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  299. How to Stay Open When You’re Fed Up With Dating w/ Serena Kerrigan 18.09.2026 50мин

  What if dating felt less like a stressful search for your person and more like an experience you could actually enjoy? In this episode, I’m talking with Serena Kerrigan, creator and author of Let’s Fucking Date, about lowering the stakes in dating, stopping the need to control the outcome, and staying open to connections that don’t look exactly how you expected.Serena shares how meeting her boyfriend challenged her assumptions about age, success, and what the “right” partner should look like, plus the mindset shifts that helped her stop overmanaging her dating life and actually enjoy it.We’re getting into how to...Use Serena’s “potential, practice, or plot” framework to make every date feel worthwhileStop putting so much pressure on every first date to become somethingStay open to people who don’t fit the picture you had in your headTell the difference between showing interest and doing too muchGive someone enough space to actually reveal how interested they areLet go of control when dating feels uncertainGet out of your comfort zone when your dating life feels stagnantStop treating self-improvement like a formula that guarantees you a relationshipKnow when an “ick” is meaningful and when you might need to get a gripDate with a more abundant mindset when age and timelines are stressing you outTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYDate Tracker: Start your 7-day free trial! (iOS link)Take the quiz: What's holding you back in dating?Say hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  298. 7 Dating Mistakes That Make Finding a Relationship Take Longer 15.09.2026 28мин

  Feel like you're done wasting time on the wrong connections? I get it! In this episode, I'm breaking down seven of the most common mistakes I see people make in early dating, from dating someone's potential and staying in situationships to taking constant dating breaks, avoiding uncomfortable conversations, and being pen pals. I'm also sharing what to do differently so you can protect your time and energy and get closer to the relationship you actually want.In this episode, you'll learn:Why dating someone's potential can keep you invested way too longHow staying in a situationship can delay you from finding your personWhy constantly taking breaks from dating may be slowing you down and what to work on insteadHow speaking up about small issues early can reveal someone's ability to handle conflictWhat it means to date from your "back foot" and why it's a time wasterWhy texting for weeks before meeting can create false intimacyHow to recognize red flags without confusing them with preferencesWhy getting curious about someone's behavior can help you make better decisions soonerHow to stay grounded in who someone is today instead of who you hope they'll becomePlus, I answer a dating dilemma from a 40-year-old man who just learned that his new girlfriend occasionally smokes cigarettes and he's not sure what to do.Ready to date with intention? Start your 7-day free trial of Date Tracker at thedatetracker.com! (iOS link)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEp 260 - How to end a situationshipEp 186 - Tips for taking a dating breakEp 286 - Balancing effort in early datingEp 192 - Sneaky red flags in early datingTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSay hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  297. Hidden Ways Low Self-Worth Shows Up in Dating (And How to Change It) w/ Dr. Marisa G. Franco 11.09.2026 55мин

  How much is your self-worth affecting the way you date? In this episode, I’m talking with psychologist and author Dr. Marisa G. Franco about how our past experiences can shape what we believe we deserve, how we interpret rejection, and even our ability to accept love from someone who genuinely likes us. We’ll also explore what it means to build self-worth and how to stop dating from a place of fear and start going after what you want.We’re getting into how to...Understand the difference between self-esteem and self-worthRecognize when you’re dating to avoid rejection instead of pursuing what you wantUnderstand why rejection hits some people so much harder than othersIdentify old experiences that may still be shaping how you see yourselfStop assuming someone doesn’t like you when there’s no evidence they don’tBuild self-worth by paying attention and responding to your emotionsKnow when you’re seeking healthy reassurance versus outsourcing your worth to a partnerNavigate dating when you don’t feel completely confident or worthy yetMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEWorth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment by Dr. Marisa G. FrancoMarisa's websiteTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYReady to date with more confidence? Start your 7-day free trial of Date Tracker! (iOS link)Take the quiz: What's holding you back in dating?Say hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  296. How to Spot (and Break) the Dating Patterns Keeping You Stuck 08.09.2026 29мин

  There's a reason you keep dating the same people in different fonts: it's your dating patterns.In this episode, I'm sharing the three patterns I discovered while tracking my own dating life, how they were getting in the way of the relationship I actually wanted, and what I did differently once I could finally see them. I'm also walking you through a simple way to identify your own patterns and turn them into experiments so you can start getting different dating results.In this episode, you'll learn:What dating patterns actually are and how they can quietly influence who you choose and how you behaveCommon patterns like getting attached too quickly, chasing unavailable people, staying too long, or writing people off too soonThe three dating patterns I discovered in my own dating lifeWhy I stopped rushing physical intimacy and started approaching sex differentlyHow I realized I was trying to earn affection instead of evaluating whether someone was right for meWhy consistency can feel less exciting when you're used to chasing someone's attentionHow tracking my dates helped me spot behaviors I couldn't see in the momentHow to turn your own dating patterns into small experiments that help you make different choicesPlus, I answer a dating dilemma from a 41-year-old man figuring out how to start dating again after a 13-year marriage—and how to avoid falling back into old people-pleasing habits.Ready to date with more confidence? Start your 7-day free trial of Date Tracker! (iOS link)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode 277 on IRL dating What my date tracking note looked like & the emoji keyTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSay hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  295. How to Give Someone a Chance Without Settling w/ Jordanne Sculler 04.09.2026 57мин

  How do you stay open-minded in dating without settling for less than what you want? And what happens when someone treats you well, checks a lot of the important boxes, but something still feels… off?In this episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist Jordanne Sculler to talk about the messy, nuanced parts of dating that don’t fit neatly into a set of rules. We unpack why familiar relationship dynamics can feel more attractive than healthy ones, why self-awareness alone doesn’t always break old patterns, and how to tell when you’re honoring your needs versus shrinking yourself to keep someone around.Listen for...How to be open in dating without lowering your standardsWhy dating checklists can get in the way of real connectionThe difference between self-soothing and suppressing a legitimate needWhy someone healthy might initially feel uncomfortable or unfamiliarHow to stop focusing so much on whether someone likes you and ask whether you like themWhat dating disappointment can bring up about your self-worthHow social media can reinforce negative stories about datingGrieving the relationship or life timeline you thought you’d have by nowWhy processing disappointment is different from simply “getting over it”How Jordanne met her husband after initially writing him offAnd at the end, we answer a dating dilemma from a woman wondering if she made a huge mistake by ending things with a great guy who didn’t feel like her person.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYReady to date with more confidence? Start your 7-day free trial of Date Tracker! (iOS link)Say hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  294. 5 Tiny Habits That Will Transform Your Dating Life 01.09.2026 30мин

  In this episode, I'm sharing 5 tiny habits that can help you get better dating results, feel more confident and in control, and make dating a little more enjoyable. We’ll talk about how to make decisions without endlessly second-guessing yourself, learn from your dates, show interest without playing games, protect your mindset from dating negativity, and get clear on intentions early.In this episode, we cover:How being more decisive can build confidence and self-trustWhy tracking and reflecting on your dates can help you spot patterns and learn what actually works for youHow to show interest when you're interested without playing it cool or worrying about “double texting”Why opting out of negative dating narratives can help you stay open and hopefulHow bringing up your intentions early can help you avoid confusion, situationships, and wasted timeDating habits from the Dating Intentionally community that helped people stay grounded and keep goingA dating dilemma about bad timing, competing connections, and whether being direct after two dates was “too much”Ready to date with more confidence? Start your 7-day free trial of Date Tracker! (iOS link)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode 286 - If they wanted to they would? The truth about effort in datingTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSay hi on InstagramSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  293. Why What Happens After The Date Matters Most (First Date Vibe Check) 28.08.2026 42мин

  What can you learn from a first date that was just okay? And why does what happens after the date sometimes tell you more than the date itself? This is another episode of First Date Vibe Check, where I bring on a listener to walk me through a recent first date, from matching and messaging to the date itself, the post-date feelings, and what happened next.This time, I’m talking to Katelyn (39), a single mom looking for a long-term relationship. She met “Trey” on Facebook Dating, moved the conversation over to Instagram, and eventually went on a two-hour dinner date.We’re getting into:Why she prefers active first dates over dinnerHow she uses Instagram in her dating lifeThe green flags she looks for in dating app conversationsHow she realized she wasn’t actually that excited about himWhy feeling safe and having a “good enough” time doesn’t automatically mean you should go on a second dateThe post-date interaction that gave her a whole new data pointHer firm boundary around second dates at homeHow she decides whether to give someone another chanceAnd how to spend less time on the apps while getting to the date fasterPlus, Katelyn shares her best advice for staying positive when dating feels like a never-ending series of almosts.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Want to break down a first date with me on the pod? Apply here.Get the Date Tracker app (iOS only for now) so you can do your own vibe checks!THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  292. Getting Back Into Dating? How to Start Without Losing Your Mind (Throwback) 25.08.2026 25мин

  Whether you’re newly single, coming out of a long-term relationship, or you’ve simply been out of the dating world for years, getting back into dating can feel overwhelming. The apps have changed, the dating culture has changed, and you may have changed, too. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to get back into the dating scene with less pressure, more confidence, and a whole lot more perspective. Think of this as your dating bestie’s guide to getting your feet wet again without expecting yourself to immediately find your future spouse.Listen for:How to know if you’re actually ready to date Why your first goal should simply be going on a date, not finding a relationshipHow to lower the stakes Why awkward, boring, or unsuccessful dates are actually part of the processThe different ways to meet people to dateHow to manage fears around rejection, inexperience, being judged, or someone changing their mindWhy you need to stop getting ahead of yourself How journaling, setting intentions, and finding ways to feel confident can make the process feel more manageableThe biggest lessons I learned when I jumped back into dating after a six-year relationshipAnd I'm sharing a new dating dilemma at the end about trying to figure out whether someone wants kids before you date them.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYStart tracking dates with Date Tracker (iOS)Submit a dating dilemmaReveal your dating blindspot (quiz)Book a 1:1 with meSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  291. Are No Red Flags a Green Flag? (First Date Vibe Check) 21.08.2026 35мин

  If someone doesn't have any red flags, is that a green flag? This is the third episode of First Date Vibe Check, where I bring on listeners who are actively dating to walk through a recent first date with me, from how they met and planned the date to what actually happened and how they felt afterward.This time, I'm talking to Jenny, a 27-year-old in the UK who is relatively new to dating and using it to build confidence, meet people, and figure out what she actually wants. She met "Steve" on Breeze, an app that skips the messaging and gets you straight to the date. We're getting into her unconventional first-date setup, the venue that had absolutely no vibe, the spontaneous bar-hopping that followed, and the green flags and amber flags she noticed along the way. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Want to break down a first date with me on the pod? Apply here.Get the Date Tracker app so you can do your own vibe checks!THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  290. You Don't Need Certainty to Make a Good Dating Decision (Dating Dilemmas) 18.08.2026 27мин

  How much information do you actually need before you make a decision in your dating life? In this episode, I’m answering four real dating dilemmas that all come down to that one question.We’re talking about dating two people and not knowing who to choose, deciding whether a sexual-health disclosure is a deal breaker, trying to figure out whether a struggling relationship is still worth fighting for, and realizing in hindsight that someone wasn’t quite who you thought they were.The common thread? You’re rarely going to get 100% certainty in early dating. Instead, you have to learn how to gather information, stay connected to your values, and make decisions based on what you actually know, not what you wish you knew.Submit a dating dilemmaIn this episode:How to choose between two people without turning dating into a competitionWhat to do when someone discloses an STI and you’re unsure how you feel about itHow to tell when someone is overwhelmed by life versus no longer prioritizing the relationshipWhat to make of someone who seems great at first but gradually reveals a very different side of themselvesWhy you should evaluate people against your own needs, not against each otherHow to make good dating decisions without waiting for perfect certaintyTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYBook a 1:1 with meSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeReveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  289. Is It Bad If A First Date Feels Too Easy? (First Date Vibe Check) 14.08.2026 40мин

  What if a first date is too easy and comfortable? This is the second episode of First Date Vibe Check, where I bring on listeners who are actively dating to walk through a recent first date with me, from how they met and planned the date to what actually happened and how they felt afterward.This time, I'm talking to Carol Ann, a 47-year-old single mom in the Midwest who met Zach on Hinge after taking a several-month break from dating. We're getting into her dating-app approach, the messaging that led to this first date, and how she's learned to trust her body. Carol Ann also shares her thoughts on the spark, the green flags she noticed along the way, and what happened after. Stay tuned for her update at the end.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Want to break down a first date with me on the pod? Apply here.Get the Date Tracker app so you can do your own vibe checks!THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with meSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeReveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  288. Why Relationships Keep Ending at 3 Months (Is It You or Them?) 11.08.2026 28мин

  Why do so many relationships seem to fall apart at around three months? You finally feel like things are going somewhere, and then suddenly, something shifts. In this episode, I'm breaking down the “three-month cliff” and what’s really happening when a promising relationship suddenly fizzles, pulls back, or ends.We’ll talk about:The 3 biggest reasons relationships fall apart around three monthsHow to tell whether it’s a genuine incompatibility, a commitment issue, or simply a lack of chemistrySigns that it's you or them (depending on the situation)How to actually make it past the three-month markWhy a three-month relationship that ends is NOT a failurePlus, I answer a dating dilemma from a 43-year-old man who is worried about eventually outliving his future partner.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode 285 with Chris Rackliffe about codependencyTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaReveal your dating blindspot (quiz)Book a 1:1 with meSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  287. When a First Date Feels More Friendly Than Flirty (First Date Vibe Check) 07.08.2026 41мин

  This is the first episode of a new series called First Date Vibe Check, where I bring on listeners who are actively dating to walk through a recent first date with me - how they met, how the date got planned, what actually happened, and how they felt afterward.First up is Savannah, a 30-year-old middle school teacher in California who's had a wild six months, including discovering the boyfriend she'd been dating for three months had a wife. We're discussing everything from why speed dating rebuilt her dating confidence to sending the first message when nobody reaches out to the exact moment a good first date starts to get awkward. Savannah also shares the shift that took the pressure off her first dates: you don't need to feel romantic feelings on date one; you just need to feel safe and curious.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Want to break down a first date with me on the pod? Apply here.Get the Date Tracker app so you can do your own vibe checks!THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first orderMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaBook a 1:1 with meSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeReveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  286. If They Wanted To, They Would? The Truth About Effort In Early Dating 04.08.2026 26мин

  When you’re always the one texting first, planning the dates, and keeping a connection moving forward, it’s easy to start wondering: do they actually like me, or am I doing all the work?In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about effort in dating: why some people initiate more than others, what someone’s effort actually tells you about their interest, and how to stop spiraling when someone goes quiet.Tune in for...What effort and initiation actually look like in dating (and why they matter)The real reasons someone might not initiate, and why the reason doesn’t change what you do nextThe one question to ask yourself when dating feels one-sided: do you want clarity, connection, or desire?The “I can’t tell” text and exactly when to send itWhy “if they wanted to, they would” is complicated dating adviceThe difference between having standards, setting boundaries, and trying to control someone’s behaviorWhy initiation chicken and wanting to be chased can keep you stuckHow multi-dating helped me stop investing in people who weren’t showing upHow to tell the difference between a normal imbalance in effort and a connection that isn’t reciprocalWhether you’re carrying a connection for a few weeks, wondering why you’re always the one making plans, or staring at your phone trying to figure out what their silence means, this episode will help you stop decoding their behavior and start paying attention to what their effort is showing you.At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a man who reconnected with someone he dated 18 years ago and has spent two months texting without ever meeting up.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEBook a 1:1 with meClose The Loop text templatesFree texting guideTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORS💗 Bellesa: EVERYONE gets a free Rose suction toy with EVERY single order! bboutique.co/vibe/datingintentionally-pod😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65🛏️ Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first order MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeGet the Date Tracker app!Reveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  285. Why You Lose Yourself When You Start Dating Someone w/ Chris Rackliffe 31.07.2026 58мин

  Do you tend to go all in when you like someone, to the point where you've lost touch with your own life a bit? I'm chatting with Chris Rackliffe, an anxious attachment coach and author of Needy No More: The Journey from Anxious to Secure Attachment, who's helped thousands of people heal from patterns of trauma, abandonment, and codependency. We're getting into why we lose ourselves in dating and what to do about it.We cover:The earliest signs you're starting to abandon yourself when you meet someone newWhy resentment is the clearest signal a compromise has tipped into self-betrayalChris's framework for codependencyWhy guilt is proportional to how long you've been overriding your own needsHis concept of emotional diversification, and why spreading out your sources of connection is a protective strategy, not just something nice to haveHow to apply this whether you're in early dating or an established relationshipWhether opposite sleep schedules are actually a dealbreakerAt the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether opposite sleep schedules are a dealbreaker.CONNECT WITH CHRISFind Chris on Instagram and TikTokTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreMORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLYSubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeJoin the Date Tracker app waitlistReveal your dating blindspot (quiz) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  284. Rejected? Here's How to Bounce Back Faster In Early Dating 28.07.2026 29мин

  Rejection doesn't have to destroy your confidence or convince you that you'll never find your person. In this episode, I'm sharing how to bounce back faster after getting rejected, ghosted, or hearing "there wasn't a spark." We'll talk about why rejection feels so personal, how to stop the anxiety spirals before they take over, and the mindset shifts that will help you keep your self-worth intact while continuing to date intentionally.Tune in for...Why rejection feels so much bigger than it actually isHow to stop telling yourself hopeless stories after a "no"The 24-hour rule for bouncing back fasterPractical ways to stop anxiety spirals after rejectionWhat to say when someone rejects you (and what not to say)Why rejection isn't a reflection of your worthThe questions to ask yourself instead of "What's wrong with me?"My own experiences navigating rejection while datingWhether you've been ghosted before a first date or rejected after a few months of dating, this episode will help you move forward with more confidence and resilience.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEDating Roadblock QuizEpisode 281 (Kelsey Darragh) on healing after heartbreakEpisode 221 (Cole Zesinger) on moving on after a breakupMy "closing the loop" text templatesInstead of asking "what's wrong with me," get curious and reflect on these questions:Am I consistently pursuing people who aren't available or aren't looking for the same thing?Am I showing up as myself, or am I trying to earn someone's approval?Am I choosing people based on mutual interest, or am I getting attached to potential before they've shown consistent effort?Am I overlooking signs that someone isn't able to meet me where I am?Am I being curious, showing interest, and being direct, or am I playing games to get their attention?Am I owning who I am, or leading with my insecurities?THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  283. Relationship Compatibility: What Science Says Actually Matters w/ Paul Eastwick 24.07.2026 55мин

  Is someone being "out of your league" even a real thing? In this episode, I'm chatting with relationship scientist and author Paul Eastwick (Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection) to unpack the science of mate value, why matchmaking based on shared traits almost never works, and what actually predicts compatibility (it's not the traits on your list).From decoding your own dating patterns to knowing when attraction is genuinely going to grow, this conversation is packed with practical, research-backed advice for anyone who feels stuck comparing partners against a checklist.In this episode, we cover:Why what you say you want in a partner doesn't predict who you actually chooseThe truth about mate value and dating "out of your league"Why matchmaking based on shared traits and interests rarely worksWhat actually predicts long-term compatibility (hint: it's not a trait)Why attraction often grows slowly instead of hitting all at onceWhether a strict list of dealbreakers helps or hurts youAt the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a situationship where trust was broken, and whether it's worth trying to repair it.CONNECT WITH PAULLove Factually podcastTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  282. Flaky Dates, Slow Texters and Catching Feelings When It's Casual (Dating Dilemmas) 21.07.2026 25мин

  Dating today can be a mess, and so much of that mess stems from confusion, uncertainty, and ambiguity showing up in ways that just infuriate us. In this episode, I'm answering four listener dating dilemmas that each capture a different flavor of that chaos, from the planning-phase ghost to the partner whose humor crosses a line to the slow fade that sends you spiraling over someone you barely know. These aren't rare, one-off situations either. I hear versions of these same four patterns constantly, which is exactly why I wanted to break them down together. I'm covering:What to do when a guy keeps initiating dates that never actually happenWhy a plan without a set time, date, and location usually isn't a real plan at allHow to know if you're being "managerial" by helping plan a date, or just being reasonableHow to handle a new boyfriend whose "jokes" cross a real lineWhat it means when a partner says the only way to be with you is to suppress part of himselfWhether to say something when a casual connection's slow responses start to bother youHow much effort is reasonable to expect when you're not looking for anything seriousHow to hold onto your sense of self when someone goes quiet after a great phone callHow to tell the difference between an old trigger and an actual red flag in the momentFor each one, I give you the exact tweak I'd make if I were in your shoes, along with the bigger pattern underneath so you can spot it before it drains you again. My hope is that you walk away from this episode more decisive, less likely to spiral, and a little more convinced that most of this isn't actually about you.THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  281. Why Closure Is a Lie (And What Actually Helps You Heal) w/ Kelsey Darragh 17.07.2026 54мин

  How do you actually get over a breakup, and why does it feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm chatting with author and mental health advocate Kelsey Darragh to unpack the science of heartbreak, why no-contact is so difficult, and what actually helps you move forward after a breakup (It's not the closure moment you think it is).From healing after a long-term relationship to knowing when you're ready to date again, this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone struggling to let go of an ex or rebuild trust in love.In this episode, we cover:Why the story you tell yourself about your breakup mattersThe psychology behind no-contact (and how to stick with it)The truth about where closure comes fromHow to know when you're ready to date againHeartbreak vs. mental health: when to seek extra supportWhether you should tell a new partner about mistakes you've made in past relationshipsAt the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether you need to disclose past cheating before entering a new relationship.CONNECT WITH KELSEYOn InstagramGet her new book, Don't Do What I Did THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  280. How to Vet Someone Before a First Date (Without Overthinking) 14.07.2026 27мин

  Not sure who's worthy of a first date? In this episode, I'm sharing my exact process for deciding who gets a first date, including the one screening step I wish I'd done more of before meeting people in person.The 3 questions to ask yourself before meeting someoneWhat's actually worth paying attention to on a profile (and what to ignore)Why over-vetting someone like a job interview backfiresHow texting for too long creates a false sense of intimacyWhy a quick phone or video screening call beats weeks of DMsHow vetting works differently when you meet someone offline vs. on the appsAt the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of three months lied about his age.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEHow to nail a first date from start to finishTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTube See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.