How to Get Over Your Ex

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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: What to do at the turning point to have a hockey stick comeback w/ Lindsey Mango 17.09.2026 43мин

  There's a stretch before the comeback even starts that this episode names! The part where you already half-know something's wrong, but you keep it quiet, keep functioning, keep telling yourself it's fine, sometimes for a year or two before the truth actually lands. In this episode, Lindsey Mango joins Dorothy to talk about that exact stretch: the discomfort of sitting on a truth you're not ready to act on yet, and why for her, once that awareness finally clicks, there's no slow unwind — she moves, fast and completely. But what makes this conversation different is what Lindsey does with that turning point once it hits: instead of staying in the wreckage, she has a genuine gift for finding the version of the story that lifts you back up, and she gets specific about how she does it. If you've been sitting in that quiet, unresolved knowing and wondering when it's finally going to move you to act, this conversation shows you both sides of it — the waiting, and the way out that actually feels good. Learn more about Lindsey Mango: Instagram: @lindseymango_ Website: https://lindseymangocoaching.com/  Mango Magic Audio Drops: https://lindseymangocoaching.mykajabi.com/a/2148299474/mcDiUVhh  
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  Ep. 358 - Why your breakup feels so much worse when you're burnt out, sick, or sleep deprived 14.09.2026 18мин

  Why does your breakup feel SO much worse when you're exhausted, burnt out, sick, or running on barely any sleep? You might see one post from your ex, run into him in public, or have one bad interaction and suddenly you're spiraling—questioning everything, obsessing over what he's doing, and wondering why you can't seem to get over him. But what if the problem isn't that you suddenly miss him more? What if your biology is making your breakup feel harder than it actually is? In this episode, I'm breaking down what happens when you try to process heartbreak from a depleted body and why you cannot always trust the thoughts your brain is handing you when you're sick, sleep-deprived, or burnt out. I'll also share the personal protocol I use when I know my body and mind are running on empty—including what I do physically, what I refuse to do mentally, and the rules I follow until I'm back to baseline. This completely changed how I handle those moments when everything feels harder than it should and I think you're going to want to make your own version of it. The NEW Beyond Your Breakup Membership: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/beyondyourbreakup 
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: Choosing your comeback vs being forced into one w/ Whitney Uland 10.09.2026 45мин

  Most comeback stories start with something breaking — a breakup, a diagnosis, a rug pulled out from under you. But there's a much quieter, harder version: choosing to walk into a comeback when nothing forced your hand. No crisis giving you permission, no one around you validating the hard part, no urgency pulling you forward — just you, deciding to become someone different on purpose. In this episode, Whitney Uland joins Dorothy to unpack why a self-chosen reinvention can feel so much slower and more disorienting than one you were thrust into, even though it's supposedly the "easier" version. Whitney gets specific about what's actually missing when you're building a comeback nobody's making you have, and what she's found that works in its place. If you've ever felt stuck wondering why you can't just decide to change when nothing's technically wrong, this conversation names exactly what's happening — and gives you something to do with it besides waiting for a crisis to make the decision for you. Learn more about Whitney Uland: Instagram: @whitneyuland Website: https://www.howtobefamous.org/    
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  Ep. 357 - What is your ultimate comeback? 07.09.2026 27мин

  What if your ultimate comeback isn't about becoming a completely new person after heartbreak—but finally becoming the most you you've ever been? After spending seven episodes talking to women who rebuilt their lives after some of the hardest experiences imaginable, I wanted to step back and ask: what actually makes a comeback happen? In this episode, I break down what I've learned from the entire Ultimate Comeback Series and the specific steps I believe take you from the ashes of heartbreak to a life that feels completely different from the one you had before. We'll talk about the part of a comeback that happens before you change anything externally, how to know what you're no longer available for, how to reconnect with the parts of yourself you've buried under other people's expectations, and why your bigger and better life may have less to do with "becoming better" and more to do with coming home to yourself. If you're wondering what your comeback is supposed to look like—or you know you're ready for something bigger but don't know where to start—this is the episode to listen to. Join us inside the Get Over Your Ex monthly membership (starting at $297 a month): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ 
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: When you know this isn't it, but you can't make the change w/ Leah Brathwaite 03.09.2026 52мин

  There's a specific kind of stuck that isn't about not knowing — you already know something's wrong. What keeps you frozen is the math of what leaving would cost: the people, the identity, the life you've built around the thing that isn't working anymore. In this episode, Leah Brathwaite talks with Dorothy about the years she spent doing exactly that — staying inside a life, a marriage, and a belief system she'd quietly stopped believing in, because the alternative felt like losing everything and everyone at once. She walks through what it actually took to move from "I know this isn't it" to acting on it, including the moment a single sentence became louder than her fear of the fallout, and why the year she was most terrified of turned out to be nothing like she'd built it up to be in her head. If you've ever known the truth about your situation and stayed anyway because the unknown felt scarier than the misery, this conversation gets specific about what's actually on the other side of that decision. Learn more about Leah Brathwaite: Instagram: @leah.brathwaite 1:1: https://www.thelivefreelifestyle.ca/40-days-of-devotion-the-heart-1-1  Free Soul Collective: https://www.thelivefreelifestyle.ca/free-soul-collective  A new way of life: https://www.amazon.com/New-Way-Life-Transformation-Freeing/dp/199903550X 
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  Ep. 356 - Will my avoidant ex come back? You're asking the wrong question 31.08.2026 15мин

  Have you figured out that your ex is avoidant… only to find yourself thinking about them even more? Maybe you're researching whether avoidants come back, when they start missing an ex, whether no contact works on an avoidant, or what their attachment style says about why they left. Understanding your ex can feel productive, but if every answer leads to another question, the research may actually be keeping you stuck in the breakup instead of helping you get over it. In this episode, I'm showing you how to tell when understanding your ex has crossed over into rumination—and giving you two practical tools to stop using information about your ex to stay attached to them and start using what you know to create actual change for you. Book your free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: When you hit rock bottom in everything at once w/ Juliana Garcia 27.08.2026 52мин

  There's a specific kind of low that doesn't feel like a bad week — it feels like the floor is gone. Your business, your relationship, your sense of who you even are, all collapsing at once, with no clear sign you'll come out the other side. In this episode, Juliana Garcia — entrepreneur, mindset coach, and Dorothy's own personal coach — sits down to talk about the version of her life that most people never see: the point where everything she'd built felt like it was slipping away, and what actually pulled her out of it. Juliana breaks down the specific feeling she credits with getting her through her hardest comebacks (not motivation, not positivity — something with far more staying power), and why the trait people have criticized her for her whole life turned out to be the exact thing that saved her life (literally). If you've ever hit a low that made you question everything, this conversation gives you a completely different way to hold that moment — and what to do with it instead of waiting for it to pass. Trigger Warning: This episode includes an open discussion of suicidal ideation during a mental health low point. Listener discretion advised. Learn more about Juliana Garcia: Instagram: @itsjulianagarcia Website: https://www.julianagarcia.com/ 
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  Ep. 355 - What to do when your life no longer feels like you 24.08.2026 27мин

  Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, "How did I end up here?" Not because your life is bad, but because it no longer feels like you. In this episode, I share what happened after implementing the three decisions I talked about a few weeks ago—and why they've created more momentum, clarity, and alignment than I thought possible. We dive into the surprising pattern I discovered: every area of your life either begins to expand or naturally falls away once you start making decisions from alignment instead of obligation. We also talk about why letting go can feel so uncomfortable, how to loosen your attachment before you make a big change, and what to do when doubt shows up after you've already committed to a new direction. If you've been feeling stuck, disconnected from your own life, or like you've outgrown the version of yourself you've been living, this episode will give you a completely different way to think about your next chapter. Consultation call: www.lifecoachdorothy.com   Ep. 353: 3 decisions that changed my life in 24 hours
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: What to do when things keep getting worse w/ Gabrielle Stone 20.08.2026 39мин

  There's a moment in almost every comeback that we forget about: the relapse. The week your ex resurfaces and you're back checking his Instagram at 1am. The wave of spiraling that convinces you you're regressing, not healing. In this episode, author (and world explorer) Gabrielle Stone joins Dorothy to break down why that backslide is actually a predictable part of the process, not proof you're doing it wrong. Gabrielle explains the tool she uses to catch a thought spiral before it hijacks her day and what she did instead of gripping for control every time her life fell apart right before a major shift. If you've ever felt like you were three steps forward and ten steps back, this conversation names exactly what's happening in that moment — and what to do instead. Learn more about Gabrielle Stone: Instagram: @gabriellestone Tiktok: @gabrielle_stone  Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B07T9H6D58   Website: https://www.eatprayfml.com/  
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  Ep. 354 - How to meet commitment ready men after heartbreak w/ dating expert Torah 17.08.2026 44мин

  If you're wondering where you're actually supposed to meet commitment-ready men—or why you keep ending up with people who aren't looking for the same future you are—this episode is for you. Today we're shifting from getting over your ex to building a life that makes finding the right partner possible. Dating expert Torah's 2 Cents joins me to challenge some of the biggest assumptions women have about dating and shares practical ways to create a roster of emotionally available, relationship-minded men without relying on luck. We talk about where to meet them, how to think differently about dating, and the subtle shifts that can completely change the quality of the people you're attracting. If you're ready to stop wondering whether your person exists and start dating with more confidence, clarity, and intention, this conversation is one you won't want to miss. Learn more about Torah: Instagram: @torahcents Website: https://www.curved2cuffed.com/  
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: Why healing during your comeback feels so up and down w/ Georgie Collinson 13.08.2026 42мин

  Does it ever feel like you're making progress after your breakup… and then one bad day convinces you you're right back where you started? One week you feel hopeful, the next you're crying over something that didn't bother you yesterday, and suddenly you're questioning whether you're healing at all. In this episode of the Ultimate Comeback Series, I sit down with Georgie Collinson to talk about why real comebacks don't happen in a straight line. She shares a four-phase cycle that completely reframes the ups and downs of healing so you can stop treating every setback as failure and start understanding what it's actually preparing you for. If you've been frustrated by how unpredictable your healing feels or wondering if you'll ever truly get to the other side, this conversation will help you see your comeback through a completely different lens. Learn more about Georgie Collinson: Instagram: @georgiecollinson Website: https://georgiecollinson.com/
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  Ep. 353 - 3 decisions that changed my life in 24 hours 10.08.2026 26мин

  Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? Like you're overthinking every decision, waiting until you have the perfect reason before taking action, or looking to everyone else for permission before trusting yourself? This episode is for that version of you. I share the three realizations that completely changed the direction of my life and business in less than 24 hours—and why I think they apply just as much to heartbreak as they do to any season where you feel stuck, scared, or disconnected from yourself. We talk about what happens when you stop needing to justify what you want, stop outsourcing your decisions to other people's opinions, and stop believing that healing or building a life you love has to be hard to be meaningful. If you're ready to feel more like yourself again but don't know where to start, this conversation may give you the shift you've been looking for. Free consultation call w/ Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com 
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  The Ultimate Comeback Series: The hardest decision led to her biggest comeback w/ Meagan Norris 06.08.2026 48мин

  Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest decisions a person can make—especially when children are involved. It's easy to wonder whether you're giving up too soon, whether you'll regret it, or whether life on the other side could ever feel better than the one you're leaving behind. In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Meagan Norris to talk about the comeback that followed one of the hardest choices of her life. We discuss the parenting differences that ultimately led to the end of her marriage, what it took to trust herself through that decision, and how she rebuilt a life that felt more aligned than the one she left behind. If you've ever questioned whether choosing yourself means sacrificing your future, this conversation offers a perspective on what's possible when you stop building a life around fear and start building one around what matters most. Learn more about Meagan Norris: Instagram: @meagannorriscoaching Website: https://www.meagannorris.com/
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  Ep. 352 - How to stop comparing everyone you date to your ex 03.08.2026 10мин

  If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where you are in your healing process. In this episode, I walk you through the three-step framework I use with my coaching clients to figure out why your brain keeps making these comparisons, how to know whether you're truly over your ex, and what to focus on instead so you can start dating with clarity rather than constantly looking backward. If you're tired of wondering whether no one will ever measure up to your ex, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and what to do next. Reduce desire and attachment to your ex – Ep. 341: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2026/05/18/when-youve-tried-everything-to-get-over-your-ex-and-nothings-worked/ Dating to engaged process - Ep. 162: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2022/10/03/the-dating-to-engaged-process/
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  Ep. 351 - How to stop songs from reminding you of your ex 27.07.2026 12мин

  Does hearing a certain song instantly pull you back into memories of your ex? Maybe you're fine one minute, then a song comes on in the grocery store or during your drive home and suddenly you're replaying the relationship, imagining getting back together, and wondering if you'll ever stop missing them. If that cycle feels familiar, this episode will show you a different way to handle those moments. I walk you through the exact breakup protocol I use with my coaching clients to stop emotional triggers from turning into hours of rumination and longing. Instead of avoiding songs, memories, or places that remind you of your ex, you'll learn how to respond to them in a way that helps you move forward rather than keeping you emotionally attached. If you're tired of one song ruining your entire day, this episode will give you a practical framework you can start using the very next time you're triggered. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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  Ep. 350 - How to stop feeling like a failure after a breakup 20.07.2026 10мин

  If your breakup has left you questioning your own judgment, wondering how you could have loved someone who ultimately left, betrayed you, or wasn't right for you, this episode is for you. One of the most painful parts of heartbreak isn't just losing the relationship, it's starting to believe the relationship failed because you failed. That belief quietly chips away at your confidence, making it harder to trust yourself in dating, relationships, and even other areas of your life. In this episode, I share three questions I use with my coaching clients to help separate your identity from the outcome of the relationship, rebuild self-trust, and stop using your breakup as evidence that something is wrong with you. If you've been stuck thinking, "How can I trust myself after this?" this conversation will give you a completely different way to look at what happened and show you the first step toward believing in yourself again. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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  Ep. 349 - How to stop romanticizing your ex 13.07.2026 14мин

  After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether you would actually choose them today, this episode will change the way you think about your breakup. I'll walk you through three powerful questions I use with my coaching clients to help them stop idealizing their ex, reconnect with their own standards, and shift from feeling rejected to making intentional choices about the kind of relationship they actually want. And if part of you still hopes your ex comes back, we'll also explore why getting clear on what would need to change before you ever considered reconciliation can completely transform the way you move through heartbreak. This episode is a simple exercise with the power to change how you see your past—and your future. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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  Ep. 348 - How to stop spiraling after something your ex did 06.07.2026 14мин

  If something your ex did recently sent you into a spiral, they unfollowed you, started dating someone else, viewed your story, ignored your message, or did something that left you questioning your worth, this episode will help you get back on solid ground. The hardest part of these moments usually isn't what happened. It's the meaning your brain immediately assigns to it and the behaviors that follow. In this episode, I walk you through the same three-step process I recently used with a client after one unexpected action from her ex unraveled an entire weekend. You'll learn how to uncover the thoughts fueling the spiral, challenge the stories keeping you stuck, and create a simple plan so the next trigger doesn't have the same power over you. If you're tired of one interaction with your ex undoing weeks or months of progress, this episode will show you how to recover faster, respond differently, and keep moving toward the life you actually want. Free consultation call for private coaching: lifecoachdorothy.com The Get Over Your Ex Program w/ Coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ The Get Over Your Ex Self Paced Course: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
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  Ep. 347 - How to get over a friendship breakup 29.06.2026 20мин

  Friendship breakups can be just as painful and confusing as romantic ones, yet most of us have no idea how to move through them. If you've been replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, wondering if you'll ever find friendships that feel as meaningful again, or feeling unexpectedly heartbroken over someone who was "just a friend," this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own first experience navigating a friendship breakup and walking you through the exact three-part process I use to help people heal romantic heartbreak, adapted for losing a friend. We explore the stories we create about ourselves after a relationship ends, why forcing yourself into strict no contact isn't always the answer, and how to stop organizing your future around a connection that no longer fits. If you're ready to grieve the friendship without carrying it forever and start creating friendships that feel even more aligned, this episode will give you a completely different way to move forward. Schedule a free consultation call with Dorothy: https://lifecoachdorothy.com/
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  Ep. 346 - Maybe I'm not as good as I thought I was 22.06.2026 21мин

  After a breakup, it's easy to think you're grieving the relationship when what you're actually grieving is the version of yourself you thought you were. The confident version. The chosen version. The version who never questioned her worth. If you've caught yourself wondering whether your ex leaving means you're not as lovable, valuable, successful, attractive, or capable as you once believed, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack why heartbreak often turns into a crisis of identity and how your brain quietly uses the breakup as evidence against you. I share the exact exercises that helped me rebuild trust in myself after losing my engagement and pregnancy, along with the same work I use with clients who feel like they've lost their confidence, momentum, or sense of self after heartbreak. If you're tired of measuring your worth through the lens of what happened with your ex and ready to reconnect with who you are beyond the breakup, this episode will give you a completely different way to look at your healing journey. Free consultation call to work together: www.lifecoachdorothy.com Free on-demand video training on How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/