The Conscious Love Show

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  The 5 Ways Men Love — And the Only One That Actually Matters 19.08.2026 58min

  To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com My wife recently shared that every relationship she had before ours feels insignificant by comparison. That what she thought love was back then just wasn't really love at all. I understood exactly what she meant — because I feel the same way. In today's episode I'm breaking down the four types of love, why most of them lead nowhere, and what the only starting point capable of becoming lasting love actually looks like. If you've ever wondered why the most intense connections seem to burn out the fastest, or why the quieter path to love might actually be the more real one, this episode is for you.
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  Shane's Diary Entry #9: My Life Story Part 1 12.08.2026 45min

  To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com For my most dedicated listeners — the ones who have been here since the beginning and want to know the full context behind this work — this is the complete story. From my birth to the birth of my daughter, to be released in monthly installments over the next few months. I've shared pieces of it over the years. This is the first time I'm sharing all of it — including the parts I've never shared before. Join me through the journey of my conditioning, my liberation, and ultimately my creation.
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  The 4 Childhood Experiences That Explain Why Men Don't Choose You 05.08.2026 49min

  To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com   There's a pattern running your relationships right now and you didn't choose it. You learned it before you were old enough to evaluate whether what you were learning was true. And here's what makes it so hard to change — it's not that you don't know it's there. Most women who carry these patterns have read the books, done the therapy, understand the concept. The problem is that the pattern doesn't live in your intellect. It lives in your nervous system. And knowing something is there doesn't automatically give you the ability to move. Today I'm sharing the four childhood experiences that create the four Relational Blueprints — the origin stories behind why you do what you do with men, why certain patterns keep repeating no matter how hard you try, and what it actually takes to change them. By the end of this episode you'll know which one is yours. And knowing where the stake was placed is the first step toward finally being able to pull it out.
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  The Real Reason He Keeps Coming Back But Never Commits 29.07.2026 57min

  To take the Quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, click here. To book a private session with Shane, click here.Please send all questions for next month's Q&A episode to info@thelivingrelationship.com   This week's episode is a Q&A, built around three listener questions that all circle the same painful, familiar territory: trying to read a man who won't give you a straight answer. The first question comes from a woman navigating a six-year, on-and-off connection with a man who disappears for months at a time, then resurfaces with an intense day or two before vanishing again — leaving her wondering whether he's genuinely interested or simply enjoys the attention when it's convenient. The second comes from a 47-year-old woman who recognizes she's stuck in an old, anxious pattern — one where she gives her power away and accepts far less than she actually wants, currently playing out in a relationship with a man unwilling to commit. The third comes from a woman who keeps encountering the same frustrating pattern in dating: men pursue her hard in the beginning, only to pull back a few months in, concluding they don't see a future — leaving her questioning what she might be doing wrong, even though nothing about her has changed. Shane breaks down what's really happening beneath each of these situations — the difference between chemistry and commitment, why inconsistency so often gets mistaken for depth, and how to stop trying to decode a man's behavior and start trusting what it's already telling you.  
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  How Not to Be A Doormat with Erin and Sara Foster 22.07.2026

  Click here to take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint   I met with Erin and Sarah Foster — the real-life sisters behind Netflix's Nobody Wants This — for a wide-ranging conversation on the most potent relationship challenges we all face and a powerful breakdown of my Relational Blueprint system. Listen to the full episode. Click below to listen on Apple or Spotify or search for The World's First Podcast on any major platform and look for the episode "How Not To Be a Doormat" Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify
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  What Men Notice About a Woman Before She Even Says a Word 15.07.2026 48min

  Take the Blueprint Quiz here to discover your Relational Blueprint and get your personalized breakdown.   There's a version of dating advice that tells you exactly what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. And there's a reason none of it works. Because what he's responding to has almost nothing to do with your words. Before you've finished your first sentence he's already picked up something about you that no script can manufacture and no strategy can fake. And that something determines everything — whether he leans in or pulls back, whether he takes you seriously or keeps things casual, whether he sees a future or just a moment. This episode is about what he's actually reading. And more importantly — what you can do about it.
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  If He's Not Afraid of Commitment, Why Her and Not You 08.07.2026 56min

  You watched him leave. And then you watched him move on — faster than you expected, happier than you thought he'd be, with someone who seems to be everything you thought you were supposed to be to him. And the question that's been living in the back of your mind ever since is a simple one. Why her and not me. This episode is designed to answer that question. Because the relationship came into your life for a reason. When you really understand what that reason is, everything else that happened will make sense too. 
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  If You Act Like His Wife, He'll Treat You Like His Mother 01.07.2026 48min

  Click here to take the quiz and discover your Relational BlueprintThis is for the woman who does everything right. You show up for him, you take care of him, you make sure his life runs smoothly. You make yourself as valuable and indispensable as a person can be. And somehow — it's still not working. He's not stepping up. He's not choosing you the way you need to be chosen. The relationship feels less like a partnership and more like a job. And when it's all said and done, he leaves you anyway. This episode is about the hidden motivation underneath you efforts that silently sabotages your connection and kills the sexual polarity in the relationship. By the end of this episode, you'll understand what your nervous system has been doing in your relationships without your permission — and why the thing that feels most like love to you has been quietly working against everything you actually want.
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  How to Heal the Need to Have Him Choose You 24.06.2026 44min

  There's something that no amount of success, self work, or self love content seems to touch. And most women know exactly what it is even if they've never said it out loud. It's the feeling that until a man chooses her — really chooses her — something is still missing. Something is still unresolved. And she's been carrying that feeling for a long time. This episode is about where that comes from. And more importantly — what it actually takes to heal it. Hit play. And when you're done, click here to find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life.
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  The #1 Reason Men Leave (And the Thing That Makes Him Stay) 17.06.2026 1h 2min

  Click here to take the Quiz and discover your Relational BlueprintSend questions to info@thelivingrelationship.com Men don't leave because they stop loving you. He may have left loving you completely. And if you've never understood how that's possible — this episode is going to change the way you see every relationship you've ever been in. Most men can't explain why they leave. There's something happening in their nervous system that they're responding to without the language to name it. Today I'm going to name it for them — and for you — in a way that you've probably never heard before.
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  Four Months In and He Still Hasn't Told You What He Wants — Do This 10.06.2026 59min

  Click here to take the Quiz and Discover Your Relational BlueprintSend Questions for July's Q&A Episode to info@thelivingrelationship.comEvery month I set aside an episode to answer your questions directly — the ones you're sitting with, the ones you're afraid to say out loud, and the ones you've been searching for a real answer to. No scripts, no theory for the sake of theory. Just honest, direct responses to what you're actually going through. If you have a question you'd like answered on a future episode, send it to info@thelivingrelationship.com. Your question could be featured next month. This month's questions:   "I've been seeing this guy for about four months now and honestly everything feels really good when we're together. But we've never actually defined what we are and every time I get close to bringing it up I just... don't. I'm scared of ruining what we have. How do I know when it's actually time to say something?"     "I've always been someone who shows love by taking care of people. Cooking for them, checking in, being there no matter what. But I've had multiple people tell me that's why men walk all over me. The thing is it doesn't feel like a problem to me, it feels like love. How do I change something that feels so natural without just becoming someone I'm not?"     "My ex told me I was too much. Too emotional, too intense, too needy. And it really messed with me because I wasn't trying to be any of those things, I was just being honest about how I felt. Now I'm in something new and I'm constantly monitoring myself so I don't overwhelm him. How do I just be myself without scaring people away?"     "How do you know when you're being patient and supportive versus just making excuses for someone? I feel like I'm always giving people the benefit of the doubt and I don't know if that's a strength or if I'm just afraid to admit when something isn't working."  
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  The Silent Test Men Are Giving That Women Don't Even Know They're Taking 03.06.2026 1h 13min

  Click here to take the Quiz and Discover Your Relational Blueprint   Every man, you date is testing you. You didn't know it was happening. You haven't been told the rules. And every day you don't know about it, you're answering it anyway. Most women enter the early stages of dating focused on one thing — being chosen by the man she likes. What nobody told her is that the qualities she's optimizing for and the qualities that actually earn his commitment are not the same thing. In fact, they're often working against each other. This episode is about what he's actually watching for when he goes quiet. Why a man who knows exactly what you want will sometimes say nothing and what that silence is really asking you to do. And why the conversation most women are afraid to have is the only one that was ever going to change anything. There's a principle at the end of this episode that reframes where relational responsibility actually lives — and once you hear it you won't be able to unhear it. If what I just described is already resonating, hit play. And when you're done, find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life — link above.  
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  Most of Your "Standards" Have Nothing to Do With What You Actually Need — Here's 3 That Do... 27.05.2026 57min

  Click here to take the quiz and find out what your Relational Blueprint is.   You don't have unrealistic standards. You know what you want. You've defended it. You've walked away from relationships that didn't meet the bar and you'd do it again. But love still isn't working the way you thought it would, and somewhere in the back of your mind a question you won't say out loud has started forming.   What if the list isn't the problem? What if it's just aimed at the wrong things?   Today's episode isn't about lowering your standards or settling for less than you deserve. It's about something most people in this space won't say: the standards most people have predict almost nothing about whether a relationship will actually work. And the three that do are probably not on your list. If you're ready for that conversation, hit play. 
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  Why High-Value Men Lose Interest in Women Who Are Too Available 20.05.2026 1h 3min

  Click here to take the Quiz and discover your Relational BlueprintHe didn't lose interest because you cared too much. He lost interest because of what you stopped doing the moment you did. And if you've ever felt like showing up fully in a relationship somehow works against you — like love requires you to be less of yourself to keep it — this episode is going to reframe everything. Because the problem was never your interest in him. It was the parts of yourself you quietly set aside the moment he became a priority. The parts you dimmed down for something that hadn't even been built yet. Today's episode names exactly what that costs you — and what it actually looks like to show up fully without playing games, without strategy, and without shrinking. If you're ready for that conversation, hit play. And when you're done, take the Quiz to find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life.
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  The Essential Qualities of a Conscious Woman 13.05.2026 1h 33min

  Learn more about my Inspired Love 8-Week Journey beginning May 19th here. Following up from last week's episode, I'm excited to continue on with this popular 2-part series (please note that because this is a reshare, dates for the Challenge and Inspired Love Journey spoken about in this episode have passed, however, the link and date above is current)...  In this episode we explore the attributes that define a woman who is deeply attuned to her personal growth, emotional intelligence, and authentic self-expression. Drawing from universal spiritual principles and  practical experience, we outline the key characteristics that enable a woman to cultivate meaningful connections and embody true love. From self-awareness and vulnerability to emotional resilience and compassion, we discuss how these traits not only enhance her relationship with others but also deepen her relationship with herself. Whether you’re single and seeking love or in a committed relationship, this episode serves as an empowering guide for women who want to elevate their consciousness and foster deeper, more fulfilling partnerships and men who are seeking a conscious partner.  I hope you enjoy!
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  The Essential Qualities of a Conscious Man 06.05.2026 1h 23min

  Click here to join the waiting list for The Conscious Love Challenge.   Click here to join my 8-Week Inspired Journey beginning May 19th.   This week, I'm sharing one of my most popular episodes (please note that because this is a reshare, dates for the Challenge and Inspired Love Journey spoken about in this episode have passed, however, the links and dates above are current)... Let's dive deep into the essential qualities that define a conscious man. In this episode, we explore the attributes that empower men to build authentic connections, embrace vulnerability, and foster healthy relationships.  We're clearly defining the qualities that not only enhance personal growth but also contribute to more fulfilling partnerships. Whether you’re a man looking to bring forth your highest self or a woman seeking a conscious partner, this episode is packed with insights to inspire deeper connection and growth. Join in on this riveting discussion about what it means to truly embody conscious masculinity!
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  Why Men Commit to Some Women and Not Others (The 3 Things that Make the Difference) 29.04.2026 1h 22min

  Most women believe that commitment is a mystery of "timing" or a stroke of luck. They’ve been told that if they just heal enough, wait long enough, or become "good enough," the right man will finally choose them. But the data tells a different story. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the Relational Mechanics that actually drive male behavior and looking at the objective physics of why a man will coast with one woman for years but change his entire life to commit to another in months. We explore: The 10/20/70 Rule: Why you’re likely ignoring the very men who are most capable of rising for you. The "Incentive Gap": Why "being a good person" isn't a strategy for commitment, and what actually makes a man see you as a long-term investment. The 3 Foundational Pillars: The specific signals that tell a man he’s found a partner worth building a legacy with, rather than just a companion to pass the time. If you are tired of being the "Cool Girl" who gets nothing in return, or the "Over-Healed" woman who is still sitting on the sidelines, this episode is your decoder ring.
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  They Want Men and Women to Hate Each Other (And It's Working) 22.04.2026 1h 19min

  Is the "Gender War" a manufactured strategy? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the invisible forces profiting from your loneliness, your resentment, and your distrust of the opposite sex. From the calculated manipulation of "viral" statistics like the 26 million visitors to the "Rape Academy," to the rise of the "White Knight" influencers who trash their own gender for clicks, we explore how the modern media landscape is weaponizing our deepest relational wounds to keep us polarized.  
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  Understanding Your Nervous System, Parts Work, and Inner Child Healing with Sarah Baldwin 15.04.2026 1h 12min

  Follow Sarah on Instagram: @sarahbcoaching Learn more at www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com   In this illuminating episode, we delve into the profound realms of inner healing, nervous system regulation, and parts work with the insightful Sarah Baldwin. Sarah shares her wisdom and expertise on how understanding our nervous system can lead to deep healing and transformation. Through compassionate discussions and practical insights, Sarah guides listeners on a journey of self-discovery, exploring the intricate connections between our nervous system responses, inner child wounds, and fragmented parts of ourselves. Discover how to cultivate awareness and compassion for the different aspects of your being, fostering integration and wholeness from within. From exploring the impact of early childhood experiences to learning practical techniques for nervous system regulation, Sarah offers invaluable guidance on how to navigate the inner landscape with grace and resilience. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of parts work and inner child healing in the journey toward conscious love and self-compassion.
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  Shane's Diary Entry #8: Why love doesn't satisfy us and no amount of achievement is ever enough 08.04.2026 1h 15min

  Hey everyone... This episode is a stream of consciousness check in following my 36th birthday. I talk about the moving goalpost that makes it feel like I never arrive. How I'm living inside the dream I had 15 years ago but it doesn't feel the way I thought it would. Learning to turn off my threat detector and find peace here and now. Accessing flow states vs. ego states. The guilt I feel for being happy in today's world. The kind of environment I want to raise my daughter in. And what A Course in Miracles says about war.  If you want to read my diary, this might be my rawest entry yet. Hope you enjoy it.