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  Ask J&D Episode 8: How To Heal After Infidelity 11.08.2026 1ч 13мин

  What does it actually take to heal from infidelity? And what happens when the person who caused the betrayal isn't willing to end the relationship that caused it?In Episode 8 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, we are joined for the first time by a very special guest — our friend and colleague Lea Dawn, an expert in the terrain of infidelity — to respond to one of the most provocative listener questions we've received yet. A man writes in after discovering his wife of 11 years had been having a secret affair with a coworker for nearly a year. After painful conversations, they both want to try to rebuild. But there's a catch: his wife doesn't want to end things with the other person. She says the affair has led her to realize she wants an open relationship. He says it feels less like an invitation into non-monogamy and more like being asked to bless the betrayal. Together, Jess, Dave, and Lea Dawn explore:* What the actual process of healing from infidelity looks like — and what it genuinely requires from both partners* Why the sequence of repair matters, and what gets lost when it's skipped* The crucial difference between a conscious, mutual transition into ENM and using non-monogamy as an escape hatch from accountability* Whether it's possible to do real healing work while the affair partner is still actively in the picture* What the betrayed partner deserves — in terms of time, honesty, and genuine choice — before any conversation about restructuring can even beginIt gets juicy! If you want to find out more about Lea Dawn's work, check out the following resources: Website: www.LeaDawnLove.comQuiz: LeaDawnLove.com/Quiz Blog post: How to lose your hurt partner in 10 days (after an affair)Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? Send it to: AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 7: Parenting Shame Resilient Children 17.07.2026 41мин

  What if the way we talk to our kids about friendships, crushes, and conflict could actually shape how they relate to themselves and others for the rest of their lives?In Episode 7 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, we respond to a real listener question about one of the most important — and most overlooked — aspects of parenting: how do we help our kids navigate the messy, tender terrain of peer relationships, first crushes, and interpersonal conflict with some degree of groundedness and Self energy? And is it possible to raise kids without unintentionally installing the very shame dynamics we've spent our adult lives trying to heal?Drawing on IFS parts work and the Shame Triangle framework from our book Transforming the Shame Triangle, this episode is essential listening for any parent who wants to do things differently — and isn't quite sure where to start.Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? Send it to AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 6: Navigating Asymmetry In Poly/ENM Dynamics 04.07.2026 36мин

  Opening a relationship doesn't always unfold equally, and that imbalance can put enormous pressure on both partners.One of you is thriving, meeting people, exploring. The other is waiting, wondering, and doesn't yet know if they even want this—because they haven't really had the chance to find out. It's one of the most common and least talked-about growing pains in ENM and polyamorous transitions.In Episode 6 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, we tackle a real listener question about exactly this dynamic: How does the partner with more opportunities keep exploring without collapsing into guilt, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for fixing the imbalance? And how does the partner with fewer opportunities figure out whether ENM is actually right for them when they haven't yet had enough experience to really know?Drawing on insights from our book Polywise, this one is essential watching for anyone navigating the uneven terrain of opening up.Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? Send it to AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 5: When An Anxious & An Avoidant Partner Keep Triggering Each Other 24.06.2026 40мин

  What if doing the work isn't enough?For anxious-avoidant couples, individual healing can only go so far. Because the trigger isn't just inside you — it's in the space between you. In Episode 5 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, Jess & Dave get into the deeper mechanics of why the anxious-avoidant dance persists even when both partners are self-aware, growth-oriented, and genuinely trying — and what it actually takes to shift the dynamic at the relational level, not just the individual one.Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? Send it to AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 4: Poly-curious or Relationship Avoidant? 15.06.2026 32мин

  How do you know if someone is genuinely polyamorous — or just looking for a way out?Because here's the thing: when done with real integrity, opening a relationship doesn't shed obligations — it adds them. It implies more accountability. More transparency. More reassurance. More of the unglamorous, unsexy labor of loving people well. So if someone's vision of "more love" somehow comes with fewer responsibilities to the people they already have — that's a tell. They're not expanding their capacity for commitment. They could be looking for the door.Ethical non-monogamy isn't defined by the permissions it grants. It's defined by the work it demands.In this episode, we also explore the tension between a partner's urgency for freedom, exploration, and independence — and the other partner's very real need for safety and secure attachment. And what it looks like when those two things are moving at very different speeds.Drawing on insights from our book Polywise, this episode is essential watching whether you're navigating non-monogamy yourself, questioning a partner's motivations, or just trying to understand what ethical relating actually requires.Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? We want to hear it — send it to AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 3: Is a sexless marriage unhealthy — especially for your nervous system? 15.06.2026 28мин

  In Episode 3 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, we explore one of the most quietly painful and under-discussed dynamics in long-term relationships. Because the real question isn't just about sex — it's about what the absence of it means.Is it a conscious, mutual choice? Or is it a symptom of something deeper — emotional disconnection, relational neglect, not feeling seen, heard, or understood? Resentments that have quietly built up over time through criticism, defensiveness, and emotional distance? Those are very different situations — and they have very different impacts on your wellbeing and your nervous system.We also talk about asexuality — what it actually means to be ace, how it differs from low libido or celibacy, and how it exists on a spectrum. Because for some people, a sexless relationship isn't a problem to solve — it's simply how they're wired.Whether you're in this situation, have been, or are just curious — this one is worth a watch!Got a question about love, relationships, or inner healing & transformation? Send it to us at AskJessandDave@theazuriteway.com
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  Ask J&D Episode 2: Disagreeing on the Facts/Making Negative Assumptions 15.06.2026 29мин

  Do you and your partner keep fighting about the same things — and can't even agree on what actually happened? Or maybe someone in the relationship keeps assuming they know exactly what their partner thinks or feels, and no amount of "that's not true" seems to change it. In Episode 2 of The Ask Jess & Dave Show, we're getting into two of the most stuck-feeling dynamics in relationships — and what you can actually do about them.
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  Ask J&D Episode 1: Criticism In Relationship 15.06.2026 33мин

  In this first episode of Ask Jess and Dave, we dig into the question: What is criticism really doing in a relationship? Not as a communication style to be managed or a bad habit to be curbed, but as a signal — a warning sign pointing toward deeper dynamics that are asking for awareness, understanding, and care. Drawing on our combined clinical and lived experience, we explore what life actually looks and feels like when criticism isn't part of the relational culture, why so many of us have come to accept it as inevitable, and what it means when we do. This is a conversation about what's possible when partners stop tolerating what doesn't belong, and start getting curious about what's underneath it.