Sex and Breakfast

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• Why Dirty Talk Feels So Hard—and How to Make It Easy 22.05.2026 26min

  Dirty talk has a reputation—and for many people, it’s intimidating, awkward, or even off-putting. In this episode, we strip away the myths and reframe what dirty talk actually is: not performance, not porn scripts, but the simple act of naming desire out loud. We explore why speaking during intimacy can feel more vulnerable than physical touch, and how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of education shape our relationship with sexual expression. From religious influences to modern communication habits, we unpack the hidden barriers that keep people silent. This conversation brings a refreshing perspective: dirty talk doesn’t need to be explicit or elaborate to be powerful. In fact, the most impactful words are often the most honest—simple expressions of pleasure, desire, and connection.Whether you’re completely new to dirty talk or looking to feel more confident using your voice, this episode invites you to redefine what “talking sexy” means—for you.SHOW NOTESAudio erotica: Dipsea and QuinnRomance / erotic literatureDr. Norelyn’s “7 Types of Dirty Talk”—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• How You Touch Yourself Shapes Your Sex Life 08.05.2026 29min

  Most people think they already know how to masturbate—but what if the way you learned is actually limiting your pleasure? In this episode, we break down the difference between quick, habitual self-touch and mindful masturbation—a practice that transforms not just your solo experiences, but your partnered sex life too. We explore how patterns formed early on—often shaped by shame, lack of privacy, or porn—can wire your body for rushed, disconnected pleasure. From there, we unpack the cultural conditioning that keeps masturbation fast, secretive, and goal-oriented… and why that approach often leads to anxiety, disconnection, and dissatisfaction in intimacy.This conversation introduces a new way: slowing down, tuning in, and expanding your awareness beyond just the end goal. You’ll learn how mindful masturbation builds confidence, deepens body awareness, and creates a more present, connected sexual experience overall. If you’ve ever felt stuck in routine, disconnected from your body, or reliant on quick release… this episode is your invitation to experience pleasure in a completely different way.Show NotesSee previous Episode: OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual Connection (referenced in conversation)—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• Sex Isn’t the Problem—Your Anxiety Is 24.04.2026 28min

  Sex is supposed to feel good… so why does it sometimes feel like pressure instead? In this episode, we open up one of the most common—but least talked about—experiences in intimacy: sexual anxiety. From overthinking your performance to fearing disappointment, we unpack the quiet mental loops that can turn connection into stress. You’ll hear how anxiety doesn’t just follow sexual struggles—it often creates them. And more importantly, why nothing is “wrong” with you if you’ve felt this way. We explore the hidden cycle that keeps anxiety alive, how past experiences and cultural messaging shape your sexual confidence, and why your nervous system might be trying to protect you—even when it feels like sabotage. his conversation isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you feel safe enough to actually be in your body again. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in your head instead of in the moment… this episode will change how you understand your experience—and what you can do about it.Show Notes:See Our Episode: OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual ConnectionEsther Perel intimacy card deckMovie: Wanderlust, Mirror Pep Talk Scene—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual Connection 10.04.2026 27min

  This episode invites listeners to slow all the way down and question something most people never think twice about: are you actually feeling… or just performing?The conversation centers around orgasmic meditation (OM)—a structured, mindful practice that removes pressure, performance, and even the goal of orgasm itself. Instead, it creates space for presence, connection, and deep attunement between partners.Through personal experiences and professional insights, the hosts unpack how OM can feel awkward at first—but with practice, becomes a powerful tool for rewiring intimacy. By focusing on breath, sensation, and nonverbal communication, partners learn to listen to each other’s bodies in a way that goes far beyond words.This isn’t about being “good in bed.” It’s about becoming present in your body, connected to your partner, and free from the pressure to perform.Show Notes:- Video links to OM practice: https://www.orgasmicyoga.com/rainbow-practice/Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• The Truth About Sexual Confidence 27.03.2026 25min

  As conversations about sex become more visible online, many people are still quietly wondering the same question: What actually makes someone sexually confident?In this thoughtful episode, the hosts of Sex and Breakfast unpack the deeper ingredients of sexual confidence beyond performance, dominance, or experience. Inspired by a coaching story about a client who tried to embody a rigid “real man” script he found on ChatGPT, the discussion explores how internalized expectations, myths from media and pornography, and cultural narratives often undermine our sense of sexual self-trust. The hosts describe sexual confidence as a recipe made up of core ingredients—sexual education, personal boundaries, autonomy, values, and communication—along with softer elements like curiosity, patience, body peace, and emotional safety. Together, the panel reflects on how confidence is less about technique or perfection and more about practice, vulnerability, and the willingness to stay curious about ourselves and our partners.Show NotesEpisode referenced:—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• The Orgasm Gap Isn’t What You Think 13.03.2026 26min

  As conversations about equality expand beyond workplaces and politics, there’s another space where inequality still quietly exists: the bedroom. In this special International Women’s Day episode of Sex and Breakfast, the hosts explore the research behind the “orgasm gap”—the documented difference in how often men and women report orgasming during heterosexual encounters. Drawing on decades of studies, the conversation reveals that the gap isn’t rooted in biology but largely shaped by social norms, sexual scripts, and gaps in education about anatomy and pleasure. They also examine how familiarity, emotional safety, and collaboration between partners can narrow the gap over time. Rather than blaming any gender, this thoughtful conversation invites listeners to approach intimacy with generosity, shared responsibility, and open dialogue, reminding us that when pleasure becomes collaborative, everyone benefits.Show Notes: Research on the Orgasm GapArticle referenced: Emily Nagoski — “Has the Orgasm Gap Closed in the Last 30 Years?”Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• Anniversary Special: Cheers to Pleasure 13.02.2026 16min

  One year, countless honest conversations, and a global community later — this celebratory anniversary episode reflects on the journey of building a sex-positive space where curiosity, education, and pleasure meet. Nicole and the hosts revisit standout conversations from the past year, including fan favorites like exploring the many types of orgasms, reclaiming pleasure after motherhood, busting myths around Tantra, navigating long-distance relationships, and diving into the ever-expanding world of pleasure products. The panel shares personal highlights, surprising listener feedback, and the importance of normalizing open, shame-free conversations about sexuality across cultures.Show Notes:Must Listen Episodes of 2025:Unexpected Must-Try Sex ToysClimax Café: Exploring Every Flavor of OrgasmMoms, Pleasure Reclaimed: Because your body still belongs to youAncient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 1Ancient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 2The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 1The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 2—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• Let’s Talk About Porn 30.01.2026 32min

  Porn. You love it, you hate it, or you’ve never quite known what to do with it—and in this honest, nuanced episode, we talk about all of it. We explore porn through a sex-positive, value-based lens, unpacking the differences between visual porn, erotica, audio erotica, and ethical porn, and how each can impact desire, confidence, communication, and relationships. Drawing from conservative religious upbringings, clinical experience, and modern trends, the conversation addresses shame, violence in mainstream porn, the male gaze, and why porn is entertainment—not real life. You’ll hear how porn can be used intentionally as a tool for self-pleasure, education, and relationship enhancement, when it might be better to set boundaries or step away, and why the most important question isn’t “Is porn good or bad?” but “Does this align with my values and bring me closer—to myself and my partner?”Show Notes:Ethical porn platforms discussedAudio erotica apps: Dipsy, TRIQUINEducational resources mentioned: OMGYes, Beautiful Agony—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• Adaptogens, Arousal & Sex Products you never knew existed 16.01.2026 33min

  In this insightful, and surprisingly nourishing episode, we take you far beyond vibrators and into the often-overlooked world of sensual foods, adaptogens, rituals, and everyday products that can profoundly support intimacy, arousal, and connection. From pantry staples like honey, coconut oil, and mangoes to plant-based alcohol alternatives, saliva-enhancing mints, pheromones, and ancient herbal traditions from around the world, this conversation reframes sexual wellness as something accessible, intentional, and deeply embodied. You’ll hear how stress, shame, and modern habits disconnect us from pleasure—and how curiosity, ritual, and gentler tools can help you feel more present, relaxed, and alive in your body.Show NotesThe Layer – washable, waterproof intimacy blanketPheromone-based fragrances, GodaSandalwood, vanilla, coconut scentsMassage oil candles (temperature play)Golden Glow (kava + kratom blend)Twinkle Tongue (saliva-enhancing liquid)Flint Mints / “blowjob mints” (Sichuan button extract) Kana Daily Chews (empathogenic plant-based supplement)Ashwagandha (stress reduction & libido support)Alice Mushroom Chocolate (arousal-focused formulation)Non-Alcoholic Adapotgen Drinks: Hiyo, Kin Euphorics, One TripJamu (traditional Indonesian herbal medicine)Tongkat Ali/Long Jack (traditional Asian herbal medicine):Important Notes:Always consult your medical provider before trying new supplements, especially if you take SSRIs/SNRIs or other medicationsSome products may be restricted or illegal depending on your country or region.— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• 2026 Sexual Reboot: A New Way to Start the Year 02.01.2026 24min

  As the new year begins, this reflective and grounding episode invites you to rethink resolutions and explore a gentler, more meaningful reset through realignment—especially when it comes to your sexual self. Instead of chasing rigid goals, the panel guides you through a journaling-based sexual reboot rooted in curiosity, compassion, and authenticity, while honoring what already sparkles in your life. You’ll hear honest perspectives on why resolutions often fall apart, how shame sneaks into self-improvement, and why checking in with your evolving desires—rather than performing for the calendar—can be deeply transformative. Through thoughtful prompts, spiritual tools, and real-life reflections, this conversation reminds you that your sexuality evolves with every season of life, and realignment can begin anytime, starting right now. Show Notes: Downloadable curiosity list— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast: InstagramWebsite — Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!
• The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 2 19.12.2025 29min

  This is Part 2 of our deeply honest conversation about Long Distance Relationships, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.Show Notes: Attached — by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Five Love Languages — by Gary ChapmanErotic Blueprints — by Jaiya (framework/program)Controllable Long Distance Vibrating Panties
• The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 1 12.12.2025 19min

  In this warm and deeply honest conversation, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.Show Notes: Attached — by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Five Love Languages — by Gary ChapmanErotic Blueprints — by Jaiya (framework/program)Controllable Long Distance Vibrating Panties
• Unexpected Must-Try Sex Toys 28.11.2025 36min

  In the spirit of the holiday season — a time of gifting, play, and delicious surprises — we’re sharing some of our favorite intimacy-enhancing products and pleasure-supporting tools. In this fun, unfiltered, and enlightening episode, we dive into the evolving world of sexual wellness items — from practical essentials to creative innovations you probably didn’t even know existed. Nicole highlights how modern sex products aren’t just about fun, but also support sexual health, comfort, communication, and curiosity for people of all bodies and identities. Whether you’re buying for a partner, a friend, or yourself — this episode invites you to explore, laugh, learn, and discover just how expansive and empowering pleasure can be.Show Notes: (Products mentioned)The Layer BlanketSelopa Tongue TeaserAya Wearable Vibrator by ZaloOhMiBod Club Vibe Panty VibratorAmbi Bullet Vibrator by LovenseLittle Red Bullet Vibrator by Like A KittenAvo Clitoral Massager by NancyHer Ultimate Pleasure Stimulator by Fantasy for Her Dilator Set by Dr. Laura BermanHung UFO MasturbatorOhnut by The Pelvic PeopleVaporator Smokable Vibrator by Maia Ovipositors: Egg-Laying Dildos Hydromax Penis PumpMagic Wand: Original, Mini, MicroMagic Wand AttachmentsNjoy Steel Butt PlugSona Clitoral Vibrator by LeloWartenberg Pinwheel Fur FloggerVesper Vibrator NecklaceDIY 4 in 1 FloggerNuri Massager by Tabu
• The Art of Touch: Why Touch Matters More Than We Think - Part 2 14.11.2025 25min

  Part 2 of this insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.Show Notes:“Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy“The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.“Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 
• The Art of Touch: Why Touch Matters More Than We Think - Part 1 07.11.2025 19min

  This is Part 1 of a 2 episode series of a warm, insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.Show Notes:“Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy“The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.“Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 
• Healing Sexual Trauma: From Surviving to Thriving - Part 2 31.10.2025 19min

  In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.Show Notes:RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.International Creativity for healing traumaThe Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.
• Healing Sexual Trauma: From Surviving to Thriving - Part 1 24.10.2025 25min

  In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.Show Notes:RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.International Creativity for healing traumaThe Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.
• Sexercise: The Pleasure Workout 10.10.2025 41min

  In this vibrant episode, we dive into the playful intersection of sex and exercise — or “sexercise.” Together they explore how movement enhances sensual awareness, body confidence, and connection, touching on everything from coregasms and pelvic health to aging, embodiment, and pleasure as a lifelong practice. With humor and honesty, the conversation reframes fitness as more than physical strength — it’s about awakening desire, celebrating your body, and cultivating deeper intimacy with yourself and others.Show Notes: Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy — For pain, orgasm difficulties, and pelvic healthOrgasmic Yoga Forest Bathing Jane Fonda / Olivia Newton-John / Jamie Lee Curtis fitness icons — Cultural examples of sexualized exercise in this movieNational Institute of Health (NIH) study linking aerobic exercise to improved sexual function and reduced erectile dysfunction
• Differently Abled Bodies: Pleasure without Limits 26.09.2025 24min

  In this essential episode, we dive into sexual accessibility for differently abled bodies—because everyone deserves access to pleasure, intimacy, and fulfilling sexual experiences regardless of ability. Join us as we break down harmful myths, discuss practical modifications that make sex more accessible, and share valuable resources that support disabled individuals in their sexual journeys.Urge.org (or Urge.com.org) - Provides education, materials, advocacy, and community support for people with disabilities exploring their sexualitySRHM.org (Sexuality and Reproductive Health Matters) - Education and advocacy resourceDr. Patti Britton's book on hosting your own SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment)Silc Arts: Pleasure within reach
• The Art of Lifelong Passion: Part 2 19.09.2025 23min

  In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.Show Notes:Book: Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiNetflix series: How to Build a Sex RoomYes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex GameBluetooth-controlled sex toys:  We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties. Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator Lovense Max Male Masturbator