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  Ep#224: Can You Still Cheat in an Open Relationship? with Mindy Glover 21.07.2026 48min

  Today I'm sitting down with therapist and relationship coach Mindy Glover to talk about infidelity and open relationships. We explore why infidelity causes such deep pain, the importance of clearly defining boundaries, and how assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Mindy introduces me to the concept of "blue brain" versus "red brain" decision-making, and explains why agreements are hard to maintain when we’re emotional or aroused. We also discuss transparency in open relationships and how to heal after boundary violations. Mindy shares a personal "infidelity story" exercise that couples can use to understand their triggers and build healthier, more authentic relationships.Mindy's Fascination with Infidelity (01:37)Mindy explains her lifelong fascination with infidelity, viewing it as a powerful, often deal-breaking force in relationships.Why Infidelity is a Deal Breaker (04:09)Infidelity shatters the illusion of security and the belief that you truly know your partner, causing immense pain.The Problem with Monogamy's Assumptions (07:06)Couples often assume they share the same definition of infidelity, which sets them up for misunderstanding and failure.How People Protect Themselves from Infidelity (08:42)Mindy discusses different strategies people use to avoid infidelity, including control, delusion, and exploring open relationships.Blue Brain vs. Red Brain in Relationships (11:06)Neuroscience explains how we make calm, logical decisions (blue brain) but different, aroused decisions (red brain), causing conflict.The Inevitability of Mistakes and Reporting Issues (14:08)Because of our "red brain," mistakes are inevitable, leading to a "reporting problem" in open relationships due to shame.Honoring Individual Relationship Containers (17:18)The discussion explores the complexity of honoring privacy and boundaries within each separate relationship in a polyamorous dynamic.The Beauty and Challenge of Showing Different Parts of Yourself (20:38)Open relationships allow different parts of one's personality to emerge, which can be both beautiful and challenging for partners.The Concept of "Poly Bypassing" (24:42)Mindy introduces "poly bypassing," where individuals suppress real feelings like jealousy to appear enlightened, similar to spiritual bypassing.How to Start the Conversation About Infidelity (27:00)Mindy suggests couples write their own "infidelity story" to understand their personal history, fears, and triggers around cheating.The Illusion of Control Through Rules (30:27)Couples create rules to feel in control, but the real issue is often the lack of prior agreement, not the act itself.Navigating Ruptures and Hurt Feelings (36:50)When hurt occurs, it's crucial to have tools and containers to vent, process, and lean into the conflict.Containing Your "Parts" (39:06)Instead of containing parts of yourself, Mindy suggests getting curious about them and understanding why they emerge.How Mindy Presents in Her Own Dating Life (42:04)Mindy explains she avoids leading with theories and instead focuses on showing up authentically and playfully in relationships.How to Connect with Mindy (44:42)Mindy shares her Instagram handle, website, and information about her therapy practice, coaching, and upcoming workshops.A Final Thought on Relationships (47:38)Mindy encourages listeners to shift from wanting to know everything their partner will do to being excited by the unknown.Follow Mindy:https://www.instagram.com/mindglowmagic/Mindy's Upcoming Live Masterclass:https://www.mindglowmagic.com/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  Ep#223: Avoiding the Roommate Syndrome with Coach Kevin Anthony 15.07.2026 55min

  Today I'm sit down with certified sexologist and relationship coach Kevin Anthony to explore mismatched libido in relationships. We discuss key causes including hormonal changes, performance anxiety, emotional resentment, and the natural fading of new relationship energy. Kevin shares practical strategies for maintaining intimacy, such as daily physical connection, showering together, and intentional date nights. Our conversation also covers spontaneous versus responsive desire, creating safe spaces for honest communication, and the differences between therapy and coaching. Kevin also introduces his Intimacy Mastery app and various coaching programs.Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 15 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of "The Love Lab Podcast", creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series "Power and Mastery" as well as other online courses for both men and women.Follow Kevin:https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com/https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@Kevinanthonycoachinghttps://www.facebook.com/kevinanthonycoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinanthonycoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@kevinanthonycoachingThe Love Lab PodcastFollow The Open Bedroom:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#222: The Truth About STI Risk, Testing & Sexual Health with Robert Johnson 07.07.2026 49min

  Today I’m joined by Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care, a telehealth company focused on sexual health, STI testing, and sexual wellness medications. After a missed STI diagnosis changed his life, Robert built Shameless Care to challenge outdated sexual health practices and bring more transparency, better education, and better access to care. We’re diving into the truth about STI testing, modern Telehealth, and why so many people are still getting bad information about sex.Website: https://shamelesscare.com/Instagram: @shamelesscareofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shamelesscareofficialFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/Use code “OPENBEDROOM” for $15 off at shamelesscare.comRobert's Personal Story (00:01:52)Robert shares his story of a missed oral gonorrhea diagnosis, which inspired him to create Shameless Care.The Problem with Incomplete Testing (00:03:02)Robert explains how his doctors were uninformed about throat swabs and the high prevalence of asymptomatic oral gonorrhea.Normalizing STIs and Testing Frequency (00:05:30)Jen asks about normalizing STI testing, how often people should get tested, and the stigma surrounding STIs.STI Rates and Demographics (00:07:47)Robert discusses high national STI rates, like chlamydia in young women, compared to the lower rates among his educated customers.The Importance of Thorough Testing (00:10:50)Robert emphasizes that testing thoroughly (all sites) is more critical than testing frequently but incompletely.Why Doctors Don't Test Thoroughly (00:12:49)Robert explains that the lack of thorough testing is a systemic issue due to physicians' lack of specialized knowledge.How to Get a Proper STI Test (00:16:36)Robert advises on how to ask your doctor for a full panel or use a telehealth service like Shameless Care.The At-Home Testing Process (00:19:08)Robert describes the at-home kit, how to collect samples (throat, anal swabs), and the low sample rejection rate.The Myth of Being "Clean" (00:21:59)The host and guest discuss the common but inaccurate dating profile claim of being "clean" from STIs.How Often Should You Get Tested? (00:23:39)Robert explains that testing frequency is personal and depends on resources, lifestyle, and number of partners.Addressing Shame and Discretion in Healthcare (00:26:26)Jen shares experiences of shame from doctors, and Robert explains how telehealth offers a discreet and non-judgmental alternative.The Future of Telehealth (00:29:14)Robert discusses the convenience, speed, and accessibility of telehealth for specialty medications and common health issues like UTIs.STI Prevention with DoxyPEP (00:33:38)Robert introduces DoxyPEP, an antibiotic taken after sex to significantly reduce the risk of gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis.Sexual Wellness Medications Offered (00:37:12)Robert details other products available, like topical creams for female arousal and ED medications, without mandatory subscriptions.Common STI Testing Misconceptions (00:39:10)Robert debunks two myths: that a partner's negative test represents your status, and that a recent test is worthless.The Mental Benefit of Testing (00:43:34)Robert and Jen discuss how knowledge and regular testing reduce anxiety, leading to more enjoyable and worry-free sex.How to Use Shameless Care (00:46:49)Robert provides instructions on how to use the website and offers a discount code for the podcast listeners.
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  EP#221: Fully Charged: Primal Sex with Melissa Louise 01.07.2026 1h

  In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back Melissa Louise, a certified erotic blueprint coach, to explore "fully charged primal sex." We dive into the biological and evolutionary roots of male and female sexuality, including why men are naturally silent during sex, how prolactin causes post-ejaculation sleepiness, and why women have greater orgasmic capacity. Melissa also explains sperm competition, menstrual health, and sexual transmutation techniques for men. She introduces her six-week program, Fully Charged, designed to help men build sexual stamina, emotional depth, and deeper partner connection.What is Primal Sex? (00:03:02)Melissa Louise defines primal sex, linking it to survival instincts, our subconscious brain, and deep, raw hunger and desire.Why Men are Silent During Sex (00:05:41)An evolutionary explanation for why men are naturally silent during sex to avoid predators and competition from other males.The Role of Prolactin in Men (00:09:07)Discussion on the hormone prolactin, which makes men sleepy after ejaculation to prevent conflict with subsequent partners for the woman.Female Vocalization and Orgasms (00:10:01)Women are wired to be vocal and have multiple orgasms to attract more partners during their short fertility window.The Egg Chooses the Sperm (00:15:34)Melissa explains that the egg selects the fittest sperm from multiple partners, challenging the idea of sperm choosing the egg.Societal Views on Multiple Partners (00:19:31)A discussion on modern cultural narratives around sexual ownership versus historical community-based lovemaking and the nature of jealousy.Why Women Need More Sex Than Men (00:24:00)Women have a higher orgasmic capacity than men, suggesting their biological need for sex is greater than culturally believed.The Impact of Modern Life on Women's Health (00:25:29)How modern stress and societal pressures negatively affect women's menstrual cycles and lead to a difficult menopause experience.The Power of the Menstrual Cycle (00:30:14)Exploring the spiritual and biological power of menstruation, including DMT release and its historical significance in tribal communities.The Female Orgasmic Experience (00:37:43)The hosts discuss the intense, high-like feeling women experience from multiple orgasms, which is linked to DMT release.How Men Can Have Non-Refractory Orgasms (00:40:37)Melissa reveals that men can experience continuous, non-refractory orgasms through prostate stimulation, similar to a woman's G-spot orgasm.Building a Man's Capacity for Pleasure (00:43:18)Men can be trained to hold more pleasure and separate orgasm from ejaculation, leading to better health and business success.Introduction to the "Fully Charged" Program (00:46:17)Melissa introduces her live training program for men, designed to teach them how to control ejaculation and enhance pleasure.What the "Fully Charged" Program Covers (00:55:29)A detailed breakdown of the six-week program, including practical techniques, shadow work, and learning about female arousal maps.Follow Melissa Louise:WEBSITEFULLY CHARGEDSUbstackINstagram"The Seminal Spirits" are the fire sung by poets having been stolen from the gods by Prometheus.Pierre Louis MoreauThe Earthly Venus.Semen is the most fined & noblest part of the whole human frame containing in itself the whole nature & complexion of every part of the body : or in other words, being the essence of man.Nicolas Venette17th Century physician, sexologist & writer.
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  EP#220: Kink Curious With Faith Laux 22.06.2026 48min

  Today I'm welcoming somatic sex and relationship coach Faith Laux, who shares how her stage four colon cancer diagnosis inspired her to explore kink as a healing practice. Faith explains that kinky play doesn’t require sexual partners, discusses the importance of negotiation and communication, and introduces the five erotic blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. She also guides us on how to begin honest conversations with partners about unexplored desires, emphasizing self-acceptance and vulnerability as essential first steps.Follow Faith + Info on the Erotic Blueprints and her live course!Erotic Blueprint affiliate link:https://theblueprintbreakthrough.net/?oprid=18956&ref=330933EARLY BIRD code for Kink Curious: EARLYBIRDKink Curious websiteFollow The Open Bedroom:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#219: Why Women Don't Want Nice Guys With Marni Kinrys 17.06.2026 1h 21min

  Today I'm speaking with Marni Kinrys, founder of the Wing Girl Method, about why being a "nice guy" often kills attraction. Marni explains the crucial difference between being "nice" (passive, conflict-avoidant) and being a "good man" (confident, assertive, emotionally intelligent). We discuss how societal conditioning creates insecurity in men, how emotional disconnection kills desire in relationships, and how men can rebuild attraction through consistent support and playful flirtation. Marni also introduces her "F Formula" program, designed to help men develop authentic confidence and flirting skills.MARNI KINRYS is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, host of the Ask Women Podcast, designer of the F-Formula, and an award-winning female dating coach for men ages 25-85 at every stage of dating and relationships, who’s spent the last decade helping hundreds of thousands of men stop being Mr. Nice Guy and start being Mr. Holy Sh*t, I Want Him!With more than 50 digital programs, monthly online masterclasses, 150 million YouTube views and 1,300,000 subscribers to her channel, Marni Your Personal Wing Girl, Marni is known for her blunt, no “fluff” approach and honest insider tips, tools and advice on what women really want vs. what they say they want.The Difference Between "Nice" and "Good" (00:03:10) Marnie explains that "nice" often means boring and passive, while a "good" man is confident, assertive, and sexually expressive.The Origins of the "Nice Guy" (00:05:06) The discussion explores how early female influences, like mothers or teachers, and societal pressures can train men to be overly passive.Modern Pressures on Men (00:07:05) Marnie and Jen discuss how movements like #MeToo have created confusion for men, making them unsure how to act around women.The Importance of Emotional Intelligence (00:13:59) A man who can be masculine while also understanding communication and holding space for a woman's emotions is incredibly attractive.The "Soap" Argument: Understanding Triggers (00:19:53) Jen shares a story about an argument over soap, highlighting how small issues can trigger deeper feelings of inadequacy and mental load.How to See Beyond the Argument (00:25:44) Marnie explains how she coaches men to understand the real emotions behind a woman's complaints, like exhaustion or feeling overwhelmed.Revitalizing a Sexless Marriage (00:30:40) The conversation shifts to why wives lose sexual interest, linking it to feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported by their partners.Baby Steps to Reconnection (00:33:50) Marnie offers practical, small steps for men to rebuild connection and trust, starting with consistent communication and taking on responsibilities.What Men Really Want (00:38:02) Men come to Marnie to learn how to attract women, which involves shedding the "nice guy" mask and becoming comfortable with themselves.Follow Marni:WingGirlMethod.comFacebookInstagramTikTokTwitterYouTubeLinkedInFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#218: Why You’re Not Getting a 2nd Date 09.06.2026 53min

  In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, My husband Scott and I discuss why people often don't get a second date, identifying 5 problematic dater archetypes: Chatty Cathy, Negative Nancy, Pillow Princess, Boring Brenda, and Free Date Fran. Our central message is simple: show genuine curiosity about your date. We emphasize that mutual engagement, both conversationally and intimately, is essential for meaningful connection, and that self-awareness is key to improving your dating life.Why You're Not Getting a Second Date (00:01:16)Jen and Scott introduce the central theme: why people often don't get called back for a second date.The Self-Absorbed Dater (00:03:32)Scott shares a story about a woman from his past who talked endlessly about herself without ever asking about him.Giving Feedback to Bad Daters (00:09:30)The hosts discuss the dilemma of whether to give direct, compassionate feedback to people after a bad date.The Common Theme: Lack of Reciprocity (00:10:09)Scott describes the recurring pattern of dates who talk at them for hours without showing any curiosity about their lives.Frustration with Self-Centered Dates (00:14:25)Jen expresses her exhaustion and frustration with the consistent lack of reciprocal engagement from the people they date.Archetype 1: Chatty Cathy (00:17:33)Jen introduces the first archetype of a bad dater: the person who talks nonstop and never asks any questions.Archetype 2: Negative Nancy (00:18:07)The hosts discuss the second archetype, using a recent date who complained constantly and ran up a large bill.Archetype 3: The Pillow Princess (00:20:09)Jen describes a selfish sexual partner who expects to receive pleasure without reciprocating, tying it to the same problematic date.Archetype 4: Boring Brenda (00:26:34)The hosts discuss dates who are uninteresting, lack hobbies or identity, and have a flat, disengaged emotional affect.Reasons for Poor Dating Behavior (00:28:38)Scott explores potential reasons for these behaviors, such as self-absorption, nervousness, or a simple lack of conversational skills.The Importance of Meaningful Connection (00:30:31)Scott explains his approach to dating, which involves seeking genuine connection and understanding who a person truly is.Asking Deeper Questions (00:34:16)The hosts share insightful questions they ask on dates to encourage deeper conversation and reveal a person's character.Becoming an Interesting Person (00:39:08)Jen advises listeners who might be "boring" to develop hobbies and interests before re-entering the dating scene.Aligning Your Profile with Your Goals (00:41:29)The hosts discuss the importance of ensuring your dating profile accurately reflects what you are actually looking for in a partner.Archetype 5: Free Date Franny (00:48:19)Jen introduces the final archetype: the person who seems to only want a free meal or night out.Final Thoughts on Self-Awareness (00:51:10)Scott concludes that having self-awareness and showing genuine curiosity in others is crucial for successful and fulfilling dating experiences.Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#217: The Truth About Premature Ejaculation with Jeff Abrahams of Promescent 12.05.2026 1h 9min

  Today I'm sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a sexual wellness brand. Jeff shares how Prometheus developed their patented delay sprays and wipes to help men with premature ejaculation by reducing hypersensitivity—without numbing their partners. We dive into the "orgasm gap" between men and women, the importance of foreplay and communication, and why normalizing masturbation for men matters. Jeff also talks about female arousal gels, cock rings, and their Go Solo lotion. Throughout the episode, we focus on removing shame around sexual wellness and encourage couples to explore intimacy openly using the right tools.Unrealistic Expectations from Porn (00:00:01)Discusses how porn creates anxiety and unrealistic expectations about sex and performance.Origins of Promescent and PE Treatments (00:01:51)Jeff explains the founding of Promescent, early PE treatments, and the science behind their delay spray.How the Delay Spray Works (00:04:05)Details on the lidocaine-based spray, its unique formulation, and how it avoids numbing partners.The Orgasm Gap and Coping Mechanisms (00:06:14)Discusses the average duration of intercourse for men and women, the orgasm gap, and coping strategies.PE’s Prevalence and Misdiagnosis (00:08:42)PE is more common than ED; misdiagnosis and psychological impacts are discussed.Anxiety, Confidence, and Sexual Performance (00:09:57)Explores the link between anxiety, confidence, and sexual performance in men.Impact of Porn on Sexual Expectations (00:13:38)How porn distorts expectations and increases anxiety for both men and women.Communication and Learning Your Partner (00:22:24)Importance of communication, understanding partner preferences, and overcoming shame in sexual relationships.Sex Education and Breaking Stereotypes (00:29:53)Lack of proper sex education, breaking myths about orgasms, and understanding female anatomy.Stigma and Physiology of Premature Ejaculation (00:56:48)Addressing stigma, physiological causes of PE, and the need for open discussion and solutions.Shop Promescent:https://www.promescent.com/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#216: Sensitive is Sexy, Nervous System Regulation for Intimacy with Rachel Dorneanu 05.05.2026 52min

  In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with licensed therapist and certified sex therapist Rachel Dorneanu to talk about what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and how it impacts intimacy. Rachel walks me through the DOES framework (Depth of processing, Overstimulation, Empathy, Strong emotional responses) and we explore how HSP traits can both enhance and complicate sexual experiences. We dive into nervous system regulation techniques—like breathing exercises, somatic tools, and mindful practices—to help you (and me!) find our "window of tolerance" for pleasurable, sustainable intimacy. Rachel also shares practical communication strategies that I can use to navigate sensitivity differences with my partner.Vibrator Sensations (00:00:01) Jen and Rachel discuss different types of vibrator sensations, from "buzzy" to "deep and thrumming," and personal preferences.Podcast Introduction (00:00:34) Jen introduces the podcast, herself as the host, and today's guest, Rachel Dorneanu a licensed therapist.Introducing Rachel (00:01:09) A detailed introduction of Rachel, her credentials, specializations, and personal interests outside of her professional life.Topic Intro: Sensitive is Sexy (00:02:10) Jen introduces the episode's topic and shares her personal experiences with increasing sensitivity as she gets older.What is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? (00:03:03) Rachel defines what a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) is, mentioning it affects about 20% of the population.The "DOES" Acronym for HSP (00:04:10) Rachel explains the HSP acronym DOES: Depth of processing, Overstimulation, Empathy, and Sensitivity to stimuli, relating it to intimacy.HSP and Sex Toys (00:06:18) The discussion turns to how being an HSP can affect the experience with sex toys, like needing lower vibration levels.How Do You Know if You're HSP? (00:08:30) Jen questions how to identify as an HSP and contrasts it with how a "normal" person might experience the world.Training Yourself to Be More Sensitive (00:11:26) Rachel offers advice for people who feel desensitized and want to experience more sensitivity, suggesting mindfulness and breathing exercises.Exposure Hierarchy Explained (00:13:23) Rachel explains the therapeutic concept of an exposure hierarchy to gradually build tolerance and sensitivity in a sexual context.Follow Rachel: https://blinq.me/SbViZhQWbeXoFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#215: When the Match Doesn’t Match Your True Desires 10.03.2026 39min

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with my husband Scott as we reflect on his recent breakup with a woman we’d been dating. We get real about the importance of relationship alignment, the challenges that come up when expectations around exclusivity and autonomy don’t quite match, and how easy it is to overlook red flags when there’s strong chemistry. Sharing from our own experience, we talk about why honest communication matters, how being clear about what we want can make all the difference, and the importance of choosing partners whose relationship goals truly line up with ours. Whether you’re exploring modern, non-traditional relationship dynamics or just curious, we hope our conversation offers some thoughtful insights and support along the way.When the Match Doesn’t Match (00:05:27)Diving into why the recent relationship didn’t work, starting from dating profiles to real-life misalignment.Misalignment in Relationship Goals (00:07:56)Clarifying the disconnect in what each party wanted—deep connection vs. friends with benefits—and how this was communicated.Overlooking Red Flags Due to Chemistry (00:08:49)How strong chemistry and communication led both sides to ignore fundamental misalignments.Challenges of Standing Firm in Desires (00:10:09)The difficulty of holding to one’s relationship needs when someone seems to check almost every box.Intellectual vs. Political Alignment (00:10:34)Discussing how intellectual connection was strong, but political and worldview differences existed.Navigating Political Differences in Dating (00:12:18)Jen reflects on dating app experiences and how political alignment is often a barrier, but can also be a source of connection.Red Flags vs. Misalignment (00:16:33)Exploring the difference between true red flags and simple misalignment in relationship goals.Ignoring Red Flags and Its Consequences (00:18:18)Why people ignore red flags, and the pain caused by trying to force a relationship despite clear misalignments.Autonomy vs. Security in Relationships (00:20:10)Scott and Jen discuss the struggle between wanting autonomy and the desire for security and exclusivity.Believing People When They Show You Who They Are (00:23:09)Learning to accept people’s stated boundaries and not trying to change them; importance of alignment.Lessons Learned and Moving Forward (00:24:10)Jen shares takeaways: only date aligned people and avoid those who put up emotional walls.Confusion When Words and Actions Differ (00:25:03)How mixed signals—saying one thing but acting another—create confusion and hope for change.Reflecting on Past Relationship Dynamics (00:27:17)Jen wonders if things would have changed if they hadn’t pushed for exclusivity, drawing parallels to her own past.Choosing Each Other and Responsibility (00:29:01)Scott discusses the responsibility and effort involved when someone chooses exclusivity and prioritizes the relationship.Scott’s Capacity for Multiple Relationships (00:33:06)Jen praises Scott’s ability to meet the needs of multiple partners and reflects on what they seek in future partners.Tailoring Relationship Dynamics to Your Needs (00:35:30)Advice to listeners: seek partners who want the same dynamic as you, whether it’s polyamory, swinging, or exclusivity.Envisioning the Future and Alignment (00:36:34)Realizing misalignment when future visions don’t include each other; importance of shared goals.Honesty About Needs and Desires (00:37:43)Emphasizing the need for self-honesty and seeking partners who are open to building what you want.Podcast Closing (00:39:15)Thanking listeners, encouraging feedback, and inviting them to subscribe and share the podcast.Follow The Open Bedroom podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
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  EP#214: Things Your Momma Never Told You About Your Vagina with Heather Florio 03.03.2026 46min

  Hey, it’s Jen, and this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast is all about the things your momma probably never mentioned about your vagina (and trust me, you’ll want to hear this!). I’m joined by Heather Florio, the fabulous CEO of Desert Harvest, and together we’re busting myths, spilling secrets, and getting real about women’s pelvic and vaginal health.We kick things off by debunking some classic myths—like whether you really need to do Kegels all day, every day (spoiler: not everyone should!), and why those “freshness” products in the drugstore might be doing more harm than good. Heather dives into the science behind vaginal health, explaining why pH-balanced and iso-osmolar products are your best friends, especially when it comes to lubricants and moisturizers.We get into the nitty-gritty about hormone changes during perimenopause and menopause, and why supporting your body through these transitions is so important. Heather also drops some truth bombs about why you should steer clear of douches and coconut oil (yep, even if your favorite influencer swears by it), and why aloe-based moisturizers might just be the unsung heroes of vaginal care.This episode is packed with practical tips for keeping your pelvic health in check, and we’re all about empowering you to ask questions, have open conversations, and demand evidence-based care. So grab your headphones and get ready to learn what your momma didn’t tell you—but definitely should have!Follow Heather:https://desertharvest.com/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
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  EP#213: Successful Sex Work (in Australia) with George Gouldburn 24.02.2026 50min

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with George Goulburn, who left his corporate career to become a straight male escort in Australia. George opens up about his unique journey, sharing what inspired his career change and what life is really like as a male escort. We dive into the legal and cultural differences between sex work in Australia and the U.S., and George offers honest insights into the realities of his work—helping women explore their desires, regain confidence, and experience genuine companionship. Our conversation highlights how sex work is normalized in Australia, the importance of safety and consent, and we challenge some of the most common stereotypes about escorts and their clients.Introduction to George and His Journey (00:00:02) George shares how women encouraged him to become a paid escort and discusses his communication skills.Podcast and Guest Introduction (00:00:27) Jen introduces the podcast, George’s background, and sets up the conversation about sex work in Australia.Legal Status of Sex Work in Australia (00:04:18) Discussion about the legality of escorting in Australia, differences with the US, and social perceptions.Impact of Legalization and Social Attitudes (00:07:30) How legalization has changed the industry, societal views, and the ongoing taboo around sex work.George’s Transition from Corporate to Escorting (00:10:17) George describes his personal journey, challenges, and learning curve moving from corporate life to sex work.First Paid Experience and Professional Approach (00:11:38) George recounts his first paid encounter and how it changed his approach to intimacy and professionalism.Client Vetting and Customization (00:13:58) Explains his process for vetting clients, customizing experiences, and the importance of clear communication.Clientele Demographics and Motivations (00:16:18) Discussion about the types of women who seek his services, their backgrounds, and what they are looking for.Companionship vs. Sex and Self-Care (00:18:14) Explores how companionship is often more important than sex, and how clients view the service as self-care.Fetishes, Power Dynamics, and Kink (00:22:30) Talks about clients’ interests in BDSM, power exchange, and how he introduces kink and new experiences.Follow George:www.georgegoulburn.comFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
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  EP#212: How to Create a Threeway: Most Replayed Moment 10.02.2026 12min

  This is the most listened to segment of EP136: How to Have a Threesome. To listen to the rest of the episode that includes HOW to communicate to your partner during a threesome, click the link below:https://open.spotify.com/episode/5d0pUBCL1Fkv7CQVwu15U4?si=knry02cqRNOTmHlpiXuK8gWanna have a threesome? You're not alone! A threesome is the most sought after sexual experience, and almost 20% of men have had one! In today's episode I discuss how to find a 3rd through online platforms and the importance of setting boundaries and intentions. I share my personal experiences, advising on safe sex practices and the significance of aftercare. My insights aim to create a respectful and safe environment for all participants, ensuring a positive and consensual experience.0:00 IntroAlignment with Your Partner (00:01:14)Discussing the importance of finding alignment with your partner and understanding the dynamics for a threesome.Advertising Your Intentions (00:03:17)Exploring the ways to advertise your intentions for a threesome, including online groups and dating apps.Pre-Threesome Communication (00:06:19)Emphasizing the importance of clear communication and setting intentions before engaging in a threesome.Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#211: How to Thrive in Neurodiverse Relationships with Seb & Dr. Alison Ash 03.02.2026 1h 9min

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore how neurodiversity—specifically ADHD and autism—affect relationships, intimacy, and daily life. I’m joined by Seb, who has ADHD and two decades of experience supporting neurodivergent individuals, and his neurotypical wife, Dr. Alison Ash. Together, we discuss communication strategies, managing executive function stress, sensory sensitivities, and the importance of mutual understanding. Seb and Dr. Aly share practical tools for navigating challenges, fostering emotional connection, and creating fulfilling partnerships that honor both neurodivergent and neurotypical needs.Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love.  As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. Sebastian aka Seb is a certified TurnON.love sex and intimacy coach and educator. Seb also has two decades of experience of working with neurodivergent folks, and specializes in supporting them and their partners to have fulfilling intimacy. Dr. Aly and Seb design workshops, courses, and retreats and offer individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.loveChapter 2: Personal Journeys & Neurodiversity Expertise (00:02:04) Saib shares his background working with neurodiverse individuals and his personal experience with ADHD; Dr. Aly discusses her neurotypical but highly sensitive background.Chapter 3: Understanding Neurodiversity—Definitions & Dynamics (00:05:02) The group explores the definitions of neurotypical and neurodivergent, societal expectations, and the importance of recognizing both strengths and challenges.Chapter 4: Prevalence, Diagnosis, and Self-Identification (00:08:38) Saib discusses statistics on neurodivergence, generational differences, and how to recognize signs of being neurodivergent.Chapter 5: Empowerment Through Diagnosis & Community (00:12:50) Dr. Aly and Seb highlight the benefits of diagnosis or self-identification, including empowerment and finding community.Chapter 6: ADHD & Autism—Traits, Gender Differences, and Masking (00:14:13) Seb explains ADHD types, autism as a spectrum, gender differences in presentation, and the concept of masking neurodivergent traits.Chapter 7: Neurodiversity in Relationships—Challenges & Tools (00:22:35) Discussion shifts to how neurodivergence shows up in relationships, managing executive function, and practical tools like to-do lists and shared calendars.Chapter 8: Communication, Collaboration, and Emotional Health (00:35:26) Dr. Aly discusses supportive communication, positive reinforcement, collaborative problem-solving, and handling difficult conversations in neurodiverse partnerships.Chapter 9: Intimacy, Sensory Needs, and Sexual Connection (00:54:28) Exploring how ADHD and autism impact sexual intimacy, including sensory sensitivities, predictability, and tools for supporting neurodivergent partners.Dr. Aly and Sebastian will be teaching on ZoomNeurodiverse Relating & Executive Function on March 3rdNeurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy on March 10thNeurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy on March 24th Folks can access these live virtual courses at www.TurnON.love/eventsThese workshops are also available as an on-demand rental, offering the same material anytime, at www.TurnON.love/workshopsFor info on 1:1, couples, and ENM Intimacy coaching with Dr. Aly and Sebastian can be found at www.TurnON.love/coaching Follow the Open Bedroom podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast?igsh=cjJ0ZThkYmR0ZG11&utm_source=qr
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  EP#210: From Dinner to Desire: How to Create a Sexy Night at Home 20.01.2026 20min

  Today I'm sharing my step-by-step guide for creating a sexy, intentional Valentine’s Day or sexy night at home. I explain the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and offer practical tips to build anticipation throughout the day—starting with bedtime rituals, flirty texts, and sexy underwear. I suggest using dinner as foreplay with finger-friendly foods, then transitioning to the bedroom with sensual activities like oil massages, wax play, and sex toys. I emphasize connection, communication, and making intimacy fun and pressure-free for couples.Understanding Desire: Spontaneous vs. Responsive (00:01:23)Explains the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and why understanding this matters for couples.Intentional Desire-Building: The Three-Part Plan (00:02:55)Jen outlines her three-part plan for building desire from morning to night.Part 1: Morning Desire & Setting the Tone (00:04:11)Discusses starting desire the night before, going to bed naked, and setting intentions for the next day.Sexy Underwear & Turning Yourself On (00:06:13)Encourages wearing sexy underwear to feel turned on throughout the day, sharing personal anecdotes.Flirty Connection Throughout the Day (00:09:30)Suggests sending flirty texts, voice notes, and sharing sexy memories to keep anticipation simmering.Movement & Hormones: The Power of a Workout (00:10:52)Recommends working out to boost hormones and get into your body before the evening.Part 2: Dinner as Sensual Foreplay (00:11:57)Describes how to make dinner light, sensual, and interactive, using finger foods and food play.Part 3: Transitioning to the Bedroom (00:13:55)Emphasizes a slow transition to the bedroom, avoiding rushing, and building on arousal.Oil Massage & Splash Blankets (00:15:00)Suggests using oil massages and splash blankets for a sensual, mess-friendly experience.Warm Wax & Temperature Play (00:16:01)Introduces warm wax play and experimenting with temperature and textures for added sensation.Exploring Toys & New Experiences (00:18:02)Encourages trying new sex toys together to enhance intimacy and break routine.My favorite Splash Blanket:https://splashblanket.us/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#209: Purity Culture Fucks Up Men 13.01.2026 52min

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with show listener Mr. Pollyanna, who shares his journey from an evangelical Christian upbringing and purity culture to embracing emotional vulnerability and polyamory. We discuss the damaging effects of toxic masculinity, religious shame, and emotional abuse, and how these have shaped our relationships and intimacy. Mr. Pollyanna offers insights on breaking free from patriarchal norms, cultivating tenderness, and building healthier, more authentic connections. Our conversation provides practical advice for men seeking emotional growth, highlighting the importance of compassion, listening, and redefining masculinity beyond traditional religious expectations.Guest Introduction & Background (00:01:06)Jen and Mr. Pollyanna share how they met, his Christian upbringing, and his journey to deconstructing faith.Purity Culture and Its Impact (00:02:04)Announcement of the episode’s main topic: how purity culture negatively affects men.Mr. Pollyanna’s Upbringing & Marriage (00:02:14)He describes his liberal Christian background, marrying into a conservative family, and early relationship challenges.Toxic Family Dynamics & Church Involvement (00:04:37)Explains family abuse, church leadership, and the dysfunction in evangelical communities.Deconstruction & Anonymity (00:06:09)Discusses leaving the church, being anonymous on TikTok, and ongoing family abuse and shame.Purity Culture Guilt & Relationship Roles (00:07:33)Talks about guilt from past relationships, controlling partners, and the “happy dingbat” dynamic.Toxic Faith & Family Control (00:08:40)Describes toxic faith, family control over finances, education, and the struggle to break free.Leaving the Church & Ongoing Shame (00:10:07)Explores the lasting effects of purity culture, ongoing guilt, and the contradiction of forgiveness.Privilege & Abuse in Religious Marriages (00:11:11)Acknowledges male privilege, shares stories of women’s abuse, and his involvement in healing communities.Divorce & Breaking Free (00:13:55)Describes the turning point leading to divorce and the relief of leaving guilt and shame behind.Host’s Personal Experience with Purity Culture (00:14:40)Jen shares her Catholic upbringing, friends’ experiences with virginity, and the shame surrounding sex.Dave Ramsey, Christian Marriages & Sexlessness (00:16:20)Jen discusses Christian influencers, sexless marriages, and questions why men stay in unfulfilling relationships.Why Men Stay in Unhappy Marriages (00:18:38)Mr. Pollyanna explains men’s reasons for staying, lack of emotional skills, and societal changes.Generational Masculinity & Emotional Deficits (00:21:23)Explores how past generations shaped men’s inability to be loving and emotionally available.Homosocial Behavior & Male Loneliness (00:23:52)Discusses men seeking approval from other men, lack of feminine influence, and self-inflicted loneliness.Religion, Family, and Toxic Masculinity (00:29:17)Examines how religion and toxic masculinity perpetuate control, emotional distance, and family conflict.Nurturing, Intimacy, and Ending Patriarchy (00:30:34)Advocates for nurturing, emotional intimacy, and how this could challenge patriarchy.Post-Divorce Relationships & Deconstruction (00:31:32)Describes dating after divorce, deconstructing faith, and the impact of “the one” narrative.Solo Polyamory & Relationship Dynamics (00:40:16)Discusses life as a solo poly man, benefits of independence, and maintaining multiple relationships.Emotional Intelligence & Being a Better Lover (00:43:19)Talks about emotional IQ, learning from books, and the importance of tenderness in relationships.Advice for Men: Listening & Presence (00:45:18)Offers practical advice for men: listen to women, provide comfort, and be emotionally present.Follow The Open Bedroom podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP208: How Men Weaken Themselves By Constant Ejaculation with Melissa Louise 06.01.2026 1h

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back sexuality and tantra expert Melissa Louise for a deep dive into men’s sexual energy, ejaculation, and the cultural narratives around male sexuality. Melissa shares her personal stories and offers practical advice on how to harness sexual energy for vitality, creativity, and deeper intimacy. We explore how early life experiences shape our relationships, discuss the importance of “sexual currency,” and share techniques like breathwork and intention-setting. Melissa also introduces her “Man in Control” program, which provides tools for men to improve their sexual health. This episode encourages you to rethink sexuality as a source of connection and empowerment.CHAPTERS:Melissa’s Origin Story (00:02:08) Working with Men and Women (00:06:34) Cultural Attitudes Toward Male Sexuality (00:09:00) The Power and Depletion of Ejaculate (00:10:31) Daoist Perspectives on Ejaculation (00:13:49) Historical and Cultural Shifts in Sexuality (00:15:29) Sexual Energy and Cultural Differences (00:16:34) Sexual Repression and Relationship Dynamics (00:19:10) Sexual Energy as Life Force (00:21:00)ABOUT MELISSA LOUISE:Melissa Louise is Your Absolute Pleasure Advocate Internationally recognized for her no BS, authentic expression she brings warmth, raw honesty, and unapologetic depth to the most intimate parts of being human.Melissa supports women to reclaim their non negotiable and divine birthright to feel alive, orgasmic, and turned the fuck on — no matter their age or relationship status.Melissa supports men to become more attractive, powerful, and trustworthy by mastering their sexual energy, lasting longer in bed, and unlocking freedom in their bodies and bank accounts.SUBSTACK: https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribeMan in Control Program:https://melissalouise.world/man-6739?am_id=jennifer7672Follow Melissa Louise:https://www.instagram.com/melissa_louise_intimacy/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#207: A Polyamorous Wedding- Jen & Scott Get Married! 30.12.2025 39min

  In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I share the story of how Scott and I decided to get married after four years together. I reflect on our initial hesitations, the practical reasons behind our choice—including financial planning and a prenup—and our intimate, DIY park ceremony officiated by a close friend. I discuss the meaning behind our vows, our open relationship, and the importance of creating a wedding that felt authentic to us. I also offer insights into our life together, our recent home remodel, and encourage you to embrace relationships on your own terms.Introduction & Wrestling with Marriage (00:00:03) Jen introduces the podcast and discusses her and Scott’s initial hesitations and conversations about marriage.Financial Commitments & Decision to Marry (00:01:09) They consider buying a home and business together, leading to discussions about legal and financial security.Prenup & Ceremony Planning (00:03:37) Jen and Scott agree on a prenup and begin planning a small, private ceremony focused on themselves.Choosing the Location & Officiant (00:05:47) They select a park for the ceremony and ask their friend Steph, a minister, to officiate.Photographer & Ceremony Details (00:06:50) Jen arranges for Ashton, their photographer, to capture the ceremony and describes the intimate guest list.Wedding Attire & Weather (00:07:49) Jen shares her process of finding a dress, dealing with unexpected cold weather, and last-minute outfit changes.Comparing Past Weddings (00:10:39) Jen reflects on her previous two weddings, their costs, and how this third wedding is different.Ring Story & Design (00:12:29) She tells the story of her engagement ring, its history, and how she redesigned it for each marriage.Vows & Writing Process (00:17:11) Jen discusses writing personalized vows, the importance of privacy, and how their open relationship influenced their promises.Deciding Not to Invite Kids (00:20:23) She explains why they chose not to include their children in the ceremony for privacy and honesty in their vows.Handmade Bouquet & Wedding Accoutrements (00:22:35) Jen describes making her own bouquet and boutonniere, and the importance of small details for photos.DIY Wedding & Costs (00:26:18) She encourages listeners to have simple, affordable weddings and details their total expenses.Scott’s Wedding Outfit (00:27:14) Jen talks about shopping for Scott’s non-traditional wedding attire and how it fit their style.Building a Life Together & New Home (00:28:05) Jen shares about buying a house, remodeling, and the practical aspects of merging lives and finances.Open Relationship & Home Design (00:30:05) They design their home, including a shower for three, to fit their open relationship lifestyle.Reflections on Relationship Changes (00:32:15) Jen recaps the year’s changes in their relationship dynamics, including breakups and new dating approaches.Follow The Open Bedroom:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#206 Our Throuple Broke Up 02.12.2025 29min

  Today I'm sharing an update about the breakup of my polyamorous triad with Scott and Jess, reflecting on the challenges of differing relationship needs. I discuss the evolution of my relationships, the importance of self-fulfillment, and lessons I’ve learned about communication, boundaries, and embracing change. I encourage you to cultivate a full life outside of partnerships and offer insights into navigating love, loss, and growth within open relationships. I also hint at some upcoming life events and future podcast topics.Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction and Setting the Stage (00:00:03)Jen introduces the podcast, mentions the recent breakup, and sets up the episode’s focus.Reflecting on the Triad Vacation (00:01:24)Jen recalls their first vacation as a triad and the joy of having a third partner.Scott’s Desire for Openness (00:02:33)Scott expresses his need for a more open relationship, leading to conflict with Jess.Jess’s Need for Stability and the Breakup (00:03:47)Jess asserts her need for monogamy and stability, resulting in the end of the triad.Being the Person in the Middle (00:05:44)Jen discusses the pain and challenges of being caught between two partners with conflicting needs.How Relationship Dynamics Change (00:07:01)Jen reflects on how needs and dynamics shift over time, using her marriages as examples.Personal Growth Through Relationships (00:08:14)Jen shares her journey of self-discovery and growth during her second marriage.Sexual Awakening and Changing Needs (00:09:05)Jen describes her late-30s sexual awakening and the resulting end of her second marriage.Accelerated Change in Open Relationships (00:10:09)Jen explains how open relationships can accelerate personal and relational growth.Shifting Dynamics with Scott and Steph (00:11:16)Jen recounts how relationship dynamics with Scott and Steph evolved, including role reversals.Tossing Out Relationship Rules (00:12:23)Jen discusses moving away from rigid rules and embracing fluidity in open relationships.Evolving Relationship with Steph (00:13:45)Jen details how her relationship with Steph changed after Scott left the triad.Intentional Time and Changing Expectations (00:15:45)Jen describes efforts to schedule intentional time with Steph and how expectations shifted.Letting Go of Guilt and Societal Roles (00:19:10)Jen learns to release guilt and societal expectations, focusing on authentic connection.Self-Fulfillment Outside of Partners (00:20:20)Jen emphasizes the importance of self-fulfillment and not relying solely on partners for happiness.Making Room for New Connections (00:22:37)Jen discusses being open to new partners and connections as life and needs change.Lessons from the Breakup with Jess (00:23:34)Jen reflects on the pain of losing Jess and the importance of letting people come and go.Unattached Love and Relationship Choice (00:25:49)Jen shares insights about unattached love and choosing relationships without rigid requirements.Outro and Upcoming Life Events (00:26:44)Jen wraps up, mentions upcoming travel, moving, and thanks listeners for their support.Podcast Closing and Listener Engagement (00:28:36)Closing remarks, encouraging feedback, topic suggestions, and sharing the podcast.Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
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  EP#205: Love Without Borders: Inside the Life of a Long-Distance Throuple Love You Two 2022 18.11.2025 56min

  Ever wondered how couples navigate long-term commitment while exploring other connections? This candid discussion explores one couple's journey into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) after 20 years of marriage. From initial hesitations to embracing polyamorous connections, they share their story of redefining relationships and challenging norms. Learn about the realities of an open relationship and the courage it takes to rewrite your own rules.Missi and Brian’s Origin Story (00:01:44) Missi shares how she and Brian began discussing adding a third, their early thoughts, and discovering polyamory.Lisa’s Background and Entry (00:05:13) Lisa describes her background, previous marriage, initial interest in threesomes, and how she met Missi and Brian.Navigating International Long-Distance (00:11:22) The triad discusses managing a cross-border relationship, travel logistics, and cultural differences between Canada and the US.Political and Social Challenges (00:15:09) Lisa shares anxieties about political climates, social judgment, and how love overcomes external pressures.From Casual to Committed (00:16:39) Lisa and Missi discuss how the relationship evolved from casual fun to a committed, equal triad.Disentangling Marriage for Equality (00:29:31) Missi and Lisa explain how and Brian shifted from a married couple with a girlfriend to a more equal triad.Navigating New Relationship Energy (00:32:26) They discuss the challenges of balancing new relationship energy, dyad connections, and letting relationships develop naturally.Staying Connected Long-Distance (00:42:00) The triad shares how they maintain connection across distance, use technology, and structure dyad time.Advice for Aspiring Triads (00:52:28) Final advice for listeners interested in triads: patience, communication, boundaries, and seeking peace over butterflies.Follow Brian, Lisa and Missi:https://www.instagram.com/loveyoutwo2022/Follow The Open Bedroom:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/