They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

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• When Attraction Fades 15.07.2026 30min

  Long-term love changes but does that mean attraction has to? Ciara and Richard discuss intimacy, resentment, communication, and why laughter might be one of the most overlooked parts of a healthy relationship.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!
• Messy Bits... The Cheating DMs 13.07.2026 15min

  Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod
• Financial Stress 08.07.2026 29min

  Debt, rising bills, unequal incomes... Money has a way of creeping into every part of life.Ciara and Richard discuss financial stress, the arguments it causes, and why fairness matters more than splitting everything 50/50.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!
• Messy Bits....Falsely Accused? 06.07.2026 9min

  Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod
• The Single Life 01.07.2026 27min

  Not everyone wants a relationship but society still treats being single like something that needs fixing. Ciara and Richard discuss the pressure to find "the one," choosing to stay single, and whether a relationship is really the measure of a successful life.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode “Messy Bits” on Mondays!
• Messy Bits... Wandering Eye 29.06.2026 10min

  Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod
• Burn Out: Running On Empty 24.06.2026 34min

  Feeling exhausted, cynical, irritable, or like you're barely keeping your head above water? It could be more than stress. Ciara and Richard discuss burnout, how it develops, and what we can do before it takes over.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday and a Bonus Episode on Mondays!
• Messy Bits...Lonely Dad 22.06.2026 10min

  Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod
• They Mess You Up Recommend: GoLoud Sleep Sounds 18.06.2026 1min

  Hi everyone - just dropping in between episodes here with a recommendation to help address a massive psychological issue that can actively wrecking your mental health: your terrible sleep hygiene.Lying awake at 3:00 AM overanalysing your life fuels anxiety, drives stress, and destabilises your mood. If you find it difficult nodding off, or just want to relax and actively down-regulate your nervous system, you need to check out GoLoud’s latest original stream GoLoud Sleep Sounds.This is a pragmatically designed tool featuring a calming collection of immersive, 10-hour soundscapes. Each episode has been carefully tailored for anyone looking for a calmer, healthier bedtime routine. The long-form, entirely uninterrupted audio is designed specifically to create a soothing environment that can be played through the night or used as a cognitive buffer zone during moments of rest and relaxation. There is absolutely no talking, no stories to stimulate your brain, and zero commercial ads to wake you up. Instead, it utilizes the ambient sounds of some of Ireland's most scenic spots to anchor your mind—transporting you to Curracloe Beach in spring, Howth Harbour at sunset, the Midlands on a stormy night, the Wicklow Mountains in winter, or Dublin after dark. This acoustic continuity allows your brain to shift out of high-alert survival mode and transition into deep, restorative sleep.Do something smart for your health tonight.Go to the GoLoud app or wherever you listen to your podcasts, find GoLoud Sleep Sounds, press play, put the phone down, and let it do the rest.Have a listen here:https://open.spotify.com/show/033wsfw3b3SrnBby4xyZhf?si=5307919513424ff3
• The Weight of Shame 17.06.2026 29min

  From dyslexia and aging to sexuality and trauma, shame can leave people carrying burdens that were never theirs to begin with. Ciara and Richard discuss where shame comes from, how it takes hold, and what it takes to let it go.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday. And now a Bonus Episode 'Messy Bits' on Mondays!
• Modern Love: The Listener Survey 10.06.2026 36min

  Would you check your partner's phone? Does messaging someone else count as cheating? Ciara and Richard dive into the results of a listener survey on trust, infidelity, dating apps, and modern relationships.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Friendship Breakups 03.06.2026 29min

  Friendship breakups can feel just as painful as romantic ones but we rarely talk about them.Ciara and Richard discuss rejection, awkwardness, shared friend groups, and why losing a friend can hit harder than people expect.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Coming Out Later in Life 27.05.2026 34min

  Why do some people hide their sexuality for decades? Ciara and Richard unpack shame, fear, homophobia, and the emotional cost of living a life that doesn’t fully feel like your own.After Tommy Fleming’s interview with Ciara on Newstalk, where he discussed his sexuality and decision to come out at 55, they explore identity, secrecy, family expectations, and why it’s never too late to be honest about who you are.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• F*ck Around & Find Out (Parenting) 20.05.2026 30min

  Ciara and Richard discuss “FAFO or F*ck Around and Find Out parenting,” how letting kids make mistakes might be better than stepping in to fix everything.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid 13.05.2026 30min

  Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack the emotional reality of blended families and why forcing closeness too quickly can backfire.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Career Change: Taking the Leap 06.05.2026 30min

  Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where you are. Ciara and Richard share their own career changes and how to make realistic moves towards work that feels fulfilling.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Can We Get Back Together? (Listener Dilemma) 29.04.2026 25min

  After ending a long-term relationship in a moment of grief and low mood, a listener is left questioning everything when her ex moves on quickly.Ciara and Richard unpack whether it’s betrayal or consequence and what it takes to rebuild a relationship once it’s been broken.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Co-Parenting Mistakes: Stop Putting Kids in the Middle 22.04.2026 32min

  It’s often children who carry the emotional fallout when parents separate, especially when conflict, name-calling, and resentment take over.Ciara and Richard unpack the co-parenting behaviours that do real damage, and how to protect children from being caught in the middle.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Sibling Rivalry & Resentment 15.04.2026 36min

  Why do siblings trigger us more than anyone else? Relationships can be shaped by comparison, labels, and family roles that follow us into adulthood.In this episode, Ciara and Richard Hogan unpack sibling rivalry, “family boxes,” and how to build healthier, more connected relationships at any age.Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.
• Staying After an Affair 08.04.2026 30min

  From betrayal and secrecy to rebuilding trust, communication, and a sense of self. Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPodThey Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.