Dads And Daddies

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  Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Owning Manhattan’ star and Queerity app founder Jordan Hurt and talk the road from gutter to high-rise, being sober on the apps, sharing his rock bottom moment on TV, and confronting friends struggling with addiction 28.07.2026 1sa 16dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Judson’s dear friend, star of Netflix’s “Owning Manhattan,” and the founder of Queerity — the world’s first sober LGBTQ+ social and lifestyle app — Jordan Hurt. Jordan takes them through his journey from his childhood as a self-described “punk rock kid from the gutter,” to his move to New York with little money and no prospects, to his time as a sex worker, to his incredible success as a real estate broker under the guidance of famed realtor Ryan Serhant. He goes into great detail about his sobriety journey, including his rock-bottom moment that played out in front of the cameras for the hit reality show he was a cast member on. He then tells them all about Queerity–how he came to develop it, and the ways in which sober people can use it to find friends, romance, sex, events and safe destinations. He also shares his renewed views on dating, romance and what the future may hold for his personal life. The episode ends with Jordan helping Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants help navigating a friendship with someone he is concerned is heading down a dangerous path with alcohol.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Daddyhunt founder and CEO Carl Sandler and talk treating each other right on and off the apps, what it takes to be a good son, keeping Daddies alive and the importance of gay friendships 21.07.2026 1sa 28dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by the founder and CEO of the Daddyhunt app, Carl Sandler. Carl shares how Daddyhunt first came to be over twenty years ago and how it has evolved with the PrEP generation as the gay community has become more open to Daddies and to open relationships. He tells the story behind the Daddyhunt serial that became a viral sensation ten years ago, and talks about its upcoming re-release this year in 4K for a post-Heated Rivalry world. Carl helps Brian and Judson think about how gay men can and should behave better towards one another, explains what he as a Daddy gets from the younger men he surrounds himself with, discusses how Daddiness at its core is about giving back and what that looks like, delves deep into the importance and benefits of gay friendships, and he issues a life-and-death warning to all sons. To close, Carl helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know what it takes to be a good son or sub.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Finding Fire Island creator Jess Rothschild and talk queer history, lesbian divorce, being a gay woman who prefers the company of men, and whether honesty is always the best policy when dating 14.07.2026 1sa 20dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by podcaster and documentarian Jess Rothschild, creator and executive producer of the GLAAD Award-nominated docu-series Finding Fire Island, now in its second season—with many episodes featuring Judson! Jess tells Brian and Judson how she came to fall in love with Fire Island, why she felt it was important to document its deep history, and asks each host to share their Fire Island origin stories. She also shares her views on 12-step programs, explains how she is attracted to women but prefers the company of gay men, and discusses the differences in how lesbians and gay men approach sex and openness. Finally, Jess helps Brian and Judson respond to a "Go Ask Your Dad" question from a listener who has found a spark with someone online but is unsure whether or not he should remind this person that they interacted years earlier—and that it ended on a sour note.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Bryan Safi and talk people pleasing, finding love on the apps, gay divorce, needing reassurance as an adult, healing family wounds, and both Jason Alexanders 07.07.2026 1sa 29dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Emmy Award–winning writer, actor and comedian Bryan Safi! Bryan tells Brian and Judson all about his off-Broadway solo show, Are You Mad at Me?, his eight years so far on Ryan Murphy’s “9-1-1” alongside Angela Bassett, Peter Krause and Jennifer Love Hewitt, and his pioneering, near 15-year career as a podcaster. He details his obsession with grocery stores, compares notes with Brian and Judson on finding love while looking for sex online, shares the details about why his marriage ended in divorce, reveals his need for reassurance from someone in a position of authority, and talks about healing the long-contentious relationship with his conservative parents. The three also talk about some of their favorite celebs from the 80s and 90s like Joan Rivers, Mr. T, Britney Spears and both Jason Alexanders. Bryan then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so horny that he can’t figure out how to satisfy his needs.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Justin Elizabeth Sayre and talk aging as a queer person without role models, fleeing the US to find safety as a non-binary person, misrepresentation on the apps, and communication in open relationships 30.06.2026 1sa 33dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by the writer and performer Michael Musto called “Oscar Wilde meets Whoopi Goldberg,” Justin Elizabeth Sayre. Justin tells Brian and Judson about their new solo show they’re bringing to the Edinburgh Fringe Festival this summer, Justin Elizabeth Sayre is a 40 Year-Old Woman, how it was inspired by having to learn how to age as a queer person without role models to follow, and about the origins of their beloved Night of a Thousand Judys – an annual benefit for the Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest non-profit providing shelter and healthcare services to LGBTQ youth experiencing homelessness in New York City. Justin also talks about their journey to accepting their queerness, the on-and-off courtship via text and DM of their now wife, being a non-binary person married to a trans woman, and how the last presidential election forced them to expedite their wedding in the United States, before moving out of the country out of concern for their wife’s safety. Justin’s Daddy Issue sparks a debate about how to present oneself on the apps.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Peppermint and talk trading the Pride march for trans health care, Lady Gaga’s Drag Race demands, dating as a trans woman, bringing Black culture to predominantly white spaces and so much more 23.06.2026 1sa 53dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by global superstar - and a Grand Marshal of the 2026 New York City Pride March - Peppermint! An actress, singer, and comedian who rose to international fame on Season 9 of RuPaul's Drag Race and has become one of the most prominent voices in the fight for trans inclusion everywhere, Peppermint talks about the current barriers keeping trans people from living happy and healthy lives, why fighting for civil rights is a core part of her being, why she chose to audition for RuPaul's Drag Race, why her season wasn't appreciated at the time, the divisive Drag Race queen she admits is one of her favorites to tour with, and the extreme expense of drag competitions. She also details how she was required to audition for the role based on - and named for - her on Netflix's Survival of the Thickest, how she finds confidence through gratitude, her relationship with dating, what dating is like for trans women, and so much more.
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  Brian and Judson have a repeat hookup with Nasty Pig founder and CEO David Lauterstein and talk queer visibility, aging Daddy bottoms, the power of touch, bringing friends into the marital bed, and more 16.06.2026 1sa 34dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by founder and CEO of the iconic Nasty Pig fashion brand, David Lauterstein. David shares the concerns that are top of mind for him this Pride Month, expressing dismay about those within the queer community who police how out, proud, and loud LGBTQ+ folx express their visibility. He also shares his thoughts on Nasty Pig’s nomination in Las Culturistas’ Culture Awards this year and on the uproarious debate on Gay Twitter this past March about the appropriateness of wearing Nasty Pig to nice restaurants. He divulges exciting news for the company and updates Brian and Judson on what’s next for his 2024 memoir, Sodomy Gods. He also gets personal in revealing how his 33-year marriage works, what he’s learned through maintaining a relationship for so many years, and celebrates the queer community for making and living by its own rules. David gives a pep talk to his “fellow Daddy bottoms” who are feeling more invisible as they age, encouraging them to realize that there is a robust market for them. To end, David joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants advice on inviting a friend he and his husband have been crushing on into the bedroom with them.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Blue Film’ writer and director Elliot Tuttle and talk adolescent sexuality, slippery morality, what overindexing on queer joy does to taste levels, and Daddying vs fathering 09.06.2026 1sa 23dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Elliot Tuttle, writer and director of Blue Film, available on VOD Friday, June 12. Elliot talks about the various responses he has received to his universally lauded film about a night shared between a camboy and a pederast, and how the story came to him. Judson is inspired by Elliot to reflect on his own past relationships with older men when he was in middle and high school. Elliot also tells Brian and Judson about his path from child movie critic to filmmaker, and explains his belief that the current emphasis on “queer joy” is ruining the taste of gay people. Finally, he goes deep into his favorite topic—dating—and particularly how he’s found his way to having so much fun with it. The episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a Daddy in a college town who is having trouble finding men his own age, and inadvertently ends up becoming a father figure to the younger men he dates.
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  Brian and Judson celebrate the launch of Season Three with a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza and talk open relationship rules, self-care routines, sex party connections, unpredictable libidos, and more 02.06.2026 1sa 17dk

  Judson and Brian celebrate the second anniversary of the podcast, the launch of Season Three, and the start of Pride Month! Judson spots two gay people at his new place of work and strategizes to befriend them both. Brian provides two theatre recommendations for Pride Month. Judson struggles with sleep issues. Brian shares an Instagram post sent his way that examines the question “Why are gay men so divided on open relationships?” The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who gets to prove his versatility when a hot connection made while traveling spices up his vacation more than once during his stay. Brian and Judson then begin their Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza answering five diverse listener questions. They first tackle one about open relationship rules, particularly around repeat hookups; the second asks each to describe their self-care routines; the third wants to know the etiquette around finding people on social media after meeting them at a sex party; the fourth is from a listener who is having trouble with his fiancé’s desire to open the relationship; and the fifth and final question comes from a listener in an open marriage whose Bipolar II disorder makes his libido unpredictable and wants help balancing saving his sexual energy for his husband with allowing himself freedom to have hookups.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Kevin Aviance and talk the pressures of being an icon, making Beyoncé c*nty, ballroom history, what it means to be a Black Queen today, and more 26.05.2026 1sa 32dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by recording artist, DJ, and performance legend whose influence has shaped generations of LGBTQ nightlife, dance music, and drag performance, Kevin Aviance! Kevin talks about how he reset his life after surviving a brutal hate crime in 2006 that shocked the LGBTQ community, how the pandemic gave rise to his DJing career, and how Beyoncé sampling his hit song “Cunty” on her Renaissance album completed his return to icon status. He also talks about the pressures of being labeled iconic, the origins of his latest album, HIPPOPOTAMUS!, his views on sex and hookup culture, his friendship with queens Honey Davenport and Sapphira Cristál and how they helped him understand what it means to be Black and queer in today’s world, his history with the ballroom scene and his reaction to its omnipresence within mainstream pop culture, why he loves aging, and his concern that the younger generation of queer people have lost a sense of history and the ability to learn through experience. Kevin then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a trans man who wants help building confidence to help him in finding friends and making hookups happen.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Zachary Zane and talk Bisexual Audibility, the joys of bottoming, being brave about sex when sober, the value of anger, whether top shortages are a myth, and more 19.05.2026 1sa 57dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by bisexual sex columnist, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, editor-in-chief of the Boyslut zine, and host of the Bi Babes Book Club on Allstora, Zachary Zane! Zachary covers the gamut of sexual topics, from his struggle to overcome his fraysexuality, to discovering the magic of anal stimulation, to switching from top to bottom and Daddy to Son even within the same session, to what he means by “Bisexual Audibility.” He also talks about formerly relying on drugs and alcohol to lower inhibitions enough to have certain types of sexual encounters, and how to get to the same level of comfort without them; the effects of being raised by a rageaholic; what straight people don’t understand about Grindr; readers who assume he will sleep with them; how long it truly takes to have sex; and he answers questions from some Dads and Daddies book clubbers. Zachary then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who can only finish when bottoming but finds himself topping due to what he describes as a top shortage.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Nick Wolny and talk generating wealth as queer people, whether poppers are an essential expense, accepting our social inheritances, preparing emotionally and financially for gay events, and more 12.05.2026 1sa 25dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by personal finance educator and advocate Nick Wolny. Nick, the finance columnist for Out Magazine and author of the book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future, helps Brian and Judson understand how and why queer people approach money in our own way. He delves into how we develop our thought patterns around money and how we can set ourselves up for our futures while living fabulous queer lives in the present. He shares how he crafted his book to educate those of us who don’t have money left over at the end of the month about how to get to a place where we do, and to then maintain it so we can live the way we deserve in the moment. Brian, Judson and Nick also examine broadening the definition of wealth, debate whether or not poppers are an essential expense, Nick shares his Daddy Issue about his realization he’s becoming his parents, and he responds to listener-submitted questions. The episode ends with the three responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is excited to attend the Folsom Street Fair for his first time, and wants to ensure that he and his husband are preparing for it properly.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more 05.05.2026 1sa 31dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Rich Burns, writer, creator and star of the Humanitas Prize-winning comedic digital series “The Disappointments.” The show’s second season is out now and follows three gay friends in their 60s who are single, broke and desperately trying to turn their disappointing lives around. Rich shares how the series came out of the realization that a number of his friends found themselves in their 50s with their dreams unfulfilled, talks about the disparate reactions to the show from different generations of gay viewers, and dispels certain myths about the differences between himself and Ray, the character he plays on the show. Rich also shares his thoughts on open relationships, dating younger, the presumption by most that he’s a Daddy, the success of his slutty Instagram account, how his sexual exploration derives from connection and trust, and so much more. Rich then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so busy that he has to schedule hookups weeks, if not months, in advance and is concerned that it’s a problem he needs help solving. 
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  Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more 28.04.2026 1sa 23dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his journey from a childhood in Michigan spent hiding in the closet, feeling unattractive, uncool, unmanly and seeking comfort in food, to moving to New York and feeling othered as a minority man in the mainstream gay scene, to the person he is today exuding sex and confidence on a Broadway stage eight times a week. He tells them about the role that connections and community played in his transformation, how he found the sexiness of Rum Tum Tugger, and about how “Realness,” Tugger’s ballroom category that showcases a person’s ability to pass as straight, is, at its core, a trauma response to homophobia. Sydney gets even more personal and talks about some of the various reasons he likes to have sex, the demise of finding hookups on Craig’s List, his “mad, passionate lust affair” with Andy Cohen, why we should have sex with the straight men on the apps, and his preference for faceless Grindr profiles. Sydney then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in his 30s who is newly out of the closet and wants to know what the three consider must-have experiences for a gay man.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Claybourne Elder and talk growing up Mormon and gay, wanting to be evil, aging in the public eye, and gay wedding planning 21.04.2026 1sa 37dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway’s favorite DILF, Claybourne Elder. The Gilded Age star and Grammy, Screen Actors Guild Award, Drama Desk and Lucille Lortel Award nominee tells Brian and Judson about the origin of his City of Strangers initiative that provides free tickets to Broadway shows for people who might not have the means, and takes them through the process of recording his debut album out now, If the Stars Were Mine. He also talks about growing up gay and Mormon, his time as a performing missionary in the Nauvoo, Illinois Historic District, getting kicked out of Brigham Young University for being gay, how he met his Jewish husband, their path to parenthood, and how they address religion with their son. Claybourne shares his Daddy Issue, which is around aging, and particularly how he wrestles with whether or not, as an actor, he should be considering any procedures to maintain his youth. He then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener wanting advice on planning a wedding that is true to him and his partner.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more 14.04.2026 1sa 44dk

  Brian and Judson launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. John Paul tells Brian and Judson all about the origin of his ¡Hola Papi! advice column, how he overcame the feeling that he didn’t have the authority to give advice, and shares how he feels now that he’s retired his column after eight years. He also provides a sneak peek at his next two books, and responds to Brian’s ask for advice by giving his thoughts about steeling oneself against internet commenters. John Paul then goes all the way to the top to discuss his Daddy Issue, which is his recent fascination with Jesus, particularly the comforting discovery that he may not have been attractive, and talks about the time he almost converted to Judaism for a boyfriend. The episode ends with the renowned advice giver joining Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious about the etiquette of hooking up when one is hanging out with friends.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music 07.04.2026 1sa 17dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with “Queen of the Universe” winner and “Drag Race Brasil” host, Grag Queen, and talks about his mission with this and every one of his tours to bring joy and build community during these dark and divisive times. He teaches Brian and Judson all about his home country of Wales and its connection to music, he goes deep into his friendships and collaborations with Elton John and Scissor Sisters, and talks about how he has made a name and career for himself without ever signing with a label. They discuss the prevalence of misogyny in the gay community, they share thoughts on maintaining youth and taking risks throughout one’s life, and they debate the importance of sex as a subject of artistic expression. Rod then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a 50 year-old listener in a 25-year open relationship who has never used the gay hookup apps and wants advice about how to start.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Grey Henson and talk the sexual appeal of Bigfoot, the challenges of dating as an actor, Daddy physique vs energy, and moving past the fear of new connections 31.03.2026 1sa 31dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway musical theatre star Grey Henson! Grey takes Brian and Judson through his nonstop career that took off immediately upon leaving college with his casting as Elder McKinley in the first national tour and Broadway productions of The Book of Mormon, through his Tony-nominated performance as the iconic role of Damian in Mean Girls, to 2023's surprise hit musical, Shucked, to starring as Buddy the Elf in the recent revival of Elf, to now playing the title role in the current off-Broadway show, Bigfoot The Musical. Grey also gets personal and talks about his search for a partner since moving to New York twelve years ago, the struggle of people making assumptions about who he is as a person based on how they perceive him on the stage, and the absence in his life of his father, both now that he has passed, but also even while he was alive. He also talks about existing at the paradox of having Daddy physique, but without feeling he possesses Daddy energy. Grey then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has become paralyzed with fear about making new connections.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Eric Williams and talk being slut podcasters comparing coasts, making bad money, and sleeping with friends 24.03.2026 1sa 38dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by comedian, actor and host of the immensely popular “That’s a Gay Ass Podcast,” Eric Williams. Eric talks about the origins of both his hit podcast and his open marriage, how his mom came to find out he and his husband are open, how his gay life is blossoming after a move from New York to L.A., and the truth behind the gay marriage question. He also tells Brian and Judson about “Why All the Drama,” the solo show he’s currently touring around the US and his aspirations for the future of his life and career.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with John-Andrew Morrison and talk being husband to Jane, Jinkx, Hannah and John Cameron, careers reclaimed through sobriety, afternoon nookie, and loving yourself enough to be late for your house 17.03.2026 1sa 29dk

  Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway actor John-Andrew Morrison, currently on the boards as Mary’s Husband in Oh, Mary! John-Andrew talks about how he came to play our 16th president in Broadway’s most outrageous play, how he was able to make the role his own, and the differences between his four leading ladies since he took office–Jane Krakowski, Hannah Solow, Jinkx Monsoon and John Cameron Mitchell. He also celebrates 18 years of sobriety, the community he has found through recovery, and how being sober helped him reclaim his career. John-Andrew details his decade-long journey with A Strange Loop, winner of both the Pulitzer Prize and the Tony Award, and the show for which he also received a Tony nomination. He then shares three Daddy Issues–one sexy, one practical and one literal–before helping Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about strategies for saying no and making sure boundaries are respected.