The Way You Show Up

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  Follow This If Your Spouse Is In An Affair 17.09.2026 33мин

  For the first time on the show, I took your calls live. No scripts. No prep. Just real people in real crises telling me what's happening in their marriage and asking me what to do next. Bhavesh in London caught his wife with a coworker, and now she's filed for divorce and put a restraining order on him. He's done everything she ever asked him to do, and she treats him like he's dead. He wants to know if he should give up. Cindy in North Carolina had an emotional affair three years ago. Her ...
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  How To Stop Fighting With Your Spouse So Much 10.09.2026 26мин

  Click here to submit your questions to be on the show! https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 Eight towels. Two blankets. Zero Amazon gift cards. That's what my husband came home with after I asked him to do one thing. So here's my question for you: how would you have responded in that moment? Most people go one of three ways. Laugh it off. Snap and say "I asked you to do ONE thing." Or start diagnosing your spouse with weaponized incompetence and building a whole story around it. I would have picked th...
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  I Knew I Should've Kept My Mouth Shut... 03.09.2026 35мин

  Resources Mentioned 👀 The 24 Hour Repair Clock: https://bit.ly/4iaXPIF Click here to submit questions: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 I knew I shouldn't have done it. I did it anyway. Twice in one day. First I blew out my knee doing double unders I had no business doing. Then I blew up a conversation with my husband over something I should have let go. Fourteen years of teaching this stuff. And I still said the sassy thing. Then I said the second sassy thing, the one that turned a fine moment int...
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  I don't even know who I am anymore... 27.08.2026 45мин

  Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Follow Lucas LeFevre on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucasplefevre/ Sign up for the Solo Spouse Masterclass: https://bit.ly/3SD36yn Submit your questions here! https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 "I don't even know who I am anymore." I heard it over and over in a coaching lab a few weeks ago, and it broke my heart. Different people. Different stories. Same sentence. You didn't lose yourself overnight. You gave yourself away one yes at a time. To a marriage. ...
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  Why You're Not Healing EMOTIONALLY 20.08.2026 41мин

  Referenced in this episode: Episode on Feedback: https://youtu.be/NnAZXA32dqc Click Here to Submit Your Questions: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 You have emotional wounds you can't trace. You don't know where they came from. You just know something hurts every time life bends the wrong way. I scraped my knee in a hotel gym in Taiwan and had no idea how I did it. But for days after, every squat, every step, I felt it. That's exactly how emotional wounds work. Here's what most people miss. Your b...
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  I Asked My Husband What Most Men Get Wrong In Marriage 13.08.2026 32мин

  Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 Most husbands have no idea what they're doing wrong. Not because they don't care. Because they're convinced emotions are supposed to follow logic. She shouldn't feel disrespected when I correct her grammar. She should thank me for telling her the idea was bad. That's not cruelty. That's a man trying to run a relationship like a system. Today I put my husband Rob on the hot seat and asked him the questions I usually get aske...
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  When Someone You Love Goes Distant 06.08.2026 29мин

  Referenced in this Episode 👀 Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://bit.ly/3PPVE1C Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast: https://youtu.be/GxRUPCSELq8 Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287 Save My Marriage Course Waitlist: https://bit.ly/3RBHr9n Most people try to reconnect by talking about the relationship. That's exactly why it doesn't work. You sit them down. You bring up the distance. You ask them how they're feeling. And they shut down harder than be...
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  This Mental State Hurts You AND Your Marriage 30.07.2026 42мин

  Learn more about the Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/ You are such an idiot. That is what I said to myself. Out loud. For days. Over a pair of AirPods. I left the case on my bumper, drove off, and lost them. Second time I've lost a case. The first time I mailed it away in an Amazon return box. And I spent the next week beating myself up about it. Here's the problem with that. The things you think don't stay in your head. They move to your heart. T...
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  What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure 23.07.2026 36мин

  I failed my driver's test before I ever pulled out of the parking lot. Sixteen years old. Red Miata convertible. The one thing I wanted more than anything. Gone in under a minute. I sat through the rest of that test convinced I could win her over. I couldn't. And all I could think about was that everyone at school was going to know. All my friends were going to know. I was the girl who failed. I've been driving for twenty years now. I almost never think about it. Here's what I want you to hea...
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  Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast 16.07.2026 38мин

  Everyone wants to sprint through the hard part of marriage. I understand why. When there's been infidelity. When trust has been broken. When you feel more like roommates than husband and wife. You want it over as fast as you possibly can. But I'll tell you something that surprises a lot of people. The faster a reconciliation happens, the bigger the red flag it is to me. Marriage was never meant to be a sprint. It's a marathon. In this episode, I share what running has taught me about the hard...
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  3 Hidden Triggers Behind Every Argument You Have 09.07.2026 56мин

  You think the fight was about the medicine. It wasn't. It was never about the medicine, the dishes, the text you forgot to send, or who said what first. Every argument you've ever had walked in carrying three invisible passengers. Your past. Your personality. Your point of view. And your spouse brought their own three into the room, too. In this video, I break down what's actually happening inside both people the moment a conversation starts to heat up. Why something as smal...
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  The One Thing I Did That Saved My Marriage (It Wasn’t Couples Therapy) 02.07.2026 50мин

  DM me the word PIES for a chance to have your question read! https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes You can't change your spouse. You can't change your circumstances. But you can change you. And it turns out that's the only thing that ever actually works. A few years ago, I was working 100-hour weeks. My marriage was falling apart. And one morning I ended up on my bathroom floor after another fight, thinking, "I can't do this anymore." That was the day everything shifted. Not becau...
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  When Everything Is NOT Fine 23.06.2026 23мин

  You know that meme. The dog sitting in a room that's completely on fire, saying "this is fine." What do you do when that's actually your life? In this video, I want to talk about the thing most of us do when something hard is sitting right in the middle of our path. We avoid it. We walk around it. We wait for it to move on its own. But here's what I've learned. The obstacle is the way. The conversation you've been dreading for months, maybe even years. The boundary you're scared to set. The t...
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  The One Thing All Successful People Know 16.06.2026 14мин

  Everybody wants the hack. The pill. The shortcut. The version of success that happens while you sleep. I get it. I've wanted it too. But after years of researching motivation, self-esteem, and what it actually takes to reach a goal, here's the truth most people don't want to hear. There is no hack. The one thing every successful person has in common isn't talent or luck or some secret system. It's that they run toward the hard thing instead of away from it. In this video I tell you about the ...
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  I Feel Like The Sacrifice God Hasn't Used Yet 09.06.2026 25мин

  I felt cut open and exposed. Not metaphorically. Like I had poured out every single thing I had and was just lying there, waiting on God to move. The last two years have been some of the hardest of my life. My dad's cancer. Financial stress. A lot of change all at once. I got to the end of my rope and thought, God, I've given everything I know how to give. Now what? Then I opened up Genesis 15. If you've studied this chapter, you know it's where God makes a covenant with Abraham. The cut-open...
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  How To Be The Bigger Person When Someone Lies About You 02.06.2026 16мин

  Someone lied about me. Not a small lie. The kind that twists your words, takes them out of context, and drags your name through the mud in front of an audience. And I'll be honest with you. It made me angry. I wanted to write the email. I wanted the last word. I wanted everyone to hear my side of the story. If you've ever been gossiped about, lied about, or watched someone tell a version of you that simply wasn't true, you know exactly what that feels like. So what do you actually do? In this...
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  Dr. John Gottman Reveals All The Top Secrets For Great Relationships 26.05.2026 57мин

  Most marriage advice is recycled fluff. This is not that. I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them. Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings. And what he told me? Some of it will surprise you. The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting defensive. They stay curious instead of cri...
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  How I Built A $4.5m Company And Felt Completely Unhappy 19.05.2026 16мин

  Take the free Show Up Assessment: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment ----------------------------------------------- He who works the most wins. At least, that's what I believed. I grew a company from negative $500K to $4.5 million in revenue. On paper? Success. In reality? I was completely falling apart. I lost my passion. I lost my mind. Literally forgot how to open my own trunk. I lost my will. And I didn't even see it coming. In this video, I'm sharing what burnout act...
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  Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It) 12.05.2026 31мин

  I have a PhD in performance psychology. I know, with absolute certainty, that the morning sets the tone for the entire day. And I have been fundamentally screwing mine up. Checking Slack before my feet hit the floor. Scrolling Instagram before I'd said a word to God. Trying to ramp from stillness straight into a 4-mile run with zero transition. By 9am I'd feel that weight settle on my chest. Anxious. Irritable. Behind. Two hours into a day I'd started peaceful and hopeful. So I docume...
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  What To Do When People Won't Freaking Listen 05.05.2026 24мин

  Take the free assessment → https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment --------------------------------------------------- You've said it once. You've said it twice. You've said it fifteen times over four months. And somehow, nothing changes. You're not crazy. You're just not being heard. I lived this recently. I told a coworker in January that we needed to cut a software that wasn't working. He agreed. Or so I thought. Fast forward to April and we're still having the same conversatio...