They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

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• Coming Out Later in Life 27.05.2026 34min

  Why do some people hide their sexuality for decades? Ciara and Richard unpack shame, fear, homophobia, and the emotional cost of living a life that doesn’t fully feel like your own.After Tommy Fleming’s interview with Ciara on Newstalk, where he discussed his sexuality and decision to come out at 55, they explore identity, secrecy, family expectations, and why it’s never too late to be honest about who you are.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• F*ck Around & Find Out (Parenting) 20.05.2026 30min

  Ciara and Richard discuss “FAFO or F*ck Around and Find Out parenting,” how letting kids make mistakes might be better than stepping in to fix everything.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid 13.05.2026 30min

  Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack the emotional reality of blended families and why forcing closeness too quickly can backfire.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Career Change: Taking the Leap 06.05.2026 30min

  Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where you are. Ciara and Richard share their own career changes and how to make realistic moves towards work that feels fulfilling.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Can We Get Back Together? (Listener Dilemma) 29.04.2026 25min

  After ending a long-term relationship in a moment of grief and low mood, a listener is left questioning everything when her ex moves on quickly.Ciara and Richard unpack whether it’s betrayal or consequence and what it takes to rebuild a relationship once it’s been broken.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Co-Parenting Mistakes: Stop Putting Kids in the Middle 22.04.2026 32min

  It’s often children who carry the emotional fallout when parents separate, especially when conflict, name-calling, and resentment take over.Ciara and Richard unpack the co-parenting behaviours that do real damage, and how to protect children from being caught in the middle.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Sibling Rivalry & Resentment 15.04.2026 36min

  Why do siblings trigger us more than anyone else? Relationships can be shaped by comparison, labels, and family roles that follow us into adulthood.In this episode, Ciara and Richard Hogan unpack sibling rivalry, “family boxes,” and how to build healthier, more connected relationships at any age.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Staying After an Affair 08.04.2026 30min

  From betrayal and secrecy to rebuilding trust, communication, and a sense of self. Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Mental Health Influencers 01.04.2026 33min

  How online mental health content is shaping how we think and feel - and the risks when complex issues are oversimplified or widely shared.Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Breaking up is hard to do! 25.03.2026 28min

  Ciara and Richard explore what makes a “good” breakup, why it can be so painful, and how to end a relationship with less conflict and hurt.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also send a DM.They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Negative News Overload 18.03.2026 32min

  How constant exposure to bad news affects our mental health, and how to set boundaries without switching off completely.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up - Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan take on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• ADHD: Strengths and Struggles 11.03.2026 35min

  From inattention and impulsivity to time blindness and overwhelm, Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore the challenges of ADHD, the strengths it can bring, and how structure and support can help.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch via DM.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.New episode every Wednesday.
• Grief: Life After Loss 04.03.2026 30min

  After a personal loss, Ciara and Richard explore the reality of grief. How it ebbs and flows, why no two losses feel the same, and the complex emotions that follow. What helps in the early weeks and how to find connection while living with loss.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.New episode every Wednesday.
• Loneliness in Modern Life 25.02.2026 31min

  Exploring loneliness - why it can feel like physical pain, the stigma around admitting it, who is most affected and the small, practical steps that can make a difference.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.New episode every Wednesday.
• Kids Online - Access & Protection 18.02.2026 33min

  The impact of technology on children - from harmful content pushed by algorithms to material on eating disorders and self-harm. Ciara and Richard discuss regulation, big tech, and simple steps parents can take, including keeping phones out of bedrooms at night!Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.New episode every Wednesday.
• Drama Kings & Queens 04.02.2026 30min

  People who turn every situation into a crisis! Dealing with dramatic people is the topic this week. Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan look at why some people rely on drama, how it affects those around them, and how to protect your own peace without getting pulled into the chaos.Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Help - I don't like my kids! 28.01.2026 36min

  A topic few people talk about: when a parent doesn’t like their child. In this episode Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly explore why this can happen, from personality clashes to deeper issues. They look at how emotional distance and constant criticism affect a child’s self-esteem and ability to trust. And dig into what’s really behind these difficult parent child dynamics. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• When Sex Disappears 21.01.2026 32min

  They Mess You Up is back with a new series, taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. In this first episode of the series, Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly talk about Sexless Marriages; why they happen, how intimacy can quietly disappear and why they’re more common than people think! They dig into stress, health and poor communication and discuss what really helps couples reconnect.They Mess You Up - is a weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. New episodes every Wednesday.
• S1. Episode 10 - Technology & Adolescence 15.01.2026 33min

  In this thought-provoking and final episode of season 1, Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly delve into the complex world of technology and its impact on adolescents. With the ubiquitous presence of smartphones, they explore the challenges parents face in guiding their children through this digital landscape, where connection often comes with isolation and heightened anxiety. Join them as they discuss the emotional turmoil of adolescence, the significance of setting boundaries, and the pervasive nature of online bullying and harmful content. Richard shares personal anecdotes that resonate deeply, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding during these formative years.
• S1. Episode 9 - The New Year 15.01.2026 29min

  In the first episode of 2025, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the topic of New Year's resolutions and the futility of punitive self-improvement goals. They discuss the high failure rates of common resolutions and why setting oneself up for a "new year, new me" can lead to feelings of hopelessness. Instead of purging negative habits, Ciara and Richard advocate for the power of positive reinforcement and self-acceptance. Tune in as they share insights on building sustainable habits, distinguishing triggers, and cultivating a kinder internal dialogue. Discover how embracing yourself can lead to genuine growth and fulfillment.