If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes

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  Angel McCoughtry Knows It’s About The Journey Not The Destination 15.09.2026 45мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with WNBA legend Angel McCoughtry to talk about timing, identity, and having the courage to pursue more than one dream [00:00]. Angel reflects on how women athletes are finally being celebrated as multidimensional [00:24], after facing double standards when she pursued music during her playing career [01:31], and why timing and legacy matter more than outside expectations [02:44]. She opens up about life after basketball [04:06] and her transition into filmmaking, including directing Bygones and developing stories centered on WNBA players [05:36], documentaries, and the untold lives behind professional athletes [07:38]. From remembering the MySpace era [10:22] and rethinking “girl boss” culture [12:48] to resisting social media comparison [17:50], Angel encourages people to chase their actual dreams instead of fame [19:19], trust that purpose can lead to success [22:21], and understand the difference between gifts, passions, and purpose [22:58]. Angel explains why starting before you feel completely ready is essential [24:44] and challenges the idea that only superstars have meaningful potential [26:40], while reflecting on past choices without regret [28:41] and the consequences of rushing life and relationships [30:50]. She also discusses her interest in crime, law, and storytelling [32:37], before revealing how an injury, depression, and the end of her basketball career unexpectedly opened a new creative lane [37:29] and forced her to discover an identity beyond the game [39:08]. Together, Amber and Angel explore finding your true “why” [40:28], accepting that your dream may look different than you originally imagined [43:18], and giving yourself grace with the timing of your journey as you build a life and legacy that extend far beyond one career [44:43].  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Angel McCoughtry: @mccoughtry Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  If You Knew Better: Lil Durk's Mom LaShawnda Woodard Knows the Hardest Person to Forgive Is Yourself 12.09.2026 59мин

  The Black Effect Presents... If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes! In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes welcomes LaShawnda Woodard aka "Mama Durk" for a deeply personal conversation about teen motherhood, grief, trauma, and healing [00:00]. LaShawnda reflects on becoming a young mother [01:44], lessons she later understood from her own mom [03:51], supporting Lil Durk’s music dreams [05:49], and raising each child according to their individual needs [07:01]. She remembers her oldest son D-Thang [09:00], opens up about living with grief after his death [09:55], and shares her struggles with depression and isolation [13:58]. Amber challenges LaShawnda’s self-blame while discussing the importance of community [19:42], before LaShawnda speaks candidly about surviving sexual assault [21:59], encouraging other survivors to speak up and seek help [28:42] as they explore lingering trauma [30:27] and finding language for painful experiences [30:58]. Amber encourages LaShawnda to give herself grace [32:23], examining parenting through pain [32:58], accountability versus blame [33:40], and faith and forgiveness [36:00]. LaShawnda discusses sharing her story through 7220 [37:05] and surviving an attempted assault as a teenager [38:11], while Amber reinforces that survivors are not responsible for the harm done to them [40:56] and encourages her to release the weight she has carried [41:55]. They reflect on how children remember their upbringing differently [45:19], learning to acknowledge the good alongside the mistakes [48:44], and LaShawnda’s final memories with D-Thang [50:55]. The episode closes with a challenge to rediscover joy [53:11], understand how trauma can freeze us in time [56:13], reconnect with community [57:09], and continue the journey toward healing [58:15].  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow LaShawnda Woodard: @real_mswoo Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite Books   O.P. Date: September 8, 2026See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Justice Baiden Knows Pursuing Your Passion Should Come Before Pursuing Partnership 01.09.2026 51мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Justice Baiden for an honest conversation about relationships, purpose, and the lessons that come from committing before you're truly ready [00:00]. Justice explains why he initially avoided serious commitment [01:05] and reflects on how early success in the music industry changed the dynamics of his relationships [05:24], ultimately teaching him the importance of establishing purpose before partnership [07:49]. He opens up about avoiding difficult conversations in an effort to "keep the peace" [09:59], ignoring red flags while convincing himself everything was working [14:02], and expressing love by trying to fix problems for his partner [16:50]. Justice also examines how unspoken resentment and passive-aggressive communication eventually manifested as stress [18:19], leading him to recognize that healthy relationships require clarity about individual goals [22:24], reconnecting with the passions and interests that once gave you direction [24:34], and creating intentional next steps toward the life you actually want [25:46]. Justice goes deeper into why actions ultimately matter more than promises [27:59] and introduces the importance of defining "yours, mine, and ours" within a partnership [28:37], including honest conversations about sacrifice, expectations, values, and true non-negotiables [30:34]. He reflects on overcoming the fear, guilt, and concern about other people's perceptions that can keep someone trapped in an unhealthy relationship [33:27], while confronting remorse, infidelity, and the responsibility of breaking destructive patterns [35:46]. The conversation also explores how father figures and role models shaped his understanding of manhood and relationships [40:51], the healing that can come from reparenting yourself through honest conversations [42:29], and the biggest lessons he carries from past love [44:12]. Now with a clearer understanding of himself, Justice shares whether he's ready for love today [45:54], before closing with a powerful reminder that lasting relationships begin with transparency, self-awareness, purpose, and the courage to tell the truth—even when that truth is uncomfortable [50:19].  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Justice Baiden: @justicewearscoolpants Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Gail Bean Knows Defensive Dating 25.08.2026 42мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with actress Gail Bean for an honest conversation about love, loyalty, and learning to date with greater intention [00:00]. Gail reflects on why she stopped leading people on when she knows there’s no romantic interest [01:10], the importance of establishing clear boundaries with platonic male friends [04:18], and how to receive or give compliments without creating confusion [06:45]. She explains how her approach to relationships evolved toward intentional dating [08:18], distinguishing preferences from true non-negotiables while identifying the difference between red flags and undeniable “sirens” [11:17]. After taking a year to reflect on herself and past relationships [16:10], Gail revisits a serious relationship where love was sometimes used to overlook deeper problems, ultimately realizing that love alone isn’t enough without loyalty, character, accountability, and shared values [18:00]. She also discusses accepting responsibility for your role in relationships [19:40] and why healthy love should challenge both partners to evolve [21:30]. Gail then opens up about what changed when she chose a partner capable of leading with intention, consistency, and purpose [22:48], redefining what genuine support looks like beyond money or surface-level gestures [27:03] and sharing communication tools that help strengthen their relationship [29:04]. She takes Amber inside their origin story [31:04] and explains how dating intentionally [32:24] eventually became what she calls “defensive dating”—asking important questions early about monogamy, finances, exes, and other potential complications instead of discovering deal-breakers later [34:14]. Gail also emphasizes listening to trusted friends and family [35:51], creating accountability through honest relationship check-ins [37:39], and how greater stability in her personal life has coincided with elevation in her career, including becoming number one on the call sheet [39:07]. She closes with reflections on choosing relationships that encourage growth, provide emotional security, and prove that who you build with can influence who you ultimately become [40:24].  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Gail Bean: @gail_bean Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Naomi Sharon Knows Relationship OCD Is Real 18.08.2026 57мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with singer-songwriter Naomi Sharon for a vulnerable conversation about childhood trauma, anxiety, rumination, and how unresolved experiences can follow us into adult relationships. Naomi sets the tone by opening up about her mental health journey [00:00] and explains how anxiety can turn into cycles of overthinking and rumination [00:53]. She traces many of those patterns back to her parents’ difficult divorce when she was 12 and the relationship triggers that developed from it [03:11], including fears around secrets, hidden truths, and a desire for radical honesty that can become its own emotional loop [04:49]. Naomi discusses building a greater tolerance for emotional discomfort instead of constantly searching for immediate peace [08:09], discovering relationship OCD and recognizing herself in its patterns [09:41], and learning how safety, self-awareness, and healthier coping mechanisms can interrupt behaviors rooted in childhood survival [13:31]. She also reflects on gratitude and transforming pain into art [20:16], balancing mental health with the demands of her music career [23:28], and how her parents’ divorce continues to shape her private life and family relationships [26:29], including hearing her brother’s perspective and confronting the absence of her father [27:00]. The conversation deepens as Naomi explores therapy and the process of finally meeting the younger version of herself who carried responsibilities far beyond her years [30:25]. She discusses learning to let difficult feelings exist without immediately trying to fix them [30:52], reparenting and comforting her inner child [31:26], and what she would tell her 12-year-old self today [33:07], leading to an emotional breakthrough symbolized by a powerful teddy bear story that Amber shares [33:41] and the release that comes from allowing herself to cry [37:25]. Amber and Naomi also explore choosing partners who create emotional safety, understanding different love languages [40:47], and the importance of centering yourself as you enter a new stage of adulthood [45:09]. Amber reframes ego as something that can be adjusted [46:34], reflects on discovering who she is when she's truly alone [49:22], and considers what real love looks like when two people continue changing and growing [52:38]. She closes by discussing the freedom of sharing her authentic self [54:05] and reflecting on a healing journey built around self-compassion, emotional honesty, and learning to give herself the safety she once searched for in others [55:36]. Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Naomi Sharon: @naomisharon Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Amber Knows Your “List” Is Ruining Your Dating Life 11.08.2026 32мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes challenges women to rethink modern dating by throwing away rigid relationship checklists in favor of 5 non-negotiables that prioritize character, compatibility, and emotional safety. Amber opens by inviting listeners to question their dating "type" [00:00] before explaining why it's time to let go of limiting checklists [01:13] and how that mindset shift transformed her own love story [03:14]. She reveals why attraction often grows through emotional connection rather than first impressions [04:56], explores the idea that many people know more about what they don't want than what they truly need [08:44], and introduces a practical framework for building healthier relationships through five intentional relationship buckets [10:33]. Amber then breaks down the first four non-negotiables—safety [12:16], communication and emotional availability [14:18], shared values [17:06], and future lifestyle alignment [19:33]. The conversation concludes by encouraging listeners to identify one authentic deal-breaker instead of an endless list of preferences [22:34], expand their dating pool by casting a wider net [24:22], and approach dating with greater intention through meaningful conversations rather than surface-level attraction [27:00]. Amber also reminds listeners that healthy relationships are built on mutual choice—not chasing someone who doesn't choose you back [30:56]—before leaving the audience with a practical exercise to redefine their approach to love [31:43]. Combining actionable dating advice, self-reflection, and relationship wisdom, this episode offers a refreshing roadmap for anyone ready to build stronger, healthier, and more intentional connections.  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Algee Knows Delay Is Not Denial 04.08.2026 32мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Algee Smith for a thoughtful conversation about identity, purpose, and finding self-worth beyond success. Algee reflects on how social media and career milestones can become unhealthy measures of personal value [00:27], revisiting the breakthrough role that changed his life with The New Edition Story [01:08] and the lessons he learned about detaching his identity from achievements [03:00]. He opens up about career disappointments that once felt devastating [04:58], how faith helped him embrace the belief that delay is not denial [06:55], and the daily practices—including prayer, stretching, meditation, and journaling—that have grounded him through seasons of uncertainty [09:08] [10:31]. Algee also discusses balancing authenticity on social media [12:50] while protecting the parts of life that deserve privacy [15:27]. The conversation deepens as Algee shares how therapy transformed his perspective despite his initial skepticism [16:28], helping him uncover childhood experiences [19:02] that fueled a lifelong search for validation [20:08] and shaped his ambition through unresolved trauma [21:08]. He explains his philosophy of "winning the day" by focusing on daily habits instead of distant outcomes [22:37], embracing the process [24:44], and valuing skill development over raw talent [26:34]. Closing the episode, Algee previews his upcoming EP, television pilot, film projects, and producing ventures [27:57], offers advice to his younger self [29:41], and reflects on the growth that has made him most proud [30:41]. Honest, inspiring, and deeply reflective, this episode offers practical wisdom on healing, discipline, purpose, and defining success from the inside out.  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Algee Smith: @itsalgee Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Jemele Hill Knows Marriage Isn’t 50/50 28.07.2026 54мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with sports journalist Jemele Hill for an honest conversation about love, marriage, and building a partnership on your own terms. Jemele shares why she defines marriage as a daily commitment rather than a destination [01:04], reflecting on how years of prioritizing her career [03:03] and lessons from her family [03:23] initially made marriage feel unlikely. She opens up about meeting her husband [07:40], embracing a relationship without rigid expectations [09:05], and how a long-distance romance built on consistency, intention, and clear communication laid the foundation for their future together [11:42]. Jemele also recalls making their relationship public [14:53], explains the importance of "minding your business" instead of letting outside opinions dictate your relationship [17:06], and challenges common misconceptions about dating, marriage, and Black women's desirability. The conversation expands into the role money, ambition, and shared values play in healthy relationships, as Jemele discusses financial compatibility [22:42], redefining standards beyond salary [26:01], and the humorous story behind her "Amex glow up" [26:29]. She explains why unwavering career support from a partner matters [28:00], how marriage has increased accountability and encouraged greater vulnerability [29:44] [34:35], and why true emotional safety allows her to embrace a softer side of herself [37:07]. Closing the conversation, Jemele offers practical dating advice [41:49], shares her perspective on choosing marriage without feeling pressured by timelines around children [46:04], reflects on navigating a new season of professional transition [49:45], and wraps by discussing her latest book and what's next [53:16]. Thoughtful, empowering, and deeply personal, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on relationships, success, and defining happiness on your own terms.  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Jemele Hilll: @jemelehill Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Lil Rel Howery Knows You Have To Define Your Own Success 21.07.2026 52мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Lil Rel Howery for an inspiring conversation about building a lasting career in entertainment through persistence, purpose, and creative evolution. Rel reflects on the moment he realized he'd truly "made it" in film and television [00:46], then looks back to the high school performance that first showed him he could win over even the toughest audiences [02:04]. He shares how directing became part of his journey after encouragement from Bobcat Goldthwait [03:29], the lessons he learned making his directorial debut [06:19], why collaborating closely with every department shaped the experience, and how casting friends and fellow comedians—including support from Tiffany Haddish—helped bring his vision to life [07:56]. The conversation also explores his love of horror-comedy [11:00], how comedy continues to evolve alongside audiences [13:46], and the way grief and personal experiences have informed both his work and perspective [16:47]. Rel also discusses the importance of inspiring the next generation to understand the many career paths available in entertainment [19:10], the values instilled by his parents through community service and mentorship [22:46], and the filmmakers who inspired his own creative ambitions, from Steven Spielberg [27:08] to the lessons he drew from Sylvester Stallone and Rocky [29:04]. He explains why studying the business has been just as important as mastering the craft [30:37], the unique challenge of acting while directing [32:34], and how he now defines success through personal milestones like Get Out and his Chicago Theatre special [33:54] [36:36]. Closing on a reflective note, Rel shares how he stays grounded and present [43:53], the wisdom and healing that have shaped this stage of his life [47:07], and previews his new horror-comedy Haunted Heist, arriving in theaters on July 24 [50:50].  Ask or Share with Amber: [email protected] Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Lil Rel Howell: @comedianlilrel Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Amber Knows She's Pregnant 14.07.2026 24мин

  In this special episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes shares the biggest personal announcement of her life—she's expecting her first child. Amber opens the episode with her exciting pregnancy reveal [00:00], explains why she waited to share the news publicly [01:59], and reflects on manifesting the space to embrace motherhood through maternity leave [03:52]. She also recounts the encouraging conversation in Las Vegas that shifted her mindset [05:22], the emotional moment she took the pregnancy test [06:41], and the unforgettable surprise of telling Conor they were expecting [08:59]. Amber candidly discusses keeping the pregnancy private [11:16], navigating first-trimester exhaustion [11:50], and adjusting to new routines centered around nutrition, hydration, and prenatal care [14:04]. As the journey continues, Amber shares the emotional experience of telling family at 12 weeks [17:32], explains why she chose to skip a traditional gender reveal [19:13], and instead joyfully reveals the gender on the show [19:54]. Looking ahead, she invites listeners to be part of this next chapter [21:02], laughs about baby names and maternity fashion [23:17], and closes with heartfelt reflections on gratitude, growth, and the life-changing adventure of becoming a mother [24:02]. Filled with vulnerability, excitement, and optimism, this episode marks the beginning of a deeply personal new season and celebrates the power of embracing life's biggest milestones. Ask or share with Amber: [email protected]  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Candiace Dillard Bassett Knows IVF and Family Planning 07.07.2026 58мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Candiace Dillard Bassett for a candid conversation about fertility, IVF, and the deeply personal journey to intentional motherhood. Candiace shares why family planning became a priority [00:00], walks through the beginning of her IVF experience [03:00], and breaks down the importance of genetic testing [06:10] and understanding the IVF process [09:09]. She opens up about navigating hormonal treatments [12:01], overcoming physical and emotional challenges throughout the process [14:54], the realities of egg retrieval [18:11], and processing gender expectations and disappointment [21:01] while learning to trust her own path. Candiace also reflects on the emotional highs and lows of IVF [23:49] and how the experience ultimately reshaped her perspective on motherhood [27:12]. The conversation continues with an honest look at emotional resilience during fertility treatments [32:32], why Candiace chose to publicly share her story to help others [35:54], and the importance of thoroughly researching fertility options [37:50]. Amber and Candiace also discuss the unique healthcare challenges Black women face [40:37], advocating for yourself in medical settings and interracial relationships [43:44], the invaluable role of doulas during childbirth [47:34], and Candiace's labor and delivery experience [50:29]. The episode closes with reflections on balancing music and personal growth [53:34] and how motherhood has transformed her life, purpose, and identity [56:59]. Blending vulnerability, education, and empowerment, this episode offers an insightful guide for anyone navigating fertility, reproductive health, and the evolving journey of motherhood. Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Candiace Dillard Bassett: @therealcandiace Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Shayla Cowan Knows How To Land The Plane 30.06.2026 56мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with award-winning producer and Collective Edge President Shayla Cowan for an insightful conversation about leadership, career evolution, and building a lasting legacy in entertainment. At (00:30), Shayla is introduced, followed by a look at how she and Amber first connected at (01:12). By 04:15, Shayla shares why she made the move from Los Angeles to New York, and at 06:18, she reflects on her 15-year journey in the industry. At (09:02), she breaks down her rise from executive assistant to manager, including a memorable “sunglasses interview” story at (14:03) that highlights her boldness and work ethic (17:00). The conversation continues with insights on leading as the boss (21:11), balancing comfort and creativity (23:48), and planning major career moves (25:33), all while navigating imposter syndrome (28:16). The episode also dives into the leadership skills that define successful executives, including setting boundaries and leading with empathy. Shayla shares how she manages stress through baking (30:10), self-talk and music (30:34), and offers strategies for handling difficult people (31:36), including her “24-hour rule” (34:50) and approach to disarming tense situations (36:57). She recounts powerful industry moments like the Pulled Up Agency story (38:47), explores the balance between ego and leadership (43:42), and walks through a high-pressure concert contract crunch (46:58). The conversation wraps with lessons on maintaining boundaries and off-hours (49:05), leaving your light on for opportunity (50:55), and putting actionable steps together (52:24), before closing with key takeaways and gratitude at (54:27). Through candid storytelling and practical advice, Shayla offers invaluable lessons on executive leadership, personal growth, resilience, and building influence without sacrificing authenticity. Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Shayla Cowman: @shayla_pc Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Justin Tranter Knows It’s Never Too Late To Pivot 23.06.2026 54мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Justin Tranter for a candid conversation about career reinvention, creativity, and finding success on your own terms. Justin reflects on the journey from rock star to hit songwriter [00:00], sharing how understanding the balance between artistry and industry structure [11:20] ultimately led to a major career pivot [20:47]. Justin opens up about recognizing when change is necessary, embracing new opportunities, and discovering the joy of writing songs for other artists [25:52]. The conversation offers valuable insight into navigating the music business while remaining authentic, adaptable, and committed to personal growth. Amber and Justin also explore the realities of sustaining a creative career, discussing the songwriter's journey [27:51], setting meaningful and achievable goals [31:53], and the importance of self-awareness in identifying strengths and limitations [36:25]. Justin shares lessons on pivoting throughout different stages of life and career [39:49], challenges common misconceptions about fame and success [45:01], and explains why embracing both strengths and weaknesses is essential for long-term fulfillment [51:06]. Packed with wisdom for creatives, entrepreneurs, and anyone facing a crossroads, this episode is a masterclass in evolution, resilience, and trusting the path forward.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Justin Tranter: @tranterjustin Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Eric Bellinger Knows Men Cry Too 16.06.2026 55мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Eric Bellinger for a powerful conversation about emotional safety, vulnerability, and the foundations of healthy relationships. Eric reflects on how grief shaped his emotional journey [03:04], the impact of family dynamics on the way he learned to express feelings [05:58], and the importance of setting relationship standards rooted in trust and communication [09:03] [11:54]. The discussion also explores masculinity and emotional openness [15:13], the role of compromise in long-term partnerships [17:59], and how growth and change can strengthen relationships over time [20:54]. The conversation deepens into the transformative power of vulnerability [24:02] [27:58], navigating emotional safety and trust [30:45], and how grief can become a catalyst for personal growth [32:56]. Eric shares how music became an outlet for expressing emotions [35:21], the role therapy played in his self-awareness journey [39:12], and how fatherhood reshaped his understanding of masculinity [41:29]. Through honest reflections on emotional awareness, reciprocity, and supporting loved ones [48:38] [50:05], Eric offers valuable insight into building stronger relationships, embracing vulnerability, and celebrating fatherhood through both life and music [51:28].  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Eric Bellinger: @ericbellinger Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Amber Knows Emotions Are Temporary But Decisions Are Permanent 09.06.2026 38мин

  In this deeply personal episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes reflects on the life lessons hidden within her tattoos, using each piece of ink as a marker of growth, grief, love, and self-discovery. From navigating the weight of loss and the emotions that inspired early tattoo decisions [02:54] to lessons learned from impulsive choices in relationships [05:50], Amber explores how significant moments have shaped her perspective over time. She also discusses the illusion of covering up pain rather than addressing it [09:09], the meaning behind friendship tattoos and evolving relationships [11:58], and the temporary nature of trends and external validation [14:53]. The conversation expands into the role boredom can play in poor decision-making [18:12], the story behind her final tattoo and the wisdom passed down from her parents [21:09], and the importance of embracing mistakes as part of the human experience [24:01]. Through vulnerability, humor, and self-reflection, Amber shares valuable insights on personal growth, self-awareness, and the lessons that come from living, learning, and trusting the journey. This episode serves as a reminder that every scar, story, and mistake can become a meaningful part of who we are. Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Ravie B Knows Your 30's Are The Best Thing That Will Ever Happen To You 02.06.2026 1ч 1мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Raven B. Varona for an honest conversation about self-discovery, healing, and navigating the transition from your 20s into your 30s. Together, they reflect on embracing change and personal evolution [00:00], the lessons, regrets, and realizations that shape adulthood [02:56], and the importance of asking deeper questions about purpose and fulfillment [05:48]. The discussion explores relationships and expectations [09:06], finding your voice and trusting yourself [14:50], and how loss can become a catalyst for growth and transformation [18:05]. They also highlight the value of community [21:00] and the need to redefine success and self-worth beyond external validation [23:49]. The conversation expands into purpose, creativity, and the lifelong journey of becoming your most authentic self. Raven opens up about finding meaning amid chaos [31:32], evolving her sense of purpose through self-discovery [34:07], and recognizing patterns of co-dependency while learning to make decisions with confidence [38:19]. She also discusses the role of therapy and self-reflection [40:41], the power of play and creativity in adulthood [43:14], and the importance of managing inner dialogue and self-talk [51:51]. Through vulnerability and insight, this episode offers a powerful perspective on personal growth, emotional wellness, and creating a life that aligns with who you truly are.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Ravie B: @ravieb Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Dr. Siri Knows Good Therapy Ends 26.05.2026 1ч 3мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Dr. Siri Sat Nam Singh for a powerful conversation about therapy, emotional healing, and personal transformation. Together, they unpack the purpose of therapy [00:00], the journey of finding the right therapist [03:06], and the idea that therapy can evolve or even come to an end as growth occurs [06:02]. Dr. Siri also explores the importance of empathy and authentic connection within the therapeutic process [08:51], while discussing emotional growth through reframing perspectives [11:48], balancing the heart and mind [14:55], and understanding gender dynamics in healing spaces [18:12]. The conversation expands into intuition, relationships, and emotional expression, highlighting the balance between masculine and feminine energies [31:36] [35:01] and the importance of communication and vulnerability in healthy connections [39:50] [43:39] [48:58]. Dr. Siri also reflects on navigating personal change and growth [55:01] while addressing the future of therapy in an increasingly technology-driven world [01:01:00]. Blending mental health insight with spiritual wisdom, this episode offers a thoughtful guide for anyone seeking deeper healing, stronger relationships, and a more intentional connection to themselves.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Dr. Siri: @drsirinow Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite Books  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  If You Knew Better: Jason Lee Knows the Truth About Influence and Fame 23.05.2026 57мин

  The Black Effect Presents... If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes! In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Jason Lee, founder of Hollywood Unlocked, for an honest conversation about personal growth, accountability, and evolving beyond public perception. Jason reflects on his journey from controversy to clarity, discussing the impact of reality TV on identity [09:09], the challenges of navigating public criticism [05:47], and how strategic chaos helped shape his business success [11:47]. He also opens up about ownership, influence, and authenticity [15:03] [17:57], while sharing insights on therapy, sobriety, and learning to regain control over his personal life [20:49]. The conversation deepens into responsibility, faith, and the importance of using influence with intention. Jason discusses relationships, accountability, and the illusion of control [29:09] [33:47], while emphasizing how resilience, purposeful partnerships, and self-awareness have transformed his outlook [37:36] [45:44]. From building a media empire to inspiring the next generation [50:00], this episode explores the balance between ambition and healing, offering a powerful perspective on growth, redemption, and becoming more intentional in both business and life.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Jason Lee:  @theonlyjasonlee  @hollywoodunlocked Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite Books  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Estelle Knows Healing Starts With Surrender and Release 19.05.2026 1ч 18мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Estelle for a heartfelt conversation about healing, authenticity, and personal transformation. Estelle reflects on her journey of self-discovery and emotional growth [05:07], opening up about navigating family dynamics [09:51], embracing difficult but necessary conversations [19:56], and learning to honor her own unique path [25:07]. The discussion explores the importance of acceptance and surrender in the healing process [30:12], while highlighting how vulnerability and self-awareness can create space for deeper peace and personal evolution [35:03]. The conversation expands into motherhood, timing, and the lessons that come with navigating life’s uncertainties [39:05] [42:43]. Estelle shares insight into trusting divine timing when making life choices [47:18], the power of perspective in shaping personal growth [53:06], and the emotional process of starting over while reconnecting with her roots [01:00:14] [01:07:06]. Through honesty, reflection, and wisdom, this episode offers a powerful perspective on healing, identity, and embracing the freedom that comes from becoming your most authentic self.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Estelle: @estelledarlings Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite Books  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  Jozzy Knows Sexuality Is Still Taboo 05.05.2026 1ч 10мин

  In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Jozzy for a powerful conversation on authenticity, self-expression, and navigating identity in the music industry. From embracing her true self [00:00] [03:12] to unpacking the journey of self-discovery and breaking free from societal expectations [06:02] [08:52], Jozzy shares how confidence and vulnerability have shaped her path. She also speaks on trailblazing within the industry [12:11], maintaining creative control [15:07], and challenging the impact of the male gaze on women and artists [20:51], while emphasizing the importance of building a supportive and inclusive community [24:03]. The conversation expands into relationships, emotional intelligence, and personal growth, highlighting the need for intentionality and self-awareness in romantic connections [17:58] [41:02]. Jozzy reflects on confidence as a continuous practice [26:54] [35:54], while encouraging others to embrace their journey and evolve unapologetically [48:31]. Closing with a message on striving to be your best self—not just for personal success but to inspire others [57:46]—this episode offers a compelling perspective on authenticity, growth, and carving your own lane in life and career.  Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram: @ambergrimes Follow Jozzy. on Instagram: @jozzy Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET  Follow Amber's Book Club Get Amber's Book Club Merch  Read Amber's Favorite BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.