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• Why You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore?! Codependency, Motherhood & the Unconscious Mind 05.06.2026 47мин

  How much of who you are is actually yours, and how much was handed to you by the stories, expectations, and cultural myths you grew up believing? In this episode, therapist Eli Weinstein sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and Jungian depth psychology practitioner Vanessa Bennett for a powerful conversation about identity, codependency, motherhood, relationships, and the unconscious narratives that quietly shape our lives. Drawing from her new book, The Motherhood Myth, Vanessa explores how many of the messages we receive about motherhood, self-sacrifice, gender roles, and worth are rooted in systems that have existed for generations. Together, Eli and Vanessa unpack how these stories influence not only mothers, but all of us—whether we're parents or not. They discuss why martyrdom has become intertwined with modern motherhood, how shame fuels codependent behaviors, and what happens when our identities become dependent on our children, partners, or external validation. Vanessa explains why so many people find themselves saying, "I don't know who I am anymore," and how that question often reveals a much deeper truth. The conversation also dives into masculinity, fatherhood, sexuality, emotional regulation, and the hidden ways people use relationships to avoid discomfort and uncertainty. Vanessa shares how Jungian psychology helps us understand the symbolic stories we inherit—from Mother Mary to Cinderella—and why healing often begins by questioning the narratives we've accepted without realizing it. This episode is an invitation to examine the stories shaping your life, reconnect with your authentic identity, and build relationships rooted in responsibility rather than dependency. If you've ever struggled with losing yourself in a relationship, parenthood, people-pleasing, codependency, or the pressure to be everything for everyone, this conversation is for you. Topics Covered: What the "Motherhood Myth" actually is and why it affects everyone—not just parents How martyrdom became connected to motherhood and self-worth The role shame plays in codependency and identity formation Why patriarchy impacts both women and menAnd more Resources & Links: 📘 The Motherhood Myth by Vanessa Bennett 📘 It's Not Me, It's You by Vanessa Bennett & John Kim 📱 Instagram: @vanessabennett ✍️ Substack: Vanessa Bennett Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist: 🌐 EliWeinsteinLCSW.com/book 📱 Eli's Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw 🎙️ Podcast Instagram: @thedudetherapist About Vanessa Bennett: Vanessa Bennett is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and Jungian depth psychology practitioner specializing in codependency recovery, relationships, and the unconscious mind. Through her work, she helps people better understand the stories, patterns, and emotional dynamics that shape their lives. She is the co-author of It's Not Me, It's You and author of The Motherhood Myth. This show is hosted by Eli Weinstein and produced by Rainbow Creative. Executive Producer & Editor: Matthew "MoJo" Jones For sales and sponsorship opportunities, contact: podcasts@rainbowcreative.co Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:25 Meet Vanessa Bennett & The Motherhood Myth 3:22 What Are the Myths of Motherhood? 7:11 How Dominator Systems Keep Us in Shame 7:51 How Patriarchy Hurts Men Too 8:42 The Martyr Mother: Is Self-Sacrifice Good Parenting? 10:19 The Mother Mary Archetype Reexamined 16:10 Codependency & Losing Your Identity in Motherhood 21:47 Stealing Your Child's Growth (The Hard Truth) 35:11 Sex Is Not About Sex 37:51 The Real Meaning of Cinderella 41:26 The Fairy Godmother Explained 45:18 Key Takeaways from The Motherhood Myth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Why Most People Don’t Know How to Love | Robin Ducharme & Eli Weinstein 28.05.2026 44мин

  How do we actually build healthy relationships in a world where most people were never taught how to love well? And why do so many relationships fail, not because people don't care, but because they never learned the skills required to sustain connection? In this episode, therapist Eli Weinstein sits down with relationship educator, podcast host, and author Robin Ducharme for a deeply thoughtful conversation about relational literacy, forgiveness, emotional responsibility, and what it truly means to create intentional relationships. Robin shares how six years of interviewing some of the world's leading relationship experts, including Esther Perel, Dr. Sue Johnson, the Gottmans, Dr. Shefali, and many more, completely transformed the way she views love, partnership, parenting, and self-growth. Together, Eli and Robin unpack the myths that quietly sabotage modern relationships, including the pressure to find "the one," the obsession with chemistry and sparks, and the unrealistic expectation that one person should fulfill every emotional need we have. They also explore how resentment keeps couples emotionally trapped in the past, why forgiveness is often misunderstood, and how intentionality changes the entire foundation of a relationship from the very beginning. Eli opens up about the emotional weight of trying to convince people to love you the way you need. Robin reflects on how quitting alcohol helped her become more present, peaceful, and emotionally connected in her relationships. This conversation dives deep into communication, emotional maturity, parenting, healing, and the everyday practices that create stronger relationships over time. It's not about perfection—it's about learning the skills most of us were never taught. If you've ever struggled with resentment, emotional disconnection, unrealistic expectations in love, or learning how to show up better in relationships, this episode is for you. Topics Covered: What "relational literacy" actually means Why most people were never taught how to build healthy relationships The soulmate myth and why "finding the one" can be harmful Why chemistry and sparks are often overrated How resentment quietly destroys connection over time What forgiveness really means in relationships The importance of intentionality from the beginning Why quitting alcohol changed Robin's relationships and mindset How to stop trying to convince people to love you properly And more Resources & Links: 📘 Real Love Ready by Robin Ducharme 🌐 RealLoveReady.com 🎙️ Let's Talk Love Podcast 🌸 In Bloom Summit Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist: 📖 Book: From I Do To We Do 🌐 EliWeinsteinLCSW.com/book 📱 Eli's Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw 🎙️ Podcast Instagram: @thedudetherapist About Robin Ducharme: Robin Ducharme is the founder of Real Love Ready, host of the Let's Talk Love podcast, and author of Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy. Through her annual In Bloom summit and years of conversations with leading relationship experts, Robin helps people develop healthier relationships rooted in intentionality, emotional awareness, and deeper connection. This show is hosted by Eli Weinstein and produced by Rainbow Creative. Executive Producer & Editor: Matthew "MoJo" Jones For sales and sponsorship opportunities, contact: podcasts@rainbowcreative.co 0:00 Introduction & Meet Robin Ducharme 2:04 Robin's Story: How Real Love Ready Began 4:50 Writing the Book: Six Years of Relationship Wisdom 8:09 The Global Struggle with Connection Today 12:47 Being Present: How Robin Changed Her Life 14:06 The Power of Intention in Relationships 18:35 Intentional Relationships & Building with Hector 19:55 Forgiveness: The Missing Conversation 30:40 Relationship Myths: Debunking the Soulmate 32:04 The Chemistry & Spark Myth 35:38 Interdependence vs. Expecting One Person to Be Everything 37:10 The Import/Export List Exercise for Couples 39:27 About the Book Real Love Ready & In Bloom Summit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Hidden Reason So Many People Feel Unhappy | Dr. Gillian Mandich 20.05.2026 54мин

  What does it actually take to be happy? And why are so many of us chasing it the wrong way? In this episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with happiness researcher, professor, and author Dr.  Gillian Mandich for a deeply honest conversation about what science says happiness really is, and what it isn't.  From toxic positivity and emotional suppression to social connection, discipline, and daily habits, Dr. Gillian breaks down why happiness isn't a destination you arrive at, but a practice you build over time. Dr. Gillian shares her unexpected path into studying happiness and why some of the most common beliefs we have about fulfillment are actually making us more miserable. Together, Eli and Dr. Gillian unpack the pressure to always appear positive, how negativity bias quietly shapes our lives, and why chasing constant happiness can leave people feeling even more disconnected. They also explore the power of "micro-moments," why hard things aren't necessarily bad things, and how meaningful relationships impact both mental and physical health. Eli opens up about the pressure of being perceived as "the happy guy," the importance of family dinners without phones, and what it means to create intentional moments of connection in a world designed to distract us. This is a conversation about happiness, pressure, emotional honesty, and learning how to build a life that actually feels good, not just one that looks good from the outside. If you've ever wondered why happiness feels so hard to hold onto, this episode is for you! Topics Covered: Why happiness is something you practice, not something you find The truth about “the pursuit of happiness” Why trying to be happy all the time can backfire The science behind negativity biasWhat “micro-moments” are and why they matter Toxic positivity and emotional suppression Why social connection predicts long-term happiness and health Resources & Links: 📱 Dr. Gillian Mandich: https://www.instagram.com/drgillianmandich/ 🌐 GillianMandich.com Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist: 📖 Book: From I Do To We Do 🌐 https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book 📱 Eli’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ 🎙️ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/ This show is hosted by Eli Weinstein and produced by Rainbow Creative.Executive Producer & Editor: Matthew “MoJo” Jones For sales and sponsorship opportunities, contact: podcasts@rainbowcreative.co CHAPTERS 0:00 – Intro & Welcome 2:00 – How Dr. Gillian Accidentally Became a Happiness Researcher 6:15 – Why Most People Misunderstand Happiness 10:00 – The Real Meaning Behind “The Pursuit of Happiness” 14:00 – Happiness as a Practice, Not a Destination 18:10 – Why Constant Positivity Backfires 22:30 – The Science of Micro-Moments 27:45 – Toxic Positivity & Emotional Suppression 33:00 – Negativity Bias and Rewiring the Brain 38:20 – Hard Things Aren’t Always Bad Things 44:00 – Social Media, Comparison & Happiness 49:00 – The #1 Predictor of Long-Term Happiness 54:00 – Why Family Connection Matters More Than We Think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Why Men Feel “Not Enough” (And Don’t Talk About It) | Trey Tucker 06.05.2026 36мин

  What does it really mean to be "enough" as a man, and why do so many men feel like they're falling short? In this episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with therapist, podcaster, and founder of Rugged Counseling, Trey Tucker, for a direct and deeply honest conversation about the internal battles men face but rarely talk about. From anxiety and identity to life transitions and emotional suppression, Trey breaks down why so many men feel like they're constantly running on empty and don't know why. Trey shares his unconventional path from the corporate world into therapy and how that journey shaped his mission to make mental health more accessible and less intimidating for men. Together, Eli and Trey explore why traditional therapy often misses the mark with male clients, how deeply ingrained beliefs like "I'm not enough" take hold, and what it actually looks like to rebuild a sense of self-worth. They also dive into the idea that men are wired to be tested, the disappearance of meaningful rites of passage, and why discomfort, challenge, and even silence can be powerful tools for growth. Drawing on examples like Israel's mandatory military service, they unpack what resilience really looks like and how it can be cultivated in a modern world that often avoids struggle. This is a conversation about pressure, purpose, and learning how to show up fully without numbing out or shutting down. If you've ever felt like you should have it all together but don't, this episode will hit. Topics Covered: Why so many men struggle with the belief “I’m not enough” The biggest challenges men bring into therapy Why life transitions hit men differently Emotional suppression and the “brewers vs. bottlers” concept The lack of strong male support systems Why traditional therapy doesn’t always work for men The importance of challenge and being tested Lost rites of passage and modern masculinity And more Resources & Links: Trey Tucker @RuggedCounseling: instagram.com/ruggedcounseling Tough Enough by Trey Tucker: https://a.co/d/0gfnVfFn Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist: 📖 Book: From I Do To We Do 🌐 https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book 📱 Eli’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ 🎙️ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/ This show is hosted by Eli Weinstein and produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/). Executive Producer & Editor: Matthew “MoJo” Jones For sales and sponsorship opportunities, contact: podcasts@rainbowcreative.co Chapters 0:00 – Intro & Welcome 1:26 – Trey's Journey: Corporate World → Education → Therapy 4:40 – What Called Trey to Therapy 7:07 – The Most Common Issues Men Bring to Therapy 9:58 – Brewers vs. Bottlers: Why Women Handle Change Differently 11:00 – The Male Support System Problem (IVF Story) 12:05 – How Trey Breaks Down Barriers in the First Session 14:32 – When Trey Takes the Wheel in Therapy 17:20 – Trey's Therapist Yelled at Him to Stop Writing 19:01 – You're a Whole Person — Not Just a Brain 21:12 – The Belief That Haunts Most Men: "I'm Not Enough" 23:05 – The Lost Rites of Passage & What Replaced Them 28:25 – Eli's Experience Almost Joining the Israeli Army 33:00 – The Lesson: You CAN Figure It Out Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The REAL Cause of Chronic Pain (It’s Not What You Think) | Nicole Sachs 29.04.2026 52мин

  In this episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with therapist and bestselling author Nicole Sachs, LCSW, for a powerful conversation about the mind-body connection and how our emotional world directly shapes our physical health. Nicole shares her deeply personal journey from being diagnosed with a debilitating spinal condition at just 19 years old to becoming one of the leading voices in mind-body medicine, carrying forward the work of Dr. John Sarno. Together, Eli and Nicole explore why chronic pain and anxiety are often rooted in unresolved emotional experiences, how the brain works to keep us “safe in the most unsafe way,” and what it actually takes to begin healing. They break down the neuroscience behind chronic pain, challenge the belief that symptoms are purely physical, and offer a grounded, compassionate framework for understanding how the body communicates distress. Nicole also introduces her signature “Journal Speak” practice, a structured, daily writing method designed to help people safely process repressed emotions and begin releasing long-held pain. The conversation also dives into how stress becomes chronic illness, what to do when a partner or loved one doesn’t understand this work, and why even skeptics should be open to trying these tools. Throughout the episode, Eli and Nicole emphasize that healing is possible—and that you are not broken. Topics Covered: How repressed emotions can manifest as physical pain and illness Why the brain tries to protect you in ways that keep you stuck The science and psychology behind chronic pain Nicole’s personal healing journey and 25+ years pain-free “Journal Speak” and how to start the practice yourself Navigating skepticism and resistance from others Tools for building awareness and starting your healing process And much more Resources & Links: 📖 Mind Your Body by Nicole Sachs 🎙️ The Cure for Chronic Pain Podcast 🌐 https://www.nicolesachs.com 📱 Instagram: @nicolesachslcsw 🏕️ Omega Institute Retreat (June) 🌵 Miraval Austin Retreat (Fall) 📖 The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk 📖 Feeling Good – Dr. David Burns 📖 From I Do to We Do by Eli Weinstein Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist: Book From I Do To We Do: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book Eli’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/ This show is hosted and produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer & Editor Matthew “MoJo” Jones. For sales and sponsorship opportunities, reach out to podcasts@rainbowcreative.co Chapter Timecodes: 00:00 Introduction & Nicole’s Impact on Eli’s Healing Journey 00:52 Who Is Nicole Sachs? Mind-Body Medicine Explained 02:42 Nicole’s Story: Diagnosis at 19 03:26 The Legacy of Dr. John Sarno 05:33 Making the Mind-Body Connection Make Sense 07:42 When Stress Turns Into Chronic Pain 08:08 Nicole’s Healing: 25 Years Pain-Free 09:56 Medication, Fear & Misconceptions 13:51 “Safe in the Most Unsafe Way” Explained 17:29 Chronic Pain as Communication 20:05 Listening to Your Body Before Crisis 24:46 The Pressure Cooker World We Live In 31:07 When Your Partner Doesn’t Get It 34:35 Unlearning Myths About Pain & Emotion 42:50 Opening the Door to Repressed Feelings Safely 47:22 Journal Speak Practice Explained 49:45 Final Message: You Are Not Alone 50:33 Where to Find Nicole & Her Work Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Teen Parenting Mistakes That Are Breaking Your Relationship (And How to Fix It)! 22.04.2026 51мин

  In this episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author of the upcoming book Love the Teen You Have, for her second appearance on The Dude Therapist!  Together, they take a grounded, honest look at parenting through the teen years and why this stage is often misunderstood, under-resourced, and emotionally charged for both parents and kids. They explore why it’s never too late to repair and rebuild connection with your teen, how many “behavior problems” are actually bids for connection, and why parenting the child in front of you matters more than clinging to an idealized version of who you thought they’d be. Dr. Lockhart also breaks down which battles are actually worth having, how over-monitoring tools like Life 360 can increase anxiety and mistrust, and why rigid discipline structures often miss the point of adolescent development. The conversation also dives into screen time and digital boundaries, the role of chores and structure without control-based parenting, and how messaging around masculinity can impact boys’ emotional health. Finally, Dr. Lockhart introduces the concept of re-parenting, how increasing your own self-awareness and healing your inner child directly shapes the kind of parent you become, and how unconditional love, paired with healthy boundaries, can fundamentally shift the parent-teen relationship. Why parenting teens (ages 9–19) is often under-supported Repairing relationships with teens — even after years of disconnection “Bad behavior” as communication and bids for connection Choosing your battles: what matters vs. what doesn’t Chores, structure, and avoiding rigid, control-based parenting Toxic masculinity messaging and boys’ emotional development How unconditional love reshapes long-term parent-child dynamics And much more! Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dr.annlouise.lockhart Links: https://linktr.ee/dr.annlouise.lockhart  Book From I Do To We Do: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/bookEli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/ This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer & Editor Matthew “MoJo” Jones. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to podcasts@rainbowcreative.co  00:00 Introduction & Welcome03:40 Why Teen Parenting Needs More Attention06:10 Reconnecting With Your Teen (It’s Never Too Late)09:45 Behavior as Communication12:30 Choosing Your Battles as a Parent15:20 Messy Rooms, Independence & Letting Go18:05 Individuation & Teen Identity Formation20:40 Screen Time, Social Media & Boundaries23:10 Life 360, Monitoring & Trust Issues27:35 Chores, Structure & Rigid Parenting Pitfalls31:10 Masculinity Messaging & Boys’ Mental Health34:40 Re-Parenting Yourself Explained39:15 How Inner Work Changes Parenting43:30 Final Takeaways & Closing Advice Topics Covered:Connect with Our Guest:Connect with Eli & The Dude Therapist:Chapter Timecodes: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Infertility, IVF & Mental Health: Dr. Lucky on Myths, Testing Timelines, and Coping as a Couple 15.04.2026 46мин

  In this episode, Eli opens up about his and his wife’s personal infertility journey and sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon, a double board-certified OB-GYN and reproductive endocrinologist at RMA of New York and author of The Lucky Egg (out January 13). Together, they explore why conversations around infertility have become more mainstream and the emotional weight so many couples quietly carry, including shame, comparison, grief, anxiety, and the very real risk of treatment dropout due to psychological stress. Dr. Lucky challenges common misconceptions, explaining that infertility is not solely a female issue, lifestyle alone cannot prevent it, and egg count does not equal overall fertility. She outlines when to seek testing, including irregular cycles, trying for 12 months if under 35, 6 months if 35+, and 3 months at 40 - and emphasizes the importance of a proactive care mindset. The conversation also highlights how clinicians can better integrate emotional support into treatment plans, how couples can show up for one another without blame, and how to protect identity and self-worth during the process. They discuss navigating social triggers, handling insensitive comments, and offering practical language to support loved ones who may be struggling. Dr. Lucky also shares the heart behind writing The Lucky Egg, addresses common internet fertility myths, and leaves listeners with a grounded, hopeful message: you are not alone, and support matters. Connect with our Guest Dr. Lucky’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucky.sekhon/ Website: https://theluckyegg.com/  Order “The Lucky Egg”: https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/lucky-egg-9781250408716/  Connect with Eli and The Dude Therapist! Book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book - Order Today!Eli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/ This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer & Editor Matthew “MoJo” Jones. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to Shane Thornton at shane@rainbowcreative.co Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Infertility journey 01:02 Meet Dr. Lucky Sekhon 04:59 Why infertility talk exploded 07:54 Emotional toll and resilience 11:16 Common fertility myths 16:27 Egg numbers and expectations 17:36 Hope stats and the unknown 21:23 When to start testing 24:24 Proactive care mindset 25:50 Supporting each other 28:30 Protecting identity 30:20 Handling social triggers 34:17 Practical support scripts 35:57 Writing The Lucky Egg 39:29 Internet fertility myths 41:47 Hopeful closing message 43:08 Where to find the book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• How to Heal Anxious & Avoidant Attachment (Nervous System Explained) | Jessica Baum 27.03.2026 35мин

  In this interview, psychotherapist Jessica Baum returns to discuss her second book, "Safe," which expands beyond her first book "Anxiously Attached" to cover all attachment styles through a "Wheel of Attachment," embedded attachment wounds, and the neuroscience of healing. She explains how attachment patterns shape nervous system responses during conflict. Anxious tendencies can include people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, and escalation, while avoidant tendencies can include withdrawal and shutdown. She also discusses how early caregiver attunement, rupture and repair, and emotional presence influence a child's felt sense of safety. Baum describes "earned security" as possible at any age through neuroplasticity and "anchoring relationships" that provide consistent, warm co-regulation and disconfirming experiences. She notes that people often gravitate toward familiar chaos. She also addresses navigating relationships when only one partner commits to the work and shares practical starting points like mapping core wounds and seeking safe, supportive connections. Connect with our guest Jessica Baum!  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/  Order “Safe” Today: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe  Connect with Eli and The Dude Therapist! Book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book - Order Today! Eli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/   This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer Matthew “MoJo” Jones and Associate Producer & Editor Xavier Adetula. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to Shane Thornton at shane@rainbowcreative.co  CHAPTERS 00:00 Conflict and Attachment 00:47 Meet Jessica Baum 01:58 Why Safe Matters 04:20 Vulnerability and Healing 08:07 Attachment Goes Mainstream 12:21 Childhood Wiring Explained 15:07 What Safety Means 20:02 Earned Secure Attachment 22:35 Choosing Safe People 26:20 When Partners Diverge 31:03 Practical Takeaways 32:51 Where to Find Jessica 33:41 Closing Thanks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• F the Fairytale: Chemistry vs Curiosity, Soulmates, and Intentional Dating | Dude Therapist w/ Damona Hoffman 17.03.2026 56мин

  On this episode of Dude Therapist, host Eli sits down with certified dating coach and relationship strategist Damona Hoffman, the official love expert for The Drew Barrymore Show and Access Hollywood, to break down the biggest shifts in dating over the past 20 years.  From the rise of texting replacing face-to-face connection to the myths of “instant chemistry,” Damona reveals why modern love often feels confusing, and how to navigate it successfully. Learn the relationship truths no one talks about: the fairytale myth of effortless love, the pressure of the relationship escalator, and the paradox of choice. Damona shares her proven framework for finding lasting love: three must-haves, one deal breaker, and four pillars of compatibility: shared values, shared goals, communication & conflict resolution, and trust & respect. Discover why partners can’t fill every need, the importance of community, and how curiosity beats instant sparks when building a mindful, fulfilling partnership. If you’re tired of dating drama and want practical strategies for love that lasts, this episode is for you. Watch or Listen now and transform the way you approach modern relationships! Connect with Damona! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/  Damona’s Book: F the Fairy Tale Book by Damona Hoffman https://a.co/d/08SD7f6M  Damona’s Podcast: https://damonahoffman.com/dates-and-mates-podcast/  Connect with Eli and The Dude Therapist! Book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book - Order Today! Eli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/   This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer Matthew “MoJo” Jones and Associate Producer & Editor Xavier Adetula. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to Shane Thornton at shane@rainbowcreative.co Chapters 00:00 Dating With Intention 03:48 How Dating Changed 07:13 The Love Fairytale Myth 10:33 Maximizers Vs Satisficers 11:54 Three Must Haves 13:52 Intentional Dating Basics 15:37 Matchmaking List Story 18:23 Friends And Intuition 21:07 Chemistry Grows Over Time 23:43 Sameness Vs Support 26:58 Hobbies Are Not Values 28:12 Keep Your Community 29:31 Cup Filling Myth 32:05 Slow Love Escalator 33:24 Green Flags Mindset 34:24 Chemistry Versus Curiosity 37:54 First Date Strategy 41:14 Soulmate Fairytale Trap 48:15 Fame Dating Reality 53:46 Hope With Roadmap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• You Are Not Your Thoughts | Mayim Bialik on Mental Health, Faith & Identity 10.03.2026 58мин

  In this thoughtful and wide-ranging episode of The Dude Therapist Podcast, Mayim Bialik reflects on a life lived at the intersection of intellect, faith, fame, and mental health. You may know Mayim as the young star of Beaches or the beloved lead of Blossom, and later as neuroscientist Amy Farrah Fowler on The Big Bang Theory. But this conversation goes far beyond the screen. Mayim opens up about stepping away from Hollywood to earn her neuroscience degree at UCLA, becoming a mother, returning to television with Call Me Kat, hosting Jeopardy!, and ultimately launching her own mental health platform and podcast. With candor and clarity, Mayim explores how her Jewish identity—rooted in ritual, routine, community, tikkun olam, and a “God of my understanding”—has evolved over time. She speaks vulnerably about navigating October 7th, rising antisemitism, social media hostility, and the pressure to speak (or stay silent) in a polarized industry. She shares what it means to hold boundaries as an observant Jew in Hollywood—from modesty to holiday accommodations in contracts—while still leading with compassion and repair. In this episode, we explore: Growing up in the spotlight and redefining success beyond fame Returning to science and the power of intellectual identity Jewish values, ritual, and faith in moments of global crisis Setting boundaries in Hollywood and advocating for respect Democratizing mental health language and reducing stigma Therapy modalities including EMDR and somatic approaches Skepticism around pharmaceutical advertising and access to care Parenting through attachment and RIE principles Apologizing to your children and modeling accountability Limiting social media and remembering: you are not your thoughts or feelings This episode is essential listening for anyone navigating identity, faith, parenthood, mental health, or life transitions under public scrutiny. Grounded, reflective, and deeply human—this is a conversation about integrating every version of yourself and choosing integrity over approval. Connect with Mayim Bialik! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missmayim/  Links: https://linktr.ee/Mayimbialik  Connect with Eli and The Dude Therapist! Book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book - Order Today! Eli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/   This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer Matthew “MoJo” Jones and Associate Producer & Editor Xavier Adetula. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to Shane Thornton at shane@rainbowcreative.co  00:00 Introduction  00:38 Mayim Life Arc 03:11 Jewish Identity Values 09:21 Faith Therapy Selfhood 10:44 Hollywood Boundaries 15:53 Post Oct 7 Antisemitism 20:32 Podcast Mental Health Shift 21:40 Science Meets Mysticism 24:24 Faith And Neuroscience 27:43 Stigma And Pharma Ads 31:26 Beyond the Pill Model 31:54 CBT and Access to Care 32:42 Insurance and Elitism 33:54 Parenting Feels Wrong 36:31 Attachment and RIE Tools 39:12 Discipline Without Violence 40:31 Repair and Apologizing 43:04 Balancing Roles and Rest 44:32 Social Media and Presence 48:47 Mind Blowing Podcast Guests 52:00 Stay Open Minded 53:31 You Are Not Your Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Power of Next feat. Alyson Stoner 26.02.2026 1ч 6мин

  In this deeply vulnerable and transformative episode of The Dude Therapist Podcast, Alyson Stoner shares the truth behind child stardom, identity, trauma, and reclaiming your voice. You may know Alyson from the iconic Work It video with Missy Elliott, or films like Camp Rock, Cheaper by the Dozen, and Step Up, but this conversation reveals the person behind the performances. Alyson opens up about working 80-hour weeks as a child actor, the psychological cost of constantly performing, and the moment they realized their own story had never truly been told in their own voice. They share the arduous yet liberating process of writing their New York Times bestselling memoir and what it cost, and freed them to speak openly about identity, queerness, and industry pressures. In this episode, we explore: The hidden realities of child stardom and gaps in child labor protections The “Three Chairs” framework (authentic self vs. performing self vs. brand) A healthier way to process rejection (Next 2.0) Trauma tools like the “Sticky Meter” Mental health coordination on sets and protecting young performers How to build trust, create emotional boundaries, and reclaim your voice This episode is essential listening for anyone interested in mental health, trauma recovery, LGBTQ+ identity, the entertainment industry, and personal transformation. Raw, honest, and empowering - this is a conversation about choosing authenticity over approval. “I’d rather be rejected while I’m accepting myself than be accepted while I’m rejecting myself.” - Alyson Stoner Connect with Alyson! Instagram: @AlysonStoner: https://www.instagram.com/alysonstoner/  Book HERE: https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/  Alyson’s Bio Alyson Stoner (they/them) is an entertainer, author, and founder/CEO of Movement Genius, a mental health company focused on sustainable wellbeing. They host the award-winning Dear Hollywood podcast, advocating for stronger protections for children in entertainment and digital media. A former child star with over 200 credits, Alyson appeared in Camp Rock, Step Up, Cheaper by the Dozen, Phineas and Ferb, and music videos with Missy Elliott and Eminem. Their debut memoir, Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Aug 12, 2025), explores identity, trauma, and redefining what it means to be truly well. Connect with Eli and The Dude Therapist! Book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book  Eli’s Instagram: @eliweinstein_lcsw: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Podcast Instagram: @TheDudeTherapist: https://www.instagram.com/thedudetherapist/   This show is Hosted and Produced by Eli Weinstein and Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) with Executive Producer Matthew “MoJo” Jones and Associate Producer & Editor Xavier Adetula. For Sales and Sponsorship opportunities reach out to Shane Thornton at shane@rainbowcreative.co  Chapters: 0:00 Introduction & Welcome 1:26 Alyson's Journey: From Ohio to Hollywood 3:03 Reclaiming Your Own Story & Voice 6:07 Authenticity Through Different Life Seasons 11:50 The Grocery Store Moment: Performing On Command 16:30 The Three Chairs Exercise: Authentic Self vs Brand 19:40 Next 2.0: Better Tools for Handling Rejection 24:18 Why This Should Be the Last Memoir of Its Kind 30:15 Mental Health Coordinators on Sets 33:08 The Cost and Reward of Honesty 38:01 Breaking Your Silence: Small Steps Forward 42:36 Creating Containers: Managing Emotional Transitions 52:20 The Body Keeps the Score: Processing Performance Trauma 56:00 Building Trust After Betrayal 60:52 Redefining Strength & Power Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Dude Therapist is BACK & Now on Video! 08.02.2026 2мин

  After five years of transformative conversations, host Eli Weinstein returns with the show that's been changing lives through honest, raw discussions about mental health, relationships, and personal growth. This isn't your typical therapy podcast. The Dude Therapist brings you unfiltered conversations with the biggest names in health and wellness. We have had Dr. John Delony, Dr. Nicole LePera to Mayim Bialik, Mark Groves, Alyson Stoner, Sabrina Zohar and many more. You can find these videos re-released on video and new episodes from a powerful line up of guests! In this New Season this show will cover Deep dives into relationships and parenting Real talk about mental health challenges Practical tools for personal transformation Guest experts sharing breakthrough insights on habit change, subconscious patterns, and relationship mastery It’s a New Season. New Format. Same Authentic Conversations. 🎥 NOW ON VIDEO - Subscribe and follow: Apple Podcasts Spotify YouTube: @TheDudeTherapist Launching February 2026 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Strong Hearts, Strong Minds: Parenting Through OCD and Congenital Heart Defects with Sarah Michelle Boes 27.08.2025 33мин

  In this episode of The Dude Therapist, I sit down with Sarah Michelle Boes, a family nurse practitioner, mother, and advocate, who opens up about her powerful journey of navigating OCD and parenting a child with congenital heart defects. Sarah shares how her professional background as a healthcare provider shifted when she became the parent of a child with complex health needs, and how her own mental health journey reshaped her perspective. From the importance of accurate diagnosis and externalizing OCD, to the emotional duality of joy and grief in parenting, Sarah’s story is one of resilience, honesty, and advocacy. We dive into: The challenges of parenting through uncertainty and the vital role of teamwork in relationships Why parents are the true experts in their child’s health journey The importance of raising awareness and funding for heart defects Strategies for managing OCD while showing up as a parent How effective communication can strengthen relationships during the hardest times If you’ve ever struggled to balance your own mental health while parenting—or felt the tension between love, fear, and advocacy—this episode will leave you feeling seen and supported. 👉 Don’t miss this candid, heartfelt conversation that reminds us of the power of love, teamwork, and speaking up. 🌐 Connect with Sarah Michelle Boes 🔗 Website: sarahmichelleboes.com📸 Instagram: @sarahmichellenp🎙️ Podcast: Real Deal Nurse Practitioner Club💼 LinkedIn: Sarah Michelle Boes🌌 Community: Cosmic Group Chat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Light Up Your Trauma: Healing the Past to Live Fully in the Present with Melissa Osorio 20.08.2025 41мин

  In this episode of The Dude Therapist, I sit down with Melissa Osorio—author, transformational speaker, and advocate for psychedelic-assisted healing. Melissa opens up about her raw and powerful journey from childhood trauma and hidden memories to self-discovery, empowerment, and purpose. We talk about how psychedelics, curiosity, and self-awareness can serve as powerful tools in reclaiming your life. If you’ve ever wondered how trauma shapes us, how alternative medicines can play a role in healing, and what it truly means to embrace your full self—this conversation is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Melissa’s story of resilience, survival, and self-discovery. How psychedelics can support healing and integration. Why trauma impacts more than just memory—it shapes how we live and love. The power of curiosity and awareness in personal transformation. About Melissa Osorio:Melissa is the author of Hidden Memories: Discover What’s Blocking You From Life and Love. She teaches courses on psychedelic preparation and integration and is an integration teacher at a center in Costa Rica. With raw honesty and depth, Melissa uses her story to help others unlock their full potential and live with authenticity. ✨ And if you’re looking for more tools to strengthen your relationship while navigating the chaos of parenting, my new book From I Do to We Do: Navigating Relationships Through Parenting Years is now available for preorder. This book is packed with real stories, therapist insights, and no-fluff strategies to help couples stay connected. 👉 Preorder here: https://a.co/d/87Y5Evc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Boundaries, Balance, and Burnout with Dr. Jessica Stern 04.08.2025 49мин

  In this powerful and practical episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with licensed clinical psychologist, keynote speaker, and burnout expert Dr. Jessica B. Stern to unpack the toxic traps of hustle culture—and how to escape them. Together, they explore what it really means to be “productive” in a way that aligns with your personal values, mental health, and life goals. Dr. Stern shares her insights on non-toxic productivity, the power of saying no, and how to work smarter without losing yourself in the process. Whether you're an overwhelmed parent, an ambitious professional, or just someone tired of feeling behind, this episode offers actionable tools and mindset shifts to help you find balance and thrive. Non-Toxic Productivity: Why hustle culture is harmful—and what to do instead Values-Based Living: How aligning your work with personal values reduces burnout The Power of Saying No: Setting boundaries to prioritize what truly matters Mental Fitness Tips: Real-life strategies to reset your mindset and productivity habits Reframing Success: How to measure achievement beyond output and accolades Dr. Jessica Stern is a licensed clinical psychologist, keynote speaker, and founder of Three Lemons LLC, a wellness and corporate consulting firm. She’s a clinical assistant professor at NYU Langone Health, radio host on SiriusXM, and advisor for Wondermind, the mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez. With over a decade of experience, Dr. Stern is known for making complex mental health concepts relatable, accessible, and actionable. She's passionate about helping people ditch burnout, boost well-being, and live with greater clarity and purpose. Website: drjessicabstern.com Instagram: @drjessicabstern Productivity Course: Mayhem to Magic 🎧 Tune in now to break free from the burnout cycle and start living in alignment—without the pressure to hustle harder. #mentalhealth #burnout #productivity #boundaries #valuesbasedliving #wellness #thedudetherapist #drjessicastern #nonhustleculture 🔑 Key Takeaways:👤 About Dr. Jessica B. Stern:🔗 Connect with Dr. Jessica Stern: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Letting Go to Grow: From Control to Confidence w/ Kati Morton 23.07.2025 44мин

  🎙️ Why We Crave Control—and How to Let Go with Kati Morton, LMFT Why do we cling to control even when it keeps us stuck? In this powerful episode of The Dude Therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist and bestselling author Kati Morton joins me to break down the psychology of control, the root of self-sabotaging habits, and how we can start unlearning patterns that no longer serve us. Kati opens up about her own mental health journey, including her recovery from an eating disorder and what inspired her to become a therapist. We explore how control shows up in our lives—especially during times of anxiety, trauma, or uncertainty—and how letting go can actually be the first step toward healing. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with perfectionism, disordered eating, emotional overwhelm, or a constant need to "keep it together." How control becomes a coping mechanism—and a barrier to growth Kati Morton’s personal story of healing and becoming a mental health advocate The link between eating disorders, anxiety, and control Signs you're stuck in unhelpful patterns (and how to break them) Why vulnerability is a powerful tool for personal transformation Practical mental health strategies for creating change and building emotional resilience Kati Morton, LMFT, is a leading voice in mental health education. With millions of followers across YouTube and Instagram, she’s known for making mental health conversations accessible, relatable, and empowering. Kati has been featured on The TODAY Show, Dr. Phil, Call Her Daddy, CBS The Doctors, and more. 🔗 Follow Kati on Instagram: @katimorton🌐 Website: www.katimorton.com Are u ok?: A Guide to Caring for Your Mental Health Traumatized: Identify, Understand, and Cope with PTSD and Emotional Stress Why Do I Keep Doing This?: Unlearn the Habits Keeping You Stuck and Unhappy (Coming soon!) If you’re looking for real tools to understand your mental health, improve your relationship with control, and finally feel unstuck—this episode is your starting point. 🎧 Tune in now on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 🔑 What You’ll Learn:📘 About Kati Morton📚 Kati Morton’s Books: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• From Trauma to Transformation: A Journey to Break the Cycle w/ Dr. Robyn Koslowitz 15.07.2025 41мин

  Episode Summary:In this eye-opening episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with clinical child psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Robyn Koslowitz to explore the powerful concept of Post-Traumatic Parenting. As the founder of the Post-Traumatic Parenting model and author of the acclaimed book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle, Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be, Dr. Koslowitz shares how unresolved childhood trauma affects parenting—and how healing is possible, not just for you, but for your entire family. With warmth, wisdom, and clarity, Dr. Koslowitz breaks down how your “trauma app”—the invisible programming left over from your own childhood—can shape your reactions, parenting style, and relationships. She offers actionable strategies for identifying these patterns, shifting your responses, and building deeper, more secure connections with your kids and partner. Whether you're a new parent, navigating your own healing, or trying to break generational cycles, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and empowered. 👓 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What “Post-Traumatic Parenting” really means How your inner child can affect your ability to parent effectively The neuroscience of trauma and how to update your “trauma app” Why children are mirrors, not triggers Tools for breaking inherited emotional patterns How to co-parent with awareness and compassion The difference between reacting from wounds and responding from healing 🧠 About Dr. Robyn Koslowitz:Dr. Robyn Koslowitz is a clinical child psychologist and trauma treatment expert who has helped thousands of parents break free from inherited trauma and become the emotionally attuned caregivers their children—and their inner child—need. She is the creator of the Post-Traumatic Parenting framework and the host of the Post-Traumatic Parenting Podcast. Her message is simple but profound:👉 Your inner child can’t raise a child. But raising your child can help heal your inner child. 📚 Resources & Links:🔗 Book: Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle, Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be🌐 Website: posttraumaticparenting.com🎧 Podcast: Post-Traumatic Parenting Podcast📲 Social Media: Instagram: @dr.koslowitzpsychology Threads: @dr.koslowitzpsychology YouTube: @PostTraumaticParenting LinkedIn: Dr. Robyn Koslowitz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Unlocking Emotional Balance: The Power of DBT w/ Dr. Kiki Fehling 09.07.2025 44мин

  Struggling to stay grounded during emotional storms? This week on The Dude Therapist, we’re diving deep into the world of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) with the brilliant Dr. Kiki Fehling licensed psychologist, author, and Linehan-Board-Certified DBT expert. We explore how DBT empowers individuals to regulate emotions, reduce self-destructive behaviors, and navigate life's chaos with more resilience and calm. Whether you're a mental health professional, someone navigating intense emotions, or just DBT-curious, this episode delivers. What You'll Learn: ✅ What DBT actually is and why it works✅ How DBT helps with emotional regulation, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness✅ Real-world applications for anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and beyond✅ LGBTQ+ mental health insights and how DBT can be adapted across identities✅ Dr. Fehling’s personal journey into the field and why DBT is her life’s work Meet the Guest: Dr. Kiki Fehling Dr. Kiki Fehling is a licensed psychologist, author, and Linehan Board-Certified DBT expert. She specializes in suicide prevention, self-harm, borderline personality disorder, and LGBTQ+ mental health. She's the author of Self-Directed DBT Skills: A 3-Month Workbook and DBT Cards for Coping Skills, with a forthcoming book on LGBTQ+ mental health. Dr. Fehling is a passionate educator and content creator known for breaking down complex mental health concepts on Instagram @dbtkiki and through her writing on Psychology Today. 🔗 Connect with Dr. Fehling:Website: https://www.dbtkiki.comInstagram: @dbtkikiBooks: Self-Directed DBT Skills & DBT Cards for Coping Skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Bend, Don’t Break: Redefining Strength with Dr. Ross White 02.07.2025 51мин

  What if real resilience isn’t about pushing through, but knowing when to pause, adapt, and reconnect with what matters? Clinical psychologist and global mental health expert Dr. Ross White joins Eli to discuss psychological flexibility, athlete mental health, and why success should include well-being not just achievement. Together, they explore what it means to thrive in high-performance environments without sacrificing mental well-being. Whether you're an athlete, a parent, or someone feeling stretched thin by life, this conversation invites you to rethink resilience not as rigid toughness, but as the ability to bend with purpose. Inspired by his book The Tree That Bends, this episode is packed with insights for anyone navigating high-pressure environments, from sports to everyday life. 🔗 Learn more: rossgwhite.com 👤 About Dr. Ross White:Professor Ross White is a clinical psychologist who specializes in supporting mental health in high-performance environments, including elite athletes in rugby, football, athletics, and tennis. He is a global mental health expert with collaborations across the WHO and UNHCR, focused on reducing distress among refugees post-crisis. He’s currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen’s University Belfast and director of Strive2Thrive, a training and consultancy organization. 📲 Let’s keep the conversation going—tag @thedudetherapist with your biggest takeaways and thoughts on what resilience means to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• From Success to Struggle: Why High Achievers Struggle in Relationships with Dr. Sarah Schewitz 25.06.2025 45мин

  Why do high achievers often struggle in relationships? It’s not about success—it’s about unresolved emotional patterns. In this episode of The Dude Therapist, licensed psychologist Dr. Sarah Schewitz, founder of Couples Learn, breaks down why high-achieving individuals often bring attachment wounds, emotional avoidance, and miscommunication into their relationships. We dive deep into how therapy, self-awareness, and co-regulation can transform the way high performers love and connect. 🔍 In this episode, we explore: Why high achievers struggle in relationships and where it stems from How attachment styles and past emotional wounds affect communication and intimacy The truth about co-regulation and why it’s crucial during conflict Why “being nice” can actually harm emotional intimacy How therapy helps address avoidance, conflict cycles, and generational trauma What couples therapy actually looks like and what it’s not Dr. Sarah Schewitz is the founder of Couples Learn, one of Forbes Health’s top-rated online couples therapy platforms. Her mission? Help couples heal attachment wounds and create emotionally secure relationships. She’s been featured on CNN, Women’s Health, Bravo, and Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown. 🎧 Tune in to learn how emotional healing, not more effort, may be the key to a thriving relationship, especially for high achievers. 🔗 Helpful Links: Website: coupleslearn.com Online Courses: coupleslearn.com/online-courses Relationship Quizzes: coupleslearn.com/quizzes IG: @coupleslearn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices