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  Recession Lies: 3 Money Myths I Need Black Women to Stop Believing 16.09.2026 43dk

  Kelley is doing Hot Takes today. In this solo episode, she breaks down three money myths circulating as the economy gets shakier: the belief that you need more income streams, that entrepreneurship is an automatic escape from a bad job, and that every hobby needs to become a hustle, and offers a grounded, researched alternative to the panic.Key TakeawaysMyth: you need more ways to make money. Truth: go deeper before you go broader. Social media isn't a reliable revenue stream, and deepening the skills and relationships you already have often pays off more than chasing seven new income streams.Myth: entrepreneurship is an escape hatch from a hard job. Truth: it's a different kind of stress, not a lesser one. It requires financial runway, high tolerance for uncertainty, and a level of discipline most people underestimate.Myth: everything valuable in your life needs to make money. Truth: hobbies don't need customers. Protect at least one thing in your life that exists purely for joy, not revenue.Relationships over reach. Ten people who trust your work and are willing to pay you will do more for your financial security than a million casual followers.Episode Highlights & Timestamps02:00 Myth #1: You need more ways to make money, and why social media isn't a reliable income source14:00 How to vet anyone selling you a "how to make money" program (the receipts test)24:00 Myth #2: Entrepreneurship is an automatic escape hatch from a bad job34:00 Myth #3: Don't monetize your hobbies, protecting the things that are just for joy39:00 Relationships over reach: the story of rebuilding her business after losing a year of work in three daysGentle InvitationThis week, resist the urge to add. Instead, pick one thing to deepen, one relationship, one skill, one income stream you already have. Ask yourself: am I making this decision from strategy, or from panic?Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review, your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  You Don't Have to Go to War 09.09.2026 25dk

  Kelley names three wars she believes so many Black women are fighting right now, wars we've been mislabeling as something else entirely. In this solo episode, she unpacks the war with ourselves (that we call self-improvement), the war with our community (that we call accountability), and the war with the world (that we call activism), and makes the case for stepping out of all three and choosing peace instead.Key TakeawaysThe war with yourself often gets mislabeled as self-improvement. Urgency, self-punishment, and arbitrary deadlines aren't growth, they're just a fight with yourself in disguise.The war with community often gets mislabeled as accountability. There's a real difference between holding someone accountable and piling on. Call people in before you cut them off, and hold boundaries with love, not cruelty.The war with the world often gets mislabeled as activism. Anger alone isn't activism. Real change comes from being steady and grounded, not embattled.You can't fight three wars at once and survive it. Noticing which battle you're actually in is the first step to choosing peace instead.Episode Highlights & Timestamps03:00 The first war: mistaking self-punishment for self-improvement07:00 The second war: when accountability turns into pile-on culture and cruelty14:00 Calling people in instead of cutting them off, and holding boundaries with love16:00 The third war: confusing anger with activism18:00 Three questions to ask yourself before you go to warGentle InvitationThis week, notice which war you're in, with yourself, with your community, or with the world. Ask yourself: is this actually a battle I need to be in, or one I wandered into? You don't have to win it today. Just notice it's there.Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review, your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Before You "Lock In", Check In 02.09.2026 26dk

  It's September, and Kelley wants you to pause before you "lock in." This solo episode challenges lock-in culture, the cultural pressure to suddenly get disciplined, finish the year strong, and fix your whole life in three months. Kelley shares her own cautionary tale of what years of pushing through cost her health, then walks through a gentler four-step framework for having real goals without declaring war on yourself.Key TakeawaysLock-in syndrome sounds motivating, but it usually runs on shame, the assumption that you're behind, undisciplined, or broken and need to be fixed by December 31st.September 1st isn't magic. There's nothing wrong with ambition, but arbitrary deadlines and 75-day challenges often create false urgency instead of real progress.Sometimes the most honest answer isn't to lock in harder, it's to ask whether you even need to optimize right now, or whether you just need to rest.The Gentle Lock-In Framework has four steps: check in, use discernment, choose, and gently commit.Episode Highlights & Timestamps02:00 What lock-in syndrome is, and the real cost of ignoring how you actually feel05:00 Kelley's own cautionary tale: what years of "locking in" cost her health12:00 Do you even need to optimize? Toxic self-care vs. toxic self-improvement16:00 Redefining "locking in": the four-step gentle framework19:00 What Kelley's own lock-in looks like this season (a "75 extra soft")Gentle InvitationBefore you set any goals this month, stop and ask yourself: how am I actually doing? Not what you should be doing, not what everyone else is doing, but what's actually true in your body, your mind, and your spirit right now.Choose one thing, a few things, or nothing at all. And whatever you choose, commit to it gently.Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review, your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Chloe Nwangwu, Brand Scientist: Curiosity, Curation, and Confidence 25.08.2026 1sa 9dk

  Kelley sits down with N. Chloé Nwangwu, keynote speaker, principal investigator at Nobiworks, and known as The Brand Scientist, for a conversation about the real difference between going viral and being truly visible. Chloé breaks down two decades of research into the science of visibility, from her early career in international conflict mediation to the framework she now teaches leaders, brands, and Black women specifically on how recognition actually works, and why the usual advice to "just show up more" isn't enough.Key TakeawaysRecognition is the invisible currency of influence. Without it, you don't have access to shaping the beliefs, judgments, and decisions of the people around you.Being seen isn't the same as being remembered, and being remembered isn't the same as being recognized. Chloé's "Three Rs of Visibility", represented, remembered, recognized, explain why some ideas stick and others get filtered out.Visibility bias creates a real invisibility tax. The "reciprocity gap" means under-recognized people often have to give more and get less back for the same effort as their peers.Lasting visibility isn't luck, it's an ecosystem. Building a platform, a real "circle of recognition" (not just a follower count), and decision architecture is what actually moves people.Episode Highlights & Timestamps05:00 From conflict mediation to Brand Scientist: the through-line Chloé didn't see coming14:00 Recognition as the invisible currency of influence: who gets the seat at the table, and why18:00 The Three Rs of Visibility: represented, remembered, recognized32:00 Under-recognition, visibility bias, and the invisibility tax43:00 Building an ecosystem of influence: platform, circle of recognition, and decision architectureGentle InvitationThis week, notice one input you let into your life on autopilot, a feed, a follow, an opinion you didn't choose. Ask yourself: who does this benefit? Do I want to play along?Choose one small act of curation. Unfollow one account, mute one feed, protect one hour. Not everything. Just one thing.Connect with Chloé NwangwuFind Chloé on LinkedIn, where she shares her nerdiest, most in-depth workShe also offers a free recognition assessment that tells you where you stand and gives you your next best stepSupport the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review, your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Joy Economics: Shani Godwin on Ending Over-Functioning & Choosing Joy on Your Own Terms 19.08.2026 1sa 2dk

  Joy Economics: Shani Godwin on Ending Over-Functioning & Choosing Joy on Your Own TermsKelley sits down with Shani Godwin, writer, entrepreneur, and creator of the concept of Joy Economics, for a conversation that started with a line from her viral Oprah Magazine piece: "Black girl magic isn't magic, it's normalized over-functioning." Shani opens up about the mental health crisis that changed her life at 30, the 3 a.m. breakdown that made her rethink what success actually costs, and the practice she now teaches to help Black women build lives and businesses around joy instead of around proving they can carry it all.Key TakeawaysBlack girl magic isn't magic, it's normalized over-functioning. Making the hard things look effortless comes with an invisible tax, and the more we achieve, the heavier that tax gets.Being "strong" isn't always the answer. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for each other is stop saying "you got this" and instead just show up, sit in it, and let someone be broken for a moment.Joy Economics means building your life and business around what actually brings you joy, not around growth for growth's sake. Profit and freedom over vanity metrics; joy in the journey, not just the destination.Episode Highlights & Timestamps2:00 — Where "Black girl magic isn't magic, it's normalized over-functioning" came from10:00 — Shani's mental health crisis at 30, and the 20-year journey that followed27:00 — What Joy Economics actually is37:00 — Practical first steps: radical honesty with yourself, and learning where joy lives in your body53:00 — What brings Shani joy day to day, and how she protects itGentle InvitationThis week, notice a moment when you feel genuinely good, when your shoulders drop, you laugh, or you feel peaceful. Don't rush past it.Ask yourself: what does joy actually feel like in my body? Not what should make you happy, or what looks successful, what does it actually feel like?Joy doesn't only belong after you've made it. It belongs in the life that's already happening now.Connect with Shani GodwinWebsite: shanigodwin.comInstagram: @iamshanigodwinSupport the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  The Body Is Not an Apology: Sonya Renee Taylor on Radical Self-Love & Letting Go of Shame (REPLAY) 12.08.2026 56dk

  Kelley sits down with Sonya Renee Taylor, author of The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love, for a conversation Kelley calls essential reading for every Black woman. They trace the phrase's origin story, unpack what body shame really is beneath the physical, and walk through Sonya's roadmap for opting out of shame and into radical self-love: mapping your way out of shame, the four pillars of practice, and why community and self-compassion are what actually make the work sustainable.Key TakeawaysBody shame isn't only physical. It shows up as shame around our needs, our emotions, our voice, and how much space we let ourselves take up. The physical body is just where 90% of the conversation gets stuck.Opting out of shame starts with three peace treaties: making peace with not understanding, making peace with difference, and making peace with our bodies, in that order.Radical self-love isn't something you build, it's your default state. The four pillars (taking out the toxic, mind matters, unapologetic action, collective compassion) are about removing what's been layered on top, not adding something new.Episode Highlights & Timestamps02:00 - Where the phrase "the body is not an apology" came from08:00 - What body shame really means, beyond the physical13:00 - Mapping your way out of shame: the three-step framework20:00 - Making peace with our bodies as "currency"29:00 - The four pillars of a radical self-love practice55:00 - Where to connect with Sonya Renee TaylorGentle InvitationThis week, notice one place you apologize for taking up space, in your body, your voice, your needs, or your wants.You don't have to fix it. Just notice it, and see if you can meet it with the same grace Sonya describes: "It's okay. I love you, just as you are."Choose one small, unapologetic action. Not ten. Just one.Let that be enough for now.Connect with Sonya Renee TaylorInstagram: @SonyaReneeTaylorPatreon: Sonya Renee TaylorWebsite: sonyareneetaylor.comBook: The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-LoveSupport the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Stop Waiting for Your Life to Begin: Why Permission Is More Powerful Than Productivity 05.08.2026 19dk

  We're on hiatus, but Kelley couldn't let August start without checking in. In this solo episode, she talks about why this month feels less about goal-crushing and more about giving herself permission, to have fun, to earn what she's worth, and to be brave, vulnerable, and visible. From booking concert tickets before she "earned" them to rehabbing the Substack membership, this is a conversation about scheduling joy instead of waiting for it, and about what's coming next for Black Girl Burnout.Key TakeawaysWaiting for permission is its own kind of emotional death sentence. So many of us live in an invisible waiting room, we've done the courses, read the books, listened to the podcasts, but still wait for the "right time" to actually live differently.Joy is scheduled, not earned. Kelley bought concert tickets to see Olivia Dean months in advance as a reminder that delight doesn't have to be a reward for finishing a task, it can be planned for.Worthiness shows up in money and visibility too. Giving yourself permission isn't just emotional, it's charging what you're worth, unlearning inherited scarcity stories, and being willing to be seen.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:00:00 -Welcome back: why Kelley couldn't let August start without a hiatus check-in02:00 - The invisible waiting room: why so many of us know what to do but haven't stepped through the door05:19 - Permission #1: More fun: scheduling joy on purpose (hello, Olivia Dean tickets) instead of waiting for it to drop in your lap08:04 - Permission #2: More money: worthiness, unlearning scarcity stories, and separating guilt from what you charge11:04 - Permission #3: Bravery, vulnerability & visibility: showing up more on social, and what's coming with the Substack membership rehab and the first digital magazine15:07 - The bigger invitation: what could August become if you stopped waiting and started participating in your own life?17:30 - Outro: catalog picks to revisit on hiatus, including the Michelle Young, Sonia Renee Taylor, and Morgan Harper Nichols interviewsGentle InvitationThis week, notice where you're waiting for permission you could just give yourself.What are you telling yourself you'll do "when", when you lose the weight, when you have more money, when someone else validates the idea? What would it look like to do it now, in one small way?Choose one micro-permission. Not ten. Just one. Schedule the joy, send the pitch, post the thing.Let that be enough for now.Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout. Thank you for being part of this community.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com.Watch on YouTube. Drop a review, your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley, including a first look at the digital magazine and the rehabbed membership community.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month, the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Strength & Softness: Michelle Goodloe on Burnout Recovery for Black Women (REPLAY) 29.07.2026 36dk

  In this thoughtful conversation, Kelley sits down with licensed clinical social worker Michelle Goodloe to explore what burnout really is—and why so many Black women experience it differently. Michelle shares her personal journey through professional burnout, explains why self-care alone isn't enough to recover, and offers a compassionate framework for rebuilding a healthier relationship with yourself through boundaries, restorative self-care, and intentional slowing down.Together, they unpack the Strong Black Woman stereotype, capitalism fatigue, identity beyond work, and why healing begins with giving yourself permission to become more than what the world expects of you. The episode is both validating and practical, offering listeners tangible first steps toward burnout recovery and a more joyful, sustainable life.Key TakeawaysBurnout develops over time—and recovery does too. Healing begins by slowing down, identifying what's contributing to burnout, and taking small, sustainable steps toward rest.Boundaries are an act of self-respect. Healthy boundaries protect your time, energy, and joy while teaching others how to have healthy relationships with you.Black women deserve identities beyond "strong." You have permission to redefine strength to include rest, softness, vulnerability, and self-compassion.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:02 – Michelle's personal burnout storyMichelle shares how professional burnout transformed both her life and the work she does today.09:00 – What burnout actually isA powerful conversation on how burnout develops over time, the role of capitalism fatigue, and recognizing the signs before your body forces you to stop.16:30 – Beyond the Strong Black Woman stereotypeMichelle and Kelley unpack how inherited expectations around strength contribute to burnout and how Black women can redefine what strength means for themselves.29:00 – Boundaries protect your joyMichelle shares practical boundary-setting strategies—including her "Yes, No, Yes" framework—and explains why protecting your time is essential for burnout recovery.A Gentle InvitationThis week, ask yourself one simple question: "What would help me go from a 10 to a 9?" Instead of trying to overhaul your life, choose one small way to slow down—reschedule one task, say no to one request, or create one boundary that protects your time. Burnout recovery isn't about changing everything overnight; it's about consistently choosing yourself, one step at a time.Connect with MichelleG. Michelle Goodloe, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker, burnout recovery strategist, and founder of Gmichelle Wellness. Through her therapy-informed approach, Michelle helps exhausted professionals—especially Black women and helping professionals—recover from burnout, unlearn toxic productivity, and build sustainable self-care practices rooted in compassion and rest.Website: Gmichelle WellnessInstagram: @thegmichelle (https://www.instagram.com/thegmichelle)Books & Guided JournalsThe Self-Care Investment: Your Guide to Making Your Self-Care Non-Negotiable – A practical workbook filled with guided exercises, self-care trackers, and reflective activities to help you build a personalized, sustainable self-care practice.Purchase: The Self-Care InvestmentI Own My Magic: Self-Talk for Black Women – An affirmation and self-reflection journal designed to help Black women strengthen self-esteem, practice self-compassion, and embrace their softness.Purchase: I Own My MagicSelf Explore, Self Restore – A guided self-care journal with thoughtful prompts to help you reconnect with yourself, reduce stress, and make self-care a consistent part of everyday life.Purchase: Self Explore, Self RestoreSupport the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout. Thank you for being part of this community.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  When Your Body Changes the Plan: Michelle Young on Chronic Illness, Rest & Redefining Success 22.07.2026 48dk

  Michelle Young joins Kelley for an honest conversation about what happens when life changes in ways you never expected. From navigating sudden public attention after The Bachelor and The Bachelorette to living with POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome), Michelle shares how she's learned to redefine strength, embrace rest, and let go of the belief that productivity determines worth.Together, they explore burnout, chronic illness, boundaries, activism, community, and the courage to build a gentler life. Michelle also reflects on finding new purpose through her foundation, supporting underserved students, and discovering that slowing down doesn't mean giving up—it creates space to live with greater intention, joy, and authenticity.Key TakeawaysRest is not something you earn—it's essential to healing. True strength isn't always pushing through; sometimes it's leaving a little energy in the tank.Your worth isn't measured by your productivity. Healing often requires redefining success and learning that who you are matters more than what you accomplish.A meaningful life is built through intentional choices. Whether it's protecting your energy, setting boundaries, or nurturing relationships, small daily decisions create lasting change.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:00 – When life changes overnight: Michelle reflects on staying grounded through sudden fame, remaining true to herself, and navigating life in the public eye.17:45 – Living with POTS and redefining strength: Michelle explains POTS, shares how chronic illness transformed her relationship with rest, and why pushing through is no longer the goal.33:20 – Finding purpose after burnout: Michelle discusses building her foundation, discovering a new way to make an impact, and embracing seasons where purpose evolves instead of disappears.49:30 – Leaving a little energy in the tank: Michelle and Kelley explore what it means to measure success differently, embrace intentional living, and find joy in slowing down.See You SoonLeave a Little Energy in the TankThis week, notice where you're treating exhaustion as proof that you've done enough. Instead of giving every ounce of yourself away, experiment with ending one day with a little energy left. Rest before you're depleted, be fully present with someone you love, and remember that your value isn't determined by how much you produce—it's already yours.Connect with MichelleMichelle Young is a former elementary school teacher, television personality, and fan favorite from The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Today, she continues her work as an educator, speaker, and advocate, using her platform to expand opportunities for young people and support communities through education-focused initiatives.Website: https://michelleyoungofficial.comInstagram: @michelleyoungTikTok: @michelleyoungThe Michelle Young FoundationThe Michelle Young Foundation: https://www.themichelleyoungfoundation.orgThrough The Michelle Young Foundation, Michelle partners with educators and school districts to connect underserved students with scholarships, enrichment opportunities, and after-school programming like Homework and Hoops. The foundation is dedicated to helping students access experiences that foster growth while supporting the educators who champion them every day.Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout. Thank you for being part of this community.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Reclaiming Your Body, Joy & Capacity with Jayden Aubren 15.07.2026 45dk

  Healing isn't another achievement to unlock—it's a relationship we cultivate with ourselves over time. In this conversation, Kelley sits down with therapist, trauma-informed movement specialist, and holistic health coach Jayden Aubren to explore why lasting healing begins with honoring our capacity instead of pushing past it. Together they unpack the connection between trauma, movement, nervous system regulation, and intentional living, offering practical ways to build sustainable habits that support healing without burnout. If you've ever felt pressured to "fix yourself" faster, this episode is an invitation to embrace a softer, more sustainable path.Key TakeawaysHealing becomes more sustainable when we honor our body's capacity instead of chasing perfection or quick fixes.Small, consistent practices—like mindful movement, breathwork, quality rest, and intentional routines—create lasting transformation over time.Building a healing lifestyle means shifting from solving isolated problems to nurturing your whole ecosystem: body, mind, relationships, and daily habits.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:00 — What does healing on your own terms actually look like?Kelley introduces Jayden Aubren and explores why healing should honor our whole humanity—not just our productivity.15:45 — Why your body needs less, not moreJayden explains trauma-informed movement, the nervous system, and why slowing down often creates better long-term results than pushing harder.39:30 — Building a healing lifestyle through small daily habitsThe conversation turns toward practical ways to reconnect with your body through sleep, movement, food, breathwork, and mindful routines.59:10 — "What brings you joy?"Jayden shares a memorable answer about finding joy in themselves, followed by Kelley's reflections on nurturing the relationship we have with ourselves.Gentle InvitationThis week, choose one small practice that helps you reconnect with yourself. Maybe it's taking three intentional breaths before your next meeting, eating one meal without distractions, going for a short walk, or simply allowing yourself to rest without trying to earn it. Notice how that one small act shifts the way you move through your day. Healing doesn't have to be rushed to be real.Support the ShowIf you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout. Thank you for being part of this community.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  You Don't Need Perfect Conditions to Create a Beautiful Life Ft. Morgan Harper Nichols (REPLAY) 08.07.2026 53dk

  What happens when you stop trying to fit into expectations and start building a life that actually fits you?In this deeply affirming conversation, Kelley sits down with artist, bestselling author, and creative visionary Morgan Harper Nichols to explore the intersection of creativity, neurodivergence, boundaries, and self-advocacy. Morgan reflects on receiving diagnoses of autism, ADHD, and sensory processing disorder in adulthood, and how having language for her experiences gave her freedom—not because it erased challenges, but because it gave her a framework for understanding herself with compassion.Together, Kelley and Morgan unpack the hidden ways burnout shows up, especially for Black women who are often praised for being capable, adaptable, and endlessly giving. They discuss why boundaries must become a practice—not just a theory—and how asking "What's in it for me?" is an essential act of self-preservation.The conversation also dives into creativity as a way of reclaiming yourself. Morgan shares how building her creative career started with nothing more than an iPad and a corner of a kitchen counter, proving that creativity isn't about having the perfect space—it's about giving yourself permission to begin where you are.Finally, they explore legacy, community, and joy, reminding listeners that our greatest impact often lives not in what we create, but in how we inspire others to create for themselves.Key TakeawaysNaming your experience creates freedom. Having language for your challenges doesn't erase them—it gives you the tools to understand yourself with greater compassion and build a life that supports your needs.Boundaries become powerful when they're practiced. Moving beyond people-pleasing requires asking whether relationships, opportunities, and commitments are truly reciprocal and life-giving.Creativity doesn't require perfect conditions. You don't need more space, more time, or more permission to begin. Creativity grows when you make room for it with whatever you already have.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:04 – Finding Freedom Through DiagnosisMorgan shares how receiving her autism, ADHD, and sensory processing disorder diagnoses helped her replace confusion with clarity and compassion.17:45 – Why Boundaries Must Become a PracticeA conversation about burnout, reciprocity, and learning to ask the transformative question: "What's in it for me?"31:40 – Creativity Doesn't Need Perfect ConditionsMorgan explains how her entire creative career began with an iPad and a small corner of her kitchen counter—and why creativity is about permission, not perfection.57:10 – Building a Legacy Through Community & Protecting JoyMorgan reflects on creating work that lives on through other people and shares the practical rituals she uses to protect her own joy and creative energy.This Week's Gentle InvitationTake ten uninterrupted minutes this week to make space for something that brings you joy—not because you're productive, talented, or trying to achieve something, but simply because it makes you feel more like yourself.Then ask yourself:What would my life look like if I gave myself permission to create, rest, and receive without earning it first?Support the ShowAs we celebrate over 500 episodes of Black Girl Burnout, thank you for being part of this incredible community.If the podcast has encouraged you, inspired you, or supported your healing journey, one of the best ways you can help us continue this work is by supporting the show through our Ko-fi community. You can support the podcast here:ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnoutLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSuper.com: super.com/creditSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  500 Episodes Later: What Burnout, Grief & Healing Have Taught Me 01.07.2026 20dk

  In this deeply personal milestone episode, Kelley celebrates 500 episodes of Black Girl Burnout by reflecting on the journey that brought her here—and the one she's stepping into next. She begins by honoring the incredible team behind the podcast before sharing how laying her father to rest at Arlington National Cemetery became an unexpected invitation to slow down, remember, and reconnect with herself.Kelley explores the idea that healing is not a destination but a lifelong practice, and that waiting until we're "fully healed" before embracing joy keeps us from fully living. Instead, she invites listeners to make room for delight, whimsy, and softness alongside grief, growth, and ambition.She also offers an honest look at the current state of podcasting, particularly for Black women creators, and explains why she's committed to building Black Girl Burnout in a way that doesn't recreate the very burnout it's designed to help people overcome.Finally, Kelley shares exciting news about the future of the podcast, announces an eight-week behind-the-scenes creative sabbatical, and invites listeners into the next chapter of Black Girl Burnout—a chapter centered on healing, community, delight, and becoming more fully ourselves.Key TakeawaysHealing isn't a finish line—it deserves companions. Joy, whimsy, rest, and delight don't belong at the end of your healing journey; they belong alongside it.You can't teach people not to abandon themselves while abandoning yourself. Sustainable work requires creating boundaries and building a life that aligns with your values.Our lives are meant to hold more than survival. The goal isn't simply recovering from burnout—it's creating a life spacious enough for wonder, connection, and joy.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:00 – Celebrating 500 Episodes & Gratitude for the VillageKelley reflects on the milestone of reaching 500 episodes and honors the people who helped build Black Girl Burnout behind the scenes.08:30 – Honoring Her Father & Rediscovering Herself Through GriefA moving reflection on laying her father to rest and how remembering his life inspired Kelley to reclaim forgotten parts of herself.20:15 – Healing Needs Delight, TooKelley introduces a powerful new philosophy: healing isn't something to finish before experiencing joy—healing and delight belong together.33:45 – The Future of Black Girl BurnoutKelley shares why she's taking an intentional eight-week creative sabbatical and unveils her vision for the next evolution of the podcast.Gentle InvitationThis Week's Gentle InvitationAsk yourself one simple question:What part of yourself have you been waiting to bring back until life feels "better"?Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, choose one small act of delight this week—something that reminds you you're more than your productivity, your healing, or your responsibilities. Let joy walk beside you, not behind you.Support the ShowAs we celebrate 500 episodes of Black Girl Burnout, we'd love to celebrate with you.Share the journey by sending us a DM and telling us about your favorite episode or a moment that truly moved you.You can also email us at [email protected] to share your reflections, and if you haven't already, leaving a review is one of the most meaningful ways to help others discover the show.If you'd like to make a one-time gift in honor of this milestone and support the continued work of Black Girl Burnout, you can donate through Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/blackgirlburnout. Thank you for being part of this community and for helping us make the next 500 episodes possible.Like, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  The Quiet Growth That Changes Everything 24.06.2026 24dk

  We often think expansion should look loud, visible, and impressive. More followers. More money. More accomplishments. More proof that we're growing. But what if the most important growth happens where no one else can see it?In this episode, Kelley uses the metaphor of roots and blooming to explore a different path to expansion. She challenges the idea that success requires constant striving and invites listeners to embrace seasons of quiet growth, deeper self-trust, and intentional living. Through personal reflections and practical examples, Kelley shares how community, joyful movement, financial peace, and self-acceptance can become powerful forms of expansion that nourish you long before anyone notices the bloom.Key TakeawaysThe most transformative growth often happens out of sight. Just as roots develop underground before a plant blooms, your quiet seasons may be building the foundation for sustainable expansion.You can desire more without rejecting who you are today. Growth becomes healthier when it's rooted in self-acceptance rather than self-criticism.Expansion doesn't have to be performative. Deepening community, embracing joyful movement, and pursuing financial peace can be powerful expressions of growth that don't require external validation.Episode Highlights & Timestamps02:09 – The Growth No One SeesKelley introduces the concept of rooted expansion and explains why the most important growth often happens beneath the surface before any visible bloom appears.17:03 – Wanting More Without Rejecting YourselfA powerful reflection on holding ambition and self-acceptance at the same time, rather than using growth as a reason to criticize yourself.21:57 – Rooting Yourself in Community Instead of PerformanceKelley shares practical ways to deepen relationships through presence, connection, and community care rather than social media performance.36:20 – You Don't Need to Earn Your BloomA moving closing reminder that joy, celebration, and expansion don't have to wait until you've achieved the next milestone.A Gentle InvitationThis week, ask yourself:Where am I being called to root instead of rush?Choose one area of your life where you've been measuring growth by visibility, productivity, or achievement. Then experiment with a quieter form of expansion—deepening a friendship, taking a joyful walk, creating a budget that supports peace, or simply giving yourself permission to pause.Your roots matter just as much as your bloom. And sometimes the most meaningful growth is happening long before anyone else can see it.Support the ShowLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Sista Afya Community Care: www.sistaafya.comAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  What Outrage Is Costing Us? 17.06.2026 29dk

  Over the past several weeks, Kelley has been exploring the idea of thawing—what happens when you move from survival mode into a space where you can finally feel again. In this episode, she examines another form of freezing that often goes unnoticed: outrage.Through reflections on social media discourse, cultural conversations, and personal experiences, Kelley explores how outrage can offer certainty in uncertain times while simultaneously limiting curiosity, connection, and healing. She invites listeners to consider the difference between accountability and punishment, certainty and nuance, and asks a powerful question: What life might be waiting on the other side of anger?Key TakeawaysOutrage can become a freeze response. While anger provides important information, living in a constant state of outrage can limit curiosity, growth, and emotional freedom.Healing requires nuance. Real life exists in complexity, and thawing often begins when we become willing to ask questions instead of rushing to certainty.Accountability and punishment are not the same thing. We can address harm, seek truth, and hold people accountable without losing our humanity or engaging in cruelty.Episode Highlights & Timestamps04:30 — How Outrage Can Become a Frozen StateKelley explores the difference between healthy anger and chronic outrage, and why certainty can feel safer than curiosity during uncertain times.12:15 — Projection, Social Media, and the Emma Grede ConversationA discussion about cultural discourse, assumptions, and what happens when we stop seeing people as individuals and start treating them as symbols.28:40 — Accountability Versus PunishmentUsing public conversations around Cheyenne Bryant as an example, Kelley examines the difference between addressing harm and participating in public cruelty.46:50 — Returning to Softness and the ThawKelley closes with a reflection on vulnerability, nuance, and the possibility of creating a fuller life beyond outrage and reactivity.A Gentle InvitationWhat Are You No Longer Available For?Take a moment this week to notice where certainty may be keeping you stuck.Ask yourself:"What might become possible if I chose curiosity over certainty in one area of my life?"You don't have to abandon discernment or ignore harm. Instead, consider one place where you can create space for nuance, softness, or a deeper question. Sometimes healing begins when you stop reacting long enough to listen to what your heart is trying to tell you.SUPPORT THE SHOWLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.OUR SPONSORSSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Sista Afya Community Care: www.sistaafya.comAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Opt Into Success Without Self-Abandonment with Sarah Boyd 10.06.2026 56dk

  What does it look like to pursue ambition without abandoning yourself in the process?In this powerful conversation, Kelley sits down with Sarah Boyd, founder of The Formation, to discuss how Black women can navigate workplace challenges while protecting their wellbeing. Together, they unpack extraction culture, invisible labor, workplace boundaries, self-advocacy, and the difference between excellence and self-sacrifice. Sarah shares practical tools for making your contributions visible, reclaiming your voice, and building a career that supports the life you actually want to live.KEY TAKEAWAYSExcellence should never require self-betrayal. When your success consistently comes at the expense of your boundaries, you've likely moved from excellence into extraction.Visibility isn't about proving your worth. It's about confidently documenting, communicating, and standing on the value you've already created.Your career should support your life. Sustainable ambition starts with defining the life you want and making career decisions that align with it.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS06:42 — Making Invisible Labor VisibleSarah explains why documenting your contributions is essential and how Black women can advocate for their work without feeling like they're proving their worth.22:18 — The Difference Between Excellence and ExtractionA powerful discussion about boundaries, overwork, and recognizing when workplace expectations have crossed the line into harmful extraction.39:55 — Why Your Career Should Fuel Your LifeSarah shares how shifting from "What can I give my job?" to "What does my job give me?" can transform your relationship with work.57:40 — Building Joyful Resilience and Reclaiming AmbitionThe conversation explores how Black women can pursue success, protect their peace, and create careers rooted in abundance rather than survival.A GENTLE INVITATIONBefore starting your next workweek, take ten minutes to reflect on this question:Is your current approach to work helping you build the life you want—or simply helping you survive your job?Write down one boundary you need to strengthen and one contribution you want to make more visible this month. Small shifts in self-advocacy can create more space for both success and wellbeing.SUPPORT THE SHOWLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.OUR SPONSORSSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Sista Afya Community Care: www.sistaafya.comAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Healing, Identity & the Questions I'm Asking Myself Now 03.06.2026 24dk

  Last week, Kelley shared that she had entered a season of thawing—a period of finally feeling safe enough to stop bracing for impact. This week, she returns with an unexpected discovery: healing hasn't brought certainty. Instead, it has brought questions.Drawing inspiration from Zora Neale Hurston's reminder that "there are years that ask questions and years that answer," Kelley reflects on the deeper inquiries emerging in this season of her life. From reconsidering what she truly needs to thrive to redefining what she wants to be proud of, she explores the difference between performing healing and integrating it. Through personal stories, field notes, and honest observations, this episode offers a glimpse into what happens when you stop chasing answers and start listening to yourself.KEY TAKEAWAYSHealing isn't always about finding answers—it can be about learning to ask better questions.Thriving requires honoring what you actually need, not what you've been taught should make you happy or successful.Integration matters more than performance. Becoming whole is different from appearing healed.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS04:56 – The Paris Question That Changed EverythingKelley shares the moment she realized that authenticity, creativity, and passion mattered more to her than the dream she had spent years pursuing.12:42 – What Do You Want to Be Proud Of?A reflection on moving beyond external achievement and redefining success based on the quality of your life, not just what you produce.20:31 – What People Think of Me Is None of My BusinessKelley unpacks one of her most important field notes from this season and explores the freedom that comes from releasing the burden of others' opinions.31:47 – Becoming Reachable to Yourself AgainA powerful closing reflection on thawing, healing, and the realization that growth may not be about becoming someone new—but returning to yourself.A GENTLE INVITATIONThis week, choose one question instead of searching for one answer.Ask yourself: What do I actually need to thrive right now?Resist the urge to solve everything at once. Write down whatever comes up, even if it's incomplete. Sometimes healing isn't found in certainty. Sometimes it's found in creating enough space to hear yourself tell the truth.If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with someone who may be navigating their own season of questions. You don't have to have everything figured out to keep moving forward. Sometimes curiosity is enough.SUPPORT THE SHOWLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.OUR SPONSORSSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Sista Afya Community Care: www.sistaafya.comAdvertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  You Don’t Have to Wait for the Crash-Out: Community Care & Black Women’s Mental Health 29.05.2026 28dk

  In this Mental Health Month bonus episode, Kelley sits down with Ashlee Edwards, founder and CEO of MindRight, to discuss community-centered mental health support for Black women. Together, they explore why healing shouldn’t begin only in crisis, how community care helps protect our capacity for joy, and what it looks like to build more human-centered systems of support through technology, intention, and connection.Key TakeawaysMental health support should begin before burnout or crisis, not only after things fall apart.Community care is a powerful tool for healing, resilience, and protecting Black women from systems that demand overextension.Technology can support emotional wellness when it is used to deepen human connection rather than replace it.Episode Highlights & Timestamps00:01 – Why Black women deserve support before the “crash-out”Kelley and Ashlee discuss shifting mental health care from crisis intervention to everyday support and community care.05:20 – Protecting our capacity for joyAshlee shares why conversations about mental health must include intergenerational wisdom, joy, and abundance—not just trauma.11:17 – Can technology support healing without replacing humanity?A nuanced conversation about AI, trust, emotional support, and why MindRight prioritizes real humans on the other side of the screen.23:00 – What joy looks like in practiceAshlee reflects on spirituality, nature, intentional living, and the decisions she makes to actively protect her wellbeing.Gentle InvitationThis week, consider one small way you can support your emotional wellbeing before you reach exhaustion. Maybe that looks like asking for support, spending time near something that grounds you, or letting yourself receive care instead of always being the one giving it. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s consistency and remembering that staying human is the work.Connect with Ashlee EdwardsInstagram: @IYA_AshleeMindRight Website: MindRightText MindRight for support: Text 886-886Learn more about MindRight’s community-centered emotional support platform for Black communities and Black women.Support the ShowLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Savvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  You Cannot Optimize Your Way Out of Grief 27.05.2026 26dk

  Sometimes grief doesn’t look like falling apart — sometimes it looks like becoming incredibly productive. In this episode, Kelley reflects on the realization that she had been producing healing instead of actually experiencing it, and how years of survival mode, caregiving, medical trauma, and loss shaped her relationship to grief. Through personal storytelling and thoughtful reflection, she explores how Black women are often culturally rewarded for over-functioning while quietly disconnecting from themselves emotionally.This conversation is an invitation to recognize the difference between narrating healing and truly inhabiting it. Kelley also introduces the idea of “the thaw” — the slow process of returning to yourself after prolonged survival mode — and shares why softness, embodiment, and emotional honesty matter now more than ever.KEY TAKEAWAYSGrief doesn’t always look emotional — sometimes it looks like productivity, over-functioning, and survival mode.Many Black women are taught to intellectualize pain and keep moving instead of fully feeling and processing loss.Healing may begin not with becoming “better,” but with becoming reachable to yourself again.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS00:01:00 — When Productivity Becomes a Mask for GriefKelley explores the realization that she had been “producing healing” instead of fully experiencing it and reflects on the pressure to turn pain into purpose too quickly.00:05:00 — The Three Books That Cracked Everything OpenA conversation about art, grief, emotional release, and the moment Kelley realized how long it had been since she truly allowed herself to feel.00:11:20 — Survival Mode, Trauma, and the Black Woman Freeze ResponseKelley shares the cascade of events from the last several years — illness, caregiving, business instability, and loss — and how prolonged survival mode can disconnect us from ourselves emotionally.00:19:00 — What “The Thaw” Looks LikeKelley introduces the beginning of her thawing process: slowing down, reconnecting to her body, and learning how to return to herself gently after years of bracing for impact.A GENTLE INVITATIONTake a moment this week to ask yourself:Where have I been over-functioning instead of truly feeling?Maybe your nervous system has been protecting you. Maybe the numbness isn’t failure — maybe it’s survival. Give yourself permission to slow down long enough to notice what your body, heart, or spirit might be trying to say.And if this episode resonated with you, share it with another Black woman who may need the reminder that healing doesn’t have to be optimized to be real.SUPPORT THE SHOWLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.OUR SPONSORSSuper.com: Visit Super.com for more details.Savvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  The Life You Worked For Might Be Exhausting You W/ Zerlina Maxwell 20.05.2026 49dk

  In this episode, Kelley is joined by political analyst, writer, and speaker Zerlina Maxwell for a powerful conversation about visibility, truth-telling, and navigating the pressure of being a Black woman in public spaces. Together, they explore the emotional toll of constantly having to prove yourself, the importance of boundaries, and what it means to remain grounded while living and working in highly demanding environments.Zerlina shares reflections on ambition, identity, and protecting your peace while still pursuing meaningful work. This conversation is an honest reminder that you do not have to abandon yourself in order to be impactful, successful, or seen.Key TakeawaysVisibility comes with emotional weight. Being seen and heard—especially as a Black woman—often carries pressure, scrutiny, and exhaustion that require intentional care.Boundaries protect your humanity. Rest, limits, and stepping back are necessary practices for sustainability, not signs of weakness.You can pursue impact without self-abandonment. Success and meaningful work do not have to come at the expense of your well-being.Episode Highlights03:08 – Navigating Public Life as a Black WomanZerlina reflects on the challenges of visibility, criticism, and existing authentically in high-pressure spaces.07:42 – The Pressure to Constantly Prove YourselfA deeper discussion about overperformance, perfectionism, and the emotional labor many Black women carry in professional environments.14:19 – Protecting Your Peace With BoundariesKelley and Zerlina explore the importance of rest, emotional boundaries, and creating sustainable rhythms while doing impactful work.21:37 – Redefining Success Beyond ExhaustionA closing reflection on choosing fulfillment, alignment, and self-preservation over constant striving and burnout.A Gentle InvitationIf this episode resonated, take a moment to reflect on where you may be overextending yourself in order to feel worthy, successful, or accepted. Consider one boundary or act of self-preservation that could support you this week.Listen to the full episode, share it with someone navigating pressure or visibility fatigue, and leave a review if this conversation supported you. Choosing yourself alongside your ambitions is part of building a life rooted in sustainability, care, and truth.Connect with ZerlinaRadio Show: Mornings with Zerlina MaxwellInstagram: @ZerlinaMaxwellSubstack: Inner Work Dispatch (available wherever books are sold)Support the ShowLike, follow, and subscribe across all platforms. Find us @blackgirlburnout.Subscribe to our newsletter at blackgirlburnout.com. Watch on YouTube. Drop a review — your words make a real difference, and they warm Kelley's whole heart every single time.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid subscriber ($8/month) for exclusive resources and monthly workshops.Our SponsorsSavvy Ladies Free Financial Helpline: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCircle | Privacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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  Breath, Mindfulness, and Black Joy with Oneika Mays 12.05.2026 49dk

  In this grounding conversation, Kelley and Onieka Mays explore how breathwork, mindfulness, and intentional pauses can help Black women reconnect with themselves and reclaim joy. This episode is a gentle reminder that rest, presence, and softness are not luxuries—they are necessary practices for healing and sustainable well-being. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy