Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

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  Ep.27 Being Clear Doesn't Mean Telling People What to do 17.09.2026 31мин

  In this episode we explore how to remain your warm, kind, and whimsical self while being clear and direct (you can be both!). We also discuss why being clear doesn't mean telling people what they can and cannot do and how to be clear and direct sans the fear of being rude, blunt, or "mean." What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between being clear and being controlling—and why they two are NOT actually related How to free yourself from the responsibility of how someone processes your directness How to communicate what you want, what you're available for, and what you will do next while leaving other people responsible for their own choices. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 26. Can You Tell Yourself No? 03.09.2026 36мин

    ***PSST, NO EPISODE NEXT WEEK SEPTEMBER 10, WE WILL BE BACK SEPTEMBER 17 IN LIGHT OF LABOR DAY*** In this episode, we chat: Why being comfortable and confident setting boundaries with other people might start with getting better at telling yourself no—and what your day-to-day choices can teach you about saying no when letting things slide, minimizing the severity of an issue, or simply going along with it feels like... the easier option. What you'll learn in this episode: Why setting boundaries is about more than knowing what to say—and how the way you manage your impulses and emotions in everyday life can show up, positively or negatively, in the boundaries you set with others. What it looks like to tell yourself no when yes is still an option, and why being able to do something doesn't always mean it's in your best interest to do it. How to actually begin building the muscle to hold boundaries with others without the guilt, mind-spiraling, and preoccupation with how they will receive what you say. Book recommendation mentioned: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 25. What If You're More Interesting Than You Think? 27.08.2026 31мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why you should consider yourself—and the things you're drawn to—interesting and worth paying attention to, not just other people, and how uncovering the unique perspectives God has placed within you connects to the purpose over your life. What you'll learn in this episode: What the people you consider "interesting," "unique," and "cool" are doing differently that causes them to stand out—and why it's not what you think. How dropping performance and developing your own unique point of view around your interests can make you far more interesting than trying to be interesting. How the things you're naturally drawn to and curious about tell a story about the gifts and skills the Lord has equipped you with for the purpose & assignment over your life. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 24 Do They See You for Who You Are or Are They Just in Proximity to You? 20.08.2026 28мин

  In this episode, we chat: The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen. The difference between being mindful about how you communicate to someone and changing who you are to sustain the connection-- adapting vs. self-sacrificing. Why someone NOT taking the time to know the ins-and-outs and quirky little facts about you does not mean you're not worth getting to know deeply-- they might just not be... for you ESPECIALLY if you're a whimsical and curious girly. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 23. Can You Stay Clear When People Challenge Your Thinking? 13.08.2026 28мин

  In this episode, we chat: How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions. What you'll learn in this episode: Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have. Why someone telling you all about who they're going to be can distract you from paying attention to who they're showing you they are right now. How dramatic reactions and "well, what about you?" arguments can leave you questioning a choice you were perfectly clear about five minutes ago—and what that can tell you about your discernment. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 22. Do They Love You or... Do They Love What Happens to Them Because of You? 06.08.2026 23мин

  In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you'll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remains invested in you as a person. The subtle difference between someone who carries your company and someone who carries your story—and why one leaves you feeling familiar, while the other leaves you feeling deeply known. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 21 On Giving Everyone the Benefit of the Doubt but... You 30.07.2026 17мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you'll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. •  Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the guise of "giving the benefit of the doubt" • Why assuming everyone would handle a situation the way you would might be keeping you from seeing the truth (because yes, even though you think they would NEVER... they might just) IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave 23.07.2026 19мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself • Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and having an internal WAR with yourself about it—might just be enough. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?) 16.07.2026 27мин

  In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the relationship, the friendship, the business, or the job. • Why your pride might actually be keeping you in that relationship, job, career, or friendship-- NOT embarrasment, fear of what people may think, or the investment of "time". • You don't have to endure and survive a job, a friendship, or a relationship-- and nearly fall apart and lose your mind in the process-- just because they have *some* good traits that you enjoy amongst all the alarming ones. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off? 09.07.2026 18мин

  In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see?  What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical, optimistic girls often overthink a situation that they usually... are right about the first time. • The importance of leaning into your God-given discernment when it comes to clocking when something is... off. • How wondering if you're overthinking what you're seeing may actually be a sign that you struggle with trusting your own perception and... what to do about it. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence 02.07.2026 30мин

  In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower self-esteem. • The relationship between pride and your capacity to experience embarrassment—and how both influence your willingness to pursue success. • How your capacity to experience embarrassment impacts your ability to fulfill God's purpose and assignment for your life. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl 25.06.2026 23мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE of your playfulness and whimsy A whole new way to view consistency-- and no, this does not look like get it PERFECT or give up. Permission to breathe. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition 18.06.2026 27мин

  In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as hard as you think. Why some whimsy girls are meant to have large friend groups and others, 1-2 close friends and why both... are more than okay. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy 11.06.2026 28мин

  In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: @clearernotlouder Read More  
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  Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program 04.06.2026 20мин

  In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even though it feels like it was custom-made just for you, I know!) The liberation that comes from accepting things as THEY ARE not as you wish them to be and... how to get there. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 12. Arriving in Singlehood (and Letting Go of Idolatry of Marriage & Relationships) 28.05.2026 34мин

  In this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through" The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!) IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 11 Love is Not Enough Part 5-- Dating Lessons from My 30's. 21.05.2026 35мин

  Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him,  Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road
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  Ep. 10 Love is Not Enough-- Part 4 Dating Lessons From my 30's 14.05.2026 32мин

  Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship
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  Ep 9 Love is Not Enough Part 3-- Dating Lessons from my 30's 07.05.2026 32мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.
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  Ep 8 Love is Not Enough Part 2-- Dating Lessons From my 30's 30.04.2026 38мин

  In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way IG: @clearernotlouder