bed hoppers - swinging in the UK

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  bh228: event meltdown 25.09.2026 1h 11min

  Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast.  In this episode we talk about Mrs H's birthday, review the recent Ssocial Club and SCN hotel takeover event and explore a bit of a meltdown from Mr H at the event. If you've ever struggled at an event, worked to figure out your approach or felt a bit left out - this might be a helpful one.  Extra noteMr H here (although TBF, it's always me!). I've thought long and hard (that's what she said) about posting this one. As the title suggests, I might have had a bit of a toys out of the pram sulky sulk whilst attending an event. It happens. There's a whole host of issues behind it but we thought it was important to share the story. I'm really conscious that we don't always get it right. This is one of those moments. We've had some fun times and we've had struggles too. There's much to adore about swinging and the lifestyle - but there can be tough moments where your brain doesn't help you. That's why I've decided to share it, explain why I flounced off declaring 'I'm never doing this again' and what we've been doing to prevent this in the future. I know it's another negative moment, I realise that we have these more than I'd like. But I want to be honest about my experience. I hope you find it useful. Handy links: Find out more about SSocial Club: https://www.instagram.com/the_ssocial_club/ Find out more about SCN: https://www.instagram.com/thesouthcoastnetwork/  
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  bh227: checking out Secret Desire 12.08.2026 36min

  In this mini-episode we talk about a new club that's opened near us run by the Secret Desires team. We pop along for opening night and explore the new venue. We chat about our experience, how the night ended for us and why Mrs H decided to wear some very transparent garments along the way. We had a fun time - and recommend you check out the space if you get the chance! Thanks for hopping into our podcast! Handy links Check out Secret Desires on SwingHub here (on mobile): https://qr.swhub.me/page-49/i2jwcn
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  bh226: the BBC invite 19.07.2026 50min

  Thanks for checking out our podcast. In this episode we take a look at swinging in the media - with a couple of different sides to the story. The first is a serious chat about a recent BBC news article and podcast series on a woman called Ruth, who says she was pressured into having sex with strangers through the Fabswingers website more than 100 times. The second is a bit of a download around recent movie The Invite, staring Olivia Wilde, Seth Rogan, Penelope Cruz and Edward Norton. We talk about how things have been portrayed in the media, the up and downsides and share our feelings on how much responsibility swinger sites have. If you've experienced the podcast or the movie, get in touch with us and let us know what you thought - [email protected].  Thanks for hopping into our bed! Handy links Here's a link to the story on the BBC: https://www.bbc.co.uk/mediacentre/2026/bbc-sounds-podcast-swingers And you can listen to the podcast here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p0ns3q5d Here's the IMDB link to the Invite: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt14173636/?ref_=fn_t_1  
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  bh225: the girl who lived 22.06.2026 34min

  Trigger warning: There are some tough themes in this episode including hospitals, operations, trauma and near death descriptions. If any of these impact you, you might want to skip this one. In this episode we cover what's been going on and why this month has perhaps been the toughest we've ever faced. During a routine operation Mrs H goes into anaphylactic shock - we talk about what happened, what it meant for us and how she's doing several weeks on. We take the opportunity to thank family and friends for their help, care and support. Hopefully normal service will resume shortly. Thanks for hopping into our bed.
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  bh224: More than monogamy 10.05.2026 1h 5min

  Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast. In this episode we interview filmmakers Dillon and Urvashi, who discuss their documentary ‘More Than Monogamy’. The film is designed to educate on ethical non-monogamy - and is a fantastic beginners guide to swinging, ENM and more. Dillon and Urvashi talk about some of the trials of getting the film made, why they set out to explore the topic and tell us a little bit about their own journeys in swinging. We cover the positives and negatives of the swinging lifestyle and have some fun along the way. If you’re thinking of taking your first steps in ethical non monogamy, are looking to find out more about it or would just like to watch a film about the topic - this could be the movie for you. Check out the links below for more info. Hope you enjoy the interview - as ever, thanks for hopping into our bed.   Handy links You can find the More than monogamy film here: https://www.morethanmonogamy.com/ Check out Dillon’s other films here: https://www.allthebirdsllc.com/ And find Urvashi’s erotica here: https://sparkerotic.com/  
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  bh223: talking events with Bex & Paul 13.04.2026 1h 22min

  Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast.  In this episode, we revamp the show a little bit and also interview the delightful Bex and Paul from untamed nights. We talk about their journey, how they got started and what it's like running events. They offer some top tips for heading to events and how to make the most of your experience. We cover items for desert islands and have a great natter about all things swinger lifestyle.  We hope you enjoy the new stuff - thanks for hopping into our bed. Handy links You can find out more about untamed nights here: https://www.untamednights.co.uk/ Want to come along to one of our events - reach out at [email protected]   
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  bh222: do you put on a show? 22.03.2026 52min

  Hello and welcome to episode 222 - the last of season one! In this edition Mrs H poses some questions around performative sexy times. Do you put on a show when you play with someone? Is it performative or are you just being you? We talk about putting on a show and if that's our bag, what we do for solo dates and if we prep more for other people. It's a fun little end to the first season of the bed hoppers podcast.  Until season two arrives, thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh221: Bristol Gardens Health Spa & 8 years 22.02.2026 59min

  In this episode we recount our visit to Bristol Gardens Health Spa in Brighton. We talk about the venue being a professional naturist spa and its features, including a cafe, steam rooms, and private themed playrooms. We ponder if it’s a hook up place or somewhere to relax and unwind… Take a listen to our review to find out more. We also mark our podcast’s eight-year anniversary. Mr. H reflects on the personal "cost" of production, including the intensive editing time and the emotional toll of negative online feedback. We talk about the future of the show and how you can get involved. Got thoughts? Email us at [email protected] This one has something for everyone! Thanks for hopping into our bed.
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  bh220: are we swingers? 08.02.2026 1h 4min

  Welcome to the latest edition of the bed hoppers podcast. We're back after a few weeks of illness for Mr H. We talk about what we've been up to since Christmas and New Year and take a look at what we've got coming up. Mr H asks Mrs H if we're really swingers - and what all of this stuff means to us. Are we successful, would or should we change things? Is our approach moving along? It's a pretty big discussion that gets a little pokey (don't worry though - we're all good, promise!). We hope you enjoy it or can take something from it - it was important for us to work through some of these questions, even if we don't know the answers! If you've had similar discussions, thoughts or theories, we'd love to hear from you - reach out to [email protected]. Until then, thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh219: Secret Stag & Secret Vixen Return 11.01.2026 1h 5min

  In this episode we invite sexy friends Secret Stag and Secret Vixen behind the mic once more and catch up on what they've been up to over the last year. They talk about adventures in hot wifing, a trip to a hotwife takeover event in the states, answer our questions and share some of their sexiest moments. We cover how they're going in their lifestyle journey and look to what 2026 might mean for them.  It's a handy episode if you've been following them, are interested in hotwifing and hot wife events and if you're up for a cheeky little conversation. Thanks for hopping into our bed.
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  bh218: 2025 and solo party prep 29.12.2025 1h 3min

  In this episode we talk about 2025 and explore some of our highs and lows for the year. We talk a little about the future and what the coming year might look like for our adventures. We chat about some forthcoming solo dates and our plans for how they might work. Mr H is getting ready to go to a party - so we talk about boundaries, possible situations and how to keep Mrs H involved. It's a handy one if you're exploring solo adventures, thinking about how your year has been and what you might get up to in 2026. If you've got awesome plans - reach out and let us know about them! Thanks for hopping into our bed.  
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  bh217: the video side quest 15.12.2025 49min

  Thanks for checking us out! In this delightful episode we follow up on Mrs H's side quest, which we spoke about in the previous podcast. Essentially, she was challenged to film some naughty content and send it to Mr H whilst he was on his solo date. Did she film it? Did she send it? Was it sexy? For the answers to this and more, take a lovely listen to this show! We cover how we're feeling about pictures and videos, if that's changed following the side quest and what we might do in the future. Might be a handy discussion starter if you're talking about solo dates, filming content and what to do with pics and clips.  Thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh216: sex pics & videotape 23.11.2025 1h 8min

  Ahhhh swingers and posting pictures. Have you ever joined a swinging site and recoiled in horror at some of the pictures posted? Perhaps you feel like you could never compete? Or maybe you constantly share pictures and videos every three and a half minutes? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are prob'ly human! Congratulations! We talk about all things posting pics and vids. We cover what we like, what doesn't work for us and how things have changed. Mrs H accepts a challenge and we share our thoughts on why we do what we do when it comes to spicy images. Hopefully there's plenty of food for thought! Thanks for hopping into our bed. PS - Mrs H chose the music on this one. So if you like it, let us know. And if it's not working for you, let us know that too!  
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  bh215: catching up with Mr and Ms J 09.11.2025 1h 25min

  This episode features delightful guests Mr and Ms J - who talk about their journey into the swinging lifestyle. We cover a whole host of things from dealing with anxiety, diving straight into clubs, what they'd throw in the lifestyle bin and what challenges children might bring into their adventures. Mr and Mrs H also have a bit of a chat about getting videos and pictures - it's only the start of that conversation but we'd love to know your thoughts. Bob us an email at [email protected]  Thanks for hopping into our bed! Handy links and info In the episode Mr H talks about a book that someone recommended. This is the book: 'When I say "NO", I feel Guilty' by Manuel J. Smith. It's on Spotify as a free audiobook, if you have a premium account. As is The Ethical Slut - which we'd highly recommend.  
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  bh214: back on track 26.10.2025 1h 6min

  Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast. In this episode we talk about our last week or two and how it feels like we’re turning a corner. From awesome threesomes to sexy solo dates and steps in the right direction on meds, it has certainly been a delightful period! We bring you up to date on our latest escapades, talk about our solo adventures, recount some sexy moments and celebrate how things are on the right track. It might not all be perfect, but it’s lovely to share a slice of the good stuff that’s been going on. We explore the thrill of solo dates, what’s driving our exploration and talk about how they feature as part of our pic n mix approach to the swinging lifestyle. Thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh213: single and bi with Sam 12.10.2025 1h 7min

  This episode starts with an update from us, we check in on Mrs H's menopause progress, chat about the Thrifty shades of grey event and touch on some of our recent adventures.   Our main feature is an interview with Sam, an energetic single man in his early 40s, who describes himself as bisexual and "ADHD as hell". Sam is navigating the lifestyle after a 16-year vanilla relationship, exploring experiences while seeking companionship. He talks about some of the challenges, his advice for newcomers and how he'd bring up the lifestyle conversation with a new partner. He's a delightful guest with plenty of stories to share.   If you want to reach out to Sam, drop us a message at the usual email address. Thanks for hopping into our bed!    
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  bh212: new dynamics with Bunny and A 28.09.2025 1h 24min

  We invite two lovely ladies, Bunny and A, to join us for a chat exploring their journey, swinging lifestyle experiences and what they'd throw into room 101. They talk about their new relationship, how it came about and what it means for them and A's partner. We touch on our recent social event, announce a new one and they fire a question or two at us. It's a fabulous interview, digging into new relationships, exploring new dynamics and finding out more about hot husbanding too.  If you're interested in our Thrifty Shades of Grey event in December, do get in touch in the regular places. Thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh211: a chat with Jess 14.09.2025 50min

  In this episode we speak to Jess, who shares her personal journey and insights into the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle. Jess, describing herself as a "9-year-old who has been to a lot of therapy", recounts entering the scene through polyamory after university and later discovering swinging post-lockdown. She identifies as solo poly, preferring to engage in swinging independently, shaped by her own desires and boundaries. Jess emphasises the importance of "doing the work" to unlearn monogamous norms, reframing jealousy, and establishing clear boundaries, particularly not dating monogamous individuals or poly people with negative views on swinging. She covers body image issues and overcoming a hierarchy in the swinging community that sometimes invalidates single participants.Check out this podcast now for a delightful stroll through Jess's experiences and the usual questions!   Thanks for hopping into our bed.
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  bh210: Open House - the good, the bad and the ugly 31.08.2025 1h

  In this episode we bring you up to date on what's being going on in our lives. From poorly pets, to great lifestyle success, solo dates, all the way through to HRT - we give you a behind the scenes look at life with the bed hoppers. Find out if Mrs H picked up on some recent sexy hints! We move on to talk about Channel 4's Open House programme. We talk about what worked for us in season three, what could have been better and why we occasionally yelled at the TV. We add some listener views about the show too and talk a bit about our time on television. We'd love your views on Open House - so do reach out if you'd like to share them. Thanks for hopping into our bed!
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  bh209: Gav in the spotlight 10.08.2025 56min

  In this episode we chat to single fella Gav. He talks about his journey, how he's started exploring his bi side and some of the challenges you might face as a single gentleman exploring the swinging lifestyle. We cover advice for newbies, what Gav would put in the lifestyle bin and if we've ever deleted one of our podcast recordings. It's fun romp through one man's journey from newbie to experienced swinger. Thanks for hopping into our bed! Handy info Look out for Gav on Fabswingers and other sites at gavla7799.