The Sex After Kids Podcast

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  The 5 Stages of Your Sexual Relationship with Dan Purcell 15.09.2026 26min

  Send us Fan Mail What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you? In this episode, Sofia revisits a favourite conversation from the Sex After Kids Summit with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On. Together, they explore the five stages a sexual relationship can move through, from the excitement of newness and the reality of maintenance sex to novelty, deeper meaning and complete surrender. They talk about why having kids can shake couples out of sexual complacency, how to reco...
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  How To Go From Folding Laundry To A Yes 09.09.2026 25min

  Send us Fan Mail Most parents can’t go from dishes, deadlines and daycare pickup brain to feeling sexy with the flip of a switch. There is no switch. There’s a bridge. In this episode, Sofia explores the art of the transition: how couples can move out of regular-life mode and into connection, pleasure and play without waiting for spontaneous desire or forcing themselves to push through. You’ll learn: Why waiting for your libido to magically return can keep you stuckThe difference between maki...
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   You Cannot Change What You Cannot Talk About 01.09.2026 28min

  Send us Fan Mail You love each other, you’re committed to each other and there are still things you’re both quietly not saying. The frustration you swallow. The need you decide isn’t worth bringing up. The disappointing sex you pretend was fine because talking about it somehow feels harder than just moving on. But if it stays silent, it stays stuck. In this episode, I’m sharing an excerpt from The Naked Fun Comeback (my signature program for couples) about one of the biggest shifts I see coup...
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  Why Your Great Relationship Isn't Fixing Your Sex Life 25.08.2026 16min

  Send us Fan Mail If you've ever thought, "We're best friends... so why is our sex life still struggling?" this episode is for you. Many couples assume that a strong relationship should naturally lead to a great sex life. But what if being close emotionally isn't the same as knowing how to create desire, connection, and fulfilling intimacy? In this episode, we unpack why so many happy, loving couples still struggle with sex. We talk about the hidden patterns that keep couples stuck, why date n...
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  You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not. 18.08.2026 17min

  Send us Fan Mail Is marriage after kids harder than you expected? You're not alone. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I share the honest story of what our marriage looked like after becoming parents. We've experienced resentment, therapy, sleepless nights, postpartum struggles, the mental load, and moments where I questioned whether we'd make it. I talk about what actually helped us move through those difficult seasons, from changing how we handled the mental load to learning how...
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  Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids 11.08.2026 24min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you bac...
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  10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice 04.08.2026 18min

  Send us Fan Mail From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes. Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted. 00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding 00:09 Navigating Tou...
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  Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce 28.07.2026 15min

  Send us Fan Mail Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those worries secret just makes things worse, and you are NOT alone. Join Sofia as she busts myths, ca...
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  Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while 21.07.2026 12min

  Send us Fan Mail Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner). What we cover: 01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection 02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust 03:25 — The...
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  The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids 14.07.2026 29min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy' 07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle 14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life 15:10 Nervous...
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  Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy 07.07.2026 13min

  Send us Fan Mail If s*x after kids feels awkward, disconnected, or harder than it used to… you are not alone. In this episode, Sofia breaks down why most couples struggle with intimacy after kids — and why it’s NOT because you’re broken, selfish, or “bad at s*x.” Most couples were never actually taught intimacy skills. Instead, we relied on chemistry, novelty, alcohol, low stress, and spontaneity in our 20s… and then felt confused when those things stopped working in marriage and parenthood. ...
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  Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think 30.06.2026 23min

  Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids. This conversation explores: why desire can “go underground”how women are taught to manage men’s emotionsthe connection between boundaries, sexuality, and emotional safetyhow pressure and shutdown cycles developwhy suppressing sexuality doesn’t actually sol...
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  Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal) 23.06.2026 16min

  Send us Fan Mail What does real intimacy after kids actually look like? In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversations that almost made us stop halfway through intimacy. Because real s*x after kids doesn’t always look effortless or spontaneous. Sometimes it looks like: • feeling unsure • struggling to get “in the mood” • hitting pause • communicating th...
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  The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids 16.06.2026 25min

  Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, I break down the **4 biggest traps keeping good men stuck...
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  You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids 09.06.2026 23min

  Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting sx after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kidsThe “over-needed” nervous systemWhy pressure kills intimacyHow parenting overload impacts s*x driveThe hidden ways people avoid intima...
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  5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x) 26.05.2026 14min

  Send us Fan Mail If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you. This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your sx life after kids — that have nothing to do with sx. Because for most couples, it’s not about desire, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about the patterns that build distance without you even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about: Why waiting for desire to come back often makes things worseHow becoming your partner’s ...
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  Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will) 19.05.2026 21min

  Send us Fan Mail You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck? If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why therapy doesn’t always fix intimacyThe real reason your sex life still feels off (even if you’re trying)Why intimacy isn’t automatic—and what actuall...
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  What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think) 12.05.2026 15min

  Send us Fan Mail What actually changes when couples fix their sex life? It’s not just more sex. It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down the real shifts couples experience when they rebuild intimacy—without pressure, awkwardness, or constant conflict. This is not the “everything is fixed overnight” version. This is what actually changes in real life. Inside this episode: How couples start ...
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  Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It) 05.05.2026 21min

  Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other? Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why intimacy changes after kidsThe real reason sex starts to feel complicated or avoidedThe pressure/shutdown dynamic that keeps couples stuckWhy trying harder often makes things worseHow to rebuild connecti...
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  What Couples with Great Sex Lives Do Differently 28.04.2026 16min

  Send us Fan Mail Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover playful, connected intimacy, no matter how busy life gets. We'll talk about radical curiosity, honest feedback, the power of laughter, quick repairs after tough moments, and how to protect your intimacy bubble—even when little ones are...