The Black Mother Wound Podcast

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  Who Am I Without Helping? 11.08.2026 27min

  What happens when being helpful becomes the way you prove that you’re a good person? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and I finally had to admit something I’ve been dancing around for a long time. I’m tired of helping people. Not because I don’t care about people. Not because I don’t have anything to give. And definitely not because I don’t know how to help. I’m actually really fucking good at it. But I’ve realized that I have spent years making myself valuable through what I can do for other people. Teaching. Coaching. Explaining. Showing up. Making people feel seen. Giving people what I thought they needed. And somewhere along the way, I stopped asking myself what I needed. That is the mother wound showing up in a way I didn’t recognize before. I thought I was being of service. I thought I was building community. I thought I was helping Black women heal. But I was also constantly adjusting myself around other people. Thinking about what they wanted from me. What they would think. Whether they liked what I said. Whether I was being helpful enough. And that shit is exhausting. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when being a good woman becomes more important than being a whole woman. I’m talking about the ways Black women are taught to make themselves smaller, more useful, more agreeable and more available in order to maintain connection. And I’m talking about what happens when you finally realize: I don’t want to build my life around what I can do for everybody else. I want to build a life around me. What I want. What I like. What I need. What makes me feel good. What lights me up. And yes, I feel guilty about it. But I’m learning that feeling guilty doesn’t automatically mean I’m doing something wrong. Maybe this next chapter isn’t about becoming more helpful. Maybe it’s about finally becoming more myself. And maybe the biggest question of all: What would your life look like if you stopped organizing it around being useful to other people? ~ Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  The Lie That Keeps You Playing Small 04.08.2026 26min

  For so many of us, healing isn't just about setting boundaries with other people. It's about finally stopping the habit of abandoning ourselves. In this episode, I'm talking about something I've been actively working through in real time: learning how to let myself be seen without trying to explain, justify, or soften who I am so other people will approve. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that being a "good woman," a "good daughter," or a "good person" meant editing ourselves to make other people comfortable. We called it maturity. We called it love. We called it respect. But underneath all of it was self-abandonment. Today we're questioning that programming. We'll talk about why your younger self wasn't obsessed with being liked, how shame taught us to perform instead of simply exist, and why one of the biggest signs of healing is realizing that nobody has the power to punish you anymore. If you've been waiting until you're more confident, more polished, or more perfect before showing up as yourself, this episode is your reminder that healing isn't about getting it right. It's about trusting yourself enough to do it anyway. In This Episode Why the need to explain yourself comes from old survival patterns How people-pleasing slowly becomes self-abandonment The difference between authenticity and performance Why fear of being judged keeps us stuck How your mother wound trained you to seek approval Learning to trust your own voice instead of outside validation What "doing it ugly" really means Why emotional sobriety is becoming one of the most important parts of healing The goal isn't to convince everyone to like you. The goal is to become the kind of woman who no longer needs their permission to be herself.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Starting Over and Letting Myself Be Seen, Even When It’s Messy 28.07.2026 36min

  After sharing that she had started driving Uber at 51, Jennifer expected judgment. Instead, nearly 50,000 people watched the video, and hundreds reached out with encouragement, support, and stories of their own.In this episode, Jennifer shares what happened after the video went viral, including the support that felt unfamiliar, the stranger who created an entire video criticizing her, and the sold out Black Mother Wound live podcast event she produced while rebuilding her life.She talks honestly about shame, starting over, trusting yourself, and learning that being seen means allowing people to support you and accepting that some people will misunderstand you. Jennifer also explains why starting again does not mean returning to the beginning. You are bringing everything you have learned, survived, and built with you.This episode is about choosing autonomy, taking responsibility for your own life, and remembering that nobody else can build the life you want for you. In This Episode • The unexpected response to Jennifer sharing her first day driving Uber• Why receiving support can feel uncomfortable when you are not used to it• What happened when a stranger created a video criticizing Jennifer• Refusing to let public judgment shut you down again• Producing a sold out live podcast event while experiencing financial uncertainty• Why starting over does not mean you are back at the beginning• How fear of being seen caused Jennifer to abandon a successful blog years ago• The connection between healing, autonomy, and freedom• Why you cannot earn freedom by being obedient or becoming the “good girl”• Learning to trust yourself when your back is against the wall• Recognizing that no one else can save you or create your life for you• Letting go of approval from family, strangers, religion, and social media• Remembering that being yourself is the value you bring Key Takeaways Starting over is not proof that you failed. You are beginning again with more experience, information, and self-awareness than you had before.Being visible will bring support, criticism, and opinions you did not ask for. The goal is not to avoid judgment. The goal is to stop allowing judgment to control your choices.Autonomy means knowing that you can make a decision, change your mind, take care of yourself, and continue moving forward without needing permission.You cannot obey your way into freedom. At some point, you have to choose yourself, even when other people do not understand or approve.Nobody else has your ideas, your vision, or your capacity to build the life that belongs to you. Support is valuable, but your life is still your responsibility.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  The Black Mother Wound: I Thought Me and My Mother Were Close 25.07.2026 29min

  For years, Jennifer believed she and her mother had a close relationship. They talked every day. They spent time together. They shopped together. She called her mother her best friend. But healing has a way of making us revisit old stories and ask harder questions. In this episode, Jennifer explores the painful difference between genuine closeness and enmeshment. She unpacks how many Black daughters confuse access, obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for intimacy. She shares personal stories from her relationship with her mother, reflects on celebrating her son's high school graduation, and challenges listeners to examine whether the relationship they call "close" actually allows them to be fully themselves. If you've ever said, "Me and my mama are close," but still struggle to use your voice, make decisions without guilt, or show up authentically around her, this episode is for you. Ep 97 – I Thought Me and My Mother Were Close ✨ In This Episode Why Jennifer intentionally celebrated Vincent's high school graduation The importance of teaching our children they deserve to be seen and celebrated Why many daughters believe they are close to their mothers The difference between closeness and enmeshment How self-abandonment becomes normalized in mother-daughter relationships Why emotional caretaking is not intimacy The hidden cost of being the "good daughter" Questions to help you identify enmeshment in your own life How parentification creates one-sided relationships Why healing requires building a stronger relationship with yourself, not your mother 💭 Reflection Question When you think about your relationship with your mother, are you experiencing genuine closeness—or have you been taught to mistake obligation, guilt, and emotional caretaking for love? Because healing starts when we're willing to tell ourselves the truth. Even when it's uncomfortable. Even when it changes the story we've been holding onto for years. Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Attend my live event in Charlotte Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Let Your Freak Flag Fly 21.07.2026 31min

  Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Attend my live event in Charlotte Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  What I Wish I Knew Sooner 14.07.2026 27min

  In this week's episode, Jennifer talks about a few of the lessons she wishes she would have learned earlier on her healing journey.  Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Attend my live event in Charlotte Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  I Don't Even Know Who I Am 07.07.2026 30min

  Healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about undoing who your mother taught you to be. In this episode, Jennifer introduces a new framework for healing the Black Mother Wound by exploring why safety—not shame, fear, or pressure—is the foundation of lasting change. She explains how many Black women developed an identity built around survival, obedience, and keeping the peace instead of becoming who they truly are. You'll learn why your inner little girl already knows who she is, how to begin listening to her instead of silencing her, and why healing requires gentleness, consistency, and community—not punishment or perfection. If you've ever wondered, "Do I even know who I am?" this episode is the place to start.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Being Smart and Not Knowing Shit at the Same Time 30.06.2026 42min

  In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, Jennifer gets honest about what came up after her AC went out in the middle of a South Carolina summer. What started as a home ownership problem quickly became something much deeper: shame, self-blame, loneliness, and the pain of realizing how much she was never taught. Jennifer unpacks the emotional weight of being a smart, capable, high-functioning Black woman who still feels like she is missing basic life lessons. Not because she is incapable, but because so much of her life was spent figuring things out alone, without the safety, patience, or loving guidance she needed. This episode is about the steep learning curve of adulthood when you did not have an emotionally attuned mother. It is about how hard it can be to admit what you do not know when you were raised to believe you should already know. It is about the shame that comes up when life exposes a gap in your skill set, and the grief of not having a mother you can call who makes you feel safe while you figure it out. Jennifer also talks about repeating patterns with her own son, learning how to be gentler with herself, asking for help, opening up to friends, and allowing herself to be a person having a human experience instead of somebody who has to get everything right to be loved. This conversation is for the woman who is exhausted from always having to figure it out, who feels embarrassed by what she does not know, and who is learning that not knowing does not make her broken. It makes her human. In this episode, Jennifer talks about: Why “you should already know” is such a harmful message The loneliness of not having a loving mother to call during hard moments How emotionally immature parenting creates gaps in life management Why being smart and capable does not mean you were properly supported The difference between being taught and being punished into performing How the mother wound affects learning, asking questions, and needing help Repeating parenting patterns you never wanted to repeat Why “doing your best” is not always enough without support, tools, and repair The grief of being high-functioning while still feeling developmentally unsupported The importance of opening up to friends instead of isolating Why you have to ask the “dumb” questions and get the help you need   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Attend my live event in Charlotte Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  I Thought I Was Being Considerate, But I Was Codependent 23.06.2026 30min

  Today, Jennifer gets honest about a realization that hit hard: what she thought was being considerate, thoughtful, kind, and “a good person” was actually codependency. This is a real-time processing episode about what happens when your identity has been built around service, being liked, being needed, and making sure everybody else is comfortable. Jennifer explores how Black girls are often groomed to find their value in what they can do for others, how church and culture can reinforce that programming, and how the Black mother wound can shape a lifelong pattern of self-abandonment. Jennifer also shares how dating has become part of her healing practice, almost like exposure therapy, helping her test what happens when she chooses herself instead of automatically managing someone else’s feelings. From changing plans without over-explaining to noticing the panic that comes up when someone might be disappointed, this episode unpacks how deep the fear of being disliked can go. This conversation is for the woman who has been praised for being good, dependable, thoughtful, loyal, and considerate, but is starting to realize that some of that “goodness” came at the cost of herself.  In this episode, Jennifer talks about:-How codependency can hide under being considerate-Why being seen as a good person can become a trap-How Black girls are taught that their value is in service-The connection between the mother wound and self-abandonment-Using dating as a healing tool and a place to practice autonomy-The panic that can come with disappointing people-How codependency shows up in casual relationships, not just family-Being groomed to manage other people’s comfort-The fear of being disliked, judged, or misunderstood-Realizing that the Black Mother Wound community has also become part of her healing work-Wanting to be seen as a full person, not only as a healer, educator, or coach-The challenge of growing beyond the box people know you in-How changing behavior is the only way to challenge old programming Key Takeaways Sometimes what we call being considerate is really fear.Sometimes “I’m just trying to be a good person” means “I need you to validate that I am worthy.”Codependency is not only about romantic relationships or family. It can show up anywhere you abandon yourself to manage how someone else feels.When your value has been built around service, choosing yourself can feel selfish, dangerous, or wrong.Healing does not always sound polished. Sometimes it sounds like realizing, in real time, that you are still trying to figure out who you are. Reflection Questions Where in my life am I calling it consideration when it is really self-abandonment?Who am I afraid will be disappointed if I choose myself?What do I believe will happen if people do not see me as good?Do I know how to feel worthy without being useful?Where did I learn that other people’s comfort matters more than my own truth?What part of me still believes I can be punished for choosing myself?Am I allowing myself to be a full person, or only the version of me people are used to? Pull Quote Options “I thought I was being considerate, but I was codependent.”“To be codependent, you do not have authority over yourself.”“I have been groomed to be there for others and to make them happy.”“Changing my behavior and changing my choices is the only way I can debunk an old thought process.”“I want to show more of myself as a person, and not only as a healer, educator, and coach.”“Sometimes the badge of being a good person is really self-abandonment dressed up real pretty.” Keywords Black mother wound, codependency, self-abandonment, Black women healing, mother wound healing, inner child healing, emotional neglect, people pleasing, being a good daughter, Black daughters, healing from mother wound, eldest daughter trauma, boundaries, autonomy, self-worth, emotional healing, Black women and codependency, parentification, relationship patterns, personal development, Black Effect Podcast Network, Jennifer Arnise. Live Event Mention Jennifer will be hosting her first live podcast recording and healing experience in Charlotte on July 18. The event will include live audience questions, in-person coaching, grounding practices, healing tools, community, and a recorded podcast episode. Tickets and details are available in the show notes.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  When You're Tired of Being Strong and Have No Village 16.06.2026 37min

  Have you ever looked around at the life you've built and thought, "I should be happy, but I'm exhausted?" This week's episode was inspired by a listener who asked a heartbreaking question: "How do I start finding compassion for myself? It was absent in my life and I have always been in survival mode." After spending 35 years taking care of everyone else, she finds herself emotionally drained, disconnected from herself, and feeling completely alone. In this episode, Jennifer explores why self-compassion feels so difficult for many Black women, how survival mode becomes our default setting, and why having a village starts with creating safety and compassion within yourself first. She also unpacks the connection between the Black Mother Wound, self-abandonment, white supremacy, and the generational conditioning that taught Black women to care for everyone except themselves.   💭 Reflection Questions Where am I withholding compassion from myself? What needs have I convinced myself are selfish? How do I talk to myself when I make mistakes? What would it look like to become a safe place for myself? If I had a village inside of me, what would it sound like?   Resources Mentioned Black Mother Wound Healing Guide RESOLVE Program Waitlist July 18 Live Healing Experience in Charlotte Instagram: @blackmotherwound If this episode resonated with you, share it with another Black woman who is tired of carrying everything alone. You deserve compassion, too.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  [RePlay] Oversharing, People-Pleasing & Identity Confusion 02.06.2026 18min

  Originally Aired January 20, 2026 “Keeping the peace isn’t peace. It is self-erasure.” For many people healing the mother wound, peacekeeping became a survival skill. It meant staying small, agreeable, and easy so no one else exploded. It worked when we were young, but in adulthood it begins to feel like disappearing. Oversharing often comes from the same place: giving too much in hopes of being seen or accepted, mistaking exposure for connection. The shift begins with honest noticing. Before explaining, pleasing, or revealing too much, we pause and ask, “What am I hoping to get right now?” This small moment interrupts old survival habits and teaches our inner child that safety is not earned through performance. With practice, boundaries take the place of peacekeeping, discernment replaces oversharing, and clarity softens guilt. Healing becomes less about controlling how others feel and more about refusing to abandon ourselves. Slowly, peace stops being something we manage for others and becomes something we build within. In this episode, I’m answering listener questions about oversharing, keeping the peace, and identity. We talk about oversharing as a form of seeking approval, how “peacekeeping” leads to self-abandonment, and why guilt shows up when you stop managing other people’s emotions. If you’re tired of performing or pleasing just to feel accepted, this episode breaks down what choosing yourself really looks like.  Key Takeaways: “Any oversharing is you seeking validation. It is giving something that people didn’t earn.” “Prostitution is any exchange of who you are to get something in return.” “Have integrity with yourself to be honest about what it is that I’m looking to get from these people and what I am afraid of.” DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Support the show Follow me on IG @jenniferarniseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  I Was On The Breakfast Club and It Triggered Me 26.05.2026 28min

  This episode dives into how healing our relationships with our mothers transforms our entire lives. Jennifer shares her journey of stepping into her power via her appearance on the Breakfast Club, unpacking the feelings of being taken seriously, and how that shifts our self-perception. Imagine the tough love, raw honesty, and vulnerability of a big sis who’s done the work and is now showing you how to do the same.   In this episode: Jennifer’s behind-the-scenes journey to being featured on The Breakfast Club, and what it reveals about self-belief How being taken seriously by the world is a direct mirror of how seriously you take yourself The deep-rooted fear of rejection rooted in childhood, especially for Black women healing mother wounds The importance of asking for what you want, even if that means risking a “no” Why self-doubt and wanting to be “perfect” can hold you back from greatness How to shift your mindset from “I need more” to “I already have enough” The power of claiming your voice and showing up authentically, no matter the stage Recognizing that success is a gift that confirms your worth and encourages further healing Practical ways to start taking yourself more seriously today, without waiting for perfection   Timestamps:   Introduction and Exciting News - Jennifer shares her excitement about being on the Breakfast Club. (0:02 - 0:46) Experience on the Breakfast Club - Discussing the experience and its impact. (0:46 - 1:40) Personal Reflections - Jennifer reflects on personal growth and challenges. (1:40 - 3:05) Journey to the Breakfast Club - How she got the opportunity. (3:34 - 4:04) Empowerment and Self-Belief - Encouraging listeners to believe in themselves. (4:31 - 5:00) Overcoming Doubts - Discussing self-doubt and overcoming it. (10:05 - 12:09) Importance of Healing - The role of healing in personal growth. (21:09 - 22:08) Closing and Gratitude - Jennifer expresses gratitude to her audience. (26:54 - 27:51)   DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Attend my live event in Charlotte Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  When Your Elderly Mother Uses Her Age to Guilt You Into Ending No - Contact 19.05.2026 29min

  In this episode, Jennifer answers a listener question about being no contact with an aging mother who is now using guilt to reopen the relationship. What do you do when your mother is getting older, but being close to her still harms you emotionally? This conversation is for the Black daughter who feels torn between protecting herself and being seen as a “bad daughter.” Jennifer unpacks the shame, obligation, guilt, and emotional debt many daughters carry, especially when society keeps reminding us, “But that’s your mother.” This episode is not about telling you whether to see her or not. It’s about helping you come back to yourself long enough to make a decision from autonomy, not fear. Jennifer explores the difference between guilt and shame, why end-of-life guilt can feel so heavy, and how to decide what kind of access, if any, your mother gets to have. Whether that looks like no contact, a phone call, one public visit, or a limited relationship with firm boundaries, the question remains: What keeps you whole, safe, and connected to yourself? In this episode, Jennifer talks about: The pressure Black daughters feel to care for mothers who did not emotionally care for them. Why “guilt” may actually be shame. How aging and death can be used as tools of manipulation. The importance of asking yourself if you actually want contact. How to define access without abandoning yourself. Why your mother being elderly does not erase the harm. The role of your inner little girl in making this decision. Why healing the Black mother wound is really about rebuilding the relationship with yourself. How to practice autonomy with the person who may have made autonomy feel unsafe. Estimated Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome, personal update, and graduation season01:54 Pulling from listener questions02:42 Listener question: What if my elderly mother is still emotionally harmful?04:09 The Black daughter’s obligation and emotional debt05:34 When care has never been reciprocal06:45 Guilt as a tool of manipulation07:40 Why what you call guilt may actually be shame09:47 Autonomy and making a decision that belongs to you10:20 The first question: Do you actually want to see her?12:51 Death, grief, and the fear of future regret14:43 Knowing your capacity before reopening contact15:36 Asking yourself what you are hoping to get from contact16:24 Healing is about your relationship with yourself17:22 When “I’m getting old” becomes emotional labor for the daughter18:53 Checking in with your inner little girl first20:04 Asking your mother why she wants to see you20:48 Using her response as clarity22:23 Remembering you can pull access back22:49 Practicing autonomy with the original relationship wound24:59 Thinking through death, funerals, and what honoring yourself looks like26:05 Staying in your body when engaging with her26:55 Releasing responsibility for your mother’s emotions28:20 Reflection questions to sit with29:37 Closing thoughts and reminder to put your inner little girl first Reflection Questions From This Episode: What am I afraid will happen if I stay away?What am I hoping will be different this time?Why am I engaging?What has her pattern shown me over time?Do I want to see her, or do I just want to stop feeling guilty?What kind of access can I offer without abandoning myself?What does my inner little girl need before I make this decision?Pull Quote Options“You’re not a bad person if you don’t want to be around someone who has been abusive to you.”“Nothing you do will make you less worthy of love.”“Healing your Black mother wound is not really about the relationship with your mother. It’s about the relationship you have with yourself.”“You get to make the rule. You get to decide. Ain’t nobody else gotta like it.”“Do not go into this trying to fix her. Go into it asking, how do I stay in my body?” Pull Quote Options “You’re not a bad person if you don’t want to be around someone who has been abusive to you.” “Nothing you do will make you less worthy of love.” “Healing your Black mother wound is not really about the relationship with your mother. It’s about the relationship you have with yourself.” “You get to make the rule. You get to decide. Ain’t nobody else gotta like it.” “Do not go into this trying to fix her. Go into it asking, how do I stay in my body?”   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  I Love My Mama, But She Made Me Feel Some Type of Way 12.05.2026 32min

  What happens when you love your mother deeply, but the relationship still hurts?   In this episode, Jennifer Arnise opens up a conversation that so many Black daughters struggle to name: the difference between loving your mother and being honest about what the relationship has cost you. After a conversation at the Black Effect Podcast Festival, Jennifer reflects on how quickly we answer, “I love my mama,” when the real question is, “What is your relationship like with her?” Because love and relationship are not the same thing. You can love your mother and still feel hurt. You can honor her and still tell the truth. You can be grateful and still grieve what you did not receive. This episode unpacks why Black women are often taught to protect their mothers, even when it means abandoning themselves. Jennifer explores loyalty, guilt, self-betrayal, emotional honesty, and the cultural pressure to keep performing love instead of experiencing real connection. This conversation is not about choosing between love and pain. It is about giving yourself permission to hold both truths and come back home to yourself. In This Episode, We Talk About Why “I love my mother” does not always answer the real question. How Black daughters are taught to confuse loyalty with connection. Why telling the truth about your mother can feel like betrayal. The difference between love and relationship. How protecting your mother’s image can lead to abandoning yourself. Why your mother does not have to agree with your lived experience for it to be valid. How shame convinces you that being hurt makes you a bad daughter. Why healing the mother wound is really about repairing the relationship with yourself. Key Takeaways You can love your mother and still be hurt by her. You can be grateful for what she did and still grieve what you did not get. Your lived experience does not need your mother’s approval to be true. Love asks, “Do I care about her?”Relationship asks, “What happens to me when I am connected to her?” Telling the truth is not betrayal. Abandoning yourself is. There is no debt you owe for being born, raised, fed, clothed, or protected. Healing begins when you stop making your value dependent on your position in your mother’s life. Reflection Questions What do I feel before I explain it away? Where am I performing love instead of experiencing connection? Where do I abandon myself to keep a relationship stable? What would change if I stopped needing my mother to agree with my truth? Am I protecting peace, or am I protecting the image of a relationship? Listener Invitation If this episode brought something up for you, sit with it before you rush to explain it away. Let yourself tell the truth without judging it. You do not have to choose between loving your mother and acknowledging your pain. Two things can be true. Mentioned In This Episode Jennifer will be hosting Healing Our Black Mother Wound: A Live Experience on June 13th in Charlotte. The event will include a live podcast recording, audience questions, a fireside chat, healing techniques, and community connection. Ticket information will be available in the show notes. DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one   Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.   Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferarniseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  The Black Mother Wound: Dealing with Mother’s Day When You Have a Mother Wound 10.05.2026 25min

  The Black Effect Presents... The Black Mother Wound! Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic. Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. *************************************** How we can stay connected and work together! 1. Grab my free mini-course 2.  Work with me one-on-one 3. Join RESOLVE Evolved Today *************************************** Mother's Day can feel like a minefield when your relationship with your mother has been painful or distant. Society tells us to celebrate with flowers and praise, but what if that’s not your truth? You don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to perform. You are allowed to be honest about how you feel. Instead of being swept up in the pressure and performance, start focusing on what’s real for you. This week, pay attention to what lifts you. Celebrate the people and the progress that remind you you’re loved, seen, and growing. Let your joy come from within, not from forced expectations. And if sadness shows up—let it. Feel it. Care for yourself with compassion, not shame. Healing doesn’t mean you never hurt. It means you know how to care for yourself when you do. This Mother’s Day, center yourself. You get to define what this day means to you now. And that, in itself, is powerful. In this episode, we talk about how to care for yourself before and during Mother’s Day, especially if your relationship with your mom is painful or complicated. I share why it’s important to be honest about how I really feel, stop telling fake stories, and stay grounded in my truth. Instead of forcing happiness or pretending everything’s okay, I offer real ways to comfort yourself, feel your feelings, and find joy in your own life. This is a gentle, honest conversation to help you stay grounded during a tough time. Topics Covered: (00:00:00) Episode Snippet (00:00:12) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast (00:04:24) Be honest about how you feel (00:05:59) Society can confuse your real feelings (00:07:35) Mine for good feelings (00:09:28) You create your feelings (00:20:31) The fantasy is your underdeveloped ego (00:22:54) Your responsibility is to you (00:23:42) Resolve doors are open (00:24:50) Fireside Chat Question Key Takeaways:  “Healing really is about taking back control of your own mind.” DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound  Support the show Follow me on IG @jenniferarnise Ep 060: Dealing with Mother’s Day When You Have a Mother Wound May 6, 2025See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  When She Won't Let You Grow Up 05.05.2026 1h 17min

  Strength was never meant to cost this much.   What looked like maturity was often a child trying to survive. Needs were set aside. Feelings were handled alone. Responsibility came too early, and being “the strong one” slowly became a way of life. It was praised and even admired, but underneath it all was a quiet loss of comfort, safety, and being cared for without having to earn it.   That way of living does not stay in childhood. It follows into adulthood and shapes how love is experienced. Care becomes something to give, not receive. Worth feels tied to what can be offered. And even when love is present, it can feel unfamiliar, hard to trust, or difficult to fully accept.   There is also a quiet grief. Growing up too fast, carrying too much, and doing it all alone. Beneath that grief is a question that lingers. What would life feel like without the weight? Healing begins with awareness. Noticing the patterns. Questioning the beliefs behind them. Making space for something different. A life where care is not earned, but received.   In this episode, I sit down with Dorcas Asuming Opoku to unpack the reality of the parentified child and the lasting impact of the mother wound. We talk about the hidden loneliness behind high performance, the blurred line between protection and control, and the internal conflict of longing for love while struggling to receive it. This conversation offers language for what has been felt but rarely named, and a starting point for creating a life that is no longer shaped by survival alone.   “Sometimes the mother does not see the daughter as a separate individual, you are an extension of her. She can't see you as separate.” – Dorcas Asuming Opoku   Topics Covered:00:00:00 — Episode snippet00:00:58 — Introducing our guest, Dorcas Asuming Opoku00:03:22 — Why choosing a new path is allowed in life00:05:26 — What is a parentified child?00:09:50 — The hidden cost of being “the strong one”00:13:02 — When is the breakthrough moment in healing?00:18:44 — Where shame begins in childhood00:21:30 — Sharing breaks shame00:28:28 — Why “explainable” is not the same as “excusable”00:31:10 — The mother as authority and savior figure00:37:01 — The grief of lost time and lost self00:42:54 — Protection versus control in parenting00:48:59 — Daughter seen as extension, not separate self 00:50:27 — Daughter as “redemption plan” for mother’s unmet life 00:52:37 — Fear and control when daughters individuate 00:56:10 — How does guilt shape us? 01:00:37 — Approval-seeking becomes identity 01:02:28 — Sitting with the discomfort of disappointing people 01:05:51 — Prioritize yourself 01:10:27 — Regulation over reaction in triggering relationships 01:12:07 — Community as support in healing 01:13:56 — Relationship is a dance 01:14:41 — Building a new emotional ecosystem  01:16:02 — Building a new emotional ecosystem    Key Takeaways: “Every shame that she holds within, she also sees in you. Everything that she dislikes about herself, she also sees in you.” “You are my redemption plan. If I didn't go to college, you have to do this. You have to do that.” “With guilt comes obligatory loyalty.” “The number one way a black woman can… show that she's a good person is that she does what her mama says.” “You get the most affirmation from a mother who compliments you very minimally.” “You no longer really understand who you are because you're constantly on a journey of performing.” “You have to choose you over her.” “Community is a pillar in healing.” “You still exist wholly, even if she sees you differently.” “Stop allowing your mother to dictate your environment. The people in your life are a representation of your own ecosystem.”   About the Guest Dorcas Asuming Opoku is a Black British Ghanaian integrative psychotherapeutic counselor based in London. She supports high-achieving professionals who are tired of people-pleasing and holding everything together, helping them address deeper emotional patterns through a trauma-informed and culturally attuned approach.    Connect with Dorcas Asuming Opoku TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dorcas.asumingopoku Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorcas.asumingopoku/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dorcasopoku   DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one   Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.   Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Stop Talking to Yourself Like That 28.04.2026 1h 11min

  The way you speak to yourself did not start with you.The words spoken over you, and the ones that never came, do not simply pass through, they take root. They settle into the soil of your mind, growing into beliefs that shape how you see yourself, how you move, and what you believe you are allowed to have. Over time, those beliefs become patterns, and those patterns begin to feel like identity. What started as someone else’s voice can become the one that guides your choices, questions your instincts, and defines your worth.Along the way, that voice can feel like the truth. A mother’s words can echo so loudly that they become the lens through which everything is filtered. Even her silence can speak, teaching you what is valuable by what was never affirmed. Without realizing it, life can begin to orbit around unspoken rules, where rest feels like something to earn, joy feels excessive, and expression feels unsafe. The result is a quiet shrinking, a life shaped more by limitation than possibility.Change begins by listening closely to what has been running in the background. Not to silence it immediately, but to understand it. To sit with it, to trace where it came from, and to gently introduce something new. This is not about fixing what is broken, but about tending to what was planted. With new language, spoken with intention and care, new beliefs can grow, creating space for a life that feels more honest, more grounded, and more your own.In this episode, I sit down with Britnei Nicole to explore how language shapes identity, behavior, and healing within the mother wound. We talk about how words become belief systems, how traditional Black parenting influences what is passed down, and how even silence can define self-worth. This conversation opens the door to a different way of relating to yourself, one where you begin to choose the words that will shape who you are becoming.“You don’t have to attack your thoughts to change them; you can respond with care. There is healing power in not trying to change the feeling right away, but sitting with it.” – Britnei NicoleTopics Covered:00:00 — Episode snippet00:10 — Introducing our guest, Britnei Nicole03:03 — How does language shape who we become?05:00 — Language as the technology of belief06:36 — Healing requires making thoughts “moldable”09:00 — Your mother as your first mirror11:40 — How does language impact identity?15:56 — Power struggles between Black mothers and daughters19:01 — Language that creates self-doubt and weakens self-trust20:26 — Rewiring your thoughts takes practice23:21 — Root belief: Life is made of suffering27:07 — Limiting yourself once meant staying safe28:10 — You are built for a different time30:20 — Choose to do your own inner work31:46 — Taking your mother off the pedestal33:38 — Perfection blocks real connection36:40 — Her perspective is not the only truth37:31 — Rest, joy, pleasure40:00 — No “right way” to be a Black woman43:08 — Start with your needs before pleasure47:10 — Build a relationship with yourself48:16 — Release shame around centering yourself51:09 — Rebuilding your expression and voice54:36 — Sit with the critical voice first58:10 — Validate before trying to change01:00:04 — Healing is a relationship with yourself01:01:10 — Safety allows to access deeper memories01:02:19 — Healing starts with changing your self-talk01:03:17 — Words carry power and energy01:04:15 — Healing doesn’t erase your experiences01:06:29 — Turning pain into strength01:07:39 — You can put down what isn’t yours01:10:25 — Connect with Britnei NicoleKey Takeaways:“Language is the technology that creates these patterns of thought in our mind.”“If we’re constantly thinking a certain way, we become a certain way.”“Language brings the experience to life and makes it something your brain can engage with.”“To heal something, it has to be like clay—you have to be able to soften it and make something new out of it.”“A mother is a daughter’s first mirror of what it means to be a feminine being in the world.”“You can actually take control of your thoughts, decide what you think, and change them.”“We are still parenting from survival, even though we are no longer living in those conditions.”“Limiting yourself once meant staying safe, but now it keeps you small.”“You have to choose to run your own updates because no one else can do it for you.”“Your body has been trained to believe you don’t deserve goodness, so even pleasure can feel unsafe.”“Confidence comes from competence, and competence comes from practicing expression.”About the GuestBrittany Nicole is a writer, speaker, and coach specializing in the connection between language, identity, and behavior. Through her work, she helps individuals understand how their internal dialogue shapes their beliefs, decisions, and overall life experience. She is known for translating complex concepts into practical tools, equipping people to shift limiting patterns, strengthen self-awareness, and build a healthier relationship with themselves.Connect with Britnei NicoleWebsite: https://iamprettybrilliant.mykajabi.com/shopTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamprettybrilliantInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamprettybrilliantYouTube: www.youtube.com/@IamprettybrilliantDISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Join RESOLVE Evolved Today    Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwoundSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Living Through Your Mother's Fears 21.04.2026 32min

  Fear is not always yours, even when it feels like it lives inside you. Much of what feels like hesitation, overthinking, and self-doubt can be inherited, passed down through generations as protection but experienced as limitation. What once helped keep someone safe can quietly shape how you move, what you avoid, and what you believe is possible for your life. Over time, that fear can sound like your own voice, guiding your decisions and making you question your instincts. It can look like being careful, strategic, and prepared, while underneath it is a deep fear of getting it wrong. Along the way, it becomes easy to confuse fear with wisdom. A mother’s anxiety can feel like guidance, and her control can feel like love, making it difficult to recognize where her experiences end and your life begins. This creates a pattern of second-guessing, seeking validation, and avoiding risks, all while believing it is the right way to move. The result is a life shaped more by what is being avoided than what is truly desired. Breaking away from this requires awareness, patience, and the willingness to try differently. It means learning to recognize your own voice, separating it from what was taught, and slowly choosing based on truth instead of fear. The process is not immediate, but each small step creates space for a life that reflects who you are, not what you inherited. In this episode, I talk about the fear you inherited from your mother and how it shapes your ability to trust yourself, make decisions, and take risks. I share how this fear is rooted in history, survival, and generational patterns, and how it can show up as overthinking, perfectionism, and self-doubt. I walk you through how to begin identifying what is yours and what is not, and I invite you to start choosing your own path, even when it feels uncomfortable. “Fear became the way that we kept ourselves safe. That fear that was once rational became something we passed down, and we thought it was love, but it is trauma.”– Jennifer Arnise Topics Covered:00:00 — Episode snippet00:21 — Welcome to the Black Mother Wound Podcast02:34 — The Inherited Fear04:25 — Your mother’s fear becomes your voice05:08 — Her fear vs your reality08:12 — You are built for a different time09:10 — Traditional Black parenting shaped by survival10:50 — Separate her fear from your own16:04 — Inherited fear makes you doubt your decisions18:02 — Fear disguised as strategy19:57 — Fear-based parenting and its impact23:50 — Signs you are living from inherited fear24:49 — How obedience keeps you stuck in fear26:10 — Carrying your mother’s fear for love and approval28:48 — What fear is driving your life?30:20 — Reparenting yourself31:21 — Choose your own path Key Takeaways:“We don’t know that we’re looking through the lens of our mother’s trauma when we see ourselves and the world.”“The core of you not being able to trust yourself is not because you’re not capable, it’s because of your mother’s fear.”“Our mother’s worst-case scenarios felt like the truth, and because of that we learned to second-guess everything.”“We discount our own instincts and our own intuition because we believe our mothers know what is best for us.”“We are built with a different technology based on the world we are living in now. Our mothers didn’t grow up with the same access, autonomy, and opportunities that we have.”“You’re going to have to learn the difference between the fear you inherited and your own thoughts, ideas, and emotions.”“More than success, more than having the life of your dreams, we want a mother who loves us and approves of us.”“As long as you are living through your mother’s fear, your compass is off and you don’t have a true direction.”   DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Join RESOLVE Evolved Today    Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.   Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Was My Mama Depressed? 14.04.2026 1h

  Strength was never meant to cost you your humanity.   Being “strong” often starts as a response to what was missing. Growing up with a mother who was struggling, especially in silence, can teach you to take care of yourself before you’re ready. For many Black women, this means learning early that your needs come second, vulnerability doesn’t feel safe, and independence becomes the default. What begins as survival slowly turns into identity, where carrying everything alone feels normal.   Over time, this way of living becomes familiar. You keep going, you show up, you handle things, even when you’re exhausted. The world praises how much you can carry, but rarely sees what it costs you. Without realizing it, the same coping patterns you witnessed can become your own, leaving little room for rest, support, or softness.   Change begins when you realize that not everything you carry is yours. Some patterns were learned, others were passed down. Healing looks like making different choices, letting people in, setting boundaries, and giving yourself compassion. Support and community are not weaknesses, they are necessary.   In this episode, I sit down with Christin Haynes to talk about what it means to grow up as a daughter of depression and how the “strong Black woman” role is formed. We talk about how coping patterns are passed down, how identity is shaped, and why community is so important for healing. This conversation puts words to experiences many have felt and offers a starting point for doing things differently.   “Remixing your idea as to what a strong Black woman is a setup for depression every single time.” – Christin Haynes   Topics Covered: 00:00 — Episode Snippet00:36 — Welcome to the Black Mother Wound Podcast01:29 — Introducing Christin Haynes and her research03:18 — Studying the mother-daughter relationship through lived experience07:42 — Legacy work across generations12:08 — Unnamed maternal depression creates early independence14:58 — How survival shaped religion and self-worth 18:16 — Depressive behaviors passed down through modeling 19:40 — Realizing learned coping no longer works 21:10 — The role of “other mothers” and community 26:44 — “Strong Black woman” as a setup for depression 30:17 — Say it out loud, break the shame 32:00 — Lack of vulnerability33:53 — Understanding your mother brings healing 35:46 — It was never about you 37:10 — Overachieving can be a coping mechanism 40:12 — Skills build value, not just credentials 42:09 — “No one is coming” mindset starts early 43:45 — The mother wound shapes all relationships 46:16 — Boundaries and compassion in healing 51:12 — Don't stop trying in a place that's healthy 53:43 — Grace comes after doing your own healing 56:42 — You can’t change your mother, only yourself 57:58 — Connect with Christin Haynes 59:04 —  Your story has the power to heal generations   Key Takeaways: “You can't have an accurate view of religion when you don't have an accurate view of yourself as a person.” “When you grow up with a mother who’s perceivably depressed… you become a strong Black girl.” “Community is a buffer and a protective factor for depression in Black women.” “You didn’t have the space and the humanity to be low… even if you are low, you gotta put your makeup on, lay your wig, and walk out and brave the world, but on the inside, you’re dying.” “You don’t have to have every credential… you need to learn how to be in a community.” “If you think stacking your plate is going to make you more valuable, instead of stacking your skills, that’s the problem.” “You can’t be a good friend or be in community without understanding your relationship with your mother.” “Black women are going up the rough side of the mountain with no shoes on, holding their world on their back… and the worlds of the women before them.” “You have to know your boundaries and adjust your expectations of what this relationship can be.” “Your boundaries shape how far you go, but compassion is what keeps you open.” “You can’t change your mama, but you can change how you show up.” “Grace and compassion come naturally once you give them to yourself.”   About the Guest Christin Haynes is a doctoral candidate in Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University, with a research focus on the intergenerational passing of Strong Black Woman beliefs and maternal mental health. She holds a BS in Psychology and an MSW from Florida A&M University and has worked closely with vulnerable Black families. Christin is also the host of the Black Family Scholar podcast, where she explores the culture of silence within Black families and Black women’s mental health, and she creates digital resources that center the historical experiences of Black families in American society.   Connect with Christin Haynes Website: https://daughtersofdepression.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@daughtersofdepression2691   DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one Join RESOLVE Evolved Today    Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.   Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Healing My Mother Wound 07.04.2026 29min

  Healing is not a quick process, and it doesn’t follow a fixed timeline.    Years of pain, rejection, and misunderstanding cannot be undone in a short period, no matter how much one wishes for it. Instead of rushing toward an endpoint, the journey invites a deeper discovery of self, one that exists beyond fear and past conditioning. In that process, there is a quiet realization that growth happens in small, imperfect steps. Learning to care for personal needs and choosing oneself, even in uncertain moments, becomes evidence that healing is already taking place.   Along the way, long-held beliefs begin to shift. The fear of being unlikable slowly gives way to the understanding that being seen does not always lead to rejection. There is also the discovery of capability, finishing what was once abandoned, and recognizing intelligence that was always present but never acknowledged.    Time will pass regardless, and that truth brings a sense of urgency to the work. The choice is not about waiting for healing to feel complete, but about continuing the process while life moves forward. Even with its difficulty, the journey offers something irreplaceable: the chance to finally know and accept oneself. In that sense, the process itself is not just necessary, it is meaningful.   In this episode, I’m welcoming you back to The Black Mother Wound Podcast and into Season 3 as we begin a new chapter with the Black Effect Podcast Network. I reflect on how this space started as my personal journey and share what ten years of healing my mother wound has taught me, especially that healing takes time and is rooted in getting to know yourself. I opened up about the beliefs I had to unlearn and how creating a safe space within helped me grow. As we step into this season, I’m inviting you to not just listen, but to do the work and choose yourself.   “Healing, as hard as it has been, it has been worth it, I would do it all over again.” – Jennifer Arnise   Topics Covered: 01:11 — Episode Snippet 01:30 — Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast (Season 3 Opening) 02:17 — Joining the Black Effect Podcast Network 05:44 — 10 Years of healing the mother wound 07:03 — Why healing cannot be rushed 08:22 — The journey is the gift  11:05 — Lesson #1: People will like me if they know me 13:49 — Lesson #2: I can finish things 16:22 — Lesson #3: I am smart 19:04 — Lesson #4: Nothing is wrong with me 21:49 — We are worthy of love and happiness 22:48 — Healing requires new experiences 24:12 — Creating a safe space within yourself 25:28 — Healing is bard, but worth it 27:05 — What to expect in season 3 28:42 — Be an implementer, not just a listener   Key Takeaways: “Getting there is not the gift. The journey is the gift because what you get is an opportunity to get to know yourself.” “You can’t undo 20, 30, 40, 60 years of abandonment, of rejection, of wounding in 6 months, in a year.” “If you are getting to know yourself, if you are building a better relationship with yourself, then you are on the right track.” “Do not judge where you are so quickly, give it time to cook.” “It took me learning to accept and like myself for me to realize that it’s safe for people to know me.” “I created a safe space for myself where I wasn’t going to berate myself for not knowing and that made all the difference.” “All the things were always there, I just thought they weren’t valuable.” “The biggest part of healing is new experiences, you have to give your brain new evidence.” “Treat yourself like you are an explorer in a new kingdom, even if you’re in the same place.” “Be who you are, get what you want, have the life that is in your heart.”   DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.   Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-course Work with me one-on-one   Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.   www.jenniferarnise.com IG: @ iamjenniferarniseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.