It’s Not About the Sex

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  Guided Meditation: Compassion for Self and Others 13.09.2026 4мин

  Compassion lives inside each of us but often gets muted in our daily routine. Giveyourself a few minutes to focus on compassion and you’ll establish deeper contact bothwith yourself and others. Stay curious and away from judgment and watch your heartopen and soften. (4 mins)
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  Guided Meditation: Mindful Self-Compassion 11.02.2026 3мин

  We all struggle with self-critical thoughts, self-judgment and shame at times. Kristin Neffand Christopher Germer developed this simple 3-step approach utilizing their elementsof Mindful Self-Compassion: mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness.Whether you’re going through a crisis or some type of health challenge, relationshipconflict or work stress, give this sequence a try and see how it works for you. (4 mins)
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  Guided Meditation: Encountering Your Grief 11.02.2026 5мин

  A tender, contemplative meditation adapted from Joan Halifax's work that gently guides you through the difficult terrain of loss and sorrow. This practice invites you to sit with your grief compassionately, using reflective phrases to open to pain, find inner resources, and practice self-forgiveness for things left undone or unmet needs. Rather than avoiding or rushing through grief, this meditation encourages you to be present with your sadness while remembering that you are not your sadness. The practice concludes with an invitation to be open with others, receive support, and recognize grief as a profoundly humanizing experience that can bring greater depth to our lives. Whether you're processing a recent loss, anticipating one, or simply want to develop a healthier relationship with grief, this meditation offers a safe space for self-compassion and healing.
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  Guided Meditation on Grief 20.05.2025 5мин

  We all experience loss in one form or another throughout life. In this mindfulness meditation we will focus on grief and loss as opportunities to live with loss rather than “getting over it.” Check it out and see how grief can be your teacher.
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  Gratitude & Goodbye - Susskind & Merlino 02.05.2025 15мин

  After 6 years, 128 episodes and 60 guests, the podcast is winding down. It’s a bittersweet moment to say goodbye and to express gratitude to everyone involved in this collaborative experience. Although the podcast is ending, it will be available indefinitely on most platforms as well as www.westsidetherapist.com. Andrew and Sue thank all of you from the bottom of their hearts, and don’t forget, to stay connected.   Thank you Neil for the tunes! Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Revitalizing Sexual Health - Susskind & Merlino 18.04.2025 26мин

  In Chapter 10 of Andrew’s workbook he investigates sexual health through a non- pathologizing, destigmatizing lens. Themes include: defining sexual health, reviving pleasure and fantasy as an ally. This candid conversation takes a look at the intersection of 12 step recovery and sexual health as we open up a larger dialogue to exploring your authentic sexual self. Give yourself a few minutes to listen to this heart-centered and liberating exploration. Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Coaching & Clarity: The Power of Clear Pathways - Sue Merlino, CADC 04.04.2025 25мин

  In this episode we turn the tables on our podcast producer, Sue Merlino to discuss her services called Clear Pathways. With a combination of coaching and organizing one’s physical space, Sue describes the valuable benefits to all of us, including those struggling with addiction or emotional challenges. In addition to walking clients through organizational skills, Sue also provides time management and mindset coaching as well as being a guide toward self-reflection. For more details, contact Sue at www.yourclearpathways.com or [email protected]   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Receiving Love - Susskind & Merlino 21.03.2025 24мин

  If you scratch the surface of compulsive sexual behavior, you’ll find intimacy avoidance. In this powerful episode, Susskind and Merlino look through the lens of attachment as they discuss the challenges and opportunities related to truly receiving love in recovery. With a focus on avoidant and anxious attachment styles they discuss the often-misunderstood term love addiction as well as the possibility of utilizing obsessive thinking to reveal deeper parts of self. By establishing emotionally reliable relationships and receiving love, the ruptures of the past will heal over time. Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  The Necessity of Shame - Stefanie Klein, LCSW 28.02.2025 36мин

  In this podcast we welcome Stefanie Klein, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, NARM Master Therapist, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Consultant based in Los Angeles who shares a refreshing take on shame through the lens of the Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM). You will learn about shame as a verb rather than an emotion and how it functions as an adaptive process. Because shame is universal to all human beings, it can be part of a reparative and valuable key to long-term recovery.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Restoring Purpose - Susskind and Merlino 21.02.2025 23мин

  Following the subjects from Chapter 8 in The It’s Not About the Sex Workbook, Andrew and Sue explore themes of long-term recovery including purpose, spirituality and legacy—all in the context of Positive Psychology and deeper soul-searching. How do spirituality, religion and purpose intersect with one another? Or not? Asking the bigger questions and staying away from exact answers is where the internal work begins. Tune in to this practical yet existential conversation.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Redefining Recovery Through Connection and Purpose - Tim Harrington 07.02.2025 27мин

  Tim Harrington, founder of Family Coaching Services joins the podcast as he addresses the following topics: building a meaningful life post-recovery, especially by emphasizing healthy relationships, self-discovery and aligning actions with deeper values. Based on a depth of personal and professional experience, Tim offers practical steps for creating a more satisfying and purposeful recovery as well as addressing the challenges that may interfere with pursuing purpose.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Cultivating Contentment - Susskind & Merlino 24.01.2025 24мин

  In this episode we take a closer look at Chapter 7 of Andrew’s workbook and examine some of the essential ingredients of contentment including gratitude, connection and unconditional love. Distinctions are made among the terms joy, happiness and contentment as we discuss core values, visioning and purposeful goals. Listen to this optimistic episode as you choose to enhance contentment in your life and recovery.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  A Gestalt Healing Perspective - Rafael Cortina, MFT 10.01.2025 37мин

  Rafael Cortina, a San Diego-based therapist joins the podcast to discuss some of his valuable and wise perspectives on healing from addictive, compulsive behaviors. He shares the following themes: the functional understanding of addiction, the interwoven nature of trauma and addiction, the necessity of curiosity from both the therapist and client as well as “relational space healing”. Check out this refreshing conversation that de-pathologizes and humanizes the healing process.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Feeling the Feelings - Susskind & Merlino 29.11.2024 20мин

  During this conversation Andrew and Sue take a deeper dive into Chapter Six Feeling the Feelings from The It’s Not About the Sex Workbook. Maybe it looks simple on the surface, but Andrew highlights the sustainable benefits of deeper emotional awareness and expression. With an emphasis on anger, hurt, fear and loneliness, we explore the feelings language that is often missed in childhood. Take a listen and see that it’s never too late to become more fluent in the world of emotions and deeper contact with others.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Sexual Identity Development - Katie Griffin, CGP 15.11.2024 33мин

  In this episode we welcome Katie Griffin, a nationally-recognized group consultant and leader in the field. She brings her passion and enthusiasm to other practitioners and believes firmly in the power of group to help individuals become more fully alive. In this candid and revealing conversation Katie takes a closer look at sexual identity development in sustainable recovery as a portal to deeper understanding of one’s aliveness. For more details, visit www.katiegriffinconsulting.com   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Regulating the Nervous System - Susskind & Merlino 01.11.2024 28мин

  Andrew and Sue discuss Chapter Five, Regulating the Nervous System from Andrew’s recent workbook. Beginning with a memoir snapshot and ending with practical strategies and action steps, they explore the following themes: following the rhythm within, identifying regulation and dysregulation, utilizing the Window of Resilience, and naming attachment styles and how they correlate with nervous system regulation. Check out these user-friendly ways to get to know your nervous system as part of sustainable recovery.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Problematic Sexualized Drug Use - Dr. David Fawcett 18.10.2024 37мин

  In this episode we welcome Dr. David Fawcett, a clinical social worker, sex therapist and two-time author specializing in chemsex and problematic sexualized drug use. Often a misunderstood form of suffering, David disentangles the complexities of these intertwined behaviors. With effective clinical strategies and decades of experience, David helps us understand a path to recovery based on a clear, effective approach. Visit www.david-fawcett.com and check out his recent book Sex Under the Influence for more in-depth exploration.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Moving Beyond Narcissism - Susskind & Merlino 04.10.2024 21мин

  Today’s episode focuses on Chapter Four of Andrew’s workbook as we explore the healthier side of narcissism, other-centeredness, generosity of spirit as well as longing and belonging. Beneath narcissism is broken heartedness so tune in to understand the deeper healing and trajectory from this complicated survival strategy.
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  From Vocal Coach to Recovery Coach - Arnold McCuller 20.09.2024 32мин

  In this episode we welcome Arnold McCuller, interventionist and recovery coach based in Southern California. Learn about his extensive career working as a professional vocalist which has taken a later-in-life shift toward interventions for those in the entertainment industry and beyond. Arnold can be reached at www.arnoldmcculler.com.   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com
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  Psychodrama 101: It’s All About the Warm Up - Jean Campbell 19.07.2024 39мин

  Today we welcome Jean Campbell, the CEO of Action Institute of California to talk with us about psychodrama, sociometry, resourcing, and Somatic Experiencing—all in the context of compulsive sexual behavior, addictions in general as well as trauma. With 30 years of expertise, Jean brings together groups of people to heal from their broken-heartedness. She can be reached at www.theactioninstitute.com or [email protected].   Music credit: Neil Freebern Freebernmusic.com