Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery

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  Episode 61: Reality Is Not the Enemy 11.06.2026 53min

  Send us Fan Mail Why do so many of us struggle to stay present? In recovery, we often discover that pornography was not the problem itself but an attempted solution to loneliness, fear, shame, or uncertainty. In this conversation, Sean, Dayne, and Charlie discuss grounding as more than a technique—it is a practice of returning to reality with clarity, courage, and connection. Because freedom may not come from avoiding difficult feelings, but from learning that we can survive them. Suppo...
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  Episode 60: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping 27.05.2026 29min

  Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean reflects on Jordan Peterson’s Rule #2: “Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.” Why is it that many of us naturally know how to care for the people we love — slowing down for them, supporting them, protecting them, encouraging rest, accountability, healing, and growth — yet often fail to offer even basic care to ourselves? This episode explores the difference between self care and self indulgence, th...
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  Episode 59: I Didn’t Get Rid of Shame — I’m Outgrowing It 01.05.2026 1h 9min

  Send us Fan Mail Everyone says “drop the shame.” But what if that’s not how it works? In this episode, we break down what shame actually looks like in real life—low energy, avoidance, distraction, depression—and why you can’t just get rid of it. We talk about what actually reduces shame, who you should (and shouldn’t) open up to, and how honesty is what starts to change things. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: sexualbrokennesspodcast@gmail.com
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  Episode 58: Let's Talk Identity - No Cop-Outs Allowed 03.04.2026 1h 18min

  Send us Fan Mail Recovery isn’t just about quitting—it’s about becoming. In this group conversation, we talk honestly about identity: who we say we want to be, where our actions don’t line up, and what’s actually working (and not working) in real life. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: sexualbrokennesspodcast@gmail.com
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  Episode 57: Loneliness Sucks - Before and After Recovery! 30.03.2026 57min

  Send us Fan Mail Loneliness sucks, whether you’re in addiction or in recovery. In this episode, we talk about how loneliness shows up in both, why it often gets worse before it gets better, and how isolation can quietly pull us back into old patterns. We also get real about what actually helps - connection, honesty, and learning to sit with ourselves without running. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: sexualbrokennesspodcast@gmail.com
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  Episode 56: Addiction and Breakup - The Conversation We Avoid 27.03.2026 1h 3min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we open up an honest and difficult conversation about how addiction can impact relationships, sometimes leading to separation or divorce. We don’t take sides or offer simple answers, because every situation is different. Instead, we focus on raising awareness about the real emotional weight addiction can carry, for individuals, partners, and families. We talk about the fear of losing a relationship, the mental and emotional toll it creates, and the ripple eff...
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  Episode 55: Choosing the Risks That Set You Free 26.01.2026 48min

  Send us Fan Mail Recovery is not about eliminating risk. It is about choosing the right ones. In this episode, we explore redemptive risks, the intentional decisions that move us toward honesty, freedom, and growth. Some of these risks look like saying yes, to connection, vulnerability, rest, or help. Others look like saying a difficult no, to people, patterns, or opportunities that quietly threaten our integrity. Both come with discomfort. Both require courage. And both, when chosen wisely, ...
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  Episode 54: No Resolutions, Just Recovery 04.01.2026 1h 9min

  Send us Fan Mail New Year's resolutions promise change, but for many in addiction recovery, they often reinforce fear and a sense of failure. In this episode, we talk about why starting over every January doesn't work, and what does. Instead of chasing big resolutions, we focus on strengthening the routines that already support recovery. This is a practical, hopeful conversation about building forward, not resetting, and creating a New Year plan that protects sobriety and peace rather than un...
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  Episode 53: Holiday Blues, Old Wounds, and Choosing Sobriety Anyway 24.12.2025 43min

  Send us Fan Mail The holidays can be a difficult time for many people in recovery. In this solo episode, Sean speaks openly about the emotional weight, sadness, and mental health challenges that can surface during the holiday season—especially for those recovering from sexual compulsive behaviors. Drawing from my own experience, I explore why relapse risk and depression often increase this time of year, how family dynamics and unmet expectations can re-activate old wounds, and what it l...
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  Episode 52: If I'd Die for Them, Why Can't I Change for Them? 17.12.2025 58min

  Send us Fan Mail Over a simple cup of coffee, Sean sits down with Dayne, Greg, and John for an honest, unfiltered conversation about courage, sacrifice, and the stories men tell themselves. Most men will say—without hesitation—that they would die for their family or take a bullet for the people they love. But when the question shifts to something quieter and far less dramatic—giving up porn or compulsive sexual behavior—that confidence often fades. Why is it easier to imagine a heroic moment ...
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  Episode 51: Real Talk - Sexual Identity, Childhood Wounds, and Resilience 23.11.2025 1h 1min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an honest look at the weight we sometimes carry—and a reminder that transformation is possible, even i...
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  Episode 50: Would I Want My Daughter to Date a Porn Addict? 17.11.2025 46min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recovery. This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about reflection, honesty, and confronting the parts ...
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  Episode 49: Let's Talk Pain and Addiction - Chicken or Egg? 14.10.2025 1h 7min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addiction. Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they offer new perspectives on fac...
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  Episode 48: Rebuilding Trust After the Storm - The Intimacy Pyramid with the Raabsmiths 22.09.2025 58min

  Send us Fan Mail In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today. Explore more of their work at raabsmithteam.com and in their book Building True Intimacy.&...
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  Episode 47: Fundamental Series - Why Objectifying Women Keeps Us Stuck 15.09.2025 1h 24min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Gaines for an honest update on his recovery journey. Together they explore one of the most overlooked drivers of porn and masturbation addiction—the objectification of women. This isn’t just a conversation about why objectifying women is wrong; it’s a candid debate about why changing how we view women is essential if we want true recovery and to become the men we’re called to be. Support the...
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  Episode 46: Fundamental Series - The 3 Pillars of the Recovery Zone 05.08.2025 1h 15min

  Send us Fan Mail In this foundational episode of our Fundamental Series, we explore what it really means to live in the Recovery Zone—a space defined not just by abstinence, but by the integration of three essential pillars: boundaries, self-care, and sobriety. These aren’t standalone ideas—they’re interconnected forces that support and reinforce one another. When one is missing, the whole system can collapse. Sean and Dayne break down each of these pillars, reflecting on their personal journ...
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  Episode 45: The Fall and the Fight: Learning from Tyler’s Recovery Story 25.07.2025 1h 15min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne sit down with their friend Tyler, a fellow brother in recovery, to unpack a familiar but powerful story—one that began in early adolescence with porn and masturbation, and followed him into adulthood, deeply affecting his relationships. Tyler opens up about a season of long-term sobriety, the devastating fall that followed, and the pain and disorientation that relapse brought. Together, we reflect on the deeper questions of what it means to be ...
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  Episode 44: Relapse. Confess. Repeat. Is That Recovery? 19.07.2025 44min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack a hard but honest question: Are we actually progressing in recovery—or have we just upgraded our relapse cycle? We take a raw look at the pattern we often see in recovery communities: relapse, confession, repeat. The timeline may stretch, the guilt may lessen, and we may get better at sharing—but is that real healing? Or have we simply learned to manage our shame instead of breaking free from it? This episode invites deep self-exam...
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  Episode 43: 5-Minute 4-7-8 Breathing Exercise 14.07.2025 4min

  Send us Fan Mail In moments of stress, temptation, or emotional overwhelm, grounding your body is one of the simplest ways to return to clarity and calm. This short, guided 4-7-8 breathing exercise is designed to help you pause, reset, and reconnect — wherever you are in your recovery journey. Just five minutes. No pressure. Just presence. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8… and give your nervous system the peace it’s craving. Use this anytime you feel unsteady, triggered, or ...
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  Episode 42: Sex, Intimacy, and the Mask of the Nice Guy 11.07.2025 48min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we unpack the difference between sex and true intimacy — a line that's been increasingly blurred, especially in the age of pornography and compulsive masturbation. These habits create a counterfeit version of intimacy: one that offers physical release without emotional connection, control without vulnerability. We ask the tough questions: Is sex the same as intimacy? Is being overly nice at home — always agreeable, always “on” — truly intimate, or just a perf...