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  Why P0rn Addiction Exposes Avoidant Attachment (99% of the Time) 16.09.2026 25мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today's one is a quite shame laden episode. We talk about the dark link between avoidant attachment and p*rn addiction.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s Sexual compulsion Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4394850/ Attachment Insecurity & Problematic Porn Use Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38898361/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:30 Avoidant Roots04:45 The Dating Phase07:05 Rollercoaster Phase (P0rn Consumption Begins)14:00 Drought Period (P0rn Addiciton Implements)16:00 Summary18:00 What You Can Do► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  THIS Is What Avoidants Do When They're Afraid of Losing You 13.09.2026 31мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about what avoidants do when they're afraid of losing you. I also unpack the hidden link behind their fear of commitment and their fear of losing you...► Links and Resources:Deactivation Strategides Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s Why Avoidants Always Come Back Video: https://youtu.be/YfiJsB7XXx8 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:15 A Note to Hurt Partners03:50 Before the Relationship09:59 The Chase11:46 The Moment of Commitment16:00 When Conflict Arrives20:34 The Breakup and Relief22:15 When They Are Finally Afraid of Losing You26:05 When They Come Back► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  To Anyone Who's Loving or Leaving an Avoidant… 12.09.2026 18мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! This one is a very personal one for me. It's a message for everyone who's loving or leaving an avoidant.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 To Anyone Loving or Leaving an Avoidant...02:01 Confusion03:55 The Truth About Them06:52 A Way Out of the Dark07:20 1. Coming Home to Yourself09:40 2. Taking Yourself Back11:13 3. Becoming Unshakable12:50 4. Rising & Refocusing15:24 5. Attracting Secure Love16:10 6. Love Without Losing Yourself17:41 The Next Step► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  5 Things Never to Say to an Avoidant on the Phone (They'll Shut Down) 11.09.2026 12мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In today's video I talk about the 5 biggest mistakes to avoid when you're calling an avoidant on the phone.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:47 Why Avoidants Panic When You Call Them02:48 1) Not Texting First04:20 2) Being Dysregulated Yourself05:45 3) Calling Them When They're Dysregulated06:50 4) Calling Repeatedly 09:25 5) Resolving Conflict on the Phone► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  THIS Is the Exact Moment an Avoidant Decides to Discard You 09.09.2026 20мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In today's video I describe the exact moment an avoidant decides to discard you in brutally honest detail.► Links and Resources:10 Stages That Lead to Avoidant Discard Video: https://youtu.be/ZWpTLj1E2No Deactivation Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:26 The Discard Building Up05:12 The First Trigger08:07 Preparation of the Discard13:03 Exact Moment They Decide to Discard15:50 Hidden Moment They Decide to Discard► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  The 10 Stages That Lead to an Avoidant Discarding You (What to Do at Each One) 06.09.2026 37мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In todays video I walk you through the 10 stages that end in avoidant discarding you. I also share ideas what you can do best at each stage.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=FZmzMIm8IK0rc3_UDeactivation Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k?si=9FO4GoQZNRwxq2Eo Rock Bottom Moment Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=79sRebound Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/QrhTOoAai_M?si=9ThJxF-atsfPgkYu ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:05 Stage 0: Childhood Core Wounds03:43 Stage 1: Thirsty for Love05:38 Stage 2: First Contact08:05 Stage 3: Illusion & Fantasy11:37 Stage 4: "Lovebombing"14:34 Stage 5: First Triggers 16:44 Stage 6: Love & Panic22:34 Stage 7: The Tipping Point25:58 Stage 8: Sabotage & Deactivation28:36 Stage 9: Collapse & Discard33:33 Stage 10: Rebound or Recovery► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  How to Respond When an Avoidant Comes Back (Turn Them Down the Right Way) 04.09.2026 28мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you how to respond when an avoidant comes back.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=11s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction04:08 The Power of Your Response05:21 Processing the Breakup06:28 Coming Home to Yourself10:59 Step 1: Defining Relational Standards14:34 Step 2: Reconnecting with Your Needs17:42 Step 3: Refocussing on Yourself21:48 How to Respond When an Avoidant Comes Back► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Surviving Avoidant Discard: What to Do in the First 8 Weeks 02.09.2026 38мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I make a deep dive into the first 8 weeks after the avoidant discard. I help you understand your reactions and the avoidants reactions and give ideas & approaches on how to move on and rise again.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=11s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:06 Overview: The First 8 Weeks03:14 Week 1: The Shock Phase08:45 Week 2: The Grief Phase12:50 Week 3: The Anger Phase18:30 Week 4: Integrating Grief24:15 Week 5: Real No Contact27:21 Week 6: Their Return32:10 Week 7: Setting Boundaries35:00 Week 8: Start to Become Unshakable► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  How to Get Over an Avoidant Ex (When They Keep Coming Back) 30.08.2026 20мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you how to get over an avoidant ex, even if they keep coming back.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Always Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=11s&pp=0gcJCfkLAYcqIYzv Trauma Bonds Video: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=EZ72GHlFDCL7DoWy ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction03:35 When Avoidants Return06:26 Phase 110:20 Phase 212:10 Phase 315:14 Phase 416:25 Phase 517:35 Phase 6► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  What Avoidants Secretly Hope You Do When They Stonewall (Never Do It) 28.08.2026 20мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you what avoidants secretly hope you do when they stonewall.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:39 What Is Stonewalling?02:48 Recognizing Stonewalling Behaviors03:58 The Avoidant Perspective05:29 Managing Conflict Effectively07:40 What Avoidants Secretly Hope You Do11:42 Mistakes to Avoid15:39 Responding to Avoidant Stonewalling► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why Your Avoidant Partner Stonewalls You (The Best Way to Respond) 26.08.2026 21мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain what avoidant stonewalling is and how to respond to it the right way.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Shutdown Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dprG1JtJxzc&t=5s Dissociation Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZsTUS_jlYg&t=7s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Avoidants Stonewall02:07 Defining Stonewalling03:13 Examples of Stonewalling07:12 The Stonewalling Cycle13:00 How to Respond19:37 Moving Forward► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  How to Respond When an Avoidant Rejects You (They Won't Expect This) 23.08.2026 20мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain how to respond when an avoidant partner rejects you.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s&pp=0gcJCcQLAYcqIYzv► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:00 My Personal Journey02:05 Why Avoidants Reject07:01 Three Common Partner-Reactions14:22 The Secure Response17:42 Six Steps to Healing► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  THIS is Why Avoidants Pull Away - And When to Move On (Confessions of a Recovered Avoidant) 21.08.2026 30мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I reveal the #1 reason why avoidant partners pull away. I also share when it's the best moment to move on.► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2iT8Msp8Vx0&pp=0gcJCaMLAYcqIYzv Narcissist vs Avoidant Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uADzIhUsuKc Avoidant Attachment Gets Exposed in the Bedroom Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_BNVcbVIbM Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k Shutdown Video: https://youtu.be/dprG1JtJxzc The Moment Avoidants Decide to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:46 The Pull-Away Mechanism03:52 The Four F's04:31 Fight Responses11:01 Flight Responses15:49 Freeze Responses19:38 Fawn Responses21:00 When to Move On26:55 The Rock Bottom► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Always Return (and The Best Way to Respond) 19.08.2026 22мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain why avoidants return and what's the best way to respond to their come back.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Don’t Know What They Need Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction00:43 The Impact of Your Response02:39 Why Avoidants Pull Away06:09 Why They Return08:26 The Reality of Love11:27 Responding to Their Return15:45 Focusing on Yourself18:12 Breaking the Cycle20:01 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Actual Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Never Fight For a Relationship 16.08.2026 27мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this very personal video I share with you why avoidants never fight for a relationship.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:32 Flaw Finding Mechanism06:11 Unrealistic Relationship Expectations10:19 Overwhelmed by Closeness13:22 Internal Emotional Withdrawal19:16 Lack of Relationship Skills20:43 Defiance and Protection23:16 How to Respond► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why (Almost) All Avoidants Come Back After No Contact 14.08.2026 20мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about why almost all avoidants come back after no contact. And why emotionally unavailable people are so addicted to no contact!► Links and Resources:Why No Contact Doesn’t Work Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:59 Understanding No Contact05:02 The Magic Effect09:39 Two Avoidant Groups13:35 Responding to Returns16:54 Breaking the Cycle20:38 Conclusion► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  What Your Avoidant Ex Secretly Wants During No Contact 12.08.2026 23мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share from my own avoidant's perspective what your avoidant ex secretly wants during no contact.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:55 1. Desire for Reconnection04:49 2. Testing Availability06:53 3. Fighting for Them09:36 4. Explaining What Went Wrong10:58 5. Desire for Independence12:56 6. Seeking Emotional Calm15:15 7. The Need for Acceptance17:40 Focusing on Your Growth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  The Exact Moment Avoidants Realize You're Not Coming Back 09.08.2026 27мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I describe the exact moment when avoidants realize you're not coming back. And I reflect on how to move on with more ease.► Links and Resources:The Stages of an Avoidant Coming Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVuzwMjflyk&t=1s The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:42 Relationship Dynamics05:45 The Breakup Experience09:28 No Contact Phase11:53 The Avoidant's Internal Model16:29 Moment of Realization21:46 Moving On and Boundaries24:55 Strengthening Your Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Avoidant Shutdown: Why Avoidants Suddenly Go Cold (Explained by Actual Avoidant) 07.08.2026 25мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! This one is a personal one. I talk about why avoidants suddenly shut down and go cold. How does it feel like? Why there is no other option left? This one may be truly eye opening. ;-)► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=94Sh2XeLyY0nFp9P Gerald Hüther: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gerald_H%C3%BCther ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Avoidant Shutdown02:30 The Shutdown Experience from the Inside07:32 Roots of the Shutdown10:12 The Three Closed Doors17:48 Shame and Nervous System18:43 How Avoidants Can Change20:25 Supporting Your Partner► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why The Initiator of a Breakup Always Comes Back (Confessions of a Dumper) 05.08.2026 17мин

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about why the initiator of a breakup always comes back and when reconnection makes sense.► Links and Resources:Limerence Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmNjDwdPwOA&t=2s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Exes Return01:58 1. Insecurely Attached Breakup Initiators03:50 2. Needy Exes07:42 3. Self-Aware Breakup Initiators10:01 Don't Fix Them12:15 Evaluating Their Intentions13:25 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: [email protected]► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.