The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon

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  "I Get Nothing Out of Prayer" - The Misconceptions Keeping Men Stuck 19.08.2026 32min

  I don't get anything out of prayer.I've heard that from a lot of men. I've said it myself. And the moment you say it out loud, you've already told on yourself, because that sentence assumes prayer is something you're supposed to be extracting a return from.In this video I break down what prayer actually is, starting with the part nobody wants to hear. You owe it. Not because it feels good. Not because it makes you calmer or more focused or more productive. You owe your father honour because he gave you existence in a limited way. God gave it to you absolutely. Aquinas has a name for the virtue that governs this, and once you see it, the days when prayer feels like nothing stop being a reason to quit.But that's only half of it, and the half that gets men praying like they're paying a bill. What you owe isn't tribute to a distant force. It's communion with a Person who has a name, a face, and wounds. Christianity was never a religion of the book. Christ didn't hand out a text and disappear. He founded a Body and gave Himself in the Sacraments, and the man who tries to do this privately ends up with a religion of one, with himself sitting at the centre of it.Then I walk through the five forms of prayer from the Catechism. Most men only ever pray one of them, and it's the smallest one. I'd ask you to be honest with yourself as I go through the list, because the order matters more than you think, and the last one tells you whether the other four have actually changed you.FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links#prayer #catholic #virtue #masculinity #faith0:00 Why Prayer Feels Unclear2:47 Three Ideas About Prayer4:03 Prayer Is an Act of Justice8:45 When You Do Not Desire Prayer12:16 Dryness and Desolation15:10 God Is a Person Not a Force18:43 Walk the Sacramental Life20:49 Song of Songs and Intimacy21:26 Five Forms of Prayer23:57 Praise and a Wedding Story26:32 Prayer Changes Your Life29:38 The School Community31:28 One on One Mentorship
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  "There's No Good Men" Dating Advice, How to Quit Smoking, Work Life Balance, and more | AMA 001 15.08.2026 59min

  Live Q&A on faith, fitness, relationships, and life advice, open to everyone. Join Tomas from Fit for the Kingdom as we work through your questions on prayer, training, dating and marriage, discipline, and living a serious life in the middle of a world that makes it difficult.Ask your question:Drop it in the live chat, send me a DM on Instagram, or reply to the story. If you would rather stay anonymous, submit it here: https://forms.gle/wMqmfZxRmo1RbMa280:00 Setup And Pulling The Questions2:37 Is Work Just Slavery19:51 Advice For Women When Men Fold29:04 Is Too Much Training Wasteful33:55 Balancing Hard Work And Family36:56 Quitting Smoking And Addiction39:52 Signs Of Being Lukewarm45:24 Building The Virtue Of Studiousness58:05 Closing ThoughtsA man wrote in and said labour is slavery, meaning from work is sinful, and you should work as little as you can and enjoy the rest. That comment kicked off this live Q&A, and it turned into an hour on the dignity of work, the virtue of studiousness, addiction, lukewarmness, and what to do when the men around you are folding.Tomas is joined by Lachy, a theology student and co-worker on the farm, to answer questions submitted through Instagram and YouTube. No abstract theory for its own sake. Every answer comes back to what you actually do on Monday morning.In this episode we cover why work was part of Adam's vocation before the fall and not only part of the curse, how to find objective meaning in a job you do not enjoy, why virtue cannot be switched on and off between the gym and the home, how much training is too much, how to structure a day around prayer instead of fitting prayer around the leftovers, and why most people burn out from resting badly rather than working hard.If you are stuck in a job you hate, dragging yourself through your third attempt at quitting something, or wondering whether you have squandered the faith you were handed, this one is for you.FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links
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  Adam Was Working Before the Fall (Theology of Work) 13.08.2026 36min

  Half your life is spent working. Most men have quietly accepted that half of it means nothing.I wrote an essay earlier this year on St. John Paul II's Laborem Exercens, and it's essential for revivifying and re-enchanting our view of life. We have taken something that Adam was doing before the fall, something woven into the image of God himself, and reduced it to a paycheck and a clock. John Paul II has a name for that reduction. Economism. Once you see it, you cannot unsee it.This is the video where I break down why work is not primarily economic, why capitalism and communism both fail the worker for the same underlying reason, and what it actually means to say that man is not for work, but work is for man. I get into the subjective dimension of labour, the theological grounding of stewardship in Genesis, the universal destination of goods, and Josef Pieper's warning about the total work society that leaves no room for leisure, contemplation or anything that makes us human.There is a point in here about identity that I think most men need to sit with. If you are not taking your identity from Christ, you are taking it from somewhere. Money, fame, status, the next target. You cannot take it from nothing. And the rat race will happily give you one.This is a longer one, and it is not for everyone. But if you show up to work tomorrow morning with a different lens than you had today, it did its job.Dean Mischewski's talk from St. Michael's Troops on living your faith in the workplace: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GArkpgGMQRsFOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links0:00 Channel Update And Semester Wrap0:55 Introducing Laborem Exercens On Work3:12 Adam Worked Before The Fall4:47 What Is Economism6:28 Three Points On The Dignity Of Work9:00 Realizing Yourself Through Work10:15 Worker As Subject Not Object12:39 Focusing On People Not Product14:09 Economism And The Industrial Revolution15:11 How Capitalism And Socialism Both Fail17:41 Pieper And The Total Work Society18:35 The Trap Of Self Worth In Success21:46 Viktor Frankl And Finding Meaning23:37 Work As Participation In Creation26:05 Stewardship And Getting Better At Work27:41 Work And The Common Good32:01 Avoiding The Rat Race32:56 Support The Mission And Community#work #vocation #johnpaulii #catholic #masculinity
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  50 Reasons I Wake Up At 4AM PEP TALK 10.08.2026 8min

  Aquinas would tell you the will moves toward whatever it actually loves, and your loves are built by repetition, not by information. You can read the right books, listen to the right men, agree with every word, and still find your body walking toward the same sin at 10pm. The intellect can hold a truth for years while the appetite goes on running the house.Which is why commitment collapses when the reason behind it terminates in you. Discipline built on a self image will hold for six weeks and then quietly negotiate itself away, because there is nobody standing on the other end of the promise to break faith with. Reasons that survive have names attached to them. A wife. A son. The men who follow you. God, who gave you the body and the hours and expects a return.Look at the man in Luke 9:62 again. His hands are still on the plough. He is still technically working. The furrow goes crooked because his eyes went back to the house, and that is how most men lose ground. Not by quitting, but by continuing while looking backward at the old life with something like affection still in them.So write the list before you need it. BE FIRM with your identity. Specific, written down, so that when the alarm goes at 4am the decision has already been made by a clearer version of you.FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links
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  Spiritual Warfare Is Real 02.08.2026 28min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesThere is a man who believes in God and is losing anyway. He is not a bad man. He would tell you Christ is Lord and he would mean it. He goes to Mass. He would defend the faith if someone attacked it at a dinner table. And he is losing, steadily, in a way he has no vocabulary for, because nothing in his week looks like a defeat.That is the whole trick. The enemy does not need you to renounce Christ. He needs you tired, distracted, and slightly compromised, every day, for forty years. He is patient in a way you are not.You have been formed by something. That is not a question. You did not arrive at your opinions, your appetites, and your tolerance for what you watch by reasoning your way there. It happened by osmosis, slowly, from a society that has been catechising you since you were a child. Plato saw this 2,400 years ago and wanted to ban certain music from the Republic. Ask yourself what he would have made of your feed.Here is what most men will not accept. There is no morally neutral action. You are either being pulled toward God or away from Him, in every hour, including the hours you consider yours. Christ said it plainly and men have been softening it ever since. I want to show you what losing actually looks like from the inside, because it does not look like losing. It looks like a decent life with a few loose ends. I go through the loose ends. Some of them are yours.I speak directly to the men caught in lust, and I tell you something you will not hear from most Catholics. You are waiting for a rescue that is not coming, because you have misdiagnosed what you are dealing with. The despair you feel about it is doing more damage than the sin. I explain why, and what you actually do instead.In this video I cover:-what spiritual warfare actually is, and why ignorance of it is the enemy's first victory-the man who believes in Christ but never lets it touch his morning, his phone, or his appetites-how the world forms you by osmosis until your beliefs quietly follow the culture-the small unguarded moments the devil uses instead of grave sin-emotional unchastity and why you cannot guard your interior life-why lust and corn do not require a miracle to overcome, and what the despair cycle is really costing you-the rule of life, and the one test for every decision you make-what Christ revealed to St. Faustina about silence and humility-the 400 year old manual that already answers everything you think is unanswerable-why the body and the soul cannot be separated, and what that demands of youAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links0:00 Why Studying Theology Matters1:45 The Reality of Spiritual Warfare3:19 How the World Tempts Us6:54 Belief Without Action9:16 Filling Your Mind With Junk11:22 You Have No Rule of Life12:29 Train for Martyrdom13:18 Lust and the Cycle of Despair16:18 How the Devil Distracts Me19:31 Start With a Rule of Life21:53 Books for the Spiritual Life23:54 Body and Soul Are One25:44 Are You Ready for Judgment
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  Why God Rejected Cain's Offering (Virtue of RELIGION Explained) 25.07.2026 14min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesMost men are in the same place they were two years ago and cannot work out why. They pray. They train. They get to confession. They read the right books. They go to Mass. Nothing moves. Fr. Chad Ripperger said something in his recent interview with Shawn Ryan that put language to a problem I see in almost every man I speak to. It comes down to the nature of sacrifice. Where it comes from, what it actually requires, and why so few men ever complete it.Sacrifice sits under the virtue of justice. Justice is giving to each what they are due, and underneath it sits the virtue of religion, which is giving God what is owed to him. Worship. He is our creator. Your life, your intellect, your faith, every single thing you have is pure unmerited gift. There is nothing in your life that does not already belong to him. So when men tell me they are already sacrificing, I ask what they are actually handing over. Nine times out of ten it is the offcuts. The lamb with the broken leg. Cain kept the best for himself and gave God the leftovers. Abel gave the best he had and retained nothing.And there is a reason the thing you refuse to give up is the exact thing keeping you chained to the flesh, stuck in the same base pleasures, unable to reach a single one of the greater goods you claim you want. Chastity requires it. Temperance requires it. Marriage and children require it. A body worth calling a temple of the Holy Spirit requires it. The bridge between fallen man and divine life is Christ, and the shape of that bridge is sacrifice.In this video I cover:-the three components of sacrifice: the offertory, the slaying of the victim, and the consummation-why the victim has to be completely consumed and what happens when you hold back five percent-detachment, concupiscence, and why enjoying the material world is not the same as being bound to it-how the refusal to sacrifice keeps men trapped in lust, hedonism, and delayed commitment-Lucifer's original charism and how the enemy uses it against you nowAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://forgevirtue.com/links0:00 Why Most Men Stall in Virtue0:52 Sacrifice Comes From Justice2:12 The Offertory and Setting Apart4:24 Slaying the Victim5:22 Consummation and the 5% You Keep6:58 Sacrifice Is the Bridge to God7:32 Sex Marriage and Real Fulfilment8:53 Physical Health Requires Sacrifice9:24 Lucifer's Charism Was Sacrifice11:40 What Have You Not Given God12:13 Why the Mass Is Necessary12:57 The Legion Coaching and Troops
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  3 Keys to REAL Growth in the Spiritual Life 19.07.2026 19min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesModern Christianity has a massive blind spot, and most guys walking around calling themselves Christian have no idea it exists. Believing in Jesus and feeling sorry when you sin has become the whole religion for a lot of people. That's not Christianity. That's a watered down version of it, and it's why so many men stay stuck in the same cycles year after year, never actually growing.Here are three non-negotiables for a real spiritual life. Not suggestions. Not nice to haves. Things the saints understood that we've largely forgotten. I break down exactly where modern Christianity gets it wrong, why reducing faith to an intellectual checklist leaves you spiritually weak, and what it actually looks like to live the interior life the way the church has always intended.This is what I've lived out myself and what I walk men through one on one. Please watch my other videos for more help on how to pracitcally do this, such as this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMt6_kPw9vg&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=7&t=160sIn this video I cover:-why the spiritual life has to be your number one priority-the blind spot in modern Christianity that turns faith into a checklist instead of a life-why faith without works is dead-the church already gave us 2,000 years of spiritual tradition-the power of the sacraments, confession, fasting, and the rosary-why reading the lives of the saints will completely reprogram how you see the world-stop negotiating with sin and actually fight it to the point of shedding bloodAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Welcome and Recap0:16 Sydney Blasphemy Incident1:49 How to Grow Spiritually3:00 Make It Your Priority4:19 Faith Without Works Is Dead6:34 Spiritual Life Is Not Optional7:38 Real Prayer Versus Habit9:48 Recover Church Traditions10:19 Eucharist Source and Summit11:34 Why the Rosary Works12:41 Study the Traditions Yourself13:36 Imitate the Lives of Saints16:05 Secular Thinking Versus Faith17:49 Holiness Is a Pursuit19:06 Work With Me and The Legion
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  Divine Playhouse SHUT DOWN, MASSIVE Prayer Vigil Tomorrow | COUNTER PROTEST organised! 19.07.2026 44min

  🚨 DIVINE PLAYHOUSE SHUT DOWN — MASSIVE PRAYER VIGIL TOMORROW 🚨Divine Playhouse (formerly Unholy Playhouse), the Sydney nightclub that mocked the Holy Eucharist, the Mass, and sacred Catholic imagery inside a 158 year old deconsecrated church on Kent Street, has been forced to CLOSE after a week of Christian prayer and public pressure.The landlord issued a breach notice over "offensive trade." Meta removed the Divine Playhouse Instagram account. The story went viral across Australian and international media.But this isn't over. Heaps Gay and organiser Kat Dopper are now fundraising to fight back and continue the venue's programming, and are organising a counter protest for tomorrow.FRIDAY 17 JULY, 5:30PM: Liam Aquilina leads a second NSW Police approved prayer vigil at 420 Kent Street, Sydney CBD. We are gathering to pray, not to shut down speech, not to intimidate anyone, but to keep this act of blasphemy in public view, and to pray for the conversion of everyone still involved. Please arrive early, remain peaceful, and DO NOT ENGAGE provocation.📍 THE CONTEXTA church deconsecrated in the 1930s and later used as the Genesian Theatre was converted this month into a nightclub featuring performances mocking the Holy Eucharist (depicted as McDonald's fries fed by pigs), the Liturgy of the Hours, and Catholic sisters, funded in part by a $100,000 grant from the NSW Government's Create NSW under the Minns Government. Premier Chris Minns has said officials are reviewing the grant. Last Wednesday, 100 to 200 Christians held the first prayer vigil outside the venue. One week later, it closed.We do not answer mockery with hatred. We answer it with prayer and truth. Jesus is Lord. ✝️🔗 FOLLOW & STAY UPDATED@liam.aquilina | TikTok: @liam.aquilina1@theprodigalsons@tomas.mones / @fftkingdom fftkingdom.com@freedomfound_ministries#DivinePlayhouse #MockingJesus #ChristIsLord #DefendTheFaith #PrayerVigil #Sydney #LiamAquilina #KentStreet #CreateNSW0:00 Live Stream Opens1:41 Opening Prayer And Deliverance3:23 Divine Playhouse Blasphemous Images8:38 Recap And Venue Closure Win11:02 Counterprotest And Police13:25 Personal Harassment Update16:37 Triple J Hack Interview24:33 Etsy Witches Warning26:02 Most Gay People Disagree28:13 Why We Keep Protesting32:07 Community And Finding A Parish35:05 Holding The Line Tomorrow37:10 Star Observer Article38:39 Protest Logistics Confirmed40:05 What To Expect Tomorrow43:04 Final Prayer Petition44:38 Closing Prayer
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  Demonic Nightclub MOCKS Jesus in Sydney – Liam Aquilina LEADS PRAYER VIGIL Against the Blasphemy 19.07.2026 31min

  🚨 LIVE: Standing Against the Demonic Blasphemy in Sydney - Prayer Protest at Unholy Playhouse with Liam Aquilina & Tomas Mones-CazonJoin us live as Liam Aquilina, who led the powerful Catholic prayer protest with hundreds gathered outside Unholy Playhouse on Wednesday night, shares eyewitness accounts and spiritual insights.Unholy Playhouse at 420 Kent Street, Sydney CBD, turned a 150-year-old former church (St Johns Church / Genesian Theatre, built 1868) into a venue for cabaret, live exorcisms, Holy Flesh performances, and unholy parties — backed by NSW Government funding through Create NSW. They used shockingly baslphemous images of Our Lord, mocked the Eucharist, and blatantly made fun of everything Christian.This is open mockery of Christianity. Christians must stand up now against cultural desecration and government-enabled blasphemy. Western democracy fails when it protects some faiths but funds attacks on the one that built the West.Pray with us, get equipped, and take action. The time for silent faith is over.🔗 Liam Aquilina Links:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/liam.aquilina/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@liam.aquilina1🔗 Tomas Mones-Cazon & Fit For The Kingdom Links:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@tomas.mones7Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomas.monesX/Twitter: https://twitter.com/tomas_monesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tomas.mones.cazon/FFTK Main Website: https://fftkingdom.comFFTK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fftkingdom/#UnholyPlayhouse #Sydney #LiamAquilina #TomasMonesCazon #Catholic #StandUpChristians #DefendTheFaith #SpiritualWarfare #ChristianAustralia0:00 Liam Aquilina Joins The Show1:03 The Deconsecrated Church Venue2:01 How The Vigil Came Together2:49 Opening Prayer4:36 How Liam First Heard About It6:07 Two Hundred People Showed Up8:11 Sisters Of Perpetual Indulgence9:20 Why They Showed Up Opening Night12:04 Blinded By The God Of This World13:35 Reading Viewer Comments16:03 Walking Through That Night18:17 If They Get Kicked Out20:52 Is Prayer Enough23:14 Called Like Moses And David26:11 Going Viral And Friday Plans28:49 Their Favorite Bible Verses30:52 Closing With The Glory Be
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  Declaring War on Fat Christian Men 07.07.2026 21min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesFat Christians are losing the war before it even starts.I go after one of the most underaddressed problems in the church today, low energy Christianity. Gluttony gets treated like a minor issue, but it strips men of the vigor they need to lead, to fight, and to actually spread the gospel. A priest without energy loses his authority. A father without energy loses his role as protector. And a man without thumos, without fire in the chest, becomes apathetic to the injustice happening right in front of him.I break down how this problem hits you on every level at once. Physically, spiritually, and mentally, it all works as one system. You cannot be sharp in prayer while your body is running on inflammation and sludge. You cannot stand against evil while you are gooning in your room. The devil does not need to do much work on a man who has already taken himself off the front line.In this video I cover-why gluttony is a bigger threat than most Christians realize-how a weak body destroys spiritual and mental clarity-the link between sloth, apathy, and sexual sin-why processed food and dopamine culture kill your thumos-the trench warfare mindset that builds real fortitude-why balance is a luxury you have not earned yetThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Low Energy Christianity Problem2:18 The Out Of Shape Priest4:06 Body Soul And Temple7:00 Sloth And Doom Scrolling9:09 Slop Destroys Your Brain10:36 Fasting Brings Clarity11:03 Thumos And Righteous Anger12:26 Types Of Gluttony13:01 Removed From The Front Line14:01 Fat Truthing And Fortitude16:14 Goggins Jocko And The Trenches17:46 Practical Tips For Energy18:18 Balance Comes After The Goal20:13 Join The Legion Community
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  How to Actually Build Self-Control (ELITE BALL KNOWLEDGE) 02.07.2026 39min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesA city without walls gets sacked. That's what your soul looks like without this one virtue, and most men have no idea they're living exactly like that.Self-possession sounds simple until you actually try to define it. Most guys think it just means white knuckling through temptation, gritting your teeth and surviving the day. But there's a massive difference between externally holding the line and actually being free on the inside, and that gap is where most men get stuck for years without realizing it.I break down Aristotle's distinction between continence and virtue, why fasting and cold showers only get you halfway there, and the exact daily practices that move you from fighting yourself every single day to actually winning the war internally.In this video I cover:-the Proverbs 25:28 analogy of a city without walls and what it means for your soul-the difference between external and internal temperance-why going to the gym six days a week doesn't make you disciplined-Aristotle's continent man versus the virtuous man-the four ways to build external self-possession-how prayer, confession, and accountability build internal self-possession-why white knuckling your way through Lent or a no fap streak isn't the same as being freeThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 What Is Self Possession0:24 Intellect Will And Senses3:29 Modern Men Possessed By Vice6:14 External Vs Internal Temperance9:22 Disciplined Body Disordered Life10:52 Continence Versus True Virtue13:12 Filling The Gap With God14:54 Internal Self Possession Defined16:32 Boethius And Losing Yourself18:43 How To Build The Virtue19:19 Fasting To Build Self Control21:05 Setting Firm Boundaries23:36 Structuring Your Environment26:42 Prayer Fills The Internal Gap29:09 Sitting In The Friction30:32 Examination Confession Accountability34:16 Full Commitment To Virtue38:20 Join The Legion Community39:43 Final Thoughts And Blessing
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  The Secret Cause of the Masculinity Crisis 28.06.2026 16min

  FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesThe hero is dead. That's the actual crisis behind every "lost" young man you know. We built a whole society on maximizing freedom and individual choice, and in doing it we ripped out the one thing that gave men direction. Not feminism. Not video games. Not porn. Those are symptoms. The real collapse is the loss of the standard.I dig into why the hero archetype, Batman, Aragorn, Luke Skywalker, Odysseus, isn't childish nostalgia but the actual mechanism your conscience uses to judge your own actions. An ideal works because it's a judge. When you don't have one, you don't just feel aimless, you lose the ability to measure yourself at all. This came out of a talk I gave to a group of boys aged 8 to 14, and it forced me to get specific about what the standard actually demands of a man. Strength. Wisdom. Temperance. What they're for, and why losing them is what's actually denuting an entire generation of men into paycheck-and-Netflix mode.Christ is the ultimate archetype. But you need closer reference points too, and I explain why.In this video I cover:-why the collapse of masculinity isn't really about feminism, porn, or video games-the hero as an embodied standard and why you need one to judge itself against-what strength, wisdom, and temperance actually look like lived out as a man-why losing geographical roots, career pathways, and stable communities accelerated this collapse-how to connect your specific life to a universal standard-where to actually start this week if you're convicted but lostThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Collapse Of Masculinity1:09 Loss Of The Standard3:03 Peterson On Identity4:08 Heroes Of Fiction Matter6:28 The Hero As Ideal8:11 Virtues Of True Manhood9:19 Temperance And Desire10:05 Standards For Career Finance12:13 Fall Of The Hero14:01 Recover The Hero15:55 Join The Legion
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  Stop 'Negotiating' 26.06.2026 15min

  Virtue is hard enough on its own. Cold showers, prayer, training, diet, all of it comes with friction. But there's a second kind of friction nobody talks about. It's not physical. It's psychological. It's the look you get when you say no to the weekend drink. It's the "bro just take it easy" when you skip the slop and hit the gym instead.Most men don't fail because they lack conviction intellectually. They fail because the first bit of social pressure cracks them. One skipped workout becomes three. One missed prayer becomes a habit of missing. You start crying wolf to yourself, and eventually you stop believing your own promises.Aristotle said virtue requires habituation in a community that recognizes and rewards it. We are not living in that kind of society anymore. So the higher you climb, the more alone you'll feel doing it. That's not a reason to stop.In this video I cover:-the difference between physical friction and psychological friction-why the boy who cried wolf is the perfect analogy for broken discipline-Aristotle's view on virtue, habituation, and community-why weekends and modern rest culture are a societal baseline worth questioning-how to tell the difference between well-intentioned correction and noise-why fortitude is the virtue that gets you throughThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Personal Update and Injury Recovery1:02 Social Environment as Obstacle to Virtue2:30 Peer Pressure Cuts Your Intention4:33 Crying Wolf to Yourself5:35 Saying No to the Status Quo7:14 Friction Should Not Be Minimized8:08 Climbing Higher Increases Friction9:37 Discerning Valid Criticism12:18 Aristotle on Habituation13:42 Virtue of Fortitude
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  Why God Will Judge You for Playing It Safe [Circles of Influence] 15.06.2026 18min

  MY RUMBLE CHANNEL: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesMY NEW INSTAGRAM (I was banned): https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones1/Most men spend their whole lives inside a single circle. They get themselves sorted, maybe build a decent life, keep a prayer routine, hold a job. And they think that's the finish line. It isn't. It's barely the starting point.This video is about the Circles of Influence theory, a framework my dad introduced me to that underpins almost everything I talk about on this channel. The idea is simple: your capacity to impact the world around you is a direct extension of your self-possession and virtue. You cannot give what you don't have. You cannot lead where you haven't been.I walk through what it actually looks like to move from self-mastery to family leadership to wider societal impact, and why most men never make it past the first ring. Not because they don't want to, but because they haven't built the bandwidth. They've stopped investing in themselves and convinced themselves it's enough.The parable of the talents is real. The servant who buried his was cast out. That's not a metaphor to take lightly.In this video I cover:-the Circles of Influence theory and what it means for masculine leadership-why self-possession is the baseline, not the goal-how bandwidth and capacity determine your sphere of impact-why jumping straight to the front line without the foundation causes the wheels to fall off-the moral imperative of expanding your circle and what happens to the world when men don'tThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Intro and Announcements0:54 The Two Circles Explained2:05 Inner Circle Self Possession3:27 Bandwidth and Capacity3:52 Expanding Your Circle of Influence5:58 Family as the First Circle6:27 Parable of the Talents7:44 Leading Your Family Requires Virtue10:17 Building the Kingdom Beyond Family11:54 Why Men Must Impact Society13:24 Saints Who Gave Everything14:19 Your Inaction Is a Sin of Omission15:36 Danger of Skipping Steps16:27 Start Building Your Foundation Now17:26 Outro and the Legion
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  My Daily Prayer Routine (24 yr old Catholic father) 10.06.2026 11min

  MY RUMBLE CHANNEL: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesMY TELEGRAM: https://t.me/tomas_monesAll other socials: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesMost men treat prayer like a tool they pick up when things get hard. They want a routine, a formula, something that works. But a prayer life that actually forms you looks different from that. This video walks through what I personally do, why I do it, and what I think every man needs to understand before he builds anything else on top.The sacraments come first. Not as a religious formality, but because that is where grace actually flows. The Eucharist and Confession are not optional add-ons to a spiritual life. They are the structure everything else hangs on. If your prayer life is built around anything other than those two, it is going to keep falling short.From there, the daily practice. Silent prayer, scripture, spiritual reading, the Rosary. I break down what each of these looks like, why I do them in the order I do, and what I have found them to produce over time. The Rosary in particular gets its own treatment because it deserves it. There is nothing like it. Vocal, contemplative, structured, and devastating to sin.In this video I cover:-why the sacraments are the foundation of any real prayer life-what my morning prayer routine actually looks like-why scripture reading gets more fruitful the longer you stay in the faith-the Rosary as a school of virtue-what to do when prayer feels dry and you are just getting the reps inReading List: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1q-mjqFkXIWur1xUBB_6FCavcdSzOX18t2902JK9vxAY/edit?usp=sharingThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Instagram Ban and Rumble Backup1:38 Sacraments as Ordinary Means of Grace2:32 The Eucharist Source and Summit3:39 Why Confession Changes You4:22 Tomas's Personal Prayer Routine5:33 Scripture Reading Daily Practice6:37 Morning Prayer Stack Overview6:53 The Holy Rosary Best Prayer8:13 Rosary Weapon Against Temptation8:24 School of Virtue in the Mysteries9:26 Closing Thoughts on Daily Prayer
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  The 3 Practices That Train Your Will to Choose God 05.06.2026 21min

  Most men are losing the interior battle before the day even begins. Not because they lack discipline. Not because they don't care. But because everything around them has been engineered to gratify the will, and they have never learned to mortify it.This video is about true denial of self. Not the surface-level version. The real thing. The kind Christ demands when he says take up your cross and follow me.The modern world has removed almost every form of natural friction from daily life. Hot showers on demand. Hyper-palatable food. Endless entertainment. Pornography. You only need to be struggling with one of these things for your interior gaze to be pulled away from God. Most men are dealing with several at once.There's a reason the religious life requires three vows. Chastity. Poverty. Obedience. Each one strips away a layer of attachment. Each one asks more of you than the last. A man can be living chastely, detached from material comfort, and still be constantly gratifying his will in the small things. The scrolling. The entertainment. The avoidance of prayer. That's where most men actually are, and they don't even know it.The hardest vow is obedience because it requires you to surrender the will itself. And that's the crux of the whole thing.If you're chasing holiness but still running from friction, this is the video you need to watch.In this video I cover:-why modern comfort is the primary obstacle to the spiritual life-the three vows and what they reveal about self-denial-why mortifying the will is the crux of true holiness-cold showers, the rosary, and fasting as tools for forming the will-how to consecrate everyday friction as an offering to ChristThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 True Denial of Self0:47 Self Denial Is Not Optional2:07 Modern Comfort Kills Spiritual Growth3:27 You Must Sit in the Friction5:15 Why You Struggle to Pray6:10 What We Learn from Religious Vows7:37 The Vow of Poverty Explained8:17 The Vow of Obedience9:57 Mortifying the Will in Modern Life11:00 Three Tools for Self Denial11:44 Cold Showers Train the Will14:04 The Rosary as Mortification16:42 Fasting as Extended Self Denial17:37 Consecrating Your Disciplines to Christ19:10 Examine Where You Flee the Friction19:35 Practical Challenge Cold Showers21:03 Legion and Coaching Offer
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  Life Update: Baby and IG Ban 04.06.2026 4min

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  3 Missions Every Baptized Man Was Given (Most Men Never Claim) 26.05.2026 33min

  Most men have no idea what happened to them at their baptism.They know they were cleansed from original sin. They might know they were welcomed into the Church. But they were never told the rest of it. They were never told they were commissioned.When you were anointed with chrism, the same oil used to consecrate kings, priests, and prophets in the Old Testament, you were given an identity, an authority, and a set of orders. Not a certificate. A mission. The Church has known this for two thousand years. Lumen Gentium lays it out in three articles. And almost no one is talking about it.This video breaks down the three-fold office of Christ, priest, prophet, and king, and what it means for the man who is not ordained, who works a job, raises a family, and is trying to figure out what he's actually here to do.In this video I cover:-what the anointing with chrism actually did to your soul-the theological meaning of being "incorporated" into Christ-the priestly office: why your suffering, work, and daily life are a real sacrifice-the prophetic office: why Christian men's silence is why evil runs the streets-the kingly office: why self-mastery comes before everything else-how to begin living this out practically starting todayThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 You Were Given a Mission at Baptism0:41 The Baptismal Commissioning Explained1:25 Chrism Oil and the Anointing at Baptism2:33 The Permanent Mark on the Soul3:37 Incorporated into Christ4:51 Lumen Gentium and the Baptismal Call5:35 Commissioning Authority Identity and Orders8:38 Your Daily Life Is Your Priestly Offering12:16 Suffering with Intention13:54 The Prophetic Office Explained15:08 Witnessing Truth in Daily Life17:39 Why Christian Men Failed Their Prophetic Duty19:26 The Kingly Office20:19 Dominion Begins Within21:56 Slaves to Passion vs Kings23:05 You Are Being Sent to the Front Lines24:15 Wrapping Up the Three Offices25:04 The Laity Were Never Taught Their Dignity27:15 Living the Offices From the Inside Out29:38 Your Vocation Shapes How You Live This30:21 Outro and the Legion Community
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  How To Approach Girls (Why You Keep Getting Rejected) 22.05.2026 20min

  Most guys think approaching girls is a skill problem. It's not. The skill falls apart because what's underneath it is rotten. Before you ever open your mouth, there's a layer of work that has to be done. Get that wrong and everything else is just performance. She'll feel it. You'll feel it. And nothing will come of it.This video is about what actually has to be in place before any of this works.In this video I cover:-Why intention determines everything before the approach even happens-The three types of guys and where you actually fall-Where to find the kind of woman you're actually looking for-How physicality, composure, and dress change what you communicate without saying a word-The calibration problem that kills good guys in conversation-Why "what to say" is maybe 10% of thisThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 How to Approach Girls0:13 Intention Before Everything1:37 The Guy Must Lead With Clarity4:25 No Intention Leads to Disorder5:39 Living Intentionally Without Dating7:00 Ready to Find a Spouse8:33 Where to Actually Find Her10:46 Be Jacked Dress Well Speak Well13:42 Be Yourself and Stay Calibrated16:23 Practice the Art of Conversation18:15 Intention and Confidence Do the Work19:30 Legion Community and Outro
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  Biblical Proof of Retardmaxxing 19.05.2026 12min

  Previous video introduction to retardmaxxing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVB_aIXMEgE&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=6&t=426sIf the last video landed for you, this one goes further.The world has a word for the man who fasts, prays, detaches from possessions, and orders his whole life toward God. That word is fool. St. Paul knew it. The saints knew it. And if you're serious about your faith, you're going to know it too. This is part two of the retardmaxxing series, and this time we're going into the scriptural foundations of the concept. It's not a modern internet phenomenon. It has deep roots in the tradition of the Church, and once you understand the theology behind it, the whole Christian life starts to make a different kind of sense.The world's wisdom and God's wisdom are not the same thing. What looks like weakness is often where the real power is. The incarnation itself is the clearest proof of that. This video gets into what St. Thomas Aquinas says true happiness actually is, why retardmaxxing is not anti-thought but anti-overthinking, and why Our Lady is the model of everything this concept is pointing at.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Holy Fool Scripture Foundations0:42 Fools for Christ in 1 Corinthians1:03 The Absurdity of the Incarnation2:07 Why Christian Life Looks Foolish3:14 The Happy Man the World Mocks3:56 God Makes Foolish the Wise4:26 Weakness of the Cross as Victory5:03 Becoming Like a Child5:34 Simplicity and United Desires6:29 True Happiness Defined by Aquinas7:37 Anti-Overthinking Not Anti-Thought8:47 Mary the Model of the Interior Life10:24 Living and Dying as a Holy Fool11:27 Disclaimer on Worldly Duties11:55 Faith Integrates Everything