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  dear dani, how do I adult?! 27.04.2026 20мин

  This week’s episode is a dear dani special, where we relaunch my advice column! Three of our listeners share their growing pains about young adulthood, from trying to fit in at work both socially and professionally, to figuring out what to do now that college has ended.Submit an entry here: tinyurl.com/dearjusdanijusdani.substack.com@deeperwithdani
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  when care work and violence shape womanhood 04.04.2026 39мин

  Happy to have spent Women’s Month well, as I got to join many different events and activities where I learned from fellow women. On the pod, I share a certain theme that I have observed from these experiences: how care work and violence shape womanhood. I reflect on the anger that I feel as a woman, and share what we can possibly do about it.If you or someone you know is in need of support: Violence Against Women Helplines | Philippine Commission on WomenReferences:2025 18-day Campaign to End Violence Against Women | Philippine Commission on WomenContext in the Philippines - Association CAMELEONExplained PH - CHILDHOOD STOLEN BY MEN In 2024, more than 3,600... | FacebookFAQs: What is unpaid care work and how does it power the economy? | UN Women – Headquarters'Most pregnancies in girls under 15 likely linked to statutory rape'Racial & Sexual Violence Pyramid | PCAR
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  motherhood was never a dream 15.03.2026 36мин

  I’ve heard it all: I shouldn’t speak so soon. Maybe I just haven’t found the right guy to have kids with. I can never be sure of my own future. There are so many other responses that resist the idea of a young woman being so certain about not wanting to have children of her own, as if admitting this makes her an anomaly, because isn’t this a role women are supposed to enact eventually?Here, I try to make sense of why motherhood holds no appeal for me and how, despite this personal choice, I still support women who dream of motherhood.✦⁠⁠⁠jusdani.substack.com⁠instagram.com/deeperwithdaniinstagram.com/notjusdanidearjusdani@gmail.com
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  does singlehood make me less of a woman? 27.02.2026 24мин

  Last semester, I attended a lecture in graduate school that explored the lived experiences of single Filipino women in their 30s. I came out of the lecture realizing that while these participants did not expect to be single at that age, I never seemed to have had that aspiration. With people my age moving in together and settling down, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything strange about not being partnered. And the answer is no, it’s not weird. I am glad to live in a time where it is embraced and encouraged. But being single does make me reassess what it means to be a woman, if I am not going to be anybody’s girlfriend or wife.✦jusdani.substack.comdearjusdani@gmail.com
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  exploring r/MyBoyfriendIsAI: engineering romance or deception? 14.02.2026 29мин

  You look lonely… can AI fix that? On this episode, we explore the ever-contentious r/MyBoyfriendIsAI subreddit, where users share their motivations for pursuing romantic connections with bots that are nowhere close to human, but are able to mimic qualities that one would consider to be ideal in a partner. Users claim that such a unique relationship has its benefits that surpass human connection, but is that really the case?Instagram: @deeperwithdani ✦ @notjusdaniTikTok: @jusdanijusdani.substack.comdearjusdani@gmail.com
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  there is no intimacy in car-centric cities 06.02.2026 26мин

  In one of my classes this semester, we were asked to introduce ourselves, and I found it interesting how one of my professors worded it toward the end: tell us about yourself, what you do, and outside of school and work, what preoccupies most of your time. I realized that besides the activities I engage in from place to place—school, gym, work, the movies—I spend most of my time in public transport.In this episode, I try to make sense of a much bigger reason why car centrism in urban areas harms us all: it affects the way we connect with others and puts commuters at a social disadvantage, from committing to hobbies in third spaces, to building communities of our own.Instagram: ⁠@deeperwithdani⁠ ✦ ⁠@notjusdani⁠TikTok: ⁠@jusdani⁠⁠jusdani.substack.comFor invites/collabs: heyjusdani@gmail.comFor podcast-related messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com
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  your analog bag requires your attention 30.01.2026 21мин

  Have you packed your analog bags yet? How many journals have you inserted in your leather folio? Should we invite Bella Hadid?Look, I understand the growing resistance toward the internet. It used to be a window to see the world, but right now I’m not so sure what it is that we’re seeing. In many frustrating ways, I understand this shift to the tangible, to analog, at an attempt to cure the brain rot and reclaim personal identity again. But is that what we’re really headed toward?Today, we dig deep into the possible reasons why analog is the latest hype, why it feels uneasy to see this shift happening, and how we can sustainably keep up with the unwavering need to create meaning and joy in our lives.Instagram: @deeperwithdani ✦ @notjusdaniTikTok: @jusdanijusdani.substack.com
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  some life updates before we dig deep 26.01.2026 22мин

  Let me start with a confession: I was supposed to put this out last December but I underestimated the multiple responsibilities I had on my plate that I had to set this aside. I was even scared of pursuing this with more gusto. But I did promise myself that this would be the year I stop feeling so afraid of changing.So here are some life updates that explain why I went MIA (again) and where I see this podcast going. I hope you enjoy listening!Thank you again to Studio 18 for accommodating me last year—this was such a nice place to film. Studio 18 @ Aspira, CDO: Instagram | Airbnbinstagram.com/notjusdaniinstagram.com/deeperwithdaniFor invites/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.comFor podcast-related messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com
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  why filipino women don’t leave their abusive relationships 10.03.2025 32мин

  Happy Women’s Month! This episode shares statistics on Violence Against Women (VAW) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) in the Philippines, as well as reasons why victims find it hard to leave.References:Estrellado, A. F., & Loh, J. (2013). Factors associated with battered Filipino women’s decision to stay in or leave an abusive relationship. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 29(4), 575–592. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260513505709Parcon, Cristabel Rose F., and Antoinette Louise S. Makani. 2024. Intimate Partner Violence Experiences of Filipino Women: Evidence from the Philippines. DHS Working Papers No. 205. Rockville, Maryland, USA: ICFPhilippine Commission on Women. (n.d.). https://pcw.gov.ph/violence-against-women/
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  social media is the third party of today’s romantic relationships 14.02.2025 28мин

  Andi Eigenmann’s recent crash out left me thinking about how much more weight social media has on relationships these days. how did it come to this? and what can be done to lessen the impact of social media on relationship satisfaction? these are questions I try to answer on this episode.References:Arikewuyo AO, Lasisi TT, Abdulbaqi SS, Omoloso AI, Arikewuyo HO MD.. Evaluating the use of social media in escalating conflicts in romantic relationships. J Public Affairs. 2022; 22:e2331. https://doi.org/10.1002/pa.2331Delle, F. A., Clayton, R. B., Jordan Jackson, F. F., & Lee, J. (2022, June 9). Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram: Simultaneously Examining the Association Between Three Social Networking Sites and Relationship Stress and Satisfaction. Psychology of Popular Media. Advance online publication. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/ppm0000415Goldberg, Sharon & Yeshua-Katz, Daphna & Marciano, Avi. (2022). Online construction of romantic relationships on social media. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. 39. 1839-1862. 10.1177/02654075211067814.Owens, A., Beattie, E., & Irvine, T. (2024). The Impact of Social Media Use Among Millennial Couples. The Family Journal, 0(0). https://doi.org/10.1177/10664807241286804Let’s stay connected~jusdani.substack.cominstagram.com/notjusdaniinstagram.com/therapyfortakeoutfor pod suggestions/advice column submissions: dearjusdani@gmail.comfor work and collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  invisible disabilities and the real problem about PWD IDs 07.02.2025 36мин

  Today’s episode unpacks the now-deleted post from Low Brow Casual Restaurant, who should probably change their name to Low Blow. Besides this issue, I share how you can obtain a PWD ID, who qualifies, and what bigger concerns face us in this mandated system that’s supposed to look out for people living differently. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/therapyfortakeout for podcast suggestions/messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  making friends and maintaining them 31.01.2025 31мин

  happy new year! today’s episode is a collection of reflections on friendship, from making friends, to maintaining them, to even ending them. ⁠jusdani.substack.com⁠ ⁠instagram.com/therapyfortakeout⁠ for podcast suggestions/messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  wrestling with desire 09.01.2025 19мин

  This is my year-ender essay where I reflect on the lack of trust toward my own taste and decisions, and how I’ve been trying to build the self-confidence needed to not rely on other people’s opinions on how I should live my life.
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  year end rituals to prepare for the new year 27.12.2024 21мин

  In this episode, I revisit my year-end essay from 2023 and share a few practices that allow me to conclude the year and prepare for the next. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani instagram.com/therapyfortakeout For podcast-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com
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  growing out of grief 06.12.2024 15мин

  Yet another audio recording of a blog post from my Substack. This month will be spent uploading audio recordings of my favorite posts this year. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani instagram.com/therapyfortakeout
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  suicidality and what not to say to a suicidal person 05.09.2024 29мин

  September is Suicide Prevention Month, with September 10 being World Suicide Prevention Day as declared by the World Health Organization. On this episode, I share the types of suicidality and what you should not tell a suicidal person even if you think that you mean well. instagram.com/therapyfortakeout instagram.com/notjusdani jusdani.substack.com for pod-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work and collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  making the right choices 29.08.2024 21мин

  This episode is a voiceover of my blog post of the same name. Couldn’t help but draw similarities between BoJack Horseman’s inability to savor his happiness with my own feelings about where I’m currently at in life. instagram.com/therapyfortakeout instagram.com/notjusdani for Dear Dani entries and pod/blog-related things: dearjusdani@gmail.com for collaborations and invites: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  life updates, adult friendships, and post-diagnosis blues 23.08.2024 25мин

  Sorry for being MIA! Hope this episode makes up for it as I share with you some life updates (as well as what you can expect from me here on out!) and I answer questions sent by listeners of the pod and/or readers of my blog. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani for podcast/blog-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com for collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
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  dealing with the big sad 06.07.2024 7мин

  This episode is a voiceover of my recent blog post of the same name, which you can read on Substack.
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  dear dani: the roles we play in our own suffering 20.06.2024 14мин

  Originally published on my Substack in April, this Dear Dani column features two listeners of the podcast whose current dilemmas revolve around the lack of trust in oneself, and how this has affected the way they show up in their relationships. You can read and listen to earlier episodes of Dear Dani on Substack. If you are interested in sending a message for future issues of the advice column, you can direct them here: dearjusdani@gmail.com. Instagram: @notjusdani / @therapyfortakeout