off or the non-stop talker every single time. I’m sharing the three habits that will make you the clarifier in any room, and you’ll walk away with tools you can use in your very next meeting. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why the loudest person is rarely the most influential and what actually creates influence The attention span cliff: what happens at minute 15 and why 18 minutes is a magic number The science of memory retention and why going long costs you credibility The “8th grade rule” for simplifying your message The staggering cost of poor communication in organizations Three habits to make you the architect of any conversation: the two second pause, the one sentence summary, and the clarifying question Practical examples and questions you can use to shift from noise-maker to problem-solver instantly If you’ve ever left a meeting frustrated because you didn’t feel heard or wondered why your great idea didn’t seem to stick, this episode is for you. Join me to learn how being a clarifier, not a commentator, will make you the most influential person in every room you enter. And remember: You don’t need a new personality, just a handful of simple tactical switches to start commanding attention and guiding conversations with confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Emotional Intelligence in Communication: Tools for Self-Awareness and Confident Speaking 29.06.2026 53min

  What’s really holding you back from being a confident, impactful communicator could it be less about your words and more about truly understanding yourself? Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode, we dig deep into the heart of communication not just the techniques and the tips, but the self-awareness that’s at the foundation of how you show up and connect with others. Today, I’m joined by Sandy Gerber, a powerhouse communication coach, emotional intelligence trainer, TEDx speaker, and the award-winning author of Emotional Magnetism. Sandy’s journey from outward business success to a reckoning with personal fulfillment will resonate with anyone who’s ever felt their “on paper” life didn’t match up with how things felt inside. We kicked things off by asking the big question: is it really your communication skills that need fixing, or could it be a lack of self-awareness that’s clouding your conversations with others? Sandy shares a pivotal moment in her life, when, despite all the trappings of success, she felt like a fraud because her personal relationships weren’t thriving. That realization kicked off a decade-long exploration into what makes relationships at home and at work genuinely successful. We talk about how so many of us are “winging it” when it comes to communication, borrowing strategies from family or the workplace without understanding our own internal dialogue. Sandy opens up about learning from her failures, seeking out wisdom from luminaries like John Maxwell and Wayne Dyer, and ultimately developing her framework of emotional magnetism, the idea that we’re each driven by core emotional needs that shape our decisions and interactions. Here’s what we covered: The difference between communication problems and self-awareness problems Sandy’s journey from outward success to confronting personal dissatisfaction Why “looking successful” isn’t the same as “feeling successful” The role of emotional magnetism in shaping our choices and relationships How to identify and honor your and others’ core emotional motivators The pitfalls of labeling others (and yourself) by behavior rather than by motivations Why authentic connection and empathy are built on understanding “why” Tools for regulating your emotions in high-stress moments (the EQ Switch) The neuroscience behind naming your emotions and calming your nervous system Recognizing and addressing emotional disengagement (“quiet cracking”) in the workplace The fundamental importance of intentional pausing and reflection as a communicator Actionable body language tips to look more confident and approachable (“the E trick”) The life-changing impact of choosing your first and last thoughts each day Why doing the work on yourself is non-negotiable for genuine leadership and influence This episode is all about moving from surface-level techniques to deep transformation so you can communicate, connect, and lead with real confidence. Connect with Sandy: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sgerber/     Website: https://sandygerber.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandy_gerber_official/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnectedConversationsSG    Magnetic Communication podcast: https://sandygerber.com/podcast/ Podcast Award Voting: https://www.womenpodcasters.com/magnetic-communication Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The 21-Day Challenge to Sound Confident and Articulate in Every Conversation 25.06.2026 17min

  Have you ever wondered how some people seem effortlessly articulate, making every word count, while others struggle to get their point across? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I break down exactly what it takes to become that person the one others listen to, respect, and remember by following a simple 21-day system. I'm Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I'm on a mission to help you discover the three foundational habits that can transform your speaking skills with no charisma required. Today, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step approach to building articulation as a skill, not a talent. Forget what you think you know about natural-born communicators. Together we’ll prove that anyone can learn to command a room and get results. We start by facing the real costs of poor communication, not just the $2 trillion it costs US businesses each year, but the quiet daily losses: fumbled meetings, muddled emails, and missed chances to show your worth. Then, I’ll guide you through each week of the system, designed so you can practice, record your progress, and see tangible clarity, confidence, and control develop day by day. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why articulation isn’t a talent, but a trainable, measurable skill if you use a structured approach The silent tax of poor communication in your professional life, and how it shows up in lost opportunities Week 1: Building clarity through “visual nouns” learning to paint pictures instead of offering empty abstractions Week 2: Leading with impact by putting your bottom line up front (BLUF), so your audience hears your message first, not buried in context Week 3: Commanding the room through staccato phrasing and confidence-boosting pauses, so you sound thoughtful, not rushed Practical, daily exercises for each habit, including rewriting emails, reframing project descriptions, and practicing presence in meetings Why recording yourself at the beginning and end of this journey is proof of progress, not perfection The ultimate takeaway: how to reach for concrete words, serve your conclusion before your context, and master the power of the pause Whether you want to stand out in meetings, make your emails count, or simply stop feeling like you’re speaking “in clouds,” this episode delivers the tools and the mindset you need to level up starting today. Don’t wait to feel ready. Press record, follow the system, and watch your communication transform in just 21 days. And remember: talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. For more resources, grab your free eBook “Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com and check out my Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice truly can change the world. Let's make sure it gets heard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Finding Your True Voice: The Power of Vocal Congruence and Self-Acceptance 22.06.2026 53min

  What if the way you sound matters just as much if not more than the words you say? We often believe that effective communication starts and ends with content, but in today’s episode, we dig beneath the surface: how can aligning your voice with your authentic self change the way you connect with others? I’m Tim Newman, and this week on Speaking with Confidence, I invited Wolfe Lanier to join me for a truly eye-opening conversation. Wolfe is a Somatic Voice practitioner and researcher, currently completing his MFA in Voice Studies at the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. His journey has taken him from the mountains of Appalachia, through New York’s corporate coaching world, into deep somatic practice all fueled by a central, fascinating question: why is there often a gap between who we are and how we come across? Wolfe shared his own story of performance anxiety, stage fright, and that all-too-relatable feeling of disconnect between inner worth and outward expression. We explored how self-talk, ego, and even physical tension in the body shape the sound of our voice and how often, what’s holding us back in communication is much deeper than we realize. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why your voice often reveals more than your words Wolfe’s personal journey from stage fright to vocal research The connection between self-talk, inner worth, and how you sound The science and experience of “vocal congruence” How culture, accent, and history influence voice and acceptance The role of somatic practice and releasing physical tension Why most people are their own worst critics and how to break the cycle The interplay between ego, perfectionism, and authentic communication Generational shifts in communication styles and expectations Step-by-step advice for building confidence and congruence in your voice If you’ve ever wished your voice could reflect your real confidence, or you’ve struggled to feel truly comfortable speaking up, this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical steps to start bridging the gap between who you are and how you come across. Connect with Wolfe: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wolfe-lanier-1186a61b/ Website: https://www.wolfelanier.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wolfe.lanier/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Speak Like a CEO: Simple, Concise, and Confident Communication That Gets Results 18.06.2026 16min

  Are you making your message clear or just making it longer? In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the most common myths in professional communication: that sounding like a CEO means drowning in buzzwords and complex sentences. In reality, the strongest leaders use a different formula: simplicity, conciseness, and real confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host for Speaking with Confidence. As a former college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how even the smartest folks can accidentally sound junior not because they lack expertise, but because we’re all trained to value complexity over clarity. In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact framework I use with executives who want to sound like leaders and get results. It’s just me, Tim Newman, sharing straight talk and some proven strategies you can start applying right now. We’ll look at why so many ambitious professionals default to overwrought, jargon-heavy language, and why that tendency actually undercuts your credibility in the boardroom. I’ll share stories from real pitch meetings, explain the “eighth grade rule” for clarity, and walk through practical techniques for making your message unmistakable. You’ll also hear why brevity is your best friend, how every extra sentence waters down your message, and how CEOs wield silence as a tool for authority. We’ll explore what true confidence sounds like (hint: it’s not loud or domineering), and I’ll walk you through the “certainty principle” talk like you’re correct, listen like you’re wrong. You’ll learn to spot and banish the hedges and caveats that sneak into everyday speech. I’ll wrap things up with actionable drills and real-world examples, including rewriting an email and running your own words through the simple, concise, and confident filter. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why most people accidentally sound junior at work and how to break the habit The three-part formula for executive presence: simple, concise, and confident The “eighth grade rule” for clarity and why it matters Practical exercises to strip jargon and complexity from your communication How brevity and silence signal credibility The difference between true confidence and performance How to replace hedges with certainty and why vulnerability is part of real confidence Tools you can start using tomorrow to make every word count If you’re ready to stop hiding behind big words and long explanations, and start being understood, this episode is your playbook. Remember, your voice has real power when you use it with intention. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Escaping Comfort: How Survival, Communication, and Leadership Shape Success with Said Eshaghi 15.06.2026 1h 23min

  What if the comfort you feel isn’t a sign you’re doing things right, but a warning that you’ve started losing ground? In this week’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig deep into the real meaning of comfort and the high cost it can carry through the extraordinary journey of my guest, Said Eshaghi. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a rut or held back by a life that feels “just comfortable enough,” this is an episode you can’t afford to miss. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach and today we’re exploring the powerful, and sometimes dangerous, role comfort can play in our personal growth and professional transformation. This isn’t just another episode about communication tactics. Today, we’re talking about the crucial things that happen before you ever open your mouth, moments that shape your confidence, your ability to adapt, and ultimately, your life’s direction. Said Eshaghi is the founder of Lead Beyond, a Maxwell Leadership certified team member, DISC consultant, and author of the new book Escape from Comfort. Said’s story begins in war-torn Iran, where, as a young teen, he and his brother faced a life-altering decision that would forever change the trajectory of their lives. From a perilous escape across dangerous borders to rebuilding his life in Sweden, rising to become a world-class biochemist, and eventually confronting the pitfalls of unchecked ambition, Said’s journey is a masterclass in resilience, adaptability, and the power of honest reflection. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The harrowing journey that took Said Eshaghi from his home in Iran, through Turkey, and finally to Sweden and how the decisions made during that trek shaped his perspective on trust and survival. Surviving trauma as a child, and why sometimes the things left unsaid are just as important to your survival as what you do say. How positive thinking and the pressure to excel even in subjects you hate can be both a survival mechanism and a potential weakness. The life-changing impact of a compassionate teacher, and how that experience informs the way Said Eshaghi now helps others struggling to express themselves. The challenges of finding your voice in a new country and language, including the role that trust plays in overcoming cultural and communication barriers. Lessons learned from the world of academia why top performers in STEM and high-pressure fields often fail to communicate outside their technical “bubble,” and the difference a great communicator can make. The concept of “mind laundering”: how seemingly harmless persuasion, mixed with personal agendas, can manipulate even the most well-intentioned people and how to recognize the signs before it’s too late. The dangers of unchecked ego and accidental growth, and how losing your sense of purpose can cause even the most successful individuals to go astray. Said Eshaghi’s proprietary FAR framework and how it helps people navigate transitions (and uncomfortable conversations) to move from survival to leadership and fulfillment. How to spot the one degree shift that can, over time, take you miles away from your intended path and what to do if you realize you’ve drifted. Why personal growth, reflection, and a purpose bigger than yourself are critical not just to your own development, but to your capacity to help others in a meaningful way. You’ll also hear us discuss Said Eshaghi’s new book, Escape from Comfort, and how honest reflection on life’s turning points is the key to escaping the “trap” of a comfortable but unfulfilling existence. If you’re in your 20s and feeling directionless, or maybe you’re older and questioning whether your comfort is holding you back, this episode will give you the perspective and practical steps you need to start uncomfortable but ultimately transformative conversations with yourself. Ready to move beyond comfort and toward the life (and impact) you were meant for? Dive into this conversation and let’s start navigating the transitions together. Connect with Said: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/said-eshaghi/ Website: https://saideshaghi.com     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/said.eshaghi.9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Three Powerful Phrases to Instantly Shut Down Disrespectful Coworkers 11.06.2026 17min

  Ever walked out of a meeting replaying the moment you got interrupted or worse, wondered if there’s anything you could have done differently? If you’ve ever felt powerless in those situations, you’re not alone, and today’s episode is here to give you specific tools to reset those dynamics immediately. This week on Speaking with Confidence, I’m tackling a scenario many of us know all too well: a coworker disrespects you in front of the group, and all eyes are on you to see what you’ll do next. Most people default to one of two “losing” moves: shrink away or snap back. Both give control away, and neither actually solves the real problem. What’s really going on isn’t a confidence gap, it’s about perceived cost. In the workplace, disrespect thrives when it’s cheap for the other person. My goal today is to show you how to make sure crossing your boundaries becomes expensive. I’m breaking down the dynamics we so often encounter but rarely address directly. I’ll walk you through the hidden calculations your coworkers are making, and I’ll share three phrases that shift the power dynamic without turning things into a confrontation. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why most responses to workplace disrespect—shrinking away or snapping back—don’t work, and what’s really happening in the silence after you’ve been interrupted The “perceived cost” principle and how others assess whether it’s worth it to disrespect you The first phrase: “I’m going to stop you right there,” how and why it works, and the importance of delivering it calmly and without qualifiers A real-world example of this phrase in action from a sports sponsorship meeting The second phrase: “That’s not what I said,” is designed to halt sneaky reframes and backhanded dominance moves, and how to effectively use it to reclaim accuracy and credibility How to prevent diluting your response and exactly what to do after using the phrase The third phrase: “I’ll need you to handle that differently next time,” for those chronic, ambiguous behaviors that are hard to call out but undermine your authority and effectiveness The importance of focusing forward, stating expectations, and not getting lured into relitigating old behavior Why the delivery, calm, flat, matter-of-fact is as important as the words themselves How all three phrases work as a simple system to block nearly every kind of workplace disrespect The real driver beneath all three: shifting the math so it’s not worth it for others to cross your boundaries I wrap up with a practical challenge for you: choose the phrase that fits your life the best, and practice it out loud so you’re ready the moment you need it. Progress, not perfection, is always our goal. Stick around for some free resources if you want to keep leveling up your communication skills! Remember, your voice really does have the power to change everything, especially when you use it with clarity and confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Unlocking the Hidden Clues to Your Purpose: Spirit, Soul, and Body Connections 08.06.2026 48min

  Have you ever wondered if you’re missing the clues that are pointing you to your true purpose? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we tackle one of the most important questions anyone can ask: What if your unique design isn’t something you have to invent, but something that’s already waiting to be discovered in the signals of everyday life? I’m Tim Newman, and today we dig deep into the art and science of finding and living your purpose, with the help of a truly fascinating guest, Caleb Matthews. Caleb Matthews is the founder of The SeeLink, a renowned speaker in the spiritual strategy space, and the creator of the SSB method (spirit, soul, and body). With two decades of experience helping thousands decode the hidden signals in their dreams, personal history, and daily frustrations, Caleb Matthews brings insight from new age festivals to meeting rooms with government leaders, and his radio broadcasts have reached millions across Africa. In our conversation, we unpack what it really means to have a “DNA of Design,” why so many people struggle to interpret their own purpose, and the crucial role that our spirit, not just our mind or body, plays in guiding us. Caleb Matthews shares his own remarkable journey from practicing speeches with stuffed animals to speaking at a Kenyan orphanage at 18, which was a life-altering lesson in gratitude and the power of perspective. We explore why Western culture often sidelines the spiritual side of ourselves, and how reawakening it can be a powerful anchor, especially in times of crisis. We also get very practical: how can you start recognizing everyday signals and “dots” that point toward your calling? Caleb Matthews offers simple strategies, including the importance of writing down and reflecting on your dreams which, he argues, are not just random brain static, but coded messages from your deeper self (or even the divine). Some of the things we covered in this episode include: Caleb Matthews’s unique method for discovering purpose through spirit, soul, and body The transformative experience of speaking in Africa and what it taught about gratitude How Western society tends to diminish the role of spirit in personal growth and why that matters The essential practice of recognizing and interpreting dreams as guides for your life Specific reasons why most people miss the clues to their purpose by rushing from A to Z The importance of staying connected to awe, wonder, and childlike curiosity in adulthood The dangers of stuffing down conscience and emotion and how to open up again How who you surround yourself with (the five people you see most) shapes your identity and fulfillment The “three Cs” of construct, conform, and contract in self-development Practical tips on dream journaling and the first question to ask when interpreting your dreams The significance of safeguarding your senses in a noisy, social media-driven world Lessons learned from speaking across more than a dozen countries: every audience is different, yet fundamentally the same If you’ve ever wondered where your purpose is hiding or how to listen to your life for clues you might be missing this episode will give you both inspiration and clear steps to move forward. Plus, Caleb Matthews shares how you can take his free “DNA of Design” quiz at calebmatthews.net to get started on your own journey toward discovering your design type. I hope this conversation challenges and empowers you to look deeper, listen closer, and take the next step in living out your unique calling. Connect with Caleb: Website: https://www.calebmatthews.net   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theseelink/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheSeeLink   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/caleb.matthews.334/   X: https://x.com/TheSeeLink Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• How to Give Honest Feedback Without Eroding Trust 04.06.2026 15min

  Have you ever wondered if the classic “sandwich method” for delivering feedback (compliment, criticism, compliment) actually works, or if it’s causing more harm than good? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling a management myth that’s been passed down for generations, but quietly erodes trust and sours relationships in the workplace. I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor turned communication coach, and I’ve seen countless managers, including myself, reach for this tried-and-true technique in hopes of softening the sting of tough feedback. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: our teams see it coming from a mile away, and the result isn’t motivation or clarity, it's confusion, distrust, and a growing reluctance to believe any positive feedback we share. In this episode, I dig into why the sandwich method fails everyone involved, and introduce you to Tim Elmore’s ALAG framework, a modern, honest, and far more effective way to have those hard conversations without burning trust in the process. While there’s no guest today, I’ll share a real-world story from my own experience to show you how this framework works in practice. We’ll talk about why the sandwich method was created to protect managers’ comfort more than employees’ growth, and how it ends up poisoning praise, confusing communication, and eroding the very trust managers hope to build. Then, I’ll walk you step-by-step through the ALAG framework: Ask, Listen, Empathize, and Guide. Each step is designed to break the pattern of defensiveness, invite genuine conversation, and move your team forward with both compassion and clarity. In this episode, you’ll hear: A breakdown of what actually happens inside a “sandwich” feedback conversation—and why it so often backfires The invisible ways trust is eroded conversation by conversation, even if you don’t see it happening Why opening with curiosity instead of conclusions instantly changes the tone and outcome How to practice genuine active listening instead of debating or rehearsing your next response The critical but overlooked role of empathy why it’s not agreement, and how to avoid compassion fatigue as a manager The power of the word “and” in balancing empathy with accountability How to gently guide toward action and clarity instead of shoving someone toward your standards A real-life example of helping a student navigate a tough decision with grace, using ALAG instead of empty praise Why being a better leader is about building character, not just managing discomfort Finally, I’ll challenge you to try the ALAG approach the next time you need to have a difficult conversation, and explain why real growth happens when you risk showing up with presence and honesty. Remember, we’re not aiming for perfection; we’re aiming for progress, every single day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Building Trust, Winning Work: Mastering Soft Skills for Professional Success 01.06.2026 50min

  How can technically brilliant professionals turn their expertise into influence and success in the workplace? That's the question we dive into on this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor who’s become a communication coach, and I know from experience that technical skills will get you hired, but communication is what gets you noticed and promoted. We see too many talented people missing out on opportunities because they haven’t developed the soft skills that build trust and win work. That's why I sat down with Ken Harms, an advisor, speaker, and author of "Building Trust, Winning Work," to unpack exactly why soft skills are the critical difference maker. Ken brings over 40 years of experience observing technically skilled folks stumble not because of lack of knowledge, but because of an inability to connect, communicate, and build authentic relationships. In our discussion, we tackle the persistent gap in our education system that leaves graduates with excellent technical training but few tools for powerful interaction. Ken shares research from the Carnegie Institute: a staggering 85% of future earnings stem from your ability to communicate and lead rather than strictly from technical know-how. We go deep on the root causes of this soft skills gap, from education to workplace culture, and why so many people resist improvement, even when feedback could dramatically accelerate their careers. Ken talks through his experience with "doer-seller" models in industries like construction explaining why public speaking, storytelling, and, importantly, listening with confidence must be learned and practiced intentionally, not left to chance. We cover actionable ways to prepare for meetings and interviews, showing that confidence is really about preparation and client focus, not just charisma. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why technical skills alone aren’t enough to succeed and get promoted The education system’s failure to teach communication, public speaking, or relationship-building Doer-seller dynamics in architecture, engineering, and construction fields The difference between speaking with confidence and listening with confidence, including Ken’s WAIT (Why Am I Talking?) framework How to prepare for meetings and client interactions by researching and planning thoughtful questions Reframing sales as service and why this matters to younger generations The enduring power of face-to-face meetings and practical ways to create trust digitally Likability, Competence, and Trust: the three professional hurdles and why likability is often the biggest obstacle for new grads The intersection (and collision) between authenticity and professionalism Real talk about workplace attire, first impressions, and why they still matter The importance of teamwork, collaboration, and how group skills learned in sports or competitions apply to the workplace Why mentorship matters and how both young professionals and seasoned leaders must meet each other halfway Ken’s actionable advice for technically brilliant but invisible young professionals: get training, practice relentlessly, and seek out opportunities to shine By the end of this conversation, you’ll have a full picture of how soft skills can elevate your technical expertise so you can speak, serve, sell, and lead with real impact. Connect with Ken: Website: https://kenharms.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenneth-harms-12b56629/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Secret Technique Confident Speakers Use to Connect 28.05.2026 13min

  Have you ever wondered why some presentations are instantly forgettable while others stay with you for weeks, even months? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into the surprising science and strategies behind messages that stick, and how the secret might just be your story, not your slides. I’m Tim Newman, recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I want to shatter a misconception: that confident speakers are just born with it. In reality, the best speakers aren’t those with loud personalities or endless credentials; they’re the ones who know how to use storytelling to connect, build trust, and inspire action. I’m unpacking the game-changing research on narrative, why audiences remember stories 22 times more than facts, and the counterintuitive way to earn authority (hint: it’s not by leading with your résumé). I pull back the curtain on the real mechanics of storytelling, the “show, don’t tell” principle, and why sharing your mistakes can make you instantly more credible. You’ll hear about my own most embarrassing moment on stage, the neuroscience behind “neural coupling,” and practical tips you can use right away to transform your next presentation. I walk you through step by step on how to rewrite your stories for maximum impact, avoid the biggest storytelling mistakes, and end with actionable takeaways that tie your stories back to your main message. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why telling stories activates your audience’s entire brain—and why that matters The research that proves stories build trust and authority faster than credentials Why sharing a personal setback in your first 60 seconds is often the smartest move The difference between telling and showing, with concrete examples How to audit and edit your stories to make them vivid and memorable The one sentence every story needs to tie back to your main point Three mistakes most speakers make when telling stories—and how to fix them A weekly challenge: how to find, craft, and deliver a powerful story from your own life Whether you’re selling, teaching, leading, or just want to show up more powerfully in everyday conversations, this episode will give you the blueprint for becoming a more memorable, trusted, and confident speaker. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Let's start building that confidence, one real story at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Mastering Emotional Sobriety: Unlocking Confidence and Control in Communication 25.05.2026 1h 22min

  How much of what’s holding you back is really about your emotional habits rather than your skills? On today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we get into the heart of emotional discipline, exploring the powerful concept of emotional sobriety and how mastering your emotions is a key to excelling not just in communication, but in every area of life. I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Andrea Vitz, a leading expert on emotional sobriety, best-selling author, keynote speaker, TEDx presenter, and president and co-founder of Lifted Academy. Andrea brings years of experience as a chiropractor and coach and is acclaimed for her work helping thousands break free from destructive emotional habits. She’s known for her revolutionary “reps-based” approach to training emotional maturity and has two new leadership books coming out this year. We dive deep into the real distinction between high performance and emotional maturity, how so many of us in high-pressure roles perform at a high level on the outside but remain stuck in immature emotional patterns on the inside. Andrea shares her own story of reaching a turning point at age 30 and realizing that true growth required retraining the way she responded emotionally rather than just pushing through or pretending to be above it all. We also unpack: The difference between your ‘why’ and your purpose, and why knowing both is crucial for impact and fulfillment How to create a culture of emotional safety at home and at work The science of emotional habits and why you can feel powerless to change until you intervene at the cellular level The self-centeredness trap and how to break the cycle of taking everything personally Why true leadership starts with internal mastery regardless of your age or status How to accelerate maturity in young people, and why emotional skills matter as much as academic achievement Andrea’s method for uncovering your emotional triggers and developing emotional composure Real strategies for forgiveness, letting go of the past, and reclaiming wasted energy The role of value and investment in personal transformation—why people who pay for change get the best results Personal stories of failure, growth, and using our biggest struggles to serve others Continuous improvement: our own blind spots, financial worth, and ongoing growth as coaches and humans If you’ve ever wondered why you keep falling into the same conflicts, why you can’t let go of certain feelings, or how to truly “show up” with confidence in every area of your life, this episode packs in hard-won wisdom, practical tools, and personal vulnerability. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how emotional discipline can change everything—and a roadmap for getting started. Join me and Dr. Andrea Vitz for a revealing, actionable conversation that has the power to completely reframe your approach to communication, relationships, and self-mastery. Connect with Andrea: Website: https://liftedacademy.com/home Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drandreavitz   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreavitz/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourlevelheadeddoc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• How to Stay Confident and Keep Going When Progress Feels Impossible 21.05.2026 14min

  Have you ever wondered why so many people quit when they’re so close to breaking through not because they lack talent, but because the journey feels so much harder than they expected? In this episode, we’re getting to the bottom of what I call the “Great Gap” , that tough stretch between being excited about a new goal and actually getting good at it. I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I’m diving into one of the biggest reasons talented people fail to achieve their ambitions: not understanding that the discomfort, setbacks, and resistance along the way are normal and even necessary for growth. I draw from both my experience as a communication coach and powerful research from Valerie Burton to offer actionable tools you can use the next time you feel like giving up. We break it all down today, why grit isn’t a personality trait you either have or you don’t, but a decision made in the moments just after you want to quit. I introduce two frameworks that will help you keep going even when the road ahead looks impossible: the “Internal Auditor” method to challenge your negative self-talk, and the “Next Play Mentality,” a tool you can use to keep moving when you’re tempted to get stuck in setbacks. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why friction and discomfort are not signs you’re on the wrong path, but evidence that you’re growing, and why competent people often get addicted to comfort instead of progress. How to build your own “Internal Auditor” to examine the facts instead of falling into catastrophic thinking, using concrete drills to challenge the quitting words your brain offers up. Valerie Burton’s research on resilience and her practical shortcut for getting out of a negative spiral. The “Next Play Mentality” why elite athletes and top performers bounce back quickly, and how you can use a 60-second rule to turn setbacks into forward momentum. The biological reasons we get stuck analyzing failures and how taking immediate action sends a powerful message to your mind that you’re still in the game. Why you should aim for progress, not perfection, and how to finally survive the “Great Gap” between excitement and mastery. If you’re looking for real systems to keep you in the game when it gets tough, this episode is for you. Plus, I’ll tell you how to grab your free eBook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and share how you can register for my Formula for Public Speaking course. Let’s get started because your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Stop Fixing Yourself: Building Real Confidence and Trust in Your Solo Business Journey 18.05.2026 54min

  What’s really holding you back from communicating with confidence, and is it possible you’re not as stuck as you think? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the heart of what it means to show up authentically and powerfully in your business and your life. We’ll tackle the challenge so many solo business owners face: feeling overwhelmed, second-guessing their abilities, and getting bogged down by tasks that don’t truly move the needle. Today, I’m joined by Sarah Pitts, an international bestselling author and seasoned business development consultant with over 30 years of coaching experience. Sarah is known for helping solo entrepreneurs break free from overwhelm using her signature potent productivity method. She’s a deep thinker, a master strategist, and frankly, one of the most insightful communicators I know. During our conversation, Sarah and I explored why exceptionally capable people often fall into the trap of doing everything themselves. We discuss how it becomes difficult to identify what makes us truly great when we’re juggling so many roles, most of which, as Sarah points out, are actually full-time jobs for other people! We share our own stories of letting go, including the struggle with trust that comes from tough experiences with delegation and outsourcing. Sarah takes us into the concept of the “belief gap”, that space where a lack of self-trust not only makes us hesitant, but actually clouds the way others perceive us. We break down how people sense authenticity and confidence on a level that’s deeper than words, and why showing up with genuine self-trust is the key to connection and business growth. We get into the sticky topic of promoting our own work and how self-doubt can sabotage even the most brilliant strategies (including the stories behind writing our books and the awkwardness of self-promotion). Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why highly capable people get stuck doing everything themselves The dangers of the “belief gap” and how it undermines communication confidence How authenticity and trust are sensed more than spoken Facing self-doubt when promoting your own work or stepping onto a bigger stage The difference between “sounding different” and communicating true individuality Branding tips: letting your business reflect you, not the other way around Overthinking, procrastination, and why they signal a lack of message clarity Using AI as a tool (not a replacement) for genuine communication How to “proof hunt” your own experience and leverage it for authority—at any age Why collaboration beats competition every time If this episode resonated with you, check out Sarah’s book, “It’s Only Common Sense to You,” and remember building confidence starts with honoring the unique value you already possess. Let’s stop fixing ourselves and start trusting ourselves, together. Connect with Sarah: Website: https://sjpbusinessdevelopment.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahjpitts/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahjpittsuk/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SJPBusinessDevelopment Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahjpittsmt Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Winning Over High-Ego Minds: How to Pitch Ideas to Self-Proclaimed Geniuses 14.05.2026 14min

  Do you ever feel like your best ideas get crushed before they have a chance, simply because you’re pitching to someone who’s already decided they’re the smartest person in the room? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into how to pitch your ideas to high-ego individuals and actually get them on your side. As a recovering college professor and communication coach, I’ve seen far too many great ideas die on the vine, not due to lack of quality, but because of the way they're presented to those who crave authority and validation. There’s an art to getting buy-in from someone who measures every suggestion against their own expertise. And in today’s episode, I break down the strategy you need not just to survive these conversations, but to truly shine. Today, I’m sharing the “stealth collaboration” techniques I’ve developed over years of navigating tough rooms, whether with C-suite executives, dominant clients, or anyone who gets defensive at the hint of a challenge. We walk through what makes a standard pitch fail miserably when ego is at stake, the psychology behind high-ego reactions, and most importantly, how to flip that script. Here’s what I cover in detail: Why walking into a room trying to prove your intelligence is the wrong move when egos are on alert The two basic options a finished pitch gives someone with a need for control and why they’ll almost always choose to shoot it down A real story from my early career of watching a flawless presentation unravel because it threatened someone’s status The concept of “psychological reconnaissance” and why you need to listen like you’re wrong (even when you know you’re right) The Strategic Question Dump: how to schedule a low-pressure chat, ask open-ended questions, and mine for the true priorities and pain points driving their decisions Using their own words and priorities as the foundation for your proposal How the “IKEA effect” from Harvard research helps you craft an intentionally unfinished prototype that invites their edits, so they’ll value the idea more How to invite criticism up front, turning would-be critics into collaborators The importance of mirroring their language, anchoring your summary in their exact phrasing, and letting them feel like the architect of the solution The “eighth grade simplicity test” to make sure your final proposal is simple and clear enough that the high-ego individual can confidently champion it to others Why making your intelligence invisible is the secret to building long-term influence and trust I close with practical homework: ban yourself from saying “I” in your next project pitch, ask one targeted question based on their input, present a draft with intentional gaps, and then let them build it with you. Progress, not perfection, is the goal and your path to becoming a powerful, persuasive communicator starts here. For more resources and your free eBook, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Power of Emotional Intelligence: Leading With Confidence Through Life’s Challenges 11.05.2026 49min

  What does it really mean to be emotionally intelligent, and how can mastering this skill transform not just your communication, but your entire experience of work and life? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into emotional intelligence beyond the buzzwords and the surface-level definitions, exploring what it looks like in the real world, how we grow it, and why it matters more than ever in today's evolving workplace. I'm Tim Newman, and in this episode, I had the privilege of welcoming Camilla Calberg to the show. Camilla is a business mentor, career coach, and a leader who has spent over 20 years driving transformation at places like BP, Shell, and IBM. Today, she’s on a mission to help women (and all professionals) who feel unseen, stuck, or overwhelmed, finally find inner peace and become trusted, emotionally intelligent advisors in their organizations. And she’s changing the way we think about leadership moving beyond the old KPIs-and-box-ticking mentality to a more soul-led, sustainable approach that truly supports people. In our conversation, Camilla and I jumped right into the realities of personal growth at work, especially the tough parts of those moments when things aren’t going according to plan and it feels like the storms are never ending. We discussed the huge difference between knowing about emotional intelligence in theory versus actually living it day-to-day: feeling those waves of emotion, noticing when your body is sending you nervous signals, and making real choices about how to show up in the moment. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The true, lived definition of emotional intelligence and how it shows up in real work situations Camilla’s personal journey from masking emotions to finding inner peace and the pivotal moments that changed her approach The problem with equating years or credentials with real growth and how to embody your learning How stress and emotional overload manifest in work conversations, and phrases to listen for Leadership and the art of saying “no” why boundaries are crucial for effectiveness and health The disconnect between Gen Z and business leaders, and actionable ways to bridge the gap using emotional intelligence Practical, immediately usable mindset shifts and conversational strategies for dealing with tough work situations and negative environments The importance of choosing your "tribe" and surrounding yourself with people who lift you up Whether you’re early in your career, leading teams, or navigating big life transitions, this episode will challenge you to rethink what confidence, emotional intelligence, and real leadership look like from the inside out. Plus, Camilla shares more resources for those who want to go deeper. Tune in to discover how being more intelligent with your emotions and less attached to your “mask” can transform not just your presence at work, but your overall sense of peace and purpose. Connect with Camilla: Website: https://www.camillacalberg.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/camillacalberg/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@camillacalberg    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Speak Without Fear: The ACEs Checklist for Calm, Clear Answers 07.05.2026 15min

  Have you ever been put on the spot in a meeting when your boss turns to you and asks, “What’s your take on this?” and your mind just goes blank? If you’ve ever struggled with this kind of pressure, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the uncomfortable but all-too-common experience of freezing up when you’re unexpectedly called upon, and I reveal a practical way to break through that mental block, fast. I open the show by getting real about what’s actually happening in those high-stakes moments. Freezing up isn’t a sign that you’re not smart, or that you don’t know your stuff, it's the result of cognitive overload. Suddenly, your brain’s juggling a hundred possibilities at once, and without a clear filter or system in place, panic sets in and clarity goes out the window. That’s why today I’m sharing a tool that’s been a game-changer for me and my clients: the ACES method. It’s a mental checklist that helps you cut through the noise and respond with confidence even when your heart’s pounding and your thoughts are scrambling for an exit. I’ll walk you through the ACES framework. We’ll dig into the real reasons smart people freeze, why the usual “just be confident” advice falls flat, and how using a simple, four-step mental scan can help you deliver sharp, focused answers in any conversation. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why freezing doesn’t mean you’re unprepared and what’s actually going on in your brain when you’re put on the spot. The critical importance of filtering your response through “audience” focusing on who’s asking the question and what they actually need from you. The “one thing rule” for content zeroing in on the single most important piece of information instead of dumping everything you know. How to spot and align with hidden expectations behind the question, so you answer what’s really being asked. The power of having a go-to “script” structure point, reason, example, and action that helps your thoughts flow into a clear, compelling answer. Practical, low-pressure ways to practice ACES, so the process becomes automatic (even when you’re under pressure). A simple challenge to try the ACES method in your next everyday conversation to start building unstoppable communication muscle. If you’re ready to replace panic with process and show up in high-stakes moments with real clarity, this episode is for you. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and check out the Forming for Public Speaking course. Let’s keep moving towards progress, not perfection. Your voice really can change the world! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Unlocking True Confidence: How Self-Talk and Trust Can Transform Public Speaking 04.05.2026 54min

  Have you ever wondered why confidence seems to slip away right when you need it most? Or if it’s really possible to change how you feel about yourself and your abilities no matter how long you’ve struggled? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into the roots of real confidence, the power of self-talk, and how science and faith come together to help us show up as our best selves. I’m Tim Newman, and today I’m joined by the incredible Dr. Laurette Willis, a cognitive behavioral therapist, speaker, mentor, and founder of Weight Loss Without Willpower and Praises Moves Fitness Ministry. Laurette’s journey from childhood struggles with overeating and self-image to empowering women and men around the world to find strength without shame brings a wealth of wisdom and practical tools to our conversation. We kick things off by unpacking what confidence really means. As Dr. Laurette explains, the word itself comes from the Latin “confidere” to have full trust. She shares how true confidence is about leaning your full weight on your trust on something greater than yourself, and why this “trust” is the opposite of fear, especially for people whose greatest challenges show up right alongside their greatest gifts. We both get personal about our own experiences with stage fright and imposter syndrome even after years of professional speaking and performing. Dr. Laurette opens up about growing up with negative self-talk and how completely changing what she said to herself transformed not only her feelings but her results in life. I reveal my ongoing struggles with self-doubt, despite being able to help others navigate the same thing, and we both talk about how, even as coaches, we need outside support to keep our inner voices in check. Throughout the episode, we explore: The roots and true meaning of confidence How fear often attacks our greatest strengths The five-step chain that links self-talk to results Practical neuroscience: how your brain can and does change (neuroplasticity!) Myths about “overnight” change and why patience with yourself matters How your environment and the people around you shape your mindset and outcomes The power of habits, big and small, to rewire your brain and your life Dr. Laurette’s story of feeling most “herself” on stage, and how improv taught her trust Using faith-based practices and scripture to ground confidence A powerful cognitive-behavioral exercise to physically “cast off” worry and take on peace The science behind victory celebrations, positive self-talk, and dopamine hits for change Why believing in others before they believe in themselves can be life-changing A hands-on bilateral brain stimulation technique for cutting through fear or cravings in seconds The practical, lifelong value of mentorship, support, humility, and helping others up the ladder How to speak life into yourself and others (and why that matters more than you think) By the end of our heartfelt, hope-filled talk, you’ll walk away with a practical toolkit for tackling fear, reframing your inner dialogue, and stepping up to life’s stage with true confidence rooted in trust, humility, and real support. If you’re ready to break out of old cycles, speak with boldness, and help others do the same, this conversation with Dr. Laurette Willis will inspire you from the inside out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• From Invisible to Influential: Mastering Clarity, Collaboration, and Public Speaking 30.04.2026 14min

  Are you tired of working hard but still finding yourself overlooked, misunderstood, or stuck in conflict at work? In today’s episode, I tackle the question: What if the real reason you're not getting the recognition or opportunities you deserve isn’t about how hard you’re working, but about the way you communicate? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and your guide on the Speaking with Confidence podcast. In this episode, I break down the exact three-part formula I use with my clients to transform invisible, frustrated professionals into clear, connected, and unstoppable communicators. It’s not just a list of tips, it's a step-by-step system where every part is necessary, and missing any one piece makes the whole thing fall apart. It’s just you and me exploring what it truly means to become a successful, respected communicator. I’ll share the actionable steps that have helped my clients move from being overlooked to being valued, and from being anxious in the spotlight to becoming confident, effective public speakers. Here’s what we cover in today’s episode: Why the root of your career problems is more likely a communication issue than a lack of effort or expertise, and why that’s actually good news The myth that sounding articulate or having a big vocabulary means you’re a good communicator and why real communication starts with clarity above all else The importance of the “eighth grade rule” explaining your ideas so simply that even an eighth grader would understand, making your message unmissable at work A deep dive into collaboration and why true teamwork isn’t about being agreeable or avoiding conflict, but about handling friction with empathy and courage The “velvet brick” framework: being soft on the person but hard on the problem so you can tackle tough issues without sacrificing relationships How poor communication in small, one-on-one conversations can snowball into big project failures and blown deadlines down the line The misconception that public speaking is an innate talent, and why it’s actually about having applied confidence in your message and your collaborative skills A personal story about how reframing the audience as collaborators rather than judges can eliminate stage fright and boost your influence Why you can’t cheat the system by skipping steps each skill builds on the last, and only by mastering the sequence do you unlock real career leverage A challenge for the week: Identify one conversation and apply the eighth grade rule—deliberately choose clarity, and see how it transforms your results By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have a practical formula for communication success, but you’ll understand why each part matters and how to put it all together for dramatic results in your work and beyond. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook on the top 21 challenges for public speakers and learn about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice really does have the power to change the world. Let's unlock it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety and Building Real Confidence with Hufsah Ahmad 27.04.2026 59min

  Have you ever wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can’t just “be confident” especially when your hands are shaking and your mind is racing? If so, you’re not alone, and you’re exactly who this episode is for. Today on Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling the reality behind what it means to build, lose, and rebuild true confidence especially for those who’ve faced serious self-doubt, bullying, or lived experience with mental health challenges. I sat down with the remarkable Hufsa Ahmad licensed therapist, scientist, award-winning mental health advocate, behavioral health consultant, and two-time TEDx speaker. She’s uniquely known for blending science, clinical wisdom, and sharp humor, turning even life’s lowest points into stepping stones for growth and resilience. In this episode, Hufsah opens up about her journey from being a happy, curious child to enduring relentless bullying, depression, and defining periods of isolation. She shares how a suicide attempt as a child and ongoing battles with mental illness and the stigma attached eventually pushed her to hit rock bottom. From there, she didn’t just rebuild her confidence; she reframed her entire relationship with herself and those around her. Highlights from our conversation: How early life experiences and bullying shaped Hafsah’s self-image and how she turned the corner The gritty process of learning to care less about what others think, even in the face of online hate and real-world rejection The impact of social media on social confidence, and why stepping away transformed her focus and well-being The difference between “performing confidence” and actually feeling it, and how to spot the difference Why humor is a tool for healing, connection, and resilience and how anyone can start using it Tactics Hafsah uses to reframe negative self-talk and rewrite the narrative after setbacks The most common myths anxious speakers believe, and evidence-based ways to challenge them What crowd work and comedy taught her about real presence in public speaking Practical steps every anxious speaker should stop doing immediately and what to do instead The power of not taking things personally, and why audience reactions aren’t always about you If you’ve ever felt crushed by criticism, paralyzed by anxiety, or frustrated by the advice to “just be confident,” this episode will give you actionable wisdom, a few laughs, and a whole new way to think about resilience on and off the stage. Connect with Hufsa: Website: https://hufsaahmad.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hufsaahmad/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hufsaahmad    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hufsa-ahmad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices