How To Make Love™

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  121: Acceptance ≠ Approval 24.07.2026 19мин

  Adulthood asks us to confront a difficult truth: life rarely unfolds the way we imagined. In this episode, laura explores the difference between acceptance and approval, why acknowledging reality is essential for wise action, and how staying in relationship with what's true can become a profound practice of love, grief, and resilience. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  120: How to Change Your mind 13.04.2026 22мин

  In this episode, we explore why truly living our values—like inclusivity, growth, and liberation—requires more than good intentions. It demands the uncomfortable, ongoing practice of changing our minds. Drawing on neuroscience and real-life examples, laura breaks down an actionable process for recognizing when our thinking is limited, pausing our defensive reactions, and expanding our capacity to hold complexity. If you've ever found yourself shutting down opposing perspectives or clinging to certainty, this conversation offers a powerful reframe: inclusivity isn't just a belief—it's a skill. And learning to update your thinking, even slightly, can transform how you relate to others and move through the world. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.  
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  119: How to Love Without Villains 23.03.2026 15мин

  This episode is about the habit of making someone wrong—-and how quickly that instinct shapes the way we relate to each other. I'm asking what becomes possible if we loosen our grip on blame and instead choose something more curious, and more human. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  118: How to Stay Put 28.02.2026 12мин

  What happens after you let go of forced hope? No breakthrough. No surge of inspiration. Just life—continuing. In this quiet, honest episode building off of last month, we explore what it means to stay put when nothing feels especially promising. Not grit. Not toxic positivity. Just the radical act of not turning away. If you're tired of pretending things will "work out" and still want to remain in love, in care, in contact with life—this one's for you. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  117: How to Hope 16.01.2026 17мин

  How do you hope when there's no logical reason to? In this episode, we explore what hope really is—and what it isn't. Rather than treating hope as optimism, belief, or confidence about the future, this conversation reframes hope as a present-moment orientation toward life, even when things feel bleak, overwhelming, or hopeless. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  116: How to Rehumanize 26.09.2025 14мин

  What does it mean to stay human in a world that fuels disconnection, numbness, and productivity? This episode digs into everyday forms of dehumanization—and offers five messy, honest practices to help you rehumanize yourself and the spaces/relationships around you. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  115: Like the World is Already Free 31.08.2025 16мин

  laura reflects on the paradox of fighting for liberation while remembering we are already free. Through Buddhist practice, personal story, and practical tools, she invites listeners to live from wholeness now—even in the midst of struggle. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  114: How to Despair 30.07.2025 10мин

  In this deeply human episode of How to Make Love, laura invites us to practice despair—not as defeat, but as an act of love and honesty. Together, we explore how to face the unbearable truths of our world—genocide, displacement, climate crises, and quiet suffering—without turning away or being swallowed by numbness. This is not an episode of false hope—it is an invitation to stay human in a breaking world. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  113: How to Believe in Others—Especially When You Shouldn't 23.06.2025 18мин

  Let's explore the radical, often uncomfortable practice of believing in others—even when life, systems, and personal history give us every reason not to. This episode challenges our instincts to withdraw trust and explores belief as a choice to see people as unfinished, capable, and still becoming. It's not about ignoring harm—it's about holding complexity with integrity, courage, and care. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  112: How to Let Go 27.05.2025 19мин

  Letting go isn't often graceful, it tends to be gutting—and it might also be the truest path to liberation. In this episode, laura explores what it truly means to release relationships, roles, and illusions that no longer serve us—personally, politically, and spiritually. If you've ever struggled to loosen your grip on what once defined you, this conversation is your invitation to choose courage over control.  Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  111: How to Not Know 14.04.2025 10мин

  What if certainty is (sometimes) a part of the problem? This episode unpacks how our need to know can prop up domination—and how embracing the skillfullness of not knowing can be a practice of love, liberation, and justice. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta meditation / training-an-open-heart calls.  
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  110: How To Fight 26.03.2025 13мин

  To fight or not to fight? And how? And against whom? Or for what? Join laura for a discussion about how to fight on behalf of love and justice differently. Plus a whole lot of reflection questions for your growth and development. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years.
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  109: How to Love the World When You Hate the World 19.02.2025 23мин

  What do we do when we start to feel really embittered toward the world and the humans in it? How do we hold love and rage at the same time? How do we train in love when what we sometimes feel is hate? Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years.
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  108: What's Love Got To Do With It? (Inauguration Response) 20.01.2025 22мин

  Can love really go toe-to-toe with hate? If so, how do we train for it? What does love really have to do with today and the next four years? Come dig in. Join laura's private network here to learn more about monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
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  107: the Revolution of Reinvention 20.11.2024 12мин

  In this episode, we explore the art of personal reinvention — what it means to choose change on your own terms and imagine new possibilities for your life. Reinvention is more than self-discovery; it's the training ground for transforming the world. Apply to UNscript here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here.
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  106: Self, Family, and Organizational Care During Election Week [Bonus Episode] 28.10.2024 11мин

  Join host laura brewer for discussion about practicing self, family, and organizational care during the upcoming weeks -- and how to prepare for it now. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here.
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  105: The Costs of Courage 21.10.2024 23мин

  We rarely confront the true costs of courage—social, emotional, physical, personal, professional. This episode unpacks why, despite the steep price, courage is worth the choice for personal and collective liberation—helping you understand the cost and truly consent to it. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it!
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  104: Love-Ability 30.09.2024 15мин

  Loveability is a mess. But love-ability? Now we're talking. Tune in to hear why shifting from "loveability" to "love-ability" might change your life, and the world around us. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it!
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  103: "I needed to understand – why do you believe these things?" (ft. Jada Hebra) 17.09.2024 49мин

  How do we love people we really, really disagree with? Join today's guest Jada Hebra to hear her personal story of crossing a giant divide with her spouse. As the election cycle heats up and divides between people are more inflammed than ever before, this conversation is a must-listen –– especially for those who want to practice rehumanizing our culture and our relationships. Fun things to click🌟: Watch Jada's TEDx talk here. Check out Jada's suggested resources and/or download the transcript of this conversation here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it!
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  102: Celebrating 5 Years of Making Love 26.08.2024 13мин

  Happy Birthday/Anniversary to How To Make Love! 🎈 We're back after an extended sabbatical and ready to take on more making of the love, justice, courage, and other important things listeners value. Hear laura share what's been up, and what's getting going. Connect with laura – leave a speakpipe here or send an email here. Transcripts – You can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? ❤️ Become a patreon of the podcast. Read More