Sex and Breakfast

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  Better Sex Starts Here: How to Ask For Exactly What You Want 05.09.2026 26min

  Tired of hinting and hoping your partner magically gets it? This episode is your guide to actually asking for what you want in bed — clearly, confidently, and without the awkwardness. The hosts break down why so many people struggle to identify their own desires, share playful tools like the Wheel of Consent, the Nerdy Number game, and the A/B technique to make these conversations easier, and explain why the bedroom is the worst place to have them. Whether you're newly dating or decades deep into a relationship, you'll walk away with a five-minute sex conversation exercise you can use tonight.Show Notes:The Wheel of Consent by Betty MartinCouples conversation card decksThree self-discovery questions: What do I want more of? What do I want less of? What do I want to try?Self-exploration awareness questions listThe Five-Minute Sex Conversation ExerciseFollow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Pressing Reset: How to Reclaim Your Sensual Self at Any Age 28.08.2026 32min

  Your body isn't broken — it just needs a reset. Sex coach and author Erica Lemke joins the hosts to introduce her new book Pressing Reset for a Sensual Midlife, built around a movement system called Original Strength that uses simple developmental movements — breathing, eye and head control, rocking, and cross-lateral crawling — to help women reconnect with their bodies, senses, and pleasure at any stage of life. The conversation explores the powerful distinction between sensuality and sexuality, how the nervous system holds the key to feeling present and connected, and why slowing down — not speeding up — is the fastest path back to yourself.Show Notes:Pressing Reset for a Sensual Midlife by Erica Lemke Special discount link for "Pressing Reset" book!Erica Lemke: SexCoachSLC.comTV Episode mentioned: Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 2, Episode 4 (Hulu)Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  The Five Ways to Initiate Sex (And Why You're Only Using One) 14.08.2026 31min

  Who asks for sex matters way more than you think. Most couples fall into the same boring pattern—one person always initiates, the other always waits to be approached. Over time, this creates resentment, hurt feelings, and a whole lot of distance. But here's the good news: there are five different ways to initiate sex, and understanding your style (and your partner's) can completely change your relationship. The episode breaks down initiation styles and explains why your partner might be rejecting you—not because they don't want you, but because you're speaking an intimacy language they don't understand. Once you figure out how you both like to be approached, everything shifts.Show NotesCome As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski --Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Is My Sex Fantasy Normal? What Your Imagination Is Really Telling You 31.07.2026 33min

  In this juicy and judgment-free episode, the hosts dive into one of the most whispered questions in sexuality: "Is my sexual fantasy normal?" They unpack the important distinction between fantasy and desire, normalize the wide spectrum of sexual imagination, and bust common myths — including whether taboo fantasies mean something is "wrong" with you, whether porn shapes what we truly want, and whether fantasies have to be shared or acted upon. With warmth, humor, and clinical wisdom, they walk listeners through a thoughtful framework for exploring fantasies safely, from keeping them private to having conversations with a partner, and remind us that your inner world is yours — shame-free.Show Notes:Dr. Justin Lehmiller's work on sexual fantasyEsther Perel intimacy card deckDipsea App (for audio erotica)Sex coaching/therapy for unpacking fantasies, reach out to us on our website; sexandbreakfastpodcast.com .--Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  How Sex Ed Failed Us (And What Other Countries Get Right): Part 2 24.07.2026 21min

  This is the second part of our discussion on how sex education differs around the world and why those differences matter. From the Netherlands and Sweden to Japan, Indonesia, and traditional African communities, we discuss how culture shapes conversations about consent, pleasure, relationships, body autonomy, and human rights. We also take a hard look at the United States, where sex education varies dramatically by state and often focuses on fear, abstinence, and risk instead of communication, confidence, and emotional well-being.Show Notes: World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) – Declaration of Sexual Pleasure World Health Organization (WHO) – Sexual health resourcesUN Human Rights – Sexual rights Planned Parenthood – Comprehensive sex education resourcesBook mentioned; Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  How Sex Ed Failed Us (And What Other Countries Get Right): Part 1 17.07.2026 27min

  We explore how sex education differs around the world and why those differences matter. From the Netherlands and Sweden to Japan, Indonesia, and traditional African communities, we discuss how culture shapes conversations about consent, pleasure, relationships, body autonomy, and human rights. We also take a hard look at the United States, where sex education varies dramatically by state and often focuses on fear, abstinence, and risk instead of communication, confidence, and emotional well-being.Show Notes: World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) – Declaration of Sexual Pleasure World Health Organization (WHO) – Sexual health resourcesUN Human Rights – Sexual rights Planned Parenthood – Comprehensive sex education resourcesBook mentioned; Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Artificial Desire: Is AI Hijacking Your Sex Life? 03.07.2026 21min

  Are you in control of AI, or is AI already shaping your sex life? The hosts tackle these questions while breaking down the three main ways people are currently using AI in their sex lives - as a partner, a practice tool, and a coach. Before diving into a candid debate about whether AI is a help or hindrance to real connection, the panel explores the dangers of AI's built-in bias and echo chamber design, references concerning real-world cases of AI dependency and "chatbot psychosis," and ultimately challenges listeners to reflect on whether their own AI use is helping them grow toward genuine intimacy or keeping them hidden from it.Show Notes: "My Strange Addiction", AI Boyfriend; Season 7 Episode 8"Black Mirror", Be Right Back; Season 2 Episode 1—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Beyond the Swipe: The Lost Art of Real-Life Dating 19.06.2026 30min

  Dating apps promised us endless choices, but we're getting burnt-out swipes instead of real love. In this episode, the hosts explore why swiping through profiles has made us impatient with the awkwardness of real romance—and more importantly, how to meet people the old-fashioned way. They share practical tips for building a social life first, making friends second, and letting romance happen naturally. The key takeaway? Put your phone down, show up in person, and remember that the best connections happen when you're actually present with people who share your values.Show Notes: Grief Magic Podcast - Episode 225: "Journaling, Narrative Psychology, and Romanticizing Everything" with Jero MagdalenaEventbrite - https://www.eventbrite.com (for finding local events and singles nights)Meetup.com - https://www.meetup.com (for finding clubs, groups, and community gatherings)Sierra Club - https://www.sierraclub.org (hiking and outdoor clubs)—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  At the Edge of Pleasure: You've been using Edging wrong 05.06.2026 19min

  This episode explores edging not as a trendy bedroom hack, but as a deeper practice of awareness, control, and connection. The hosts unpack how intentionally pausing at the brink of orgasm can expand arousal capacity, heighten sensitivity, and shift pleasure from something rushed and performative into something embodied and intentional. Drawing from clinical experience, they connect edging to nervous system regulation, breathwork, and mindfulness, showing how it can support people dealing with performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, or disconnection from their bodies. The conversation also reframes sex beyond orgasm-driven goals, inviting listeners to rediscover pleasure, curiosity, and communication—whether practicing solo or with a partner.Show NotesGuided erotic meditations & breathwork for practice: Dipsea and QuinnResearch on the Orgasm GapArticle referenced: Emily Nagoski — “Has the Orgasm Gap Closed in the Last 30 Years?”—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Why Dirty Talk Feels So Hard—and How to Make It Easy 22.05.2026 26min

  Dirty talk has a reputation—and for many people, it’s intimidating, awkward, or even off-putting. In this episode, we strip away the myths and reframe what dirty talk actually is: not performance, not porn scripts, but the simple act of naming desire out loud. We explore why speaking during intimacy can feel more vulnerable than physical touch, and how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of education shape our relationship with sexual expression. From religious influences to modern communication habits, we unpack the hidden barriers that keep people silent. This conversation brings a refreshing perspective: dirty talk doesn’t need to be explicit or elaborate to be powerful. In fact, the most impactful words are often the most honest—simple expressions of pleasure, desire, and connection.Whether you’re completely new to dirty talk or looking to feel more confident using your voice, this episode invites you to redefine what “talking sexy” means—for you.SHOW NOTESAudio erotica: Dipsea and QuinnRomance / erotic literatureDr. Norelyn’s “7 Types of Dirty Talk”—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  How You Touch Yourself Shapes Your Sex Life 08.05.2026 29min

  Most people think they already know how to masturbate—but what if the way you learned is actually limiting your pleasure? In this episode, we break down the difference between quick, habitual self-touch and mindful masturbation—a practice that transforms not just your solo experiences, but your partnered sex life too. We explore how patterns formed early on—often shaped by shame, lack of privacy, or porn—can wire your body for rushed, disconnected pleasure. From there, we unpack the cultural conditioning that keeps masturbation fast, secretive, and goal-oriented… and why that approach often leads to anxiety, disconnection, and dissatisfaction in intimacy.This conversation introduces a new way: slowing down, tuning in, and expanding your awareness beyond just the end goal. You’ll learn how mindful masturbation builds confidence, deepens body awareness, and creates a more present, connected sexual experience overall. If you’ve ever felt stuck in routine, disconnected from your body, or reliant on quick release… this episode is your invitation to experience pleasure in a completely different way.Show NotesSee previous Episode: OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual Connection (referenced in conversation)—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Sex Isn’t the Problem—Your Anxiety Is 24.04.2026 28min

  Sex is supposed to feel good… so why does it sometimes feel like pressure instead? In this episode, we open up one of the most common—but least talked about—experiences in intimacy: sexual anxiety. From overthinking your performance to fearing disappointment, we unpack the quiet mental loops that can turn connection into stress. You’ll hear how anxiety doesn’t just follow sexual struggles—it often creates them. And more importantly, why nothing is “wrong” with you if you’ve felt this way. We explore the hidden cycle that keeps anxiety alive, how past experiences and cultural messaging shape your sexual confidence, and why your nervous system might be trying to protect you—even when it feels like sabotage. his conversation isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you feel safe enough to actually be in your body again. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in your head instead of in the moment… this episode will change how you understand your experience—and what you can do about it.Show Notes:See Our Episode: OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual ConnectionEsther Perel intimacy card deckMovie: Wanderlust, Mirror Pep Talk Scene—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Orgasmic Meditation: The Missing Skill in Sexual Connection 10.04.2026 27min

  This episode invites listeners to slow all the way down and question something most people never think twice about: are you actually feeling… or just performing?The conversation centers around orgasmic meditation (OM)—a structured, mindful practice that removes pressure, performance, and even the goal of orgasm itself. Instead, it creates space for presence, connection, and deep attunement between partners.Through personal experiences and professional insights, the hosts unpack how OM can feel awkward at first—but with practice, becomes a powerful tool for rewiring intimacy. By focusing on breath, sensation, and nonverbal communication, partners learn to listen to each other’s bodies in a way that goes far beyond words.This isn’t about being “good in bed.” It’s about becoming present in your body, connected to your partner, and free from the pressure to perform.Show Notes:- Video links to OM practice: https://www.orgasmicyoga.com/rainbow-practice/Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  The Truth About Sexual Confidence 27.03.2026 25min

  As conversations about sex become more visible online, many people are still quietly wondering the same question: What actually makes someone sexually confident?In this thoughtful episode, the hosts of Sex and Breakfast unpack the deeper ingredients of sexual confidence beyond performance, dominance, or experience. Inspired by a coaching story about a client who tried to embody a rigid “real man” script he found on ChatGPT, the discussion explores how internalized expectations, myths from media and pornography, and cultural narratives often undermine our sense of sexual self-trust. The hosts describe sexual confidence as a recipe made up of core ingredients—sexual education, personal boundaries, autonomy, values, and communication—along with softer elements like curiosity, patience, body peace, and emotional safety. Together, the panel reflects on how confidence is less about technique or perfection and more about practice, vulnerability, and the willingness to stay curious about ourselves and our partners.Show NotesEpisode referenced:—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  The Orgasm Gap Isn’t What You Think 13.03.2026 26min

  As conversations about equality expand beyond workplaces and politics, there’s another space where inequality still quietly exists: the bedroom. In this special International Women’s Day episode of Sex and Breakfast, the hosts explore the research behind the “orgasm gap”—the documented difference in how often men and women report orgasming during heterosexual encounters. Drawing on decades of studies, the conversation reveals that the gap isn’t rooted in biology but largely shaped by social norms, sexual scripts, and gaps in education about anatomy and pleasure. They also examine how familiarity, emotional safety, and collaboration between partners can narrow the gap over time. Rather than blaming any gender, this thoughtful conversation invites listeners to approach intimacy with generosity, shared responsibility, and open dialogue, reminding us that when pleasure becomes collaborative, everyone benefits.Show Notes: Research on the Orgasm GapArticle referenced: Emily Nagoski — “Has the Orgasm Gap Closed in the Last 30 Years?”Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Anniversary Special: Cheers to Pleasure 13.02.2026 16min

  One year, countless honest conversations, and a global community later — this celebratory anniversary episode reflects on the journey of building a sex-positive space where curiosity, education, and pleasure meet. Nicole and the hosts revisit standout conversations from the past year, including fan favorites like exploring the many types of orgasms, reclaiming pleasure after motherhood, busting myths around Tantra, navigating long-distance relationships, and diving into the ever-expanding world of pleasure products. The panel shares personal highlights, surprising listener feedback, and the importance of normalizing open, shame-free conversations about sexuality across cultures.Show Notes:Must Listen Episodes of 2025:Unexpected Must-Try Sex ToysClimax Café: Exploring Every Flavor of OrgasmMoms, Pleasure Reclaimed: Because your body still belongs to youAncient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 1Ancient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 2The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 1The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 2—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Let’s Talk About Porn 30.01.2026 32min

  Porn. You love it, you hate it, or you’ve never quite known what to do with it—and in this honest, nuanced episode, we talk about all of it. We explore porn through a sex-positive, value-based lens, unpacking the differences between visual porn, erotica, audio erotica, and ethical porn, and how each can impact desire, confidence, communication, and relationships. Drawing from conservative religious upbringings, clinical experience, and modern trends, the conversation addresses shame, violence in mainstream porn, the male gaze, and why porn is entertainment—not real life. You’ll hear how porn can be used intentionally as a tool for self-pleasure, education, and relationship enhancement, when it might be better to set boundaries or step away, and why the most important question isn’t “Is porn good or bad?” but “Does this align with my values and bring me closer—to myself and my partner?”Show Notes:Ethical porn platforms discussedAudio erotica apps: Dipsy, TRIQUINEducational resources mentioned: OMGYes, Beautiful Agony—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  Adaptogens, Arousal & Sex Products you never knew existed 16.01.2026 33min

  In this insightful, and surprisingly nourishing episode, we take you far beyond vibrators and into the often-overlooked world of sensual foods, adaptogens, rituals, and everyday products that can profoundly support intimacy, arousal, and connection. From pantry staples like honey, coconut oil, and mangoes to plant-based alcohol alternatives, saliva-enhancing mints, pheromones, and ancient herbal traditions from around the world, this conversation reframes sexual wellness as something accessible, intentional, and deeply embodied. You’ll hear how stress, shame, and modern habits disconnect us from pleasure—and how curiosity, ritual, and gentler tools can help you feel more present, relaxed, and alive in your body.Show NotesThe Layer – washable, waterproof intimacy blanketPheromone-based fragrances, GodaSandalwood, vanilla, coconut scentsMassage oil candles (temperature play)Golden Glow (kava + kratom blend)Twinkle Tongue (saliva-enhancing liquid)Flint Mints / “blowjob mints” (Sichuan button extract) Kana Daily Chews (empathogenic plant-based supplement)Ashwagandha (stress reduction & libido support)Alice Mushroom Chocolate (arousal-focused formulation)Non-Alcoholic Adapotgen Drinks: Hiyo, Kin Euphorics, One TripJamu (traditional Indonesian herbal medicine)Tongkat Ali/Long Jack (traditional Asian herbal medicine):Important Notes:Always consult your medical provider before trying new supplements, especially if you take SSRIs/SNRIs or other medicationsSome products may be restricted or illegal depending on your country or region.— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  2026 Sexual Reboot: A New Way to Start the Year 02.01.2026 24min

  As the new year begins, this reflective and grounding episode invites you to rethink resolutions and explore a gentler, more meaningful reset through realignment—especially when it comes to your sexual self. Instead of chasing rigid goals, the panel guides you through a journaling-based sexual reboot rooted in curiosity, compassion, and authenticity, while honoring what already sparkles in your life. You’ll hear honest perspectives on why resolutions often fall apart, how shame sneaks into self-improvement, and why checking in with your evolving desires—rather than performing for the calendar—can be deeply transformative. Through thoughtful prompts, spiritual tools, and real-life reflections, this conversation reminds you that your sexuality evolves with every season of life, and realignment can begin anytime, starting right now. Show Notes: Downloadable curiosity list— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast: InstagramWebsite — Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
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  The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 2 19.12.2025 29min

  This is Part 2 of our deeply honest conversation about Long Distance Relationships, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.Show Notes: Attached — by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Five Love Languages — by Gary ChapmanErotic Blueprints — by Jaiya (framework/program)Controllable Long Distance Vibrating Panties