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  176. Kinky Rejection… Worse Than Death? (Sources Say Yes) 09.08.2026 16min

  A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a friend?? Lina gets into some solid reasons why the ouch is so ouch, how to make it ouch in a good way, and how to apply some time-honored strategies to healing the ouch. Say 'ouch' again…. Ouch. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  175. M's Journey Pt. 3: It's That Slow Burn Bullshit 31.07.2026 30min

  Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we hear the final installment of M's journey, and learn about what roles softball, juggalos, and witchcraft have to play in a life well lived in a room of one's own. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  174. M's Journey Pt. 2: Sit With the Itch 17.07.2026 22min

  Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with M a few months on from her first interview, to check in on her new life and cheer her on in her self care.  Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  173. M's Journey Pt. 1: The Worst Breakup Ever 10.07.2026 35min

  Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we meet M as she navigates the wreckage of what is truly one of the worst breakups Lina has ever heard about. But in spite of the male audacity in this episode, we promise you'll be inspired by M's humor, witchy wisdom, and iconic penchant for cussing her way through self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold 03.07.2026 14min

  This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator of the iconic One Night parties.. She shares with us how her SW career has influenced her photographic gaze, her specialty in *the kink* most people list as their hardest of hard limits, and her thoughts on mothering be it of humans or hand-reared kittens. In signature Ask A Sub style, this interview goes anywhere and everywhere and we know you'll have fun keeping up. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice 27.06.2026 23min

  A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're interpreting the word 'healing' when it comes to kink (ableism — be gone!), gives some reflections on what kinds of messages our bodies give us in scenes, and somehow in the midst of that coined the phrase that is our episode title this week, once again making the English language just a little bit worse 🫶 You're welcome. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind 22.06.2026 21min

  In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do anything they don't want to do but maybe getting curious is what saves us all from the shame monsters. Get the Summer Deep Dive schedule here Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater 14.06.2026 33min

  A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by exploring the ins and outs of the therapeutic relationship, how to resource your therapist and yourself, and takes a weirdly polyamory-informed stance on getting your needs met.  Links: A Walker In LA | Murder Mystery Yacht Orgy | Summer Deep Dive Schedule Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  168. I'm Coming Out Of My Cage - Wait Put Me Back In The Cage 06.06.2026 27min
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  167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick 30.05.2026 23min

  This week we're doing a refresher on flirting so Lina can assist you all into getting into more trouble to keep the questions coming for the pod — vertical integration!! That's how that works, right?? Either way, we're talking about flirting by zodiac sign (helpful even if you're a grumpy Capricorn that doesn't believe in astrology), flirting to bring forward your most authentic self, and flirting as a measure of compatibility. Now go look at people and talk to them!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse? 23.05.2026 21min

  A caller wants to know whether their miraculous gift of nonstop orgasms is hindering them from long term partnership — really goes to show one person's dream scenario (Lina's) is another person's anxiety (this caller's)! Lina talks about the joys of dating high-volume cummers, lists practical tips for Domming and topping these lucky ducks, and shares how the patriarchy infects all of us when we imagine the limits of what a submissive can be. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple Spring Is Here 16.05.2026 27min

  These week callers want to know how to welcome the springtime, how to enjoy/not enjoy the Met Gala, hack quiet sex, and, of course, see Lina lose it over exclusionary privileged queers being weird about who's allowed to use the label. Pull up a chair to the burn sesh (with love).  Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  164. Submission But Not Like THAT 02.05.2026 28min

  A listener is recovering from a religious culture that expected submission from women by default — how, then, can she trust her desire to be submissive in a consensual D/s dynamic? This week we're talking self trust, healing through kink, and Lina's deep desire to physically harm this caller's ex (for legal reasons this is a joke - ha ha) Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  163. Hedonism is a Moral Imperative with S.T. Gibson 24.04.2026 19min

  On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by S.T. Gibson, bestselling author of A Dowry of Blood, Savage Blooms, and more, who also hosts the Metaphysical Girl podcast/substack. Her approach to fantasy is intellectual, informed by her background in theology and deep thought about queerness and our insatiable hungers. Join us for our thoughts on fairies, vampires, and what to say to local river. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Sign up for Lyft here! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  162. Vanilla Dating Is Not A Pre-Requisite For Kink Dating 17.04.2026 16min

  Ahhh vanilla dating…. Well, it mainly sucks. Jk! Maybe not! Either way, it's not something you have to do before you get to be kinky. It's good to know what you want and go after it, and treat each experience as information to be collected along the way. Except for that time Lina went on a vanilla date with a guy who Venmo requested her $2 for a hot dog while she was in the uber home from his apartment. That was not an especially valuable learning experience.  Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  161. How To Be A 24/7 Sub When You're Like… Really Pissed At Your Dom 10.04.2026 23min

  What happens in a long-term 24/7 dynamic when you, as a sub, get so fuckin pissed that you just need a MINUTE to collect yourself before resuming your tasks?!?! Lina gets into the communication tools that can hold us and our dynamic in moments of conflict so when you come back from your grumpy space walk the space ship is still in pretty good shape. Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  160. When You Break Up With A Dom Who Looms Large 03.04.2026 20min

  A caller wants to know how to feel confident as a sub in your local scene after a friendship breakup with a Dom who seems to be the golden boy of said scene. We talk about how to claim space that's rightly yours, not give Doms too much power after a dynamic has ended, and how to remember no one is thinking about anything but themselves! But in a freeing way! Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Read 'Where I'm At With Shame' free on Substack Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  159. Exploring Our Darker, Stranger Drives with Anastasiia Fedorova 28.03.2026 15min

  On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by Anastasiia Fedorova, author of Second Skin: Inside The Worlds of Fetish, Kink, and Deviant Desire. We talked about how capitalism and commodity culture influence fetishism, how to become archivists of our experience, and we took some time to compare and contrast the vibes of the Foot Guys at various kink parties across the globe. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Sign up for Lyft here! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  158. Let's Talk About Latex! 20.03.2026 23min

  What if you wanted to wear a raincoat but like…. in a weird way?? In anticipation of our upcoming Deep Dive with Anastasiia Fedorova, author of Second Skin: Inside The Worlds of Fetish, Kink, and Deviant Desire, we're revisiting an old episode all about rubber and latex! If you're a fetishist of any kind, or just a little fetish curious, check out this link to join that discussion on Sunday, March 22. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
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  157. Responsible Mess Management 13.03.2026 19min

  We're all a mess rn. How do we share our messy selves with others messy selves without making too much of a mess?? It's the question of the day and Lina uses her mess to make an attempt at an answer. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad