Stop Shrinking, Start Living with Christina Aaliyah

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  I quit my job as a doctor 6 months ago (update) 16.08.2026 25min

  🎟️ Become a LinkedIn Baddie (Join the waitlist) https://presellstudio.short.gy/ytdescription ⭐️ Cozy Meet Ups w/ our communityLondon → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meetManchester → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/manchester🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter0:00 intro3:14 work life balance4:43 social life8:24 earnings13:12 purpose21:20 what’s next💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com
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  i'm done playing it safe in dating 29.07.2026 20min

  ⭐️FREE Quarter Life Clarity WorkbookGrab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/qlc🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com
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  The Art of Wasting Money In Your 20s 15.06.2026 21min

  ⭐️FREE Money Print WorkbookGrab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/moneyprint0:00 intro2:51 what is wasting money?08:08 - What I'm planning to 'waste' money on 💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com
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  i’m retiring from dating 27.05.2026 21min

  Cozy Corner Events in London:https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet0:00 intro3:14- men are leftover 4:28 - soulmates7:00 - the more you need a guy in your life the more you will end up settling8:13 - changing for men10:30 - taking a step back12:07 - spent so much time inside14:43 - no one is willing to settle 16:06 - improve your social life💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com
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  Before You Quit Your Job, Watch This 01.04.2026 26min

  Should you quit your job? If you are wondering should I quit my job without a backup plan or feeling stuck in a job you hate, this video breaks down exactly what you need to consider before quitting your job. This is especially relevant if you are burnt out, unhappy at work, or going through a quarter-life crisis.In this video, I share the 6 most important things to consider before quitting your job, based on my experience leaving a stable career to build a life that actually aligns with my values. The truth is, just because you are unhappy at work does not always mean it is time to quit.We talk about career clarity, job dissatisfaction, burnout, and how to know if you are in the wrong job or just going through a difficult season. The goal is to help you make a decision you will not regret.If you have been searching for:how to know when to quit your jobshould I leave my job if I am unhappycareer change advice in your 20sthis video will give you clarity.👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com
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  Don't Waste Your 20s on a "Good Job" 23.03.2026 21min

  Cozy Corner Meet Ups London get early access here →https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet0:00- Intro1:55 - your job is a transaction, not a calling4:21 - your 20s are for gathering data8:08 - a good job is a hard job10:28 - the myth of meaningful work15:37 - bravest person wins not the most obedient16:01- the real pursuit in your twenties is opportunity20:07 - build your foundationso many of us were told the same story growing up. study hard, get the prestigious job, climb the ladder, and everything will work out. doctor, lawyer, investment banker. the jobs our parents brag about. the ones that look perfect on paper.but the reality is starting to crack.more and more people are realizing that a job is just a transaction. companies don’t really care if you’re burnt out, dealing with mental health, or sacrificing your entire twenties to stay afloat. meanwhile an entire generation is entering a job market that feels unstable, performative, and sometimes completely fake.in this video we talk about the uncomfortable truth about modern careers. why so many people in “successful” jobs are miserable, why climbing the ladder might not be the best use of your twenties, and why more people are starting to question the system they were told would make them happy.if you’ve ever felt like the corporate world is just one big role play, you’re not the only one. this conversation is for you.📕 Six Pillars of Self Esteem book grab it here → https://amzn.to/40OAJ0u📘 subscribe to my newsletter join here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com
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  I Quit My Job As a Doctor 07.01.2026 17min

  I’m quitting my job as a doctor and not coming back.Here’s why 0:00 2:55 Reason 14:59 Reason 211:43 Reason 3 14:55 What’s next for me?Let’s hang out in London:https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet
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  The Ultimate: ‘What Should I Do With My Life?’ Podcast Episode 24.12.2025 41min

  If you’re feeling lost in your career… Searching things like “what should I do with my life?” or “should I quit my job for my side hustle”? This episode is for you.In this deep‑dive conversation with career coach and founder Cristina Espinal, we unpack what to do when you feel stuck, burned out, or off‑track in your career, and you can’t tell if the answer is a new job, a bold pivot, or finally going all in on your side hustle. You will learn why fulfilment is not something you “find” in the perfect role, but something you cultivate from the inside out by taking back the pen and consciously designing your own career ecosystem.Check out Cristina’s work here:🤸 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cristinaespinal/💡 Play Big Careers: https://playbig.careers/✉️ Cristina’a bi-weekly newsletter: https://subscribepage.io/playbignewsletter⏰ Timestamps00:00 – Feeling stuck in your career and questioning your next move 02:00 – Cristina’s career journey: consulting, startups, and the pivot moment 05:00 – Why fulfilment doesn’t come from a job title (career ecosystem explained) 07:40 – Should you quit your job or start a side hustle instead? 11:40 – The 4 career alignment dimensions: needs, strengths, vision, values 17:15 – What people are really searching for when they say they want a new job 20:40 – Traits of people who feel fulfilled at work (and why most don’t) 26:00 – Nervous system regulation, rest, and burnout in modern careers 34:45 – Why purpose isn’t something you “find” (and what to focus on instead) We talk about:🍎 How to know if you are genuinely misaligned in your current job vs. just in a tough season🍎 The four dimensions of real career alignment: your needs, strengths, vision, and values🍎 How to decide between staying, quitting, or going full time on your side hustle without acting from fear or scarcity🍎 Why your nervous system, inner safety, and nervous system regulation matter more than another CV tweak or job search tactic🍎 How to stop “black‑and‑white” thinking (stay or go, 9–5 or entrepreneur) and start building an abundant career ecosystem that can include a day job, side projects, learning, community, and creativity🍎 The biggest myths about “finding your purpose” and how to actually cultivate a sense of purpose in everyday life and workIf you've ever thought:- “I'm feeling lost in my career,” - “I hate my job but I’m scared to quit,” - “should I go full time on my side hustle,” - “how to find my purpose,”- “how to feel fulfilled at work,”This conversation is for you ✨More from me:📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com
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  you don’t need another glow up, you need to shadow work 17.12.2025 20min

  ⭐️ Download all the Shadow Work Prompts here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/shadowIf you've ever felt like you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you're in the right place.Watch if you’re struggling with:• emotional avoidance• self-sabotage and repeating patterns• burnout from self-improvement• perfectionism or people-pleasing• feeling disconnected from who you really are0:00 - Intro1:32 - What is your shadow?2:35 - Write down all the parts of you that you reject about yourself5:03 - How the shadow controls your life5:45 - Meeting your shadow9:34 - Where most people get it wrong14:09 - Upper limit👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  Gen Z has relationship PTSD 10.12.2025 18min

  ⭐️ FREE Dating Detox Workbook grab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/tdd 01:24 Gen Z has relationship PTSD03:58 what do the numbers say05:35 Gen z wants romance but not love07:43 Compromise is a requirement not a choice11:07 making the right decision14:17 Singlehood isn’t a waiting room👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  Are We Too Independent for Real Friendships? 03.12.2025 18min

  0:00 intro2:22 hyper independence is a trauma response4:10 hyper individualism6:33 social media has raised our standards7:41 religion8:55 relationships10:47 emotional numbness13:59 effort budget16:11 get used to being unproductive⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  the price of SUCCESS is facing your fears 26.11.2025 16min

  ⭐ Download the FREE Superhuman habits workbook here→ https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/shh📘 Read the newsletter I mentioned here!→ https://view.flodesk.com/emails/68fe2078623d7516ea4687b10:00 intro1:16 Your biggest dream3:35 The Psychology Behind Avoidance7:10 The Comfort Trap9:08 The Real Consequence: Emotional Shrinking12:10 Breaking the Cycle🌱 sign to read it weekly! → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  5 Huge Mistakes I Made in College 19.11.2025 16min

  Use Code DRCHRISTINA5 to get money off your Mob Annual or Monthly Subscription! Check it out here! https://www.mob.co.uk/⭐ Download the FREE Superhuman habits workbook here→ https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/shh0:00 intro01:47 You’re Not a Self Improvement Project05:27 Learning to cook more18:01 Avoiding problems makes the get bigger10:47 A hobby is an investment in your happiness12:30 you need to have audacity👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  The Rise of 'Low-Effort Boyfriends' (Why Women Are Tired) 12.11.2025 20min

  Let’s be honest, dating feels different now 😭After Vogue’s published the infamous “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” and it blew up online, I had to sit down and talk about it, so cue the very spontaneous and unscripted video... enjoy!It’s not that having a boyfriend is embarrassing, it’s having a low-effort boyfriend that is.I'm sure we can all agree, right?The kind who forgets your birthday, doesn’t plan dates, or treats emotional effort like a chore.That’s what women are calling out, not love itself.In this video, I unpack why so many women are frustrated, why men feel attacked, and how social media turned relationships into a status game.We talk about the expectation gap between men and women, how independence and emotional labor are reshaping dating, and why a healthy, reciprocal relationship has become the new flex.If you’ve ever felt disillusioned by modern dating culture, this conversation is for you.Let me know in the comments:- Do you think having a boyfriend is embarrassing in 2025?- Or are we just tired of settling for less?📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  I Wish Someone Told Me This at 18 12.11.2025 14min

  ⭐ Download the FREE Superhuman habits workbook here→ https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/shhHigh school can shape the rest of your life, but most people don’t realise it until it’s too late. In this video, I’m breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes students make in high school that can hold them back for years to come.From chasing popularity instead of purpose, to ignoring mental health, and choosing comfort over growth, these lessons will change the way you approach school, friendships, and your future.Whether you’re a student or just someone starting over, this video will help you avoid regrets and build a life you’re proud of.0:00 - intro2:06 - Your silence won’t protect you 5:31 - Don’t leave anything behind in high school 7:19 - Serious about it, school, but gentle with yourself 9:12 - People make or break any experience 12:15 - Tell the truth 👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  How to Stop Caring What People Think (For Real This Time) 05.11.2025 20min

  0:00 intro02:49 It's not vain, it's survival06:35 Validation is borrowed self-worth10:19 Transforming your self-concept13:27 You need an identity change👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  Male Friendships Are Broken (It’s Worse Than You Think) 02.11.2025 21min

  I've always thought that male friendships look different, but when I looked into the research it really opened my eyes.In this video, I unpack some of unspoken rules that shape how men connect: banter over vulnerability, competition over closeness, and why so many guys end up feeling lonely even with a big friend group. I share surprising sociological research on homosocial bonds (non-sexual male friendships) and what makes emotional intimacy so hard for men.This isn’t about bashing men, genuinely I just found this all so interesting. Lmk your thoughts in the comments below, in this video we’ll explore the role of fathers and male role models, why vulnerability between men is still seen as weakness, and how online culture (from podcasts to toxic influencers) fills that void.If you’ve ever felt like male friendships can be shallow, or wondered why men struggle to open up, this deep dive will give you language and perspective you might not have had before.0:00 intro2:22 Men are Homosocial3:49 The importance of fathers6:12 Emotional Detachment12:34 Sexual objectification of women18:08 Male vulnerability is a strength🎬 Channels' Mentioned:@ManTalks@Stefanos Sifandos@Chris Williamson⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  Hyper-Independence Is Ruining Your 20s 02.11.2025 25min

  0:00 intro1:37 you’re breaking your own heart4:19 create your own loneliness11:11 you don’t need love13:26 get closer to people16:29 you’ve outgrown hyper-interdependence20:40 criticism is your downfall👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com
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  Why Relationships Confuse Men (2025) 29.10.2025 24min

  0:00 Intro1:40 Vulnerability is a superpower7:05 My dating story10:52 The invisible workload placed on women15:27 Women feel objectified21:24 Men want to feel needed, women want to feel chosen.In 2025, men and women approach dating so differently, I asked you guys what are some things men need to understand more about women… and you came through with your responses.In this video we’re unpacking why dating confuses men, what are some of the things men need to be aware of when it comes to relationships, how men can empathtise and understand the struggle of women in dating + much more.Comment down below what are some things you think were missed 👇🏽And comment down below what are some things women need to understand more about men?Attached by Adam Levine book https://amzn.to/3ILlb8w
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  Why You Feel Behind In Your 20s 26.10.2025 23min

  ⭐️ FREE Value Gap Workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/vgwWe’re told that success will make us happy, but for many high achievers, it does the opposite. In this video, I uncover the hidden cost of ambition: the burnout, loneliness, and loss of identity that come when your worth is tied to achievement.From perfectionism to imposter syndrome, we’ll explore why “doing more” never feels like enough and how to find peace in a world that rewards constant productivity. If you’ve ever felt exhausted by your own goals, this one’s for you.It’s time to redefine success, not as constant striving, but as finally feeling enough.📖The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem *purchase here → https://amzn.to/499CZEXTimestamps0:00 - Intro3:17 - You are fluent in the language of fear4:53 - Pseudo self-esteem8:36 - Outrunning the shame we have about ourselves11:23 - Fear will always run faster than you16:07 - Unmet needs18:54 - The almost done trap19:54 - Worshipping your fruits 👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com*affiliate link, I make a small commission at no extra cost to you :) Thank you for supporting the channel!